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Stop Feeling Invisible, Even To Yourself, In One Move and 5 Minutes · Your Utmost Life

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  Misty Celli: You don't have a belief problem.
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  Misty Celli: You have a resistance problem.
• 0:04
  Misty Celli: And there's a big difference because one means that you're broken, and the other means that you're one small action away from a breakthrough.
• 0:10
  Misty Celli: I'm not going to ask you to believe anything today.
• 0:13
  Misty Celli: I'm not even going to ask you to trust me.
• 0:14
  Misty Celli: All I'm asking is five minutes and I will let the results do the talking.
• 0:20
  Misty Celli: If you're an ambitious mother who feels like you're living for everyone else and you catch yourself feeling guilty for thinking, is this all there is?
• 0:26
  Misty Celli: You are in the right place.
• 0:28
  Misty Celli: You were never meant to disappear into your roles, but somewhere between everyone's needs and everyone's expectations, you became invisible, disconnected, and living on autopilot.
• 0:37
  Misty Celli: Feel present, self-led, and decisive in six weeks, practicing in real time what it actually feels like to choose yourself by following the Identity Reset Feel Like Yourself Again, six weeks series.
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  Misty Celli: Reclaim who you are.
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  Misty Celli: Design a life that is fully and intentionally yours and show up every day as the utmost woman you've always been.
• 0:55
  Misty Celli: Not just for everyone else, but finally fully for yourself.
• 0:58
  Misty Celli: This is where you begin the process of returning to your utmost self.
• 1:01
  Misty Celli: Not by accident, not by obligation, but by design.
• 1:03
  Misty Celli: Welcome to Your Utmost Life podcast.
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  Misty Celli: I'm Misty, Identity and Life Design Coach for Ambitious Mothers.
• 1:10
  Misty Celli: Before we get into it, if you haven't hit follow or subscribe yet, do it now so the rest of this series lands in your feed instead of something you have to remember to find.
• 1:18
  Misty Celli: Okay, let's talk about the five minutes you keep losing to the dishes.
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  Misty Celli: There's a quiet, reasonable sounding, and well-known voice that shows up right before you do something different.
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  Misty Celli: And it gently talks you back into the familiar shape of your day.
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  Misty Celli: Maybe you're about to say no to a last minute request from a family member so you can have 10 minutes to yourself.
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  Misty Celli: But right before you open your mouth, you feel a tug.
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  Misty Celli: That inner voice says, you could just handle it.
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  Misty Celli: It isn't really a big deal.
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  Misty Celli: So go ahead and just do it now.
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  Misty Celli: It convinces you to take your time later.
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  Misty Celli: Or maybe you pause on your way to take a quick break and suddenly remember the laundry or your inbox and you tell yourself, you'll just do that first.
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  Misty Celli: That quiet, reasonable voice that ensures you handle everything for everybody doesn't argue with you.
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  Misty Celli: It just reminds you how busy you are and how many people need you.
• 2:12
  Misty Celli: How today probably isn't the best day to start.
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  Misty Celli: And the truth is, it's very good at its job.
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  Misty Celli: That voice has a name even if you've never said it out loud.
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  Misty Celli: The Invisible Mama.
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  Misty Celli: She's not a stranger.
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  Misty Celli: She's the version of you that shows up every single day, quietly making sure everyone else is okay, and just as quietly making sure that you are last.
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  Misty Celli: She feels like love.
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  Misty Celli: She feels like doing the right thing, but she's running your life on a system that was never designed to include you.
• 2:43
  Misty Celli: And that's exactly what we're getting into today.
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  Misty Celli: You'll recognize her in the familiar lines like, just do the dishes first, or I'll handle that before I take a few minutes for myself.
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  Misty Celli: She shows up when you promise yourself that you'll get outside for fresh air, but answer one more email instead.
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  Misty Celli: She's who shows up when you reach the end of the day and realize that you never actually ate lunch because you kept putting it off for errands.
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  Misty Celli: She's the reason reaching for your phone to scroll feels easier than sitting still for a quiet minute because disappearing into busyness feels better than feeling the guilt of pausing.
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  Misty Celli: Last week we talked about the fear that finding yourself again might cost you the people that you love.
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  Misty Celli: And if you tried the three-word exercise, I am proud of you.
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  Misty Celli: But I'd bet a moment came up where you could have said what you actually wanted or protected 20 minutes for yourself and the invisible mama showed up.
• 3:34
  Misty Celli: Maybe you planned a walk and then you saw the dishes still sitting in the sink and you told yourself you'd go after.
• 3:40
  Misty Celli: The dishes took over and the walk quietly disappeared the way it always does.
• 3:45
  Misty Celli: If that happened, please don't file it under failure.
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  Misty Celli: You are not the only one who plans the five minutes and then loses them to the dishes every single time.
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  Misty Celli: It isn't a discipline problem.
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  Misty Celli: There's a real reason boundaries feel heavy and decisions about your own needs feel slow.
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  Misty Celli: So let's actually get into why.
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  Misty Celli: Think about how fast you know what your mom needs before her appointment or what your husband needs after a hard day.
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  Misty Celli: You don't have to think about it.
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  Misty Celli: You don't have to think it through.
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  Misty Celli: It's just there instantly, the way a path gets worn smooth after you've walked it a thousand times.
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  Misty Celli: That's what years of practice does.
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  Misty Celli: It forms a path, an easy-to-follow path that you can take without thought, worry, or unexpected moments.
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  Misty Celli: But when the decision is about you, there's no road there yet.
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  Misty Celli: You're not slow because you're indecisive.
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  Misty Celli: You're standing there looking out at the open field in front of you, trying to figure out which direction is even you, while everyone else's path is already clearly marked and easy to follow.
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  Misty Celli: So of course, finding yours takes longer.
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  Misty Celli: It's not a flaw.
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  Misty Celli: It's just what it looks like the first time you try walking something where you've never been allowed to go.
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  Misty Celli: Boundaries feel heavy for the same reason.
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  Misty Celli: A boundary is a decision about your own worth, spoken out loud, usually to someone who's gotten so used to you not having one.
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  Misty Celli: Of course, that feels heavy the first time you try it.
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  Misty Celli: You're not just saying a sentence, you're cutting a brand new path through ground that's never been walked.
• 5:12
  Misty Celli: And underneath all of this, there is a belief running quietly and constantly, even if you've never said it in these exact words.
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  Misty Celli: Something like, to be worthy of this life, I have to keep going and earning it.
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  Misty Celli: If I stop, even for a moment, the cost is too high, I will no longer be as valuable.
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  Misty Celli: But because I care way too much about you, I need to gently push back on that with truth.
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  Misty Celli: For a long time, I believe that too, and in full transparency, I still have moments where the old invisible me tries to show up, but I catch it before I slip away again.
• 5:46
  Misty Celli: I remember so many mornings where I'd skip my own quiet time just to get everyone else ready.
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  Misty Celli: And by the time the day was really rolling, I felt almost mechanical.
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  Misty Celli: I was holding my breath, dead focused on the tasks, pushing through the day like a well-oiled machine instead of a present woman, mom, or wife.
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  Misty Celli: And it turns out the research backs up what I was living. Brene Brown's research on boundaries found something familiar.
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  Misty Celli: The women who show up most steadily for the people that they love aren't the ones who give until there's nothing left.
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  Misty Celli: They're the ones with real boundaries, because boundaries are what keep a person out of resentment.
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  Misty Celli: And resentment is what happens when you keep giving from empty.
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  Misty Celli: I thought that was selflessness, being an amazing homemaker, wife, mother, a rock star at life.
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  Misty Celli: Really, it was just exhaustion wearing a nicer name.
• 6:37
  Misty Celli: You already know the sentence, you can't pour from an empty cup.
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  Misty Celli: You've heard it so many times.
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  Misty Celli: It's basically wallpaper at this point.
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  Misty Celli: And I think that's exactly the problem.
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  Misty Celli: You can finish the sentence.
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  Misty Celli: You've probably even said it to a friend, but knowing a sentence and feeling its weight are two completely different things.
• 6:55
  Misty Celli: And if you'd actually felt it by now, you wouldn't still be sitting here in the exact same exhausted pattern, listening yet to another episode about it.
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  Misty Celli: That's not you feeling, that's just what running unemptive actually looks like from the inside.
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  Misty Celli: She cannot give what she does not have.
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  Misty Celli: So let's not repeat the sentence.
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  Misty Celli: Let's actually look at what empty looks like on an ordinary Tuesday.
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  Misty Celli: It looks like snapping at your husband over something that wasn't really about him at all.
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  Misty Celli: It looks like half listening to your kid when they tell you about their day while you're already three steps ahead thinking about what still needs to get done.
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  Misty Celli: It looks like saying I'm fine so fast and so automatically that you don't even notice if you're checking it first.
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  Misty Celli: Here's why that happens, and it's not a character flaw.
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  Misty Celli: Patience, presence, and warmth aren't unlimited resources you have or don't have.
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  Misty Celli: There's something you generate, and generating them takes something out of you the same way anything real does.
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  Misty Celli: When there's nothing left in your reserve, your body and your mind don't stop functioning.
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  Misty Celli: They just start pulling from somewhere else to keep going.
• 8:01
  Misty Celli: And you already know where that somewhere else is.
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  Misty Celli: That somewhere else is usually your tone, your attention, your ability to actually be in the room instead of just standing in it.
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  Misty Celli: That's not you failing at motherhood.
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  Misty Celli: That's just what depletion actually does mechanically to a person, any person, regardless of how much she loves the people in front of her.
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  Misty Celli: But here's what that actually costs over time, not just today.
• 8:25
  Misty Celli: It's not one snapped comment or one distracted conversation.
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  Misty Celli: It's your kids slowly learning that when they talk to you, they're getting half of you and they adjust to what they share accordingly.
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  Misty Celli: It's your husband learning to read your face before he brings something up, gauging whether today's a good day or not, the same way you check the weather.
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  Misty Celli: None of that happens because you don't love them enough.
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  Misty Celli: It happens because a woman running unempted cannot generate what an empty tank does not have, no matter how much she wants it to.
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  Misty Celli: So here's the point, and it's why today matters.
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  Misty Celli: This was never really about you deserving five minutes or earning a break or being as kind to yourself as some kind of nice bonus.
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  Misty Celli: It's about the fact that presence has to come from somewhere.
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  Misty Celli: And if you don't refill it on purpose, it gets pulled from whatever's left, usually the exact people that you were trying hardest to protect.
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  Misty Celli: Refilling yourself isn't in competition with taking care of your family.
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  Misty Celli: It's actually the mechanism that makes real care possible in the first place, not just the appearance of it.
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  Misty Celli: I don't want you to believe this just because I said it with conviction.
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  Misty Celli: I want you to prove it to yourself today in five minutes.
• 9:36
  Misty Celli: If you were with me last week, you already have your three words.
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  Misty Celli: If you haven't fully landed on them yet, no worries.
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  Misty Celli: And if this is your first episode, you aren't behind.
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  Misty Celli: But this series builds in layers.
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  Misty Celli: So when you have time, I'd love for you to go back and listen from the beginning.
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  Misty Celli: For now, wherever you are with your words, let's take 15 seconds.
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  Misty Celli: Three words true about who you are underneath everything you do for everyone else.
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  Misty Celli: Say them out loud, even if it feels strange.
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  Misty Celli: Do you got them?
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  Misty Celli: Good.
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  Misty Celli: That's exactly what we're building on today.
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  Misty Celli: Here's what I want you to do with them starting now.
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  Misty Celli: Think of these three words as your filter, a filter for living as your utmost self.
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  Misty Celli: When a decision comes up in your day, especially one that's about you, run it through those three words first, not through everyone else's expectations or what would make things easiest for everyone else.
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  Misty Celli: Just this.
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  Misty Celli: Does this honor the woman I am?
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  Misty Celli: The woman I am embracing and becoming my utmost self.
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  Misty Celli: That's really all this is.
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  Misty Celli: It's not complicated, it's just new, which is why it feels awkward and perhaps slow to embrace.
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  Misty Celli: But I promise it won't stay that way.
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  Misty Celli: The more often you think about your three words, filter your thoughts and decisions through those words, the easier it gets.
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  Misty Celli: Today, your three words finally have a job to do, and in a few minutes, we're going to put them to work.
• 10:59
  Misty Celli: If this is landing for you and you want more in between episodes, that's what my email list is for.
• 11:05
  Misty Celli: Every week I send a short value-packed email with practical tools you can use right away and personal behind-the-scenes stories.
• 11:12
  Misty Celli: It's more personal, more direct, and a chance to connect with me and get answers to questions that you might not hear on the show.
• 11:18
  Misty Celli: If that sounds like something you want, the link is in the show notes.
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  Misty Celli: Join after this episode.
• 11:24
  Misty Celli: Today is not about thinking differently. It's about practicing it. I want you to do this today, not just think about doing it later. So let's actually put those three words to work.
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  Misty Celli: Pick one of two things, either a supportive act or a protective boundary.
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  Misty Celli: A supportive act is small.
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  Misty Celli: It's something just for you, something you'd normally skip.
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  Misty Celli: Perhaps it's sitting outside with your coffee before you even look at your phone, or reading one page of that book on your nightstand, the one that you've been eyeing for months and haven't started.
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  Misty Celli: Or maybe it's taking that walk around the block before you start dinner.
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  Misty Celli: A protective boundary is one small low-stakes no.
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  Misty Celli: I can't take that on today.
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  Misty Celli: Instead of the automatic yes, letting your husband handle something he's fully capable of handling without you quietly stepping in to smooth it over first.
• 12:15
  Misty Celli: Here's the thing: I already know what's going to happen the moment that you try to take it.
• 12:20
  Misty Celli: The old voice is going to show up, reminding you how busy you are, how many people need you, how today probably isn't the day.
• 12:27
  Misty Celli: And here's what I want you to notice that voice isn't making things up.
• 12:32
  Misty Celli: You are busy.
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  Misty Celli: People do need you.
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  Misty Celli: Those reasons are true.
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  Misty Celli: So don't waste your energy fighting the reasons themselves.
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  Misty Celli: What you get to challenge is where they lead you.
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  Misty Celli: Busy and needed do not add up to, so I don't matter today.
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  Misty Celli: That's the part your mind quietly tacks on at the end.
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  Misty Celli: And that part isn't true, even though everything before it was.
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  Misty Celli: So ask yourself something different instead.
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  Misty Celli: What would the woman behind those three words actually do?
• 13:01
  Misty Celli: Would she keep disappearing or would she let herself matter too, right alongside everyone else on her list?
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  Misty Celli: Then go ahead and move before the voice has time to finish its sentence.
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  Misty Celli: If you need it, count down.
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  Misty Celli: Five, four, three, two, one, move.
• 13:18
  Misty Celli: You probably didn't know this, but only 39% of mothers get even one hour to themselves in an entire day.
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  Misty Celli: Not an afternoon, but one hour.
• 13:28
  Misty Celli: So before the guilt shows up, I want you to have this.
• 13:31
  Misty Celli: If five minutes feels hard to justify, that isn't a personal failing.
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  Misty Celli: That's just the water almost every mother is swimming in.
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  Misty Celli: You're not behind.
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  Misty Celli: You're finally trying something most women never even give themselves permission to try.
• 13:45
  Misty Celli: And on the days when even five minutes feels impossible, give yourself permission to take one.
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  Misty Celli: Three deep breaths with your eyes closed.
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  Misty Celli: 60 seconds of sunshine on your face.
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  Misty Celli: A moment at the sink, actually feeling the water run on your hands instead of rushing past it.
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  Misty Celli: One minute is real.
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  Misty Celli: The point was never perfection.
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  Misty Celli: It's a reminder that you matter even when the smallest step is all you've got today.
• 14:12
  Misty Celli: Let me show you what this looks like in my own life, not just as a concept, but as a real normal everyday morning.
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  Misty Celli: There was a stretch of mornings where my supportive act was exactly that.
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  Misty Celli: Standing at the sink, warm water running over my hands, taking three slow breaths before I turned around and started the day.
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  Misty Celli: Nothing dramatic, just 30 seconds I used to skip entirely.
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  Misty Celli: I fully expected my husband to notice what I'd stopped doing for him in that window and to be a little bothered by it, but he wasn't.
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  Misty Celli: What he actually noticed was that I was less tense by evening, easier to talk to, more myself in the room with him.
• 14:49
  Misty Celli: And there was a separate season where my protective boundary was letting him handle bedtime from start to finish without me stepping in to smooth over the parts he does differently than I would.
• 14:59
  Misty Celli: I braced for pushback from him or from the kids.
• 15:03
  Misty Celli: What actually happened was that the kids adjusted within a few nights.
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  Misty Celli: He found his own rhythm, and I got 30 minutes back that I used to spend hovering and managing instead of resting.
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  Misty Celli: Nobody fell apart.
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  Misty Celli: If anything, he got to be more of their dad, not less.
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  Misty Celli: So today, pick one, supportive or protective, and do it whether it takes five minutes or one.
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  Misty Celli: Afterward, don't just check whether anything bad happened.
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  Misty Celli: Actually watch your family too.
• 15:31
  Misty Celli: Notice if the conversation at dinner feels a little easier.
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  Misty Celli: Notice if you're a little more patient with the same question you normally snap at.
• 15:39
  Misty Celli: That's not your imagination.
• 15:41
  Misty Celli: That's what a woman with something left in her tank actually looks like.
• 15:45
  Misty Celli: And it's proof for them, not just for you.
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  Misty Celli: I know what's sitting with you right now.
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  Misty Celli: Some version of if I stop doing for everyone else, even for five minutes, what's actually left of me?
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  Misty Celli: The doing is the only proof I have that I matter.
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  Misty Celli: I know that fear is real.
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  Misty Celli: And I would never ask you to stop caring for or abandoning the people who need you.
• 16:08
  Misty Celli: But I am challenging you to test something small enough that it genuinely can't cost them anything.
• 16:14
  Misty Celli: So you can see for yourself with your own eyes that your worth was never sitting in the doing to begin with.
• 16:21
  Misty Celli: It was underneath it the whole time, waiting for you to slow down long enough to notice it was there and to eventually feel the full weight of it.
• 16:30
  Misty Celli: There's probably something else sitting underneath that too, something quieter.
• 16:33
  Misty Celli: What if you try this and nothing changes?
• 16:36
  Misty Celli: What if you take the walk or say the no, and by tomorrow you're right back to the same exhausted version of yourself.
• 16:44
  Misty Celli: And it turns out that this was just one more thing that didn't work.
• 16:47
  Misty Celli: I want to sit with that for a second because I think that fear deserves more than a quick reassurance.
• 16:53
  Misty Celli: You've probably tried things before that didn't stick, maybe more than once.
• 16:57
  Misty Celli: So it makes complete sense that some part of you is protecting itself by expecting this to be one more of those.
• 17:05
  Misty Celli: Here's what I actually want you to hear though.
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  Misty Celli: Remember what we talked about earlier.
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  Misty Celli: Your mind has walked the old pattern so many times it doesn't even register as a choice anymore.
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  Misty Celli: It's worn in deep.
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  Misty Celli: So you're not failing if tomorrow feels hard again.
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  Misty Celli: One walk, one no, isn't supposed to undo years of an old pattern by itself.
• 17:27
  Misty Celli: And if that's what you're hoping for, I understand why nothing changed would feel true.
• 17:32
  Misty Celli: But something did change today, even if it's small enough that you almost missed it.
• 17:37
  Misty Celli: For five minutes or for one conversation, you prove to yourself that the version of you underneath the roles is still there, still reachable, still able to show up when you ask her to.
• 17:49
  Misty Celli: Today is one step on a path that doesn't exist until you actually take it.
• 17:55
  Misty Celli: Not the whole road, just the first step of it.
• 17:58
  Misty Celli: Because the woman who does this once is already different from the woman who's never done it.
• 18:04
  Misty Celli: She just did something the old pattern said she couldn't, and you can't fully go back to not knowing that.
• 18:10
  Misty Celli: Let's take this one step further.
• 18:12
  Misty Celli: Here's why that first step actually matters to your brain.
• 18:17
  Misty Celli: Researchers who study habit formation, James Clear's work is probably the most well known, have shown the same thing over and over.
• 18:26
  Misty Celli: Change doesn't come from one dramatic big overhaul.
• 18:30
  Misty Celli: It comes from small repeated actions that compound, like interest in a bank account.
• 18:35
  Misty Celli: Each time you choose the new response instead of the old one, you're not just having a nice moment.
• 18:40
  Misty Celli: You're casting a small vote for who you're becoming, and your mind quietly counts those votes.
• 18:46
  Misty Celli: Enough of them, and the new choice stops requiring a decision at all.
• 18:50
  Misty Celli: It just becomes what you do.
• 18:52
  Misty Celli: That's how change works at the level of what your mind is doing, which means today isn't a symbolic gesture.
• 18:59
  Misty Celli: It's real.
• 19:00
  Misty Celli: It's a physical step on the actual path that you are building, whether you can feel it yet or not.
• 19:05
  Misty Celli: Instead of picturing your whole life changing at once, I want you to picture just one week.
• 19:10
  Misty Celli: Same small move most days, not necessarily every day.
• 19:13
  Misty Celli: On day one, it's probably going to feel like effort, almost like you're translating something before you can act on it.
• 19:19
  Misty Celli: That's normal.
• 19:20
  Misty Celli: It's just what it feels like the first few times you ask yourself to reach for something new.
• 19:25
  Misty Celli: Somewhere around day four or five, it starts to feel different.
• 19:28
  Misty Celli: You stop having to think it through first.
• 19:30
  Misty Celli: It just becomes a thought you have.
• 19:32
  Misty Celli: The same easy way the old pattern used to show up without you deciding to have it.
• 19:37
  Misty Celli: That's not because you suddenly got more disciplined.
• 19:39
  Misty Celli: It's because you gave your mind somewhere else to go and it started going there on its own.
• 19:44
  Misty Celli: You'll notice something about the people around you too.
• 19:46
  Misty Celli: They're not going to fall apart because you stepped back a little.
• 19:49
  Misty Celli: Most of them will adjust the way people do, and some of them might even relax a bit because they're not quietly picking up on how tired you've been.
• 19:57
  Misty Celli: At the same time, you might meet a little resistance from someone who's used to you always saying yes or taking care of things.
• 20:05
  Misty Celli: If that happens, know it's normal and you do not owe a long explanation.
• 20:10
  Misty Celli: A short, warm sentence is enough.
• 20:12
  Misty Celli: I need to take a few minutes, I'll be right back.
• 20:14
  Misty Celli: Or simply give me five minutes.
• 20:16
  Misty Celli: You don't have to justify it or make a case for it.
• 20:20
  Misty Celli: Most people adjust once they see that you follow through, and it gets easier for everyone the more you practice.
• 20:26
  Misty Celli: But you don't have to believe any of that yet.
• 20:28
  Misty Celli: Just give it one week and let it show you instead of me telling you.
• 20:33
  Misty Celli: At the start of this episode, I told you I wasn't going to ask you to believe anything.
• 20:37
  Misty Celli: I said I'd ask you to try one thing for five minutes and let the results speak for themselves.
• 20:43
  Misty Celli: That's exactly what we just did.
• 20:44
  Misty Celli: Not another idea to file away, but one real move ready to try today.
• 20:50
  Misty Celli: Right now, before you do anything else, open your phone and set a reminder.
• 20:54
  Misty Celli: Give it a real time today, not sometime, an actual hour.
• 20:58
  Misty Celli: Or if you'd rather open your calendar and put your name on it, the same way you'd put anyone else's appointment on there.
• 21:04
  Misty Celli: 30 seconds right now is the difference between this being something you thought about and something you actually did.
• 21:10
  Misty Celli: You're not trying to become a different woman overnight.
• 21:13
  Misty Celli: You're just practicing one new thought one time so your mind has somewhere else to go the next time the old pattern shows up.
• 21:21
  Misty Celli: And if you want a system to help you go further, faster and truly embody your utmost self, go to yourutmost.com forward slash starter and get the Identity Reset Starter Toolkit.
• 21:32
  Misty Celli: Three words to recognize and reconnect with the woman beyond the role so you choose faster, set one clear boundary, and feel like yourself again today.
• 21:41
  Misty Celli: Grab the identity reset starter toolkit at yourutmost.com forward slash starter.
• 21:47
  Misty Celli: Link is in the show notes.
• 21:48
  Misty Celli: And if you're finding this series useful, make sure you're following the show and leave a review.
• 21:53
  Misty Celli: It's how the next woman finds the show.
• 21:56
  Misty Celli: And if somebody came to mind who also needs permission to try this, send her this episode.
• 22:01
  Misty Celli: Until next week, remember the woman beyond the roles.
• 22:04
  Misty Celli: You are more than everyone's everything.
• 22:07
  Misty Celli: You are someone.