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Dirty Rush: Big Ole’ Bump: Secrets from a Sorority Living Room · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sororiti Life with
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Speaker 1: your hosts me Gia, Judice, Daisy.
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Speaker 2: Kent, and Jennifer Kessler.
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Speaker 3: Hi.
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Speaker 4: Everyone, welcome back to another episode of Dirty Rush. Today
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Speaker 4: we are going to be talking all about bunk groups,
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Speaker 4: how they're made, and how important they really are. This
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Speaker 4: is a producer episode hosted by Shelby and Ebby Gay.
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Speaker 4: So we're gonna jump in. We're gonna bring in our
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Speaker 4: panelists who are recruitment pros. Welcome, guys. What are your guys' names?
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Speaker 5: Hi, my name is Peyton. Hi, I'm Sarah.
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Speaker 4: Hi, guys, Welcome. Where'd you guys both go to school?
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Speaker 5: We both went to a school in Texas.
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Speaker 4: And were you on recruitment team together there?
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Speaker 5: Yes?
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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, that's so fun. Ebbs, do you want
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Speaker 4: to take it away with the first question.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, So, what our audience wants to know is like,
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Speaker 1: how are bunk groups made behind the scenes when it
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Speaker 1: comes to recruitment.
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Speaker 6: Group is essentially, when you're going through recruitment and you
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Speaker 6: go into the houses and you're talking to multiple people
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Speaker 6: from whatever house it is, those people that you're talking
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Speaker 6: to are all paired together in a group based off
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Speaker 6: of most likely like a common interest or a state
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Speaker 6: that they're from, and they're going to be like personally
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Speaker 6: assigned to talk to the girls that are coming through
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Speaker 6: the house.
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Speaker 4: I don't know if that makes sense. No, that makes
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Speaker 4: so much sense. So, like maybe walk us through like
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Speaker 4: a timeline. When do you guys start putting together bump groups?
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Speaker 4: Does it start in the summer? How early do you
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Speaker 4: start matching these girls together?
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Speaker 7: Yeah, it starts pretty early in the summer. The recruitment
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Speaker 7: team meets kind of beginning end of the previous school year,
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Speaker 7: and we'll start to just all talk together and kind
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Speaker 7: of brainstorm who belongs in what group?
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Speaker 5: Yeah, so, like she said, pretty early on in the summer.
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Speaker 1: Okay, and then before being on the recruitment team, where
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Speaker 1: were you placed in your bump group.
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Speaker 6: I was at the back of the bump group for
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Speaker 6: my bump group, which is the I don't want to
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Speaker 6: say the worst position in the bump group, but the
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Speaker 6: worst position in the bump group just have like the
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Speaker 6: less likelihood of talking.
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Speaker 5: The people in the middle talk the most.
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Speaker 1: So can you explain like kind of the order of
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Speaker 1: it go, Like why is it that the last person
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Speaker 1: gets the least amount of time.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, so the person at the front of the bump
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Speaker 6: group is like the leader, so they're not necessarily the
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Speaker 6: person that's going to be talking the most, but they're
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Speaker 6: the one that starts the bump.
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Speaker 5: I'm like trying to remember how this goes.
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Speaker 6: And then there's probably like five people in a bump group,
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Speaker 6: so then people like two and three are probably the
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Speaker 6: ones that are going to talk the most.
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Speaker 5: The first person and never picks up at the door.
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Speaker 7: They are standing around the room, and then when they're
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Speaker 7: kind of given their signal to go bump, then they
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Speaker 7: go bump and they start like the domino effect pretty much.
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Speaker 5: Got it.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so interesting. And I also recruited at my
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Speaker 4: school and it was interesting because some bump groups would
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Speaker 4: talk way more than others. Like sometimes you had a
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Speaker 4: bump group where the first bump group leader didn't start
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Speaker 4: by talking to someone, but everyone else did, which meant
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Speaker 4: like their entire bump group was going to talk and
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Speaker 4: maybe they were doing that every round. But some bump
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Speaker 4: groups it might have only been one person in their
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Speaker 4: bump group talking to a person, so their bump group
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Speaker 4: only was talking to one P and M in the
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Speaker 4: entire round, and it really just depends based on like
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Speaker 4: if there is a bunch of girls from that area
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Speaker 4: coming in, maybe like it's a California bump group, and
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Speaker 4: like this round is all California girls. They're talking a lot.
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Speaker 4: Do you guys feel like it just like depends on
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Speaker 4: like who's walking through the door P and M wise.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, for the most part, I feel like it depends
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Speaker 6: on who the p and ms are, Like there's obviously
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Speaker 6: a couple of bump groups that are probably the stronger
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Speaker 6: recruiters that are gonna their whole entire bump group is
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Speaker 6: going to get used pretty much every single time, But
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Speaker 6: overall it's meant to be based on whose the p
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Speaker 6: and ms are that are coming through.
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Speaker 5: But it probably doesn't always work out that way.
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Speaker 6: There's usually like two or three bump groups that would
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Speaker 6: be considered like the strongest of the chapter, and then
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Speaker 6: everyone else is kind of like middle, and then there
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Speaker 6: maybe is a few.
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Speaker 5: That are not so strong of bump groups.
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Speaker 4: And then when you guys are like picking out the
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Speaker 4: bump groups, what information do you need on like the recruiters,
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Speaker 4: Like do you need to know where they're from? Like
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Speaker 4: how much information are you taking about the girls in
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Speaker 4: your sorority to place them accurately in their bump groups.
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Speaker 7: Yeah, a lot of it's like what they did in
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Speaker 7: high school, because obviously these girls are coming from high school,
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Speaker 7: so it's of like, Okay, if they played soccer in
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Speaker 7: high school, then like that helps, or where they're from
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Speaker 7: kind of like some common hobbies that they may have too,
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Speaker 7: like going into college. So it's just a lot of
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Speaker 7: like similarities that you try to match on.
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Speaker 6: You can put people in a bump group based off
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Speaker 6: like if they're friends, so like while you would try
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Speaker 6: to ideally put it together based off like hobbies, if
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Speaker 6: it doesn't always work out that way, you usually try
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Speaker 6: to put like maybe two people that are friends in
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Speaker 6: a bump group.
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Speaker 1: And as like being on the recruitment team, is this
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Speaker 1: just knowledge that you have or is they're kind of
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Speaker 1: like an intake form? I mean, do you just know
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Speaker 1: everyone in your sorority so well that you know what
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Speaker 1: they did in high school and what their activities were
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Speaker 1: and their personality types or were there some people you're like, oh,
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Speaker 1: I actually don't know this information about them, Like we
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Speaker 1: got to go figure it out.
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Speaker 6: Where school we did like interviews, so you had to
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Speaker 6: like meet with people on the recruitment team, and they
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Speaker 6: would kind of be meeting with you together, like you're
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Speaker 6: like your basic information about like what did your high
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Speaker 6: school experience, high school hobbies, and then also just so
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Speaker 6: that the recruitment team would like meet you, so that
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Speaker 6: they were getting to see like what you were like.
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Speaker 6: That was probably the main purpose behind it.
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Speaker 1: So my guess is that, like recruitment team is working
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Speaker 1: all year round, Like most of the hours that you're
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Speaker 1: working are like coming in prep for the actual like
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Speaker 1: formal recruitment. So like at you know the peak, how
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Speaker 1: many hours a week were you working on recruitment team
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Speaker 1: because this is like this sounds like you're apting to
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Speaker 1: interview everyone from the chapter.
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Speaker 7: Oh my god, I feel like a lot of it
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Speaker 7: is like during the summer we try to prep as
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Speaker 7: much as possible, so then during like the week before
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Speaker 7: and actual recruitment week, it's not as stressful, but it
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Speaker 7: definitely is still like a lot.
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Speaker 5: So it was for fall recruitment.
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Speaker 4: Yes, okay, god, I don't know.
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Speaker 5: How many hours like exactly, Peyton, what would.
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Speaker 8: You say.
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Speaker 6: In the summer, I would say, the recruitment team, like
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Speaker 6: the behind the scenes team probably does. I'd say around
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Speaker 6: a week five hours probably, and then in the once
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Speaker 6: it's actually recruitment work week, it's like probably seven to
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Speaker 6: seven roughly, so like twelve hours Monday whatever it is
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Speaker 6: the week of, and then during actual recruitment, I'd say
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Speaker 6: the same thing. So they're like long days during work
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Speaker 6: week in recruitment, like seven am to seven pm earliest.
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Speaker 5: It's long.
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Speaker 1: What was like the craziest thing you did during recruitment
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Speaker 1: to stay awake or like just stay energized, because you're
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Speaker 1: not only energizing yourself to run the show, but everyone
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Speaker 1: else is probably more tired than you are because they're
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Speaker 1: not like I mean, you're probably more tired, but you
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Speaker 1: have to put on a good face like that is
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Speaker 1: some hard work. Like what is like the craziest thing
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Speaker 1: that you did or the craziest energy drink or whatever,
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Speaker 1: Like how did you survive that?
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Speaker 6: But first, I feel like just like purely adrenaline. I
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Speaker 6: feel like it's just such like a rush that like
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Speaker 6: you don't even really need, like the calf I mean,
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Speaker 6: you need it, but for me, I feel like I
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Speaker 6: was just so like amped up and like excited and
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Speaker 6: all over the place that that's what got me through.
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Speaker 7: Yeah, I definitely think like the coffees in the morning helped, and.
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Speaker 5: Some like Candy Brakes.
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Speaker 4: Totally. Have you guys ever like had to change someone's
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Speaker 4: placement last minute, like and what like prompted that placement
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Speaker 4: change if you had one.
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Speaker 7: I definitely think there has been and I think it's
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Speaker 7: just the first few rounds. You can tell, Okay, maybe
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Speaker 7: they're not a good fit for that bump group and
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Speaker 7: they would be better somewhere else, and we kind of
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Speaker 7: talk as a team like the strategy going forward about
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Speaker 7: that and if this which needs to be done.
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Speaker 5: Then it will happen. I mean kind of like rearrange
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Speaker 5: the whole bump group.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, which is probably hard on you guys after like
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Speaker 4: spending your summer making one bump group and then like
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Speaker 4: if one little change has to be made, it could
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Speaker 4: like switch up everything. Because I remember, like when I
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Speaker 4: was going through recruitment or on the other side, like
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Speaker 4: how one small little move really does affect like so much,
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Speaker 4: like you really want to try not to change anything.
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Speaker 1: Thinking of that, Like I'm thinking about when I was
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Speaker 1: in like recruitment and bump groups, Like was there any
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Speaker 1: ever a time that like somebody didn't get bumped, or
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Speaker 1: it got messed up, or someone wasn't there, whatever, and
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Speaker 1: you had to like, yeah, do something really quick on
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Speaker 1: the fly.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, we definitely had that like a lot of the time.
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Speaker 6: So there was a lot of uh, not a lot,
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Speaker 6: but definitely least like once a day, maybe someone wouldn't
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Speaker 6: get bumped, or someone would the bump would get messed up,
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Speaker 6: but usually it all worked out like in the end, like.
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Speaker 5: For the better.
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Speaker 6: Normally there was somebody that was aware enough to know
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Speaker 6: that someone wasn't really they were supposed to be to
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Speaker 6: kind of fill in.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, No, it's crazy, like cause there was one year
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Speaker 4: where I was the leader of my bump group, and
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Speaker 4: so since I wasn't picking up at the door, sometimes
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Speaker 4: there was some wiggle room. And I just recruited for
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Speaker 4: three years, so I would kind of understand the logistics.
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Speaker 4: So my recruitment team and our recruitment share would kind
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Speaker 4: of throw me into some situations because she knew I
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Speaker 4: could figure it out on this spot. And so sometimes
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Speaker 4: it's not even our team that messes up, but it
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Speaker 4: could be like a P and M has to go
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Speaker 4: to the bathroom and steps out of line. Now that
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Speaker 4: changes every logistic of how they were matched. Maybe you
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Speaker 4: guys can kind of talk about like how bump groups,
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Speaker 4: the people picking up at the door, that's all very
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Speaker 4: specifically matched, because I know some girls going through recruitment,
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Speaker 4: but I'd be like, this is so interesting. Every single
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Speaker 4: person I've talked to is from my hometown. Why is
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Speaker 4: that the case? Is that on purpose? Is that like
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Speaker 4: supposed to be like that? Can you guys kind of
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Speaker 4: explain that.
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Speaker 7: Yeah, they definitely is on purpose. We get a list
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Speaker 7: of all the p and ms coming in the round
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Speaker 7: before I think the morning of and we quickly like think, okay,
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Speaker 7: who's paired with who? So it is like very last
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Speaker 7: minute kind of decision, and we all kind of have
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Speaker 7: to work as a team, like thinking, okay, who would
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Speaker 7: be the best recruiter for this P and M? And
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Speaker 7: we line them up at the door or maybe like
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Speaker 7: have the person before them and their bump group go
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Speaker 7: so then at least that they can talk to the
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Speaker 7: both of the people in their bump group.
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Speaker 4: Same thing for you, Payton.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, that's that's kind of why it's important to make
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Speaker 6: sure your bump groups are pretty like cohesive or the
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Speaker 6: bump group as a whole is strong because you get
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Speaker 6: that list the morning of and then you're quickly trying
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Speaker 6: to pair based off of who's coming in that day,
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Speaker 6: you know, or that round and then but yeah, it
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Speaker 6: is very strategic and like very fast. I'm trying to remember,
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Speaker 6: like they give you the list of who's coming through
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Speaker 6: the door, and I think they're in numerical order. So
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Speaker 6: if let's say one of those people, one of the
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Speaker 6: p and ms has to go to the bathroom or
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Speaker 6: there's in the wrong spot in line, that will mess
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Speaker 6: up like the whole round, because they're given to you
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Speaker 6: in a specific order, and then you're matching on that side,
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Speaker 6: like in the same order, if that makes sense.
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Speaker 1: Are there any things that like P and MS would
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Speaker 1: be surprised to learn about this how this process actually works.
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Speaker 6: I think they'd be as surprised and to know, like, uh,
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Speaker 6: kind of just like that they are paired like strategically,
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Speaker 6: and that the girls that they're talking to like they
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Speaker 6: only have like a quick bit of information that they're
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Speaker 6: given about the about them before they actually meet them.
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Speaker 6: For us our school, they were the information was given
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Speaker 6: on the cards in between rounds, like a piece of
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Speaker 6: paper that had like their name, photo and like where
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Speaker 6: they were from or like hobby or something. But it
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Speaker 6: was all like very quick, just like how quick the
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Speaker 6: whole thing is.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that's such an interesting whole nother part
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Speaker 4: of recruitment that I had no idea how much happens
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Speaker 4: in between rounds before going through it. Like it just
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Speaker 4: seems like they just like are walking up to the
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Speaker 4: door and grabbing you and there's no system. But then
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Speaker 4: being on the other side, it's like you are literally
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Speaker 4: standing in a spot in line for such a specific reason,
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Speaker 4: and if you are like chit chatting with your best
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Speaker 4: friend and like switch with them, like everything is messed
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Speaker 4: up and it's so crazy how like stressful that gets
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Speaker 4: in the moment of like if someone like literally just
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Speaker 4: wants to have a sip of water, they could ruin
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Speaker 4: the entire process. And like I think that the guys
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Speaker 4: have no idea about because there's just so like mellow
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Speaker 4: and for girls, it's like so stressful, at least at
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Speaker 4: the school I went to. I'm sure there's a level
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Speaker 4: of stress difference at different schools, but I also went
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Speaker 4: to school in Texas, and I think there's just a
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Speaker 4: higher level of stress with like the Southern rush experience.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, it's true.
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Speaker 6: It's like it's so stressful and you kind of look
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Speaker 6: back on it and it's like for kind not for
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Speaker 6: no reason, but at the time, it seems like so
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Speaker 6: so stressful.
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Speaker 4: Yeah no, even now, I'm like looking back, I'm like,
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Speaker 4: recruitment seems like the most effective in the world, Like
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Speaker 4: when you're on recruitment team, and like when you're like
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Speaker 4: in the process and then like even a week later,
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Speaker 4: you're like, did I just spend twelve hours a day
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Speaker 4: like over this stress and it's like just crazy, but
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Speaker 4: just kind of the fun of it all.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I also think like for the listeners, like
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Speaker 1: it's all this all sounds like kind of wild and
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Speaker 1: the fact like calculated or whatever, but it is all
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Speaker 1: for like the broader purpose of you want you know,
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Speaker 1: typically like the recruitment team or upperclassmen, and like you
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Speaker 1: want the girls that match you know, your sororities, vibe
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Speaker 1: or whatever to like have the best chance for the
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Speaker 1: new class, you know, the next like class of recruits
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Speaker 1: or whatever class into your sorority like to vibe with
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Speaker 1: you know, the current members. And then you still also
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Speaker 1: want to give them like the best recruitment experience. It's
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Speaker 1: like not for nothing, but and you want to give
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Speaker 1: them like the same recruitment experience experience.
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Speaker 4: That you had.
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Speaker 1: So but it is like now in retrospect looking back
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Speaker 1: at it, like, oh my gosh, it was so stressful.
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Speaker 1: Like I remember one time we it was it was
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Speaker 1: pref like it was preference round and we like completely
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Speaker 1: messed it up to the point or miscounter or whatever.
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Speaker 1: And there was one girl who wasn't matched with someone
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Speaker 1: like she didn't have a recruiter. So like she was
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Speaker 1: just left out there on the step and like she
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Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, is anyone out coming for me?
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Speaker 4: And then we threw someone in there last minute.
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Speaker 1: We're like, how do we even make that mistake? Like
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Speaker 1: I spent hours like crossing our te's and dying your
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Speaker 1: eyes and didn't even that was like the most important
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Speaker 1: thing was pairing someone with.
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Speaker 4: Her Peyton and Sarah. I have another question for you guys.
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Speaker 4: Is there like a myth about bump groups that you
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Speaker 4: guys maybe want to like debunk about what maybe people
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Speaker 4: think goes on behind the scenes that really doesn't.
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Speaker 6: I think a lot of people think that the bump
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Speaker 6: groups are they try to make bump groups based on
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Speaker 6: who the recruitment team is like friends with and who
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Speaker 6: recruitment team wants to have, like to put in like
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Speaker 6: the strong.
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Speaker 5: I don't know if that makes sense.
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Speaker 6: Like, I think a lot of people think bump groups
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Speaker 6: are made based off who recruitment team is friends with
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Speaker 6: and they try to make the strong ones around their friends.
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Speaker 5: But that's definitely like not true.
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Speaker 6: I feel like it is definitely not based on like
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Speaker 6: who recruitment team is friends with.
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Speaker 4: Have you guys ever had a friend that was maybe
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Speaker 4: upset with you because they didn't like their bump group placement,
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Speaker 4: but like you put them there.
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Speaker 5: Oh definitely, like for sure.
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Speaker 7: But I think like every like people who are mad
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Speaker 7: about their bump groups, like there's a reason you're in
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Speaker 7: that one, Like we think about it hard and like
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Speaker 7: like it's all strategic, like even if you don't think
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Speaker 7: you have anything in common with them, like you.
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Speaker 4: Do, Yeah, totally. And do you guys think it's like
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Speaker 4: really important for like the bump group to get to
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Speaker 4: know each other. I know you guys were saying like
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Speaker 4: hopefully based on your matching skills, like they somewhat are friends,
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Speaker 4: but like, do you think during the week it's like
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Speaker 4: important to them to like get to know each other
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Speaker 4: because I remember when I was going through it, like
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Speaker 4: they come over and when they like bump each other,
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Speaker 4: they usually like have something that's like connecting the dots,
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Speaker 4: like I could be like, oh, this is my childhood
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Speaker 4: best friend growing up, she really wants to talk to you,
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Speaker 4: or they usually there was some sort of like line.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, I feel like it's super important for the bunk
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Speaker 6: group to like know each other like our school during
18:25
Speaker 6: work week and yeah, during work weekend recruitment. The bump
18:29
Speaker 6: groups were supposed to like go to lunch during the
18:31
Speaker 6: breaks together and like try to like spend a lot
18:33
Speaker 6: of time together just so they would kind of get
18:36
Speaker 6: to know.
18:36
Speaker 5: Each other more like just in like just to meet
18:39
Speaker 5: new people.
18:40
Speaker 6: But I think it was more for them to get
18:42
Speaker 6: to know each other and make it seem or make
18:44
Speaker 6: it like so that they had like stronger connections when
18:46
Speaker 6: they were bumping each other.
18:48
Speaker 4: Yeah, which is so fun. I feel like that's like
18:51
Speaker 4: why recruitment is so fun for so many people. It's like,
18:53
Speaker 4: I know when I first was a sophomore going through
18:57
Speaker 4: it on the other side, for the first time, I
18:58
Speaker 4: got to know so many girls I wasn't friends with
19:00
Speaker 4: freshman year because we were kind of required to get
19:04
Speaker 4: to know each other. But like you also just like
19:07
Speaker 4: naturally spend so much time together that like you become
19:09
Speaker 4: really good friends with these girls, And I feel like
19:11
Speaker 4: that's a really special part of going through recruitment. On
19:14
Speaker 4: the opposite side, Yeah.
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Speaker 1: What do you wish someone had told you about bump
19:18
Speaker 1: groups before you went through recruitment or I'm.
19:20
Speaker 4: Going to kind of tackle onto this. Would you have
19:23
Speaker 4: wanted to know about bump groups? Like maybe if you
19:25
Speaker 4: didn't catch on, do you think that's something you would
19:27
Speaker 4: have wanted to know or do you think maybe it
19:28
Speaker 4: was better that you had no idea if you had
19:31
Speaker 4: no idea, No, I think it's.
19:33
Speaker 5: Better you have like no idea.
19:35
Speaker 7: I don't think that that's like something you should be
19:38
Speaker 7: thinking about when you're going through recruitment. Is like paying
19:41
Speaker 7: attention and seeing like people wandering. I think you should
19:44
Speaker 7: be focused on the conversation. So for me, I think
19:48
Speaker 7: I enjoyed not knowing that there was like bump groups.
19:51
Speaker 4: Even Yeah, totally okay. I have two quick last questions.
19:55
Speaker 4: The first one is is like, do you guys genuinely
19:58
Speaker 4: feel like each girl should with their full trust in
20:01
Speaker 4: the process and like maybe for a freshmanute if it's
20:04
Speaker 4: like not going the way they want it to with
20:05
Speaker 4: like rush coming up around the corner, do you think
20:08
Speaker 4: like everyone really does fall into the right sarty that's
20:11
Speaker 4: not for them, and it's like important to not like
20:13
Speaker 4: try to like overstress about one specific swarty and ending
20:17
Speaker 4: up in it.
20:18
Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like that's super important.
20:20
Speaker 6: I feel like everybody does, at the end of the
20:22
Speaker 6: day get into the place where they should be. And
20:25
Speaker 6: I kind of think almost like the more blind that
20:28
Speaker 6: you go into it, like, the more you're actually going
20:29
Speaker 6: to get out of it.
20:31
Speaker 5: I feel like it's.
20:31
Speaker 6: When you do hyper fixate on like a house or
20:34
Speaker 6: a couple of houses, that it's really just like not
20:36
Speaker 6: gonna go your way because we'll also half the time
20:39
Speaker 6: of your hyper focus on like a few houses, you're
20:42
Speaker 6: just going to be distracted the whole time. And I
20:44
Speaker 6: feel like that's just going to take away from you
20:46
Speaker 6: showing like your actual personality.
20:49
Speaker 5: So I would say try to know as little as
20:51
Speaker 5: you can.
20:53
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so good. How about you, Sarah?
20:55
Speaker 7: Yeah, I agree. I just think everything happens for a reason.
21:00
Speaker 7: You know, you're meant to be where you're supposed to be,
21:02
Speaker 7: and I think just enjoy the whole experience because it's
21:07
Speaker 7: really fun and you'll miss it when you're on the
21:09
Speaker 7: other side of it.
21:11
Speaker 1: Yeah.
21:11
Speaker 4: Okay, well you guys kind of got into my last question,
21:13
Speaker 4: but like, or I guess not a question, but do
21:15
Speaker 4: you guys have any advice for anyone who's about to
21:19
Speaker 4: go through recruitment this upcoming year that you maybe wish
21:21
Speaker 4: you knew when you were going through the recruitment process.
21:27
Speaker 5: Just be yourself and.
21:31
Speaker 7: Really emerge in the process and be very open minded
21:36
Speaker 7: because I think sometimes the house you think mhy not
21:41
Speaker 7: you would like you could, and so just be really
21:44
Speaker 7: open minded and you know, see what's out there.
21:48
Speaker 6: Yeah, I would say, just to not worry too much
21:52
Speaker 6: about like the small things like an outfit outfits or
21:55
Speaker 6: like I don't know what you're I don't know I
21:58
Speaker 6: even trying to wear your try to overly prepare because
22:01
Speaker 6: the small things really don't matter, and it all works
22:04
Speaker 6: out how it's supposed to.
22:06
Speaker 4: Yay, perfect well. Thank you so much, Pain and Sarah
22:09
Speaker 4: for coming on today. So interesting hearing about like all
22:12
Speaker 4: the behind the scenes of everything that you guys did
22:15
Speaker 4: on recruitment teams. So thank you guys, so much, thank you,
22:19
Speaker 4: thank you.
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23:01
Speaker 4: Okay, Now we have Grace on today who is going
23:06
Speaker 4: to be a freshman this year, and we're going to
23:08
Speaker 4: talk to her a little bit about how she's feeling
23:10
Speaker 4: going into recruitment for the first time, and we're actually
23:13
Speaker 4: going to do a little practice recruitment session. Hi Grace, Hi,
23:18
Speaker 4: how are you doing?
23:19
Speaker 8: I'm good?
23:20
Speaker 5: How are you good?
23:21
Speaker 4: Thanks so much for joining. I'm dying to know, like
23:25
Speaker 4: how you're feeling going into your freshman year this year.
23:28
Speaker 4: Are you nervous about recruitment? How are you feeling?
23:32
Speaker 10: I'm excited, but I'm also nervous, Like I'm excited for
23:35
Speaker 10: the experience like going into it and seeing like what
23:39
Speaker 10: it's like, and I think it's a good experience to
23:41
Speaker 10: meet new people, but I'm also just nervous to like
23:43
Speaker 10: go through.
23:44
Speaker 8: The whole thing.
23:45
Speaker 4: Yeah, totally. And where are you going to school this year?
23:48
Speaker 8: I am going to school in California?
23:51
Speaker 4: Okay, amazing. Do you have before we go into our
23:55
Speaker 4: mock bump group? Do you have any like questions about
23:58
Speaker 4: the recruitment process we can maybe help ann Sir?
24:02
Speaker 8: Mostly just like I don't.
24:03
Speaker 10: I'm like kind of in the dark about like how
24:06
Speaker 10: it all works and like what each like round means,
24:10
Speaker 10: or like how you like go to the houses and
24:12
Speaker 10: they like choose you and then or they don't choose you.
24:14
Speaker 10: Like I kind of like I don't really know anything
24:17
Speaker 10: about the process.
24:19
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's so interesting because I went through it. My
24:24
Speaker 4: mom wasn't in a swarty or anything, so I also
24:27
Speaker 4: went into recruitment like kind of knowing nothing. And I
24:29
Speaker 4: think that is actually so beneficial to you because you
24:36
Speaker 4: really go into it with open eyes and maybe not
24:38
Speaker 4: like expectations of what it's going to be like, and
24:40
Speaker 4: you can really go into it and trust that the
24:43
Speaker 4: process is going to like make you end up where
24:45
Speaker 4: you're supposed to be. So I think that's really fun.
24:50
Speaker 4: I would just say, like it's really good to have
24:55
Speaker 4: what you've done in high school at the top of
24:57
Speaker 4: your mind, because I feel like when I was going
24:58
Speaker 4: through a lot of the questions were about be things
25:00
Speaker 4: you were involved in or things you cared about. So
25:02
Speaker 4: that's not even like a resume, but maybe like I
25:05
Speaker 4: danced and I really liked it because of this, and
25:07
Speaker 4: I got to be around this kind of people, like
25:09
Speaker 4: things that you genuinely, like enjoy are very easy to
25:12
Speaker 4: talk about, so they're a very good thing. Like I
25:14
Speaker 4: would always jump to when I was nervous because like
25:17
Speaker 4: dance or whatever I was talking about was something I loved,
25:20
Speaker 4: so it was really easy for me to talk about
25:22
Speaker 4: it even when I was really nervous. Yeah, and I
25:24
Speaker 4: think it's also good to ask questions because I feel like,
25:28
Speaker 4: as when you're on recruitment team, it's really easy to talk,
25:31
Speaker 4: so when P and m's are asking you questions, it
25:33
Speaker 4: makes the conversation just flow really easily instead of the
25:36
Speaker 4: recruitment team just asking you questions the whole time.
25:39
Speaker 8: Yeah.
25:40
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's really fun. I'm so excited that you're going
25:42
Speaker 4: through I literally miss it and I miss being on
25:44
Speaker 4: the other side of it. It's so fun. I remember
25:47
Speaker 4: some girls after recruitment or like that was stressful. I'm
25:52
Speaker 4: happy it's done and over, but like me and all
25:54
Speaker 4: my friends like that was fun. Like we would literally
25:56
Speaker 4: choose to go through it again because you get to
25:58
Speaker 4: meet so many people. So instead of looking at it
26:01
Speaker 4: like nervous and almost like you're interviewing, you can also
26:05
Speaker 4: look at it as like how many girls do you
26:06
Speaker 4: get to meet? And such a short amount of time,
26:08
Speaker 4: and like, I have so many girls that I talked
26:11
Speaker 4: to during recruitment that I didn't go there Swarty, but
26:13
Speaker 4: like we were literally hanging out afterwards because we just
26:15
Speaker 4: had such a good conversation and like got to know
26:18
Speaker 4: each other so well. Yeah, okay, yay. How do you
26:22
Speaker 4: feel about doing a little mock bump group, like a
26:25
Speaker 4: little mock recruitment session. We'll just ask you some questions
26:28
Speaker 4: that you'll probably be asked during the recruitment process. No
26:32
Speaker 4: pressure or anything, but just we'll kind of do a
26:34
Speaker 4: little bump group.
26:36
Speaker 8: Yeah sounds good.
26:37
Speaker 4: Okay, Reese, do you want to take it away?
26:39
Speaker 3: I grace?
26:40
Speaker 5: How Aorry?
26:41
Speaker 8: I'm good.
26:43
Speaker 4: How are you doing?
26:43
Speaker 8: How is your summer awesome? It's been really fun recently.
26:47
Speaker 3: What have you been up to this summer? You've been
26:49
Speaker 3: hanging out with friends? Have you gone on any special trips?
26:51
Speaker 3: I want to hear all about it.
26:53
Speaker 4: Yeah.
26:53
Speaker 10: I went to Cobo over the fourth of July, which
26:57
Speaker 10: is really fun. I went for like a week, and
26:59
Speaker 10: then I also went to to like have a Suit
27:01
Speaker 10: with a bunch of like my girlfriends, so that was
27:03
Speaker 10: really fun too.
27:04
Speaker 8: That's exciting.
27:05
Speaker 3: What does Coabo do for the fourth do they have
27:07
Speaker 3: funny celebrations and.
27:11
Speaker 8: It was like normal, They did some fireworks, who was normal?
27:14
Speaker 8: Was just nice to be away for a little bit.
27:17
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's exciting. Have you been working on all over summer?
27:21
Speaker 3: Just been soaking up your time with your friends?
27:24
Speaker 10: Yeah, I've just been I actually was a competitive dancer,
27:27
Speaker 10: so I haven't really had time to do get into
27:30
Speaker 10: a job this summer and they're like, no one's gonna
27:32
Speaker 10: hire me for like a month, So I've.
27:34
Speaker 8: Just been hanging out with my friends.
27:35
Speaker 4: Yeah.
27:35
Speaker 3: I danced all of high school too, so that's Oh really,
27:38
Speaker 3: that's so crazy. Are you planning to continue doing that
27:42
Speaker 3: in college or are you burnt out a little bit?
27:43
Speaker 3: I definitely was burnt out by the time high school ended.
27:47
Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm a little bit.
27:49
Speaker 10: I think I'm gonna take the first year, but then
27:51
Speaker 10: I think that maybe I'll see how like how it goes,
27:55
Speaker 10: and then maybe that extollic try.
27:57
Speaker 8: I don't know.
27:58
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like there's no rush at all. You
28:00
Speaker 3: can always take some time off and then see if
28:02
Speaker 3: you're missing it or if other things have filled your
28:04
Speaker 3: cup enough, and then you know, see what's best for you.
28:08
Speaker 3: But definitely no need to rush the first semester. I know,
28:12
Speaker 3: I can't even fully remember of college because there was
28:14
Speaker 3: so much happening all the time. But I definitely think
28:18
Speaker 3: going into recruitment and finding people help to make that
28:21
Speaker 3: transition a little bit easier. So I think you made
28:23
Speaker 3: a great choice being here today. And where are you
28:27
Speaker 3: from again?
28:28
Speaker 8: Sorry, I'm almost Vegas, Las Vegas.
28:30
Speaker 3: Okay, that's awesome. I actually haven't ever been to Vegas.
28:34
Speaker 3: What's it like?
28:34
Speaker 8: It's so awesome.
28:35
Speaker 10: I don't really know, like what the on the strip
28:39
Speaker 10: and all of that, because I'm not trying, like I
28:41
Speaker 10: haven't really been out, but like it's a good like
28:43
Speaker 10: people have a good time and it's really fun. It's
28:44
Speaker 10: super hot right now, it's like one hundred and four degrees,
28:47
Speaker 10: but it's been it's fun down here.
28:50
Speaker 3: It's that hot to even go outside.
28:53
Speaker 8: It's hard to go outside.
28:54
Speaker 10: Yeah.
28:55
Speaker 3: Yeah, when you had dance during that time, would there
28:59
Speaker 3: be like ac at least in the studios sometimes?
29:02
Speaker 10: But sometimes it would break down and that was really not.
29:06
Speaker 3: Good goodness, that's crazy. Would you say a lot of
29:10
Speaker 3: your friends you've made her from dance or from school
29:12
Speaker 3: or both?
29:14
Speaker 8: I think both. I think a lot.
29:15
Speaker 10: None of my school friends are my dance friends, like
29:19
Speaker 10: we I go. Yeah, so I think I have like
29:23
Speaker 10: it's just like two separate things. But I hang out
29:25
Speaker 10: with my I feel like I hang out with my
29:27
Speaker 10: school friends like more. An outside said, because I'm with
29:29
Speaker 10: my dance friends all the time I dance.
29:31
Speaker 3: No, totally, I totally understand that. Oh this is my
29:35
Speaker 3: friend Shelby. Hi, Shelby, how are.
29:37
Speaker 4: You doing good?
29:39
Speaker 8: Hi?
29:39
Speaker 4: Grace.
29:41
Speaker 3: Shelby, weirdly enough, also was a dancer, and I was
29:44
Speaker 3: just talking to Grace about how she did competitive dance
29:47
Speaker 3: all throughout high school and we don't know if she's
29:49
Speaker 3: going to continue it here, but I always said there
29:52
Speaker 3: was no rush.
29:53
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I love it. I'm so excited to
29:55
Speaker 4: talk to you. Thanks Reese.
29:57
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, Grace, it was so nice to meet you.
29:59
Speaker 3: I hope you have a great conversation with Shelby.
30:01
Speaker 8: Nice to reach you as well.
30:02
Speaker 4: Bye bye, Ma, Grace. That's so funny you were a
30:06
Speaker 4: dancer as well. Yeah, I feel like us dancers have
30:09
Speaker 4: like a bond, like it's something else, because competitive dance
30:12
Speaker 4: is like a whole other world. Yes, do you feel
30:15
Speaker 4: like you took a lot of skills from like your
30:18
Speaker 4: dance days that like you still use today, like maybe
30:21
Speaker 4: leadership or time management.
30:24
Speaker 10: Yeah, I think I take a lot of like leadership
30:27
Speaker 10: in from that because I was in like a position
30:30
Speaker 10: where I was a little bit like maybe a year older,
30:34
Speaker 10: like I was a year older than all of the girls,
30:35
Speaker 10: so I kind of like had to step into that
30:38
Speaker 10: position of being like the leader and then so I've
30:41
Speaker 10: definitely taken that like in my outside life and also
30:45
Speaker 10: again time management, like I really had to be there
30:48
Speaker 10: on time, even ten minutes early, like if you were
30:51
Speaker 10: on time, you were late.
30:52
Speaker 8: Ten minutes early is on time? Like that kind of things.
30:55
Speaker 10: I've really learned a lot about using those skills in
30:58
Speaker 10: the real life too, totally.
31:00
Speaker 4: And I feel like those skills you like learn when
31:02
Speaker 4: you were younger like really carry with you because you
31:06
Speaker 4: like were taking on such large roles as a younger child,
31:11
Speaker 4: like getting yourself to dance parkson time and knowing your
31:13
Speaker 4: schedule because like you didn't when your parents still like
31:16
Speaker 4: have to do everything for you. I feel like I
31:18
Speaker 4: grew up fast because of it. That's so great. Did
31:21
Speaker 4: you do anything else besides dance, like cheer anything? Or
31:24
Speaker 4: was dance like your main focus.
31:26
Speaker 8: That's was my main focus.
31:27
Speaker 10: But my freshman year of high school, I tried the
31:30
Speaker 10: cheer team through the school and.
31:32
Speaker 8: That that was fun. That was a good experience.
31:34
Speaker 10: But I went back to dance after that because I
31:37
Speaker 10: wished it.
31:38
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, for freshman year, I tried it out
31:41
Speaker 4: for cheer and I didn't make it, which was so
31:43
Speaker 4: awkward because I had been like trying to get my
31:45
Speaker 4: back handspring and like all the cheer things. I just
31:48
Speaker 4: was like, at the end of the day, not a cheerleader,
31:49
Speaker 4: but I wanted to try it so bad. But you know,
31:52
Speaker 4: it all works out for a reason, and I wasn't
31:55
Speaker 4: meant to do that, and so it worked out that
31:57
Speaker 4: I like just kept doing dance instead of cheer. Yeah,
32:02
Speaker 4: that's so great.
32:04
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Hi Eavy, Hi, I'm Evy.
32:09
Speaker 4: I Grace. We were actually just wrapping up a conversation
32:12
Speaker 4: about extracurriculars, and she was super involved in dance and
32:15
Speaker 4: was kind of telling me some of those skills she
32:17
Speaker 4: took from her dance days. Oh my gosh, I love that.
32:20
Speaker 4: Bebby actually is one of my best friends from growing up,
32:23
Speaker 4: and I'm so excited for you to get to talk
32:25
Speaker 4: to her because she has such a special place in
32:27
Speaker 4: my heart. So she's going to get to talk to
32:29
Speaker 4: you now. Thanks Grace, so nice to meet you.
32:31
Speaker 1: Thank you, Hi Grace. Okay, so I kind of know,
32:36
Speaker 1: like want to know, like what are your friends like,
32:39
Speaker 1: and like what are you looking for kind of in
32:41
Speaker 1: recruitment or joining a sorority.
32:44
Speaker 10: I think my friend group is a very like we're
32:46
Speaker 10: very close and we have like a really good bond,
32:49
Speaker 10: and I think like me separating like from them, we're
32:52
Speaker 10: all going to different colleges, So I think like trying
32:54
Speaker 10: to find something like that in college, like that sisterhood,
32:59
Speaker 10: like I feel like, is what I'm really looking for,
33:02
Speaker 10: and through dance as well, like I had that team
33:05
Speaker 10: and so I think I can like that shifts over
33:08
Speaker 10: to also the sisterhood of like being with the group
33:10
Speaker 10: of girls and like everyone just being together.
33:13
Speaker 1: Totally that's so awesome. I feel the same way, Like
33:16
Speaker 1: I came a long way from a home for college
33:20
Speaker 1: and it was really like I was looking for even
33:23
Speaker 1: though I knew Shelby from growing up, Like I didn't
33:26
Speaker 1: have a lot of friends here at school obviously it's
33:29
Speaker 1: like anyone's you know what anyone goes through when they're
33:32
Speaker 1: going to college, And so I definitely found a lot
33:35
Speaker 1: of my friends and my sorority, which has been like
33:38
Speaker 1: the best experience. But like, what specific qualities do you
33:41
Speaker 1: look for in a best friend?
33:44
Speaker 10: I think when like going off of my best friend,
33:47
Speaker 10: I she's super loyal to me and she tells me
33:50
Speaker 10: what like I need to hear sometimes.
33:54
Speaker 8: And like yeah, like the hard truth, Yeah she does,
33:57
Speaker 8: she does.
33:57
Speaker 10: And she also just like a fun person to be around,
34:00
Speaker 10: super positive, like never doesn't really complain. Like I love
34:04
Speaker 10: being around someone that is just super good energy and
34:08
Speaker 10: positive and just have a good time with them.
34:12
Speaker 8: I love it.
34:13
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel the same way. I feel like there're
34:16
Speaker 1: gonna be a lot going on in college, and the
34:18
Speaker 1: best people have around are like the ones that are
34:20
Speaker 1: going to loosen you up and kind of keeping keeping
34:23
Speaker 1: you grounded. Like right, you have plenty of other yeah,
34:26
Speaker 1: people in your life to keep you serious, Like I
34:29
Speaker 1: think the ones that stick are the ones you can
34:30
Speaker 1: always like have a laugh with, yes, And like kind
34:36
Speaker 1: of what do you like specifically with a sorority, Like
34:40
Speaker 1: what are you looking for? Just kind of and I
34:43
Speaker 1: guess you kind of said it with dance, like how
34:45
Speaker 1: you had a sisterhood there, But like, what does kind
34:49
Speaker 1: of the idea of sisterhood mean to you?
34:53
Speaker 10: I feel like the idea like in a sorority, Like
34:55
Speaker 10: I think it's just having people like there with you
34:58
Speaker 10: and we're all like working together, They're like to the
35:00
Speaker 10: same purpose. And I think that I want to find
35:04
Speaker 10: just like go into the process and just be like
35:06
Speaker 10: completely myself and understand that like I will find like
35:10
Speaker 10: where I'm meant to be, and like I just want
35:12
Speaker 10: people that are around me that like like me and
35:15
Speaker 10: like to be around me and get me. And I
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Speaker 10: think that that's really just what I'm looking for, just
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Speaker 10: saying like true to myself and like being around people
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Speaker 10: that I love.
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Speaker 5: I love it are there.
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of any like sisterhood activities that
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Speaker 1: have been really fun. But have you heard of anything
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Speaker 1: like particular to a sorority that you'd be excited about,
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Speaker 1: Like I don't know four roles or date parties or
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Speaker 1: like sisterhood events or are you kind of going in
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Speaker 1: blind you don't know much.
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Speaker 10: I'm kind of going in blind not knowing much. I've
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Speaker 10: heard like my friends that are already in college, like
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Speaker 10: before me talk about like their date parties and their
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Speaker 10: foremost and they say it's so fun. But like I've
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Speaker 10: never really I'm really going in blind, don't really know
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Speaker 10: what to expect.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would think, like when I think back to
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Speaker 1: my first few weeks at school, like I was really
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Speaker 1: excited by like the idea of going with all my
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Speaker 1: sisters to a date party or an event. Like there's
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Speaker 1: so much there, like in the first few weeks after recruitment.
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Speaker 8: To have fun with.
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Speaker 1: So I think there's a lot for you to look
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Speaker 1: forward to. Okay, well, it's been so much fun talking
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Speaker 1: to you. Unfortunately we are out of time, so I
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Speaker 1: gotta walk you out for your next round. But thank
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Speaker 1: you so much. I love talking with you today.
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Speaker 8: Thank you you as well.
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Speaker 4: All Right, that's it for this episode of Dirty Rush.
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