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Season 2 - Episode 172 - What happens when you stop talking? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So you've heard me talk a lot about the fact that I would get
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  in trouble. As a child saying, I was always
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  the one talking in class. I was always the one that had to
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  face the wall. I always had lots of things to
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  say and I have spent a good deal of my life, especially in the
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  profession. I'm in talking and teaching and
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  doing all these things, but there is an advantage to not
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  speaking. Believe it or not, there's a
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  huge advantage to not speaking. There's a huge Managed to
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  working energy, and there's a huge advantage to learning to
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  work energy. And one of the interesting
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  things that I did at some point years ago was to do a silent
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  meditation for three days. And let me tell you, it was one
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  of the most difficult things that I ever did, where you were
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  supposed to go. And you're going to be in a
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  space and you're not going to make eye contact and you're just
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  going to do your chores and you're going to meditate and
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  you'll listen to the teachings, but you do not have the ability
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  to speak and you. Frowned upon for making eye
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  contact. It was probably the hardest
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  thing I have ever done. I have fire walked, I have pole
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  jumped. I have Bridge climbed.
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  I have done all kinds of physical stretches and I will
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  tell you hands down, that was probably the hardest thing I
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  ever did. Because for me, talking is just
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  a part of my wiring. And it really had me in a place
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  where I had to rely on other skills, energy being a biggest
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  one of it. And having Ability to like
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  manage your energy and show your energy in a certain way.
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  So fast forward, when you sometimes are trying to get
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  through your daily life and you're using words all the time.
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  And we know you've heard me say before how we just all have
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  different meanings for different words even though we can
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  generally agree on things. We all have different meanings
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  about them. And there are times when using
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  words does not work when you're In Conflict, when you're trying
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  to heal, sometimes your energy is a much better way to go to
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  pause. Pull back and say you know what
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  talking about this is not the right thing.
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  Let's just try to regroup. Let's just try to use our
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  energy. Let's try to have kindness.
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  Let's have acts of kindness. Let's do things that our energy
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  based as opposed to verbally because talking about things,
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  sometimes just causes more confusion because we have a
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  tendency to want to prove our point and sometimes Proving our
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  point is never going to work because the other person is
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  going to stick to their point. And before, you know it we're
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  all in a state of, you know, arguing our positions and
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  holding our positions but it's not helping us heal or move
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  forward. So Learning to not use words is
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  a process, it is hard. It is something that takes
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  effort, you have to think about how to be instead of how to
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  verbalize it. You have to think about what
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  energy you want to put off in the world.
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  You have to think about how you want to show up.
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  You have to think about that feeling that emotion that you
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  want to emanate from your body. When you are with somebody, that
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  you are trying to heal and a bigger piece of this, in your
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  silence in doing this, This is managing your mind chatter at
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  the same time, you're not thinking horrible thoughts about
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  that person because it's very easy to stand there and be angry
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  with someone and look at them and not say to them, God, you
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  piss me off, but you can think to yourself, God, you piss me
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  off. And that's not healthy.
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  I don't need to tell you that. That's not healthy.
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  So, this process of grinding through it and saying, I have to
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  find a way to effectively do, this is not easy, but guess, It
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  is it is highly effective when you do it and it heals
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  situations very quickly. So I'm going to say the most
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  important thing that you can do for yourself is to practice
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  this. And even if you're not in a
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  situation where you need to heal up with somebody, it's good to
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  just practice using your physical energy, and your
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  thought behind the scenes as opposed to just using your
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  verbal energy and trying to get what you want.
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  Because the truth is. Words are seven percent of
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  communication. Tatian, that's it 7%.
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  Everything else comes in with how you say it and and, and the
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  structure in which you are saying things.
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  So, please keep that in mind. I mean, your, your intention and
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  your energy that you're putting to something is what's really
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  going to influence someone. So, refrain from using the
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  words, you use your energy put something good behind it and
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  show yourself that you actually do have 100%.
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  And control over yourself. Even though you don't think you
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  do you do I promise you just have to work at it.
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  And is it easy? No, it's not easy.
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  It's hard. It's actually hard work.
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  It's a simple process, but it's really hard and the more you
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  practice it. The better you get at it.
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  So, practice some silence behind the scenes, shifting and see
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  what happens. All right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.