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From Conflict to Clarity : Navigating Resentment MMH · Learnings and Missteps by Depth Builder

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  I don't know if you know this, but I love conflict.
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  because on the other side of conflict, there's growth.
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  There's understanding, there's clarity, there's momentum going forward.
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  And I heard this super awesome quote.
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  I think it was Jordan Peterson.
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  His quote goes like this, conflict avoided is conflict multiplied.
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  And the first time I heard that, I was like, Oh my goodness.
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  I know exactly what you're talking about because there was times in my life where I hid from conflict, where I avoided.
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  Speaking my mind where I didn't stand my ground, when I didn't hold my space, and that just bubbled up into resentment.
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  And then every time that person, whether they were doing it on purpose or not, anything they did that bugged me, I assigned intent to their actions.
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  And so that conflict that I avoided by not holding my space and helping them understand that that my bubble was busted.
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  Turned into this festering thing of resentment and frustration, and then bubbled into this victim mentality or even a victim state.
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  Then I finally started just having the conversation.
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  And I'll tell you what, most of the time.
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  It works out well.
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  People are like, Oh, I didn't know that was a thing, or they'll say, well, that's the way it's going to be.
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  And then I get to make a decision and move the hell on or stay there and tolerate it.
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  Either way, the next step is ultimately clearer after I go into the conflict.
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  And so the question to you is.
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  How much conflict are you multiplying because you have not confronted it?
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  Be cool, and we'll talk at you next time.
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  Peace!