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Street Farbrengen Episode # 139: Commitment Issues: What Am I Actually Willing to Changing This Rosh Hashanah? · ChabadLife.TV Street Farbrengen

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_01: Zaharia y they say that lots of men have commitment problems.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_01: And they're usually referring to getting married.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_04: I realized this Elo that I too have commitment problems.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_04: And I came across something that ever says that the essence in the end of what's Rosh Hashanah all about is making commitments.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm interested in uh talking about that.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: What are your what are your commitment issues that you realized, Ruben?
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_04: Well, let's first uh um get clear what the Rebbe writes.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, obviously that's a good point.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_04: The Rebbe says the Rebbe says Rosh Hashanah is called we know this in Chasidis.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_04: It's a very common idea, basic idea that Rosh Hashanah is the head of the year because just like the head, the Roishk has all of the both the management as well as the feedback as well as the feeling feedback of I guess it says both ways of the body, so too Rosh Hashanah for the whole year.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_04: And the Rebbe says that when you leave Rosh Hashanah, says a number of places, but when you reach leave Rosh Hashanah, you should have haqhlatas, commitments that you made for the whole year.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_04: And just like the Rosh is the head of the year, Rosh Hashanah, the rest of the year should be led as a leadership way of leading by your hachlatas, by the commitments that you made on Rosh Hashanah.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_04: Which means you gotta commit to something, if not more than one thing, for an entire year.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, what what kind of goals are we talking about here?
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I could guess, obviously, but I'd rather just be specific.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_04: First of all, what is there a significance to change the word commitment to goals?
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um and then on top of all that, um, your your favorite story that we've already brought up this year and last year, and the year before that, and the year before that.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, the cote devorum, yeah.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, the cote deborum of the guy who's doing Bukitzanius because he didn't have a Seder and a voidus Hashem.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_04: Right, that is the commitment.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: That is the commitment.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: That's what I'm at.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: So 100%.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so now define more what it's referring to of that.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_04: Well, every person on his own recognizance and in his own life, but obviously it has to do with Toran Mitzus, but more specifically, I just got off the phone with a um, how should we say it?
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_04: A mental health professional.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_04: And we were talking and we said together that it's more important and more significant to change one small habit that you have than hours of saying to hill him.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_04: Do you agree with that?
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: I a hundred percent agree with that.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_04: In the way that if you think you're saying to hillim, that you're fixing yourself up.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I mean, obviously the freaker does say we don't understand the power and the you know, the power is to change things, not yourself.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_04: Well I don't think maybe it's yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if he qualifies.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_04: But even if you take which which is greater well, I'm saying to Hillim or the Rebbe's bracha.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm I'm I'm thinking of it just in terms of the kind of the bracha.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um what it says in Kontrissa Avoida, that the entire one of the main focuses, if not the entire pope purpose of your Nishama coming down into this world is to refine the Nefesha Bahamas, to refine the Midas, to refine those characters.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_04: And does Tahilum do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not on the surface.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: If you read Tahilum with tears, because well that's different.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: That's your Avoida.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I'm qualifying.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: No, just saying the words, yes, on Chabbas Mavracham Tehillam.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_00: I have a very hard time understanding how this is blessing everything with you.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: I'm saying the words because the word because that's what it says to do, but I'm saying I don't have any feeling towards it, and I okay.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_04: There there's an argument to say that vidoi is also Dibor when you confess.
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  SPEAKER_04: And if you don't confess, it says in in the Terachim by the Midlarebba, then you really haven't done Shuva.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_04: But that's because the confession is an outcome of your avoida that you did on yourself.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: There you go.
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  SPEAKER_04: So uh let's go back to my commitment issues.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_04: So it's I don't see the commitment as being how many daffim of Gomorrah I'm gonna learn or chasidis I'm gonna learn or or even how I'm gonna dove in.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_01: It's what am I gonna change about myself?
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  SPEAKER_04: And it is easier in a sense to say the five books of Tehilam on Shabbos Mavorchim not know a word of what I'm saying and pat myself on the back than it is to change a small habit.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_04: And that's and that's the commit it is and that's the commitment level that you're gonna change yourself.
• 6:23
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, no, I'm gonna commit to it.
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I'm gonna commit to it.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_04: In the same manner that Rush Hashanah is the head of the whole year, and the reverse is you're gonna live, your whole year is gonna be directed by that commitment.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_04: It's gonna be the Roush of that commitment.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think the Okay, ahead of that commitment.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_04: Uh it's hard to fully put into words though, because in others, you're gonna say to him on on Shabbos Mavorchim, fueled by that commitment.
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_04: It's the Roych, it's the leader.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I mean you're supposed to say to him on Rosh Hashanah, so I was thinking of it in that regard.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: Of just okay, so you're you're just mumbling the words as quickly as you can in between the hours and hours of David that you're already doing.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_04: I already saw and well, and it at least it keeps you from doing the other stuff that we're liable to do, you know.
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_04: See, that's the way I saw it.
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_04: Oh, that's a funny way of that.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_04: It's a good way of avoiding all the negative, you know, potholes on your road.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_04: But um yeah.
• 7:28
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's it's one of those things that obviously we keep on coming back to in terms of change yourself.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: The idea that a person would commit, though, to learning more Torah or dabin more or do something, those aren't bad commitments.
• 7:42
  SPEAKER_04: Of course not.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: So so how do we qualify that?
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_04: I'm saying for myself, I don't see it as how many pages I'm gonna learn.
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: I guess I guess so.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: You're saying it's not how many pages you learn, but you're saying it's going to become an outcome of your voida anyway, to read more tahilum with tears to to do that type of stuff.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: So it goes back to how to properly set a goal.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_04: If I'm gonna if I'm gonna let's let's we're not litvax, and I can because I'm saying that in advance because I can answer it for litvac.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_04: If you decide you're gonna learn like Masekta Psachim this year as your hachlata from Rosh Hashanah, yeah, so how would that affect saying you're Tehilim?
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: No, not at all.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_04: Right.
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_04: Unless I'm gonna say tehilim so I can get a better understanding of Toys.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_04: Right.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, but that is But I don't have that mentality and that's I said a little I can answer.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_04: So and you know what it comes down to tell me what you think about this.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_04: I had this thought over the last few weeks.
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_04: I don't know if we mentioned it or not in our last Fabringans.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_04: When you're in a situation of a challenge and you go to Dovin and you're parsing it as I'm gonna ask Hashem, I'm gonna ask God for a Yeshua for salvation.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_04: What are you focused on?
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  SPEAKER_04: What does that mean, salvation?
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  SPEAKER_04: What are you asking for?
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: To get out of your mouth.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_04: Meaning, what are you focused on?
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_04: Let's say I don't have money.
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  SPEAKER_04: So what are you davening?
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: That I should have money.
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_04: I should have money.
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  SPEAKER_04: So Hashem should change the situation.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: Please.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_04: Right?
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_04: That's how probably the Roiv Um experience.
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  SPEAKER_04: What does it mean, Davening?
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_04: There's an interesting special mimor from the Friday Rebbe that the Rebbe has a mimor on in Tafshan Chaf, L Cha Marlibi, which we say in the dream of during this time period, the extra Hashem Oiriva Sh.
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  SPEAKER_04: And he says an amazing statement that's very surprising.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_04: I I even let it out on some people in Or Shlomo, and they were like, Wow, I can't believe this.
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_04: He says, What's Tvila?
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_04: Tvila is the kasha you're requesting, right?
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_04: So he says there's two things but uh the kasha the kasha vitahina, you're requesting and pleading, right?
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_04: And the kasha va khipush and requesting and searching what's searching and requesting, you're requesting and searching for the derakatikun for the way to fix yourself up via avoida.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're an active participant, you're sure.
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  SPEAKER_04: Who else is doing it?
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_04: Well, in the very light of how the deruch to fix yourself.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_04: So most people, if they're in a situation of this is my thought, if they're in a well uh forget about most people.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_04: When I am in a situation and I'm gonna ask for uh salvation, like you said, I don't have money, give me the money.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_04: That's not what the Frida Grab is saying, is Davening.
• 11:40
  SPEAKER_04: What would be a Hasidisha Davening from I think from a Derach of a Voida and Hakhlata is I'm asking Hashem to give me the koyach for me to change the situation.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_04: Or as they say in twelve steps, I'm asking for a higher power.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: To give you the ability to do it though.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_04: That's the key you're saying here.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_04: I should find my way to be able to get through the situation, not put up with it.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_04: Not not uh not to have change it.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_04: It's to give you No, it is Hashem changing it through my avoida.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_04: And that's the Pshat Hashem a la Keinu, Hashem is your Koyach.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_04: That's the Pshat Dir Batachtoinim.
• 12:36
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_04: And that's also the Pshat I'd rather have one Kav Shali than nine covim that somebody else gives me.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_04: And isn't that Rosh Hashanah this year?
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_04: It's oinig.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: You're saying 'cause it's on Chavez.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_04: Well, that is what it says.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_04: But I'm saying the oinig is, ironically, we don't blow shofar.
• 13:04
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_04: But the oinig is when you do it yourself.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_04: So what's shot?
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_04: You don't blow shofar on Rosh Hashanah.
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  SPEAKER_04: And it's all done for you.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_04: And there's all this chatter we spoke about last time we met about oh my god, you know, it's not good.
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_04: And the Gomorrah says this, that, that, that, okay.
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  SPEAKER_04: Then says it's amazing oinig for the whole year.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_04: And what is the oinig of a whole year?
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_04: I'd rather have one cov I worked on myself, the nine covim that the state gives me.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_01: So that's uh And that's hochlata.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_01: This year, especially.
• 13:48
  SPEAKER_00: So therefore there's an extra emphasis you're saying of oineg.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: Ironically, I'm saying in in your let's tie it back to what you were saying before, in your decision, in your hochlata, in your goal, in your so it's why don't we have oinig?
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_04: I or you?
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_04: Why don't I have oinig about doing something tough?
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_04: Making those big moves, those big decisions.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_04: Why don't I have oinak from that?
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  SPEAKER_04: When it says that's the whole oinig that a human being has is that he's certainly a yid.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_04: Much more so that when they do something with their own steam and their own hard sweat and tears, that that gives them that gives them happiness.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_04: How come we avoid that?
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_04: What are we really avoiding?
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_04: Which is what my original question is.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_04: What's my commitment issue?
• 14:58
  SPEAKER_04: Is it because I may not follow through?
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_00: Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of uh you know, there's a whole list of them that it couldn't be.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_04: I'm saying it's individual to I think in my case it's none of those.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_04: I think it's just simply fear of a combination of hard work, fear of hard work, based on um how did they say in Oshlomo?
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_04: Based on that the hochlata is bullshit.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_04: That I really didn't make a true hachlata.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_04: So you're saying that the hochlata is the Rosh of the whole year.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_04: You want me to make a commitment that my whole year is going to be run by a hachlata that I made on Rosh Hashanah?
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_04: Give me a break.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_04: Let me let me laze out.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_00: But you're saying that the hachlata has to come from Oineg.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_00: So it's actually just being afraid of your own desire.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_04: Almost your own pleasure of what No, I'm saying that I'm saying that's what it ironically comes out as.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_04: Okay, if you want to look at it from that perspective, obviously, yes.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_04: But it's but I'm not saying that.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_04: I'm saying that it's you can ask what's behind it all, but but it's the feeling that I don't really mean anything.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: That's the fear.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_04: Is that you don't really it's like you know, it's a it's a like we say all the time my hachlata, my decision is a should.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_04: Not a um a chok veloyaver, a rule that I set up that cannot be crossed.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I mean it's it's something we've obviously spoken about a lot, but there's like this whole idea of like, is it it's like hard to be a yid?
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, right.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_04: That there's a bear sazani yid.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: And then there's How's that connected?
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: So so the idea that like you have to be committed to already be a firm Jew, how much more are you expected to to do?
• 17:27
  SPEAKER_00: That that's what I mean by it, is that like people are usually just feeling like Well, that goes back to Lakuti de Burham.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_04: I'm committed to Frumkite, so I did all the whole six weeks from a Thrush Khadish Elon the Rebbe says about the Friday Rebbe says about this guy, it's Al Khatzonias, because it all comes from what I'm living up to an outside demand.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I'm trying to connect it to is that like people already, as is, feel like it's challenging just to be a frumyid.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: Whereas, like, I actually think it's quite simple to be a frumyid.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_04: Exactly.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_00: But the reality is that you're just not committed.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_04: To be committed to me is more difficult than me being committed to being a frumyid.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_00: Spell that out.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: You're right.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: You just said it.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: I know, but spell it out.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_04: In other words, this big god, it's like kafralharka gigas, like a mountain was over their head, and they said we have no other way other than to accept her mitzvahs.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_04: I'm a Jew, my father brought me up as a Jew, and my mother brought me up as a Jew.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_04: And if it wasn't our case that that's what I mean, we were brought up as Jews, but we weren't brought up from.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_04: But now I have my community and I have my kids, and I have all of these outside influencers that say that I um that I have to follow the the drumbeat of you know, being from.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_04: That's easy.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_04: Once you accept doing it, yeah.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_04: That's easy.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_04: Habit is easy, yeah.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_04: But me, I might identity I'm gonna accept willingly on my own, that's not coming from the outside.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_04: And by the way, besides the fact that we're saying that that's like ironically harder, that is what crowning the king really means.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and it's harder with Eunig.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: It's actually Well, the irony is that's it will give you Eunig.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I'm saying that it's not harder with Yonig, it is the Unig.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that my my point in saying that is that you you run away from what's hard, like you were saying before, because you don't want to commit, because who am I to commit effectively?
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how committed am I?
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: And and meanwhile, that hard work is gonna be the biggest thing.
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_04: And so ironically, that's this this year.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_04: And when you think about it, now that I think about it, these I don't know, I don't have the patience to listen to these one and a half hour dissertations of some podcasts of two guys who I don't look who don't look to me like I want to hear what they have to say, anyways.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_04: Talk about why we have to say the guy had the chutzpah to say that because it says that if you don't blow, if we don't blow on Shaba on Rashashanda, it's a bad omen, but Rush but Shabbas, it pret he used it's interesting how they use the language, it protects you.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, Shabbos protects you, right?
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_04: Like, think about what Chasid says about that, right?
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_04: Shabbos protects you, therefore you should go out to as many people as possible and tell them to keep Shabbos and this Rosh Hashanah.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_04: Oh yeah, it's a beautiful thing.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_04: Oh my god.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_04: Anyways, so the the the the the what like let's go back.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_04: Like I forget what I was about to say.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_04: What's what is the reason why a person wouldn't feel, I wouldn't feel the natural high of making a hachlata, making a decision for the next year, which means hard work, which by nature I'd rather have one cove of my own than nine that somebody else gave me.
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_04: And the very essence of this guy's whole podcast is we are in a year of Rosh Hashanah Falls on the Shabbos.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_04: It's a bad omen, we're under the the the influence of external situation, and we have to plead and save ourselves from that external situation, which is the exact opposite, not only of what the Rebbe says is oinik and shabbiz, that it's oinik shabbes, the Rashad falls out on oinak shabbas, but the whole essence of what Rosh Hashanah is all about, Alpikasidas.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_04: You are the one that has the I'm sorry, I am the one that has the power to make my year.
• 22:14
  SPEAKER_04: I saw something for Moisha Weinberger today.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_04: Listen to this.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_04: To crown Hashem means making room for him in the places where we usually crown ourselves.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_00: Wow.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_04: Now a beautiful mind so does that mean but wait a second does that mean we are making hochlata making a a commitment to produce and to and to act?
• 22:52
  SPEAKER_00: W what do you mean?
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_04: Well because the person could read that statement as what what does it mean you crown yourself?
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: You are you think you're the source of whatever the outcome is in that situation.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_04: Well you think you're king.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_04: Okay, so what does it mean now that you make room for that it's really God who's king you're not losing the kayak you're recognizing.
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah so most people say oh we'll go back to the scenario I'll say Telem and God will change the situation as opposed to I'm going to make the situation different Oh but wait a second you are going to make the situation different because you crowned the king that's different and that's Shabbos is Russian Shana falls out on Shabbos.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_04: That's oinig the Ibish is granting you oinig is granting you delight that you should feel that you can make a commit I can make a commitment for the year and run by that because he's going to give me Kayak to do it because I'm crowning him.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah right in that commitment level it's not the beautiful it's not the hustle for worthiness which is what I think most people think Roshana is all about.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_04: I'm borrowing a term from Brene Brown she loves to say that hustle for your worthiness says you have to say it in Basham Oimra you bring Gaulah so how does this connect to Ghoula and Mashiach to Pela the this idea actually like that's the ultimate oinig is is the Aleph in Tagola is the you know fashion is the we go back to Kaihnissen that you're in Guluspanimi and a voyage.
• 24:58
  SPEAKER_00: Not if I don't make a commitment this Rashashana wholeheartedly that my whole year is going to be run by and led by then I am in a Galspanimi Navayashem and I guess on the flip side of that makabul would mean that you have your Kaya through the oineg through the commitment through the things that you're now working on then now there's a person who's able to receive is able to macable panay mashiach you become you become a real macable now.
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_04: Right but but we have to parse that out what does it mean becoming a macabre because the Rebbe's under I mean my understanding with the Rebbe's understanding of Chasid and and Rebbe and Chasid is you're going to do the avoida right so what does mean machabal panay Mashik Zikana?
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_04: I mean Mashik Zakeno is the biggest Rebbe right and for us chabadniks most of us that's the Rebbe anyways always said it all of the people that we can't put our podcast on their websites are going to get upset if they if they happen to hear that.
• 26:29
  SPEAKER_04: So what is being macabre Panay Mashik Zika?
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_00: That Mashiach's gonna save you no exactly that's my very thing yeah it's an active decision of to be a macabre right so this whole thing was the mean my one of one of my um relatives I'll say asked me on Shabbos and I didn't answer him.
• 26:54
  SPEAKER_04: I don't know why I didn't answer him he says he doesn't understand what does it mean be basimcha.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_04: But the Rebbe says you have to be basimcha.
• 27:04
  SPEAKER_04: Parshaitsay in the Memchas the Rebbe said be basim if I got the right year be basimcha for the sake of being basimcha not even for the sake of being a yed yeah being a yed in the mitzvah being basimcha for the sake of being basimcha.
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_04: What does that mean that you're basimcha?
• 27:21
  SPEAKER_04: So in in in in so in Orishloma they play music is that what it means so what do you do?
• 27:31
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know that I'm doing it so tell me what to do You're being Ms Boynen on Simcha was that what that sounds nice but what is that Yeah I don't really know um exactly no but but if obviously Simcha and Euneg are different I'm not equating the two but if your commitment is coming from that place of which place of real commitment which is going to lead to Eyneg which is it's part and parcel of it's of the Eineg that you're tapping into the irony is that you should make the Haklata because that is the ultimate that that would I would assume bring a person to Simcha in in the commitment and doing it and etc etc.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_04: It's interesting when you think about it is commitment um contentment or is commitment producing is it or is it production the the actual going into the hard work would be the production but the starting point and the experience throughout it would be the contentment because you're uh I hear what you're saying but I'm asking you is your commitment production or not?
• 29:20
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 29:20
  SPEAKER_04: Really?
• 29:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah I think it's how can you say that because that's insane.
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_00: Because that's what that's what I'm bringing out is that once you're committed there's an there's a there's almost a sense of relief that you now are clear on what your goal is now for the rest of the year.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_00: Yes you have to produce yes you have to actually do hard work not taking that's what you're committing to I I got it.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_04: So then how can we say it's not production?
• 29:50
  SPEAKER_04: Because I'm telling you is the production you may have a feel of oinig because you're going to produce I get that but you're committing to produce yeah you're committing to produce but I'm saying that the Isn't that what Roshana is let me ask you a question.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_04: Somebody asked me last week what is Rosh Hashanah you know and I wanted to give like this very sagastic answer.
• 30:14
  SPEAKER_04: And I said do you have I said do you have I can't tell you how many people are talking about my white beard is driving me nuts.
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_04: So I said do you have a smartphone?
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_04: He goes yeah I said do you ever have to go to the reset button or you go about a factory reset says yeah I said that's Rosh Hashanah that was so deep so sad.
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_04: So you're going back to the basic well commitment isn't saying you're going back to basic.
• 30:52
  SPEAKER_04: A hundred percent what do you mean you're doing in a totally new way is Rosh Hashanah tikku bchodish shafar Bashanta says tikku shaifar bachhoidish let's say what does it mean tiku bhaidish I mean tiku bidish shafar it should say tiku shafar bhoidish so tiku chhoidish bshefar is that the sh your whole tikku should be in a way of new you're cutting off all of the associations that you've ingrained in your brain and your habit and your heart and connection and all those kinds of things and you're making akhlata a decision to be different.
• 31:43
  SPEAKER_00: Not to be the same you don't have to make a akhlata to be the same I mean unless you're struggling which well then it's not the same.
• 31:52
  SPEAKER_00: Well it may be the same look but the lack of struggle could be would be different but whatever.
• 31:59
  SPEAKER_00: What meaning like a person who's struggling is struggling let's give it a specific in a second but I'm saying a person who is struggling for them to just maintain where they're holding and what they're already doing maybe a big enough step for them we're not judging size here.
• 32:22
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah I'm just I was just clarifying but but the way to be able to do that is tapping into something deeper than they've had till now which is the kidish you know we were learning in Basilagani the Rebbe brings us out in such a beautiful amazing way I'm pretty impressed by the Rebbe you know I'm sure he's so happy yeah if it wasn't for him I wouldn't be here did I tell you that every once I was up in the Catskills at this small country minion on the Shabbos and I met the son of a the Shliach in the Khabad house that I first went to decades ago.
• 33:17
  SPEAKER_04: That Shlich's not there anymore he's somewhere else his father and I'm with a bunch of there was a bunch of people there sitting at the table schmoozing only about 10 of us there was a few lobabichers and there was a few kind of like you know the kind of guys who moved up to the cat skills 30 years ago um not lobabachers nice Jewish guys that you would find at any chabat house you know and they're all sitting at the table and this guy and they're listening to the conversation and this guy says what where would you be today if you hadn't met my father at the Chabad house were you ready to say the real answer I told him the real answer.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_04: What do you say?
• 34:05
  SPEAKER_04: I never told you this I said oh I would have died of syphilis a long time ago so the two guys from the local you know the local guys are not LaBauja they almost like fell off their chair you know it's like but it's true yeah who knows where I would have been that was like the direction I was going I was only 18 years old I mean you know what the schnitzel that's probably what would happen so um where were we so Hashem so the the idea of a chlata oh so the Rebbe says oh and so they but I tell people all the time if it wasn't for the Rebbe I've told you this before if it wasn't for the Rebbe then and if it wasn't for the Rebbe now I'd be in that same direction okay some guy came up to me in Oshloma last week and he says I gotta ask you this question don't be offended I said I'll try he goes it's Thiir Samesim now he didn't understand where the offense would be he says it's Thiir Samesim and you're standing in front of the Rebbe and Mosh Rabinu who would you run to I said the Rebbe so the offense was that he was calling it Thiir Samesim but he didn't get that so you he turns to the other guy that was next to me you see these Lababishes you see you see and he comes back to me about 10 minutes later he goes let me ask you this question if the Rebbe told you to run to Moshe would you run to Moshe?
• 35:47
  SPEAKER_04: I said for sure oh okay somehow he accepted that right interesting little dialogue it was a very interesting little dialogue and somebody next to him by the way said and it was off topic he said this is the difference between a Lababatcher and all of the people here I said what's that he says everybody here is in an open marriage they go to this Rebbe then they go to that Rebbe and then they go to that Rebbe and Lababachers are committed only to one Rebbe I said you're right that's why I turned down everybody who asked I got three invitations for a free ticket to Uman every yeah every year I get it every year I get it I turned it down I said so I'm not really interested in going to Uman I said I've been to Woodstock before yeah but this is a Jewish Woodstock anyways um even though I never went to Woodstock so where were we it's clear that so let me ask you this question so if the Icker is that you come out the Rebbe would speak about it the Fabray on Roshana if the Icker is to come out with a hachlata that is in the same vein as Rosh Hashanah is the Rush the whole year what's the avoid of Roshana that brings you to that can I make a can I make a right now?
• 37:18
  SPEAKER_04: Please what please please do please do what?
• 37:25
  SPEAKER_04: No but the it no it that's what I'm saying it doesn't work that way Okay so what are you suggesting?
• 37:34
  SPEAKER_04: I'm saying to you that there's something about Rosh Hashanah that you do the avoid of Davaning and you do the avoid of tahilim as you said etc etc that brings you to a chlata and that's we go back to the Filikrebazmaimer for Dercha tikkun you're looking for a way the way to change yourself I'm taking tikku to shine there's a memorium that says tikun is the idea of shining is a tikun the beautiful jewelry so and if you feel you're shining on Rosh Hashanah wouldn't it make sense you'd be able to make a tikkun I mean make a hachlata that you'd be able to make it to you'd also probably have an incredible year.
• 38:27
  SPEAKER_04: And and you would have an incredible year no matter what it is yeah I hear that so maybe what we go into Rosh Hashanah is is to is two things.
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_04: First of all this Rosh Hashanah you have the oinig the idea that you don't have to blow shofar and it's done by the Ibishta that your sense of self should be easierly um sensed on this rush this Roshana because your whole essence is to produce totally right because the Abishla's whole essence is that he wanted to produce that's creation.
• 39:14
  SPEAKER_00: That was his oinig we should have the ability to make decisions to be the ability no that we should make decisions that we should be productive that we should produce that we should do the hard work we should feel the oineg of being a Nivra that the abuster created that therefore we can make a high and the braca you've been listening to the street