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51. Being the It Girl is Selfish ;) · Power Talk with Katelin Power

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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Power Talk with Caitlyn Power.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm Caitlyn, a certified clinical hypnotherapist who helps you clear out the BS of conscious beliefs that have been keeping you from reaching your goals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I show you how to upgrade your identity into the most confident, fulfilled you that you were always meant to be.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you're ready to stop playing small and join transformative conversations around mindset, manifestation, business, wellness, and here from the eighth girls that are out there living their dream lives, I'm so excited to have you here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's get started.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hi, friend.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to Power Talk.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I shared something in my stories.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that was last week now right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just went through a traumatic thing, so my nervous system.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know when that happens when like a traumatic situation happens and you're like it feels like it's been a full year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's been a week and that's how time has felt for me in time is very much an illusion of how we're experiencing it and our human perception of time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I actually have a whole module on quantum time in the membership if you're ever interested because time is so interesting to me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I shared with the besties in my Instagram stories, something that was going on, what had happened and why I wasn't gonna be as active as usual in my Instagram stories.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not great about posting on my grid, where I'm at is in my stories and I often share kind of many masterclass situations if you will snippet of things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was talking about self-love mastery, how I was bringing myself through this obviously in real time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I got multiple responses about how this clicked and the way that self love has never clicked before.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The way I had explained this was what I was moving through because sometimes the brain just needs a really great illustration.
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[SPEAKER_00]: a concrete example where you can see, oh, that's how that specifically would look like.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Giving my example of how I specifically was doing that through this intense situation that I'm living right now really helped you because you're mirror neurons were able to go, oh, I know how to copy this now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know how to act out self love in my life, not because I'm going through what Caitlin's going through right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But because I can clearly see how she's doing that at a very high level, meaning it's like a very high emotion level of things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like the things that we go through a level of reflection, like a reflection can be a level two and maybe that's spilling stuff on your shirt and that's your reflection on a level two.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're not highly emotional about spilling something on your shirt.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe that is more of a level four if you're running up the door and you're going to an important meeting whatever but if you're at a high level of reflection meaning highly emotional and this is a big thing for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not like an easy like, oh, spill this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm able to just clean it up and move on with my day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you're able to really see and hold this concrete example that I illustrated just through my stories, which is why we're bringing it here because you voted.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You wanted this deeper on a podcast episode because it landed so well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know that I can always go deeper with all these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We could be here forever, never, never.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we will be every Tuesday.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Moving back for more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going deeper on what I said in there, but your mirror neurons were able to look at that and go, oh, Caitlin's moving through a level eight reflection.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I can attach this to my level two, my level three, my level four, I know how to do this now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: As Caitlin is moving through self love mastery, I've now reached a new level of self love mastery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is something I've heard from clients in the past where they're like, I feel like I had a total set back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had one client the other day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Again, it was sharing on my stories anonymously.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I always protect my clients for the highest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you've never know who said what and any specific details I get out so that they feel safe sharing me that's extremely important to me, but you're still able to see
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[SPEAKER_00]: how this work works and see the gold from what they are learning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In this case, this client felt like really depressed this one weekend recently where she was like, I feel like I had a total setback.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been myself images high myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Love is high.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're moving through all these wonderful tools, rewiring everything in my electromagnetic field.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I felt totally set back this weekend, like, I'm not sure why this happened.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it felt to her, like, in my back at square one, like she was almost panicked, like, did I revert back?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What happened was now you moved through a new level of mastery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you were out of level two before of self-love mastery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And now you moved into level three, which has a new set of challenges for you to advance through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you know my manifestation process,
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[SPEAKER_00]: advance through challenges one of those steps and this is where we are able to take those things that we learned at level one level two and actually walk them out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have all these tools in your toolbox now, your stronger, your smarter, all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So now you get to walk through these challenges with this new set of tools and actually integrate them, walk them out, use them, which then prepares you for the next level.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And as you know, these next level of things, it's like, okay, well, that doesn't sound fun if maybe you're thinking that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'd rather coast was my self-love level one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Easy, breezy, not hard challenges.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, that level is still gonna feel hard to you at that level, just so you know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now it's almost like graduating through different levels of schooling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That still feels the test will felt hard to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and third grade as they do in sixth grade, but now you're smarter, you're stronger, you're wiser, you're getting through these things with a new set of tools and your skill level has advanced.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So now you're meeting, you're being challenged at that level.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is why we are here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are here on this planet for the soul growth, for the mastery of these different elite skills, abilities, capabilities, potentialities that your higher self has planned for you in this lifetime.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you're thinking you're just going to coast at that level, first off it's still going to seem hard to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's not like you're going to be sitting there in a floaty floating in the pool, sipping your marg.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're still going to feel like this is hard to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're not going to reach the levels of wealth, the levels of love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like if you want that best soul match, that is the one that meets you at every level of emotional, mental, physical, spiritual that actually can match you there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to match with, you know, bozo.
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[SPEAKER_00]: can only meet you maybe physical level and something all love to bozo but he can only meet you here she can only meet you at the physical level and can't meet you can't match you at those other levels so you're gonna be trying to
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[SPEAKER_00]: connect with that person on all these different levels you're looking for your partner to be where you could spend your traveling and you could spend an hour on the phone like telling about your day and it's like oh we should go to bed but I love talking to you like I can't get enough talking to you just talking about my day and when you've already been checking in with them over the trip and that's the type of relationship you're looking for.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not Bosa that's like you up
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[SPEAKER_00]: Did you get there?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hope you have fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're like looking for that kind of thing, then you need to be doing your own work, getting the mastery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These are the type of levels that's like, yeah, you can have a job that pays well, but do you have a career that your soul is pulled to where every day you're
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[SPEAKER_00]: looking forward to being able to do the work that you do and you make a shit ton of money doing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These are the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you want to have that level of life, if you want to play in the wealth and the happiness that you couldn't ever imagine reaching that level of fulfillment and satisfaction, then high levels of self love are required.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They are required.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you get high levels of self love?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well first, you need to understand what self-love is, which most people have wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had it wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I thought self-love was self-care, like doing a little spa night at home, or going to get your favorite meal, or getting a mini-petty, a facial, whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I just thought it was self-care, and that's not what it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can those things be self-love?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, however, most at the time, we're not going hang on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me grab some face masks and cucumbers for myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and expecting to do that every day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not self love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self love is an every day as close to every moment as you can get.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That is the goal to have this wired through us that we are continually up leveling our self love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And again, remember there's always new levels that we can get to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We think we understand at one level, then there's an example.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then there's an example.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we are also working against the contagion.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's an actual contagion from our collective of everyone telling us through media, social media, through appearance.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Teachers, ideas and concepts that are passed down through family lines, which typically in that case, that's not malintention.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not like your family's out to get you and your grandchildren and their grandchildren and your not like, let me up up my family line, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not what was intended.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of stuff in the media is actually intended to keep us stuck in small.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we are told that self-love is selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are told
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[SPEAKER_00]: that being the equal is selfish of thinking about what you need first is selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are told that and that's something that I was raised.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was not raised from my parents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Me and my brother were not raised to be brats.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We were not raised to not think of others.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We were raised with these concepts and ideas.
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[SPEAKER_00]: that you take care of people and you take care of your community and you take care of your friends and it's not always what is Caitlin want to do and that's most important that's not what self love is again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So all these ideas and concepts that we think self love is is wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've had it wrong and that's why you are not succeeding at the level and having the happiness levels
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[SPEAKER_00]: and unconditional love that you want in your life from yourself and from others in the career in family, in relationships, romantic relationships, friendships, where they're acting out unconditional love to you, where you are only experiencing richness in all ways in your life, rich and happiness, rich and financial wealth, all of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because you have been resistant and sometimes completely closed down to that idea.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, I'm not going to entertain that idea.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I will not be selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you're closed off a resistant to that idea that being the it girl is selfish in the way that you've been taught what selfish is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But again,
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[SPEAKER_00]: What you've been taught is wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What you've been taught through the collective.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of it was with bad intention to keep you stuck in small because if you think about it, all the people that have power and financial wealth that have been passed down through family lines, businesses.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So not even just, you know, all know someone that it's like, oh, I work for my mom or my dad, like the family thing and then they're just set up for life and that gets passed down and that gets passed down and gets passed down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yes, in the physical, they have these family businesses that have gone on for generations.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's generational wealth, but there's also ideas, concepts, beliefs, ingredients that they don't know that they have because it's been passed down and wired in their brain from a very, very young age because it's what they were taught about self love, about
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[SPEAKER_00]: finances about how the energetics of wealth works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These old money, if you will, old money families that have been in power and have had financial wealth because financial wealth is part of our world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's part of how everything operates.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't touch the amount of lives that you are here to touch without financial wealth backing you because it gives you
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[SPEAKER_00]: Access, it gives you options.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It allows you to be out of your survival, fight or flight or freeze of your nervous system, being completely out of whack, feeling like you're being chased by a bear because you can't pay your bills.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't feed your family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't take care of the people you love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you're not able to operate in your genius that you were here to operate in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: if you do not have financial backing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that is just a part of the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you have any ideas that make you resistant to that knowledge, that again is the societal collective programming of the people that are in power, keeping the people that have not had wealth in their family lines, keeping them second small by thinking that money is bad or that you turn into an evil person when you have it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All these things that we think
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[SPEAKER_00]: about money because it's been put there on purpose.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And also like I said, there are things that were not put there on purpose.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you have taken on beliefs that your parents or grandparents had around money.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and about how the world works and about self-love, self-love being selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Again, I haven't even gotten to the actual source definition of self-love, but I will in a second.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that wasn't with bad intentions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I was saying, it's like not trying to pass down these beliefs that are gonna affect my family for generations to come.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there's, it doesn't really matter what intention was there, but the truth of the matter is that it's there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the families that have been in wealth and power this whole time, obviously they want to keep their families in wealth and power.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And again, some of it great intentions some of it not, but also you want your family to be able to thrive and do everything they're here to accomplish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And again, financial wealth is part of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So of course, families are going to want the best for their families in the same way that you want the best for your family and friends and loved ones.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they are passing down these beliefs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Some of it that they're conscious of and some of it that they're not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just the way that they interact with money and it's been passed down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: through how they speak about money, how they operate with money, how they have this knowing of the source truth, God who is source, the source truth of what self love actually is, and that it's not selfish at all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's actually the best thing that you can do for your family and your loved ones.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and they know this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this has passed down through the family lines because we've all seen people that make it big, strike gold in every which way, create these incredible businesses and it tumbles and collapses either with them or their kids or the grandchildren because they didn't have the right energetics around money and also not knowing the actions to take with it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They don't know the financial knowledge around money.
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[SPEAKER_00]: they don't have financial mastery and they don't have this knowledge about these things you have to, again, it's a requirement.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self-love is a requirement to attain and match to all the things that you are here to create in this lifetime.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The love, the wealth experiences, the travel, the friendships, all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a requirement you cannot have those things and keep them
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[SPEAKER_00]: without high self love and all eight areas of life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you have it in one area, that's amazing and incredible job, but that's not enough.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have to have it in all eight and they know this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And now you know this too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're in on the secret too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That being the it girl is selfish and the way that you've learned
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self-love to be of putting yourself first is selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That is what you've learned.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you've got to be the baddie a little bit of not be stuck in that good girl programming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have a whole program that has a module on good girl programming because that was huge for me to rewire in a lot of my clients.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So a lot of agroactivation is about that and rewiring that so that you're not stuck in good girl
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[SPEAKER_00]: I need to be the good girl.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can't do anything bad, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we hear about like, she's a baddie.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's a baddie.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you land a balance with that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you're not swinging from one side of the pendulum to the other and you're able to accept all parts of you, even parts that you have not explored yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you've been swinging on one side, you're the rebel, the black sheep, which I've been both of these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been both a good girl and the rubble and the black sheep.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So always feeling like you're one thing or the other and you can't be all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That is why a graduation was born of how you get to be yourself and be incredibly extremely magnetic by harnessing your feminine magnetism in the way that you're not just one thing but you're all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that is why a graduation exists and it is a huge part of my work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because this is something that keeps us from being everything that we are meant to be in this lifetime.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we are taught that prioritizing others is selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When really it's a requirement to the type of wealth that you are wanting to create, the type of wealth that the people
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[SPEAKER_00]: all on the top of our societal system, understand whether that's something they consciously know or unconsciously know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This truth about self-love is threaded in through these bloodlines through these families to the people that have not just financial wealth because that is amazing, but also that wealth of options of experiences
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[SPEAKER_00]: of opportunity of being able to not again just have that financial wealth because there are people obviously that are wealthy but are very unhappy but to have the wealth of joy and the wealth of laughter because your nervous systems are at peace and you're not worried again about putting food on the table that is set and now you're able to explore your genius
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[SPEAKER_00]: because you're not in fighter fighter freeze that survival mode to understand and live an experience deep wealth and all areas of life not just financial but socially in your family mentally physically
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self-love is required.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this is what people get wrong about self-love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They don't understand what it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The source definition.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So God who is source, the source definition of self-love is, I'm always going to give myself what I need before I do what I do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't sacrifice putting myself at my best to do my best for another person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to say good again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self love is I don't sacrifice putting myself at my best to do my best for another person because how actually just think about it first I get how can you logically be at your best?
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[SPEAKER_00]: to do your best for another person if you sacrifice being at your best.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you put that to the side because you go, nope, I gotta help someone else first because putting myself first as selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So let me help that person or everyone else or whatever that looks like to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me put them first to do my best for that person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you do your best for that person if you're not at your best?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Truly, think about that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am one of those people that you hear about that is like the Snickers bar commercial type of thing, which I wouldn't eat a Snickers bar, but it's like Caitlyn needs to eat something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's not herself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have to eat like I eat within probably thirty minutes usually of getting up like of my eyes popping open.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I am, it's required for me to eat to be at my best.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And of course, there's a level of sleep I intended how much sleep I need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And to be at my best, there's a certain amount of hours of sleep that I need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These sort of things, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Always get that, no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But to be at my best, if you're gonna get the best Caitlin, like the best Caitlin at her core, the genuine Caitlin that is performing at the highest level, operating in all cylinders, I have had to have eaten and had the amount of hours asleep that I require that are best for my body.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you really are wanting the best of the best Caitlin, I will be most joyful with a matcha in hand or you know, have one of that day because I enjoy that so much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that is what is required with me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The example that I shared with my besties in my Instagram stories is that my mom recently fell.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She is okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She fell down a stair.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and she I don't need to go into like her exact injuries because it's snowing's business but she will be okay and fully recover and she was unable to walk so we have a bit of a journey to get back to her full recovery but she will be okay she was not able to walk so I was her full-time caregiver for a full week of
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you can't walk, when you can't get anywhere, obviously you need full time care pretty much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I took that on and then when we were about a week out, I was able to get her a caregiver that we hired a caretaker, which has helped me out immensely in the caretakers amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And my mom is making a lot of great progress with walking.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So things are on the up and up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But when something like this happens is extremely traumatic for your brain, where you might in the moment be, okay, and you're going, we got to get this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We got to purchase this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We got to get this set up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was able to anticipate all of her needs before she needed them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, I'm an intuitive, but I was able to look five steps ahead and order every single product that we would need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have it at the doorstep, had it set up before she actually even needed it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm really good, or at least I really have been good in the past in high stress situations because I have my emotions layer process that I'm able to get my emotions down to be able to critically think because when you're in that fighter fighter freeze, all the bloods are straining from your brain to go into your arms and your legs because your body is so primal thinking you need to run, you need to escape, you need to get to somewhere safe because you're not currently safe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we'll start draining into your mouth to bite and into your arms and legs to run and get out of there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how primal our systems are when we're in that survival fighter fighter freeze mode.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously with someone really close to you like a parent or a child.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Someone close to you like that especially with a parent or a child because
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have obviously seen no number of entire life and seen them healthy and around and doing these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so when they are unable to do basic things like walking in these sort of things, it is very, very jarring for your brain to see that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And especially when roles are flipped the way with a parent in a child.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You might be able to get through the whole situation and be really on top of things in the same way that I was able to completely bring us through this for a full week of operating at the highest level, but at some point you are going to have to really allow those emotions to process through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and to show your brain that you're out of survival and that you are okay and you are safe and that all as well and to get yourself that rest and all those things that you need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The exhaustion started to really show itself in the second week for me because I now had the caretaker that was helping me with part of the schedule and then I was able to be getting the rest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was showing my body where out of the survival we made it through this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everyone's okay, we're safe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And at that point, then the amount of sleep that you didn't get and the stress of the adrenaline and everything that happened with the different chemicals through your body when you're in that state, it all is settling and then the exhaustion kind of sets in and all these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it does happen in what's beautiful is being able to use these tools to expect that, like I expected that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was able to be using all my nervous system regulation tools, my motion cayer tools to keep my motions in check in order to bring myself through this where I wasn't pushing them to the side ever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was always healthily processing this and as much as I could be day by day showing myself I'm okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm safe even though I was my body was on high alert in survival mode of not allowing myself to get out of that multiple times a day through that first chunk so that it didn't hit me like
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[SPEAKER_00]: A break the next week I was still able to travel to my best friends wedding, be in her wedding, all the things, and be able to keep all my clients and have to cancel one session and all the sessions slayed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Perfectly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So these things are amazing to really help yourself through something where you are anticipating, I know that my body is going to be doing this, but I either can regulate throughout this whole process, knowing that the exhaustion will kick in and seep in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I can lower that so it's not going to feel because every day it's like every day I'm working on it instead of just going through the motions one after the another whatever and not taking care of my nervous system letting my emotions run rampant and then
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hitting a brick wall of feeling like I had a truck run over me because it all hits me at once.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So because I was able to every day be regulating regulating when the exhaustion did seep in of my body fully seeing that I was out of all of this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I survival mode and I finally had that help to help me on the physical side of the physical actions with the care ticker.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then it was like, yes, the exhaustion's seeped in and I was able to get myself a sleep in day and then still travel and be in my best friend's wedding and all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So do you see how there's a difference there between like knowing that this is going to happen and how can I support myself through it until I get that physical support that I need?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then as that sport came in, knowing like, yes, I am gonna have some, some come down from this, but it's nothing like I would have experienced how to not have those tools for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that was me prioritizing myself every single day, going, yes, she needs me here, but I need this first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This was the example that I shared in my stories that was really concrete because you probably aren't going through anything like I'm going through right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you are, and if you are, then perfect timing for this episode.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But even if you're not taking care of someone you love right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can see this concrete example and I'm going to really piece me all this out and really be specific so you can see exactly how self love mastery looks like when something happens like this, which is a high high level thing and you can apply this to these small things throughout your day to day life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: a mom and you have little ones to take care of every single day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, I'm a caretaker every day of my life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then you know exactly how to do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you have your own business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're the CEO and you have all these people under you counting on you and you don't know how to practice self-love, which again will literally skyrocket your success in your business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: when you have this in place, it is a requirement for the type of wealth that you are looking for.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you are working for someone else, this might be something about why am I never getting promoted or prioritized or treated with respect or admired.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you're dating maybe you are in a relationship and you still feel like you're never the priority.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like it's never me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm never the priority.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's always
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[SPEAKER_00]: hanging with the boys, or hanging with the girls, or whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're like, what gives?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I do not understand this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm hearing that I'm going to change and prioritize you and do X-Risey, but it never happens to action ever happens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's because of this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's because your self-love levels are low, and your self-love levels need to be high in all eight areas of life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is something that, in one on one with me, I can measure this for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can look and clock
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[SPEAKER_00]: in your electromagnetic fields, what level your self-levels are at and this is the type of work that we do so that you're able to measure as scientific data.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The numbers in your fields do not lie.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is something that we can clock in your electromagnetic field.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can look this up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is science.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It can be measured and I can measure it with my intuition.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, I have trained my intuition to be able to clock these numbers precisely.
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[SPEAKER_00]: so that you're able to see your starting point and then implement neuroscience tools, physical actions, hypnosis audio, all the things to rewire everything so that you're able to actually see those levels go up and not only will we see them on the scientific data of this but you will start to see it with how your boss treats you, your co-workers treat you, your man, your woman, your
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[SPEAKER_00]: Family members, your kids, your parents, how they all prioritize you because you are now prioritizing yourself first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You no longer feel yourself whittling down your energy because you put everyone else first and you're left with crumbs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then how do people teach you?
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[SPEAKER_00]: They teach you like your worth crumbs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That is why this is happening in your fields.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All people events circumstances have to act out the script that you give them and you have been giving them a script saying, please treat me like I'm a crumb.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If it's your man, this is what he is reading in your fields.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just choosing man whatever that is woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: co-workers, friends, etc.
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[SPEAKER_00]: etc.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're writing this out in your field, you are going, please go, give everything you have, prioritize your family, your friends, your work, your passions, all the things above me, and then when you have nothing left.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Come and take me on a date.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's about your field is reading and that is why he is acting that out to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That is why you are getting the worst version of him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, I can see that he is not this person that he talks to me like this, but you're getting the worst version of him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because you are sacrificing yourself for everyone else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so all that is left for you, that all you are giving yourself is what is left.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're giving yourself crumbs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So your partner is giving you crumbs or your bosses overlooking you or your coworkers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: want to help everyone else, but they are like, oh, I forgot that you're on this project too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: However, that looks, that is what is happening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is how I acted this out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How I acted out self love with this situation with my mom because everyone would tell me it is selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you would be like, no, that's selfish for you to give what you need to yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: before helping your mom when she can't walk and she needs pretty constant care because remember imagine you can't get up at all from the bed so you need to be fed even just getting water you need that everything with the injuries that she has she was not able to move in
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[SPEAKER_00]: most ways.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So everything needed to be done.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you'd be like, Caitlin, your mom needs you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that would be selfish for you to take what you need first before helping her is what we are taught, what is logically the case.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like if you were to ask people, if you hypothetically were thinking about your own parent or child,
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[SPEAKER_00]: And they were like, they need you to feed them to get them water to bathe them like all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you were asked this and they were like, okay, you need eat breakfast, but they need eat breakfast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Who do you feed first?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You'd probably go, I'm going to go feed them breakfast first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what we're taught.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you chose the other that you eat first, ding ding, you're the winner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this is why being the egg girl of selfish, but let me explain how this actually works in a way that you're not a complete dickhead to all the people that you love and that love you and that you are
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[SPEAKER_00]: helping them at your highest level.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they are getting the absolute best care.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They are not getting crumbs from you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They are not getting an attitude from you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Usually when things like this happen, you're so on empty with your what you need like your energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everything is on empty of
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[SPEAKER_00]: what you need to be a happy human.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so this is where arguments break out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is where things get ugly because you're doing all these things for someone else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then they are not going to notice that you are even doing those things when it's like, how could you not notice that I'm doing this for you?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that's what you have in your fields.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it will reflect back to you in this way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this is where things
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[SPEAKER_00]: get out of hand when you need to take care of someone else and again remember this is like such a big example if you will like this is you know a big injury situation but take this and apply this into your day to day life take this and apply this with your kids or with your partner
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[SPEAKER_00]: or with your work and your work and yourself of how you prioritize yourself over your work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's the team that you have under you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So really apply this to where you are at because when you see a big extreme example like this, I think that was the word I was going for.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Extreme, when you see an extreme example, it's easier to apply it to the day-to-day in your life because you're like, okay, if this is how Caitlin applied it here, then I would apply it here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is what this looked like for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I'm going, I need to be able to go pick up breakfast for my mom or whatever it is that she wanted that day of what she would like to eat.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if I need to be there and ready for her then to feed her then, then I need to back up and go, what time do I need to wake up?
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[SPEAKER_00]: In order to, yes, this is obviously earlier than my normal schedule, but in order to listen to my hypnosis audio,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do my whole skincare routine, get myself dressed, ready for the day, feed myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My home cooked meal, I love doing an omelette every morning, I look forward to it every morning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I do my ingredients while I do my omelette.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, implementing my energetic ingredients, and then making my matcha, and I can take the matcha to the go, I'm happy with that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, what time do I need to be getting up in order to accomplish all of this, then have time to go get her what she needs, or make her what she needs,
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[SPEAKER_00]: and then get to her do that, do the full routine of everything that she needs, you know, brushing teeth, the whole situation, and then be able to have enough time to get back to my house, to prep for my clients, and then be ready to completely sway my client sessions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What time do I need to get up to do that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that is what I went off of.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I'm backing up and going, what time do I need to go to sleep tonight to get my required hours of rest in order to wake up at this time and be a happy camper?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So then I'm going, I need to go to bed at this time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then I'm backing up and going, great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what time do I need to be wrapped up with work, with shower, with making my own dinner, with having my relaxation time, whether that's reading my book or watching Love Island?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What does the timeline look like for that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, this just takes a little planning the first time, but then when you have it done the first time and you can write this down, okay, I have my knee time doing this at this time, then I need to be wrapped up rushing my teeth, getting in a bed at this time so that I can be asleep by this time and then I can be up by this time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now we were rocking and rolling because now we know each day and if there's anything else that we need to adjust, if anything didn't work, then we just adjust.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this only takes planning really the first time and then you're able to know exactly the best schedule that works for you and when you find yourself going like, I want to watch another hour of TV or
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're like me, I want to read five more chapters, and I have a hard time quitting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then I remind myself to be the absolute best caretaker for my mom, and to be at the absolute best for me, so that my fields are popping off, my businesses slaying, my clients are having the best results, so I'm thriving.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is the time I need to go to bed, and I just remind myself of that, like, yes, do I want that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I want to be waking up tomorrow?
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[SPEAKER_00]: feeling full and on a full tank of being able to be the best for myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have my fields be popping off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have my mom have the best care when she really, really needs me right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, this is my mom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I want her to have the best care.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then my clients still get to have the best sessions ever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're results are amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're results obviously grow my business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm able to do what I love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I'm not needing to take time off when I have a really packed schedule with all this travel I have going on this summer where I really, yes, I can move some things around.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My clients don't want to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm able to perform in what I do at the highest level and not have to move anything around.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Still get to have my vacations.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Be in my best friends weddings.
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[SPEAKER_00]: have a fabulous birthday trip that I have coming up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I get to do all of it even though we have this emergency.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you ask me, that is being the integral of nothing, nothing is going to keep you from being able to create everything you want to create and you still get to be there for everyone you love and who loves you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and you get to still be creating and accomplishing all the things that you have come here to this planet in this lifetime to do, to be able to change lives, to be able to enjoy life while doing that and to live out your purpose on your soul path.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it would logically make sense for an emergency to rock you to screw up your whole schedule and all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe temporarily it does.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's okay to take a beat even.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This podcast usually have one every two Tuesdays.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was not able.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did the first half of this podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was all I was able to give that day at the type of podcast I'd like to deliver.
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[SPEAKER_00]: where it's life-changing every time you listen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I was able to do half.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't push myself and go, well, halfway through Caitlin, go, go, go, go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or it's supposed to come out every two, two days.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was like, my community knows they know I'm going to show up at my highest level.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to just send it in with some fluffy ass podcast that doesn't do anything for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to show up when I show up and if it's less than the typical schedule for this time, that's perfect because my clients that have obviously paid with their money, their time, the energy are being served at the highest level.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My mom is getting the care that she needs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All of my loved ones in my life are not missing me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am right there with them through this situation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm still keeping up with all of my neuroscience tools, everything that is deliciously creating the fields that are creating my dreamiest life where if you're not new here in the overall multiverse, we get hotter, richer and more fun every single day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to experience this huge gap of not experiencing the life that I want to create because this happened.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I get to get all the lessons.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I get to feel the feelings when it happens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I get to practice my emotions at a higher level than I've been able to do in a really long time because as you start doing this work, the less you have the emotional roller coaster, it is very rare for me to feel really
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[SPEAKER_00]: intense emotions of being scared or really sad or worried those things are very minimal now and that's not to say obviously we're in this human experience it's not to say it will ever happen but it's much much less than the days that I used to be having multiple panic attacks a day or being consistently worried about what I'm doing with my life feeling like I'm sleepwalking through my life not doing anything and passionate about not knowing my purpose is all those things that used to be my life and
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[SPEAKER_00]: Any emotion like this that is extremely high is rare and that's because these things are now wired into my persona, my identity of the equal identity of my way of being.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so a lot of this happens for me now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Way faster than when I had to set these things up and now every neuroscience tool I do adds and builds on the last.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I have all these foundations.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So life really just does get dreamier and dreamier as you do more of this work because you have your subconscious mind, your light body, everything working alongside you and that's not to say obviously we are here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: to advance through challenges to get the sole growth.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So these things will happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a lot less necessary for these really amplified reflections to come in because of the things that are working for you in your fields.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everything working with you instead of against you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's been really magical for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, obviously human Caitlyn hasn't been having a blast at sometimes, but it's been really magical for me to look at it and see, wow, my tools really freaking work because I was able to be that person for my loved ones through a really difficult time and it was something to where I
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[SPEAKER_00]: the way that everything worked out, the people that normally would have been there to support me in this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're having multiple things going on like out of town, moving house, all these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when this happened, which again is something that my eyebrows have created.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When this happened, it was me handling this on my own.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I grew, like my soul grow through this whole thing has been immense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm so grateful for this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it happened, like, yes, I have a lot of things going on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm so, one of my friends said to me, like, in the timing of this, like, I'm so sorry this happened to you with the timing of these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, it actually was perfect because it happened right before I, I would have been devastated to not be my best friends wedding and standing by her side on her wedding day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would have been really bummed to not be able to do this birthday trip that I planned with two of my closest friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would have been really upset to miss another one of my really close friends weddings that I've been looking forward to for a long time so these things it's like yeah it's somewhat in the thick of it but I always have amazing things going on in my life so like there's never really a perfect time
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[SPEAKER_00]: for an emergency to happen and this was perfect when you look at it through that source lens of everything like the timing was perfect because I was here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was in town.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't have to fly back and I was able to handle it and I was able to show myself I was able to handle it and I was able to use my emotions to say your process at this really high emotion that I haven't done in a really long time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So seeing that my tools work the tools that I teach
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[SPEAKER_00]: through my programs through my one-on-one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's really cool to see at an even higher level that these things work because I'm seeing it firsthand in a way that I haven't been able to in a minute because of all the work that I do on myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's really cool to see in an emergency these things really, really work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: To show you the opposite of this is one of these days.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So one of the days that obviously I was at my mom's house multiple times coming in and out and one of the days I did not stop reading the book.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did in fact go to bed too late so that I was not able to feed myself before I went over there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was actually the morning that I was getting the caretaker set up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I had to go over even earlier than the schedule where I was able to give myself self love before I start the day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the difference here is I went over there and obviously with a caretaker I'm super smiley like showing her all the things but in those little moments in between of showing the caretaker where everything is my mom is like are you okay?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because
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[SPEAKER_00]: She could just tell obviously I'm her daughter and I get quiet when I'm hungry because I don't want to be unpleasant.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I just kind of quiet until I can get what I need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So she could just tell in the in between moments that I wasn't fully myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you can see the difference between when I act out self love, I am the best for the people around me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when I say that self love is I don't sacrifice putting myself up my best to do my best for another person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was not my best that day that I wasn't able to eat before going over to her house to take care of her.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you see that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't the best caretaker for her because I wasn't fully myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't fully myself because I didn't eat yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't eat yet because I prioritized
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[SPEAKER_00]: her going over their first before I prioritize myself because I did not go the bed early enough wake up early enough to give myself what I needed before I had to do what I had to do so remember self love is I'm always going to give myself what I need before I do what I do what I do what I could do
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[SPEAKER_00]: if I don't have time to eat.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm not saying this the solve is to be late for the caretaker, not be able to let the caretaker energy the whole thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the solve would have been, hmm, do I have a small snap?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I could have grabbed on the way out to give myself what I need before I go, give someone else what they need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that would have been the solve there that would have been the integral way to make sure I'm prioritizing myself before someone else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this might look like
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your kids are screaming and you've gotta go take care of it and break up the argument over, not sharing toys or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're like, what do I need in this moment before I go handle this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be three deep breaths in through your nose, exhale through your mouth, doing a breathing pattern to regulate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be grabbing a glass of water really quick.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be putting your shoes on because they're playing outside and you don't want to get your feet
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[SPEAKER_00]: dirty in the mud or whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That small act of self love is everything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That small act is so potent.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not the big things that make the big difference in your fields.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's these small moments because life is composed of small moments.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A life isn't just composed of those big milestones that happen sometimes where you graduate college and you get married and
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[SPEAKER_00]: you move in together or you meet your best friend for the first time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That is not what life is composed of.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your life is composed of your text from your best friend asking how you are they want to see you today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your life is composed of rolling over in the morning and seeing your partner
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[SPEAKER_00]: a sleep next to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your life is composed of writing an epic email to your boss that has the perfect report of everything that they asked for and you didn't incredible job.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your life is composed of putting on your shoes before you go outside to help your kids stop arguing over a toy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your life is composed of taking deep breaths before you go have a difficult conversation
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[SPEAKER_00]: with your partner or with a friend.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your life is composed of grabbing a glass of water before you run out the door to go help your parent with something that they need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is what your life is composed of.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These are the things the pieces of evidence that are so incredibly potent to the universe of showing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I prioritize myself first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is how you skyrocket those levels of self love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And as a result in your fields, all people events, circumstances have to act bad out back to you, meaning they have to prioritize you because you prioritize yourself first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You gave yourself what you needed before you did what you had to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You didn't sacrifice putting yourself at your best to do your best for someone else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so now they're going to give you your best.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to be the first text of the morning instead of
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[SPEAKER_00]: texting their friends, making plans, XYZ, and then you're the afterthought, or you're going to be the first person your boss thinks of when they think of that promotion at that raise.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to be put on the best project and you're going to be able to build out your team.
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[SPEAKER_00]: or you're going to be the friend that everyone wants standing next to them on their wedding day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to be the person on the dating app that stands out over everyone else and the one that they actually prioritize getting to know over the hundreds of people on a dating app.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The It Girl has high self-love levels and the It Girl is selfish in the way that you have been taught, which is not selfish at all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's actually incredibly selfish to give your loved ones crumbs of you, which is not even you, so they're getting a sliver of you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When they could have been experiencing the best of you, all of your genius, all of your creativity, all of your critical thinking when they need you most, when you have to make hard decisions, when you need to anticipate the things that they will need before they even know they need them in a crisis.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because you don't have blood draining to your arms and legs and your mouth as if you're an animal, you're going to be able to operate at the highest level on all cylinders when they need someone that can do that because they can't do that for themselves in that moment when they're hurt or they're scared or they're sad or they're heartbroken.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can be that for them because you gave yourself what you needed first, whether that is a neuroscience tool, whether that's a motion-sayer process of emotional mastery, whether that is giving yourself a beat before you help someone else so that you can show up the absolute best for them because you showed up the best for yourself first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is how the universe works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is an inside-out world, not an outside-in world, and you have been taught the opposite.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have been taught wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: to keep you stuck in small, to keep you not wealthy, to keep you not happy because imagine how powerful you are when you finally realize you are the it girl.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you finally realize you have been the it girl all along and you allow yourself to be selfish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: which again is not selfish for a second.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You've actually been selfish the way that you've been doing it because you have been depriving people of the best of you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you've been showing up sometimes as the worst of you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this is why arguments happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is why there's a disconnect of not feeling unconditional love from people that you know unconditionally love you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But they physically cannot
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[SPEAKER_00]: unconditionally love you they physically cannot prioritize you when you do not unconditionally love yourself and That often is because you are not prioritizing yourself these things go hand and hand
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self-love is a requirement for you to be the it girl, for you to experience everything that you have always wanted to experience in this lifetime.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If this clicked for you and a way that this never has, even if it was a piece of it that you didn't get until today, please let me know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would absolutely love to hear from you and what would be even more elite and something I forget to ask of you if you have not written a review for this podcast yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Please do so because it will reach the other eight girls that have been keeping themselves suck and small because they didn't have the information because they didn't know that self love is prioritizing yourself first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So their genius has not been expressed in this world and we need them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We need you to be fully
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[SPEAKER_00]: genuinely your core authentic self not being held back by all of the societal programming this collective contagion of feeling like being you is selfish and treating yourself prioritizing yourself and your needs is selfish we often run completely on empty especially women because we have
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[SPEAKER_00]: Such big hearts were so intuitive we can feel others, but you are the best for others for your loved ones.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you give yourself what you need first, again, sometimes as simple as a breath.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you can leave a review and let them know, go listen to episode fifty one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This will change your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because we need them and we need you to be fully yourselves and to finally know and understand and believe that you are the equal and when this clicks, you will move mountains.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So let the other equals join our equal multiverse.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would appreciate it so much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you directed them to this episode, if this is the one that did that for you and then screenshot your review, DM it to me and I will send you a free gift for doing so.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for listening and being here with me today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do not forget for a freaking second that you are the equal and we might be back in two Tuesdays on regular programming or it might be a beat just for the summer travels and for just working all this out in my physical reality of giving myself what I need as I am helping the people around me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and love it on them, extra.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll see you then.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bye.