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Rebuilding Trust in Yourself · The Road Doc Podcast

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  Hello. Hello.
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  Hello. Hello.
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  Hi. Good morning.
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  Good afternoon. Good evening, good night.
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  And wherever you are listening from all across the world, this
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  is Doctor Mukund, AKA the Road Up.
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  Doctor M Rider. Whatever it suits you, but here
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  I am. Welcome back to this episode of
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  Hailing series of Rebuilding Trust in Yourself.
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  This is the hailing series and today we are on the episode 9,
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  which I call it Rebuilding Trust in yourself.
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  Before we begin, I just want to take a moment to say thank you
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  all. It truly means a lot to see the
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  serious reaching people from different parts of the world.
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  I don't take that lightly. By the way, I'm very grateful
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  for every single listener who choose chooses to spend these
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  moments with me by listening in which our platform you prefer to
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  listen. I'm very grateful for you all.
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  Now, if you're here today, chances are you have reached a
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  point in life where you don't fully trust yourself the way you
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  used to. Maybe you question your
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  decisions. Maybe you second guess your
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  instincts. Maybe you feel disconnected from
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  your inner voice. And if that's you, you are not
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  broken. You're just a human being on
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  this planet and more importantly, you are actively
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  trying to heal yourself. And that's the greatest thing.
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  So what does self trust really means?
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  Let's just understand what trusting yourself actually
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  means. Self trust does not mean you are
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  always right, it does mean you will never make mistakes, and it
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  does not mean life will always work out smoothly as well.
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  So what does it actually means then?
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  Self trust means you stand by your intentions even when the
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  outcomes are uncertain. It means you listen to the quite
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  inner voice, the one that whispers when live screams.
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  We all been there, everyone knows that.
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  And you can listen to that voice only when you chose to sit in
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  silence and deep down listen to yourself.
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  Most people don't usually lose trust in themselves overnight.
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  They lose it slowly, like one step at a time kind of a thing.
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  It happens every time you ignore your intuition, every time you
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  stay somewhere you know you should, should have left that
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  place long time ago. Every time you say yes when your
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  body is screaming no, actually. And overtime something happens.
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  Yeah. You stop literally asking
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  yourself what you actually want, and you start asking others what
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  you should do. That's where self trust begins
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  to erode. That's the root cause.
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  So how self trust breaks, Let's just get into it a little bit so
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  that we can understand much better.
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  Let's talk about how self trust actually breaks because
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  awareness is the first step to healing.
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  And self trust breaks usually through self abandonment, which
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  simply means you abandon. You abandon yourself when you
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  prioritize others comfort over your own boundaries.
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  You seek validation instead of alignment to your own goals.
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  You tolerate disrespect just to avoid loneliness.
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  Maybe in your in your relationships, your silence,
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  your truth to keep the peace. These are few examples of
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  yourself abandonment. And slowly, very quickly, you
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  send yourself a message that my feelings don't matter anymore.
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  The more times you do that, the harder it becomes to hear your
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  own inner voice. And I know majority of the
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  people been there, done that, seeing this.
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  And if you are listening to this right now, at this point of
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  time, I am pretty much sure you are at that point in your life.
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  Don't worry, you will get through this slowly but surely,
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  one step at a time. Keep doing the inner work, you
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  will get through this. So eventually you don't even
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  trust your own judgment anymore. You doubt yourself even when you
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  are absolutely right. Right.
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  And here is the painful truth that everyone avoids.
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  Most people aren't afraid of actually failing.
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  They are afraid of trusting themselves again and getting
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  hurt. I'll repeat this because this is
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  the most people will fall under. So here we go.
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  Most people aren't afraid of failing.
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  They are afraid of trusting themselves again and again and
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  getting hurt. If you've been there, if you
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  have been there, I see you very clearly and I know it's very
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  hard. Losing trust in yourself hurts
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  more than losing trust in others, isn't it?
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  Because you still have to live with yourself every single day.
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  So how do we tackle this? We start to rebuild, literally
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  rebuilding our trust step by step.
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  Now I'll explain you a little bit so you'll understand.
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  So what I mean, rebuilding, I want to be very, very clear
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  here. Rebuilding self trust is not
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  dramatic thing. It's not loud, it's not
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  something you announce on social media.
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  It's basically very quiet, very boring.
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  But it is incredibly powerful. So I'll divide into few steps so
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  that you can follow it. Step one, start with small
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  promises. Like just say stop making big
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  big promises to yourself where you will fail inevitably.
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  Instead start with very, very small.
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  Like for example, if you say you will wake up at certain time,
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  just do it and wake up at certain time.
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  If you say you will go for a walk, just go do it.
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  If you say you will stop texting someone, then stop texting
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  someone. Just do it.
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  And trust me, this is the hardest part to do when you are
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  going through the process and self trust is rebuilt slowly
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  when your actions starts matching your words.
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  Not once, not twice, but consistently even.
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  Every small promise kept is a message to your nervous system
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  saying that you can rely on yourself again.
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  Like I am telling myself I can rely on myself again.
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  That is the most powerful thing you gonna achieve by doing
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  small, small, small things that you said to yourself and you
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  take accountable for yourself that you going to do it no
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  matter what. And that's what slowly builds
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  self trust on yourself. That's step one, right?
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  Let's dive into Step 2. This is the little hard part,
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  but you can still do it. Learn to sit with discomfort.
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  Most people lose self trust because they run actually from
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  the discomfort. So basically what they do, they
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  distract, they numb themselves, they avoid healing requires you
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  to stay with yourself. I can give you few examples what
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  they mean they distract some people they just don't want to
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  sit with their own thoughts or own thought process that they
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  are going or carrying in their head.
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  So what they do, they distract with alcohol, tobacco, etcetera.
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  They numb themselves by taking some drugs, some substance
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  abuse, etcetera. Or they moreover keep them
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  themselves completely busy and pretend like this problem
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  doesn't exist. They completely avoid it.
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  But this is not how you feel. So healing requires you to
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  basically stay with yourself in silence and acknowledge you have
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  all the problems. You don't need to tell anyone by
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  the way, You just need to be aware of your own self.
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  Yes, I know sometimes your own family will not support you for
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  sharing all these things outside so you can keep it with
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  yourselves. But as long as you are aware of
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  your own situation, you are on the way to heal your own wounds.
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  So healing requires you to stay. Stay with the sadness you go
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  through, stay with the uncertainty you go through, and
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  stay with the silence. These are the battles you need
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  to go through all by yourself now.
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  It's going to be there. I know this is brutally very,
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  very hard, but you don't need to fix everything immediately.
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  Sometimes, you know, healings looks like sitting with your
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  feelings without trying to escape them.
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  That's how emotional resilience is actually built, right?
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  That's where you, you are finally going to come at a
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  point, you slowly build emotional resilience.
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  You will, you will slowly get there.
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  But in order to get there, you definitely need to face
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  everything. And trust me, you will be all
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  alone in the process and the number of people who's going to
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  support you is going to be almost single desserts or
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  absolutely no one. This is a process where you have
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  to face few things all by yourself most part.
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  But if you really cannot do that, you can.
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  Maybe there is a high chance you can meet your therapist, a good
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  one who has the knowledge of doing what they are doing.
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  I prefer a board certified 1 though.
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  So yeah, let's move on to step #3 choosing your own alignment
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  over others approval. This is where it gets brutally
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  hard. Because rebuilding self trust
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  means saying no without explaining to others, walking
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  away without closure, disappointing others to stay
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  true to yourself. You lose a lot of people when
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  you start choosing yourself. That's bound to happen, don't
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  worry about that. But here is the truth.
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  If anyone who benefits from yourself betrayal will
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  definitely resist your healing, and that's OK.
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  You are not here to be liked by everyone.
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  You are here to be aligned with your own inner self.
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  Keep that in mind. And finally, let's make a
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  reflection moment for all of us. I want you to pause for a
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  moment. Wherever you are.
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  Ask yourself gently, where did I abandoned myself?
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  Kindly don't judge yourself not to show him yourself.
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  Just observe. And now take a moment to ask,
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  what is the one small way I can show up for myself today?
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  Maybe it can look like you just need to take rest.
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  Maybe it can look like you need to speak up for yourself.
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  Maybe it's time to letting go of something that's draining you a
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  lot. Yeah, one small thing that you
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  do it for yourself can do wonders in the long run.
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  Healing doesn't happen in grand gestures, it happens in honest
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  moments like this. Rebuilding trust in yourselves
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  takes time. You won't be confident every
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  single day. You won't feel strong all the
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  time. But every time you choose
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  yourself, even when it's uncomfortable, you heal a little
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  more. Remember this, your intuition
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  never left you, you just stopped listening.
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  And you can always begin again with one decision, one boundary,
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  one honest moment with yourself. This is Rd.
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  Dock, keep healing and keep choosing yourself and I'll see
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  you in the next episode. That's going to be the final
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  episode of the this series of healing.
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  And I would like to thank you all once again for tuning into
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  the Road Up podcast. I'm Doctor Mukund AKA the M
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  Rider where I deal with so many things and I share my insights
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  about everything here in the safe, secure space.
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  Amazon Music, YouTube and YouTube Music as well and many
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  more. So keep tuning in and share your
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  insights. If you are someone who is going
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  through this journey, kindly comment down your experience.
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  We can have a space, safe space for discussions and we can heal
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  all together one step at a time. But trust me on this, it is
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  going to take time for sure. This is not some magic thing
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  that happens overnight. You got to be very very patient
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  with your own self. I know you can.
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  Since you are here and listening to this, I am pretty much
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  confident on you. You are doing your best, so keep
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  doing your best even if it doesn't makes a big level of
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  progress. Even a one small step is more
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  than enough In a day and one step at a time you can change
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  everything. So thank you so much for tuning
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  in. This is Doctor Mukun signing
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  off.