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way. It's not about the zeros, so what is it all about?
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Let's find out. Now here's your host and weekly friend, Jennifer Josh.
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Your money, your Way. I know that seems very odd to say or
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even to think about. What do you think about creating your own reality?
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Have you heard of that? Have you heard of a law of attraction?
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Have you heard of what we think can actually manifest? So I do share
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with all of my clients thoughts create and words manifest. So I'll say that
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again, thoughts create and words manifest. I'm a big, big, big
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believer of Law of Attraction and today I'm so excited to bring on my amazing
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friend, Miss Peterelyn Swart, and she is going to share all her tips
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and tricks that she shares with her clients on Law of Attraction as well.
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My Soul Sister, Miss Peelyn. So happy to be a guest on your
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show, all by myself. I get up by myself. Yes, we're
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going to have a really good time today. I love it. So those
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of you have not heard Miss Peterlen as a guest on Soul Sisters episodes,
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so please check out those on the Rock My Finances show because she is on
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monthly with our other sisters as well. So we're in a group. Then
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this is all Peter Lyn's day. I get to interview her, and I
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just want y'all know. She just said, I can ask whatever I want.
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We get to geek out together. We get to geek out together.
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Maybe get to get out together. Okay. So I heard of law of
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attraction because I'm in sales, right, So they always mentioned that in sales
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way back when, probably late nineteen nineties or something. I don't even know
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when the secret came out, but I was into it a little bit before
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that, and vision boards, journaling mantras, visualizing that kind of a thing.
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And then the secret came out and made it all worldwide and duable and
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trackable mainstream. There you go, mainstream. And I love Oprah for everything
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that she's always brought to us. She saved me thousands and hundreds of thousands
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of dollars in therapy when her show was on, for sure. And I
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think that she brought that law of attraction to life for me because she used
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the words on a weekly basis in her show, and so I could actually
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bring it into my world. Now we have just exponentially expanded it to so
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much more. So I'm going to start from the get go. What would
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you say law of attraction is. I think that's a really good question because
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as you were just speaking, I was thinking to myself, it has gone
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so mainstream in a sense that we all I think that there is a sense
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that we all are supposed to know what it is, and we've we've sort
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of gone to the other side where wait, okay, I get the concept,
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but but how do I do it? Or you know, and nobody's
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really talking about that too much, with the exception of like Abraham Hicks and
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you know, people like that who really brought law of attraction into I think
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really popularized it in piggybacking with with people like Oprah and so on. You
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know, I know my days of of either thank God for sales. Sales
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really is one of those professions that really asks us to get our heads straight,
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you know, get our priorities right, get our values right. Not
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saying that everybody in sales has their values right, but but it invites us
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to at least try to develop ourselves and get into personal development so on.
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Because it's it's a competitive business and so you really have to know your whys
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and your reasons and your wherefores right. So, um, law of attraction
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for me is is pretty much what everybody thinks. I guess. On the
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one side, it's how do I behave? How do I? I think,
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what do I need to do to attract the things that I want in
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my life? Right? Basically that's it. So what do I need to
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do in order to attract the things I want in my life? And that's
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that old paradigm, or I call it an old paradigm. What do I
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have to do in order to have what I want in order to be what
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I want? Right? And I think on this, I think it was
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on Soul Sisters one of the episodes back I mentioned that for many years now
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I wanted to reverse that, and so, so what do I have to
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be so that I could figure out what I already have so that I can
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build on, so that I can then figure out what it is that I
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need to do so that my actions are more mainstream. And you're not basically,
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you know, just using buckshot, you know you're doing by doing a
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million things, right, So yeah, it's it's really the idea of what
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is it that I need to do or, in in my estimations, what
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is it that I have to be in order to figure out, excuse me,
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who is it that I am, in order to figure out what I
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already have that I can build on to have to be who I want to,
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you know, to have what I want to have. Yeah, that's
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love that I love that who I want? I need to write that down.
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Um, you're just reversing it, which yeah, I absolutely love.
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And that's what they all tell us, Right, we have to believe it
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before we can see it. Yes, I'll believe it when I see it.
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That's old. It's not going to happen. It will absolutely not happen.
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We have to believe that it's there, it's coming, and here's where
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my money, my my money shot comes in or whatever it's called. My
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money part of it because I get my clients to feel that they deserve it,
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because that actually stops way back in. Right. We can visualize all
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we want, but if we visualize what we want, then we come back
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and we're like, yeah, but that's never going to happen. Or I
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really don't deserve that because I no, no, no, no way back
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when, or money doesn't grow on trees, or you got to work hard
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to make money or whatever. All those beliefs are it stops it way back
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here. So just visualizing it and doing a vision board and doing your mantras
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is not it? Like you said, who am I? Yeah, so
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it's not about what I'm doing, it's who am I being? In order
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to if you think you want this, well, who am I being to
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get this? Is that really going to even happen? Does this person even
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want this? So let's go back to who am I being? I love
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that well. So also it's also about updating who we are, right,
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I mean, we have an image of ourselves and sometimes it's twenty fifteen years
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old, and you know, weaving my body is definitely twenty years younger in
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my head. I can tell you that right now, right, our priorities
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do shift and change, Our realities do shift and change. We learn so
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much every decade, and we have to be willing to make room for the
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things that we have learned that can serve us moving forward, not the things
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that limit us, but the things that actually serve us. How we know
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what we know for ourselves? Right? And um and to your point,
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um um, it's our thoughts direct the energy, it directs the frequency,
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but it's our emotions that attract. So that's why we always say in law
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of attraction, um, you can't you can't attract it if you're not feeling
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it. It requires emote the emotional component in order to you know, to
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manifest whatever you want. But it's so it's the emotions that actually attract.
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There's a cohesiveness that you can an alignment between your brain and your heart when
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you are in alignment, when you have when you're very clear about what you
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want, you're very clear. Not so much about deserving, because deserving can
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get into a whole other can of worms, right, And at some level,
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most people struggle with deservingness. And I have trouble with it because I
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think that's another catch phrase that we use and everybody's supposed to know exactly what
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that means. And most people don't feel deserving on some level, and but
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they don't want to admit that. So that's not a conversation they ever have,
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So they never actually opened that up to look at it and go,
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okay, you know so, um, so, not so much from deserving,
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but just from basically we are a control room, right, We are
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a control room. One massive lever is our thoughts. Another massive lever is
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our emotional dial another massive lever is how we execute, how we expend energy,
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in other words, what we do, what our yield is, you
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know that that moniker that I use M O N E y my own natural
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energy yield, right and with our actions. So um, so it's it's,
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it's it. It helps to kind of just you know, um dial
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it down to just that what am I thinking and what frequency am I putting
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out by my emotions? You know? And I think that for me,
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I'm always looking for, well, what's the bottom line, what's the simplest
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way I can look at it, but kind of takes care of everything else,
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you know, And for me, it's about every action, every thought,
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every feeling, every judgment carries a frequency like a radio frequency, an
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actual frequency. It generates an electromagnetic field, and there is a frequency to
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that. And so when I when I think of my actions and my words
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and my thoughts, I am not judging what they are. I am asking
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myself what frequency is that? So I take myself out of the judging business
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of myself, you know, and my thoughts, and I go I attack
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it from the frequency, you know what I mean. So it sort of
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bypasses the judging mind and the self deprecating mind and all of that, and
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it just simply addresses it, is this frequency useful? Is this helping me?
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Where do I want to live? In my own head? How do
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I want to feel? You know? So, Um it kind of I'm
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sorry I'm talking a lot right now, but it kind of you know,
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in terms of religiosity and you know the concept of sin, I thought to
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myself once I kind of grasp that, Um, you know, it's about
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the frequency. Then it brought a whole other take on the concept of sin.
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Um. In other words, it's not about well, you know,
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the church says this and they shouldn't it should you know, this shouldn't be
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a sin and that shouldn't be a sin. And it's honestly my own feeling
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about it. And this is not any in line with any church whatsoever.
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They you know, they would be heretical. But um, right, But
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it's really about um making an assessment. Does this action raise my frequency or
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does it diminish it? You know, Um, that's really what it's about.
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Like if you want to do something and it may be morally questionable,
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you know, Um, Okay, that's one thing. Like you know,
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if you want to have an affair, for instance, one of these things
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that are really compelling, right, and you know it might not be a
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good thing, but at the same time you feel compelled, right exactly,
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So it's why who is it hurting that he's unhappy? Anyway, whatever it
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might be, you might not be able to really pull yourself out of that
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mindset attacking it from you know, reason, Well, you know he's unhappy,
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we love each other, blah blah blah, he's an a leave is
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whatever it might be. This is just a scenario. You know, I
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pulled out of my hat, right. But if you think of it,
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if you have if you have a life and a plan and a goal for
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your life, and you think of it in terms of frequency, what am
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I attracting by the frequency that I will be involved in that I will be
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generating by doing something like this. You know, we can't lie to ourselves.
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Put it that way. Okay, we might be able to justify things
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all day long, but we really can't lie to ourselves. Our system knows
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what we're doing and the effect of it on our system, and it will
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produce a frequency. So, you know, if you have goals in your
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life and so on, and that's more important to you ultimately, no matter
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how attractive you are, then maybe it's enough to have you go. You
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know what, I don't want to diminish my frequency, and even if we
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do have a relationship in the future, I want it to be of the
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highest of the highest frequency, the highest vibration possible, you know. Okay,
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So here's a good question for you. Then on the frequency levels,
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joy and bliss and all of that is at the top of the frequencies,
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right, Like, that's that's what joy and bliss I would say. Spiritual
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love. I also would say the way I look at love is that it
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is actually a frequency that we can attain, and we as human beings,
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experience that as an the emotion of love that is spirit to be the cat,
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the husband, the affair guy, the family, the car, the
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whatever feeling of joy and love inside of you is a certain frequency exactly,
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but there are many different frequencies. Like you know, lust love is not
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the same as spiritual love. It's a different frequency. So what if that
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guy is my spiritual soul made So it's really about intentionality and it's about bearing
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it up to us to the highest level frequency you can the highest level,
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the highest standard for want of a better word. Right, again, you
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can't fool yourself, right, are compromising yourself in any way whatsoever that will
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generate that will lower the frequency? Right? You can have the best of
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intelligent tensions. You can be very much in love. It can feel like
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the best thing possible. But if you're doing something or behaving in a way
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with him or by yourself or whatever, in a way that that you subconsciously
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you know, that will lower the frequency. Just potential, exactly. The
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potential is completely high as long as it's all above board or whatever, you
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know, and you're acting in complete integrity, in alignment with your best with
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your best self, right, then it's fine. You know, you can't
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help your feelings, you can't love help loving who you love. But if
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you compromise yourself in any way, that will affect the frequency and lower it.
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Right, Okay, So here's a question. Uh, Like you said,
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the differences between the thoughts and the emotions. Thinking something creates an emotion.
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Yes, okay, And I hate people insures because that's really sure with
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like a whole paragraph after it classified me? What's that pacified me? She
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just pat with the sure, Sure, just so you know she's got no
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we're I was gonna say, the other is the other. The reverse is
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true too, right, Emotions, emotions create thoughts. Yeah, okay,
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reverse is true too, Okay, okay, No, So what if something
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happens to you, somebody runs into you and you have a fender bender,
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but the thought there is there first? No, the shock is there first.
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Oh my god, I could get killed, I could be hurt.
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Am I okay, my insurance is gonna go up. No no, no,
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no, no, no, no to to give you that emotion.
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No, that happened. Well, maybe that's true for you. I would
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argue that we are physical creatures and on a creature level, our body responds
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first response for exactly. Okay, I can't argue with that scientific damn fact
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whatever. Okay. So and then and then all the thoughts to support that
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can come in, I'm up and change it, alter that emotion as well.
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Okay, Okay, I like that. So if I know that I
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want to I want to live to one hundred and four, I want to
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be as active and healthy as long as possible, and one of my priorities,
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like you said, what's your goals? And then go from that One
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of my priorities is to live and enjoy every day because life is short.
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Anything could happened tomorrow, and so I want to be happy as much as
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possible during the day. That could be my cup that you set me,
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but I'd love my sparkle cup, right. It could be talking with you.
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It could be my meditating with you and all the stuff that we do
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in the mornings are healings and stuff. It could be that tree. It
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could be you know, my new computer. Love my new computer, so
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happy with my new computer. It could be anything that brings me joy,
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petting my cat, talking to my kids, you know, any of that.
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The more time I spend in joy, I feel like I'm raising my
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vibration. Yeah, because my energy is higher. I'm in joy longer.
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Things are happening, just amazingly, just happening and showing up and less stress
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and overwhelm and worry. So that is I'm just talking your look at your
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looking what? Okay? So your actions are triggers, right, but you
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are deciding you somewhere along the way, you made the decision that I'm going
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to engage in things that can bring me joy. Now you can engage in
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those very same things and not necessarily feel a darned thing. You can you
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know, you can be busy in your mind and so you're not really in
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the moment. You're not really So it takes a decision too, and it's
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it's joy, isn't the action, isn't all of these things. Joy is
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truly the opportunity to just simply settle into yourself and go God, it feels
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good to be alive. Here I am, I'm petting my cat. And
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for some reason this feels like heaven. It's just and just being able to
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sit in that and really allow yourself a full experience of it. It's like
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eating a wonderful meal. It's like taking the deepest breath. It is the
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experience of being alive. I believe that it was Joseph Campbell that talked about
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what we are truly after. Isn't all the experiences we keep running around saying
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that we want to do or have done. It's the experience of being alive.
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It's the feeling of being alive that we truly miss and yearn for and
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crave, so any action that we do, we're always alive. It's always
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right there in front of us. We're just going over here. Yeah,
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exactly so, And so the more like you exactly like you said, the
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more that we can tap into that and dip into that presence that is always
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there and it is always joy because the feeling of being alive is always vital,
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unless, of course you're suffering from depression and so on. But even
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then, to not be afraid to feel it is a gift that we can
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also give ourselves to find that we that we will survive the feeling of feeling
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it. So much of when we are down and depressed even is about trying
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not to feel it. So we're pushing it down even farther. We're creating
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a very chronic condition in that sense, right, because we're not really allowed
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to feel those things or admit you know, and so on in our in
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our society generally. So but yeah, so it's really about you and I
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have talked about this about increasing our capacity to feel joy and to sustain it.
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So increasing our capacity for joy, in other words, the amount of
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joy, the degree of joy or bliss or the ecstatic feelings that we can
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have that that extosis um and it's the capacity to sustain that for a period
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of time that you know. So, for instance, many years ago,
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it occurred to me that, you know, I feel such a capacity for
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joy. I feel so much joy. I have that. Why doesn't everybody
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have that? And then immediately one of my you know, one of my
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council members said in my you know, my diet, right said um,
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uh great, and um why do you go watch a show right after that?
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Or why do you get busy doing something that you know really is doesn't
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need to be done? And I was like what? And I thought,
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but I I thought, well, you know that's true. It's like it's
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right exactly, Why do I interrupt that process? Because it's it's almost like
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it's so much that I can't sustain it exactly. So once I realized that,
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I was like, Okay, I have to work on my capacity,
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not so much my capacity to feel it, but to sustain it. Because
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if I want more joy, if I want how how is it that I
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could say that I want to be happy and I want to be blissful and
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I want to live in a state of nirvana just say right, but I
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can't sustain the damn state. Right, So we find it and it's gone,
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and or we get up and move like get up we like, for
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instance, I mean because it feels good, it gives us energy, and
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we go do something with it. It is as if we're not allowed to
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be we have to. We get that little shot of whatever it is,
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and we go use that energy. That's great, but don't forget to come
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back to sit with it, sit in it. Just make yourself sit,
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hold your feet to the fires, and gets Oh my god, it feels
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so good. I'm gonna burst good. Just feel that burst, feel it.
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You'll you'll live, you know, to see what happens. I love
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that. So that's momentum, right, And the more momentum we get have
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like at the top of the hill, we're rolling down the hill. The
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more momentum we get, the easier and easier it is. And it does
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take practice, it absolutely does. It absolutely cannot just go out and sit
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underneath a tree like Buddha and actually become that quiet mentality like I've been doing
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it for decades and I'm still not good at it. And in fact,
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until you and I started doing our morning healings together, you sending me energy,
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talking to my angels, you know, going back and forth, and
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I'm knowing that it's not just me and I'm feeling the energy. I'm feeling
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my hands warm, I'm feeling some energy moving around. And it's been you
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know, a few months now, we've been doing that, and I am
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now I can go into that completely calm state very quickly. And you're absolutely
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right. There are a lot I'd say fifty at least fifty percent of the
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time I am ready to get up and go do something, it's like,
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okay, just sit relax. Like today I was like, oh, I'm
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not moving, Like, I'm not even moving. I'm gonna sit right here.
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I'm not getting out of it. Like, let's just see what it
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gets me out of it. Yeah, don't. I don't even know what
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got me out of it, but all of a sudden, I did come
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out of it. But it was so cool to spend more time in this
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as women. This is a gender thing. I'm putting on it as my
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opinion. We have so much in our head. We have so many roles,
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mother, sister, wife, spouse, lover, friend, friend,
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soul sister, daughter, employee, employe, and owner, CEO, manager,
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Like, we have so much in our heads, so many roles,
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so many has so many roles, and so it's hard, and I'm gonna
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cancel, cancel, cancel those words. We have the thoughts in our society
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that we should do so much that it's hard. It could be a challenge
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or take practice to slow down and do that, just like it is if
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we want to go to the gym every day, Just like if I want
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tone, it's going to take practice. This is going to happen until I
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go to the gym every day. So why do we think that our spirituality
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or connectedness or law of attraction or anything is going to happen overnight. Everything
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takes practice and when it feels good, do it. Does that make sense
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absolutely? You know, when I was a kid, I was an only
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child, and I was often at the table, dinner table with adults,
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and my parents entertained a lot, and so I was privy to a lot
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of adult conversation. I didn't I don't think I said much, but you
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know, so that really helped me in terms of, you know, uh,
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just forming my mind and so on. But what it did also do
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for me is that I recognized that the lives of adults were very complicated and
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just seemed to be all over the map, and you know, and a
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lot of their struggles were around the expectations of others and you know, doing
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things in the right way, and you know, not being able to be
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honest with certain people. You know, certain people like like their public or
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their clients, or their customers, or their parents, or their friends or
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their best friend or whatever. It just seemed like there was a lot of
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juggling of of behavior and and and intention and you know, all sorts of
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things, and it just seemed like, you know, and then there was
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the career and the family and the kids and the this and the that,
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and it just seemed so complicated to me that as I sat there and I
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listened to the complexity of their lives, fearing that even if I was an
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adult, I don't think I could do life like that, nor did I
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want to. That was the thing. I just I really felt an aversion
27:18
to being that trapped by every aspect of my life, and it felt like
27:25
entrapments, you know, like I was going to grow up into a life
27:29
that had all these i don't know, like these restrictions and rules, and
27:33
it just felt it felt claustrophobic for me, psychologically claustrophobic. So I realized
27:40
that I knew that if I could figure out, like in City Slickers,
27:45
where Jack, you know, Billy Crystal asks Jack Palance, the dude guy,
27:49
you know, what's the secret of life? You know? And Jack
27:52
Palance holds up one finger and Billy Crystal goes but a finger, and Jack
27:57
Palance goes no. One thing. I love that I never forgot that particular
28:03
line in that particular scene because that reflected exactly what I felt as a child.
28:08
I wanted to find the one thing that would calibrate all the other things.
28:15
So if I just tended to that one thing, I knew the rest
28:18
would work out and I wouldn't have to worry too much about what's going on
28:22
with all these other things, you know, the different roles that we play
28:26
in life, or the different businesses, or the different friendships or the whatever.
28:30
If I could just tend to the one thing that determined all of that,
28:33
my life would be much simpler. I could see myself doing that.
28:37
That's when I decided I wanted to be a monk so I could help people,
28:40
because that would be one thing, that would be one thing, and
28:44
it would take care of all the rest of it. Right, So that
28:47
is very enlightened for you, as a young girl to come across and to
28:51
even think of so right there, it's already blowing minds as well. But
28:56
I want to go back to the gist of it, because you are a
28:57
very special person and you did come to that, and I do believe that
29:02
you're here on this planet for a reason. And I want to add we
29:07
all are for sure, and I want to add that thanks to Walt Disney
29:12
and to send a frickin' rella, we believe that one thing is a partner
29:18
in life that's going to change and make it all better. Right after three
29:22
of my one things, I can tell you that's not true and that is
29:27
not accurate. So I love that you put that down to one thing is
29:33
going to take care of everything. I was never I was not enlightened thinking
29:37
that that came from enlightenment for you and a feeling of controlling your emotions and
29:44
not being able all over the place with all these other Like I told,
29:47
it just came from observing adults. You know. I wasn't outside playing with
29:51
other kids my own age, you know, so I was, But even
29:53
if you're sitting at the table, I observed adults a lot. I had
29:56
my best girlfriend's family. We've had six kids and their family, and I
30:02
none of that led me to believe, like to create something in my life.
30:06
I still didn't know I was creating. I was still creating by default,
30:10
by by whatever happens next feels good, Let's just do that, or
30:14
he likes me, Okay, let's do that. Okay, she likes Oh
30:17
my god. I went through years of that, you know as well.
30:21
But here's the thing too, is that because because as a kid, I
30:25
realized that even if I was a monk like right away, like one of
30:29
these enlightened children, my parents would not take me seriously, nor would their
30:33
friends take me seriously. So I realized even then that I would have to
30:37
grow up, and I would have to I had a training period, that
30:40
life would present a training period for me to have experiences so that once I
30:45
started, you know, helping people as a monk, right um, I
30:49
would know what the hell I was talking about, right they you know,
30:52
it wouldn't just be creue. It wouldn't be a kid when you've never been
30:56
married, is very very exact, exactly so, and so then and I
31:02
suddenly realized. I remember the moments I went, oh, I'm not sure,
31:07
I want to have those experiences based on you know, it's like,
31:11
okay, but I have faith. I'm supposed to help people, so I
31:15
imagine I'll survive it, you know. And then I just kind of,
31:22
uh, you know, let it go and went all right whatever. But
31:25
of those experiences, I already also knew that I would probably get married and
31:30
have you know, I didn't want to have children because I didn't want to
31:33
give birth. I thought that was going to be a terrible experience. So
31:36
I wanted to adopt right and raise my little rainbow family, and then I
31:41
would at some point move on. I don't know if I figured my husband
31:45
would die or would get a divorce, because you know, expats they divorced
31:48
all the time, so that was a normal thing. And then I would
31:51
go live on a mountain and become a monk and do my real work in
31:55
life at that point. And it's kind of interesting that that's sort of how
31:59
my life turned up. Miss Shasta. Mount Shasta, right is your mountain?
32:05
And married? Tell me about your relationships. Okay, married twice,
32:09
both long term relationships, long term marriages. UM, wonderful men. Um,
32:15
It's just um, I don't um. I don't think I ever saw
32:21
myself. I don't think that was ever going to do it for me though,
32:24
you know, UM, partnership great. But I have always really been
32:30
driven to dive deep into God and spirituality and what what God means you know.
32:37
Um, and I'm just using the God word to encompass whatever. Yeah,
32:42
And I just have always that's always driven me. And I never really
32:47
when I would imagine that in my life. I never imagined a partner with
32:51
me. But if you had someone driven as well, yeah, then it
32:57
would be then it would be a joint venture. And I'm just you know,
33:00
no, I just it's not Yeah, well well put it, put
33:05
it. We'll put it this way. Um. There was a time in
33:07
my life where that was something I wanted because for whatever reason, um,
33:13
it was good and I wanted that. Um. I feel absolutely complete with
33:17
that. I feel like it's one of those things you know, if you've
33:20
been to Italy and you've lived there and it's just wonderful, and and now
33:24
you know you're ready for something else. You don't want to live in Italy
33:27
anymore. You know. It's it's it's not it's not but Italy's bad.
33:31
It's just that yeah, it was great. And now I really want to
33:35
live in Germany. You know, ye right, it's for me. It's
33:39
the same thing. It's it's it's it's beautiful, um and um. And
33:45
I want to dive so deeply into this life that I I just it's not
33:51
I'm not I'm not interested in doing anything else, you know, So I
33:53
get very focused. Yes, you do get very focused. I love that.
33:58
Okay. So marriages have given you a business being an entrepreneur. You've
34:05
had tons of experiences with you know, careers and the houses and interior decorating
34:09
and flipping and trying I mean, growing up traveling, I mean just growing
34:14
up being all over the place. Yeah, yeah, I lived in what
34:17
I think by the time I was eighteen or nineteen, I had lived in
34:21
eight different countries and gone to just as many schools or more. You know.
34:25
It was it was. I wouldn't trade that experience, but I wouldn't
34:30
recommend it necessarily. Yeah you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, I
34:36
love that. Okay. So all this has brought you to this wisdom place
34:39
of really loving your life. I mean, I mean, ever since I've
34:45
known you, you've loved your life, even when you're going through it like
34:49
we have the contrast, you're still loving life because you have that faith.
34:53
How did you receive that faith? If somebody's going through something right now,
34:59
like just horrible, like maybe they just were abused by their spouse, or
35:04
going through a divorce or a loss of a loved one, how do you
35:07
find that faith and will to know that it's going to get better. Yeah,
35:15
it's it's really tough. Um. You know, it hasn't always been
35:21
like it is for me right now and at any moment of any day,
35:24
it you know, it doesn't need to We always have permission to listen to
35:28
the news and get really upset and really depressed and hopeless. Right in my
35:32
twenties, I was suicidal, you know. Um, it just it was
35:37
building since childhood and I couldn't see myself in the world. I couldn't see
35:42
a way to be in the world. Um and um, you know a
35:45
lot of different factors got went into that. But but I remember one day,
35:52
and I am going to answer your question, I remember one day I
35:55
really I was really struggling. I was like, you know, if I
36:00
don't get help in some way, the next step is going to be something
36:06
not you know, I was just getting closer and closer there, and I
36:09
remember just really inside myself and out loud. I just said, if if
36:16
I have a guardian angel, if there is a god, if you know,
36:20
if if I really need you guys to step up right now, I
36:25
need some reason to keep going. And Jennifer, in that moment, my
36:32
room, my bedroom, It's filled with golden light. It just filled with
36:37
golden light. And I had the distinct the words came to me exactly like
36:44
this, hold on, It'll all make sense, but just keep just hold
36:51
on. I'll keep holding on. And and so to answer your question,
36:57
it does. I was at such the end of my rope at that point
37:00
that I had nothing to lose but to hold onto that experience, and then
37:06
the next day to hold onto the memory of that experience, and then the
37:09
next day to hold on to the memory of that experience. It was so
37:13
real and so timely. I just asked the question, and then I had
37:19
that, you know, the light, and then the words and then and
37:22
and what followed the words was I felt so calm, I felt so like
37:29
I was just filled with hope. And and so I knew in that moment
37:34
that eve that it may go away. The next day. That was my
37:37
big fear. I don't think I ever returned quite to that, to the
37:40
feeling I had that day, of that hopelessness, you know. Ever again
37:45
it wasn't easy after that, but I never quite returned to that, and
37:49
I held on for dear life to the message of that. So so I
37:54
think that, um, if there is something that is offered us hope,
38:00
if there is someone or some guidance, I prefer inner guidance. I prefer
38:05
to just hold on as tightly as possible to that inner guidance because other people
38:09
and so one can change. But if you can just somehow take whatever light
38:15
comes to you in those moments when we ask for it, because oftentimes when
38:20
we ask for it, something will happen, and we can negate it,
38:22
we can deny it, we can pretend it's not important. But if you
38:25
really are at the end of your rope, you will hold on to for
38:29
dear life like it's the only life you know, like life raft you have,
38:34
and just just just have faith in that, and no matter what you
38:38
go through, you know, the next day or whatever, just know that
38:43
just keep breathing, one breath after the next, one foot in front of
38:45
the next and have faith and pray and you know, don't ever give up
38:52
on yourself. Don't ever give up on yourself. At one day it will
38:58
all make sense, you know. But we have to do our work.
39:01
We have to actually try to help ourselves and do whatever we can. It's
39:06
it's hard to imagine what we can do. But just do what's in front
39:09
of you to do. You don't have to know the next ten steps.
39:12
You just have to know that the step you can take right now, and
39:15
just lean into it and have bait. It's really all when we're in that
39:20
state, it's really all we have the bandwidth to do, you know,
39:22
is and and it takes something to do that, Just to do the step
39:28
in front of us, Just do that, lean into it. Yeah,
39:30
you don't have to solve all the problems. You don't have to know everything,
39:34
just you know, and we can't know. We can't everything from that
39:37
space, no matter how happy and healthy we are, we can't. It's
39:42
really about surrendering, surrendering to to to to the moment. Yeah, I
39:47
love that. I love that. And then going back to law of attraction.
39:50
Thank you so much, feeling for sharing your honesty and your your your
39:55
history with us. Like, you know, it's not easy to say that
40:00
you were at the depths of that low point in your life. So I
40:04
really appreciate you being honest with us. It wasn't personal. Clearly they had
40:08
something to teach me. I did open the invitation, let them in,
40:14
you know, right, yeah, yeah, this is human so um with
40:22
the law of attraction aspect of all of that and the frequency of all of
40:30
that, there's a level of emotion. There's a level of frequency. And
40:36
I think that but when the Secret went mainstream and visualization got popular and mantros
40:44
got popular and all of that kind of stuff got popular, people are forgetting
40:46
that there's a spectrum and so we're going from wherever you're at today to the
40:52
top of the spectrum. And it's impossible to go there. To there,
40:57
you have to just go one little step ahead. So in my money coaching,
41:01
when people are coming to me normally, they're looking for help when they're
41:05
not at the best places in their lives right right right, and so they
41:08
want to be able to either get out of debt or just get organized with
41:12
their finances, or trust their business partner or stay married. A lot of
41:17
them are you know, at the brink of divorce due to spending and finances
41:22
and whatever's happening. Yeah, So I always say, we just want to
41:27
get to one step where we're at. Just hang on to that one step,
41:32
then the next step, then the next step, and then I just
41:36
want you to be satisfied. Once we can actually be satisfied, then we
41:39
can build on that going up the ladder and the frequencies. Well, and
41:44
that's the thing, right, So a couple of points here, because for
41:47
me, it's always been about how do I get from one place to next?
41:52
I mean that's that's been my whole life. It's like, how do
41:53
I, Okay, I experience this, How did I get from one place
41:57
next? How do I do that? How do I do that? Because
42:00
that's the thing that confuses everybody, Right, It's like I get where I
42:02
have to go, I'm just not sure how I can do that. And
42:07
here's the thing. So this is going to sound really really funky at first,
42:13
but when you really grasp how much power you have, it it's like
42:19
it just hits you like a two by four. When we realize that because
42:24
of our minds, because of the thoughts that we've had and the emotions that
42:30
we've had, and so the things that we've chosen to do, why,
42:34
the whether to be safe or to be risky or whatever it may be,
42:38
set into motion a set of trajectories that inevitably had a particular outcome. We
42:45
did that. Nobody did that for us. We actually did that. We
42:51
created that. That is the power of our capacity to create. So it's
42:58
evidence of what we think, how we feel, and the trajectory that those
43:02
thoughts and feelings set us on the choices that we make attract whatever it is
43:08
that has come. Now, we may not like what we've attracted. It
43:13
doesn't mean, however, that you haven't been using an incredible amount of psychic
43:17
and thinking and emotional power in order to create those things. When we really
43:23
grasp that, then we can go, well, holy crap, if I
43:29
can do that, because obviously I can create, right, then I can
43:35
create something good because it's not my incapacity to create, it's my capacity to
43:39
focus on what I actually want and stop focusing on what I don't want.
43:45
That that is the shift right. Instead of turning the dial to the left,
43:49
turn to the right, same dial right. Did you see what I'm
43:53
saying? Totally and we are stuck to the left on what's here now instead
43:59
of turning the dial to the right on what could right here now. And
44:02
we're believing that we don't have the capacity to create because we're not getting what
44:07
we want. But that's wrong. We have been creating. We have tremendous
44:10
power. That is your power on exhibition. So you know, when you
44:16
realize that it is my own thoughts, it is my own emotions and feelings,
44:21
it is my own choice is based on those thoughts and feelings and my
44:23
own belief system that has created the life that I have now, then you
44:28
go to you know, you realize that there's nothing there's nothing broken about the
44:31
equipment. It's just what side of you know, where the dial is pointed
44:36
right, So then you can kind of get in. It's like, Okay,
44:38
my god, I'm pretty freaking powerful. I'm pretty freaking magical. I
44:43
don't like what I created, but I created it, Okay, So um,
44:46
what do I have to do in order to shift my feelings about myself
44:52
or my focus? It's and so much self esteem goes down the drain because
44:57
we believe that we're doing something wrong or that we don't have the power to
45:00
do these things. And you know, once you realize that you can actually
45:05
stop the hemorrhaging of our self esteem because we actually do, we have been,
45:08
and we can, then all that self esteem and energy can go into.
45:15
Well, if I have that kind of power, then all I really
45:16
need to do is just redirect it. So and nobody else really has the
45:21
power to do these things to me, I can do them myself. Right,
45:27
So that's the upside about well, okay, I guess I'm completely responsible.
45:30
Well, the upside of that is, yes, and you have the
45:34
power to do what you actually want. You know, nobody, nobody created
45:38
this, this life that you don't like for you. You did that.
45:42
That means that you also have the capacity to create the life that you want,
45:45
you know, and nobody think about that's the tough one. That's the
45:49
tough one for people to live, right, because it's so much easier say
45:52
it's part their parents' fault, society's fault, everybody else's fault, instead of
45:58
looking at I mean when I came into the self world, I was twenty
46:04
nine and that's when I lost my kids. And my therapist was amazing with
46:08
the universal laws. Yeah, and she gave me a bypass and said,
46:14
you know the very first laws. You you get what you attract and what
46:16
you want. And she's like, you can't go there right now, so
46:22
just do the other for now, because you can't say that I caused that,
46:28
and I can't say that that was in my psyche that was blocking abundance
46:34
and enjoy from me for many years and I didn't know it because I'm so
46:37
extroverted and so honest thanks to my dad, and so outspoken that I thought
46:43
that was happiness when I could never get to the level. I felt like
46:47
I was always on that hamster wheel until I actually saw that I had that
46:52
belief that I created myself. And as soon as I cleared that, which
46:57
was like an instantaneous with my coach Mavoo, she helped me find that belief
47:01
and then clear that everything switched in my life. Everything switched. I found
47:07
the dial. I found the dial that I actually do have control over how
47:12
I think and feel an act, and who I want to be and who
47:15
we attract. Right, I mean, obviously you didn't. This is not
47:20
something that you would have designed into your life had you had you known,
47:22
right, But but the choices that we make in terms of who, well,
47:27
who we attract right and certain and whether we stay or don't stay.
47:31
I mean, but because we're yeah, we come out of the womb.
47:34
Basically we hit the ground running. You know. It's not like we take
47:37
a course on how to live and then go live, right, It's it's
47:39
like we're sort of learning on the job. So we have the challenges that
47:44
we have and um and yeah, to be able to give ourselves a lot
47:49
of compassion, you know, because it's kind of a first time, first
47:53
time experience for you know, we don't we don't really get a repeat unless
47:58
we do so personality, this body, this time and life, this everything,
48:04
this is it right right where we are at this moment. So we
48:07
have a couple of minutes left, I think two minutes left. So how
48:13
do we want to wrap this stuff and put a cute little bow on it?
48:16
Let me ask you this too. First of all, we have to
48:22
know we create our own reality. If you don't believe that, let's just
48:27
play with it for a little while. Okay, Yeah, So I don't
48:30
want to sit here and pretend like, Okay, well, if I want
48:34
to live, you know, two hundred years, I can make that happen.
48:37
I don't want to sit here and pretend that you know, if a
48:38
storm comes your house might not fall down or whatever. It isn't about the
48:44
extenuating circumstances. It's really about our attitude towards them, and we have complete
48:50
jurisdiction over that. How we choose to have those experiences, how we choose
48:54
to go through those experiences, and that is what sets the frequency. All
49:00
always think in terms of what is the energy signature that I'm putting out with
49:05
this. It doesn't mean you won't get pissed off sometimes and so on,
49:07
But when you get pissed off, you can't ever again. Once you're really
49:12
tuned into that, you can't. You can actually just really enjoy being pissed
49:15
off for a minute, and then you can take a deep breath and you
49:16
can go, Okay, how do I use this? How do I use
49:20
this to raise my frequency in some way? You know constant that it's constant
49:28
yep. Anger is easy for us to access in this society. So sometimes
49:32
anger does get us to the next thing, which is excitement. Like we
49:36
can go from anger to satisfaction to excitement because that is acceptable in this society.
49:42
Purposing anger is a really neat trick. You know, anger feels a
49:46
lot like determination. When we are determined, we are focused, and anger
49:52
has a way of focusing our attention. So we can always repurpose anger into
49:55
determination. All right, we got it, We're repurposing anger into termination.
50:00
Pegling. You know you gotta come back because we didn't even get into a
50:04
quarter of what we wanted to talk about today, So we're going to have
50:06
to love you back. I want to talk about our spirituality. I want
50:09
to talk about channeling, and I want to talk about our angels. I
50:12
want to talk about all of that wonderful stuff. Thank you, bless you,
50:15
love you, Thank you so much, honey, I love you,
50:17
love you too. Rock my Finances, y'all come back for more law of
50:21
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50:46
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50:52
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