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Keeley Bright & Kaiser Johnson · Mommywood

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Mom. Hey, I'm your host.
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Emily V. I'm an actor teacher, and a new
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mom. Once my daughter arrived, I went
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on the hunt for answers to all my questions about being a
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working actor. Mom, and what did I find?
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Well practically nothing. So here I am asking all the
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questions to try to figure out how people do it, how our
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mothers balancing and not balancing Parenthood in this
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crazy. Three.
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Join me. And my amazing guess, as a, we
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take a real look into the life of a working entertainment
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industry moms everywhere. Oh boy, I'm so excited for this
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episode. I'm talking with Keeley and
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Kaiser. They are a married couple.
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They're both actors. And they now have three
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beautiful children. During this conversation.
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Keeley was still pregnant and now they have welcomed their
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third baby and they are just such a lovely couple.
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This was such a great episode for me to listen, back on
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because it's so wonderful to hear the amount of support and
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respect that they have for. Each other both being actors and
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really boosting each other up and working together as a united
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front. We also talked a lot about how
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they move to a new city. They're living in Phoenix
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Arizona and they moved with a baby while pregnant.
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We talked about how they're still repped as local hires in
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Los Angeles and that they have reps in the midwest as well.
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It's really great to hear them talk about, not putting your
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life on hold, for your career and how living as a full human
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really impacts your acting. I hope everyone enjoys this may
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be listened to it twice because it really made me feel good.
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So here we go. Here is Keeley and Kaiser.
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I have so many questions for both of you because my husband
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and I are both actors. You and we just had our first
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baby. She's almost three months and I
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have so many questions for you too.
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You have 2 and 1 on the wall. One like a few weeks away.
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Yeah. So we'll have three total at
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least. We will have three total in
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November. Yeah, then.
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Oh my God, you're that close. Wow.
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Time for phase two beginning of October.
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But, you know, we'll know by November in case She's like my
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God. Oh my God.
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And what are their names and ages.
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So perdida is almost almost for. She is like creating, you know,
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it's just very should do before in October.
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Yeah. And then August is 20 months.
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So about a year, a little over a year and a half.
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Oh my gosh. Wow.
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So are you both originally from Allah?
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No, I am. I'm from.
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L.a.? Okay, I'm from Minneapolis area.
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Really, but I lived in La for long enough.
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Yeah, but doesn't your so yeah. Long enough.
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Did you guys meet in l.a.? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Should we, we met on the cast of sketch?
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Comedy group was called, TMI Hollywood, I think it was LA's
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longest-running weekly, topical sketch, Live sketch show.
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Yeah, so that's amazing. So let's go So you are already
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in a lake because you lived here and then you moved here and how
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long till you guys met? How long did you live here.
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I had lived in LA and so we met in 2016 and we got married a
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year after we met so yeah. Yeah.
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So how okay, well now I'm trying to do that.
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How about you now you guys live in Arizona.
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Yes? Yeah.
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Yeah, yeah, 1/4. But we're here mostly because
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it's just calm and easy. Yeah, we love it.
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There's whenever we're working somewhere, that's what we are.
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So and then now we go back to LA because that's where my God Josh
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I'm super close. To Burbank.
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Yeah, but you guys, we're in like Toluca Lake North Hollywood
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Studio City. Like rubbing
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long. Have you guys been in Arizona?
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It'll be two years in a couple of weeks here.
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So, Yeah. Okay.
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So what made you guys move to Arizona so much?
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I mean I would have paper, I don't know.
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So so month and a half and two, you know, pandemic let's move in
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2020 at the end of time. Yeah, you know, Kili and our
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daughter brigitta who is not even to.
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At the time I hadn't left the house in 45 days because because
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You guys remember la? I think it's going to be a long
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time before this gets better, here.
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I think we need to leave. This apartment, probably l.a.
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maybe California. This is like, I think we need a
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space. You know, I think we need to
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just get some space. So Michelle and I had never
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lived officially weird anywhere else.
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I've traveled a bunch, but I never liked left LA because I'm
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from your family's there. So I always lived in LA and so I
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was like, maybe it's time for an Adventure Bay can get out.
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And we were kind of like, you know, if there's any time to do
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this, we're like, it's probably now.
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Because everything was going remote to the line.
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And so we took a huge leap of faith going.
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Hopefully it stays that way, you know, it in a sense of like
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hopefully people adapt and really enjoy the that they can
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work remote and go on a lot of things from home, or from
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wherever or just fly in for jobs and so far that bet has paid off
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because it definitely has happened.
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And so we're glad that he made that jump because we were like,
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also at that time, I'm sure that like someone who looks greens
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having a Got other job, things and switch financials and adjust
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financials. So for us, we were like well
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this is going to cut the cost of living cost of living was a lot
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better. The time it's still better but
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it's obviously, everybody's cost of living has changed because
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living at the time, Arizona compared to La was much lower.
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So when we moved, it was a huge break in our finances.
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Like we were like, wow, this is amazing.
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Like within the month that we moved, we were already seeing
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the benefits of moving. So when you moved, you just had
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the one daughter. Yeah, I was six months pregnant.
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Oh my God. You move during a pandemic.
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So it's someone's pregnant. I'm like, you know, from one
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state to the other. So yeah, it was absent but we
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actually like, so most of our furniture because like, we're
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just going to travel light and it was it was a whole like, it
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was a whole crazy thing. But I think because like at the
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time everything was so a world was so different that it's like
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we were like, you know what, we're just gonna sell our stuff.
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We're going to do this adventure with it.
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Big lie, Buffet, who know, I didn't even see the city that we
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were willing to. I had no idea.
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I'd only been to Phoenix a couple times prior for
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volleyball tournaments in college.
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So I really had no idea what like any of the other little
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towns and the area's look like but his sister would go this
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way. So he knew what it looked like
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and he was like, it's really cute and like great.
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I trust your judgment. Let's go.
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Wow. So do you have any family near
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where you are? Now we do now.
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Yeah, I mean, first one, we moved out here, the only one
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here was assis. Mr. With her kids and you're
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like okay that was one of the things was to at least be close
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to some family because we're like, you know, probably close
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with my family like super close and even though he hasn't lived
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near much of this family since moncelli, he's close with them.
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So we're like we need to be close with our family somehow
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either side. And so we're like we're only six
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hours away from mine driving back to LA with you've done
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multiple times with the kids who can talk about that too.
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Later really is Arizona and I just think I don't know, it's
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close its quick. It's honestly and then we one of
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the things you know first bench when she first because we got
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him about a state and I was like go to Arizona and then I was
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like well then I guess we're saying goodbye to our acting
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careers and she said well how long does it take to get back
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from really from Arizona? And I did the math and I was
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like well she did. He used to go visit his sister.
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Yeah. And I'd come I had come back
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from trips Arizona for auditions and stuff in LA.
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And that kind of thing I was like, well actually Like that
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time you go to the airport, get on a plane and you're in
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Burbank, it's about two hours from, like, from door, to door
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is about 2 hours and and was like, gosh, when we were living
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in the marina, it took two and a half hours to get to Burbank
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sometimes and we're closer to the studios in Phoenix than we
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are in Los Angeles. That is why we chose that the
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next state over because we're like, we're close enough that if
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we need to get back to for family, emergency to or her
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work. If we get like a next day
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turnaround thing. We look something on that.
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I can you be here tomorrow? We should did happen and so we
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have like it's having multiple times.
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Like we've been like we get the notice that night for that we
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booked something like, can you be here tomorrow?
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So I should show this pain or, or they're just like oh can you
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be in like Playa del Rey tomorrow at 3:00 like?
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Yep, sure can and I'll talk to him will be like going to start
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packing. But that job.
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So when that happens do you, is it usually just for for one of
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you I would assume. So then do you are all good.
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Do you know where it was going to be a little bit longer trip?
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Or if we felt like we could all use the trip or we felt like it
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could be a good just opportunity for us to spend a little more
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time there. We've done it.
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There are a couple of jobs. I've just flown in floor in the
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film, so I'm back same day and like they do a lot of VoiceOver
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as well and some of them wanted it in studio and so usually I
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can just do it for my studio, but fly in, do the job fly back
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out and that it's been like well there's no point in lugging
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everyone along for that but yeah.
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Well now I have a question because my husband is trying to
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do. He does voiceover stuff too.
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He does a lot of audiobooks and I'm sure Sure he would have a
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lot of questions for you because he likes set up a.
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He has like it's recording closet, like I call it like a
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little coffin, but how do you manage to do?
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It went when you have kids. Like, we thought beforehand were
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like oh when she naps but it's like how how do you do it?
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Is it just like you get time, you record and you know, I feel
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ya. So we, you know, I do most of my
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auditions and stuff at night after the kids have gone to bed.
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You know. Here we moved into a house now
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and so we've got there's three bedrooms and the we've made a
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priority of finding master bedrooms that have walk-in
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closets, so that there can be a door in between and close things
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in and stuff and so that we're not going to wake up the kids.
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I mean, you know, even When like our kids have been in the master
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bedroom with us it when I was in the walk-in closet and I would
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add the, you know, sound proof that closed the door and I mean
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to sound rude, to some extent. But I've never woken them up
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even when I'm doing efforts, and yells and crazy stuff like that.
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So when it comes to doing jobs, a tiny broadcast quality and
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that kind of thing. Usually, she'll take them out of
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the house, but we haven't even done it, where they're in a
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different room and and just on the other side, Of the apartment
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or the house. So getting more spaces help
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because it's like moving out here we all did get a little bit
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bigger place which really helped us because we can keep people on
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opposite ends. So I'm curious.
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So you guys were acting before you had kids, what were your
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fears before having them like as in terms of like the business, I
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know it's probably I've I assume different for both of you.
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I know that like being pregnant and like and then going through
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childbirth, like obviously you have a whole different thing
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going on but like for both of you what were like any Any fears
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or like thoughts? Once you like found out the
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first time versus the second and the third place each time
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different well we got so I think I'll just mention when we got
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married like basically European that we just knew we know and
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it's that very fairly quickly and then three months after
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getting married. We got pregnant with our first
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and so yeah. I think First time around, I
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felt really confident but I'm like, I feel like I'll like be
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that way and like, not maybe I'm like, not fully thinking things
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through, I don't know, but sometimes I'll be like super
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confident about stuff. So, I felt really like confident
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about that pregnancy because like, I can't wait to be a mom,
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I've always wanted to be a mom. I know I wanted a big family, so
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so excited and I know that I'm at the right person and we were
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meant to be together. So I was really excited to get
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our lives started, you know, because it's it, is that feeling
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of like, I feel like we're really building something here,
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where you know, having kids, right?
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Things Souls. It's amazing.
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So it's like it's so exciting and so you know it's very
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nerve-wracking because you got a like there's so much unknown on
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the other end of like, oh well, my body go back to how it was
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before. Like you know, what will that
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look like? Because I love playing sports
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and love being fit. So I was like, I don't know why
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he heard so many like, you know, stories and usually wants to
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tell the bad stories, like, you'll hear people who just tell
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you about horror birth stories of my kind of crazy stuff in
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like, Like positive stuff out there so you know, I was just
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keeping myself positive and you know, having a good outlook on
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all that and I think like I was just trusting I'm like trapped
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so much. Trust them.
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Just that like we're meant to do this as women like this is, you
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know, not about the like I don't want to be fearful about birth.
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I was like, you know what, our bodies are meant to do it.
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We can do it like that. I'm going to trust in the
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process if you enter for a million years.
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Exactly. So I was like, I'm going to
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trust in the process. This is what my body.
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Meant to do it, I am. And I was like, you know what?
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If I helped you clean, the start working out again afterwards
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when I feel ready, which I actually waited a long time
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longer and longer than I do, the second camera because I just I
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didn't quite know like what my body is going to feel like or
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anything. So I waited longer than I needed
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to but then once I started working out again and just we
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were eating clean the whole time, it was like boom right
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back to my normal self what I had before.
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And so it, you know, that was really great confidence to go.
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Oh I can do this again and Now, I know kind of a rhythm of it,
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you know, you do a lot of Fitness.
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Yeah, right. So yeah, that was definitely
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something wrong, like, you know, the unknown, we got, you know,
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worried about the unknown. You never know.
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So, really good to show myself that I could do that, and get
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back to where I was before, and feel really good about that and
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it feels just great to be healthy and be able to move
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around nicely because you're going to take some kids do that.
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But I know it's definitely. I'm worried about like only one
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addition to that, I slow down, which they do.
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It is a bit of a Hiatus, but it doesn't have to be every time
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I've been pregnant. I've self submitted myself a
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project. That seemed interesting.
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And honestly, like, I didn't start showing until the first
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one. I did show until six months
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actually shot an independent pilot with perdita in India at
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six months. And no one knew I was pregnant
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which is clean. Again, the character was very
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kind of baggy clothes so if it was fitted they might have known
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but close so that was fun. No one.
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New and then thinking later on because we needed to do some
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reshoots and so people found it at that point but it all worked
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out. I need to be a little baggy
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here. Yeah, exactly.
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You just shift gears, mentally for me at least where I'm like,
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I'm going to work on my craft and be in class.
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I mean we're always in class but when I'm pregnant too I'm like
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okay. When I really do everything I
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can that I might not be able to do while I'm pregnant.
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I'm doing all the other things where it's like, you know, I'm
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really focused on getting a getting getting better, reaching
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new levels in my work and doing a class and working hard on that
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and then we write a lot and so it's like if you will shift, use
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write a lot and then I'm also like look, let's look further
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York. Career while I'm pregnant
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because I won't get as my job. Let's just, you know, don't get
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as many opportunities and so it's nice to be like, let's put
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yours in as much full motion as we can.
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You know? Because you can go out and do
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stuff. I can hang out here, and so
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that's something that people love to.
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Yeah. And I think you're funny, you're
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pregnant, I was always boiling. Like the warmest at night, which
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is so weird. Yeah, I'd be like, it's hot.
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He's like, it's freezing in here.
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If I just turn down the air a little bit because it's freaking
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freezing. It like, no put on a sweater.
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Well, it should be like, well I was pulled earlier but she's
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wearing a sweatshirt and I'm like, I don't know.
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Pregnant, you get whatever you want the third time.
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Yes, in the acting business. Like there's so much uncertainty
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already. Like you never know what's going
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to be what the next day is going to look like over the next
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couple of months are going to look like.
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So this idea of Like of going like well I have to wait till I
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get everything set before I live my life.
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Yeah can really leave. You never living your life and
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just waiting for your career to you know.
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So if you're someone who goes, I think my life is meant to be
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more than just my my career and I think both of us have that and
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Instagram and I mean something I've taken to say in the last
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few years is that they show my demo reel at my feet.
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General. I've made a terrible mistake and
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and I know absolutely. And so it's just going to I'm
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not going to put. There's no reason to put our
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lives on hold because it adds an element of uncertainty.
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This is a really uncertain career as it is.
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So might as well live the life that you want.
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Yeah. Be okay.
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With the uncertainty. Like we didn't get into this for
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certainty. So yeah, I love doing it.
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So it's like, you know, you want to keep doing.
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What you love and we absolutely love love acting like that could
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love, right? It's that's why we're going to
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keep doing it and that's why I think having that thought of
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like it's a marathon not a Sprint.
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Yeah. Is a great.
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It's just a great phrase to know because it's so true.
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It's like yeah you gotta live your life and keep going because
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it's like what do you only play on acting and your youthful
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young ears? Are you going along like a
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career? A lot of longevity and it's like
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that's you want to keep asking you at one of fizzle out at some
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point and then people go add, you know, we don't want them
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anymore and it's like Like no knowing what you don't want
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career. So it's like lick, it makes it
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richer to. And I'm sure you're noticing
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that wealth of emotion. Now, that your path is your mom
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would like you can cry at the drop of a hat.
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I had a battery commercial, you know, that mean like living your
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life. If you live up the whole as a
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whole person and you live a fuller life that has made me a
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much. More emotionally available actor
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than before that before that. I mean, you know, that it's the
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life stuff happening that, you know, they keep their emotions
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that you've never experienced before until you are responsible
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for another human life, you know, and really responsible.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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So I think. Yeah.
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I mean there. Are there things?
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I never knew that. I couldn't possibly know how to
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act, or they did not exist in me before having kids.
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So, I think I've seen exponential growth as an actor
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in the time since since we've had kids.
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And so same here. I mean, yeah, we both felt
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Challenge to rise to and boy, it's so much more of a challenge
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when you are pregnant with your third.
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We have two little ones. I'm like you have such an even
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even heal, you know temperament. But I'm like, wow, I'm really,
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really getting pushed sometimes because it's like we got one who
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like tops, and she's amazing vocabulary and amazing
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conversations, but it's pretty non-stop like sometimes, you
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can't get a job. So I mean, it's just it's, it's,
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I think it's like it. You're doing you're being pushed
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so much. And then also, like, we're still
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wanting to bring as much like all the professionalism that we,
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if you want to be great at our craft and do all that.
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So it we both have had conversations, right?
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When we became parents, we were we talked a lot, right?
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But we talk a lot when we were dating and engaged in all that
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like how come on and raise the kids and how they want to also
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still have, you know, still go after our careers.
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It's so important to do that. It's been a lot of those like,
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prep conversations to know how Both approaching at how your
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proteins together and then I think something fun about what
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we talked about. Just when Brody was a little too
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was, okay, we need to be really efficient in our process so we
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need to get really good at what we do and also we can't take
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days to work on the character, right?
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We need to be so efficient and the great thing is like,
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especially with like self tapes. The turnaround is so quickly.
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As you know, it's like fast turnarounds and so for us being
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like, you know, we have limited time during the day.
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Work on these things will be swapping the kids between us
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instead of like a juggling thing but I think we've got a really,
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really good. Yeah and so it's like, you know,
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staying in class getting really good at your process and honing,
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pwning that bin. So you know you know you can
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immediately turn stuff around. Yeah.
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We've been like this is again like five pages and do an
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amazing job like a really great job.
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Like I look at that and I go That's one that's the as I'm as
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proud of that auditioned as anything I've ever done.
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It's like I think you know we go.
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Okay and he two to three hours for that, you know?
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And and it's like you know it reminds me of like college when
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you have like your exams and everything.
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I like you, you know, the time for you know when you have a
25:15
full load of classes it's like I only have this amount of time
25:18
for you know these classes to study for them and get it done.
25:20
And he has a deadline all this stuff seems like it's the same
25:22
thing. But now it's, you know, with
25:25
this and so it's like we had conversations about that were
25:27
like Look, we're gonna have to come really efficient at what we
25:29
do. I'm going to have to really hone
25:31
in our process. Yeah, we can't procrastinate.
25:34
And that's another thing is, we can't procrastinate.
25:37
We like, we can be like, I'm going to do that tomorrow.
25:39
It's like for us we, if we get a self tape or like pretty much,
25:43
were calling up right away if you want to do a coach and
25:45
making sure we can get it as soon as we can, which means then
25:48
whichever one you actually need to prep the other.
25:57
It do self tapes. Like if it kill you if you have
26:01
an audition do you guys are, do you read with her and then do
26:05
good when the kids are like a sleep or like so yeah going in
26:10
line with that basically. So whichever one of us gets one,
26:13
it'll be like, okay, we're trying to get a coaching if we
26:16
can you know quickly or if we feel like we don't need a
26:19
coaching for that one or more, like the pretty much for like
26:22
we're good to go. This is definitely done this
26:24
before we know that character and so well.
26:27
Well then go, you're going to take tonight.
26:30
We always tape after the kids go to bed and there hasn't been
26:33
anything. What's been so short that it's
26:34
like immediately in a couple hours.
26:37
Turn it around for voiceover. Yes, but that's different.
26:40
And if there are also commercial actually just have just had one
26:42
the other day where they like 4:00 and they were like and a
26:46
day can you get a tape in for commercial commercial stuff?
26:57
You know, you do want to make sure that you're feeling feeling
27:01
really good and fully in the character, really get into that
27:03
head space. So it does take a little bit
27:05
longer. And so we want to take those at
27:06
night. Basically, we're taking the
27:08
night, we get the oxygen. Although sometimes, sometimes
27:10
what we've done, we've like, if we're doing a coaching on an
27:15
echo thing, which I mean most bigger theatrical stuff.
27:19
We're coaching on, you know, it's always nice to get another
27:22
set of. But so sometimes we will do is
27:24
one personal. Take the kids out and personal
27:26
coach and tape with the Coach over zoom and we just would like
27:31
that too. And so then we can do that
27:32
anytime a day but yeah, yeah, way to do that.
27:35
So that's been the case is well, sometimes it always just depends
27:38
but usually were Taping that night or if it's a longer
27:42
deadline, it might be the next night.
27:44
But honestly, we're trying to turn this around as fast as we
27:46
can because it one that's great because when we get in sooner,
27:49
but then also and we've talked about it because their promises
27:51
got so efficient, like it's taken time to get to that point
27:55
and, and I do this, but, but I do the right things about Acid.
27:58
And for a while in class, we were always trying to go.
28:01
What is the? Let me bite off as much as I can
28:04
possibly do in here. So it was like you can do one
28:06
two or three scenes from this one, you know, series regular
28:10
auditions like great, I'm doing all three scenes and we're going
28:13
to start prepping on Monday night for Wednesday class.
28:17
You know, I like challenging ourselves whatever.
28:18
Like, you know with Alex and whatever he'd put in one were
28:21
like there was a page monologue within the scene of, you know,
28:25
pick the artist one amazing, the heart.
28:28
The hardest one because we're like, well, we want to push
28:31
ourselves as far as an audition might ask of us deliver on that
28:35
because further, yeah, to do that we want to be able to do
28:42
that because we know we've got the kids we have a limited time
28:47
of when it's quiet in the house. So, you know, and I or one of us
28:51
takes the kids and we have a reader or resume, but the
28:56
pushing ourselves To really get it, get our process in that
29:01
trial. Yeah, it's been great because
29:03
now honestly, I feel so confident in what I do.
29:06
And so does he and it's like, I mean, it's amazing.
29:08
It from where we were before kids to now.
29:11
Yeah, I mean the fact that we can't repress me has made us
29:14
better professionals at our job. Yeah.
29:16
Positioning the other day that like, you know, in for the like
29:20
the last six months, I would say for the first time in my life
29:24
experiencing that like Every audition I'm turning in.
29:28
I'm going. I bet that's that's the best
29:32
audition I've ever turned in. You know, for every every single
29:35
one for, you know, and in fact, I think I'm not totally insane
29:55
business. This career choice is very, you
29:58
know, changing all the time. So how do you?
30:03
And we we love you. Probably did the same feel the
30:07
same way. I assume how like you're showing
30:11
your kids like that. You want to stick with something
30:15
and pursue follow your dreams. You know, you can face rejection
30:20
and keep going and all of that. But at the same time, how do you
30:25
find consistency with your children?
30:30
Your family as opposed to the inconsistency of the business.
30:36
Like, I don't know if it's just like, making sure you're doing
30:39
like, I don't know, family dinner or whatever it is.
30:44
How do you balance? Consistency for kids and
30:50
inconsistency of what we've chosen.
30:54
Yeah, well, I think that was a little like, a long question.
31:02
I think. So it was just, we were
31:04
listening to somebody the other day, some, you know, rice Darby
31:09
Darby, who is however, you say his name who is saying, like,
31:13
even the most of the most successful actors were still,
31:16
being most of their time on employer, you know, and and he's
31:20
like and so like honestly we have a barely I mean after least
31:29
consistent schedule I wake up with the kids at 6:30 in the
31:32
morning and we hang out for a couple hours and then pregnant.
31:57
Nice. Because, you know, we're able to
31:59
do things and then we'll like, if we need to be anywhere, we
32:01
also now have the money to travel there and recover the
32:04
cost of a, you know, for some big shows, you know, you want to
32:08
if you book a Big Show and it's like looking for a local hire
32:10
but it's a great guest star role and it be something amazing for
32:14
your career to move forward. It's like now we have the
32:18
ability to do that without even like that which is amazing.
32:22
It was so because we changed but in
32:51
a month, And so it's like sometimes, maybe just kind of
32:59
like, they probably I think we think we like to think they see
33:03
it as a vacation. Yeah.
33:05
Yeah. Yeah.
33:32
Make it all cohesive. Yeah and I know I've asked you I
33:37
think I already asked you outside the podcast but but how
33:45
do you guys? I know like you said that you
33:48
the money has been better since like not living in like the most
33:52
expensive city in the world but what do you do?
33:57
Or like, what is, like, you're consistent income?
34:00
Or are you making enough from these jobs to suffice?
34:06
Is that the right word? Yeah, I feel like there's been
34:10
like yours that were like, you know, we have made a lot acting,
34:15
like, right before. Right before we got, married was
34:17
like, the first year that I fully made money just being an
34:21
actress, which is like a huge goal of mine.
34:23
Right? Before we got there, I was like
34:24
full year of like just you and I was like, oh my gosh, it's
34:26
amazing because it Beautiful. But again, it's like that always
34:29
changes because again, there's the consistency and you never
34:32
know. So that always changes, but
34:35
voiceover has been a huge huge. Yeah, yes, special sales
34:47
background and so like I still work in, you know, when I can
34:52
sell stuff, I sell stuff. So I do some work in Precious
34:56
Metals. And as a broker for a precious
34:59
metals company and that's just kind of it comes in when it
35:01
comes in and so that's nice but voiceover is a big part of it
35:07
where that's been very helpful and writing as well as writing
35:09
all the different Avenues converging or it's like it all,
35:13
it all works out. But what do you guys, right?
35:15
So yeah, so I'm going to couple of books written a couple of
35:22
nonfiction books that are published in and that kind of
35:25
thing. And then we write right pilots
35:29
and sketch comedy together. And I used to write for there's
35:34
this show that I also I was a, it was a, like, educational and
35:38
comedy thing about spirituality and that I was a writer for it
35:44
as well as as a host of it and stuff.
35:48
And, you know, was able to make money doing both the writing and
35:52
then also the hosting part of it too.
35:54
So, which is, which is nice. Yeah.
35:57
You know it's always different every year how the fight?
36:01
Yeah we're have covered what the different pieces and apply our.
36:05
It's what I do. It's amazing how wildly
36:09
different each other and yeah, it's funny like keeping our cost
36:25
of living, you know? Keep a living somewhere that
36:29
were always feeling like that's well within our means and it's
36:32
working out well. And then just, you know, having
36:35
her different expenses in categories of savings and all
36:39
those things that we do, it really helps and then cutting
36:42
the cutting the overhead of where we lived.
36:44
I'll be so much. Yeah, so I assume your reps are
36:49
in Allah. Sorry, yeah.
36:52
Actually have a lot of different reps across the country, believe
36:56
we have My voiceover represent LA and our managers better.
37:02
LOL. We have an agent here in Arizona
37:09
in Chicago. She's she's great.
37:16
Yeah, it's really fun being more available to these local markets
37:20
doing over these other markets because yes it's it's no worry
37:24
test to travel now and it I meant I remember before we Got
37:27
married that like that, thought of like my book, something
37:30
somewhere else, and you have to get this out there.
37:32
It's like, oh well don't do that, you know, I've never seen
37:37
before, pandemic, I had an Asian to Atlanta and, and at the
37:43
beginning of covid, they dropped all their out of out-of-state
37:47
clients, because it was friction, is around that goes
37:51
up, but there was one time of users.
37:54
Probably 25th, 2016, maybe that I guess 2016.
37:56
I was working. Job in Atlanta.
37:59
And I they have extended it by a day or I had gotten the date
38:02
wrong or something like that and I was like, shoot, I didn't
38:04
change my flight and I was like, I'm going to like take out
38:08
another credit card because I don't have the money to extend.
38:11
My stay here another one day and they the future, please feed for
38:15
the credit card and for the airline.
38:19
And so that was, it was kind of a crazy thing to do.
38:24
Then, go guest, something's got to change here in.
38:27
Oh, No. So yeah.
38:29
So again here you have kids and then that's yeah.
38:34
But so were there any differences like telling your
38:41
Raps like her or just in general like feedback or differences
38:49
between, you know, a woman and a man having a family curious if
38:55
you've gotten any Negativity, or if it's or positivity or like,
39:02
how your, how both of you, if there's been a difference
39:06
between the two of you, if like, one of you who's got - I don't
39:12
know. Well, no, I mean, I was worried
39:16
that, that would be the case. I mean, maybe he prior to not
39:21
put the people that I was with an m, with through all these
39:25
pregnancies. Well, they've all been In a
39:27
really great about it, but I think you beforehand, I had some
39:30
concern about it, like I'm like, oh, I don't know how some people
39:33
act react to this and I knew some other people's managers
39:36
just from hearing stories, right?
39:38
Did not react well. So that was also kind of like a
39:41
but only telling you the horror stories, right?
39:46
Exactly. But like you want want to know
39:49
and like you know, a little nervous but right now, And a lot
39:58
of them are moms and so it's really cool because they're very
40:01
supportive and, you know, it was going a little nervous being
40:03
like and start showing around here, but we like they came back
40:11
super supportive. Our manager is super supportive
40:15
and I forgot also that other agency that my fitness agency in
40:18
La so supportive about it. Yeah, it's so nice and it's
40:22
like, it feels so good to know about, that, Chicago agent.
40:24
So supportive. Our local agent was like our
40:27
local Agent here in Arizona, she was like, great.
40:28
I'm gonna make it work for you and then because she got so
40:31
excited to like we're gonna sell that bump and you'll be getting
40:34
all these commercials. And yeah,
40:46
it's been overwhelmingly positive and so wonderful that
40:49
it was accepted that way and it's like, of course, you know,
40:52
if you go on a little bit of a Hiatus, but I feel like I'm the
40:55
type that like, it's not does not.
40:57
Sit still, and I think we you and we have emphasized in
41:03
speaking to reps and not just about having kids.
41:08
But also then like we're moving to Las Vegas moving out of LA
41:11
and that kind of thing of like a supportive about that here in
41:14
Jerry's here is what we believe are to be is going to be a
41:16
realistic impact and the time frame in which they're the demo.
41:21
So, you know, it's like, okay from about eight months to three
41:25
to four months, postpartum will probably be Be limited me being
41:29
Limited in availability to shoot difficult things.
41:33
Yeah, and for me is a little bit easier because I'm like, month
41:36
of October don't book me for anything and then we're good.
41:41
I always liked have now after having my first and knowing what
41:44
the backside of it is, because it's like they're definitely has
41:47
like a fourth trimester, you know, about three months
41:49
postpartum. That's three months three months
41:52
after is when I start to actually just feel like I'm back
41:55
to normal in a way or banging her.
41:57
For example, being and so at like, it was funny because
42:02
someone was a guy, actually, a guy that I was working with and
42:07
he was like, oh, so you're gonna like after you have the baby,
42:09
you'll probably take a year off and I'm like, no, it isn't.
42:12
I will never have any word but I don't take a year off.
42:17
I'm like I'm I actually like until I had pregnancy brain when
42:20
you were asked about the different pregnancies.
42:22
So with obviously were writing a lot because that's what we could
42:24
do. During the pandemic will shift
42:25
gears and just be like monster straight.
42:27
Because nothing's being shot or, you know, look like that and
42:30
it's something with the third. Now, I was like, you know, doing
42:35
doing what I can, and self submitted for some fun things
42:38
that I thought, hey it, maybe it'll work, who knows?
42:41
But, you know, look a little Pregnant.
42:43
And So, I another pilot while pregnant here.
42:46
And then yeah, seven months pregnant.
42:49
When she was kind of crazy. I was like, oh my gosh it was a
42:52
it was shot quickly and I had a lot of seeds, which is super
42:56
fun. And There's it was awesome to
42:59
push myself to do that. But then also I was like, I'm
43:01
seven months, pregnant has a lot of people like they did on the
43:04
set there. Like know a lot of people do
43:06
this at like this late of pregnancy and I was like, yeah,
43:10
yeah. But I'm happy to be here and I
43:12
had such a good time doing it as funny because it's like I get so
43:15
hyper focused and enjoy. What I'm doing so much that I
43:18
did not feel pregnant the entire time I was there.
43:22
Well, after the chutes were done, though, I was like, I need
43:26
like three or four days to recover.
43:27
Ever just because I was like, oh well I worked, I work.
43:30
My butt off. But it was super fun, so I loved
43:32
it. And then, what else?
43:35
Oh yeah. And then we, and we've written a
43:36
lot as well. So it's like and, you know,
43:38
doing the commercial that Ivory Stephen between genders.
43:41
It's fun. Just you know, seeing what's
43:43
possible while you're pregnant to, you know, like seeing.
43:46
Yeah, maybe there's still opportunity out there.
43:49
Let's see. And I also got some auditions
43:51
for actual pregnant roles with the Chicago agent, there was a
43:57
Network shows and they wanted a real pregnant woman.
43:59
So that was that was cool to see that coming into because I do
44:03
that with the last two pregnancies, I did see what this
44:05
one. So it's like, there are
44:06
opportunities out there, you know, you just have to stay
44:08
available for them. Yeah, yeah, I was surprised with
44:12
the number of pregnant audition while you're pregnant.
44:16
Yeah. Yeah.
44:19
I'm always surprised when it is, you know, people are like, how
44:23
are you going to take time off and all that?
44:26
And it's like, It is interesting like did like you're saying,
44:31
usually, we'll wait like three months after to like start
44:36
working again. Or were you just kind of like,
44:39
we'll see what comes in after each of the pregnancies.
44:42
Or did you take like a specific amount of time where you were,
44:46
like, I'll let you know when I'm ready to get back to
44:49
auditioning. I'll be the first time where I
44:51
didn't know what to expect, so it's kind of just like, well,
44:54
we'll just see what happens is. You never go ahead and
44:56
pregnancies, if it's Hire her cover.
44:58
Hopefully, they all, you know, if you had a good kindness and
45:01
hopefully all go the same, you know, your book for yeah.
45:04
You never know. Every every pregnancy they say
45:06
can be different, and so you just hold it folks.
45:09
So if you know if they are the same as my first, mm was, which
45:13
the second one was, and I'm hoping this one will be 2.
45:15
I know about if I don't post events all feel back to myself.
45:19
So that's when I'm like great, we can bend them, ready, bear
45:21
are running and if he needs to take over with the kids, we do
45:25
not pre months. Been pretty much More solid and
45:28
durable at that time, you know? Yeah, editions.
45:33
Yeah. Confident physically because
45:59
it's like you know you just it's an adjustment but I think that
46:02
was like the first time around. I think the second time around
46:05
but pretty good immediately after I like it just you know,
46:09
because you feel like, okay I got this.
46:11
I know I know the way this shakes out because everything we
46:14
love another one to run after still the time of Reckoning and
46:18
then you have this time around to, it's like now I enjoy
46:22
planning. The postpartum Journey bunch of
46:24
results. I was excited.
46:57
During that time I do and you know there's a ton of stuff like
47:01
there's so many things like fix my online accounts all my yeah.
47:06
Maybe a little bit too. Like just setting up a headshot
47:09
session when I feel back to not be doing it like just all the
47:12
things I can get in line that like, I have time to just kind
47:14
of sit and you while I'm nursing or writing or or you know,
47:17
reaching out to other people networking more just, you know
47:21
am like just finding your opportunity where you can and
47:25
you know, shifting gears to volleyball.
47:27
You can and just kind of any other thing, too, is being
47:29
patient with yourself. So, like, when I say shifting
47:32
gears, I'm like, that's me going, it's okay.
47:34
That things are going to slow down, or get a little different.
47:38
No, you're going to shift back into that full force, momentum
47:42
of auditioning, and doing all the other stuff later on.
47:44
So it's like, might as well just give yourself a break, take a
47:47
breath and enjoy that time because it is a special time
47:52
like all the nursing and all the closeness in the little people
47:55
like teeny baby stuff. Like it's so Fast of that Parts
47:58
over with it. It is just enjoy it.
48:01
Like, you know, if you don't want to push yourself like
48:03
crazy, take that time to really enjoy it because it really does
48:07
change at three months. It's like they start changing
48:10
and they start changing every three months.
48:11
And then after that, it's like every month.
48:14
And then, every two weeks, they start changing.
48:16
So it's it's yeah, just giving yourself that time to do that.
48:26
That's a good. Headspace to be in like, you
48:29
seem very like, Zen about the whole thing.
48:57
Go right back into it before. I know it, you know.
49:00
Yeah, that's good. Um, what age do you guys think
49:04
it was? I will I know, I guess.
49:06
Now it's different because you have multiple.
49:09
But what, what ages do you think so far?
49:14
I guess that have have been easier when it comes to like
49:19
career stuff and like auditioning and going places of
49:26
what has been like Like more challenging like is it easier
49:30
when they are three months and can't move yet.
49:35
Like, I'm trying to take advantage of her neck not
49:39
pulling anything down and all that.
49:43
Or is it like did you find it more challenging?
49:46
Because they were colicky or I don't know.
49:49
Like how how have you stuff changes?
49:54
So frequently that it's hard to nail down Now, largely forgotten
49:58
but so, I don't know if I can say age brackets.
50:02
But there are these sweet spots that show up every few months,
50:05
where for a month or two like, they'll be, you know, just like
50:12
competent enough that they don't require 24.
50:17
You know, like every second supervision competent enough
50:20
without being overconfident, so they don't require every second
50:25
supervision. Yeah.
50:27
But Then the balance shifts and confident than they are
50:30
competent at what they think. They should we go and I'm like,
50:33
but now I've got to watch you all the time because I
50:41
understand what you mean, where it's like you have to like laser
50:44
for. Yeah, you can turn your like it.
50:48
Look at him go. I'm going to turn this direction
50:50
and doing the dishes while you're sitting in your high
50:53
chair you're not going to try to be climbing out of your hide
50:56
show right now. Wait, you know, a few weeks
50:58
later and you're like, wait this is great and then for like a
51:01
week you're like I can do the dishes while we're hanging out
51:03
for a minute. Yeah, snacking and then you
51:06
know, two weeks go by your like I have a new routine and then
51:11
tell people about your new routine, your kids are is like
51:14
climbing out of their chair and like somehow before that they
51:17
should not have any like, well, I guess that was fun but we had
51:21
an empty. So enjoy it while it lasts.
51:24
Yeah. But I did.
51:27
They also just so, I would say that like, you know, any time
51:30
you're a new parent. Your first kid, it feels like,
51:33
oh my gosh, she wasn't such a shift of life but now having
51:36
multiple kids the new babies, the easiest right now.
51:42
But you know, the funny thing about that is like, you don't
51:47
know what until you have multiple, right, right.
51:49
Like it's like so it's almost like Go on dates.
51:58
They can sleep during the date, right next to you in the
52:01
stroller, you know? And so it's like, or like, you
52:04
know, if you guys have to work jobs, like it's, you know, it's
52:06
pretty easy to just, like, swap them between parents.
52:09
Like, they see how much you can take them on stroller walks, you
52:13
know. They're not saying no to getting
52:15
in their car seat. Yeah.
52:17
Yeah. That was one of the first things
52:19
I thought when we brought her home from the hospital, I was
52:22
like, how do people have more than one of these?
52:25
How you have a toddler? ER, at the same time but I guess
52:29
like, yeah, what I shouldn't think of having to before what I
52:34
owe me over here, what it's like.
52:36
Um, okay, so I know we don't have a ton of time left so I
52:41
definitely want to know like what is something two last
52:45
questions? What is like, you're perfect.
52:50
I know it's so hard to balance every day, but each of your
52:55
like, ideal day That would balance both your career and
53:01
family. What what what does that look
53:04
like in your like ideal balanced day?
53:11
Yeah. Okay well I mean so on like just
53:15
a date the other day to me it's like getting a couple hours of
53:19
just like family time and then us both having like a couple
53:24
hours to work together on this on the things that we share
53:27
together like writing or working on our scenes or the auditions
53:33
and that kind of thing. And and having a, at least an
53:38
hour to key in on the stuff that we each one.
53:40
I do individually for our careers.
53:44
Any time to work out to your, get it to work.
53:46
And make sure we always have that to right now.
53:48
Obviously, I've just done what feels right for my body at this
53:53
point, but made sure that like, you know, you're almost getting
53:55
into the gym every every day. Yeah.
53:58
And then obviously that shifts when it's like you're on a job
54:03
and you're working for a couple of days or a couple of weeks and
54:07
that kind of thing. And then the balance just Has to
54:10
shift for that. And, and, and that's just an
54:16
extraordinary circumstance that you just deal with it as it as
54:21
it comes. And you go, okay?
54:22
So now one of us is working right now and so we're going to
54:25
do that and it you know, sometimes it's Josh one, like
54:27
I've had a job in you've had a job and we've both been working
54:31
the same day and or parts of the same day and stuff like that.
54:34
But luckily we've been able to figure it out and then family
54:37
helps. Because when we're in, l.a. my
54:38
family can help and when we Had stuff here.
54:41
My parents ended up moving here, not too long after us because
54:45
you know that it would be a great change of pace as well
54:48
from being from La forever and yeah cost.
54:51
So they came out to Arizona that has helped a lot because there
54:55
have been times we both booked a job so my parents watch the kids
54:57
for us. Yeah.
54:58
Which is a huge help and then it were in La we both booked a job,
55:02
then used my sister's help out, which is amazing.
55:04
So you know, family has helped out so much in this in this
55:08
whole thing. And and again like You know, we
55:10
were getting a lot of auditions in Chicago to considering the
55:14
fact that like, hey might be there for a few weeks, shooting
55:16
something, which would be amazing and great would love
55:18
that. So there were people travel
55:20
together and we'll see which grandparent wants to come with
55:23
us. If need be because his parents
55:26
are not too far from the East Coast Midwest area.
55:30
So it's like you know the other set of grandparents could join
55:33
us too. So it's like you know kind of
55:35
making that work in then hopefully making it work for
55:37
everybody where you know they want to come visit.
55:40
Forbidden yeah and help out and do that.
55:42
But yeah thankfully thankfully our families have been very
55:45
helpful to Partners in. Yeah.
55:47
Yeah. Yeah.
55:49
And then what is one thing that maybe this might be the same
55:54
answer for each for both of you or different?
55:57
But what something that is like just kind of like saved you
56:02
throughout like the whole parenting thing like just either
56:07
like a product or like Saying, or just in general what what
56:14
something that's saved you as a parent in general or
56:18
specifically like apparent in the industry?
56:22
Yeah, I mean, if for a saying, we're on the same team.
56:25
Yeah, that's exactly the same things and we want the best for
56:34
each other and just, we just got to remember that.
56:36
And so if they're ever feels like a time, when going a word,
56:40
There's like conflict about arise going.
56:43
Okay, let me understand what you want more because I'm sure I
56:47
want the same thing. So let's let's make this work
56:49
for me. Talking on communicator.
57:10
Miss the beach other when things because there's times that
57:13
things get tense, and it's like my miscommunicating.
57:15
Yeah. And so that's been something
57:17
that's really helped. Yeah, and that's just saying,
57:18
sorry but saying hey, I didn't behave the way I wanted to
57:22
there, will you forgive me for that?
57:24
And then we have a person thing. Yes, I will immediately
57:40
Yeah, I'm sure that's helpful. When you When one of you book
57:48
something and the other one doesn't I'm like it is, it is
57:52
hard because yeah, you are on the same team and what's good
57:55
for one of you is good for both of you but it is hard.
57:58
If one of you book something and the other ones like, well I
58:01
didn't book what I wanted to feel like, I know, maybe I'm
58:05
just selfish but I think I think that a lot where I'm like this
58:11
right now, like, pasta is, my husband is getting a lot of
58:14
auditions and I'm like, whoa. But yeah we're on the same team
58:21
that it's a good thing to where it's like.
58:25
But again you know, maybe that's come with having multiple
58:28
pregnancies now and kind of having the like again, it's a
58:31
huge trust in the the way everything works and going you
58:36
know, I know I'm going to be busy again at some point and
58:40
he's going to have to watch the kids in the babies for, you
58:43
know, for me and and he does so much.
58:45
Oh my God, she says Wonderful kind of that it is so so much so
58:49
thankful. And so it's like, you know, kind
58:51
of just like this this time around to I was like, hey I'm
58:55
getting pregnant, I won't be able to do as much.
58:57
So let's let's get your things for you.
59:00
Let's get you out there and more.
59:02
Yeah you know, that's where we found, you know, he got that
59:05
agent in Utah and tells a great, you know, and so big.
59:08
I think it's like a the second third time around too.
59:10
So I know that like, it takes a lot of patience and a lot of
59:12
like learning to. Yeah, just be patient.
59:16
About it, I guess because I was like, I just know the reality of
59:19
it. Like it's not going to be as
59:20
much from me right now, which is fine.
59:22
And I'm like, because it again, it's like, you know, if you end
59:25
up looking something big, it's like, it's going to be great for
59:27
us and great for your career, and great for everything.
59:29
So it's like, you know, kind of going like, now is the time that
59:32
we put, you know, more wait until what you're doing.
59:36
And then I know that like you every time I've said that he's
59:38
gone. Well, no, we don't we're not
59:40
going to forget about yours. I sometimes feel like focusing
59:45
more on the other person. Then, you know, you want then in
59:48
turn do the same thing for me. Yeah, I think that's, that's the
59:52
that's the call of love, right? As to will the good of the
59:55
other. And so to challenge ourselves
59:58
with that and to go, how can I want the best good for you and
1:00:03
see that it do my part to see that it happens, you know,
1:00:06
because he has been times where, like one of us is getting, you
1:00:09
know, a bunch of great auditions in a row.
1:00:12
Yeah, hasn't heard anything and it can get frustrating, you
1:00:14
know? Yeah.
1:00:16
Real frustrating, but at the same time, it's like, I think
1:00:21
now we've gone through that and, and again, like willing to go to
1:00:25
be the person. We're really on the same team.
1:00:27
Yeah. We want the other person to have
1:00:29
these wonderful Milestone. Yeah, yeah.
1:00:34
So, we're excited. So excited even more excited
1:00:38
when like something really good comes in for him Friday, you
1:00:44
know? And so I think I know that you
1:00:46
feel that way for me, when I get ya, it's like, sometimes we'll
1:00:49
get with three or four crazy auditions in a row and the other
1:00:53
person is, it's, you know, a moment where they don't have
1:00:56
anything coming in and yeah, like, hey, Marcus Lee.
1:00:59
So I think the way we've looked at that too is going and this is
1:01:01
kind of great the way it's working out because I'd rather
1:01:04
you focus on your thing book that I can do with the kids and
1:01:08
then I know that that's going to happen for me a few weeks ago.
1:01:11
Hope I booked that you can be with, I mean, it's almost like
1:01:13
better than it's like like The positive way to look at it is
1:01:17
going like, hey, if you're busy right now, great book, all that,
1:01:20
because you're going to let it rain in 44, one of us at a time.
1:01:25
So, yeah. And just some practical, the in
1:01:29
regards to. So, a couple of things that
1:01:31
we've learned that have been real life.
1:01:33
Savers have been with this feed that baby and fatten them up
1:01:38
real quick so they'll see it better that to the book, The
1:01:43
Sleep solution helped us out a lot with the first one because
1:01:47
she was great and we should have done it better with the second
1:01:52
one, but he likes sleep. And I think well, he does now
1:01:55
but remember, they were, they were yeah.
1:02:00
Yeah, we it was tough because it was I was so tired with the one
1:02:05
that it was hard for me to lay down the law for myself about
1:02:09
doing the Sleep solution with the second one.
1:02:11
And the third thing is, is soon as they start eating solid
1:02:15
foods, get them on the toilet. Yes, that's what.
1:02:18
We've learned with between our first and our second, but he was
1:02:21
doing it. Because again, he is an amazing,
1:02:23
amazing father, and he's like this year, amazing.
1:02:27
And because I was like, I was still You know, it was hard
1:02:31
because, you know, I was so feeling very busy with both of
1:02:34
them. And so, he took it upon himself
1:02:36
to with our son, hold him on the toilet, at six months, when he
1:02:39
started eating solid food and having and you would, you could
1:02:43
tell because he was good news out to.
1:02:45
Yeah, because when they started the food, you can then tell when
1:02:49
they're going to go to the bathroom.
1:03:30
First as much longer to get. Yeah.
1:03:32
Take as much longer to get her to walk to go on the toilet.
1:03:36
Number two. Yeah, so it's so much better and
1:03:40
so we're like with the third, now we're going to do the same
1:03:42
thing holding her on it, six months because it really works.
1:03:44
And so obviously he's not fully potty-trained but he won't poop
1:03:47
in his diaper unless it's like an emergency full emergency
1:03:51
accident in the car like other than that if I think he's only
1:03:54
at like pooped in his diaper like seven times totally.
1:03:57
Yeah. Thank you guys so much.
1:04:19
I know I'm sure you're tired and exhausted and have your hands
1:04:24
full, but I'm so excited for you to be here and I'm so excited
1:04:27
for your third one. To come along.
1:04:30
I can't wait. It's so soon.
1:04:33
Please post all the pictures. Oh yeah.
1:04:38
I love seeing. I love seeing all the cooing
1:04:40
ones that you're showing the baby muzzling like the, you
1:04:43
know, the post for singing and the napping I'm like yes.
1:04:51
Well, congratulations. And thank you guys so much
1:04:53
again. Thank you.
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