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One Thing a Day Your Future Self Will Thank You For · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Welcome back to the Nadia Chapman Show. Today,
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  I want to talk to you about something that sounds so silly and simple on the
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  surface, but honestly has the power to completely change the direction of your
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  life if you truly start living it today.
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  And that is the idea that you should do one thing every single day that your
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  future self will take you for.
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  Not 10 things, not a perfect, you know, morning routine,
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  not a total personality transformation overnight, just one intentional choice
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  each day that will move you to the life you want, the mindset you want,
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  the health, relationship.
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  Confidence, whatever it is that you want, that will improve your future in a better direction.
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  Because I think a lot of people are exhausted from trying to change so many
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  things, sometimes their entire lives all at once, you know, they set unrealistic
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  expectations, and they create these overwhelming routines.
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  And some people burn themselves out emotionally, and then they feel very discouraged
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  when they can't sustain it. And honestly, most real transformation in life does
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  not happen through giant dramatic moments.
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  It happens through small, repeated decisions that will slowly shape identity
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  over time. It's that easy, guys.
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  So your future is being built every day in ordinary moments that people usually
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  overlook. It's being built in conversations that maybe you avoided at some point.
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  It's being built in the way that you speak to yourself and nobody else is listening.
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  It's being built in habits that you
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  have every single day maybe the reactions you
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  have to conversations and setbacks your routines
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  a lot of the time future is built with
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  habits and routines maybe the boundaries that you set or did not set for yourself
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  your discipline self-respect so many things but basically your daily choices
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  and i think one of the biggest problem out there is that people will sacrifice
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  their future selves for temporary comfort.
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  We sacrifice our future selves because in the moment, in the present moment, we want comfort.
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  We want that peace. We want things to be easy.
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  A lot of people stay in an environment that drains them because change feels very uncomfortable.
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  So we procrastinate because avoidance kind of feels easier in the moment.
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  And, you know, we over scroll on the phone and overthink everything and over
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  consume and emotionally exhaust ourselves while telling ourselves,
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  oh, you know what, I'm going to start tomorrow. I'm going to start in January.
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  Right. But eventually tomorrow becomes six months and then a year and then 10 year.
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  And one day, people wake up very frustrated that their life hasn't changed,
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  and we repeat the same patterns again and again every day, and that keeps reinforcing the same reality.
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  That's why I love this question so much. I'm going to ask you this question,
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  so if you want to grab a piece of paper and a pen or just answer in your head,
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  what can I do today that my future self will take me for?
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  And really, we should all wake up in the morning and ask ourselves this exact question.
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  What can I do today that my future self will take me for?
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  I'm just saying, maybe your future self will thank you if you go to bed earlier
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  tonight instead of staying up overstimulated and anxious on your phone for three more hours.
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  Maybe your future self will thank you if you finally go on a walk instead of
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  talking yourself out of it.
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  Maybe your future self will thank you if you make that phone call you've been
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  avoiding. Maybe if you drink the water that you say you're going to drink or
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  taking care of your body or protecting your nervous system or whatever it is,
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  slowing down enough to breathe for a second.
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  Maybe your future self would thank you for applying for the opportunity instead
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  of doubting yourself again out of it.
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  And what's very powerful is that these small little decisions seem so stupid
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  in the moment, but repeated over time, they completely change who you become.
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  Your future self is not created magically in one day.
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  This obviously is impossible, but your future self is created through repetition.
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  The habits and the thoughts that you repeat and the standards that you set and
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  the emotional patterns that you
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  repeat and the way you treat yourself repeatedly, so it's all repetition.
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  That eventually becomes your identity. And honestly, I think one of the biggest
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  mindset shifts that people can make is realizing that confidence, peace,
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  emotional strength, and self-trust, let's say, are all things that you don't
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  suddenly wake up feeling.
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  One morning. They are built through daily evidence. Every time that you keep
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  a promise to yourself, your brain notices.
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  Every single time that you choose growth over comfort, your brain notices.
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  I talk about this all the time.
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  Every single time that you stop abandoning yourself when it gets hard, your identity notices.
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  People think that transformation has to feel huge to matter,
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  But most transformation feels incredibly simple and ordinary while it's happening.
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  That's why I insist to be consistent because consistency matters more than intensity most of the time.
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  And the difference is that intense motivation comes and goes.
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  Human emotions will fluctuate. You know, it's never the same.
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  Life gets messy. We know that.
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  Some days you'll feel inspired and focused. And other days you will feel like
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  a mess. You'll be tired and discouraged and everything in between.
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  Distracted and mentally overwhelmed. But small intentional action repeated constantly
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  still create that momentum even on the imperfect days.
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  And honestly, I think a lot of people underestimate how much momentum changes mental health too.
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  When you feel stuck in your life, it's often because your brain no longer feels
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  movement and momentum. So everything starts feeling very emotional and heavy
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  because you're staying at the same place and you stay the same.
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  You're stuck in a loop for so long. But even tiny actions, like you get up in
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  the morning and say, okay, what can I do for my future self?
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  Just asking yourself that and then moving into action in that direction.
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  Well, you can begin shifting that energy psychologically because action creates
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  evidence that change is possible.
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  So that's why your future self would probably not ask you to become perfect
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  overnight. Your future self would probably just ask you to stop giving up so
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  easily on yourself. Stop giving up so quickly.
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  You know, to stop speaking to yourself like you're already defeated.
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  Why do we do that? Stop believing that one day or one bad month means that you're failing in life.
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  This needs to stop. Stop letting temporary emotion make permanent decisions in your life.
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  You know, growth is not linear.
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  Nobody feels motivated all the time. You know, it's impossible.
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  Nobody feels confident every single day. Nobody has life figured out 24-7.
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  But people who continue showing up for themselves consistently,
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  even imperfectly, because it gets imperfect, slowly build lives that feel different
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  physically and emotionally.
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  And I think there's something incredibly healing about becoming the kind of
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  person your future self can rely on.
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  Isn't that a beautiful thing? Not because you become perfect,
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  not because suddenly you master life, but just because you stop abandoning yourself
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  every time it gets uncomfortable. And that changes everything.
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  For some version of themselves to finally feel calm or confident,
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  but it doesn't work like that.
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  Your future self is built through what you practice today.
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  What are you doing today that will serve you in the future?
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  What seeds can you plant today that you can harvest in three months from now, six months from now?
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  You know, the life that you want later is deeply connected to today and the
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  habits and the choices you're making and the thoughts you're having and the
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  standards that you repeat right now.
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  And no, I'm going to tell you right now, that does not mean that every day has
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  to become this very productive thing, all right, and serious all the time.
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  It just means life is meant to be enjoyed.
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  Rest matters. Fun matters. Balance, you know, peace matters,
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  but intentional living matters too.
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  One small little healthy decision repeated daily for a year,
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  I mean, even for six months, can completely alter the direction of your life,
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  Whether it's one walk, one boundary, one workout,
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  one hard conversation, one moment of courage,
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  one healthier thought pattern.
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  That's how people slowly change their lives, not through perfection,
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  but through repetition.
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  So maybe after listening to this episode, instead of being overwhelmed and trying
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  to become an entirely different person overnight, just ask yourself,
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  what is one thing I can do today that my future self would take me for? See how it works?
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  Thank you so much for listening and for spending this time with me today.
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  If this episode resonated with you, please share with someone who might need
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  this reminder, a reminder that
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  your future self is not created someday or in six months or next year.
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  Your future self is created by the choices that you make today.
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  This is Nadia Chapman, and I'll see you in the next episode of The Nadia Chapman Show.