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Season 3 - Episode 104 - How to talk to yourself effectively · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today I'm sharing one of my
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  favorite tricks with you about keeping yourself on track, and
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  that is talking to yourself. Now I know there's going to be
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  people out there that are already laughing and saying,
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  hey, wait a minute, talking to yourself, doesn't that mean
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  you're insane? I'm not talking about the
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  typical walking around your house talking to yourself.
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  What I'm talking about is making little recordings to yourself
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  when you're in a great state that you can play back to
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  yourself when you are not in a great state.
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  So let's say that we take morning, for example.
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  Morning is a really incredibly important time in setting the
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  tone for your day. Because if your morning is
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  messed up, then everything else tends to be going downhill from
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  there because we stay in that state that we put ourselves in.
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  So if we have an intense morning and that morning is just, you
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  know, you wake up, there's a problem right away, you get an
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  e-mail that's a problem, you have issues right away.
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  That will be one of those times where you instantaneously take
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  that energy with yourself into the next act, whether it's
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  getting the kids up, whether it's doing something else
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  instantaneously, You have that going with you.
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  And often times it's really, really hard to shift it because
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  you're you're stuck. Essentially.
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  You're stuck in that moment. You're like frozen, if you will,
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  emotionally because you're not paying attention.
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  That's the very first thing when you wake up.
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  Typically we're just in go mode and we're saying what have I got
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  to get done today? And we've some of us make our to
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  do lists in the morning. Some of us make our to do lists
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  in the after, you know, afternoon, late in the day
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  before. So we have it when we wake up,
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  but most of us tend to wake up and we're only thinking about
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  what we have to do. We're not thinking about any of
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  the other stuff to take care of ourselves.
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  We're just focused on this little tiny piece of, you know,
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  got to get going, got to get going.
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  I got a lot to do today. Can't tell you how many times.
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  I myself will say, OK, I got a lot to do today, But the problem
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  is if I'm only focused on what I have to do, I'm not focused on
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  who I'm being. So having these little
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  recordings to myself really help me.
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  So if I have, if you, if you have any sort of phone that's
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  not from, you know, 1802, you can open it up and in your
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  utilities you have a voice text app.
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  And this is exactly how I record the podcast.
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  Believe it or not I use my voice text so much I found that it was
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  super easy just to use it for the podcast too.
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  So I come, I have a whole series of little ones that stay in my
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  phone that are just messages to myself that I use.
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  So if I'm off, if I'm off track, if I'm off base, if I'm not
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  tracking in a way that I want to, if my energy is going
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  downhill, if I'm feeling frustrated, if I'm in between
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  sessions, if, if people coach with me, they know I'm like, I
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  keep my sessions really tight because I like to stay in flow
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  and in mode I don't. I don't like to take breaks,
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  actually, because it throws me off.
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  And then I can't, you know, I'm so in the moment, I can't get
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  back into flow quickly. So I like to keep it pretty
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  tight. But if I've got a couple seconds
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  in between, or if I've had a session where it's been very
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  emotional with a client, I have a message in my voice memos
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  where I can listen to myself, talk to myself and give myself a
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  pep talk, if you will. A feedback, something to focus
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  on instead of what I have been focusing on.
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  And I can't begin to tell you the magic it creates because it
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  shifts you right away. Another piece of the puzzle is
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  that your brain is wired to believe your voice to be true.
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  So when you're talking to yourself, whether it's good or
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  bad, whether it's positive or negative, your brain believes
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  you. So when you say, oh God, I'm so
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  frustrated, I'm so stupid. Even if you just say this in
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  your head, your brain believes that to be true.
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  That's why it's so hard to shift out of things.
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  And the beautiful thing is, it also believes it in reverse.
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  So if you're able to record messages to yourself when you
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  are feeling good and you know you're in a great state and you
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  talk to yourself, then all of a sudden you listen to that
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  message and it changes everything.
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  So I'll give you an example. If you're a parent and you're
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  you get frustrated with your kids and you know that you have
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  certain hot button issues like homework, that's always an
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  something in our house that triggers things.
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  You can have a little message that you record to yourself and
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  you can talk about that and say like, let's say your name is
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  Sally. You can say, hey Sally, listen,
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  homework is going to start in about 30 minutes.
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  You know that this is going to be awesome if you stay calm and
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  focused. So I want you to go in there.
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  I want you to be super centered. I want you to be calm.
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  I want you to have the snacks ready, pencil sharpened, sit
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  down, put on good music for the kids to listen to and get
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  everything in the way that they you know they can thrive and you
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  can thrive. And remember, take the High
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  Road, stay calm, No yelling. Give yourself this little, this
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  little thing, and then play it beforehand.
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  When you're talking to yourself, you actually listen.
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  I have them for all different things in my phone.
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  I have them for, like I said, in between sessions.
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  I have them for things. If I'm irritated with my
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  husband, I can go and listen to one that I have talking to me
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  about all the things I love about him.
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  And instantaneously it it reminds me and puts me in a
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  state of letting go of whatever stupid thing happened that we
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  might be arguing about. And then I can easily go right
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  back to feeling great. So today I would like you to
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  make some recordings for yourself that you can listen to,
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  and that morning recording is probably the most important of
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  all of them. So when you get up, you can talk
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  to yourself and say, I'm out here starting my day strong.
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  And I'm focused because I listened to my morning recording
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  that told me when I wake up. Hey Kim, you just got out of
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  bed. It's time to get into that right
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  state of mind. Remember, you're focused on
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  effortless abundance. You're focused on being the best
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  person you can be in kindness, happiness, love and joy.
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  That's one of mine, by the way, in case you're interested.
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  So I can listen to that and I can listen to it over and over
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  and over again if I need to. You can make them as short as
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  you want and as long as you want.
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  Just make them, make them go. Do it today.
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  Make yourself one. Just try one and see how it
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  works. All right guys, I hope you have
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  a great day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.