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My sister-in-law insulted my parenting... so I called her out in front of everyone! -r/AmITheAsshole | Reddit Stories | EP3101 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota.
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  Speaker 3: the sponsors that keep the show alive. My sister-in-law insulted
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  Speaker 3: my parenting, so I shut her down in front of everyone.
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  Speaker 2: Hey!
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  Speaker 3: Shut up. I, 35, female, have three children, 10 male,
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  Speaker 3: 8 female, and 5 male, with my husband, who's 36.
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  Speaker 3: My younger brother, 29 male, is marrying Taya, 27 female,
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  Speaker 3: in May.
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  Speaker 1: They've been dating for a few years.
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  Speaker 3: While we've never been close, we get along okay, although
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  Speaker 3: I've never loved how she often oversteps with my kids.
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  Speaker 3: For example, giving them dessert before dinner when my husband
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  Speaker 3: and I have said no, joking about how stuffy we
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  Speaker 3: are as parents, and constantly referring to herself as the
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  Speaker 3: cool aunt.
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  Speaker 1: Something important to note is.
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  Speaker 3: That she works in fashion, which her parents often judge,
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  Speaker 3: comparing her to her siblings, who have jobs that are
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  Speaker 3: considered much more successful in our community. So she has
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  Speaker 3: a bit of a complex about it. Last night, we
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  Speaker 3: were all having dinner at my parents' place. The topic
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  Speaker 3: turned to my kids, school, and extracurriculars. My older son
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  Speaker 3: plays soccer, does piano, and does karate. My daughter does
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  Speaker 3: classical dance, art classes, and swimming. And my younger son
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  Speaker 3: does classical singing and basketball. They all have extra math
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  Speaker 3: classes once a week. By the way, this comes from
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 5: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: And we're all here to read this story. Give our
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  Speaker 3: little goofball advice about it. But just know we're not
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  Speaker 3: therapists and everyone should have one. So keep that in mind.
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  Speaker 3: And let us know what you think down in the comments,
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  Speaker 3: you little goobers. OP says, For context, I regretted my
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  Speaker 3: parents not putting me in any activities when I was
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  Speaker 3: younger and don't want my kids to feel the same way.
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  Speaker 3: My husband thinks it'll teach them time management, and hopefully
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  Speaker 3: some of these hobbies stick.
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  Speaker 1: Right now they enjoy everything, but this could change.
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  Speaker 3: It's going to boost their college applications as well when
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  Speaker 3: the time comes.
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  Speaker 1: And obviously we expect them to excel in school.
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  Speaker 3: All three can do well in their classes without effort,
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  Speaker 3: but we don't want them to coast by and burn
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  Speaker 3: out like we did. So we're firm on them actually
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  Speaker 3: studying and doing homework and blah blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 5: So anyway.
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  Speaker 3: My daughter is talking about which classes she has, which day,
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  Speaker 3: and Paya says something like, wow, I can't believe you
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  Speaker 3: keep them so busy.
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  Speaker 1: They're just kids. My husband is like, yeah, it's important
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  Speaker 1: to be well-rounded.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know why that's really funny to me. He's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: we're well-rounded. We keep the kids in line.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like they do stuff. I liked doing stuff
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  Speaker 1: when I was a kid.
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  Speaker 4: I like doing stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I do stuff. You should try it.
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  Speaker 4: I like doing stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Then later, my son is talking about how much he
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  Speaker 3: studied for a math test.
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  Speaker 1: And Paya goes, it can't have been that important, though.
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  Speaker 1: You're 10.
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  Speaker 3: You should tell your parents to let you relax. At
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  Speaker 3: this point, I get a little pissed. So I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: we want them to build good habits so that they
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  Speaker 3: can actually be successful in the future. When you have kids,
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  Speaker 3: if you want to raise them to fail, that's up
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  Speaker 3: to you. At this point, she got really upset and.
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  Speaker 1: Left the room.
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  Speaker 3: I guess she thought I was implying that she was
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  Speaker 3: a failure, which was not my intention. My brother was
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  Speaker 3: pretty mad and thought I was being unnecessarily harsh and
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  Speaker 3: that I should have known how sensitive.
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  Speaker 1: She is about this topic.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, well, to be fair, I immediately understood you're talking
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  Speaker 3: about what she's saying to your kid, not her. You're like,
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  Speaker 3: you're telling our kid, like, you're planting the seed of like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: they push you too hard.
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  Speaker 1: Take it easy. You shouldn't have to do all this.
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  Speaker 1: Shut up. My kid's going to be president astronaut. Don't
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  Speaker 1: teach him to fail.
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  Speaker 3: My parents agreed, saying that I didn't need to take
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  Speaker 3: what she said so seriously. My husband disagrees and says
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  Speaker 3: that she didn't have any place to tell us how
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  Speaker 3: to raise our kids. And maybe this will stop her
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  Speaker 3: from constantly giving us her two cents on something she
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  Speaker 3: doesn't have any experience with.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I feel bad for upsetting her because I never meant
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  Speaker 3: to insult her profession with my comment. But at the
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  Speaker 3: same time, I do kind of feel like she had
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  Speaker 3: it coming for her constant criticisms of our parenting.
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  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole? And there's an edit. I say no.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, for sticking up for, you know, your kids.
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  Speaker 6: She kind of seems like, you know, there's a T
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  Speaker 6: out there that's called constant comment.
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  Speaker 4: And it seems like that's what she is.
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  Speaker 1: What do you, she's like, she's just, she's always got
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  Speaker 1: something to say.
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  Speaker 4: She always has, yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Like, she seems, especially about the kids. Like, they're like, oh,
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  Speaker 6: we want them to succeed in life. And she's like,
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  Speaker 6: I think they should have more fun. And it's like,
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  Speaker 6: they are having fun with the things that they're doing.
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  Speaker 6: It's not like I'm forcing them to do these things.
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  Speaker 6: They like the karate. They like this. They like that,
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  Speaker 6: you know?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like, don't, she's leaning so heavy into being the
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  Speaker 3: cool aunt that, like, you're slipping on the slope.
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  Speaker 5: She's like, how old are you? Double digits? I have
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  Speaker 5: adult beverages for you.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly. Like, that's how, it's like, oh, yeah, how did
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  Speaker 1: your problem start?
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  Speaker 3: Well, my aunt gave me a drink at 13 because
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  Speaker 3: she thought she was being cool.
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  Speaker 5: How old are you kids?
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  Speaker 2: 10?
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  Speaker 5: Ever played hooky?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, what are we doing? Come on. There's an edit.
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  Speaker 3: Since a lot of people are assuming that I was
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  Speaker 3: talking about not putting kids in extracurriculars when I said
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  Speaker 3: raising kids to fail, I wasn't. Since Paya was talking
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  Speaker 3: about my son studying for his test and how she
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  Speaker 3: thought that was unnecessary, that is what I was talking about,
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  Speaker 3: as I believe it's.
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  Speaker 1: Important for kids to study.
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  Speaker 3: I do not think that kids who don't do extracurriculars
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  Speaker 3: are bound to fail or that my kids would somehow
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  Speaker 3: be failures if they don't do these activities. I just
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  Speaker 3: think that it is one good way to set them
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  Speaker 3: up for success. Some more context with some things I
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  Speaker 3: added in the comments. I have never forced my kids
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  Speaker 3: to continue their extracurriculars, and they know that if they
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  Speaker 3: ever feel like they want to stop, they can tell me.
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  Speaker 1: God, the internet's so exhausting sometimes.
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  Speaker 3: Your kids have very full lives with enriching activities and experiences,
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  Speaker 3: and people on the internet are being like, how dare
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  Speaker 3: you do that to your kids?
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  Speaker 1: They don't have to do that stuff. It's like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my God.
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  Speaker 6: If the kids were miserable and crying and hated doing
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  Speaker 6: all these things, that's a different story. But it seems
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  Speaker 6: like they actually enjoy these things. Like, you know, you
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  Speaker 6: try things with your kids, some they'll enjoy, some they won't.
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  Speaker 6: And you figure out which ones work, which ones don't.
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  Speaker 6: And that's how it, and sometimes nothing works out. And
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  Speaker 6: sometimes all of it works out.
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  Speaker 5: As long as the kids aren't, they don't look like
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  Speaker 5: they hate themselves or like, oh my gosh, it's like, Piano,
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  Speaker 5: then football, then karate, then this, then that, then like
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  Speaker 5: learning another language. And you're like, do they have fun? Like, sure,
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  Speaker 5: that's fun. But do they have fun? Then that makes sense.
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  Speaker 5: But it seems like your kids are fine.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I have told them this many times and they are
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  Speaker 3: tired of me asking if they want to quit when
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  Speaker 3: they don't. My kids chose their extracurriculars and have lots
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  Speaker 3: of friends there. They have told me multiple times how
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  Speaker 3: happy they are to be doing them, always have stories
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  Speaker 3: about something fun they did in their classes, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 3: I tell my kids to excel in school because that
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  Speaker 3: is what they are doing right now, and I know
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  Speaker 3: they're capable of it in the future as long as
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  Speaker 3: they develop good study skills and work ethic, which I
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  Speaker 3: hope that I am providing them with the tools they
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  Speaker 3: need to do. If they were ever not doing well
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  Speaker 3: despite trying, I would never... punish them for that, and
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  Speaker 3: they know that would be an instance where we could
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  Speaker 3: have an open conversation. Edit three, my kids' schedule since people,
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  Speaker 3: I guess, have been asking. They wake up at eight,
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  Speaker 3: school starts at nine, and it's five minutes away from
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  Speaker 3: my house. They shower, eat breakfast, and I drop them
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  Speaker 3: off at school. They come home around 3.30. They play
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  Speaker 3: outside with their friends until about a half hour before
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  Speaker 3: their activity for the day when we get ready, including
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  Speaker 3: eating a small stack like a fruit or sandwich if
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  Speaker 3: they were more hungry when they got home from school.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I'll give them rice or something. And then we go.
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  Speaker 3: The kids also have granola bars and things in their
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  Speaker 3: activity bags, and they're allowed to eat in most of
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  Speaker 3: their classes, like during a break or something. The activities
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  Speaker 3: usually start around 5 or 5.15, but some of them
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  Speaker 3: start a little later.
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  Speaker 1: You're doxing your own kids at this point. This is crazy.
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  Speaker 5: I think OP's just like, I'm telling you my day,
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  Speaker 5: my day-to-day. I'm going to tell you how I parent.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not going to tell you how to parent.
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  Speaker 4: It's just the.
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  Speaker 6: Fact that they have so much to say when they
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  Speaker 6: aren't even parents.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Their activities typically end at 6 or 6.45. The latest
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  Speaker 3: they are ever home is by 7, but that's only
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  Speaker 3: on Thursdays, and usually they're home sooner, like 6.15 or 6.30.
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  Speaker 3: From then to 7.30 is their time to freshen up
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  Speaker 3: and get ready for dinner, which is 7.30 to 8.
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  Speaker 3: At dinner, we watch something that they want as a family,
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  Speaker 3: like an episode of a show they like or something
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  Speaker 3: like that. And then from 8 to 9, they do homework.
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  Speaker 3: This isn't an everyday thing if they don't have homework.
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  Speaker 1: It's more free time.
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  Speaker 3: My older son likes to do extra homework and is
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  Speaker 3: a bit of a perfectionist, so he usually likes to
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  Speaker 3: use up that time. I've told him multiple times he
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  Speaker 3: doesn't have to. The younger two rarely have much to do,
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  Speaker 3: especially my younger son, who never has homework, just a
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  Speaker 3: monthly choice board with some fun activities. So they'll usually
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  Speaker 3: just sit with their brother, goof around, talk, whatever, sometimes
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  Speaker 3: bother him a bit.
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  Speaker 1: Nah. They're kids.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes I will let them watch TV or something, especially
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  Speaker 3: my daughter who's older. Or sometimes if they didn't have
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  Speaker 3: too hectic of a day, I'll ask them to help
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  Speaker 3: out with some chores.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, they have an allowance. Or they will be doing
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  Speaker 1: music practice or something like that.
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  Speaker 3: Until around 9.15, they'll just be all together, and then
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  Speaker 3: they brush their teeth and go to bed at 9.30.
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  Speaker 3: On the weekends, sometimes there are games or recitals in
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  Speaker 3: the morning. If not, then they spend that time practicing.
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  Speaker 3: Then on Saturdays, they have afternoon classes until about 4.
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  Speaker 3: After 4, we usually set them loose and they play outside,
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  Speaker 3: getting their unstructured playtime, or we have playdates set up.
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  Speaker 3: This is until about 8, when we spend some time
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  Speaker 3: together eating dinner and stuff as a family. Sometimes we'll
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  Speaker 3: have movie night or game night, and this is until
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  Speaker 3: around 10 or 10.30 when they will go to bed.
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  Speaker 1: If it's Saturday, if it's a Sunday, it's 9.30. Or
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  Speaker 1: we might have a dinner party.
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  Speaker 3: In that case, we will probably be out a little longer,
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  Speaker 3: around 12 or 1, but the kids usually end up
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  Speaker 3: falling asleep there.
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  Speaker 1: Also, Sunday is mostly their day.
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  Speaker 3: We have an informal rule where we don't really tell
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  Speaker 3: them what to do unless they have a makeup class,
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  Speaker 3: which is pretty uncommon, or some kind of family event,
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  Speaker 3: which is usually in the evening. So no matter what,
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  Speaker 3: they get the morning and afternoon to themselves.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Opie.
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  Speaker 6: Getting it i'm getting it okay honestly this sounds like
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  Speaker 6: like my schedule when i was like younger but the
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  Speaker 6: thing is i was i don't know i.
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  Speaker 3: Turned out well there's nothing wrong with this schedule there's
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  Speaker 3: there's literally like we let them just go play around outside.
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  Speaker 6: Exactly yeah yeah i had time to go play and
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  Speaker 6: i and then i also had time to go you
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  Speaker 6: know do my homework or study or go see my
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  Speaker 6: friends or, you know, practice music or sports or whatever.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I had free time to do things that
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  Speaker 4: I wanted to do.
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  Speaker 5: Honestly, my life growing up, it was just like sports, sports, sports. Oh,
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  Speaker 5: there's a birthday party sports. Oh, there's like sleepover sports.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: So my mom, like I had that conversation with my
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  Speaker 5: parents and, as like a teen, like preteen. I was like,
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  Speaker 5: can I do kid stuff?
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  Speaker 4: Aw.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, I'm kind of done.
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  Speaker 5: Don't get me wrong, I like sports, but can I
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  Speaker 5: do fun stuff too?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and OP's like made it so clear, like I'm
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  Speaker 3: constantly chatting with my kids.
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  Speaker 1: Belton's like, Bro, we didn't need the entire schedule for
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  Speaker 1: the year.
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  Speaker 5: I'm dying. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, I was like, okay, okay.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta understand.
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  Speaker 3: I bet you if you look in the comments, all
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  Speaker 3: these people who also probably don't have kids, just like Paya,
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  Speaker 3: are piping up being like, you're exploiting your cheer, asking
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  Speaker 3: too much of them, and you're stressing your kid.
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  Speaker 1: And she's like, you guys have no clue. Let me
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  Speaker 1: fill you in. Since you're all so worried about the kids.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think we needed all the ins and outs,
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  Speaker 5: the schedule, but We get it, Opie. I think you're
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  Speaker 5: a good parent.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. I don't see any red flags here.
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  Speaker 5: No malicious intent.
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  Speaker 4: It's just a schedule. That's just what the schedule is.
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  Speaker 4: And the kids like it. They enjoy it.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I'm skipping to the end of this edit.
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  Speaker 5: Say schedule, but in British.
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  Speaker 1: Schedule.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, thank you.
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  Speaker 3: This may seem a bit hectic, but it is what
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  Speaker 3: works for us, and we never have had any issues
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  Speaker 3: with it. And another edit, I will be having an
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  Speaker 3: honest conversation with my kids tomorrow about whether they enjoy
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  Speaker 3: their activities, and to reiterate that I would not consider
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  Speaker 3: them a failure if they ever wanted to quit, which
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  Speaker 3: is just what people have been saying they might think.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how it'll go, but I will keep
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  Speaker 1: you all updated. There's an update.
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  Speaker 3: After reading what everyone had to say throughout yesterday and today,
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  Speaker 3: I texted Paya today.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, Paya. I forgot about her. That was the
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  Speaker 1: whole reason. That's the whole story. That's right.
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  Speaker 3: And we agreed to meet at my brother's to talk
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  Speaker 3: since I wanted to apologize. I started off by saying
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  Speaker 3: that I was sorry for what I said and that
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  Speaker 3: I hurt her feelings and made her feel bad about
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  Speaker 3: her profession, even though it was unintentional.
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  Speaker 1: I could have handled the disagreement differently.
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  Speaker 3: I also apologized for possibly communicating that I thought her
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  Speaker 3: future kids might fail if she doesn't parent them the
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  Speaker 3: way that I do. She said she didn't take it
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  Speaker 3: that way, but was more upset that she thought I
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  Speaker 3: was calling her a failure. I reassured her I was
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  Speaker 3: not and do not see her that way. She ended
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  Speaker 3: up accepting my apology and we talked about some other things,
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  Speaker 3: including why I lashed out. I told her that I
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  Speaker 3: really appreciate her being a caring aunt to the kids,
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  Speaker 3: but I was genuinely confused why. She always seemed to
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  Speaker 3: think that whatever we were doing was wrong, and it
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  Speaker 3: led to me stamping. She was hesitant to talk about
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  Speaker 3: it at first, but ended up revealing more about her
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  Speaker 3: childhood and how it affects the way she sees our kids,
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  Speaker 3: the only kids she really has any type of regular
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  Speaker 3: contact with. According to her, her parents were strict in
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  Speaker 3: some ways, like eating habits and gender roles and grades,
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  Speaker 3: and she sometimes projects this experience on my children, which
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  Speaker 3: explains some other comments she's made before.
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  Speaker 1: And on the flip side, some of.
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  Speaker 3: The other more chill things she does is a conscious
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  Speaker 3: sort of effort to intervene whenever she sees hints of
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  Speaker 3: her parents' parenting style in the way we interact with
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  Speaker 3: our kids. Despite her parents' strictness in some areas, they
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  Speaker 3: didn't really care about what their kids did out of school.
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  Speaker 3: and wouldn't sign them up for anything even if they asked.
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  Speaker 3: She said that she felt horrible for thinking this way,
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  Speaker 3: but she felt jealous of how my kids got to
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  Speaker 3: explore so many different activities, which she never got to
• 13:17
  Speaker 3: as a kid, especially seeing how happy they always are
• 13:20
  Speaker 3: about them.
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: Basically, seeing my kids raised.
• 13:23
  Speaker 3: like she wished she was raised, just made her think
• 13:26
  Speaker 3: of the what-ifs and brought back the bad memories of
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: what life with her parents actually was like, and demeaning
• 13:31
  Speaker 3: our parenting was an attempt to make us seem less perfect.
• 13:34
  Speaker 3: She has told my brother about this, but begged him
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: not to tell me, because she didn't want us to
• 13:39
  Speaker 3: have a negative opinion of her. Apparently, she's been trying
• 13:42
  Speaker 3: to find a therapist, but it's been tough finding someone
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: who can help her, while also understanding things from a
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: cultural perspective.
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: I'll admit, it threw me off a little since I
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: wasn't expecting that.
• 13:51
  Speaker 3: But obviously it was difficult for her to admit, and
• 13:54
  Speaker 3: she clearly wasn't proud of feeling that way. I told
• 13:57
  Speaker 3: her I was really glad she opened up to me
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: and that I could see her point of view, but
• 14:01
  Speaker 3: that her trauma was not an excuse to try and
• 14:04
  Speaker 3: parent my kids for me, and that I did not
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: know how comfortable I would be letting her around my
• 14:08
  Speaker 3: kids just for now, until she can get the help
• 14:11
  Speaker 3: that she needs. I asked her to let me know
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: if there's anything else I can do, because I do
• 14:14
  Speaker 3: feel really bad for her after hearing all this, even
• 14:17
  Speaker 3: though I'm a little disturbed at how fixated she is
• 14:19
  Speaker 3: on my kids. I told her that she should try
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: to remember that she has a cool job she loves
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: and is marrying a man she loves and is away
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: from her parents' influence, which sounds pretty successful to me.
• 14:29
  Speaker 3: Not that she needs me to tell her that, but
• 14:30
  Speaker 3: she looked like she needed reassurance after the talk. She
• 14:33
  Speaker 3: thanked me and said she would try her best to
• 14:34
  Speaker 3: rein in the parenting talk and that she never saw
• 14:37
  Speaker 3: how it bothered me since I usually would try to
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: play it off, which I usually do to avoid tension. Yep,
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: we are coming up on the end here.
• 14:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 14:46
  Speaker 6: I mean, at least she kind of recognizes it. But yeah,
• 14:51
  Speaker 6: I guess it would be hard to find. I didn't
• 14:53
  Speaker 6: even think of like finding a therapist who kind of
• 14:55
  Speaker 6: knows like your cultural background because that would be really hard.
• 15:00
  Speaker 6: I didn't even think of that because it's just like
• 15:02
  Speaker 6: me being a white woman.
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I guess my background is Italian and
• 15:07
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 15:07
  Speaker 5: As a Slavic woman.
• 15:09
  Speaker 4: As a Slavic woman. I don't understand.
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: As a Slavic woman from Ohio.
• 15:13
  Speaker 4: A Slavic woman, I don't get it. But I don't know.
• 15:16
  Speaker 4: I feel like you just have to, like, obviously there are.
• 15:19
  Speaker 6: People out there and you can inquire about those people.
• 15:23
  Speaker 4: It just takes a little bit more research, you know?
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: I really don't like how she said that she would
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: try her best to tone down the parenting talk.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: It's like, no, no, no. It needs to cease. Yeah.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: So I agree.
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: Like, with that kind of reaction from her, it's like,
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: You can't come around the kids until you figure out
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: how to not do that ever. And if you can't
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: guarantee that, good luck finding that therapist.
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: And then we can talk later about you being the
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: cool aunt.
• 15:52
  Speaker 5: I don't know. Like, hey, maybe you should... One, get therapy.
• 15:57
  Speaker 5: But two, it sounds like you missed out on that stuff.
• 15:59
  Speaker 5: Go do those things that, you know, that you're like,
• 16:02
  Speaker 5: that sounds fun. You want to do that? You can
• 16:04
  Speaker 5: do that with your kids maybe in the future. I
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: don't know what it is, but it seems like you're
• 16:07
  Speaker 5: still chasing whatever that is.
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can do stuff.
• 16:10
  Speaker 5: You're an adult. I mean, yes, you can't be a
• 16:13
  Speaker 5: child anymore, but you can go do things that you enjoy.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: All in all, I think that went as well as
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: it could have.
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: I do wish we didn't have to go low contact,
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: but after talking with my husband, we've decided that right
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: now that's what's best for our kids, to protect them
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: from being confused and used as parts of their aunt's trauma.
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: We hope that once she's talked with a professional and
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: gotten some real counseling about her past, my kids will
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: be able to build a healthier relationship with her. On
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: a slightly related note, we will be having a family
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: meeting later tonight with my kids once they get back
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: from playing outside to discuss the incident and examine their schedules.
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: The conflict with future sister-in-law is somewhat resolved for now,
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: and that is the end of that story.
• 16:52
  Speaker 6: My brother uninvited our little brother from his wedding, so
• 16:56
  Speaker 6: I quit planning it.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, my plan was to have him here, so it's
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: not my wedding to plan anymore. I.
• 17:01
  Speaker 6: 29, female, have been working as a wedding planner for
• 17:05
  Speaker 6: about six years now. Last year, my brother Bobby, 29 male,
• 17:09
  Speaker 6: asked me to plan his wedding for him. And as
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: his sister, I was happy to do so for free.
• 17:15
  Speaker 6: Everything was going pretty well until maybe a week and
• 17:18
  Speaker 6: a half before the wedding, when Bobby told me to
• 17:20
  Speaker 6: remove our little brother, Jay, 24 male, from the guest list.
• 17:24
  Speaker 6: I tried asking him why, but the only answer he
• 17:27
  Speaker 6: would give me is that Jay was.
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: Being stubborn and selfish. Of course.
• 17:31
  Speaker 6: Of course I had to ask Jay about this. Apparently,
• 17:34
  Speaker 6: Bobby showed up at his apartment and offered to.
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: Let Jay attend the wedding as long as he doesn't
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: act so Jay with a G.
• 17:41
  Speaker 6: Jay with a G, of course, took offense to that
• 17:43
  Speaker 6: and told Bobby to F off, probably leading him to
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: calling me and uninviting him. Bobby has always been harsh
• 17:50
  Speaker 6: to Jay. He's the type of manly man that despises
• 17:53
  Speaker 6: anything feminine. So when Jay came out to us, Bobby's
• 17:56
  Speaker 6: bullying got worse and worse, leading to there being a
• 17:59
  Speaker 6: pretty big rift between them. I've been trying to get
• 18:01
  Speaker 6: the two of them to work out their differences, but
• 18:03
  Speaker 6: Bobby won't even try and hear out what Jay has
• 18:06
  Speaker 6: to say to him. I decided that uninviting Jay to
• 18:09
  Speaker 6: the wedding was the last straw, and that I'm not
• 18:11
  Speaker 6: going to keep helping Bobby if he's going to continue
• 18:14
  Speaker 6: to act like an a-hole to our.
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: Own little brother.
• 18:16
  Speaker 6: By the way, this comes from AutomaticBar2136, and if you
• 18:20
  Speaker 6: want to spend your own stories, go to the rs-ok-storytime subreddit.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 18:25
  Speaker 5: I'm Keon.
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: And we're here to talk about.
• 18:27
  Speaker 6: Some stuff, give some advice, but we don't have all
• 18:29
  Speaker 6: of your answers. We're only going to tell you what
• 18:31
  Speaker 6: we would do, but let us know what you would
• 18:33
  Speaker 6: do down in the comments. As OP says, So, I
• 18:36
  Speaker 6: sent Bobby all the info for everything I planned at
• 18:39
  Speaker 6: that point. The contacts for the venue, the catering, decorations, everything.
• 18:44
  Speaker 6: Then I told him that if he's going to keep
• 18:46
  Speaker 6: treating Jay like crap, then he should plan his own
• 18:48
  Speaker 6: wedding because I'm not going to. Bobby told everyone that
• 18:51
  Speaker 6: I bailed on him last second and that the wedding
• 18:54
  Speaker 6: would have to be postponed because of me. As you'd expect,
• 18:57
  Speaker 6: people were mad. Relatives were bombarding me about how important
• 19:00
  Speaker 6: this would be for Bobby and how I'm ruining an
• 19:02
  Speaker 6: important milestone in his and his girlfriend's life.
• 19:05
  Speaker 5: And then you tell them why.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we explain what's going on with Jay.
• 19:09
  Speaker 6: When I tried to explain myself, I got people telling
• 19:12
  Speaker 6: me that I shouldn't have done something so drastic over
• 19:15
  Speaker 6: a petty squabble between brothers.
• 19:17
  Speaker 5: This is not petty.
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: That's what I was going to say.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: Also, the context of him being a bully their entire life.
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: These people don't know.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Sets the stage a little bit, huh?
• 19:26
  Speaker 6: No, I'm going to say these people don't know the
• 19:29
  Speaker 6: full story, obviously. Because if you did, you would literally
• 19:32
  Speaker 6: be in OP's, you would be on OP's side.
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: Because this is just, it's rubbish.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: Yes, rubbish.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: Am I the a-hole?
• 19:41
  Speaker 5: No.
• 19:42
  Speaker 6: Why are you the a-hole for sticking up for your
• 19:44
  Speaker 6: younger brother because your older brother is.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: Being a bigot?
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: No.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, he could. be, you know, you did it.
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: You're doing it for free. Maybe you should have just
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: been like, you know what? I take that back. You know,
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: I quit right now unless you pay me X amount
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: of dollars.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: It's the same thing. I guess that actually does make
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: you look a little worse. Now that I think about it.
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: I don't know. There's an update.
• 20:06
  Speaker 6: It's been about five days since Bobby told our family
• 20:09
  Speaker 6: I bailed on him.
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: And a few new things have popped up.
• 20:12
  Speaker 6: Mainly, Bobby's fiance has told everyone that it was her
• 20:16
  Speaker 6: who decided to postpone the wedding. And it's not because
• 20:18
  Speaker 6: they couldn't finish planning. She said that this current situation
• 20:22
  Speaker 6: with Jay has brought up some past issues in their relationship. Oh,
• 20:26
  Speaker 6: and that she needs more time to talk to Bobby
• 20:28
  Speaker 6: about it and reflect before fully committing to marrying him.
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: Oh, so he has issues. And we all been new.
• 20:34
  Speaker 6: One of the few times I've ever seen Bobby express
• 20:37
  Speaker 6: vulnerability is with his fiance. I'm hoping that she can
• 20:40
  Speaker 6: be the one to talk some sense back into him
• 20:43
  Speaker 6: and hopefully even talk through his hatred of Jay. I've
• 20:46
  Speaker 6: seen some comments say that Bobby coming to Jay's apartment
• 20:49
  Speaker 6: to invite him shows that Bobby really does care about
• 20:52
  Speaker 6: him being there. I thought I should at least tell
• 20:54
  Speaker 6: Jay that, even if it may be untrue. His response was,
• 20:58
  Speaker 6: Appreciate the sentiment, but Bobby has never given me an
• 21:01
  Speaker 6: incentive to be part of his life. If he really
• 21:03
  Speaker 6: did care about me, then his invite wouldn't be attached
• 21:06
  Speaker 6: to an insult, but instead to an apology.
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: Jay with a G, come on! With the bars! Let's go!
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Jay knows how to cook, dude.
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: All hail Jay.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Oh, hey.
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: OJ.
• 21:19
  Speaker 5: OJ, can you see?
• 21:23
  Speaker 6: There is a second update here. After Bobby's fiancé' s Gracie,
• 21:28
  Speaker 6: 29 female, announcement, the drama cooled down a bit. I
• 21:30
  Speaker 6: was a little concerned because both her and Bobby were
• 21:34
  Speaker 6: completely silent for a good month.
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: No texts, no calls. It was like they disappeared.
• 21:39
  Speaker 6: During this time, I took the advice of some commenters
• 21:42
  Speaker 6: and apologized to my Jay for trying to force a
• 21:45
  Speaker 6: better relationship between him and Bobby and for brushing off
• 21:47
  Speaker 6: the bullying that Bobby put him through. He said that
• 21:50
  Speaker 6: he forgives me, but I still want to work on
• 21:53
  Speaker 6: being a better sister. A few weeks ago, I got
• 21:54
  Speaker 6: a message from Gracie asking if we could meet at
• 21:57
  Speaker 6: a restaurant and if I could bring Jay with me.
• 22:00
  Speaker 6: I asked why, especially after all the silence, and she
• 22:04
  Speaker 6: told me that her and Bobby wanted to talk. I
• 22:06
  Speaker 6: informed Jay about this. I wanted to know what was
• 22:08
  Speaker 6: going on, so I was going to go. But I
• 22:10
  Speaker 6: told him that he didn't have to go with me
• 22:12
  Speaker 6: if he didn't want to. He told me that he
• 22:14
  Speaker 6: thinks he'll be able to handle it, but if Bobby
• 22:16
  Speaker 6: still treats him the same, he'll just leave. Me and
• 22:19
  Speaker 6: Jay went together. When we got there, I could sense
• 22:21
  Speaker 6: that Bobby was feeling nervous. He looked like he was
• 22:23
  Speaker 6: about to cry. Me and Gracie started the conversation with
• 22:26
  Speaker 6: just catching up with each other on what's been happening
• 22:28
  Speaker 6: since we last met. At some point though, Bobby cracked.
• 22:31
  Speaker 6: He took a deep breath and looked at Gracie. Bobby
• 22:34
  Speaker 6: started a speech about how we grew up and my
• 22:36
  Speaker 6: mind was racing trying to figure out where this was
• 22:39
  Speaker 6: going until suddenly I just heard the words, I'm bi
• 22:43
  Speaker 6: and everything cleared up.
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: What did I say? Projection at its finest, ladies and gents.
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: That's crazy.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: He's Bobby with a B.
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: We have J with a G and Bobby with a B.
• 22:57
  Speaker 5: Oh, dude, this is the best story.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Oh, my God.
• 22:59
  Speaker 5: This is crazy.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Bobby with a B.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: Bobby with a B and J with a G.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: Oh, who would have thought that the most common reason
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: people are like this is Yeah.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: Could have been the motivator behind his behavior.
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: The people who are always like closet guards like.
• 23:17
  Speaker 6: That, who are just like really bigoted and whatnot, most
• 23:21
  Speaker 6: of the time they're just hiding how they truly feel.
• 23:24
  Speaker 6: And it's always been that way.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Bobby's talking to Jay like, you can come to
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: the wedding, but make sure you turn down the flamboyance.
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: So that no one sees me as that.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: I'm getting married to my wife. I don't want to
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: remember I like men.
• 23:37
  Speaker 6: Bobby went on to talk about how he's felt he
• 23:40
  Speaker 6: needed to hide this his whole life. He was envious
• 23:43
  Speaker 6: towards Jay for being able to express himself so openly,
• 23:46
  Speaker 6: which led him to start bullying Jay and pushing him
• 23:48
  Speaker 6: deeper and deeper into the closet. It ended with him
• 23:52
  Speaker 6: apologizing to Jay and asking for forgiveness.
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: Jay was quiet for this whole talk until he felt
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: it was his turn to speak.
• 23:59
  Speaker 6: He said, Bobby- I hear you. I know where you're
• 24:02
  Speaker 6: coming from. I understand where you're coming from, but none
• 24:05
  Speaker 6: of that excuses the crap you've put me through since
• 24:08
  Speaker 6: we were teens. I can and will try to forgive you,
• 24:11
  Speaker 6: but it's going to take a lot of effort on
• 24:13
  Speaker 6: your end.
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: Oh, there's a little bit left here.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: I mean, what?
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: Okay, so scenario. You are now J with a G.
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: The actual J.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't forgive him. I'm like, okay, good for you.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: It still doesn't fix anything.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: I don't forgive you just because you were confused and
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: hated yourself.
• 24:35
  Speaker 6: Where's the effort? I'd be like, prove it. Go kiss
• 24:37
  Speaker 6: the waiter.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: You're going to have to start putting in the work.
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: You are going to have to put in the work
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: to fix us if that's going to happen. You?
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: I wish you the best.
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: You capital Y.
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: We can't overuse this. I'm putting it back in the drawer.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: It's too good.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: It's too good to waste.
• 24:55
  Speaker 5: Back in the cookie jar with a J.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Cookie jar.
• 24:59
  Speaker 6: I want a cookie in my jar.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: That's all. There's more story.
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: I hope this is your family. I'll get together and
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: be a happy family.
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 25:13
  Speaker 6: Just because now you can be open with your, you know,
• 25:17
  Speaker 6: I've been open this whole time and I had to
• 25:19
  Speaker 6: feel bad about it. So should I start bullying you now?
• 25:22
  Speaker 6: Would that make this even? Like, how would that feel, freak?
• 25:25
  Speaker 6: Just don't, don't be a bummer. Do not be a bummer.
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: This guy's a bummer.
• 25:29
  Speaker 6: All right, let's finish it up. The rest of the
• 25:30
  Speaker 6: night was a bit of a blur for me.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: There was booze involved.
• 25:34
  Speaker 6: But I do recall Bobby and Jay cry-hugging by the end,
• 25:38
  Speaker 6: which I was very glad to see.
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: Jay.
• 25:40
  Speaker 6: says that there's still a bit of awkwardness between the
• 25:43
  Speaker 6: two of them, but with time, he thinks he might
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: just see Bobby as his nice, older brother again. As
• 25:49
  Speaker 6: for the wedding, it's back on, but with an undecided
• 25:52
  Speaker 6: date as of right now. And yes, Jay is going
• 25:54
  Speaker 6: to be allowed in this time.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: He can even bring his boyfriend along with him. Wow,
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: what a turn of events.
• 26:00
  Speaker 6: At first, he literally was like, you can't come because
• 26:02
  Speaker 6: you are Jay with a G.
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: And now he's like, you know what? Bring your boyfriend.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: I'm bye with a B. We're Jay-ing it up.
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: We're Jay with.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: A G-ing it up now.
• 26:12
  Speaker 6: Bobby's even decided to have Jay be a groomsman and
• 26:15
  Speaker 6: told him, you can act as Jay with.
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: A G as you want, Jay with a J-E.
• 26:25
  Speaker 6: Which I don't think is the best thing to say,
• 26:27
  Speaker 6: but I like the sentiment. And that's the end of
• 26:31
  Speaker 6: that story.
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: I refused to give my room to my foster sister.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: My whole family turned on me.
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: That's my room. I.
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: 17 male, have lived in the same house since I
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: was two when we inherited it from my paternal grandparents.
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: And I've always had the same room. Being so young,
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: I never got to choose my room when we moved in.
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: But honestly, I think I got the best one. It's
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: right next to the garden, close enough to the bathroom
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: that I don't wake anyone. And there's enough space for
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: my bed and a desk.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: Everything a growing boy needs.
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: Everything a boy needs.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: A bed, a desk. Garden access?
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: Garden access to the garden so I can dig for
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: my carrots.
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: However, my mother wants me to move out to give
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: the room to my foster sister, Deanna, nine female.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: Be clear, Deanna has a room.
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: My biological sisters, Alice, 25 female, and Betty, 22 female,
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: have moved out. And while Alice's room has been turned
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: into a new office space since we're working from home,
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: Deanna has been given Betty's old room. It's a little
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: smaller than mine, but there's still more than enough room
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: for her to put all of her belongings. And my
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: mother has let her paint it whatever color she wants.
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: Although it's not perfect. Deanna has recently been complaining that
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: the room is too cold at night and that she
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: struggles to sleep. My mother has offered her additional blankets,
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: but they don't seem to help.
• 27:43
  Speaker 5: This is just Sophia.
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: I'm so cold. I'm so cold. I think she's got
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: like an iron. She's like lacking iron.
• 27:51
  Speaker 5: Potentially. Also, what pajamas is she wearing?
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, get her in fleece pajamas. Put some blankets on
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: this girl. Get a little space heater.
• 28:01
  Speaker 5: Space heater, sweatpants, socks.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: Have we also just tried like, does the little vent
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: have like a little thing you can use to turn
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: it off?
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Question. Are they putting AC
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: in her room?
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: No, she just says she's just called already.
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: Do they live in Antarctica?
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: That would make a lot of sense.
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: OK, well, there we go.
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: So my mother has decided that she wants to move
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: Deanna to my side of the house and consequently me
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: into Deanna or what was Betty's room. I, however, do
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: not want to move. Deanna is only here temporarily, so
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: it will be a lot of hassle to move my
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: things out of my room and back in whenever she
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: leaves again.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Angle Aussie.
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 28:46
  Speaker 5: I'm Australian.
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: And we are here to give our Australian advice goofily.
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: And we don't have all the answers. So just remember
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: that when you tell us what you think down in
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: the comments.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: And OP says.
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: Also, my mother and her social worker allow Deanna to
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: scribble on the walls in crayon, and I don't want
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: my bedroom covered in poorly drawn cats and fish. My
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: mother is unhappy that I am unwilling to move, which
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: I understand, as she has to put up with Deanna's complaining,
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: but I don't think that I should have to sacrifice
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: my room. Betty came over for a barbecue, and she
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: and my mother lectured me on my selfishness, and apparently,
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: while I was stopping Deanna burning herself on the barbecue
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: while getting food, they were complaining about me and my attitude.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: I understand that my mother would prefer that I agree
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: to swap rooms, but I really don't think that's the solution.
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: Deanna has been complaining a lot about many things lately,
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: so I wouldn't be surprised if she's just going through
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: a phase or acting out. Betty has messaged me a
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: few times to tell me to make life easier for
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: our mother and that it's only temporary.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: So Reddit, am I the a-hole?
• 29:44
  Speaker 5: No.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: No?
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: No, because clearly there's something else going on. Like, I think... Yeah,
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: as Yagaira says, sounds like the little girl wants all
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: the attention the mom is giving in. Yeah, I mean,
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: she's in a foster situation, probably is not used to
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: this new environment and, you know, wants the attention and
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: she's getting it.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, honestly, dude, if blankets aren't working, let's figure
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: it out. Why? How?
• 30:12
  Speaker 4: Why?
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: In what universe?
• 30:13
  Speaker 5: She probably just wants the best room. We shouldn't just
• 30:17
  Speaker 5: teach the kid.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: That you can lie to get whatever you want. That's
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: a bad lesson.
• 30:21
  Speaker 5: You teach the kid what I was taught in kindergarten.
• 30:23
  Speaker 5: You get what you get. You don't get upset.
• 30:25
  Speaker 4: There we go.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: Well, there's nothing. We looked into it.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: And although many suggested it, Deanna would not have been
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: allowed to have a heater in her room at night
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: as it is a hazard. And usually she doesn't have
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: an issue in the room until long after she's gone
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: to bed. So it would be pointless to heat the
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: room up in the day. As someone here pointed out,
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: my room has a door to the garden and allowing
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: foster children unsupervised access out of the house is never
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: a good idea.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: And I doubt the social worker would have approved.
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: I did point out my mother's hypocrisy, as many suggested,
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: at refusing to give up her own room, and she
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: seemed to drop it after that.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 31:00
  Speaker 7: Perfect.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: There you go.
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: Very good. She went up. You got me there.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: That was smart.
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: She went up. I like it.
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: So many people had suggestions, and I tried to look
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: into all of them. One suggestion was a weighted blanket
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: that someone described feels.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: Like a hug, so we've bought one of those.
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: It was the equivalent of $ 27, so not a bad find,
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: but unfortunately, that did not seem to help any more
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: than the other blankets. We also gave her my old
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: hot water bottle. It's got one of those fluffy cases
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: that looks like a penguin, but that didn't work either,
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: and she still didn't want to sleep in her bed
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: at night. However, someone suggested a blanket that looks like
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: a mermaid's tail, so we bought one, and she absolutely
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: loves it.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: She's had the blanket for two nights, and there's been
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: no complaints.
• 31:46
  Speaker 5: So was she just not using the blankets?
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: She just thought the blankets were ugly.
• 31:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: All of the blankets were ugly. And she's like, I
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: care about being stylish in my sleep.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: The nine-year-old just needed a blanket made for a nine-year-old.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: Also in regards to my relationship with Deanna, some people
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: commented that I harbored resentment and I want to make
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: it clear I do not. I know it's not her
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: fault my mother makes weird decisions on her behalf and
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: I don't blame her for being fostered. I took a
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: commenter's advice and made a pillow fort with her and
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: we hung up fairy lights to try to make the
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: room feel more like her own and I bought her
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: some stickers that she's now covering her headboard with so
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: she seems.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: To be doing alright.
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: I'll admit that we're not as close as my biological
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: sisters and I and that perhaps I could make more
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: of an effort, But I have a lot going on
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: right now, and she doesn't seem to mind.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: Cheers again, Reddit.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: Jeez.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.
• 32:35
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• 32:44
  Speaker 4: My roommate demanded I buy things for us, even if
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: I won't use it.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: Can't you just tell them no?
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: My friend and I wanted to dorm together, and since
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: we're juniors, we had the priority to choose. We picked
• 32:57
  Speaker 4: one of the dorms that had two types of rooms.
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: Room A was large and furnished with a bathroom. Room
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: B fit two beds and a desk. The living room
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: came furnished and included a mini dining table. It's important
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: to note that the university charges everyone the same amount,
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: no matter the room or dorm. Everyone is assigned to
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: a room that they are responsible for when it comes
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: to cleaning and damage. We selected room A. Two girls,
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: both sophomores, joined in room B. They found us on
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: Instagram and created a group chat. Before we moved in,
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: they started discussing who would buy what for the shared space.
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: I let them know that I wouldn't be cooking and
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: that I had a meal plan I would be using
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: for food. I also told them I had a kettle
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: and a toaster that I would bring, as well as
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: some cleaning supplies, dish soap, and dish sponges. Emma said
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: she was bringing a whole kitchen set of plates, bowls,
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: and utensils, along with cutting boards. Willow said she was
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: bringing a Keurig and baking supplies. My friend Paige said
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: she was bringing a microwave and a trash can. By
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from That Hurts, Aubrey. Ouch, Aubrey. Ow, Aubrey.
• 34:02
  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 34:07
  Speaker 5: I'm Sophia.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, no.
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: How will we.
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: Tell each other apart? But if you can tell us apart,
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: put it down below in the comments. Thanks. And Opie says...
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: emma started getting irritated in the chat and tried to
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: get me to buy more things for the dorms she
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: told me i needed to get a pots and pans
• 34:26
  Speaker 4: set i again let her know that i wouldn't really
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: be using the kitchen so i wasn't going to bring
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: that much kitchen stuff she said it wasn't fair that
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: just because i had a meal plan i refused to
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: contribute and help with shared costs i told her that
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: shared costs were things we would all be using and
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: that pots and pans were expensive so i would not
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: be buying a set She argued that when you share
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: an apartment with people, there are things everyone typically uses.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: So it makes sense to establish who's bringing what, even
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: if you might use something less than someone else. OP's
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: using it not at all.
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, not really. It's not really on the table.
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: Also, yeah, there are shared things. This is unreasonable.
• 35:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: Also, you know, you don't split the pots and pans, bro.
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: No.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: You buy a set of pots and pans. Those are yours.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: They're yours. But people can use.
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: Because what are we talking about?
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: That's so weird.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 35:17
  Speaker 5: This is going to be a rude awakening for her
• 35:20
  Speaker 5: interest in life. It's funny.
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: I repeated that I wasn't going to be cooking, so
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: there was no need for me to buy things when
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: I wouldn't play any part in using them. I pointed
• 35:28
  Speaker 4: out that both she and Willow would be in the
• 35:30
  Speaker 4: apartment seven days a week, so if they wanted to
• 35:33
  Speaker 4: discuss kitchen stuff, then by all means, they could go ahead.
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: She stopped responding in the chat. A couple of days later,
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: Emma texted again. She said she and Willow were wondering
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: if we would be willing to switch rooms after a semester,
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: adding that she thought a lot of people do this.
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: She wanted Paige and me to switch rooms with her
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: and Willow after the first semester because our room is bigger.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: No.
• 35:56
  Speaker 4: This is so weird. I'd be like, sorry, can't do that.
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: It's my room.
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: Seems like a little extra.
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: Paige said, No thanks. And I said, I didn't want to.
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: Emma pressed further, saying they were just wondering, since we're
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: paying the same amount of money. It makes sense and
• 36:15
  Speaker 4: seems more fair, especially if I'm only there for four days,
• 36:19
  Speaker 4: while she and Willow will be living there seven days
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: a week.
• 36:21
  Speaker 5: Sounds like sucks to suck.
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, sorry.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: Bummer.
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: You didn't get it.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the world of having roommates.
• 36:28
  Speaker 4: For real. Get over it.
• 36:29
  Speaker 5: I say, thanks for asking, but no.
• 36:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like, sorry, I picked this place first. because
• 36:35
  Speaker 4: I got priority. I told her that Paige and I
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: had searched until we found a room we liked. I
• 36:41
  Speaker 4: explained that I'm there five days since I go home
• 36:43
  Speaker 4: on the weekends, and Paige is there for seven, but
• 36:46
  Speaker 4: that it doesn't matter who's there the longest or whether
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: that's fair. That's our room, and it's the one we're
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: responsible for, so that's the room we're staying in for
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: the year. I reminded her that she had asked if
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: we wanted to switch, and we said no, and that
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: was final. She stopped replying completely in the chat. No
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: matter the topic. Should I have complied or at least
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: been nicer? She was just so pushy. And that's the
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: end of the story. No.
• 37:14
  Speaker 5: Easiest no of all time.
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no.
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: No.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: Easiest no of all time.
• 37:20
  Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 37:22
  Speaker 5: the next one.
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: My roommates called me a snitch. Over a water bill?
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: Called the cops over the water bill.
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: And this comes directly from the r slash okay story
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: time subreddit.
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: Oh boy.
• 37:32
  Speaker 4: Boy. So, I moved into this duplex that's split into
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: two living spaces. I'm in one, and there's a family
• 37:39
  Speaker 4: of three in the other. A dad, mom, and 18-year-old daughter.
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: Things all were going well until they moved in the
• 37:46
  Speaker 4: daughter's boyfriend, and there was a raise in the water bill. Mmm,
• 37:50
  Speaker 4: he's taking those long showers. When my landlord asked me
• 37:53
  Speaker 4: about it because she covers the water... I communicated that
• 37:56
  Speaker 4: it was probably because of the new person living here,
• 38:00
  Speaker 4: which she had no idea about.
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: Oh, no!
• 38:04
  Speaker 4: Maybe they should have told you that you had to
• 38:06
  Speaker 4: keep that a secret.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: True, you can't possibly know that.
• 38:10
  Speaker 4: She told them he had to leave, and they got
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: extremely mad at me for snitching. The dad continued to
• 38:15
  Speaker 4: yell at the landlord, telling her that if I'm going
• 38:17
  Speaker 4: to be causing all this drama, he's going to end
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: the lease. And she just told him to go right ahead,
• 38:22
  Speaker 4: but he never did. That was the start of them
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: doing everything to be petty to me.
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: Imagine trying to pull that as a power play. You're like,
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: I'll end the lease. It's like, oh great, you'll have
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: to pay me money to move out. Yeah, and to
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: break the lease.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: I'm sure I won't be able to find another tenant.
• 38:39
  Speaker 7: Oh no.
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: Oh no.
• 38:42
  Speaker 4: Leaving trash bags in the yard, leaving the gate open
• 38:45
  Speaker 4: so my dog might get out, pulling the trash bin
• 38:47
  Speaker 4: into my parking spot so when I get home I
• 38:50
  Speaker 4: have to move it before I can park, using up
• 38:52
  Speaker 4: all the hot water, playing loud music all the time,
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: and so on. And if I even dare say anything,
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: it's a big problem. One time when I moved the
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: trash bin into my parking spot, I sent a message
• 39:05
  Speaker 4: to the dad saying, asking that they please make sure
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: not to do that. And he responded with, if you're
• 39:10
  Speaker 4: going to be petty, you can come move your lawnmower
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: out of my garage. The garage is theirs, but the
• 39:15
  Speaker 4: deal was that since I mow, I can keep the
• 39:18
  Speaker 4: mower in there. By the way, this comes from Murky
• 39:22
  Speaker 4: Record 1678. And if you want to submit your own stories,
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: go to the r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: Hey!
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
• 39:34
  Speaker 4: Let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 39:35
  Speaker 4: And Opie says, I.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: Think my gut's telling me glue all his plates together.
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: Plates?
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 39:41
  Speaker 4: I don't know if she can access those plates.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: Oh, if you can, glue them together.
• 39:46
  Speaker 5: Glue them.
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: Now to present time. I've been living here for about
• 39:50
  Speaker 4: a year and a half, and all this has continued
• 39:52
  Speaker 4: through this whole time. That's crazy that you stayed.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe, like, can we move?
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: Because it's been a year and a half, so your
• 39:59
  Speaker 4: lease has at least ended once.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: Maybe Opie likes it. Maybe he's like, maybe I like
• 40:04
  Speaker 5: a little bit of, like, a little, uh.
• 40:06
  Speaker 4: It adds spice to my life.
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: Competitiveness, yeah. Makes my days fun.
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: A few months ago, I started noticing things out of
• 40:11
  Speaker 4: place when I would come home from work, like a
• 40:14
  Speaker 4: bag of bagels on the counter being moved to a
• 40:16
  Speaker 4: different spot. Or a light... I for sure turned off
• 40:20
  Speaker 4: being on or something I had in one place being
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: in a complete other. I just told myself it was
• 40:25
  Speaker 4: all in my head. Why? You have a really awful
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: neighbor who actively makes your life harder. Why would you
• 40:33
  Speaker 4: not immediately jump to the conclusion? They're probably coming into
• 40:38
  Speaker 4: my house. Last night I got home from work and
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: noticed a hallway light on that I never turned on.
• 40:44
  Speaker 4: And I thought it was weird, but I just figured
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: I accidentally hit the switch. Well, then this morning while
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: getting ready, I went to go grab underwear. One thing
• 40:53
  Speaker 4: about me is that I keep my underwear drawer perfectly organized. Well,
• 40:57
  Speaker 4: when I went to go grab some, it was completely ransacked.
• 41:02
  Speaker 4: Now I know I'm not crazy and that these people
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: have been breaking into my space for God knows how long.
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: We've got a little bit left. Any final thoughts of
• 41:09
  Speaker 4: how to handle this?
• 41:11
  Speaker 5: I guess you just weren't part of the panty raid.
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: Oh, that's so weird. I don't know. I feel like
• 41:17
  Speaker 4: I would have thought, my neighbors are probably trying to
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: mess with me way earlier.
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: I think you put the clear packing tape entirely over
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: the entrance.
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: To his door. Yes.
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: And then he goes.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: And then he walks into it. And you go, I
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: don't know who did that.
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: You leave a bunch of marbles on the floor everywhere.
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: Or what you really could do now is call the
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: police and have them investigate your home for a break-in.
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: and they can CSI and probably find some evidence that
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: someone has broken into your house.
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: That's a good idea, too. So I called my landlord,
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: and she bought me a camera immediately. I'm going to
• 41:59
  Speaker 4: set it up and try to catch them coming into
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: my space so I can press charges. I haven't noticed
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: anything missing, just stuff moved around, and I genuinely can't
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: tell you why they went through my underwear. The girls
• 42:10
  Speaker 4: upstairs are both bigger built, and I'm very tiny, so
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: it's not like they could steal them for themselves. I'm
• 42:16
  Speaker 4: just extremely grossed out and feel completely violated. Anyways, the
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: daughter is set to move out next month and the
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: dad and wife broke up. Oh, so the wife is
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: already out. And the dad plans to move by the
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: end of the summer as well. So even if I
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: can't catch them, at least they will be gone soon.
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: Any advice is much appreciated. Do we have an update?
• 42:36
  Speaker 5: I can check.
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: I mean, yeah. How are they getting in? Do they
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: have keys or are they like picking a lock?
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: I think there's like a shared living area. So I
• 42:46
  Speaker 4: assume that you could just pick a lock.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: This is just... Or a vent. Okay.
• 42:51
  Speaker 5: I did, because this is from our subreddit, by the way.
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: Oh, right.
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 42:54
  Speaker 5: This is from a month ago. OP does say camera
• 42:57
  Speaker 5: is set up and I have motion detection. So now
• 42:59
  Speaker 5: I just got to play the waiting game. We'll definitely
• 43:01
  Speaker 5: update if I catch them. So I'm going to check
• 43:03
  Speaker 5: right now.
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: Ooh.
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: Ooh.
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: Tell us, because we read your story and we want
• 43:08
  Speaker 4: to know.
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: Home Alone style booby traps.
• 43:11
  Speaker 4: I've got a bucket of paint. as a gal says,
• 43:14
  Speaker 4: and then a bucket of feathers, and they're falling on you.
• 43:17
  Speaker 4: They're on the door. They fall on you. You're covered
• 43:20
  Speaker 4: in it, and then I go see you immediately.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: Paint and feathers.
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: Get one of those things they use for, like, anti-theft that, like,
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: explode with, like, paint or, like, dust or whatever, and
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: just set one of those up.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: Set one of those up at, like, eye level.
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: It is a lot of cleanup for OP.
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that is true. Maybe not. Maybe don't do
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: that one.
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: No update?
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: No update.
• 43:42
  Speaker 5: Dang it.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: Dang.
• 43:44
  Speaker 4: At least your landlord's on your side, though.
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: Let's head to the next one. Hey, it's Dakota, your
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: favorite rat brain host here. And we're going to get
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: back to the stories soon. But here's three minutes of
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: ads from our sponsors. My roommate tried to block me
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: from moving in before we ever met.
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: Why'd you do that? I, 22.
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: Female, just moved into a four-bedroom apartment in Brooklyn. I
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: found this place on June Holmes, and I am here
• 44:16
  Speaker 3: for a little over three months. Upon my arrival to
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: this apartment, my roommate Samantha, 27 female, looked absolutely shocked
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: to see me walk in. I politely tell her that
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: I am one of her new roommates. She said, oh,
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: did they not tell you? They give me the option
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: to approve or deny roommates, and I sent them an
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: email saying I didn't want to live with you.
• 44:36
  Speaker 6: No.
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: No. That's not how that works.
• 44:40
  Speaker 5: Do you own this place?
• 44:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's not how that works.
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know what the laws are, if
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: it's in an agreement or a... I don't know if
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: that's legal. I don't know what's... I don't.
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: Know what's up.
• 44:49
  Speaker 5: Honestly, it's New York. You never know.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: Bad vibe, though, immediately. It's like, what did... You don't even...
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: How did you deny me already?
• 44:57
  Speaker 4: You don't know who I am.
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: Okay, strange first interaction with someone. I then told her
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: that they had already taken my money and therefore I
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: will be living here. All is okay and I don't
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: see her until the following day. I explained to her
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: that I would not mind taking the trash out if
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: it meant that I didn't have to go out and
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: purchase another garbage can, and she agrees. Mind you, her
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: belongings take up the majority of our shared living space.
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: Empty boxes, bins, and clothing. It's to the point where
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: it's blocking the bedroom door of another tenant.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: Are they okay?
• 45:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they're like, hey, I can't get out.
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Merly Sauce. And if
• 45:52
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• 45:53
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• 45:55
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 45:57
  Speaker 7: Pizza.
• 45:58
  Speaker 4: That's a pizza boy.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: Pizza time.
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: And we're going to read this story and have our
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: thoughts and opinions and we're going to say them and
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: you get to have yours in the comments and we
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: all get.
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: To have a wonderful time together.
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: I'm Keon.
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's Keon. Opie says, fast forward to yesterday.
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: I'm getting ready to leave for a friend's birthday party
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: and I need to shower and use the bathroom. I
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: check at 830 and the shower is on. I then
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: go and do my thing for about an hour and
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: the shower is still on at 930. I knock on
• 46:27
  Speaker 3: the door and Samantha opens it. She is not showering,
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: but she has the tub faucet on for some reason.
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: Eventually she leaves and I'm able to do my thing,
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: but Samantha had been using the bathroom for well over
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: an hour, which rubbed me the wrong way.
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: Fast forward to this morning.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: I was coming in from staying the night at my
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: friend's and I see my dishes on the counter. I
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: assumed that she had run the dishwasher while I was
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: out and had left it out for me to put away.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: This was not the case.
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: She went out of her way to empty everything that
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: was not hers from the dishwasher and just washed her
• 46:57
  Speaker 3: own dishes. She comes out of her room, and my
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: dirty dishes had just been sitting on the counter overnight.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: You want bugs, bro?
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: Wait, I'm sorry. You literally wanted to wash your dishes.
• 47:08
  Speaker 4: You put them in the dishwasher to wash them, and
• 47:10
  Speaker 4: then she took them out?
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: It's so strange. I would not be able to resist
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: confronting this person.
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, no, I'm confronting immediately. I'm going, girl, what's going on?
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: I asked her if she took my things out of
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: the dishwasher, and she said, oh, yes, sorry. I can
• 47:26
  Speaker 3: empty my stuff out now. In this moment, I then
• 47:29
  Speaker 3: meet the person who's in the room next to me, Nathaniel,
• 47:32
  Speaker 3: 28 male. And we discussed how she has been acting. Apparently,
• 47:36
  Speaker 3: when he had toured the place, Samantha was out there
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: trying to convince him not to move in. The person
• 47:41
  Speaker 3: giving the tour says that Samantha does this frequently, and
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: it seems as though she wants this four-bedroom apartment to herself. Again,
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: very weird and a bit antagonistic. Thirty minutes go by,
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: and I see a note on the trash cans. It read,
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: I know I told you I was comfortable with you
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: using my trash can, but now I am not.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Can you please buy yourself a new one?
• 48:01
  Speaker 4: This is so weird. She had to put a note.
• 48:04
  Speaker 4: She couldn't even tell you this. She had to put
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: a note on the trash can.
• 48:07
  Speaker 5: A passive aggressive note.
• 48:08
  Speaker 4: She's like, sorry, don't use this. Just a little note
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: that says, wait, no, stop. Stop, don't use the trash can.
• 48:14
  Speaker 5: Should we just do passive-aggressive notes all over the apartment?
• 48:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and then OP opens it, and it goes, oh,
• 48:18
  Speaker 4: I see you're using the trash can.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: Close it, please.
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: I'd be like, I'd leave you notes, too, but there's
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: not enough sticky notes to cover up all the crap
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: that you have in the living room.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: Get your stuff in your room.
• 48:28
  Speaker 5: I'd put sticky notes all over the apartment, and just
• 48:30
  Speaker 5: be like, you're breathing my oxygen. Stop it.
• 48:32
  Speaker 4: Sorry, could you stop breathing the air?
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: And I'd just be like, by the way, fully ignoring that.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: Go ahead, put a lock on your trash can, freak.
• 48:41
  Speaker 7: I'm using your trash.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: This really set me off.
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: She comes out, and I ask her if she can
• 48:46
  Speaker 3: move some of her belongings out of the shared space
• 48:48
  Speaker 3: to make room for another trash can.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: She said she didn't have any space in her room.
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: Not my problem, I fear.
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: I then explain to her that it's very weird to
• 48:56
  Speaker 3: take someone's dirty dishes out of the dishwasher without saying anything,
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: and I question why she can only wash her things
• 49:01
  Speaker 3: and not anyone else's. I tell her that we can
• 49:04
  Speaker 3: use the dishwasher pods I bought. She said she can't
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: use that dish detergent because it would ruin her plates.
• 49:10
  Speaker 4: How? How would it ruin your plates?
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: If your plates are that sensitive, you're hand washing, dude.
• 49:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: I just tell her that she needs to get rid
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: of a few boxes so that there's space for others
• 49:19
  Speaker 3: to have their belongings. And we leave it at that.
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: I purchase a new garbage can and bags and bring
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: it inside. Nathaniel is now in the shared space and
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: says to Samantha, would you be able to move your
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: trash can? None of us are allowed to use it.
• 49:31
  Speaker 3: I don't think it should be in the shared space.
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: She again said she was sorry, but she doesn't have
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: any space in her room. Hey, did you know you
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: can get.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: Rid of stuff?
• 49:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry. You have too small of a room
• 49:43
  Speaker 4: to have all of those things, so you must get
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: rid of the things.
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: I'm just, stuff's going to start disappearing.
• 49:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know what happened to that.
• 49:52
  Speaker 4: I thought that was mine.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: I thought you were getting rid of stuff.
• 49:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, because it was in a box in the living room,
• 49:57
  Speaker 4: so I threw it out.
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: Nathaniel goes on to tell her that it doesn't make
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: sense to have that out in the common area when
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: nobody else can go near it. He ate with that.
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: I completely agree. Now I'm here trying to figure out
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: what to do. I feel as though she acts this
• 50:10
  Speaker 3: way to try to get people to move out. I
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: plan on documenting everything should this get further escalated. Any
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: advice would be appreciated, and we do have an update.
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: I just start giving her the same energy. Start moving
• 50:22
  Speaker 4: her stuff. I don't know.
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, if any of her stuff is like,
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: if there's like a couch or anything, if any of
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: her stuff isn't in a place that makes part of
• 50:31
  Speaker 3: the space unusable, just throw it on the floor in
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: the corner.
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: Truly.
• 50:36
  Speaker 4: Start moving her stuff.
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: It's like, you don't care, clearly. She touched your plates.
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: You don't have enough space for this stuff. Either get
• 50:43
  Speaker 3: a storage unit or get rid of it.
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: And I'm using that trash can, too.
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: I'm putting so much trash in there that she can't
• 50:50
  Speaker 4: even close that trash can.
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: I'd love for you to stop me.
• 50:53
  Speaker 5: I'm picking her up and putting her in the trash can.
• 50:57
  Speaker 4: She's going right in the trash can. I'm flipping her
• 50:59
  Speaker 4: upside down.
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: Trash.
• 51:01
  Speaker 3: Update next day. I would like to explain a few things. One,
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: Samantha has been living in this apartment for well over
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: a year. Two, our rental company works like student housing.
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: All four of us have separate leases and we each
• 51:13
  Speaker 3: pay for our own room and use of the shared space.
• 51:16
  Speaker 3: You can rent a room for as little as one month,
• 51:18
  Speaker 3: but for up to two years. Three, when a tenant
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: is already living in the apartment, they get an email
• 51:24
  Speaker 3: showing them the profile of a potential new tenant. You
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: can sign a notice of decline if you do not
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: want to live with the replacement tenant. Samantha tried to
• 51:32
  Speaker 3: sign that for all three of us who have moved in,
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: and I assume has done it to most people who
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: have tried to live in the apartment with her. I'm
• 51:39
  Speaker 3: pretty convinced Samantha has some form of contamination OCD. That explains,
• 51:43
  Speaker 3: but does not excuse, a lot of her weird behavior
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: when it comes to separate trash cans, long showers, and
• 51:48
  Speaker 3: not wanting to have other people's dishes in the dishwasher
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: with her things. Obviously, this is not something I can
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: bring up with her directly, as that would be completely inappropriate.
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: Would it be?
• 51:58
  Speaker 5: Is Opie being sarcastic?
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: No, I don't think so.
• 52:01
  Speaker 4: I don't know. Why would that be inappropriate? What she's
• 52:04
  Speaker 4: saying exactly is inappropriate.
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: Just talking to her. Bringing that up to her.
• 52:07
  Speaker 4: Bringing what up, though?
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: Being like, you have OCD?
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: Oh, specifically asking. Oh, okay, okay, okay. I misheard that. Maybe,
• 52:18
  Speaker 4: because you don't like her. You don't really have that
• 52:20
  Speaker 4: type of relationship with her.
• 52:21
  Speaker 3: Last night, Samantha moved the boxes that were blocking the
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: doorway to the other tenant.
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: I have now met that tenant, Paul.
• 52:29
  Speaker 4: I love to think that Paul's just been stuck in
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: his room the whole time and she finally moved the
• 52:34
  Speaker 4: boxes and he's like, I pray, I pray.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: He's got an entire farm in there. He's built an ecosystem.
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: He's doing a Matt Damon in the Martian.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: He's Martianing.
• 52:44
  Speaker 3: Paul is not as concerned with this situation as he
• 52:47
  Speaker 3: will only be living with us for a month. I'm
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: glad she moved the boxes, however. They are now on
• 52:52
  Speaker 3: another table in the shared living space. While it is
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: no longer a hazard related to the egress of Paul's doorway,
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: it still violates the lease terms because our shared space
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: is still being used as her personal storage unit. This morning,
• 53:07
  Speaker 3: we had a cleaning lady come in who the rental
• 53:09
  Speaker 3: company hires when new tenants move in. That was all
• 53:12
  Speaker 3: fine until I heard Samantha laughing with the cleaning lady,
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: and I stepped outside to see what was going on.
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: As soon as I walk out, Samantha asks the cleaning
• 53:19
  Speaker 3: lady if they can talk about something outside.
• 53:21
  Speaker 7: Ha ha ha.
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: I would only assume she's complaining about us. As for
• 53:27
  Speaker 3: the report I made to our rental company, I have
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: yet to hear back. Supposedly, they will be calling Samantha
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: today and telling her to remove her belongings from the
• 53:34
  Speaker 3: living room, and if nothing changes in a few days,
• 53:36
  Speaker 3: they will further escalate it. Nathaniel has now also made
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: a report that documents the antagonistic behavior Samantha displayed when
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: he was taking a tour. Overall, while I can empathize
• 53:47
  Speaker 3: with the potential of her struggling with contamination OCD, her
• 53:50
  Speaker 3: behavior towards us has been extremely rude and uncalled for.
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: I'm hoping that pressure from the rental company can force
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: her into getting a storage unit or throwing away some
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: of the empty boxes.
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: They're empty?
• 54:03
  Speaker 4: I'm throwing them away myself. They're gone. She don't know
• 54:07
  Speaker 4: how to.
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: Pack out her boxes? Just fold them up, girl.
• 54:11
  Speaker 4: They're gone. I would have thrown them away so quick.
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: Update two. Two days after.
• 54:17
  Speaker 3: Samantha has relocated some of her belongings. Yet again, she
• 54:20
  Speaker 3: is just moving them to other parts of the shared
• 54:22
  Speaker 3: living space.
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: She just moves them like a little bit to the
• 54:25
  Speaker 4: left and she's like, see, I moved them.
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like taking video evidence of it too, just like.
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: Yep, I moved it six inches.
• 54:33
  Speaker 4: You're welcome.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: That's plenty.
• 54:36
  Speaker 3: She's still leaving three of us with little to no
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: room in the common area. Samantha and I have not
• 54:41
  Speaker 3: really interacted in the last few days. She's been in
• 54:44
  Speaker 3: her room pretty much all day. When she isn't, she's
• 54:46
  Speaker 3: usually scrubbing the crap out of her belongings. She has
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: yet to use the dishwasher since the initial incident. I
• 54:52
  Speaker 3: have been using it almost daily. She is really adamant
• 54:55
  Speaker 3: on not washing her dishes with other people's. We had
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: a brief run in yesterday where I was putting a
• 55:01
  Speaker 3: storage container under the sink for my chemicals and she
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: insisted that she move her sponge and soap that were
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: also under the sink herself. I also saw Samantha disinfecting
• 55:12
  Speaker 3: her bottle of olive oil this morning. She really does
• 55:15
  Speaker 3: not want us anywhere near her things. Now this is
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: weird to me because all her crap is in the
• 55:21
  Speaker 3: living room.
• 55:22
  Speaker 5: What's up with that?
• 55:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she has like a contamination thing, but also is
• 55:27
  Speaker 4: fine with it being in the living room.
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: What's going on?
• 55:32
  Speaker 3: This would be fine if her belongings didn't take up
• 55:35
  Speaker 3: the majority of the living room, LOL. Well, I mean,
• 55:38
  Speaker 3: just start laying on it. She's got a bunch of
• 55:40
  Speaker 3: clothes laid out on the couch.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: Just back, dude.
• 55:43
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 55:44
  Speaker 6: All right.
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: I'm laying on these clothes. And she goes, no, my clothes.
• 55:47
  Speaker 4: And you go, oh, well, you should keep.
• 55:48
  Speaker 6: Them in your room.
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: Or you can keep them here. They're so comfy.
• 55:51
  Speaker 4: They're so comfortable. Just roll around them. You start wearing them.
• 55:57
  Speaker 4: You do like one of those challenges where you wear
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: all the layers. And you're like, oh, I just thought
• 56:01
  Speaker 4: because you left them out, they were here for me.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: You do a Weezer pork and beans.
• 56:05
  Speaker 3: Lastly, and most importantly, both me and Nathaniel have gotten
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: responses from the rental company. I was more focused on
• 56:12
  Speaker 3: her breaking the literal terms of the lease, as I
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: felt like that could get us more direct action. I'm
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: hopeful that this weekend some of her stuff can be
• 56:19
  Speaker 3: moved into a storage unit or dealt with appropriately. We
• 56:23
  Speaker 3: have a third update four days later. Hopefully the wheels
• 56:29
  Speaker 3: of bureaucracy.
• 56:30
  Speaker 4: That finally works.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: The wheels of tenant bureaucracy move ever slowly.
• 56:36
  Speaker 5: The wheels on the bureaucracy go round and round.
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: The wheels of tenant bureaucracy move as slow as molasses
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: down the river of time.
• 56:46
  Speaker 3: Oh, OP says, unfortunately, this update brings little good news.
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: No, you're kidding.
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: You're joking.
• 56:54
  Speaker 4: You're kidding. The wheels of the tenant bureaucracy didn't move quick?
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: They didn't go around at all.
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: They're parked.
• 57:02
  Speaker 4: They have one of those little wheel caps on them
• 57:03
  Speaker 4: that they do when they tow you?
• 57:06
  Speaker 5: They're booted.
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: Booted up.
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: In fact, I am now so annoyed and at my
• 57:11
  Speaker 3: wits end that I will be escalating and complaining until
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: I get my way.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: Let's start with this weekend.
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: I stopped by my storage unit to grab a few things,
• 57:19
  Speaker 3: one of those being my PC. I'm starting a remote
• 57:22
  Speaker 3: position and need it for work. There is simply no
• 57:25
  Speaker 3: room for me to bring my desk, so I decide
• 57:28
  Speaker 3: that I will be moving one of her boxes to
• 57:30
  Speaker 3: make room for my monitor, keyboard, and mouse. And I
• 57:33
  Speaker 3: did just that. I was able to get my work
• 57:35
  Speaker 3: done and all was well. Later that night, I'm out
• 57:38
  Speaker 3: in the common room and Samantha approaches me. She asked,
• 57:42
  Speaker 3: would you be able to move your computer? I use
• 57:44
  Speaker 3: those bins for cooking.
• 57:46
  Speaker 4: Bins for cooking?
• 57:48
  Speaker 2: What?
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: No. No! Opie says. I would.
• 57:54
  Speaker 3: But there is literally no room for me to fit
• 57:56
  Speaker 3: a desk in here. She asked if I wanted her
• 57:58
  Speaker 3: to move her things. I simply do not understand how
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: someone has this much stuff and insists that they need
• 58:05
  Speaker 3: and use all of it.
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: I moved my things. She pushed her table all of
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: six inches.
• 58:12
  Speaker 3: My plan is to just move the box when I
• 58:13
  Speaker 3: need it and put it back when I'm done working.
• 58:16
  Speaker 3: because I found out something this morning that has truly
• 58:19
  Speaker 3: set me off. Today, Nathaniel and I received another update
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: from the rental company. How I chose to read it was,
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: we know Samantha has been breaking the lease and has
• 58:28
  Speaker 3: been antagonistic towards you guys, but she's moving out in
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: two weeks, so we actually solved the problem.
• 58:35
  Speaker 4: I mean, yeah.
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: Actually, no.
• 58:38
  Speaker 5: Oh, no.
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: No problem was resolved. In fact, it was made worse.
• 58:42
  Speaker 4: No.
• 58:44
  Speaker 5: Color me shocked.
• 58:46
  Speaker 3: June Holmes basically told us to go F ourselves and
• 58:49
  Speaker 3: pay the full price of the rent.
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: Not on my watch.
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: Immediately upon receiving this message, I call their support line
• 58:56
  Speaker 3: and I'm connected with a man who can essentially guarantee nothing.
• 59:00
  Speaker 3: I explained to him that I don't understand how they
• 59:02
  Speaker 3: are expecting me to just let this slide when she's
• 59:04
  Speaker 3: literally breaking the lease by having her things in the room.
• 59:07
  Speaker 3: I won't be paying full price when I cannot use
• 59:09
  Speaker 3: a large part of the space I am paying for.
• 59:12
  Speaker 3: I care and doubt on him. He said that I
• 59:15
  Speaker 3: likely will not get any sort of refund whatsoever. I'm
• 59:18
  Speaker 3: going to absolutely make sure that is not the case.
• 59:21
  Speaker 3: Quite frankly, it is a slap in the face to
• 59:23
  Speaker 3: just let this slide without any sort of compensation. She's
• 59:26
  Speaker 3: literally breaking the contract. At this point, it is beyond Samantha,
• 59:30
  Speaker 3: and I am just now so annoyed with June Holmes.
• 59:33
  Speaker 4: June Holmes is the real villain of this story. This
• 59:37
  Speaker 4: whole time we thought it was Samantha, but it's the
• 59:40
  Speaker 4: bureaucracy itself.
• 59:41
  Speaker 5: Yeah, she's just their pawn.
• 59:43
  Speaker 3: Property management companies don't care about you.
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: No, they don't care about you at all. They just
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: care about money.
• 59:50
  Speaker 3: The man on the phone said they would resolve this
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: later today, but we will see.
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: And we have some comments.
• 59:56
  Speaker 4: Well, later today is in two to three business years.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that is true.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 5: And for them, that's really fast.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they're putting their best people on it.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: It's speedy and efficient.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 3: We've got comments. OP adds info. I found out this
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 3: evening that she is not being evicted. The date they
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 3: provided is just the natural end of her lease. We
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: as tenants don't have access to see how long someone
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 3: will be renting a room, which is why Nathaniel and
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 3: I didn't know until they told us today. But I
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 3: did not get her booted out. I am being told
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 3: to just wait it out. This is a solution. I
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 3: won't deny that. But it's one that I am impatient for.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 3: September can't come soon enough. I'm not regretting how I
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 3: handled anything. It's a lot different to hear about a
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 3: situation on Reddit than to actually be living it. And
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 3: if you were in my situation, you'd probably want some
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 3: of your rent back, too.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: Let's be so for real.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 4: Absolutely.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 5: I want my rent back. I want my sanity back.
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 4: Give me all my rent back.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 5: I want my time back. I want my apartment.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, fat chance, though. Good, absolutely good luck. You will
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: need it.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 4: Do I feel for you?
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 4: Will you get your money back?
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 3: No.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: Three weeks later, we got another update. Today is the second,
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: and she's still here.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 5: Huh.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 4: And then I start pulling, like, I'm Nikki in Obsession.
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 4: I'm in the corner of the room every night, freaking out.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 5: You start pulling pranks on them?
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I duct tape her door. She doesn't know what's
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 4: going on. And I go, no, that wasn't me.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 3: You duct tape the door shut, and you go, I
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 3: just want to make sure none of the bad air
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: can get inside.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I just felt like you wanted to stay here
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 4: all the time, and we could hang out.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 3: She tries to talk to me, and I just go,
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 3: bugs in your skin, bugs in your skin, bugs in
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 3: your skin.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: Germs, germs. Germ, germ, germ.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 4: That's warfare right there.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 5: Start blasting Alicia Keys and Frank Sinatra 24-7.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 3: A few days after my last update, I had my
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 3: very first full conversation with Samantha. I was getting ready
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 3: to go out, and she was meal prepping in the kitchen.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 3: She said, you know, you're one of the best female
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 3: roommates I've ever had.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 5: That is hilarious.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 4: But that does feel a little bit like when people
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 4: are so kind of just not with it socially. and
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 4: have their own kind of issues, they do consider people
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 4: who just have basic decency.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 5: As like the cream of the crop.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 4: You really took all the that I've been hurling at you.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 5: Everyone else really hates me.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: You've just dealt with it, as one should.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 3: Just know if I had water in my mouth, it
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 3: would have been spit out immediately, because how the F
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 3: is that possible? Samantha then goes on to explain her
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 3: previous roommate situation. And how crazy some of them were.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 3: She had to get a restraining order on some man
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 3: who had been living in Paul's room at some point. Apparently,
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 3: the girl who lived in my room last had her
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 3: mom come and threaten Samantha. She said she appreciated me, Nathaniel,
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 3: and Paul because we did not touch her stuff maliciously.
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: Overall, a very odd conversation.
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 3: And it gave me some info that explained a little
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 3: of why she is the way she is. Paul has
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 3: officially moved out and we now have a vacancy. What
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 3: confused me, though, is that Samantha never moved out.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: All her stuff is still here.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 3: Yesterday morning, June Holmes sent a rep over to do
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 3: a move-out check for both Paul and Samantha's rooms. They
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 3: knocked on her door, but she never opened it. Oh, Lord,
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: she's going to squat.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 4: And now she is a squatter. And June Holmes is
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 4: going to go, well, I don't know. We can't do
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 4: anything about it.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 3: I start my day as usual and set up my
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 3: desk to do some remote work. About an hour in,
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 3: Samantha comes out of her room, and I make the
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 3: mistake of asking how she was doing. She said, Nathaniel
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 3: and I were up talking from 1 to 4 a.m.,
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 3: and I think he was flirting with me. I put
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 3: it all into chat GPT, and it told me he
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 3: absolutely was.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 4: Oh, she said, when he said hello and asked me
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 4: to move my stuff, was that flirting chat GPT? And
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 4: chat GPT said, no. Probably, yes. He's probably very interested
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 4: in you. You should continue to ask him to help
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 4: move your things.
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 5: Dakota, you should say that in the robot voice.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 7: He is definitely flirting with you. No other man would
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 7: speak with you otherwise. Would you like me to elaborate?
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 3: This is where this whole saga takes a more uncomfortable turn.
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: Also, why do we need chat GPT for that? That's insane.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: She then proceeds to tell me about their conversation.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 3: I will spare most of the details, but it did
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 3: end up with her explaining her spicy sleep life to Nathaniel.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 3: Mind you, this may have been the first conversation these
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 3: two have had in the month we have been living together.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 3: I tried explaining to Samantha that if you give a
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 3: man an inch, he will take it a mile. You
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 3: can't just start going into graphic detail about your sleepy
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 3: spicy life with a random man because he might take
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 3: it as flirting. She tells me that I can read
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 3: what she put into chat GPT. In this wall of text,
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 3: my suspicions were confirmed. She does have contamination OCD, and
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 3: I told her I noticed it as well. I know
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 3: she did have to tell him to stop touching her
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 3: at one point, but she also scratched Nathaniel to show
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 3: him how sharp her.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: Nails are for some reason.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 4: This is so weird.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 3: I'm just confused by the entire interaction. At this point,
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 3: I'm just very weirded out because I thought we had
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 3: gotten to the point of cohabiting somewhat nicely. She said,
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 3: I brought you up too.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 1: Oh, brother.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 4: Why'd you do that?
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 3: She said, I asked him what his type is and
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 3: he described dark features, women that are smaller and skinnier.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: I thought he was describing me. So I asked him
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 1: what he thought of you. Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew.
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 1: She said, he said he thought you were pretty.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 2: Ew!
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 3: I am just trying to live here. I'm not looking
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 3: for anyone's opinions on me, especially my looks. She then
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 3: admits to me that she did a good stalk of
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 3: the both of us before we moved in.
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 4: I did a good stalk of you, I did. I
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 4: did the best stalk. I was behind you while you
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 4: were in a ghost since, and I walked for miles.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah, this is where you go, oh, wait, wait, before
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 5: you start talking to me about that, let me get
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 5: my phone.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 4: It is not recording.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 5: Okay, go for it.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 4: It's definitely not recording.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 1: You're like, oh, that's cool. Shut up. I don't want
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: to hear that. Why would you say that?
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 3: She knew my birthday and even looked into our personal
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 3: backgrounds and beliefs. When she found out we didn't line
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 3: up on some of it, she seemed surprised at how
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 3: calmly I took it. I mean, yeah, you just told
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 3: me you looked up any bit of personal information you
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 3: could find of me online. I am not trying to
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 3: get on your bad side. Samantha then tells me that
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 3: because of a legal contingency, she hasn't been paying rent
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 3: since April. And I had just paid rent that morning,
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 3: of course. So, hearing that she basically gets to squat
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 3: here was not the best news. She just got a
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 3: new job last week, and from what I understood of
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 3: her rambling, that is what she needed to move out,
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 3: I guess, so she will be gone soon? Eventually, she
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 3: knocks on my door and asks me to help her
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 3: move her boxes into Paul's old room. She said in
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 3: our lease, it says we have access to the whole apartment.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: So like we can go into any room. I wouldn't
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 3: go into yours though.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 4: The lease says that we can, we can, we can
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 4: go into anyone's room at any time and we can
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 4: be in there. So sometimes I don't go into your
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 4: room at night and watch you sleep. I don't do that.
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: The lease also says you can't put your crap in
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 1: the shared space. Did you read that part?
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 4: I don't think she can read.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 5: She has selective reading.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, thanks for prefacing with that. That's totally not suspicious.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 3: Regardless, I help her move a few boxes, and the
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 3: main living area is finally more open.
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 1: Hooray!
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 3: A couple of hours go by, and I get ready
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 3: to leave for grocery shopping. Samantha stops me before I leave.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 3: She said, I've decided that because I haven't had spicy
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 3: sleep in two years, I'm going to try and have
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 3: spicy sleep with 23 men in one month to catch up.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: I said, I don't think that's how that works.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: Ha ha ha ha!
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 3: She said, I was so passy a couple of weeks
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 3: ago that I was really thinking of going for it
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 3: while pointing to Nathaniel and Paul's doors. I kind of
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 3: give her a look like Bob the Blob from Monsters vs.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 5: Aliens.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 4: Oh my God, what a reference. What a reference. Loved
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 4: that reference. I loved that movie when I was a kid.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 3: Because why do you feel the need to tell me
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 3: these things? I do not mess with you like that.
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 3: And that, folks, is the full update. I have not
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 3: spoken to Nathaniel at all.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 1: I am very uncomfortable. that she asked him that question.
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: And I'm just hoping Samantha leaves soon.
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 4: Please leave.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 1: Get on, girly.
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 3: Go find yourself those 23.
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 1: 23 in you. 23 in you.
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: Yikes.
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 3: It is really uncomfortable in here now. I am thinking
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 3: of bringing this info to June Holmes. However, I don't
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 3: know how much they can do as she is essentially squatting.
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 3: We are coming up to the final update here.
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 4: I really want to know if Nathaniel actually is into
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 4: this or if Samantha is just super delusional and it
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 4: might be a bit of both or just she's delusional.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 3: I got to say, she has a vision and it's
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 3: her right as a human being to pursue it. Maybe
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 3: keep her dreams a little closer to the vest.
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Don't let me in on that.
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: Feel free. Feel free. Not too free, though.
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 3: Love how she also brought up, by the way, technically
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 3: I have access to all of the rooms.
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 1: So, might do a little rotation. You know what I mean?
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 1: Bring four guys home and just put them each in
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: a room. Say, wait your turn. Update five, one day later. Hello, guys.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 3: I just got off the phone with a representative from
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 3: my leasing company. I think I may just see if
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 3: they have apartments that I can move into that are
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 3: the same amount in rent as I Don't really want
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 3: to deal with this any longer, especially knowing it could
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 3: take months for the eviction process to run its course.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 3: I appreciated that this man admitted to me that she
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 3: has been a problem for them in the past. Also,
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 3: I'm in New York, which is a one-party consent state
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 3: if anyone was concerned. And a final eighth month later update.
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 4: Eighth month later?
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 4: I feel like it's going to be like, Samantha is
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 4: still living in that apartment.
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: No, please.
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 5: Samantha has conquered all of New York City.
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 4: She hasn't. Samantha has developed a network of tunnels in
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 4: the New York sewer systems. And now she goes from
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 4: all apartments.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: All right. Eight months later.
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 3: Samantha was formally evicted in February and things have significantly
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 3: calmed down.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: That's it?
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 4: Oh, yay!
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 6: Good.
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 5: Whatever.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 4: Let's go. Congratulations. I hope you had a party.
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: Get her out of there.
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 4: I hope you had a little party. A Samantha-free party.
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 4: Eight-month Samantha-free.
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: Freedom party. And that's the end of this story.