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Can You Put A Price Tag On Your Relationship? · I Do, Part 2

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  Speaker 1: Hey there, everybody. It is Saturday, July eighteenth, and we
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  Speaker 1: are discussing the role of money in your relationships. There
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  Speaker 1: was an article that was pretty funny. It was conducted
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  Speaker 1: by a casino group and they asked the question how
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  Speaker 1: much money to leave your lover? They wanted to know
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  Speaker 1: how big of a jackpot it would take for you
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  Speaker 1: to leave your partner. But it got us thinking and
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  Speaker 1: talking about the role of money in our relationships and
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  Speaker 1: why it seems to be on every list the number
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  Speaker 1: one reason why we fight. And with that, everyone, welcome
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  Speaker 1: to Amy and TJ. And this is something actually we
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  Speaker 1: have disagreements about a lot of things. Have we ever
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  Speaker 1: actually thought about money?
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  Speaker 2: Probably so because you took some money, a significant chunk
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  Speaker 2: of money of ours recently. I don't know where it
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  Speaker 2: is or how to access it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm still I didn't even know what you were hurrying
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  Speaker 1: forgotten about that someone.
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  Speaker 2: Now you brought this because this is one of these
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  Speaker 2: And aybody, listen to the podcast that we Every once
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  Speaker 2: in a while, Robes will pull out some topics that
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  Speaker 2: I am not up on, and these are all surprises
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  Speaker 2: to me. So she is introducing this one. So Ropes,
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  Speaker 2: I hadn't. I didn't realize we were about to talk
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  Speaker 2: about money.
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  Speaker 3: And since you.
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  Speaker 2: Brought it up, yeah, you have a bone to pick. Well,
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  Speaker 2: I honestly, I guess this is a good place to
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  Speaker 2: be in a relationship. You did you have taken a
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  Speaker 2: significant chunk of our money put it somewhere, no to
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  Speaker 2: benefit us.
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  Speaker 1: It's insane it invested it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So, but what I'm saying to you, if anything breaks
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  Speaker 2: down with us today, I have zero way of accessing
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  Speaker 2: that money. I have no idea where it is. And
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  Speaker 2: yet trust it's.
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  Speaker 3: Enough that somebody could start a new life.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Wait, didn't you see something this week where someone
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  Speaker 1: stole money from someone to start a new life and
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  Speaker 1: it was seven hundred and fifty dollars.
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  Speaker 3: It was on one of those true crime shows I
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  Speaker 3: was liking.
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  Speaker 2: But yes, see, he left a note and I'm taking
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  Speaker 2: seven hundred and fifty from the account start a new life.
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  Speaker 3: I assume this is not what you're about to say.
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  Speaker 1: The number one, and I assume he wasn't living in
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  Speaker 1: New York.
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  Speaker 3: This might have been Arkansas.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, oh my goodness. BE kind of laughed about that,
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  Speaker 1: but yes, full disclosure, that was a fun way to
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  Speaker 1: say that, Yes, we actually do have trust because I
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  Speaker 1: did obviously ask you beforehand and you said, fine, I
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  Speaker 1: trust you. I did send you a link to the account.
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  Speaker 1: It just must have expired. So yeah, you don't even
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  Speaker 1: know what bank it is. You don't know how to
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  Speaker 1: access it. You don't know the password or the username.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm happy to share it with you once we're
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  Speaker 1: done with this episode.
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  Speaker 3: One last thing, is my name actually on that account?
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  Speaker 1: Yes?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so I could. So I do have the right
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  Speaker 3: to it.
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  Speaker 1: I did say it was a joint account, and I
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  Speaker 1: did put your information in it, your social Security number,
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  Speaker 1: all of that. Yes, you do have a right to it.
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  Speaker 1: If if we were to split, you would have a
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  Speaker 1: legal remedy. You just I could just make it hard
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  Speaker 1: for you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, oh wow, okay, so I guess. So let's start
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  Speaker 2: with that. If everybody's listening, if you if this were
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  Speaker 2: done in your relationship with your significant other, would.
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  Speaker 3: You trust it? Would you be okay?
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  Speaker 2: If the person you are currently in a relationship with
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  Speaker 2: took you all's joint money and put it somewhere, would
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  Speaker 2: you just say okay, it's fine or be okay?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know roes.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people say that's not good sound financial
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  Speaker 2: advice or relationship advice moving.
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  Speaker 1: Forward, I would say that it points to a level
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  Speaker 1: of trust in your relationship. And look, obviously you're joking.
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  Speaker 1: We have you can probably go find in your email
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  Speaker 1: where the link is, like you couldn't find.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not joking. I don't know where that money is.
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  Speaker 1: You're not joking, but I'm saying you're joking in the
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  Speaker 1: fact that somehow I just took some money.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I'm sorry. No, no, I'm sorry to make
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  Speaker 3: sure sure. I didn't know it was coming off that way. No, no,
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  Speaker 3: she didn't steal money from me. No, no, no, no, that's not
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  Speaker 3: what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, thanks, just on the record, all right, No, but
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  Speaker 1: listen to this. Does this surprise you? Fidelity did a
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  Speaker 1: study on finances and relationship and said forty five percent
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  Speaker 1: of partners admit that they argue about money at least occasionally,
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  Speaker 1: and the National Institutes of Health says forty percent of
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  Speaker 1: couples regularly fight about money.
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  Speaker 3: That makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: It does isn't always listed, but what are the number
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  Speaker 1: one things? Yeah, cause of divorce, money is always way
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  Speaker 1: up there. And you think about why people murder people money.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, money is the source of pretty much most
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  Speaker 1: problems in the world. Well, you think about it, so.
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  Speaker 2: Financial arguments arguing over money. I would like to see
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  Speaker 2: a breakdown of what those arguments are. You're spending too much,
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  Speaker 2: you don't make enough, you're not working hard enough, you're
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  Speaker 2: being irresponsible.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I think it's all of the disagreements on how
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  Speaker 1: to make money, how to save money, and how to
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  Speaker 1: spend money, and a lot of it is based on
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  Speaker 1: how you were brought up, where your insecurities lie, and
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  Speaker 1: all of this comes out. I mean, I just actually
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  Speaker 1: started thinking about it. Money is the source of pretty
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  Speaker 1: much all that's wrong in the world, so why wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: that also be the source of so much conflict in relationships.
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  Speaker 1: That does make a lot of sense. People are not
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  Speaker 1: willing to just get divorced over financial problems. They're willing
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  Speaker 1: to kill over it. We maybe have an unhealthy dose
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  Speaker 1: of perspective on that, just because we do watch those
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  Speaker 1: true crime stories and so often it is about money.
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  Speaker 3: It's only sex and money.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of a case with somebody murdered
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  Speaker 2: just because they were mad I don't like you anymore? Then, Oh,
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  Speaker 2: that was an insurance policy is taken out forty eight
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  Speaker 2: hours before the death wait, but.
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  Speaker 1: One in five primary decision makers admit to feeling resentful
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  Speaker 1: about handling financial matters alone. I think what's primary like,
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  Speaker 1: I guess it's the person who decides, hey, babe, I'll
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  Speaker 1: pay the bills, and maybe you're maybe you're the money maker,
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  Speaker 1: but you're a feeling that you have to make all
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  Speaker 1: of the decisions alone. It is so weird that we
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  Speaker 1: don't communicate about money. We actually don't, and that is
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  Speaker 1: a problem We don't generally, I don't say us we
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  Speaker 1: don't talk about money a lot. We probably could have
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  Speaker 1: better and more communication about money, about what we want
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  Speaker 1: to do with it, how we want to spend it.
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  Speaker 3: We don't plan. We don't.
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  Speaker 2: Our problem, robe is that we are so like minded.
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  Speaker 2: You and I just spend money the same way, and
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  Speaker 2: we don't have a problem with the other. If there's
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  Speaker 2: anything you want to buy for the house, I get it.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need to, Okay that we both eat at
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  Speaker 2: the same places, We even places we go to robes,
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  Speaker 2: And yes, we have been blessed to be able to
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  Speaker 2: go out to eat any time we want to anywhere.
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  Speaker 3: We want. I still got a problem with a thirty
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  Speaker 3: dollars season.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we were raised the same. We were raised
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  Speaker 1: by parents who were like minded, who we didn't. We
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  Speaker 1: weren't raised with a lot of money. We were raised
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  Speaker 1: with hard working parents who built themselves up from nothing.
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  Speaker 1: And truly, that is how I would describe my parents.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's how you would describe yours as well.
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  Speaker 3: But there's always a you hear about it.
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  Speaker 2: This a poor man's mindset, a poor man's mentality, no
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  Speaker 2: matter how much you ever make.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm that way. I want. I am tilled on.
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  Speaker 3: I want a whore to give me all this.
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  Speaker 2: I want to collect as much as I can, and
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  Speaker 2: I don't like I'm trying to think of the most
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  Speaker 2: expensive thing. We don't splurge. We splurge on trashery. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: but yeah, we sold food and travel. This is why
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  Speaker 2: we don't have to have a lot of financial discussions.
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  Speaker 2: We do need to talk about this money. You stold
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  Speaker 2: that this somewhere that I don't know. But other than that,
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  Speaker 2: we're good.
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  Speaker 1: I would say that it's about the money that I
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  Speaker 1: invested for our future.
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  Speaker 3: There it is, but no, this was interesting.
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  Speaker 1: There I read a bunch of articles about this because
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to get a fuller scope of it. But
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  Speaker 1: the New York Times had an article and I love that.
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  Speaker 1: I want to meet and talk with this person. He
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  Speaker 1: is a financial and relationship expert, so he is good
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  Speaker 1: at both. And he gave couples four tips on how
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  Speaker 1: to handle finances, and I love his first one. You
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  Speaker 1: need to sit down with your partner and define what
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  Speaker 1: a shared rich life is. Does that make sense? He says.
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  Speaker 1: The most common problem when it comes to money in
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  Speaker 1: relationship is the lack of a shared rich life vision.
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  Speaker 1: A rich life to one person can mean something different
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  Speaker 1: to another. So a rich life could mean traveling two
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  Speaker 1: months a year. A rich life could mean being able
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  Speaker 1: to buy beautiful things like a cashmere coat or an
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  Speaker 1: expensive watch. A rich life could mean having the freedom
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  Speaker 1: to take your kids to school every morning. A rich
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  Speaker 1: life could mean something very different. So you should have
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  Speaker 1: a shared rich life vision. How do we want to
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  Speaker 1: feel rich? Basically, how do we want to spend our money?
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  Speaker 1: What are our splurges going to be? Is it travel?
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  Speaker 1: Is it things? Is it food? Is it a big house?
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  Speaker 3: But if you're saying rich life, my life is full
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  Speaker 3: and it's rich because of things that are a part
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  Speaker 3: of it that have nothing to do with finances. That
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  Speaker 3: is that one way of looking at it.
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  Speaker 1: You could, but it's still specifically talking about how you
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  Speaker 1: spend your money and why you spend your money, and
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  Speaker 1: that is something that people don't sit down and have
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  Speaker 1: a conversation about. And so he said, the first thing
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  Speaker 1: you do, you start with one good money talk. You
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  Speaker 1: actually sit down and say, let's talk about money. And
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  Speaker 1: he said, it is shocking how many couples never have
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  Speaker 1: a positive conversation about money. It's always a negative or
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  Speaker 1: that you're suspicious, or you're resentful, or you don't like
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  Speaker 1: how the other person spends. And it's decide to say,
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  Speaker 1: we're going to have a positive conversation about money. And
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  Speaker 1: I do like that idea that you have an intention
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  Speaker 1: behind the conversation, that it's not going to go negative,
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  Speaker 1: that it's about a shared vision. And then he said, look,
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  Speaker 1: if you don't understand or agree with a big or
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  Speaker 1: a small purchase, the other one makes react with curiosity,
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  Speaker 1: not disparagement. And this is true with every conflict, but
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  Speaker 1: specifically about money. He gave an iced tea example. He said,
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  Speaker 1: okay or It could be coffee. You might be annoyed
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  Speaker 1: that your your partner goes out every day and buys a,
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  Speaker 1: you know, an eight dollars ten dollars latte or iced
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  Speaker 1: tea when they can easily make it at home. And
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  Speaker 1: so your one partner may say, I want to go
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  Speaker 1: get an iced tea. It's my little treat, it's my
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  Speaker 1: break in the middle of the day. And the other
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  Speaker 1: might be saying, when I grew up, we didn't get
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  Speaker 1: iced tea. He made it at home, and so that
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  Speaker 1: can be something he'sn't for twenty five years. You could
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  Speaker 1: have a couple. He said. He's talked to someone who
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  Speaker 1: still were arguing over ice tea after a twenty five
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  Speaker 1: year marriage. But they're not actually arguing over the ice tea.
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  Speaker 1: It's about how you spend your money. How you get
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  Speaker 1: that rich life feeling based on how you use your money. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you can see how that would happen, and then I
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  Speaker 1: this is one of my favorite parts, he said. One
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  Speaker 1: of the biggest mistakes people make is they don't they
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  Speaker 1: don't know how to spend their money. They know how
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  Speaker 1: to earn it, they know how to save it, but
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  Speaker 1: the skill of spending money meaningfully. Most people do not
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  Speaker 1: learn it, and I think that's so cool. They say, you, actually,
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  Speaker 1: the point of money is to use it to live
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  Speaker 1: that rich life he's talking about. And he said, yes,
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  Speaker 1: you need to save, Yes you need to invest. Obviously,
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  Speaker 1: I think we all know that. But part of what
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  Speaker 1: having a rich life means is the skill of spending money.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what he wants most people to work on
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  Speaker 1: as a couple. How are we going to spend our money?
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  Speaker 1: Not how we're going to save it, not how we're
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  Speaker 1: going to invest it, how we're going to spend it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, and then the problem there in lies is that
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  Speaker 2: the couple is oftentimes not he wants something, she wants something.
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  Speaker 2: He wants a new trek bike. Yes, she wants to
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  Speaker 2: go to Sepphora and get the latest whatever. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: there's just what do you do? I guess this is
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  Speaker 2: all a part of it. Where is that conversation when
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  Speaker 2: you're disagreeing about how we spend our money together?
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  Speaker 3: Don't we have to?
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  Speaker 2: Is that a sense that you need to okay or
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  Speaker 2: give permission to a certain degree. That's a terrible word,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm saying, make sure the other person feels okay.
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  Speaker 2: With spending money every day on.
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  Speaker 1: That ic if they want to do right, and I
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  Speaker 1: just think there's going to be acknowledgement. This fills my
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  Speaker 1: life up. This gives me joy, This makes me happy,
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  Speaker 1: This relieves stress. And people might think, why would you
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  Speaker 1: pay someone to mo your lawn when you can do
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  Speaker 1: it yourself? Is now I have time to relax, Like
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  Speaker 1: there are just but these are conversations that almost no
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  Speaker 1: one has an eye.
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  Speaker 3: Well, that's Robes, that's you talk about.
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  Speaker 2: The reason you and I are on good footing is
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  Speaker 2: because we were raised the same.
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  Speaker 1: That's true, because we were.
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  Speaker 2: Brought up the same and have its so you don't
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  Speaker 2: have to be worn with a silver spoon in your
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  Speaker 2: mouth kind of thing. What you just brought up, Robes
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  Speaker 2: is a fundamental difference that I think people can't neither
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  Speaker 2: side are gonna it's ever going to come around to
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  Speaker 2: the other side on the mowing the lawn thing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: raised in such a way that I can do this,
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  Speaker 2: Why don't need to pay somebody? That's money we can have.
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  Speaker 2: Like people are firm in that. I'm not gonna change.
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  Speaker 2: I was taught that way, yep. But then the other side, Robes,
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  Speaker 2: it also makes sense that we make the money so
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  Speaker 2: we don't have to do this, and.
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  Speaker 3: Then we can spend more time together.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe we could sit down at breakfast together instead of
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  Speaker 2: you being out there for two hours.
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  Speaker 3: On a Saturday.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Those two sides, are they ever going to get together
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  Speaker 2: and respect each other enough to make what compromise there?
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  Speaker 1: I think relationship extis. People say yea, but you have
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  Speaker 1: to have the conversation first, and you just have to
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  Speaker 1: assign the meeting behind it and then understand where your
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  Speaker 1: partner's coming from. Look, I think it's interesting you and
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  Speaker 1: I with money. I have felt so that's one of
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  Speaker 1: the things that I feel so in sync with you on.
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  Speaker 1: The only thing that I'm not in sync with you
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  Speaker 1: on is your refusal to rent a movie.
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  Speaker 3: This is what Look.
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  Speaker 2: Look, I'm a fall on that sword in this relationship
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  Speaker 2: and that this will be the dumbest breakup in the
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  Speaker 2: history of the world. It's the reason for divorce movie rental.
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  Speaker 1: He wouldn't let me rent the Amazon Prime Video for
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  Speaker 1: three ninety nine.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, y'all are with me on this, right?
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  Speaker 1: Just or not?
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  Speaker 2: This is a quick aside. This won't take any more
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  Speaker 2: than thirty seconds. There is an infinite amount of entertainment
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  Speaker 2: available to stream. We pay for Amazon Prime, Netflix, Hbo Max,
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  Speaker 2: I think three accounts even we just figured that out.
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  Speaker 2: We got Hulu, we got everything available. Don't throw in
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  Speaker 2: Apple TV Plus and ropes. How much a month are
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  Speaker 2: we spending on streaming services? Hundreds a lot, no doubt
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  Speaker 2: out hundreds and hundreds of dollars. So it's time to
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  Speaker 2: sit down for movie night. And you're telling me those
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  Speaker 2: hundreds of dollars. You want me to spend another twenty
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  Speaker 2: four to ninety nine to purchase a movie because we
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  Speaker 2: can't find one that's available for free.
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  Speaker 3: That is just a principle.
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  Speaker 1: It's a principle for you. But I would say if
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  Speaker 1: that blockbuster movie came out that we didn't have the
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  Speaker 1: chance to see at the theater, and I really want
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  Speaker 1: to see it because it just came out for twenty
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  Speaker 1: four to ninety nine from my couch. I want to
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  Speaker 1: be able to say, you know what, let's rent it. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: HEJ says, no.
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  Speaker 3: This is going to be the end of us. We
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  Speaker 3: were somewhere once.
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  Speaker 2: I swear you made me buy something for like a
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  Speaker 2: dollar ninety nine, and I was still uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 1: You you are a Larry us. But this I just
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to say, and then we'll move on after this.
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  Speaker 1: But I thought this was a cool thing to think about.
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  Speaker 1: He said that he feels like one of the biggest
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  Speaker 1: tragedies in life is to basically to end your life
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  Speaker 1: with way too much money, never having built the skill
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  Speaker 1: of spending it, never having taken the moment to enjoy it.
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  Speaker 1: And I did hear one person say, sometimes we all
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  Speaker 1: because when we were raised a certain way, we forget
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  Speaker 1: that one of the best ways you can spend money,
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  Speaker 1: one of the best ways you can bring joy to
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  Speaker 1: your life by using money is buying time. And that
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  Speaker 1: is outsourcing things that you were taught to do yourself,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's cleaning your house or doing the yard work
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  Speaker 1: or driving somewhere. If you can actually free up time
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  Speaker 1: for you to focus on your family, that actually is
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  Speaker 1: a very joyful way to spend your money.
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  Speaker 3: We should beat that drum more often.
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  Speaker 2: That is, I think people don't realize how much you
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  Speaker 2: do add to your life by getting someone to free
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  Speaker 2: up your time to do something more meaningful. And yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you're you're you're passing on you're paying somebody else, You're
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  Speaker 2: you're employing somebody.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody wins. I do. I do believe that. All right,
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  Speaker 1: when we come back, we're gonna have a little fun.
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  Speaker 1: Because I mentioned this at the top, there was a
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  Speaker 1: new survey of Americans that was conducted by Casino Guru
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  Speaker 1: and apparently it was National Lottery Day on July seventeenth.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know this, but because of that, in honor that,
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  Speaker 1: they put out this hilarious poll and the question is,
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  Speaker 1: could you put a price on how much you love
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  Speaker 1: your partner? We'll give you the results when we come back.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back everyone to this episode of Amy and TJ.
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  Speaker 1: We were talking about relationships and money, but there was
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  Speaker 1: a funny adjacent story here, and I mentioned it was
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  Speaker 1: by Casino Guru. There was a new survey ahead of
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  Speaker 1: National Lottery Day and they asked, could you put a
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  Speaker 1: price on how much you love your partner? They said
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  Speaker 1: most people said no, but they believe everyone's lying because
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  Speaker 1: at least twenty five percent admitted that there is a
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  Speaker 1: price where they would leave their lover. Is there a
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  Speaker 1: price you would say? Someone said, I'll give you twenty
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  Speaker 1: million dollars to leave Amy and never see her.
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  Speaker 3: Again, it had to be much higher.
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  Speaker 1: There is a price.
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  Speaker 2: We let's not be ridiculous, offers me a one hundred
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  Speaker 2: billion dollars. We have a good last week though, and
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  Speaker 2: you and I would immediately start plotting to find a
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  Speaker 2: way to see each other again. But you know, even
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  Speaker 2: after saying that, I don't, I don't think there is
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  Speaker 2: a price. Yes, after saying that out loud, I mean
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  Speaker 2: it seems ridiculous to pass up one hundred billion dollars.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think there's a number.
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  Speaker 1: The truth is, if you really love someone, there isn't
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  Speaker 1: a number. And look, I thought this was a cool quote.
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  Speaker 1: Money is never just money, its identity, its security, and
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  Speaker 1: maybe it's even a story. But a windfall of money
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  Speaker 1: doesn't create unity. It reveals whether there was anything there
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  Speaker 1: to begin with. So a lot of times people who
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  Speaker 1: win the lottery, you hear these stories where their marriages
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  Speaker 1: fall apart, their life falls apart, because this money didn't
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  Speaker 1: actually make their life better. It actually exposed so many
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  Speaker 1: of their problems in their life to begin with. It's
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  Speaker 1: so we all think we want to win the lottery,
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  Speaker 1: but actually I mean I do, But you know that
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  Speaker 1: there are so many stories of lottery winners where their
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  Speaker 1: relationships fall apart.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, lives fall apart.
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  Speaker 1: Breed takes over?
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  Speaker 3: It does man?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so you should always or there's no amount of
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  Speaker 2: money anybody asking them, so you can even take a beat.
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  Speaker 2: Just like I played it out for a second. I said, well,
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure there is a number, but then after I
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  Speaker 2: started name it, actually there's not not previous relationships the
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  Speaker 2: number in the five figures.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I was just gonna say, it depends on the
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  Speaker 1: status of your relationship. And look, we've seen plenty. We've
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  Speaker 1: been in plenty, and I know there has actually been
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  Speaker 1: dollar amounts that I would have come to. So yes,
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  Speaker 1: to have twenty five percent of people say yep, there
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  Speaker 1: is a number, and they broke it down state by state,
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  Speaker 1: we'll just give you the funny ones. So apparently the
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  Speaker 1: guess the state where the most amount of people said
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  Speaker 1: they would take any jackpit jackpot? Excuse me, so any
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  Speaker 1: lottery winning Say I want a lottery and you have
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  Speaker 1: to leave your lover. What state, by far had the
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  Speaker 1: most number of respondents say that they would leave their
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  Speaker 1: relationship for a jackpot?
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  Speaker 3: What state has the highest divorce rate?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know that. Maybe and maybe that's your answer.
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  Speaker 1: I'd have to check it out. I didn't even think
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  Speaker 1: to correct. Are of those two Do a quick google, sir.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of the mindset and the relationships
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  Speaker 2: and people and the different states. For whatever reason, I
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  Speaker 2: think somewhere in the northeast of the Virginia area, for
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  Speaker 2: some reason, sticks out. I want to go away from Florida.
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  Speaker 2: I want to go to places that aren't doing financially well.
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  Speaker 2: I have questional relationships. What state I don't know. I'll
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  Speaker 2: guess I'll go with California, and I want to go
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  Speaker 2: somewhere in No. They might be offended by the idea
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  Speaker 2: that they would be into money. See, I'm breaking it
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  Speaker 2: down too much. Ahead, tell me what the highest number was. Kentucky.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't think you were going to get it.
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  Speaker 1: Kentuckians said they would take any jackpot to walk out
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  Speaker 1: the door.
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  Speaker 3: That's what you think of a place that thirsty.
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  Speaker 1: Perhaps maybe, but then you named one of them and
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  Speaker 1: they weren't far behind. Forty three percent of Floridians say
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  Speaker 1: they'd consider ditching their partner, but it depended on the amount.
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  Speaker 3: Retirees down there.
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  Speaker 1: Forty two percent said they'd do it for less than
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  Speaker 1: ten million Florida retirees. Yep, I don't know if retire retire.
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  Speaker 1: It's Floridians, So I think there's so many. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I went to Way together for a long and after,
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  Speaker 1: like I've lived my life with you. I'll take the
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  Speaker 1: money and see how life is without you.
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  Speaker 2: See, I was thinking the opposite that the retirees wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: be so quick to do so well.
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  Speaker 1: I figure like they've already had enough of that person,
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  Speaker 1: and so now they can go live their life and
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  Speaker 1: see what's next.
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  Speaker 3: I should call my mom. I went to her numbers.
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  Speaker 1: Do you have a number? It's something to ask. Okay, this,
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  Speaker 1: I thought, will end on a positive note. There is
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  Speaker 1: a state significantly more than the rest that had the
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  Speaker 1: most faithful respondents. Is how they put it. Who They said,
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  Speaker 1: there is no number where I would leave my partner.
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  Speaker 1: What state would that be? For mind, I could see
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  Speaker 1: why that'd be a good guess. It was Wisconsin. Seventy
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  Speaker 1: nine percent of the respondent said, no, jackpot, no matter
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  Speaker 1: the amount, would make them leave their partner.
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  Speaker 3: And they need that body warmth and need some gets
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  Speaker 3: cold in the winter.
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  Speaker 1: Look, it's just a fun thing. But yeah, maybe this
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  Speaker 1: is going to cause an argument or maybe some internal
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  Speaker 1: conflict if you actually do ask yourself, is there a
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  Speaker 1: number where I would leave my partner? There isn't one
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  Speaker 1: for me. I'm not just saying that because you're sitting here.
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  Speaker 2: I was saying I was trying to. I actually thought
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  Speaker 2: I was going to be able to come up with
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  Speaker 2: a number. I don't have one now. There is no
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  Speaker 2: There's no money that will fulfill my life the way
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  Speaker 2: it would be damaged by you not being in it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm serious. You can't balance that out, no matter, you
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  Speaker 3: just can't.
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  Speaker 1: All right, I can't say anything better than that, So
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna end it there. Thank you, baby, that was
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  Speaker 1: really really sweet. I love you. And with that, everyone,
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  Speaker 1: we hope you have a wonderful Saturday. We always appreciate
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  Speaker 1: you listening to us. I Nanny Robot alongside TJ. Holmes
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