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Feminine Energy Inner Work: Why Women Struggle with Receiving · Mindful Success Path

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  A big part of living more in your feminine energy so that you're able to attract a life that has a lot more ease and flow and manifest way more easily is the ability to receive.
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  Now the problem is that most women have a very difficult time receiving and in this feminine energy inner work video, I'm gonna be detailing some of the reasons why.
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  Because the truth is that there's nothing wrong with you and you are not broken.
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  There's actually some very logical reasons as to why women have such a hard time receiving and in becoming aware of it, then you are able to change it.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda Aeo.
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  Lately, we're talking a lot about feminine energy, masculine energy, relationships, um, and how these two energies basically apply to everything in your life.
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  Program where I'm gonna be going a lot deeper into the content that I'm going to be talking about today.
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  In the meantime, you're gonna get a little taste right now, so.
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  Why is receiving so important to feminine energy?
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  Because the receiving is a part of the feminine and giving is a part of the masculine.
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  What's happening right now a lot in society is that women have this, not just women, but everybody has this a little bit reversed, where you have women who are overgiving in a lot of situations.
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  Um, if you see that and then there's polarity missing in relationships, or they're burned out, or they're overworking or they're not making enough money, it leads to a whole bunch of problems.
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  But the reality is that there are actually some very good reasons as to why women struggle with this.
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  It's not because you're broken, it's mostly because of, you know, societal conditioning and history and things that we've been through, um, throughout history.
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  So, number one is the fear of vulnerability, which is very interesting because vulnerability is also a part of the feminine.
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  So a lot of women, they feel very uncomfortable receiving because receiving can feel very.
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  Uh, vulnerable for a lot of women.
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  If you were raised to be, you know, self-reliant or very independent, um, or to be raised a lot more in your masculine energy, much like I was, then it could be very difficult to feel vulnerable or share vulnerability because you're afraid that you're exposing yourself to being hurt.
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  And the thing is that when you vulnerability and speaking from the heart and speaking.
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  Uh, from that feeling place and being vulnerable as a woman is actually one of your superpowers.
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  So, for example, if you're dating right now, or in partnership, you know, men love it when women speak from the heart and share their vulnerability because men are constantly in their minds and in their brains.
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  It's part of what creates that attraction between men and women.
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  So it's very interesting that the fear of receiving is also linked to a fear of vulnerability, both of which are paramount.
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  If you want to live more in your feminine energy and then have healthier relationships, romantic relationships, really relationships of all kinds, and just have a life that has a lot more, um, ease and flow.
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  The next thing, and this is actually really common, is the fear of reciprocation.
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  So a lot of women, and I'll, I'll give an example, that a lot of women will, will say a lot of women feel very uncomfortable, for example, receiving a gift because they feel like they have to reciprocate.
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  Immediately rather than just receiving with joy, um, and showing that emotion of how joyful they actually are, because a lot of women may feel that if they receive something, particularly from a man, then there's going to be a sense of obligation.
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  So the, the example that everybody uses that comes up a lot is if a man buys me dinner, then I'm obligated to have sex with him, or he's going to assume that I need to sleep with him now.
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  Immature men, men who are more in their feminine energy Yes.
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  Might do that, right?
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  In which case, red flag move on.
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  Um, but more masculine, mature men, men who've done a lot more work in this department, they love to give to women just to give, right?
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  And they're not necessarily expecting anything in return because for them, seeing you light up and making you happy and you sharing that vulnerability is a, is amazing.
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  Uh, to a man.
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  They love that energy and it creates a lot of bonding between the two of you.
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  So, you know, if you are going out with men who are expecting those things from you, like, oh, I bought you dinner now, you know, I expect sex from you, red flag, don't date the guy.
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  And maybe, uh, by cultivating more of the feminine energy, which we talk a lot about on this channel.
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  So make sure to subscribe, then you won't have that much of an experience anymore.
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  And if you do, then you know, to move on.
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  Basically like that's, that's not the one, that is not how healthy, uh, men behave.
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  Healthy men love to give to women just to give to women.
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  They love it.
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  And then you expressing your gratitude like that, that to them is everything.
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  The next one, right, is social conditioning, right?
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  So social conditioning can play a role, of course, this is social, cultural, depends on where you come from, lineage, all those things.
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  But women in a lot of parts of the world have been conditioned to think that they should come last and they should basically sacrifice themselves for everybody else.
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  And that's what makes them a good woman.
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  Um, it's, and I remember, you know, and this is very common because even though I was raised to be a lot more masculine, obviously I have a lot of feminine essence.
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  And obviously since I shifted my life to living more in feminine energy, I feel a lot more like myself, right.
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  But I remember being a kid and advocating for myself basically, and my desires and being told that I'm selfish.
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  Uh, and a lot of women are told that they're selfish as little girls when they advocate for their desires, um, or what it is that they like, and then it just gets squashed and squashed and squashed because, uh, societal conditioning dictates that we should be the ones sacrificing everything for everybody else.
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  So how dare we receive.
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  Or another way in which this shows up in terms of societal conditioning is the whole Superwoman syndrome that instead of asking for help, we're a superwoman.
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  We can do it all.
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  We can have it all.
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  Yeah, you can have it all, but it's not by being too much in your masculine energy.
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  It's actually quite the opposite.
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  It's learning how to be more in your empowered feminine energy where you can have it all.
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  But most people have, most women have been conditioned that in order for them to have it all, they have to be in overboard in the masculine energy.
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  And how's that working out for you?
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  It's not working out.
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  For most women.
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  Another reason why women may struggle with receiving is just shame and self-doubt, right?
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  Um, again, a lot of women and everybody in general, but women in particular, like since we're very young, um, at least in the west, it's like a lot of our insecurities are put on display and there's whole industries built on women's insecurities.
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  For example, look at the beauty industry that instead of enhancing.
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  Uh, what it is that you naturally have, which is what I was taught, uh, by, by one of my makeup teachers here in Mexico.
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  My husband bought me makeup classes, for my birthday, and she said the whole point of makeup is to like enhance your natural beauty, but the whole industry is built on you being insecure, uh, and imperfect, and being flawed.
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  I would venture to say that the personal development industry in its shadow side is also built on that like you are somehow flawed.
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  Uh, which I do not believe that you are flawed.
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  I do not believe that at all.
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  And a, a lot of, uh, spirituality sometimes is total.
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  Again, shadow side is built on people being flawed.
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  Like there's a lot of people making money off of your insecurities, which is why they keep twisting those, uh, insecurities.
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  And that starts from when we're very little girls, right?
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  So we can have shame and guilt or self-doubt because of our perceived limitations or flaws.
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  That makes us feel like we're not worthy of receiving'cause oh my God, there's something wrong with me.
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  So that may show up in women really struggling to accept compliments or gifts because they just don't see themselves as deserving of it.
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  Because ever since we were little girls, our insecurities have been put in our faces.
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  'cause there's a lot of people making money off of women's uh, insecurities.
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  And another one is low self-esteem.
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  Um, there's lots of reasons why, you know, some women may have low self-esteem.
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  I don't have time to get into all of those right now.
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  Let's just say that that's one of the reasons why, again, you don't think that you are, are deserving right now.
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  Again, all of this stuff that I just mentioned, this is like centuries of programming in our cells and in our nervous systems.
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  So I've been doing a lot more videos about nervous system regulation and inner work because if you have a program running.
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  That basically says, Hey, I'm not worthy for whatever X, y, and Z reason.
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  When someone tries to give to you, or a man tries to give to you, your, your nervous system's gonna go into overdrive because that's what it's programmed with.
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  The only way to start overcoming this stuff and, and start overcoming these patterns and not let the emotions run our lives straight into a brick walls with higher levels of consciousness.
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  So we started level a higher level of consciousness now just by becoming aware of like, Hey, why does this actually happen?
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  Why do most women feel very, um, uncomfortable?
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  And then when it comes to receiving specifically, there's one experiment that I did, and I will go more into different ways to start cultivating the, the receptivity muscle, as I call it, the receiving muscle, uh, once I'm ready to start coaching on, on the program that I'm working on.
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  But I'll leave you with one today.
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  Which I've mentioned before, and I think this is actually one of the most impactful, which is what I call the masculine provider experiment.
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  Now, I've said this before, that when I decided that I was ready to be married and manifest my husband, I started doing an experiment because I realized that I wasn't necessarily great at receiving for many of the same reasons that I brought up in this video today.
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  So what I essentially had to do, and I didn't realize this is what I was doing at the time.
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  I essentially had to retrain my nervous system and expand my capacity to receive.
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  And I started doing that by, with this masculine provider experiment.
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  So essentially what I did is that in preparation for my husband, I'm like, well, if I want a masculine man, I gotta be a feminine woman.
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  What you feminine women know how to do.
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  They know how to receive, let me get accustomed to receiving from men.
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  So I did this experiment where I allowed myself to receive from the men all around me, whether it was solving problems.
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  Mentoring me, uh, fixing an issue for me, gifting me something, whatever it was, I let them do it and I received it with gratitude.
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  And I allowed myself to expand more and more and more in the receiving.
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  And the reason why this was so important is because I had a lot of the same fears that I just mentioned in this video, again, because of societal programming.
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  So this helped me start breaking, uh, those patterns and.
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  One of the things that happened is, number one, within four months, I met my husband of this experiment.
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  But number two, by the time I met my husband, I was used to getting good treatment from men.
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  And one of the biggest mistakes that a lot of women make is they're not used to being treated well by men.
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  So then like one guy starts treating them well, and then they just fixate on that one guy, which actually repels him.
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  So by the time I met my husband, I was so accustomed to being treated well by men and having them solve my problems and, and giving me things.
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  And things like that, whether it was a romantic capacity or not, it wasn't even always a romantic thing, but I was used to men being there, uh, for me and treating me well, that by the time time I met my husband, it was like, no big deal.
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  Of course, I'm used to having this, this kind of treatment.
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  So I didn't start shutting down and, and sabotaging and from his perspective as a man, and I was just working on this, it actually turns on their bonding chemical when a woman is treated well.
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  By other men because they start to see her bonding hormone, I should say, because they start to see like, wait a minute, other guys want her.
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  Oh, okay.
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  That's a green flag.
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  Whereas if you have a woman who's not accustomed to receiving and she keeps shutting him down, well that doesn't feel good to a man.
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  So he's not going to keep giving to her, and he's just gonna step aside, number one or number two, you have a woman who's demanding you pay for everything you do this blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  That signals to a healthy man that that woman is not used to being treated well by other men.
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  So it's a red flag for him about you.
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  So one of the ways to get good at receiving, but also get better at dating, um, and attracting men or healthy men into your life is with this masculine provider experiment.
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  And again, this is just one of the things that I did back then.
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  I'll be going a lot deeper into it.
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  When I start coaching and doing courses on this, I'm working on those now.
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  It's just.
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  I'm in the middle of moving house.
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  As I have mentioned, we manifested, uh, a new place to live, which is absolutely amazing, and I can't wait to get out there and be close to the lake so I can focus on this and write on it and just do it from like this really juicy, uh, place of pleasure.
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  So I hope you guys enjoyed this.
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  Thank you so much for giving me your time today, and I'll catch you on the next one.