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Season 2 - Episode 132 - CONSTANTLY Beating yourself up and putting yourself aside. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the and Coop, we're going to talk today about
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  how we consistently put ourselves aside and what this
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  does to us because this has been a theme this week in coaching
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  where people are upset that they're not getting things done
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  and they are not, you know, feeling like they're making
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  progress at the rate of which they want to make progress there
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  feeling very discouraged by how much is being put on their plate
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  at different jobs that they have or even What they're taking on
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  at their own companies, and I have been hammering all week
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  long on. You cannot go and help other
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  people until you go and help yourself first.
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  If you don't help yourself first, then we have issues
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  because it is absolutely the perfect metaphor to talk about
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  the mask. When the pilot says, if the
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  Pratt the cabin depressurizes, a mask will fall from the ceiling
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  and you should put it on yourself first.
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  First. And there is no doubt in my mind
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  that you cannot go out in this world on any given day and be
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  okay. Unless you make a decision to
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  make yourself, okay? First.
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  And if you're consistently lying to yourself about what you're
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  going to get done. And put saying, I'm going to do
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  it tomorrow and then you don't do it.
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  Or you're saying, I really need to work on this but you don't
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  like to do it. So you keep putting it off or
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  you just keep shoving stuff on your plate to make yourself.
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  Sedated from the things that you're trying to hide from,
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  which is taking care of yourself or something else.
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  You're doing so much psychological damage to
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  yourself, because you keep stockpiling and stockpiling and
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  stockpiling, a bunch of things to do or stuff that you want to
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  accomplish. Let's say, and you're just lying
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  to yourself and the Damage that that does is so, Evie and so
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  detrimental to what you're able to attract, simply even from the
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  Law of Attraction, thinking about this, if you keep doing
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  this to yourself, you can't get past the fact that these are
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  laws of nature of my friend. These are laws of nature.
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  You cannot attract that which you are not.
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  It's impossible. So you if you want to attract
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  abundance, you have to think abundance, you have to be in
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  abundance in order to attract it, it.
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  That's where everybody gets so stuck.
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  So when you're in overwhelm and you're just in constant
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  overwhelm, what do you think you're going to attract more
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  overwhelm? So you have to cut the ties with
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  it. You have to make decisions for
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  yourself just this week. I said to my self and to my
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  assistant first to myself, then to my assistant, I said, listen,
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  we are not going to be doing the work on the website.
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  We are going to be hiring a company that we work with to do
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  it. Because one, what will Take her
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  my assistant, three weeks to do and take me a week, just to get
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  her, the all the ideas than 3 weeks for her to do this, this
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  company can have done in two days and there, you won't have
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  to worry about it, and I won't have to worry about it.
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  And the level of just making the decision, simply the act of
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  making the decision to take this off.
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  My plate, will it cost me money? Yes, but is that money?
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  Worth the the sense of peace. Knowing that it's going to be
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  done well, and it's going to be finally finalized in a way.
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  That is so good. I can't even begin to tell you
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  the feeling of relief that that gives me.
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  So, first of all, Yes, it and I know somebody out there might be
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  listening and saying, well, I don't have the money to do that.
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  I'm talking about one isolated situation, so don't sit there
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  and compartmentalize this down to money.
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  It's not about that. If I didn't have the money to do
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  that, that I would simply sit there and say, okay, we are
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  going to bootstrap, this, we are going to lock ourselves away,
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  and we are going to get this done because the the feeling of
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  not having it done is taking us out and it's not letting us
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  progress. So, we must do this.
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  And then believe me, I have locked myself in rooms for days
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  at a time when I wrote, who's driving your bus, that was one
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  week locked away. And let me tell you something, I
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  didn't see many people because I In my pajamas, most of the time
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  and I got it done and I said I'm not coming out until I got it
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  done and I meant it. So this is a question of
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  stopping this just at never-ending stream of beating
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  yourself up by adding more and more and more to your list that,
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  you know, you don't want to do that, you know, you you have no
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  time to do for whatever reason. The reasons are irrelevant at
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  this moment. It does not matter why you're
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  doing it. What matters is that?
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  You're psychologically, torturing yourself, and you have
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  to learn to say no or you have to learn to say, hey you know
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  what, I can do it and this is when I can do it and this is how
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  I will do it, but you have to make the plans for it.
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  You actually have to nail yourself down and don't give
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  yourself any slack. So hopefully this is helpful.
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  You're going to go kick your own ass.
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  You're going to stop taking things on that.
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  You just simply can't do. And you're going to the things
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  that you do have to do, you are going to schedule them sit down
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  and actually do them so you can feel accomplished and stop
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  beating the crap out of yourself.
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  Okay. I hope you guys have a blessed
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  day and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.