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Be Different: Positive Morning Motivation to Change Your Life · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter to me any longer how long I live.
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  Speaker 1: What matters to me most is how I live. Every day,
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  Speaker 1: Ask yourself that question, how you live in that you
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  Speaker 1: would not judge, that you would show up early, that
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  Speaker 1: you'd be kind, That if you're going to do something,
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  Speaker 1: you do it the right way. That it's never wrong
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  Speaker 1: to do the right thing. That how you do anything
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  Speaker 1: is how you do everything. And in that way you
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  Speaker 1: will grow your influence to make an impact. And that
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  Speaker 1: way you will honor all those who have gone before you,
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  Speaker 1: who have invested in you. Look in those unlikeliest places
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  Speaker 1: for wisdom. Enhance your life every day by seeking that
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  Speaker 1: wisdom and asking yourself every night, how am I living.
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  Speaker 2: Frederick Nietzche said, many are stubborn and pursuit of the
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  Speaker 2: path they have chosen, view in pursuit of the goal.
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  Speaker 2: And that's one of the things that really trips people
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  Speaker 2: up the way of getting there with the destination itself.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that people a lot of times throw
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  Speaker 2: hate on having a destination on the buildings towards some
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  Speaker 2: big goal of having some grand thing that they're chasing.
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  Speaker 2: But as Einstein said, if you want to live a
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  Speaker 2: happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people,
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  Speaker 2: not to.
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  Speaker 3: Things, true desire in the heart. Whatever it is you
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  Speaker 3: want to do, work hard to get it. Don't just
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  Speaker 3: aspire to make a living. Aspire to make a difference.
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  Speaker 4: That was my mindset, and that's how you get through things.
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  Speaker 5: You put yourself, You immerse yourself wherever it is you
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  Speaker 5: become that you become that, you give yourself no way else.
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  Speaker 5: The scariest thing in.
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  Speaker 6: The world to me, even to this day, was that
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  Speaker 6: that could have been the rest of my life.
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  Speaker 4: I thought then I was trying hard. That's the scariest
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  Speaker 4: thing in the world to absorb. Let life touch you.
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  Speaker 4: Don't let it kill you, but let it touch you.
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  Speaker 4: The experiences you had, the good ones and the bad ones,
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  Speaker 4: the highs and the lobes. Part of the gift you
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  Speaker 4: can give to others, the gift of your experience if
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  Speaker 4: you remember, if it's vivid, if it's powerful, if it's fresh,
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  Speaker 4: if it's unique, if it's vital, you can really affect
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  Speaker 4: other people with the relation of your own relating your
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  Speaker 4: own experiences, just because you weren't too lazy to live
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  Speaker 4: the experience and then reflect on it. Live another week
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  Speaker 4: and reflect on it. Take a half a day at
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  Speaker 4: the end of the month, reflecting over the months, what
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  Speaker 4: were the numbers, some weren't good, some were good, the
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  Speaker 4: books you read, the books you heard about, relating your
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  Speaker 4: experiences the end of the months, At the end of
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  Speaker 4: the year, take a weekend, take some time reflecting.
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  Speaker 5: How many times have you had a great idea, didn't
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  Speaker 5: do anything about it, and then a year later someone
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  Speaker 5: did something about it, made a lot of money, got
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  Speaker 5: the promotion, etc. So when you have the idea the
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  Speaker 5: inspiration to act, it's time act and you don't have
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  Speaker 5: to know it perfectly. You know you can drive from
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  Speaker 5: here to California wherever you might be, assuming you're not
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  Speaker 5: in Hawaii, by going west, and what happens is that
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  Speaker 5: you don't have to see the whole route. You only
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  Speaker 5: need to see two hundred yards ahead of you. At night,
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  Speaker 5: you can drive just with your headlights and the headlights
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  Speaker 5: keep moving with you. And your goal in life is
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  Speaker 5: to like get in the game. You don't have to
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  Speaker 5: see the whole blueprint. You just have to see the
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  Speaker 5: next steps, the next steps, the next steps, and if
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  Speaker 5: you keep taking the next steps, eventually you get to
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  Speaker 5: where you want to go. Does that makes sense? Now.
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  Speaker 5: The last thing is called law of attraction. We believe
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  Speaker 5: that when you are vibrating at the level of one
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  Speaker 5: hundred percent expectancy, that you're going to get something. It's
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  Speaker 5: already a done deal, you know, piece of cake, no
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  Speaker 5: big deal. We're going to win this thing. We're going
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  Speaker 5: to get that contract. You know, I'm going to make
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  Speaker 5: this thing happen. Then what happens is the universe literally responds.
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  Speaker 5: Sometimes when you're doing this, you're putting on the vision
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  Speaker 5: of this should happen by this date. It's okay to
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  Speaker 5: set goals like that, but sometimes it takes a week longer,
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  Speaker 5: you're longer, whatever. But law of attraction says, if you'll
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  Speaker 5: just hold the expectancy like attracts. Like if you say
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  Speaker 5: I want to be a millionaire, but I don't know
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  Speaker 5: anyone that would ever teach me how to do that,
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  Speaker 5: or I want to buy a car, but I don't
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  Speaker 5: have any money, then what you're doing is saying it's
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  Speaker 5: like calling up Domino's Pizza and saying send me a
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  Speaker 5: pizza and calling off a minute later saying never mind.
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  Speaker 5: It's like, you know, you've got to create the space
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  Speaker 5: mentally to hold this vision that you've got and that
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  Speaker 5: requires expectation, and then knowing that the perfect thing is
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  Speaker 5: on its way. In The Success Principles, I write about
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  Speaker 5: a woman named Katherine Lonigan. Katherine Loningan went off to
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  Speaker 5: college and she wanted to be a writer. And she
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  Speaker 5: took her first writing class and she got an F.
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  Speaker 5: And she went to see the teacher and said, why
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  Speaker 5: did I get an F? Says, because you can't write.
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  Speaker 5: She says, well, I'm on a scholarship, you know, here
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  Speaker 5: to be a writer. I came to be in the
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  Speaker 5: creative ing program. I was the editor of my yearbook,
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  Speaker 5: editor of my school newspaper. I wrote a play that
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  Speaker 5: was performing in high school. They told me I was gifted.
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  Speaker 5: Well you're not. He said, you know, if you stay
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  Speaker 5: in my class, you're going to flunk it. If you
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  Speaker 5: flunk my class, you'll lose your scholarship. And she said,
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  Speaker 5: well what do I do? He said, I'll make a
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  Speaker 5: deal with you. If you promised never to write again,
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  Speaker 5: just you know, history papers up, but you're not going
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  Speaker 5: to try to be a writer. I'll give you a
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  Speaker 5: passing grade, you'll keep your scholarship, change your major. So
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  Speaker 5: she did. I called it. She made the deal with
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  Speaker 5: the devil. Fifteen years later, she's down in Texas. They're
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  Speaker 5: making a movie at the next town over and down
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  Speaker 5: where she lived in Texas. You know, people would show
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  Speaker 5: up at the gas station after a rain just to
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  Speaker 5: see the oil slick. It was kind of boring there.
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  Speaker 5: So she said, Wow, they're making the movie.
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  Speaker 6: Let's go.
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  Speaker 5: So everyone drives over and everyone's talking to the movie stars.
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  Speaker 5: She's talking to the writers, saying, you know what's going on,
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  Speaker 5: what's happening, and why are you interested in us? Why
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  Speaker 5: not the movie stars? Well, I always wanted to be
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  Speaker 5: a writer. The guy said, BS, if you want to
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  Speaker 5: be a writer, you would have written. She said, I
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  Speaker 5: was told on good authority I couldn't write. It was
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  Speaker 5: a Harvard professor visiting our campus that year. He said,
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  Speaker 5: that's BS. He said, what I want you to do
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  Speaker 5: is go write something, send it to me. I'll tell
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  Speaker 5: you if you can write, I do it for a living.
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  Speaker 5: I love. So she goes and writes a book, sends
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  Speaker 5: it in to him. He sends it to an agent
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  Speaker 5: in New York and they publish it. Her next book
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  Speaker 5: was called Romancing the Stone. The book after that jul
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  Speaker 5: of the Now, both made into movies with Michael Douglas
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  Speaker 5: and Katherine Turner. So what's the deal here? Fourteen fifteen
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  Speaker 5: years of her talent wasted because she bought someone else's
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  Speaker 5: evaluation of her. My friend Terry Cole Whittaker says, she
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  Speaker 5: wrote a book called what do You Think of Me?
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  Speaker 5: As none of my business? You know, do not let
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  Speaker 5: other people's evaluations of you control you? Okay, it's just
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  Speaker 5: an e. Your response is, thank you very much. You
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  Speaker 5: keep pursuing your passionate dream.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, sacrifice. You get to pick your damn sacrifice, that's all.
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  Speaker 6: You don't get to naught me. So you're sacrificial, whether
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  Speaker 6: you want to be or not. This is the Peter
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  Speaker 6: Pan story. Roughly speaking, is Peter Pand is this magical boy?
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  Speaker 6: Pan means Pan is the god of everything roughly speaking? Right,
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  Speaker 6: and so it's not an accident that he has the
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  Speaker 6: name Pan, and he's the boy that won't grow up
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  Speaker 6: and he's magical. Well that's because children are magical. They
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  Speaker 6: can be anything. They're nothing but potential, and Peter Pan
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  Speaker 6: doesn't want to give that up. Why, Well, he's got
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  Speaker 6: some adults around him. But the main adult is Captain Hook. Well,
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  Speaker 6: who the hell wants to grow up to be Captain Hook?
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  Speaker 6: First of all, you've got a hook. Second, you're a tyrant,
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  Speaker 6: and third you're chased by the dragon of Chaos with
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  Speaker 6: a clock in its stomach. Right, the crocodile, it's already
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  Speaker 6: got a piece of you. Well, that's what happens when
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  Speaker 6: you get older. Time has already got a piece of you,
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  Speaker 6: and eventually it's got a taste for you, and eventually
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  Speaker 6: it's going to eat you. And so Hook is so
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  Speaker 6: traumatized by that that he can't help but be a tyrant.
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  Speaker 6: And then Peter Pan looks at traumatized Hook and says, well, no,
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  Speaker 6: I'm not sacrificing my childhood for that. So that's fine,
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  Speaker 6: except he ends up king Lost Boys in Neverland, Well,
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  Speaker 6: Neverland doesn't exist, and who the hell wants to be
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  Speaker 6: king of the Lost Boys? And he also sacrifices the
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  Speaker 6: possibility to help a real relationship with a woman, because
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  Speaker 6: that's Wendy, right, And she's kind of conservative, middle class,
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  Speaker 6: London dwelling girl. She wants to grow up and have
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  Speaker 6: kids and have a life. She accepts her mortality, she
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  Speaker 6: accepts her maturity. Peter Pan has to content himself with Tinkerbell.
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  Speaker 6: She doesn't even exist. She's like the fairy of porn.
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  Speaker 6: She doesn't exist. She's the substitute for the real thing.
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  Speaker 6: And so, but the dichotomy that you're talking about, it's
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  Speaker 6: very tricky because there's a sacrificial element in maturation, right,
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  Speaker 6: you have to sacrifice the pluripotentiality of childhood for the
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  Speaker 6: actuality of a frame. And the question is, well, why
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  Speaker 6: would you do that? Well, one reason is it happens
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  Speaker 6: to you whether you do it or not. You can
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  Speaker 6: chew use your damn limitation, or you can let it
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  Speaker 6: take you unaware when you're thirty, or even worse, when
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  Speaker 6: you're forty, and then that is not a happy day.
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  Speaker 6: I see people like this, and I think it's more
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  Speaker 6: and more common in our culture because people can put
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  Speaker 6: off maturity without suffering an immediate penalty. But all that
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  Speaker 6: happens is the penalty accruise, and then when it finally hits,
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  Speaker 6: it just wallops you. Because when you're twenty five you
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  Speaker 6: could be an idiot. It's no problem. Even when you're
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  Speaker 6: out in a job searts it's like, well, you don't
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  Speaker 6: have any experience in your kind of clueless it's yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 6: you're young. You know, it's no problem, we can that's
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  Speaker 6: what young people are like. But they're full of potential. Okay, well,
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  Speaker 6: now you're the same person at thirty. It's like people
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  Speaker 6: aren't so thrilled about you at that point. It's like,
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  Speaker 6: what the hell have you been doing for the last
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  Speaker 6: ten years. Well, I'm just as plueless as I was
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  Speaker 6: when I was twenty two. It's yeah, but you're not
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  Speaker 6: twenty two. You're an old infant, right, and that's an
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  Speaker 6: ugly thing, an old infant. So the part of the
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  Speaker 6: reason you choose your damn sacrifice because the sacrifice is inevitable,
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  Speaker 6: but at least you get to choose it. And then
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  Speaker 6: there's something that that's even more complex than that, in
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  Speaker 6: some sense, is that the problem with being a child
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  Speaker 6: is that all you are is potential and it's really
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  Speaker 6: low resolution. You could be anything, but you're not anything.
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  Speaker 6: So then you go and you adopt an apprenticeship, roughly speaking,
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  Speaker 6: and then you become at least you become something. And
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  Speaker 6: when you're something, that makes the world open up to
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  Speaker 6: you again. You know, like if you're a really good plumber,
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  Speaker 6: then you end up being far more than a plumber, right,
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  Speaker 6: you end up being a good employer, not not the plumbers.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not putting plumbers down. It's like more power to plumbers.
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  Speaker 6: They've saved more lives than doctors. So hygiene. Right, So
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  Speaker 6: you know, if you're a really good plumber, Well, then
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  Speaker 6: you have some employees, you run a business, you train
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  Speaker 6: some other people, you enlarge their lives. You're kind of
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  Speaker 6: a pillar of the community. You have your family. You
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  Speaker 6: can once you pass through that narrow training period which
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  Speaker 6: narrows you and constricts you and develops you at the
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  Speaker 6: same time, then you can come out to the other
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  Speaker 6: end with a bunch of new possibility at hell at
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  Speaker 6: hand and Young talked about that. He thought that the
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  Speaker 6: part of the proper path of development in the last
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  Speaker 6: half of life was to rediscover the child that you
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  Speaker 6: left behind as you were apprenticing, and so then you
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  Speaker 6: get to be something and regain that potential at the
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  Speaker 6: same time.
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  Speaker 1: Very very smart.
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  Speaker 6: Well he was very very smart. So that's very wise,
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  Speaker 6: very wise thing to know. Sacrifice. You get to pick
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  Speaker 6: your damn sacrifice, that's all. You don't get to not
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  Speaker 6: make one. So you're sacrificial, whether you want to be
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  Speaker 6: or not. That's a good thing to know as well.