Hayom Yom 26 Iyar - A necessary prerequisite for rebuking

The daily Hayom Yom with Rabbi Yosef Katzman · May 12, 2026 · 3m

Day 41 of the Omer

קוֹדֶם צִוּוּי הוֹכֵחַ תּוֹכִיחַ

Before the commandment, “You shall surely reprove [your fellowman],”

כְּתִיב וְלֹא תִשְׂנָא אֶת אָחִיךָ

it is written, “Do not hate your brother [in your heart],”

כִּי זֶהוּ תְּנַאי מוּקְדָּם לְהוֹכָחָה

for this is a necessary prerequisite for rebuking one’s fellowman.

וְאַחֲרֵי זֶה כְּתִיב וְלֹא תִשָּׂא עָלָיו חֵטְא

The same verse continues, “but do not bear a sin because of him.”

שֶׁאִם לֹא פָּעֲלָה הַהוֹכָחָה

That is, if the reproof is ineffective,

בְּוַדַּאי אַתָּה הָאָשֵׁם

it is certainly you who are to blame,

שֶׁלֹּא הָיוּ דְּבָרִים…