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Season 2 - Episode 167 - Are you a professional worrier? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so today I want to talk to you about being a professional
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  warrior, in my opinion. Again, this is just my opinion,
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  while everybody worries, I think women really do an excellent job
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  of worrying. And I know I'm the top Warrior,
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  I've reformed, I should say, and, but am I really reformed?
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  I don't know. I always wonder about that
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  because I still have things that I worry about.
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  But I used to be way worse way worse than I am now.
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  Am I still do I still have the Is to do it.
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  Can I still go there? Absolutely.
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  But whirring. What is the F?
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  You know? What is the cause of it?
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  What is the reason that we go to it?
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  So easily easily? What is the, the root cause that
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  makes women particularly be a worrier?
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  So, thinking about this, and really digging into this.
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  With my clients and researching and looking through everything,
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  there's no direct correlation for a lot of It other than, you
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  know, the pace at which we live but I think women have always
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  been Warriors. I mean, my mother was a
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  professional Warrior as well and her mother was a professional
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  Warrior so you can go back and think.
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  Well, you know, no doubt hundreds and hundreds and
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  hundreds. If not thousands of years, this
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  has been the case. And, in my opinion, I truly
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  believe that a lot of the worrying that we do as women
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  just comes from the paint, the place of being a nurturer.
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  The our nature as women is to nurture.
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  That is part of our hardwiring. We can't get away from that
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  women always want to nurture things, whether it's, you know,
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  their children, their families, their homes, their Farms, their
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  workers, their projects, it doesn't matter.
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  They women just love to grow things.
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  They love to nurture things they love to see them.
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  Blossom. If you will, now, is this across
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  the board for every single woman?
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  No, and it shouldn't be, but those most of us, the
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  preponderance of us have this. And again, I think it's just in
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  our nature. I think it's just part of our
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  DNA and part of our hardwiring, just like, you know, safety
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  survival, all of that. That's there.
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  We just have different ways to get there than most men and
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  worrying is part of it. Remember our emotions are tied
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  to us to help us get information and quickly course correct.
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  So worrying is in was a way that gets us to pay attention to
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  something that needs attention in order to shift and move in a
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  different direction to get to the right place but this world
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  we live in. Now the society this the way
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  information comes at us. It's so fast and so Furious and
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  so much that our brains just cannot possibly comprehend at
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  all coming. Once so we just effectively,
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  delete delete, delete, delete delete, and we move on.
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  And then we choose the things that we're going to worry about.
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  And when we pick them, they seem to stick to us like nasty
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  buggers. If you will, they just don't get
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  off. And we try, we try to get them
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  off and they don't, and the nature of this comes from a good
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  place. So, I have experienced myself
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  beating myself up for feeling a certain way and thinking And
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  what the hell is wrong with me? You know, going to this place of
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  self-deprecation so that I can try to beat it out of myself.
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  But as you've heard me say before, when you subscribe to
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  the methodology of the beatings will continue until morale
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  improves. You're screwed because you can't
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  beat yourself up enough to change the situation.
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  So recognizing that the root cause of this, the root place
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  that this all comes from is nurturing.
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  Eases it it Gives me the place of going to that's much more
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  relaxed. Much more like, okay, this is
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  coming from my nurturing side. This means I'm attempting to
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  care for something which is good, that is good.
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  Okay, those are right thoughts in my opinion.
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  However, when they turn and they become a problem, that's when
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  they go to wrong thinking, and you have to kind of swirl
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  yourself around and say, okay, this is too much, I went too
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  far. And allowing other people to
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  have their experiences IE, if you're worried about your
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  children all the time, they have to learn.
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  And many of them as I know I was one of those kids I had to learn
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  through my own experience and I did not learn all the time
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  through the experience of others.
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  Their did hit a point in my life where I said, okay, I see that
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  happening to them. I do not want that happen to me.
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  And I stopped myself from where I was headed and that was a gift
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  because I was able to learn From someone else's experience.
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  And to me, that's the relative, the the relationship with true
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  intelligence. When you can look at something
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  that someone else did and learn from them, that is true
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  intelligence. We learn so much that way but
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  certain other experiences we let it go.
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  And that's where you start to say, okay, I've moved into a
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  different level intelligence when I can do that and you can
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  do that with whirring as well. You can do that by recognizing
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  this is part of your nature and directed in the right.
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  Tway, coming from the right intent.
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  It's all good. And when you start to see that,
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  it's easier to let go of it. When you start to see that, it's
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  easier to stop beating yourself up for being a warrior.
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  And it's also easier to think outside of those conditions and
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  say I would like to make this happen instead of worrying and
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  then you can start to move towards that.
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  So hopefully, this helps my professional Warriors out there,
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  the way it helps me. And I hope you guys have a
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye-bye.