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Episode 3 - Money & Power: When one partner earns more · Keeping it Real with Erin and Terry

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  Welcome to Keeping It Real with Aaron and Terry.
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  Sponsored by Imperfection by Aaron.
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  And produced by Magic Door Studio.
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  On this week's episode we will be discussing money and power
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  and how it impacts on relationship, the modern
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  relationship dynamics. Did you know not long ago that
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  women couldn't even open a bank account?
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  They couldn't take out a loan, they couldn't buy any property,
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  and when they got married they had to quit their job.
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  That's crazy. I actually remember that.
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  I remember. And nowadays actually it's
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  completely changed. Now there's a case of women in
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  some homes and more. They are the main breadwinners
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  and I wonder how that impacts egos in the house.
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  What kind of what's the word I'm looking for?
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  Friction. Does it 'cause if any?
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  That's an interesting one for viewers to Mull over.
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  What way are people working their finances today so we know
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  what happens in the past or has happened in the past?
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  What are we doing now? What has society done to change
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  us as men and women and how we interact?
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  OK, can I stop you for one minute?
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  I have a theory, he has a theory.
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  So my theory is that life now has been designed in a way with
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  the costs, inflation, all that kind of stuff.
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  Not going to go deep into it but it's designed to make us in some
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  ways struggle because you can no longer have a one income family
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  anymore. Both parents have to, as far as
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  I can make out, work unless the one the one of the parents have
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  an extremely lucrative job so which is very rare.
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  While I don't understand the concept of why women have to
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  give up work or why they couldn't own property or take
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  out a bank loan, I don't understand that.
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  I don't understand that either. Actually, no.
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  I am definitely very well aware of the impact that had on those
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  women. So we have seen women stranded
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  with children, with men who have deserted them.
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  I don't know if anyone remembers a thing called deserted wives.
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  I could tell you stories about women that were left with their
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  children and their husbands drank all the money.
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  So very common. Completely understand how women
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  needed to and should have the right for equal pay 100%.
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  But should it not be designed that if a woman chooses to be a
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  home where our children chooses like is it natural for us to be
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  more maternal and want to be at home with our kids?
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  Is this a like nature nature kind of thing?
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  So sorry I'm jumping in here real quick right Because you
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  talked about egos there and men right?
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  And even women. Is it more a natural instinct?
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  Like are we forgetting right? This is a hot topic, but we like
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  hot hot topic. Sorry girls, I got a bit of
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  Botox in my lip and I can't freaking move.
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  OK so my pictures look amazing but my lip it's got blah.
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  Blah blah blah blah. That's all that matters, babe.
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  So we're keeping it real. We're keeping it real.
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  I got some freaking Botox in my lip and I can't move it.
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  OK, back to the question at hand.
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  The hot topic. OK, I know there should
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  definitely be equal rights for everybody, OK.
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  But are we forgetting that fundamentally we are probably
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  animals underneath it all? Is it a woman's instinct to want
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  to be a home? Is it a man's instinct to want
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  to provide and protect her family?
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  Is that why in modern society when women are earning a lot,
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  that sometimes men don't like it?
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  Well, I always I always think about this, right?
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  And now I don't know. This is just something is this
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  something that was instilled in us as a belief or is it actually
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  true? Right.
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  If you can't take it back to caveman times, the hunter
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  gatherer was always the man went out.
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  Even if you look at animal Kingdom on National Geographic,
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  the lion, the the male lion goes out haunting, you know, to bring
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  back the food. So I don't know is this the the
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  way nature has? Like the queen bee.
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  Made it. That Queen.
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  And I know, I know they. Are women and they the men go
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  out, they get. The men go out but the hot, but
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  the women are looking after the actual nest.
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  Yeah. Or.
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  The homestead or the Kingdom, whatever you want to call it.
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  Is it Anson queen bee? Is that like they go out, they
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  come back, they give it and then they do the job with the queen
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  bee and then she like on a live them Sounds like a great job.
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  Any any jobs count I. Wouldn't really allow just yet.
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  I'm a little bit stressed today, girls.
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  No, no, she. No, she.
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  So Cherry's like you're a bit feisty today.
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  A bit. Well, but I'm kind of used to
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  you like that. And I'm like, I'm used to you.
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  I'm used to you when you, when you have a lot going on, you get
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  like this, you know, so. Here is the modern dynamics.
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  I think that women really have so much to juggle.
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  Like we really are. And this is the part where I'm
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  like, as a society, have we got it right?
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  Because I feel like even though it's equal, is it really?
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  Is it equal like? OK, can I stop you for a minute?
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  I know you're I. Feel sorry for myself today
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  Terry, I have a lot you. Can feel sorry for yourself all
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  you want. There's no problem.
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  You can do that, right? That's what we're here for,
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  right? But also, I want to just point
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  out one other thing as well, OK, men, Yeah, Like you will voice
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  what's going on for you, right? I feel it's unfair that I'm
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  doing this, blah, blah, blah. I'm not saying you do that,
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  that, but you will do that if you want, right?
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  Men do that. Will suffer in science.
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  There will be men who listen hold on a minute.
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  A lot of men do right? Suffer in silence because their
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  pride and their ego at being the provider yeah won't allow them
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  to turn around and say I am struggling correct me if I'm
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  wrong. If if any viewers want to
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  correct me or agree with me, please feel free to comment
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  both. I know that sometimes the
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  pressure on a man can be so much that they've actually unalived
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  themselves due to financial boredom.
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  Yeah. So that's that's how serious
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  this stuff goes there. Aaron, do you know what I.
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  Mean, that's what I mean. As men and women, have we also
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  like grown so far apart instead of coming together and trying to
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  understand? Well, we we, well, we at we in
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  particular our own experience, we were a part for a while.
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  When you say a part. Like as in, I don't mean we were
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  a part physically. What I mean is like in the
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  financial sense, OK? It's not that we were a part.
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  We just never really discussed it.
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  We didn't really have to like as in.
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  It's a hot topic. I, I, I'll be honest with you.
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  For a long time I suffered in silence.
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  I did. Somebody get a priest because
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  he. Is in.
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  My face. Yeah, Lip is moving ground now.
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  No, I'm not even messing. Yeah, Lip is moving around.
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  Now I still. Have the loan.
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  And ringing in my ear. Hold on a minute.
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  Hold on a minute, Hold on a minute.
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  I owe €300 to the US. People, Yeah.
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  And I'll tell you, all the things mountain up together is
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  stress. Life is stress.
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  I've talked to other people. Why does money cause so much
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  trouble for everyone? That's just the way it is.
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  OK, so here's the thing as well that I've noticed, right Again,
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  nobody wants to talk about money.
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  Is that an Irish thing? Like, what would our cultures do
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  that like in America? Like, well.
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  I. Was just about to talk about
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  that and you just completely caught me after.
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  Sorry. OK, so.
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  Which are non moving lip now basically right?
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  Me and you a while ago, some time ago came together and we
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  came up with a plan yes because of our jobs and what we do we
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  don't have 9 to 5 jobs and we don't get paid on a particular
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  day a block of money it comes we.
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  Don't know what comes in yes. And it's different.
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  It's some weeks I earned this, some weeks are announced this
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  and and vice versa. It changes all the time because
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  of the type of work we do. And we're in entertainment, ads,
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  all that kind of stuff. And Terry's too.
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  Top Shop for everyone looking for all your great bargains.
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  Please hit me up. Just get that in there.
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  And but anyway, on a series now so we don't know.
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  But we had to come up with a plan because the dribs and drabs
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  and money coming from different sources because of the jobs we
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  do caused friction or pressure to mount, whether it be me or
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  you. So we had to come together, come
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  up with a plan and we were actually lucky enough to be in a
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  position to do that. But also.
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  But hold on. So now we have come up with a
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  plan where the answer to all this friction is unity between
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  the man and the woman. Yeah.
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  Regardless of money earnings, you earn more than me a lot of
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  the time. Most of the time actually,
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  right? I learned more than you
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  sometimes that's just the nature of our business.
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  Either way, we had to come together and go.
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  It's all coming into our household.
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  Let's walk this together as a team effort because I'm not side
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  money off so I can have some amazing plan that I want to run
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  off on you. Do you know what I mean?
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  Like and I know you're the same. Well, I.
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  Our life is together for our family.
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  So I think as well like I might keep a bit aside money from like
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  my little. But that's OK.
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  But I think women do that and anyway just out of like kind of
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  probably because of what we were talking about in the old times.
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  So because of the non sort of the restrictions on women of
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  old. They call to runaway money.
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  I can't runaway money. Dash.
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  Yeah. So what I've noticed from
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  talking to people, so I've asked a few people about how their
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  relationship works financially because it's really a taboo
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  topic and everyone is afraid to talk about it because they're
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  like, well, am I getting the raw deal or what way does it work?
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  So a lot of women will say the bigger things like the communion
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  cards, the birthdays, the Christmas, the house
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  decorations, the clothes. Women will look after that
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  because men don't really value that and they don't see that.
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  Like our nails, our hairs are clothes.
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  Obviously we put a lot more into that then no, not all men.
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  I'm not saying all men, but the women I know we would probably
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  spend a bit more on our maintenance than a man, right?
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  And even getting ready, it took. Me some yeah, I think that's the
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  case for most women, eh, you, you have to kind of spend more
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  on maintenance as in IE makeup and this that and you are like,
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  you know, like foundation and all this kind of stuff is not
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  cheap. Yeah, so.
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  So that's the thing, like, not so long ago.
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  And there is still some people who get a wage off their
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  husband. Yeah.
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  So men and women walk and the man gives the woman a wage.
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  Yeah, right. So this was really interesting.
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  So I'm like, does he give you a wage just for you?
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  Being a wife, I would actually love to know from our viewers,
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  how common is that now? I would love to know that.
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  So if there's if there is people out there, will you please get
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  in contact? Because it's something that I
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  don't even think about because of our situation.
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  Yeah. Where we just kind of we just
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  we, we just come together and get on with things.
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  So a lot of the times as well, what before we did that, I would
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  not tell Terry about the price of stuff in the house.
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  I would not come to him with like the clothes stuff or any of
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  that. All that stuff.
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  I would nearly probably hide from you because I wouldn't want
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  you to stress out. And also this probably comes
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  back to maybe my preconceived idea that if the man who's
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  providing all the money that he might have the last say, now
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  you're not spending 10 grand on that or you're not spending four
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  grand on a new sofa. And for me, I did not want that
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  to happen. So I think, I think as men and
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  women, and I suppose it's just individuals as well, right?
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  Like a man might pay for the mortgage and then the woman
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  might pay for the shuffling and stuff like that.
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  So do you combine it? Do you have a savings also tear?
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  Some people just aren't good with finances.
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  So how do you navigate that? Also, we could have people who
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  are in addiction, right? We could have like that's really
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  high on the rise even for young people.
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  Back in the day, men were like spending the money on alcohol.
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  It's still pretty high nowadays. Do women feel that if a man is
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  given most of the money that he has the last say?
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  Do women still feel that if a man is providing that if he
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  leaves, he leaves their stranded, which is a huge thing?
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  I know so many girls that husbands or partners just opt
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  out. They don't pay maintenance.
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  They leave them in huge like arrears where they could lose
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  their homes and they walk away. And a lot of the time, the man
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  who does walk away will walk away with an kind of intent on
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  hammering the wife. Whether you think about the
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  children, if there's children involved, they want to hurt them
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  by not paying. So.
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  For and also sometimes they're walking away to another family
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  as well. Yeah, because they're having an
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  affair. So we don't know.
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  You just don't know. And is today's society gone
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  where women want to be independent?
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  But is it because we had no choice?
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  Like I said this to someone the other day, like I don't ever
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  want you to be in a position where somebody has power over
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  you that they could just. OK, so can I have a divorce?
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  Why do you want a divorce? You said you didn't want anyone
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  to have power over me. Don't make me laugh.
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  Why don't you do this? Actually don't know.
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  It's just one of the many things.
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  Yeah, dynamite, Dynamite. How does it feel for men in
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  general? This is back to nature versus
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  nurture. I feel this is me just feeling
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  right that men struggle if the woman is more of a powerhouse.
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  Like look, look at the Kardashians, for instance.
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  Yeah, I would say that's true. And I would say it's again goes
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  back to what I said earlier about caveman times.
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  Men, instinctively, are providers.
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  So do you think it's a man thing or do you think it's how order
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  men view order men? So like, Oh yeah, she's the main
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  provider. Remember one thing as well, like
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  the Kardashians are that much of a powerhouse corporation, you
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  might as well call them now that they have changed the whole way
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  life is with the influence they have.
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  Yeah, but. So women want to be the boss,
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  ladies, a lot of the time. In fairness, a lot of women do.
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  Yeah. And I'm here, and I don't
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  disagree with that. I don't disagree with that at
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  all. More look to them.
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  But do you think being the boss lady, then if you maybe don't,
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  maybe a man isn't OK? I think Sutton has to give.
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  So if you have somebody who is, let's say, trying to succeed at
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  life, OK, yeah, unless you are super rich and have like,
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  nannies and basically a lot of help at home, somebody has to do
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  it at home. Somebody has to pick.
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  Up the homework, do the do the the the bread and butter work at
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  home you mean? Yeah, like with the kids, where
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  And do you think that if it's the woman who's out there front
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  and centre and a man is doing a bit more of that at home?
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  But I think that is the case. I go down to the shop, I go down
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  to the supermarket now and I see, OK, let's call us back.
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  On my way to the supermarket I see men out walk on their
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  boogies. Yeah, we've spoke we.
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  Spoke with this last time and a lot of the men are out in the
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  shopping. I'm sure a lot of men are taking
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  care of the household as well, but do you?
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  Myself included. Do you think men struggle with
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  that? Well, I don't particularly
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  struggle with it now do. You think they struggle with a
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  woman maybe earning a bit more than them?
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  Sometimes why I don't know. I don't know that I think a man
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  wants to be able to look after his woman.
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  So and I think it comes down to a case of a lot of people think
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  and are defined by the size of their bank balance in this day
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  and age. Well, we have to survive.
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  It is, it is true. It is, it is true.
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  It's it's like how you behave towards someone is like, I
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  actually see anything on on a meme there a while ago.
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  How you greet someone or talk to someone is basically the first
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  question is So what do you do? And if they say something
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  impressive, you go, Oh my God, as they say something that
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  doesn't impress, you'll basically turn your head and
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  move on to the next one. So this again will.
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  Go back. That's a.
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  But that's not just a thing of now.
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  That has always been a thing. But I think this also goes back
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  to again, maybe back in the day where when women wear a home.
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  OK, let's go back in the day where women had to quit their
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  job when they got married or pregnant, which was usually both
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  because you couldn't really do and their work at home was so
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  undervalued. So for instance, there's this
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  Netflix, I think it's called like Ask John or some or dear.
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  So it's actually real. It's really sad.
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  So she watched him like. Grow, grow, grow.
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  But he could not grow without where she was at home with the
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  children. She gave up her teaching job.
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  She was the pusher behind right. The unsung hero.
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  The unsung hero and what happened was he went off with a
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  secretary, right? And she lost.
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  No, she went bash you crazy, right?
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  And. Yeah, justifiably.
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  Right. I think she went a bit far.
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  I think she's actually in prison.
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  But what I'm saying is is again in court, a lot of the times
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  it's like this man couldn't be where he is without the woman.
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  But I also feel like that if the woman is is the boss lady as we
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  call it, because I don't think a woman can be super successful if
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  she doesn't have the right person behind her because I
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  think the right partner behind her or him will actually hinder
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  it. But that just comes down to to
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  the teamwork. So that's what I mean is an ego
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  where it's like, OK, so she might be front and centre and
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  she might be earning this because that's her earning
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  power, but she couldn't do what she's doing without me.
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  Yeah. So is that again, where we need
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  to focus on the value of being at home?
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  It is such a hard job being at home.
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  We don't know. Very much so.
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  Now listen, come here. I've spoke about this like we
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  spoke about this on the last podcast as well.
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  I'm out working at night time. You are in a position where you
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  can do a lot of your work. I'm not saying at all from home,
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  which is a good thing, but it's also a bad thing because and I'm
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  getting out at night time even though I'm not having a I'm not
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  going party and I'm literally playing music for people but I'm
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  still getting out of the actual house.
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  Yeah, and you're mixing. It's, it's not that I I'm, I'm,
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  I'm communicating with people that are not in my house.
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  Do you know what I mean? Like the outside of with the
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  outside world, I suppose, yeah. That means you have a life.
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  It's it doesn't mean I have a it's like, like going out
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  singing at night time. I know other people here behind
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  the scenes will agree with me. It's not like a party life, you
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  know what I mean? It's like.
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  It's a job. It's I don't, to be quite honest
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  with you, I'm not a very sociable person, right?
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  You know that, right? I walk into a pub I'm I'm
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  parking the car up and I'm like, if it's a pub, I haven't played
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  and I'm like, I'm up to hear what anxiety gone.
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  Oh Jesus, what am I going to be like?
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  What's the sound going to be like?
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  Is it going to be a good desk? Is it going to be this?
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  Is the crowd going to be all right?
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  You know, all this kind of thing.
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  All these things are going through my head, right, But I'm
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  on the owned in my head right. Then I'm walking up to the
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  place. Then I'm going in.
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  I'm setting up. I'm not talking to anybody.
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  I guess start playing. I'm singing.
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  I'm still not talking to anyone. I haven't spoke to anyone the
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  odd time. Then someone will come up.
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  Can you play this song? I will or I won't.
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  I finish, I pack up and I go home on my own.
• 23:27
  So both at the same time. I'm still getting out of the
• 23:31
  house. Yeah, where I.
• 23:33
  Don't you know what I mean? Yeah.
• 23:34
  So it will be the equivalent to me being, for all towns and
• 23:38
  purposes, A Courier where I worked on my own in a van
• 23:43
  delivering how We don't. There's a delivery boy.
• 23:47
  So. I've always kind of been in jobs
• 23:49
  like that, gentlemen. I again, I think it goes back to
• 23:53
  like a personality type. I also know people whose
• 24:00
  husbands always just work, OK, constantly work, provide a lot
• 24:07
  of money. But that's where the book stops.
• 24:11
  They do, absolutely. Know I wouldn't.
• 24:13
  I wouldn't like to be like that. No, I actually enjoy not being
• 24:19
  able to find stuff in the house when you ask me to look for
• 24:23
  some. I I enjoy that.
• 24:25
  I enjoy my home life. I love my home.
• 24:28
  I love being in my home. But I do believe as well that
• 24:33
  you need a balance and you do need to get out of the house.
• 24:36
  Oh yeah, at least once a day. To do whatever.
• 24:40
  This was a really good concept, you know, of like, modern
• 24:45
  society. OK, what are the younger girls
• 24:49
  doing now? Are they paying for their own
• 24:52
  dates? Aren't they paying half?
• 24:56
  Are they paying for nothing? And where are the younger girls
• 25:01
  nowadays? So what are they actually doing?
• 25:04
  Like if a man is bringing a woman on a date, Like let's say
• 25:09
  you were to not be with me right now.
• 25:13
  If you brought a woman on a date, would you pay for it?
• 25:16
  I would, yeah. How many dates would you pay for
• 25:20
  all of them? When would you go?
• 25:22
  I can't keep bringing her on dates.
• 25:24
  Well, I wouldn't be bringing her on too many dates anyway,
• 25:29
  because if you know, you know, like, like you don't like.
• 25:32
  So the so the dating just stopped.
• 25:34
  No, what I mean is you go say one day, I'd pay two dates, I'd
• 25:38
  pay after two dates. You're going to know the person.
• 25:42
  Yeah. And you're going to decide
• 25:44
  whether you're going to actually pursue this in a long term sense
• 25:48
  now. So basically 2 undone.
• 25:50
  No, I didn't say 2 undone did. I don't be putting words to me
• 25:53
  about theater, right? But I will know after two dates
• 25:58
  whether this one is for me or not.
• 26:01
  They actually say that as well. I I saw that that men put women
• 26:05
  in categories. And I go where?
• 26:07
  I know data you know what are or friend.
• 26:12
  If you you know what are early, it's not going to last.
• 26:18
  We'll never come here. Look, don't shoot down, don't
• 26:20
  shoot me for that. I'm sure there are people who
• 26:23
  have actually been different to that.
• 26:25
  But for me, in my experience, anybody that I had that
• 26:32
  experience with, it never lasted because opinions like.
• 26:38
  OK, so this again, is this our generation?
• 26:42
  Is this how we feel? No offense, but we are old.
• 26:46
  Now this is what I mean. So is our parents didn't do any
• 26:51
  of that till they got married and even if they did, they
• 26:53
  denied it. OK, so our generation, if we did
• 26:58
  it too soon, you're not going to get another date.
• 27:01
  So right, I'll hold. On So what's today's society?
• 27:04
  So now we have money, sex, power, Yeah.
• 27:08
  Right, viewers, we're going to ask you another question.
• 27:10
  What's all the young horns doing?
• 27:12
  Tell us what the young horns and the young guns are doing.
• 27:17
  Your bro. In the dating sense.
• 27:20
  You're paying for your own are. You just getting together, doing
• 27:23
  the nasty and leaving a bee or what he is doing.
• 27:27
  Are you being traditional about it?
• 27:28
  Are you being gentlemen and women?
• 27:31
  Are you being ladies or are you being not ladies?
• 27:35
  Let us know. Wow, see, they don't feel like
• 27:37
  that nowadays. You can't say that they're like
• 27:39
  powerful in their own right and they can do what they.
• 27:41
  Want. Yeah, but I can ask them if
• 27:42
  they're being ladies or not ladies.
• 27:44
  They know what I'm talking about.
• 27:45
  Yeah, but that's your perception of a lady.
• 27:48
  That's a bit I don't. Understand what you mean.
• 27:51
  So basically, are you implying that if she does the deeds?
• 27:55
  OK, ladylike. OK.
• 27:56
  That's what I meant to say. OK, ladylike.
• 27:59
  OK, so, so again, it's all these new.
• 28:02
  Dynamics that people to our own personal experience of this.
• 28:06
  I made you 8. I made you drive on my leg for a
• 28:11
  long time. And I enjoyed every minute.
• 28:14
  Oh, thank you very much. T and my dad, sorry you're
• 28:16
  listening. Sorry T, but I'm sorry Ma.
• 28:20
  Sorry, ma'am. Because of you.
• 28:22
  But you know what, I'm going to be honest with you is I'm glad
• 28:24
  we did that. Well, obviously, because I how
• 28:28
  to make your way. Hold on.
• 28:30
  Take the all the ego stuff out of it.
• 28:33
  I am actually glad that we did that because we got to know each
• 28:36
  other first. Yeah, yeah.
• 28:39
  And realized that I realized, you know what?
• 28:42
  This one I'm actually prepared to put up a horseshit for the
• 28:45
  rest of my life. But also I think as well, like I
• 28:53
  had this discussion with a guy before and I think he was a bit
• 28:58
  more on the kind of sense that a woman should pay her way.
• 29:03
  OK, this is a friend. I was never with him around like
• 29:05
  that. I remember saying to him was
• 29:07
  actually like. Always pay away.
• 29:10
  Like as in what you like. It depends on what kind of
• 29:13
  context you're. Dating at the time he was
• 29:15
  actually struggling to meet somebody OK and he was probably
• 29:18
  dating so this is. Another change.
• 29:20
  So in other words, he spent too much money on dates and he was
• 29:22
  sick. Of it, right.
• 29:23
  So that's another thing that's happening at the minute and
• 29:25
  we're like, oh, I'm going three days a week.
• 29:27
  I'm not going to meet somebody you're talking.
• 29:29
  A Warner is shot. Yeah, if you're lucky.
• 29:31
  A Warner, if you're lucky. If you're lucky, yes, you can't
• 29:34
  even get McDonald's anymore for nearly that right so.
• 29:38
  What McDonald's are you going to?
• 29:40
  Abuse you? The ones in Switzerland.
• 29:42
  In LA, no, we're seriously right.
• 29:45
  So I said to him, Paul, what you don't realize is is he likes
• 29:49
  nice looking girls. OK, so with that came her nails,
• 29:53
  tan and outfit. So horn, she's spending so much
• 29:58
  money before she's gone on this day.
• 30:01
  Do men take that into consideration?
• 30:03
  And I think another thing to point out there is she's making
• 30:05
  an effort, so she obviously wants something to happen, no?
• 30:09
  Well, she wants to look good. So like, yeah, but she obviously
• 30:12
  knows who she's gone on a date with, so she obviously likes the
• 30:15
  look of the person. And wants to impress him.
• 30:18
  Like what else would she be doing herself up to the to the
• 30:21
  9th? But even if you're not like even
• 30:24
  like, do you think this is doing myself up to the 9th?
• 30:27
  You're just trendy. But like do you know how much
• 30:30
  hair costs and nails cost and tan cost?
• 30:33
  I do and alefoots cost so like. I do, actually.
• 30:37
  Yeah, I saw from you. I know.
• 30:39
  From from this meme I saw right and I thought this was really
• 30:43
  good. You know, the way like men call
• 30:44
  women gold diggers. Yeah.
• 30:48
  And then it's like, well, actually you're just not my type
• 30:52
  financially. So men like an actual nice
• 30:55
  looking woman. So they have a type, right?
• 30:57
  We we've discussed that Terry likes blondes, right?
• 31:01
  So I see. My neutral answer there.
• 31:04
  I just went OK. Is that true?
• 31:06
  I OK I lived in a bedsit for years.
• 31:12
  You're being a politician again and you're not answering it.
• 31:15
  I'm I I'm into blondes, yes. I don't.
• 31:17
  OK, Brunettes are not my. OK, so preferred, do you like
• 31:21
  big boobies? Indeed.
• 31:23
  OK, Pamela Anderson kind of vibes.
• 31:27
  So did it behind the scenes, apparently.
• 31:29
  OK, they're happened. Do you like big boobs?
• 31:33
  OK, so it's OK for you guys to say that, but why isn't that OK
• 31:38
  for a woman to say? You're actually not financially
• 31:41
  my type. But I think that's OK.
• 31:44
  Is it? At least you're letting the blow
• 31:45
  go off the hook and you can go, well, hold on a minute.
• 31:48
  Fine. Lovely.
• 31:49
  See you later. Is that OK to say no?
• 31:52
  Listen, I wouldn't. I wouldn't know.
• 31:54
  I'm not saying it's OK. I am not the judge, jury and
• 31:57
  executioner here. Is that not me?
• 31:59
  All I'm saying if someone said that to me, you're not.
• 32:02
  You're not my type because you're not.
• 32:03
  And if I go, fine, see you later, good luck, You're really
• 32:06
  here. You released me from the the
• 32:08
  insinuating pain I'm about to put myself through.
• 32:12
  Is that not like, totally and morally wrong to say sorry
• 32:17
  you're not broke ass motherfucker and I can't?
• 32:18
  Go out with you. Not to me it's not, not.
• 32:22
  So wrong, no? But I'm just giving you my
• 32:26
  opinion, maybe it is wrong to other people, I don't know.
• 32:28
  OK, so now we're probably even going off more track, right?
• 32:31
  But this is something that I really.
• 32:34
  Want to at least your lip is moving bar.
• 32:35
  It's not really, it's hurting me.
• 32:38
  OK so this is something I really want to know tear and maybe it's
• 32:42
  wrong. And maybe that can I just point
• 32:44
  out she called me tear. The feistiness is now thawing
• 32:47
  out. Yeah, I'm, I'm starting to
• 32:49
  unwind now because I'm sitting here relaxing.
• 32:51
  Lovely. OK, so I might get cancelled for
• 32:54
  this, but I'm going to say it anyway.
• 32:57
  Why do rich ugly men like on yacht?
• 33:04
  No, she let me say this. Yeah, go for 30 year olds.
• 33:08
  Like I'm not being funny, right? Why does she want to go out with
• 33:11
  this? Well, go on, go on.
• 33:17
  Sorry Hon, but you're old and you're, you know, whatever.
• 33:19
  And she's like a hot 30 year old.
• 33:21
  Like, what does she see in you besides your money, right?
• 33:27
  Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm wrong.
• 33:29
  Maybe I'm going to get cancelled for it.
• 33:31
  But let's just talk stereotypes. I'm sure someone who owns a
• 33:34
  yacht and is there, like, a billionaire is not going to be
• 33:37
  listening to this podcast. But if you are, I want to know
• 33:41
  what? Your choice.
• 33:42
  Your old season. Yeah.
• 33:43
  And what the freaking hell do you see in it?
• 33:46
  Like what? Like mentally?
• 33:48
  OK, can I? Can I?
• 33:49
  Can I put my spin on this? My opinion I believe, and this
• 33:55
  is merely an opinion. OK, I don't care whether I get
• 33:58
  cancelled in anyway. So in the episode 3 we've a few
• 34:01
  more to go. Please don't know, we need some
• 34:03
  new sponsors. No, but this is my opinion.
• 34:06
  That's not going to be a cancellation thing.
• 34:07
  OK, not saying that, but I do believe that men who go for that
• 34:13
  kind of thing are on the same level of emotional maturity as
• 34:19
  the person they're going for. It could be either that it could
• 34:23
  be a control issue because they're power, they're the money
• 34:27
  thing, right? OK, so they want to control and
• 34:30
  then it's an ego. Where do you want a piece of eye
• 34:32
  candy on their end? Do you want to look good?
• 34:34
  Because I was watching a program but.
• 34:36
  You don't look good. You look good, but they think it
• 34:39
  makes them look better. So OK, you don't look good to me
• 34:43
  as a woman, but do you look good to to men?
• 34:48
  This is what I want to know. Do you think that there's?
• 34:51
  Three men in this studio, I would say.
• 34:54
  I would say that the men are probably looking gone.
• 34:56
  Yep. Yeah.
• 34:57
  Bye. Tell the truth.
• 34:59
  You can say I won't fight you. I promise.
• 35:01
  I think it's a bit cringy to be honest.
• 35:03
  I'm not going to lie to you. So would you like bro?
• 35:06
  Uh huh. Look at him like see all this.
• 35:08
  I would like Hugh Hefner stuff and I think that's cringe.
• 35:12
  Cringe fest. Is it really?
• 35:14
  Are you just saying that to me because I'm your wife?
• 35:16
  Being straight, it's, it's not, it's not for me.
• 35:18
  Thanks. It's like, what do you talk
• 35:19
  about when you start on your own?
• 35:21
  Yeah, it was. No, your cough is not going to
• 35:24
  get you away with this. Would you?
• 35:26
  If you saw a hot chick with like a filthy rich, not good looking
• 35:31
  old man, would you like you as I would?
• 35:35
  With a filthy rich not like why would I say that?
• 35:38
  I'd more likely say what the hell and I is she saying in him?
• 35:41
  What? How is she doing it, Helda?
• 35:44
  Which is all I'd say. Honesty.
• 35:46
  Yeah. For all he must, he must have
• 35:49
  some money. That's all I can say.
• 35:53
  OK, there's two guys behind the scenes here and I want your
• 35:57
  honest opinion. You can raise your hands.
• 36:01
  If you saw a hot woman with a filthy rich old man on a yacht,
• 36:08
  would you think he is an amazing guy?
• 36:12
  No hands up. Now.
• 36:14
  So they're either don't want to like admit this to us or.
• 36:22
  You have to realize one thing, billionaire men are a different
• 36:30
  category and class and hang around with different people
• 36:37
  than we do with different belief systems.
• 36:39
  So they probably do look across to go, you did good there Jed,
• 36:44
  you know what I mean? His name is Jed.
• 36:46
  Jed, we'll just call him Jed for because I'm thinking of oil,
• 36:48
  man, you know what I'm saying? That's because you're watching
• 36:53
  Land Man and she's a hottie and he's not a hottie.
• 36:56
  No, she wasn't thinking about them too.
• 36:58
  I was thinking about someone else in the program.
• 37:00
  OK, that has a hot wife. And the young ones are only in
• 37:03
  their 20s and your man is in his 60s.
• 37:06
  So I feel this podcast was so up and down and here's so many
• 37:12
  dynamics, but we want to know how finances work in your house.
• 37:20
  How do young people day? How do old people day?
• 37:24
  Do you find that if you are the main earner in your house as a
• 37:28
  man or a woman, does it affect the other person?
• 37:33
  My perspective is if a woman is the main breadwinner, that a
• 37:40
  man's ego is affected by that. So Judy Mac Judgeson over here
• 37:47
  didn't realize that an older man on his way out to heaven goes
• 37:56
  for a hot younger woman because they want to feel alive.
• 38:00
  So I'm over here judging someone who's about to die.
• 38:03
  I never thought of like that. And a woman wants a man who has
• 38:10
  his chisel together because she doesn't want to babysit.
• 38:15
  We don't want to micromanage your finances or your behaviour.
• 38:20
  We just want somebody to meet us halfway.
• 38:25
  And leave your thoughts in the comments.
• 38:28
  And until next episode, we'll be keeping it real.
• 38:31
  Take it easy.