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You've Got Decisions: Would I Be Wrong For Leaving My Bf Because Of His Autism? · Decisions, Decisions

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  Speaker 1: If you would like to have us answer your questions,
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  Speaker 1: if you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
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  Speaker 1: a terrible throuple.
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  Speaker 2: Guess what? You've got decisions. You've got decisions. And I
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  Speaker 2: do too.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome, guys, to another You Got Decisions. Before we start
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  Speaker 3: that information out there through all of my platforms during
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  Speaker 3: this month.
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  Speaker 2: So I wanted to start there.
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  Speaker 3: And speaking of starting there, Weezy, we have an opener
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  Speaker 3: kind of for this episode. We have someone who says
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  Speaker 3: that their 30th birthday is in a few weeks. And
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  Speaker 3: I'd love to get your favorite piece of advice on
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  Speaker 3: entering my 30s. It can be growing my business, being
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  Speaker 3: a full-time entrepreneur now, nurturing partnership, friendships.
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  Speaker 2: Setting family boundaries.
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  Speaker 3: I'm so excited and at peace with all of these
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  Speaker 3: aspects of life right now, but it's been fun collecting
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  Speaker 3: the words of wisdom from people I admire about this
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  Speaker 3: new decade.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks so much. Love you both. I'll start with you. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: so sorry, y'all. I'm a little into the weather. COVID's back.
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  Speaker 1: I would say things that I prioritize in my 30s,
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  Speaker 1: I'm actually going to go more probably because I'm not
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  Speaker 1: feeling well and it's making me think about health so much.
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  Speaker 1: I'm actually going to talk about all the things you
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  Speaker 1: need to be doing for yourself that are probably different
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  Speaker 1: that you didn't prioritize in your 20s. Kind of just
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  Speaker 1: like that glow up hack. Things in your 30s that
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  Speaker 1: we need. Bitch, you need to get sleep.
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  Speaker 2: Prioritizing sleep.
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  Speaker 3: 100%.
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  Speaker 1: I think when I was in my 20s, even up
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  Speaker 1: until like 27, 28, I don't know if you could agree,
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  Speaker 1: but one of the things that I really wasn't doing,
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  Speaker 1: I would say yes to everything and be totally burnt
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  Speaker 1: out by the time the week came. And I think
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  Speaker 1: kind of being able to be a little stush and
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  Speaker 1: be like, sorry, I was out last night. Tonight's a
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  Speaker 1: me night. Prioritizing sleep is number one. Making sure you're
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  Speaker 1: getting at least, I would say, eight, if not ten, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: The other thing in my 30s that I invested money
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  Speaker 1: into that I never did before was better products for face, skin, hair.
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  Speaker 2: Before my 30s, I was kind of buying... Girl, they
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  Speaker 2: saw the video of us, our hair and our skin.
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  Speaker 2: They saw.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, no, I was going to say, so Brooke, Brooke Duvard,
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  Speaker 1: who does Naked Beauty, when she asked me where I
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  Speaker 1: get my skin products, I was like, girl, whatever, at Marshall's.
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  Speaker 1: And so we were all laughing about it recently because
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  Speaker 1: she was like, Weezy, like, you said that shit five
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  Speaker 1: years ago, but you also low-key was saying that on
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  Speaker 1: my next time I interviewed you. I'm like, yeah, because
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  Speaker 1: when I'm in the store, I'm just grabbing whatever. I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't really intentional about what I was putting on my face.
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  Speaker 1: I learned my skin type. I also did a little...
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  Speaker 1: I think it's called a methylene.
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  Speaker 2: Hold on. I want to read this out. Maybe, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if you've ever done one of these, Mandy.
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  Speaker 2: Is it called? Okay. Methylation test.
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  Speaker 1: It's a genetic screening tool that evaluates how your body
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  Speaker 1: handles chemical processes for DNA repair, et cetera, and hormone regulation. Basically,
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  Speaker 1: you get it on Amazon, but basically all it means
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  Speaker 1: is you start to learn what you can eat for
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  Speaker 1: your DNA, your blood type, et cetera. And that was
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  Speaker 1: something in my 30s I really, really needed to know.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck and how am I treating my body?
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  Speaker 1: I got into a good workout routine in my 30s.
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  Speaker 1: And I also will say this. I said no to
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  Speaker 1: everything that didn't serve me, including niggas. Now, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: saying that means if he got good dick, but he's
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  Speaker 1: an asshole, you don't call him back. You have to
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  Speaker 1: figure out exactly what's serving and for what purpose. Because
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  Speaker 1: for some reason, the 20 feels very like, woo. and
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  Speaker 1: 30s feels like you got to be more serious, it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you got to be so serious to
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  Speaker 1: where you can't have fun no more. It just means
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  Speaker 1: you need to know exactly why you're doing something so
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  Speaker 1: that you feel comfortable. Mandy and I have come on
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  Speaker 1: here and talked about maybe, I don't want to say
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  Speaker 1: the word regret, but maybe choices we made that we're
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  Speaker 1: not the most proud of or whatever. I could fuck
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  Speaker 1: that same nigga today and maybe not feel bad about myself.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: Because I know exactly why I brought my ass through
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  Speaker 1: those doors. So I just think for everyone listening, it's
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  Speaker 1: just being intentional about the choices we make and knowing
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  Speaker 1: why they are serving us. So that's my best advice
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  Speaker 1: for 30s on those few tips.
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  Speaker 2: OK, for 30s.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, my advice, y'all might think it's crazy considering maybe
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  Speaker 3: the first six episodes of this podcast and us almost
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  Speaker 3: approaching 10 years later.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think I'm where I'm at today without therapy.
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  Speaker 3: Therapy sounds like a woo-woo thing to say as well,
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  Speaker 3: but I really don't think that we have the right
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  Speaker 3: resources within our friend group or our partners to really
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  Speaker 3: tackle therapy. the childhood trauma that lingers within our 20s
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  Speaker 3: and our adulthood. So I would say definitely therapy. And
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  Speaker 3: then one of the other things that so many of
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  Speaker 3: my family members don't have that I think if is
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  Speaker 3: possible for you to start is some sort of savings fund.
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  Speaker 2: I've been talking about that with my sister.
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  Speaker 3: I remember like when I first started this podcast, like
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  Speaker 3: having a savings account meant something. Like no one in
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  Speaker 3: my family I felt like had anything saved for a
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  Speaker 3: rainy day.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't grow up that way.
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  Speaker 3: And so a part of being an adult is, you know,
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  Speaker 3: really being able to fall back sometimes on yourself as well.
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  Speaker 3: And so being kind of Proactive instead of reactive in
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  Speaker 3: things that are kind of inevitable, like, you know, something
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  Speaker 3: happening to your car. And now, you know, you need
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  Speaker 3: to spend money on that or or I mean, a
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  Speaker 3: health care thing. To me, I just felt like growing up.
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  Speaker 3: We were always one emergency away from being behind. And
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  Speaker 3: so when I got to a point of, you know,
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  Speaker 3: a bit of financial stability, it was always important for
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  Speaker 3: me to have a fallback on.
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  Speaker 2: Now, did I care about that in my 20s?
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  Speaker 3: It would have been nice, but a bitch was living
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  Speaker 3: check to check until, you know, I finished school and
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  Speaker 3: we got this podcast going. But to me, once you're
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  Speaker 3: 30 and once you've made enough fuck-ups, I think those
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  Speaker 3: would be my two things. And where Wheezy said learn
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  Speaker 3: how to say no, I think one of the biggest things, too,
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  Speaker 3: is learning how to receive no, not just in sexual relationships,
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  Speaker 3: but even for jobs. Baby, I'm telling you, if it's
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  Speaker 3: not for you, it won't happen for you. What will
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  Speaker 3: be for you will be for you. Including niggas. Well,
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  Speaker 3: that's why I said outside of sexually, outside of the
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  Speaker 3: bedroom for me, learning how.
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  Speaker 2: To just receive rejection and just receive that. Well, this
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  Speaker 2: isn't for me.
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  Speaker 3: Getting a no, whether you're applying for work, getting a no,
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  Speaker 3: if you're applying for a grant, getting a no for
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  Speaker 3: someone who may not see the value in you creatively
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  Speaker 3: or as an entrepreneur. For me, it's like knowing that
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  Speaker 3: no is not the end of the world. And for
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  Speaker 3: me in my 20s, oh my God, if I went
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  Speaker 3: to a job interview and I didn't get it and
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  Speaker 3: I just thought I was going to have.
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  Speaker 2: It and I did, it would take me weeks to
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  Speaker 2: get over it. I would call crying. I would be
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  Speaker 2: fucking depressed. I'd be like, I'm not good enough.
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  Speaker 3: And so for me, it's definitely, definitely, definitely like being
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  Speaker 3: able to sit and live with receiving no.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't realize that receiving no was a thing of
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  Speaker 1: the 30s until recently. You guys know I reference my
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  Speaker 1: homegirl Gabby a lot. It was just fashion week, so
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  Speaker 1: we were catching up. And she had one of her
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  Speaker 1: girlfriends that got passed up for an opportunity. That girl
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  Speaker 1: was younger. And I think Gabby was in the brain
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  Speaker 1: of like, damn, like we're models.
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  Speaker 2: We're used to hearing no. They either love you, they don't.
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  Speaker 2: You walk into the room, they take you, you don't. And,
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  Speaker 2: you know, just even knowing.
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  Speaker 1: She was in the brain like she made a comment up,
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  Speaker 1: went to a casting, didn't get it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, went to a casting, did get it.
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  Speaker 1: Yep. They basically told me this or they want my
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  Speaker 1: hair like this. And that job, she's so used to
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  Speaker 1: being rejected, but also used to being saying yes to. Right. Right.
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  Speaker 1: It never hit me that sometimes when her and I
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  Speaker 1: over the last nine or 10 years of our friendship,
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  Speaker 1: when she would kind of have an attitude with me
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  Speaker 1: of get over it. I was like, oh my God,
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  Speaker 1: it's because of her job. We're such a mix. She's
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  Speaker 1: so like, if I was like disappointed about a nigga
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  Speaker 1: or a bitch, she's like, because this person is used
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  Speaker 1: to having maybe five to 10 yeses or nos a week.
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  Speaker 2: Nigga, we don't hear that shit too often.
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  Speaker 1: But receiving the no, I think is an interesting one,
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  Speaker 1: even for healthy friendships.
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  Speaker 2: Like Mandy and I, I think this.
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  Speaker 1: Entire year, have spent at least one episode a month
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  Speaker 1: talking about our relationships with friends and setting a boundary
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  Speaker 1: with them. And that in itself, I've definitely had to
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  Speaker 1: learn that the no's from my friends, like my friends
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  Speaker 1: are now planning my bachelorette party, right?
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  Speaker 2: And one of my homegirls had.
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  Speaker 1: To be like, oh girl, I can't handle no Columbia
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  Speaker 1: trip for three days. Like, I love you, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna be able to do it. But I don't
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  Speaker 1: want you to feel like, and I was like, oh, sis,
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  Speaker 1: that's cool. Like, But if I was 25.
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  Speaker 2: And I'd be like, she doesn't care about me. You
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  Speaker 2: can't suck it up. You know what I'm saying? So
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  Speaker 2: that I think receiving no is a good one. That's
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  Speaker 2: a great one.
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  Speaker 3: Well, y'all this uh YGD this week is quite interesting
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  Speaker 3: um and she's asked us not to roast her So
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  Speaker 3: if you have a letter that you want to submit
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  Speaker 3: to us to get our unofficially experted relationship-ish advice, make
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  Speaker 3: sure you send it over to decisionspod at gmail.com.
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  Speaker 2: And if you're a.
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  Speaker 3: Patron, of course, you get kicked right up to the
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  Speaker 3: top of all the letters. But let's get into this
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  Speaker 3: one because this one is quite interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, let's see.
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  Speaker 3: Longtime listener here. I've been watching for years and I've
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  Speaker 3: been to several live shows. I'll try to make this short.
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  Speaker 2: And she did. She did a good job. I've been
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  Speaker 2: in a relationship for three years.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a 29-year-old dating someone of the same age. My
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  Speaker 3: boyfriend is my best friend in the whole world and
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  Speaker 3: a great partner. However, we have no sex life or intimacy.
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  Speaker 3: A few months into our relationship, I noticed things that
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  Speaker 3: were different about him. These things eventually led me to
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  Speaker 3: encourage him to go to the doctor where he was
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  Speaker 3: diagnosed with autism. Apparently, this is a huge reason why
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  Speaker 3: he doesn't pick up on the need for intimacy or
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  Speaker 3: the importance of foreplay.
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  Speaker 2: I'm always sexually free and much.
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  Speaker 3: More experienced, and he allows me to be with women
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  Speaker 3: whenever I want. The problem lies with the lack of
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  Speaker 3: intimacy and sex with him. I am kind of fed up.
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  Speaker 3: I understand it's the autism, but I don't know if
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  Speaker 3: I can do it any longer. If I could have
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  Speaker 3: sex with men as well as women, I would be
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  Speaker 3: okay with the lack, but he only wants me to
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  Speaker 3: be with women. I'm not sure what to do. It
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  Speaker 3: sounds terrible to leave someone because of their autism.
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  Speaker 1: Help.
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  Speaker 2: Please don't roast me.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I, listen, I'll be honest with y'all. And
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  Speaker 3: I think I've said this and shared this. I have
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  Speaker 3: family members that I have chosen to distance myself from
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  Speaker 3: due to their mental health diagnosis.
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  Speaker 2: I have had partners in.
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  Speaker 3: The past that I have chosen to end things with
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  Speaker 3: because of their mental health diagnosis. And where I'm not
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  Speaker 3: going to roast you here, I think romantic partnerships deserve
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  Speaker 3: and I thought kind of come packaged with intimacy and sex.
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  Speaker 3: And so because you're not asexual and you want sex,
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  Speaker 3: if he's not willing to get the help that he
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  Speaker 3: would need in order to meet your sexual needs, I
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  Speaker 3: would say it's fine to break up with him. Honestly,
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  Speaker 3: I don't feel like you should be taking on the
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  Speaker 3: burden of that. And if sex is the only problem
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  Speaker 3: in this relationship, you called him your best friend in
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  Speaker 3: the world. I think because you're not getting sex from him,
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  Speaker 3: turning this just into a platonic relationship would be the best.
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  Speaker 2: Thing for both of you. before you go the route
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  Speaker 2: of cheating.
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  Speaker 3: Because if this is your best friend in the world,
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  Speaker 3: you don't want to hurt him or betray him. So
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  Speaker 3: maybe breaking it off, but keeping the friendship going, if
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  Speaker 3: he's such a great person, I think that that would
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  Speaker 3: be my advice here.
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  Speaker 1: I just recently, because I've been in bed for two days,
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  Speaker 1: started watching Couples Therapy.
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  Speaker 2: And this YGD made me think of it.
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  Speaker 1: Season five, if you, Amazon Prime, the first two episodes
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  Speaker 1: are free. I don't know how much his autism shows
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  Speaker 1: on a day-to-day basis, but.
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  Speaker 2: I saw this black guy, right? Mm-hmm. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: She was a little mean to him, or so we thought, right?
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  Speaker 1: There were moments where, like in the first few episodes,
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  Speaker 1: and for context here, there is a white woman dating
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  Speaker 1: a black man who's autistic and neurodivergent, and it shows
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  Speaker 1: in a lot of ways. In the first two episodes,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, damn, she's kind of a cunt.
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  Speaker 2: And then when you get going, he.
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  Speaker 1: Used that shit. I started to see that he was
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  Speaker 1: not even not necessarily forthcoming, but manipulative in ways with
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  Speaker 1: his autism.
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  Speaker 2: And so I.
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  Speaker 1: Think we have too much language now around excuses. And
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  Speaker 1: I think that maybe that could be an excuse for
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  Speaker 1: his lacking, you know, whether it be sex drive or whatever,
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  Speaker 1: being able to meet your needs.
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  Speaker 2: I'm kind of with Mandy on this one.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to roast you only because I think
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  Speaker 1: you spoke well enough about him to know that like,
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  Speaker 1: you're not necessarily trying to put this person down, but
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  Speaker 1: we also have to think of ourselves. And truthfully, just
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  Speaker 1: because someone's autistic or, for example, one of my friends
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  Speaker 1: has a brother who is completely nonverbal. And when I
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  Speaker 1: tell you that man knows energy, like, her and her
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend have a tumultuous relationship. When I come in the house,
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  Speaker 1: her brother's really sweet, happy. Obviously, we're not talking, but
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  Speaker 1: we're sharing smiles and energy. And when her boyfriend comes around,
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  Speaker 1: he turns into a different person. And I was like, oh, bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Ain't nobody gonna ever tell me. They don't listen. They
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  Speaker 2: don't know. No, they definitely do. They definitely do.
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  Speaker 1: Although he's Black, so he'd be giving a face, like a,
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  Speaker 1: you know. He do.
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  Speaker 2: And I'd be like, bitch, you're so ashamed.
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  Speaker 1: I would say if, I said that to say he
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  Speaker 1: knows the energy of how you're feeling.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. Well, I think there's such a spectrum.
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  Speaker 3: He could be aloof to it, right? Especially the way
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  Speaker 3: you speak about him. You may not be showing your
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  Speaker 3: frustration sexually because you are getting it from women. But
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  Speaker 3: now you're expressing, this would all be fine if he
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  Speaker 3: also lets you have sex with men.
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  Speaker 2: I'm curious if.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe... you know, in going to a play space together or,
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  Speaker 3: or introducing some other level of kink or intimacy. That's
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  Speaker 3: not penetration because if it's the penetration, um, well, no,
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  Speaker 3: I guess you said foreplay too.
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  Speaker 2: You said foreplay and penetration was lacking.
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  Speaker 1: I know.
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  Speaker 2: Damn. Yes. Well, I don't know. I mean, and I
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  Speaker 2: hate ultimatums. I don't think they're great. But I'm not...
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  Speaker 2: If you don't fuck me... No, I think, yeah, I think.
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  Speaker 3: You need to, like... I ain't gonna hold you. If
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  Speaker 3: you ain't gonna let me fuck other niggas, this might
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  Speaker 3: not work. I think you may just need to go
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  Speaker 3: straight there because if he's not giving you pain and
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: you're not a lesbian, bitch, you don't need a beard.
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  Speaker 2: You want dick.
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  Speaker 3: And if you are in a relationship, and if I'm
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  Speaker 3: not mistaken... It says they've been together for three years. Bro,
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  Speaker 3: they've been together for three years.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, nah.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how long you ain't had the dick,
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  Speaker 3: but yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Bitch, let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 1: On that motherfucking couple's therapy, that nigga was slanging dick.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: She said, you want to come over here and get fucked?
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: And she read that one text message. I said, not
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: the autistic nigga.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: Now, I will say....
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: Again, I'm curious to know where on the spectrum he
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: lies because there are therapeutic things that he could do.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: There are....
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: Like sensory classes. I don't know if there's medication.
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: I know there's medication for like neurodivergent diseases, but I'm
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: not sure about autism, if there would be any sort
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: of medication. But I would say this definitely calls for
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: you to get professionals involved. And if they can't help either, sis,
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: don't ruin the man as a friend. Let him go.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: Let him go find someone who's asexual. And you just
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: maintain a friendship with this man. And I'll say, because
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: this is what you, you know, just speaking of advice
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: in your 30s, sis, this could still be your friend.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: Be grateful that you don't have a baby by this
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: nigga yet.
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: Like, all the ladies in their 30s, be grateful that
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: you don't have a baby by that nigga that you,
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: it didn't really work out.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. One of my good friends.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: Shout out to Josie and Wong Shing. Okay.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Josie had her baby in her late 30s and getting
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: to spend time with her a few weeks ago at 40.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: She's 40 now. Seeing her as a mom in her
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: 40s with a young baby. She's just so smart. She's
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: just so comfortable. She just gets it. She's single and
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: like just doesn't have a lot of that craziness.
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: That my friends didn't. I'm glad she's single.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: Girl, we're wrapping this up now. I can't say I'm
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: glad she's single. I love that she chose herself.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: Yes, bitch. Long time coming.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: Patreon.com backslash horrible decisions to see me in some beautiful
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: makeup and to see me looking like a ghost and
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: for the video each and every week.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: We'll talk to you next week. Bye. Bye y'all.