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146 // 7 ADHD Confidence Boosters to Start Your Day · ADHD with Confidence | Overcome Anxiety & Self-Doubt, Christian ADHD Coach, ADHD in Women

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  In today's episode, I'm going to give you my top seven ADHD confidence boosters to start your day.
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  everything on how to live confidently with ADHD.
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  To build God-centered confidence so you can know in your heart that you do belong.
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  You are enough and you are made on purpose and with a purpose.
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  Hey, I'm Kelsey Spronk, fellow ADHD mom and entrepreneur. Join me in building
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  confidence so you can experience success.
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  Hey friends, welcome to the ADHD with Confidence podcast. I'm your host,
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  Kelsey, and today I'm going to talk to you about seven ADHD confidence boosters
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  that I have been using to start my day, and so I am hoping that these will be helpful for you as well.
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  Before we get started though, I just want to say these are the things that have
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  worked well for me, they've worked well for other people, but it doesn't mean
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  that you have to do these specific things.
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  It's important that you learn what works best for you and that you adjust it
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  and tailor it to be the most helpful for you. So just keep that in mind today.
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  If there's something that you want to try, go ahead and test it out and see how it works for you.
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  All right. Number one confidence booster for starting my day,
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  starting with regulation.
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  So what that is for me is trying to get my body out of fight or flight so that
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  all day I'm not feeling like a bear is chasing me when it actually the
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  rustle in the bushes is actually a squirrel not a bear but it
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  can feel like it when your nervous system is dysregulated it
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  can feel like you're being chased by a bear which can put you into this fight
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  or flight and it can feel panicky it can feel awful so I have a little sticky
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  note put it on the wall by my bed for a night time for the morning another one
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  in the kitchen as well and it just says, breathe.
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  That's it. For me, that's all I needed was just breathe.
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  And the reason for that is, is it's telling my body, it's telling my nervous
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  system that I am safe, that I'm not, in fact, being chased by a bear,
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  that I don't need to panic.
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  I don't need to get stuck in ADHD paralysis.
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  I don't need to fight. I don't need to, you know, run away from whatever it is. I just need to pause.
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  And take a deep breath. And that has made an incredible difference in starting
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  my day like that because then it reminds me throughout the day when I start
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  to feel my shoulders are tense, my body is tense. I just take that deep breath.
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  Number two, have a reminder for yourself that's going to keep you in that calm state.
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  For me right now, it is I can only do one thing at a time. Or sometimes I shorten it.
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  I just say one thing at a time.
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  Because I tend to be prone to feeling like I have a hundred things I need to do all at the same time.
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  That is not possible. You cannot do multiple things at the same time.
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  You can only do one thing at a time. And I find that it can help you get out of that panic state.
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  And some of these are coming from Jennifer's book, The Simple Guide to ADHD
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  Regulation. So I'll link that below and make sure you check that out as well.
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  But this reminder, you know, in the morning when I'm trying to get my kids ready
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  and myself ready and get us out of the house on time with everyone's stuff.
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  And our weather changes so much here.
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  So they need, you know, their splash rain pants and winter gear and they need
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  a whole bunch of different stuff.
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  And it can feel so overwhelming when I try to think about it all at the same time.
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  So this little mantra has been very helpful in reminding myself,
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  I can only do one thing at a time.
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  And I find that it keeps me calmer and it makes me more likely to actually get
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  everything ready and get out the door on time.
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  Number three for starting your day. For me, this doesn't always happen in the
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  morning before I leave, but usually mid-morning, and that is devotions.
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  So for me, that's reading my Bible and then journaling as well.
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  Journaling, I find really helpful to get out some of my thoughts,
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  some of my concerns, worries, things that I'm focusing on.
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  It helps me to process. and then
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  having typically I will just look through the Bible and I
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  will have scripture that you know
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  maybe is relevant specifically to that day or I'll just
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  go and find something and it will be something that I repeat to myself
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  throughout the day and I find that this just gives me a better focus it helps
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  me keep perspective on why I am doing the things that I'm doing on the fact
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  that my worth isn't coming from the things that I'm doing but my worth comes
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  from being a daughter of God,
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  that I am made in his image, and that I am doing these things to glorify him. This is not for me.
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  Number four is exercise. I highly recommend exercise sometime in the first part
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  of the day. Once again, it doesn't have to be first thing in the morning.
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  I have started using it as a bit of a treat in one sense because I know that
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  it is really important for me, but I don't like starting with it.
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  It makes my morning a little too hectic. So I will start off my morning and
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  if I'm working from home that day, I will incorporate exercise into the mid-morning
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  or maybe the early afternoon.
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  It helps me to reset.
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  It gives me that dopamine.
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  It means that I'm less likely to end up scrolling on my phone and instead I
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  feel good and I feel strong.
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  Number five confidence boosters to start your day is getting outdoors if possible.
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  Now if there is sunshine where you live that's great and I would even more recommend
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  going outside to enjoy that sunshine.
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  We have had snowstorms a few times and so I have settled for sitting close to
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  a window and enjoying the natural light.
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  Come in for now because it is miserable to be outside but once it is warm,
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  I will be outside and try to start my day with that as well.
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  Number six, start your day with love.
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  So with hugs with your loved ones, with saying something kind or encouraging,
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  with showing appreciation for the people in your life,
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  just with that heart of love and of gratitude towards other people,
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  I think can really start you on the right foot of recognizing the people that you have in your life.
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  I also find it very regulating to give my kids hugs and snuggles first thing in the morning.
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  The last but not least confidence booster to start your day is to have a daily plan.
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  Now I will link the free daily ADHD planner that I have. I'll link it below.
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  You guys can download that and feel free to use it how you will.
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  But I find that having a plan can give
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  you more clarity and can give you
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  more confidence to start your day knowing what
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  it is that you want to work on knowing that your top two to three priorities
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  you have them accounted for on your list and you know how you're going to spend
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  your time so you're not worried that you're going to get stuck in the vortex
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  of your phone or you're not going to get stuck in some sort of paralysis.
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  ADHD paralysis, and you can feel more confident going into your day.
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  All right. I hope you found something helpful from today's episode.
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  I'm going to quickly recap as I usually do.
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  So the seven ADHD confidence boosters to start your day.
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  Number one, deep breathing.
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  Number two, remind yourself you can only do one thing at a time.
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  Number three, devotions. Number four, exercise.
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  Number five, getting outdoors. Number six, love like hugs and snuggles.
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  And number seven having a daily plan which i will link below thank you so much
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  for joining me today i hope you
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  found it helpful and i look forward to the next one until then god bless.