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Monday Mini: An Abortion Check-In · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha and welcome to step
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  Speaker 1: On Never Told You reproduction of iHeart Radio and welcome
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  Speaker 1: back to I guess this will be on part two.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if we're gonna call it a part two,
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  Speaker 1: but our series which is called Monday Minny, but specifically
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  Speaker 1: we're talking about what is happening with Roe v Wade. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: it is a hot topic. To be very honest and
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  Speaker 1: let you see behind the curtains a little bit. We
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  Speaker 1: just finished the recent episode about adoption and versus abortion,
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  Speaker 1: so I was like, you know, what, can we come
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  Speaker 1: back so that I could take a minute to calm
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  Speaker 1: down because I happened to listen to that one. You
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  Speaker 1: know that I was ramped up and I still kind
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  Speaker 1: of am. We wanted to take a minute and do
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  Speaker 1: sort of a part two about what we can do
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  Speaker 1: or what we are doing to care for ourselves doing
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  Speaker 1: really what feels like hostile time, uh, in the hustle
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  Speaker 1: time and history. As someone who feels that people's bodies
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  Speaker 1: should be their own and that having autonomy over it
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  Speaker 1: is important, and when being threatened uh and being called
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  Speaker 1: commodities feels overwhelming, sometimes we have to take a step back,
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  Speaker 1: and we wanted to do that, right, And this one
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  Speaker 1: is kind of more of a free form, shall we say,
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  Speaker 1: Normally we have an outline, but this one we're just
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  Speaker 1: gonna have a conversation. So I'm not entirely sure what
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about, but I'm gonna go bok ahead
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  Speaker 1: and say their content warning for just discussion around abortion.
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  Speaker 1: I'd say mental health and any of the things you
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  Speaker 1: can imagine sort of related to the abortion topic. I
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  Speaker 1: don't think we're gonna go to in depth to anything
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  Speaker 1: but two to the understand, right if you're like, oh gosh,
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  Speaker 1: I cannot like this. And one of the reasons I
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  Speaker 1: say that is because and I hate to even bring
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  Speaker 1: it up, but in uh, when Trump was elected, it
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  Speaker 1: felt similar in that it was like you constantly have
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  Speaker 1: to tell yourself in the face of misogyny, in the
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  Speaker 1: face of racism, and the face of sexism and the
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  Speaker 1: face of homophobia, you constantly have to kind of like
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  Speaker 1: tell yourself that's that's wrong, and I have value and
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  Speaker 1: I have worth. And then that happened. I was like, Okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: it's like the system is telling me I don't though,
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  Speaker 1: And this feels kind of like another thing like that,
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  Speaker 1: and it was very disheartening when we we kind of
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  Speaker 1: went through the brief and there was so much language
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  Speaker 1: from like the seventeen hundred. It's like, uh, okay, do
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  Speaker 1: we remember what the Sevre for? Like all right, well,
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  Speaker 1: but since I guess we're kind of, you know, being
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  Speaker 1: honest and it's it's graham and painful for a lot
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  Speaker 1: of us, but we're trying to put it more of
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  Speaker 1: a I don't know if positive spin, but what we're
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  Speaker 1: doing to take care of ourselves. I will say that, Um,
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  Speaker 1: I had because I've been on therapy, because I've been
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  Speaker 1: like practicing mindfulness and basically just checking in with myself
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  Speaker 1: and being like, Okay, here's what we're dealing with. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna lie and say it's been easy right anyways, right,
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  Speaker 1: but I've I've had kind of things in place for
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  Speaker 1: when I have a really bad or dark moment, and
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  Speaker 1: that was nice, um. And I've also had conversations with
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  Speaker 1: you were, with other friends of mine close and you know,
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  Speaker 1: not as close, and with my family about it, and
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  Speaker 1: we were all we're all angry about it, and so
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  Speaker 1: that was that was nice too, to just kind of
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  Speaker 1: like have this moment of real venting, and we're all
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  Speaker 1: scared and we're all angry, and we're all talking about
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  Speaker 1: like things that we can do. One thing I'm to
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  Speaker 1: do as I voted in the primaries here, um in Atlanta,
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  Speaker 1: and I know that you know, it's frustrating because we
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  Speaker 1: keep getting told to vote and we're like, well, it's happening, right,
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  Speaker 1: But it did feel good, um, right, and it is important.
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  Speaker 1: I know there's a lot of feeling of hopelessness because
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  Speaker 1: we do have the House, the Senate, and the President,
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  Speaker 1: but yet nothing is changing. Um. I think this is
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  Speaker 1: where people have been talking about that it's drastically changed
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  Speaker 1: the lines that it's not just one or the other.
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  Speaker 1: There's a whole level of spectrum. And even though we
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  Speaker 1: were really hoping to get a handle, this seems a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more cinterests than than what's hoping for, especially
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  Speaker 1: when there seems to be no activity outside of sometimes
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  Speaker 1: getting money, and that is not what we need necessarily.
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  Speaker 1: People need money, don't get me wrong, but we need
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  Speaker 1: to get at the route. Is thatad of just throwing
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  Speaker 1: band aids. But yeah, we can't give up because it
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  Speaker 1: can get worse. That's the other part of this is
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  Speaker 1: if nothing else, that's what we see. And honestly, I
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  Speaker 1: know there's a lot of back and forth and people
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  Speaker 1: have a lot of thoughts about the election, but we
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  Speaker 1: can't deny that that was part of why the Supreme
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  Speaker 1: Court is the way it is right now. So that
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  Speaker 1: is something to consider. Not going beyond that, because I
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  Speaker 1: think that's too heavy and not I haven't researched it,
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  Speaker 1: not to truly go there, but we know three of
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  Speaker 1: the Supreme Court justices came from that point in time,
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  Speaker 1: and two of them being some of the most extreme,
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  Speaker 1: under educated justices that we've seen, which is interesting. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think that is still a big deal because we
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  Speaker 1: do need victory and for Georgia. For us, we had
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of a change and we want to
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  Speaker 1: keep up that momentum and we know we have a
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  Speaker 1: hard fight. And y'all exhausting. I think people who understand
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  Speaker 1: of who are from Atlanta, who are not either leading anymore.
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  Speaker 1: It just feels like a battle, feels like tug of war.
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  Speaker 1: It's exhausting, it is, but it feels like at least
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  Speaker 1: we're doing something perfect timing for therapy, going back to
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  Speaker 1: therapy um specifically, someone who is uh specializing as an
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  Speaker 1: adoption adoptee trauma services. So that's nice. Um for me, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: having friends, having a lot of changes, it's a lot,
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  Speaker 1: but having these friends and support groups have been amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Giving that therapy has been amazing. Being able to do
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  Speaker 1: this type of episodes and shows and being uninhibited has
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  Speaker 1: been a delight way as where I think if I
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  Speaker 1: was still working with the government and the agency's I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't able to do anything. So this has been a
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  Speaker 1: really nice delight to be able to express what is
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  Speaker 1: happening and the trauma and I'm sorry I'm trauma dumping
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  Speaker 1: on y'all, but just being able to do that has
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  Speaker 1: been a different point of view, being able to talk
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  Speaker 1: to a lot of people's I recently did an episode
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  Speaker 1: with some of our fellow podcasters on a different show,
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  Speaker 1: and it was really nice to commiserate with them as well. Um,
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  Speaker 1: just having allies throughout to come through but you know,
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  Speaker 1: and we're gonna talk about this in an episode coming up.
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  Speaker 1: But also seeing the fighters who kind of like the
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  Speaker 1: Jane Collective, which is what Smithy has talked about before
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  Speaker 1: as well as that's the episode I did in the
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  Speaker 1: other podcast as well as are not our special project
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  Speaker 1: that we keep hinting at. But it's really nice to
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  Speaker 1: see people coming together to become the underground network for that.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm excited to talk about that because it's a
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  Speaker 1: little hope and glimmer and knowing that we're not going
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  Speaker 1: to idly sit by. So that is nice to see overall.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, there's a lot that feels overwhelming. So for
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  Speaker 1: you the listener, we're asking how are you very very
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  Speaker 1: loaded question? How have you been able to handle your time?
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  Speaker 1: What have you been doing to not only give yourself
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  Speaker 1: some time in space? Can you give us advice as well? Always,
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  Speaker 1: I know a lot of us feel this way, and
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of intersections within a thing like this,
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  Speaker 1: But I remember that day where I was like the
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  Speaker 1: news broken, I'm like, okay, now this is what okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do with this now. And I'm sure
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people feel like that, And I would love, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: if you have any advice or any hope or any
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  Speaker 1: stories you realized share because that's also hearing from you
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  Speaker 1: is always such a delight, And do you provide perspectives
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  Speaker 1: that we might not have so and we would love
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  Speaker 1: to see it. And also, let's just go off topic. Annie,
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  Speaker 1: tell me something that is giving you joy right now,
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  Speaker 1: right now, but like now, a little whatever. Okay, Well,
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: it's obviously fan fiction. I did, I will say, I
• 9:06
  Speaker 1: think I mentioned it previously, but I did get to, finally,
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  Speaker 1: after two years of pandemic, go see my long awaited
• 9:16
  Speaker 1: return of the Jedi concert and it was awesome. Listeners,
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  Speaker 1: this is the thing they do. It have like a
• 9:24
  Speaker 1: bunch of cities, but in the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra plays
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  Speaker 1: the score as the movie is playing, so they're playing
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  Speaker 1: in front of you live while you watch the movie.
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  Speaker 1: And it was so cool. It was so cool. Um,
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  Speaker 1: I got to see a new Hope in theaters. That
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  Speaker 1: was awesome. And then I have two friends who are
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  Speaker 1: playing my very favorite game, but a very depressing game.
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  Speaker 1: Last was two and they are sending me regular updates
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  Speaker 1: and they're so angry at me, and I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I am relishing in their tears. It was amazing. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: so what, let me take a minute, because, uh, I
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  Speaker 1: know there's things, so things that are bringing me joys.
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  Speaker 1: I am getting excited, uh, listeners, you know, I am
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  Speaker 1: in the process of buying a house, so I am
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  Speaker 1: very close to getting that done. It's also mixed with
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  Speaker 1: a lot of stress and anxiety because I'm always feel
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  Speaker 1: fearful that something's gonna go wrong. But this is such
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  Speaker 1: a big step for me to also, yeah, that's this
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  Speaker 1: is a big step, Like this is something huge that
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  Speaker 1: I've not done in a long time, if ever. So
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  Speaker 1: there's joy and panic at the same point for me.
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  Speaker 1: You know this. Also don't want to go into what's
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  Speaker 1: happening with the market and housing and how I hate
• 10:40
  Speaker 1: the rental market. See, I get I get both. This
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  Speaker 1: is this is where I'm too much of a libra.
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  Speaker 1: I have to balance everything out. You just enjoy something. Um.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, so coming on to being a homeowner, getting
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  Speaker 1: to the point of establishing my own spot, it's really nice. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: My partner is super excited and I'm not very creative,
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  Speaker 1: so he's like, let's do this to this and this,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like that sounds like a lot of work.
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  Speaker 1: I don't I don't want to also like if then
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  Speaker 1: you can do it type of conversations. But I'm just
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  Speaker 1: I want to be settled, and I'm excited about being
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  Speaker 1: settled for a minute. Uh. The other joys pretending like
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  Speaker 1: I can travel soon. Maybe one day we can do that.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, being back with being with friends, I still
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  Speaker 1: don't love going out because I'm still weary and there's
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  Speaker 1: weird upsurge that no one's talking about with not getting
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  Speaker 1: into that, but being able to uh see my friends
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  Speaker 1: even though I haven't seen them for long. I finally
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  Speaker 1: got to see one of my good friends who was
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  Speaker 1: also in the house buying part of their lives. So
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  Speaker 1: that was fun to celebrate with them. Yeah. I got
• 11:50
  Speaker 1: to see a few friends on and off, like a
• 11:53
  Speaker 1: good friend of mine came in from Portland, got to
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  Speaker 1: see them there. That was the joy. It's like being
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  Speaker 1: able to see people only has been a nice, nice moment.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, so the small things. I'll report back to
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  Speaker 1: you when I'm actually smoothed into the house, I'll tell
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  Speaker 1: you how I feeling. Then. Yeah, we're gonna see what
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  Speaker 1: your sound. Oh yeah, well we've already got plans for
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  Speaker 1: my quote unquote office. We shall see right. Um. You know,
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: but I didn't want to. I wanted to end on
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  Speaker 1: another positive in how we can support those organizations and
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  Speaker 1: people who are fighting for abortion access because we think
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  Speaker 1: it's super important that we do uh put our actions
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  Speaker 1: and money and whatever we can in supporting outside of
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  Speaker 1: just voting, and yes it's voting, it's important. I know
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  Speaker 1: it sounds trivial, and the bit of me who's like
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  Speaker 1: no give up, uh doomsday ish is still is important
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  Speaker 1: in the state of Georgia. For us, it's very important
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  Speaker 1: because there's a lot of things happening, but also looking
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  Speaker 1: at organizations around the world around the country to see, uh.
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  Speaker 1: We see Mexico coming in and being like, we'll help
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  Speaker 1: you out because they've decriminalized abortion and so they're like,
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  Speaker 1: we're here to help you out. Canada same thing, like
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  Speaker 1: we got you Uh. There's an organization with pilots airplanes
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  Speaker 1: who are helping fly uh people who need access for
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  Speaker 1: free to get them access. So that's always a joy
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  Speaker 1: to see. But if you're wondering where you can help,
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  Speaker 1: definitely go look at National Network of Abortion Funds. They
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  Speaker 1: will help you lead you to whatever the organizations that
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  Speaker 1: needs the funding. They are a little more low key
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  Speaker 1: than Planned Parenthood, which we love planned parenthood, but that's
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  Speaker 1: not necessarily where we need to focus. So look into
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  Speaker 1: specific areas around your area, especially if you're in one
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  Speaker 1: of the trigger states which we talked about previously, or
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  Speaker 1: in what would be called the red state politically leaning,
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  Speaker 1: because those are the places that are up for likelihood
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  Speaker 1: for being for having an overall ban. So those are
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  Speaker 1: the organizations that we need to look at and really
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  Speaker 1: focus in on. It's actually better to give small amounts
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  Speaker 1: out rather than big, one large donation. So if that's
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  Speaker 1: something you're planning, maybe go ahead and go a little
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  Speaker 1: step further and do a pre plan of when you
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: want to send it. Maybe for a couple of months.
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  Speaker 1: Is that like five dollars per instead of doing a
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  Speaker 1: hundred dollars so um. Just to keep on that note,
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  Speaker 1: Also there are defense funds which we will need. We
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  Speaker 1: know that we've already seen people being arrested and charged
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  Speaker 1: with crimes, uh felony crimes as well, so those are
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  Speaker 1: really big things. And also this can lead to restricting
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  Speaker 1: voting access and I think it's very strategic when you
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  Speaker 1: think about it. This same thing goes to anti traders laws.
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  Speaker 1: So we know that Alabama just put in a law
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  Speaker 1: for trans youth healthcare and making a felony, so that
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  Speaker 1: is something that we need to look at as well.
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  Speaker 1: And if you want to provide money for those defense funds.
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  Speaker 1: This is where we're going to, y'allum, because we know
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  Speaker 1: Alabama has been the first one that went in with
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  Speaker 1: their miscarriage UH int ended abortion law where they arrested
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  Speaker 1: a woman who lost their fetus after being shot during
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  Speaker 1: a fight, and they blamed her and charged her with
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  Speaker 1: murder and it wasn't until public outcry that that went away.
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  Speaker 1: So in Texas, we know a woman either I can't
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  Speaker 1: remember if she actually had an abortion or had a miscarriage,
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  Speaker 1: but was charged with a crime. UH. These are things
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  Speaker 1: that we're going to have to look at, especially in
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  Speaker 1: these types of laws, which is being pushed even harder.
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  Speaker 1: Though they've been around, they've been trying for years and
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  Speaker 1: now are now becoming more and more successful. That specific
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  Speaker 1: overruling is going to affect things like this, and this
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  Speaker 1: is what we need to look at. So not trying
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  Speaker 1: to be negative, but if you can help give money
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  Speaker 1: to defense funds and specific local funds, go local, make
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  Speaker 1: sure you research them, make sure they are legitimate, because
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  Speaker 1: you know, there's just a lot of scams unfortunately, but
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  Speaker 1: if you look at organizations like we just spoke about,
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  Speaker 1: you will be able to access actual legitimate organizations. Uh
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  Speaker 1: in Atlanta, their sister song who works with healthcare and
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  Speaker 1: trans and all of those, and we love them, but
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  Speaker 1: make sure you are trying more and fin I doubt
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  Speaker 1: these strategies in order to see how better to do
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  Speaker 1: these types of donations, because it does matter how it's done,
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  Speaker 1: who's done, when it's done. So just read such a
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  Speaker 1: little more. Um and yeah, I keep up the fight.
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  Speaker 1: If you are a person who has been through an abortion,
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  Speaker 1: I want to share your story, Please let us know.
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  Speaker 1: We would love to talk about it, and we would
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  Speaker 1: love to be able to openly talk about how this
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  Speaker 1: does affect each and every one of us and why
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  Speaker 1: it's important that we talk about it. Yeah, yeah, that
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  Speaker 1: would be amazing. Um. And if you have again anything
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  Speaker 1: a story like that, to share, anything you'd like to
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