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Ep. 121 - Are You Sheltering Your Kids or Giving Them What They Need? | Live Q&A · The Christy-Faith Show

• 0:00
  Christy-Faith: Well, hey there, friend. So glad you're hanging out with me today. This is part of our special series where I'm pulling favorites out of the archives. Today, we're looking back at some really cool q and a sessions with real homeschool moms asking real questions. Because you'll be listening to lives, they're a little loose and a little messy, gotta be honest, but in the best way.
• 0:20
  And I think that's exactly why they're perfect for the summer. A little bit more casual, a little bit more fun, a little bit more, me. So welcome to the summer homeschool help desk series. Pull up a chair. Here we go.
• 0:42
  Hi, everybody. Welcome to tonight's live. You get Christy in a baseball cap tonight. Welcome. Hello, everybody, and hi.
• 0:52
  Welcome to my live tonight. I'm so happy to be here. Come on in, everybody. Hello, TikTok. Hello, Facebook and YouTube, and hello, Instagram.
• 1:04
  Welcome, everybody. Hi. I'm so glad to be here with you tonight. You get Christy-Faith in a baseball cap and, casual attire, hydrating with her water, wishing she had chocolate. And, I would love to know hi.
• 1:21
  Welcome everybody. Tell me where you're coming from tonight. I was just in Thrive Homeschool Community telling the ladies, like, hey. Come hang out with me on this live tonight. We have a rainy, stormy afternoon here in the Denver area of Colorado, and I love it so much.
• 1:39
  But look at what happened to my beach waves. They're kind of blah waves now, which is totally fine because I'm just wearing a hat anyway. Hi. Come on in, Welcome to my live. I'm so happy that you're here tonight.
• 1:51
  My name is Christy-Faith. I'm an author, speaker, podcaster, and founder of my heart and soul, which is Thrive Homeschool Community. I think I have my book. It's behind me, but I also have my book here. If you guys have not read my book and you are a homeschooler or homeschool curious, this is the first thing that you need to buy.
• 2:14
  It's backwards on some of the platforms, but here it is. Yes. Hi, everybody. Yay. Welcome.
• 2:21
  I'm so glad you're here.
• 2:22
  Scott: We have Sharon from South Carolina.
• 2:24
  Christy-Faith: Sharon. I love that you come in. Are you on Facebook, Sharon? Yep. Sharon.
• 2:30
  Scott: We got California, Oklahoma, Ohio, Space Coast, Florida.
• 2:35
  Christy-Faith: Oh my goodness. California, Oklahoma, Ohio, Florida, South Carolina. You guys We have Erica. This little corner of the internet here is going gangbusters right now. I cannot even handle the response that we have had.
• 2:49
  You know, this week I did live webinars. We have women just coming into Thrive Homeschool community right now. So hungry, so needing the nurturing. Our mentors, Marni and Denise, are you here right now? Our mentors are like around the clock welcoming you guys, making sure you know where to go.
• 3:09
  It is like the most beautiful thing to see this tribe of women, these leaders that I have in Thrive Homeschool Community that care so deeply about you. It is it is our calling, and it is so special. I've never I've built teams my whole life. I have been I have ran companies, started companies. I have been a boss of people my entire career, even from my early twenties.
• 3:38
  Never, never in my life have I had more passion, talent, calling, deep inward desire to nurture homeschool moms as what we have in Thrive homeschool community. Do we have any Thrive members here tonight on the live? I just posted in Thrive like, hey, come hang out with me. Last night's live was kind of fun because we had a troll. Who was here for the troll?
• 4:06
  Yeah. That was so fun. My master class actually next week in Thrive is how to handle homeschool criticism. Who deals with homeschool criticism or naysayers or people in your life that are kind of side eyeing you for homeschooling and you often don't know what to say? Where I was when I started homeschooling is I often felt cornered and I felt like on the defense, like and then I always regretted how I responded after the fact.
• 4:35
  Does anyone else relate to that? Yeah. Absolutely. I wanna know, do you have people in your life that are highly critical of your homeschooling choice that you feel like they're just waiting for you to fail? I wanna know because I wanna talk about that tonight.
• 4:48
  I wanna talk about that. That's the master class that I'm teaching next week in Thrive. And it's a big deal because what we're doing is already hard, and it really is lame to then have people criticizing us either to our faces, quizzing our kids. Right? Don't get me started on that.
• 5:05
  That is so sinister to kinda go behind your back and quiz your kids on stuff. Oh, don't even. Don't even. And then just to you know, when you're making huge sacrifices to homeschool, Like, step off. Anyway, it was super fun to have the troll last night because we took care of that.
• 5:27
  Yeah. We already have questions. Yes.
• 5:29
  Scott: Jay Menke, I attended the webinar. It was something I definitely needed.
• 5:33
  Christy-Faith: Oh, yay. Awesome. That's so great. Yeah. That those webinars were so they were an emotional experience for me because something really unique about when I do webinars because I started out doing webinar.
• 5:47
  I mean, I've always done public speaking my whole career. But really when Christy-Faith took off, how I did all my public speaking was on webinars. And so what we do on our webinars is our chat is insane. Our chat is lively. We are pouring our hearts out.
• 6:04
  That's what our chats are like in Thrive Homeschool Community. Every time I invite a masterclass speaker and they come and they're talking and they're pouring out their expertise and they're phenomenal, they're always amazed because our chat is like, right? Women crying, pouring out their heart because we really are a safe place and it's absolutely incredible. So I'm so glad you're here tonight because you can get a little taste of what we do and how we nurture homeschool moms. And I really wanna speak to your heart tonight because the thing is, well, let me get back to it because I wanna share with you and I I only wanna share if you guys are curious.
• 6:41
  I have a kind of a bee in my bonnet about the homeschooling space. There's some stuff that I really don't like, and I wanna talk about that tonight on this live. But I wanna make sure you're interested in hearing it first off, and then let's get to a question that we have.
• 6:56
  Scott: Erica said, I missed your thing on Monday, and I really wanna see the replay. I think she's Erica from Thrive. You mean all the teachers in my family LOL about the criticism.
• 7:05
  Christy-Faith: Oh, Erica, girl. Yes. So Erica, I think you're already in Thrive. So I really want you at the master class, especially during that q and a. And maybe we can we can because you've been in Thrive a while.
• 7:19
  Maybe you can get a hop on a little bit early and we can talk maybe five or ten minutes early to see how we can after I do my talk, how we can really nurture those mothers who don't know what to say. And hopefully my goal my goal with that talk, I've given it before, I've given it at conferences, My goal with that talk is more than anything, it's not about the perfect comeback because what you know, I can do that. I can cut people off at their knees. I'm a smart gal. I'm snarky.
• 7:48
  Right? Then I feel crappy about myself because that's not how I wanna treat people. I don't wanna stoop to their level. So this masterclass is more about how can we handle the homeschool critics and the naysayers in our life where afterwards we felt like we represented our families well, homeschooling well. We have no regrets about what we said or how we said it.
• 8:14
  So even though you guys might know me for being, you know, kinda having an attitude on the Internet, and I do. Yeah. Okay. There's that side of me for sure. But when it comes people don't know this about my real life is I actually am pretty soft.
• 8:28
  I'm pretty nurturing and encouraging in real life to real life people. And it's not that you know, it's interesting because, like, I don't know if Denise is here or Marnie is here. Any of my mentors are here. Julie, I don't know if you're here or Becca. Because they know me.
• 8:45
  They know these two sides. It's not that it's not that it's like, oh, when you meet Christy in person, she's so different. It's like, no. There's I I what people need to understand about social media is that you're doing a thirty second video. You're showing one thing, And it's crazy how people can make assumptions about who you are as an entire person after watching you for fifteen seconds.
• 9:07
  Like, yeah, I have a snarky side, and it's fun, and I can joke. And then also, I am in real life, I'm incredibly soft and nurturing. So, anyway, I have a deep, deep faith, very strong Christian, and I take that seriously. And I don't wanna wrong people. While I'm defending my homeschooling choice, I don't wanna wrong people or be mean.
• 9:28
  Don't I wanna stoop to their level. Anyway, so that's what the masterclass in Thrive Homeschool Community is on next week. If you're curious about what Thrive Homeschool Community is, please ask me here. That's one of the reasons why I'm going live tonight is I wanna be able to answer as many questions as possible. We're I mean, our email is, like, nuts right now.
• 9:47
  We are flooded. So that's why I'm here to answer any questions that you have. Okay. Yes. We have a question.
• 9:52
  Scott: Kelly says, no problem with homeschoolers. I hate the fundamental Christian using homeschool to propagate cult.
• 9:59
  Christy-Faith: Oh, interesting. Okay. So that's Shelly. What platform are you on? TikTok.
• 10:03
  Okay. Yeah. So Shelly on TikTok, are you a homeschooler? I'm so curious. Are you a homeschooler that is struggling with the fundamentalist, like, strain?
• 10:13
  I would love to know. And I'm so glad that you mentioned that because I'm with you. I'm with you on that. I'm with you on authoritarian parenting, very against it, very against punitive parenting. I struggle as well with fundamentalism.
• 10:33
  And don't get me wrong here. Don't get me wrong. Okay? I am a very strong Christian, very strong Christian, but I will not have I will not accept child abuse, full stop. I will not.
• 10:49
  And that is where the line is drawn for me. So, anyway, I'm curious if you're one of my people. Like, are you a homeschooler who's also like, stop people. This is nuts. I wanna know.
• 10:58
  Okay.
• 10:58
  Scott: She did for one child. He needed it for a learning disability.
• 11:01
  Christy-Faith: Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah. Are you generally pro homeschooler? You're just kind of against fundamentalism?
• 11:07
  I would love to know. Yeah. Because how could you be against homeschooling if it's it allows you to give your kids a customized education. Right? I mean, I know that people abuse their freedom, but like yeah.
• 11:18
  Anyway, you would be interested to find out what we do in Thrive Homeschool Community. It sounds like you're not a homeschooler right now, but what we do in Thrive Homes School Community is we we really nurture and teach and train women how to teach their children according to child development psychology, best practices over seventy years of research and attachment parenting so that we can give our kids world class educations that meet them where they are now and give them what they need now so we can prepare them for a bright bright future. So here's the thing that a lot of schools get wrong. A lot of private schools get this wrong. Public schools get this wrong.
• 11:57
  Homeschoolers get this wrong, right, is we often treat our kids like they're mini adults. And then we are, like, shocked when they don't turn out, you know, healthy. And what people don't realize is that children are children. They're not mini adults. They need nurturing.
• 12:15
  They need guidance. They need an understanding of child development, and they need secure attachment. And that that is what builds a healthy adult. So, anyway, I'm so glad you're here tonight. It's Shelly on TikTok.
• 12:29
  Scott: Homeschooling is too often of use.
• 12:30
  Christy-Faith: Yes. I would disagree with that, Shelly. Actually, I want you I encourage you to look at the statistics. Homeschooling four kids means I'm juggling roughly 24 different subjects at any given time. And a few years back during a particularly busy season, I hit a wall.
• 12:44
  I needed some serious help with the heavy lifting of teaching everything myself and managing schedules for four kids. That's when I found BJU Press Homeschool, and we've loved their courses so much that we keep going back. Some families use them for everything and love it. I use them for certain subjects. Either way, total mental load relief.
• 13:02
  Here's what my mornings look like now. Let us take science for example. My three girls do that one together. They fire up the lesson taught by a real teacher, well produced, actual teaching, not just click through busy work. And I sit there with my coffee, watch them, or make breakfast, and we discuss the big ideas.
• 13:19
  Every BJU Press homeschool course prioritizes critical thinking, a biblical worldview, and hands on learning. I just guide the conversation and pick which activity or pages or projects we want to do, and everything's already planned out. They have an online platform included for you called the homeschool hub, and it keeps everyone on track, both me and my kids, without micromanaging or nagging. And when I have questions, I call my homeworks consultant. These people don't just help you get set up.
• 13:44
  They're available for you whenever you need them. It's like having a homeschool expert on speed dial. Go to bjupresshomeschool.com or click the link in the show notes to find out more. I wanna talk about homeschool math for a minute, specifically CTC math, who I'm so glad is sponsoring this episode because you need to know about them. I'm picky about curriculum, and there are a few subjects I won't compromise on, and math is on the top of that list.
• 14:09
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• 14:31
  A real math teacher walks them through the lesson four to nine minutes clear step by step. They do their lesson and finish up with practice problems. The program grades them, and I don't have to remember how to do fractions with unlike denominators or where exactly they left off last week, which means I get to be the mom in the room. I can sit nearby, listen in, encourage, fold the laundry, and watch math get done beautifully. Easier on mom?
• 14:57
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• 15:13
  So you probably have that view because you've seen some sensationalist news stories and things like that. But statistically, actually, homeschooling parents are very loving. Our kids do very well. 87 you might be surprised to know, 87% of peer reviewed studies show that homeschooled kids are healthier psychologically, emotionally, and socially. So, yeah, I mean, of course, child abuse should never be tolerated, but it's a mistake to assume that homeschoolers are the ones doing it.
• 15:45
  In fact, statistics are showing that there is a higher likelihood of nonhomeschooling children being abused. So, anyway, I don't wanna, you know, push you. I don't wanna get you mad, but I do you seem like a truth seeker, and so I really wanna encourage you to look at the statistics. Okay. Yeah.
• 16:03
  Alright. Do we have any homeschooling questions? I'm so excited everybody's here tonight. Yay. It looks like people are just flooding in.
• 16:10
  Sharon, are you still here? Oh my goodness. Let me know if you're still here, Sharon. Who else is here? Who do we got?
• 16:18
  Do we have Thrive Mamas here? Let me know if you're in Thrive and you're joining me tonight on the live. Also, I wanna know what category you're in. Okay? You're gonna put a one, two, or a three right now in your chat.
• 16:31
  Are you homeschool curious? That would be a one. Like, oh, this sounds good, but this is just is this a full of bunch of weirdos? How do I feel about this? I wanna homeschool my kid maybe in the future.
• 16:44
  I wanna learn more. You would be a one. So let me know if you're a one in the chats. Okay. And then number two is you are a homeschooler, but you're within the first one to three years of homeschooling.
• 16:56
  Would you let me know? Hi, Jen. I see purple switch. I love Jen. Oh my goodness.
• 17:02
  Can I just I love Jen so much? Jen is a founding member of Thrive, and for some reason, we are just I love you so much. Number two. Yeah. Are you a two?
• 17:11
  Are you homeschooling? Are you in your first first year to third year of homeschooling? I wanna know if you're in that category. And then mamas, I wanna know if you're like me. Also, are you, like, five years, ten years?
• 17:25
  Are you beaten down battle wounds? I'm just kidding. It's a great life.
• 17:31
  Scott: So we have a bunch of twos on TikTok and a bunch of ones and Yay. Other ones on Instagram.
• 17:37
  Christy-Faith: Okay. Oh, awesome. Oh, I love the homeschool curious ladies. Awesome. Okay.
• 17:41
  Homeschool curious ladies, ask me anything. Laura I kinda wrote the book on homeschooling. I can help you. And then ladies who are in okay. Look.
• 17:49
  I have the threes. Yes. Holly Miller, Boondock Mama, girls. You know, we have a Zoom meeting every month in Thrive for veteran homeschool moms where you just get together. We have our beverage of choice, tea, coffee, and we don't we don't, you know, ruminate.
• 18:09
  No. We encourage one another. But there's, you know, there's something to be said when you're in your ninth, tenth year. Because there's because I gotta be honest. You're like, do I really wanna teach this fourth kid how to read?
• 18:22
  Right? Yeah. So anyway, you guys need support too. I'm declining someone inviting me to cohost. We don't need cohosts here tonight unless you're one of my friends.
• 18:33
  People love to hop on the train. You are not welcome on this train.
• 18:37
  Scott: Yes. On Instagram, we have jelly roll.
• 18:40
  Christy-Faith: Jelly roll?
• 18:41
  Scott: I wanna homeschool. My husband is on the fence. And Laura, when how to start. Too early
• 18:46
  Christy-Faith: with a
• 18:47
  Scott: three year old?
• 18:47
  Christy-Faith: Okay. First off, the first mom, who is she?
• 18:50
  Scott: Jelly
• 18:50
  Christy-Faith: Roll. Bring Jelly Roll. Bring your husband here right now. Go get him. Bring him here.
• 18:55
  I'm here. You and me. I'm here. Okay? Bring him here.
• 18:59
  I want him to ask me any question that he has because he doesn't need to be on the fence. This is ridiculous. How could you be on the fence with a customized education for your child with world class resources? Right? That's ridiculous.
• 19:13
  Of course, you're gonna provide that. Now who was the second person?
• 19:16
  Scott: This is Laura. Learn how to start too early with a three year old.
• 19:19
  Christy-Faith: Okay.
• 19:19
  Scott: Wait another year.
• 19:20
  Christy-Faith: Okay. No. Laura.
• 19:21
  Scott: A rhythm at this age. Yeah.
• 19:23
  Christy-Faith: Laura. Laura. No. We oh my goodness. No.
• 19:30
  You need to check out Thrive. In fact, last month, we had an an early learning specialist in Thrive just to talk about preschool and how to do a play based preschool. So people don't realize, yeah, Thrive members start when their kids are around two and a half because you're gonna start preschool in about six months. I want to set you up correctly for preschool. I this is really important.
• 19:54
  This early learning piece and how you do that is really important. And so we have an entire Zoom session per month just for moms of early learners, preschool through second grade. We have regular master class speakers on early learning. What are best practices? What are the studies showing?
• 20:13
  What does the research say our kids need? And not just last year's research, by the way. We're talking seventy years of research. And so not everyone gets invited to teach a masterclass in Thrive. In fact, I wanna share with you why I started Thrive because I got pissed off.
• 20:30
  I got pissed off about the bad advising that was I saw in the homeschool space from people who have no business telling mothers what to do, damaging stuff. And I've been an educator for my entire career. If you don't know my history, we used to teach we had a learning center and consulting firm, educational. We used to teach kids of a listers and billionaires and not a listers and billionaires, but we would get kids into Ivy League schools. I was reading IEPs every single day.
• 20:56
  We were creating our own IEPs and implementing them at our center. There is not a single diagnosis that not only do I not intimately know, but it was put on my shoulders with my team to make progress for that child for results. So in terms of learning, oh my goodness, nothing holds a candle to homeschooling. But we're oh, the early learning piece. Yeah.
• 21:18
  So I wanna encourage you to Thrive is closing, by the way, tomorrow night at midnight. That's one of the reasons why I'm here on this live because I wanna make sure everybody's questions are answered about Thrive. Now is it for everybody? No. No.
• 21:31
  Is it for somebody super cheap that doesn't wanna invest in themselves that is perfectly happy figuring out how to homeschool by trial and error and doom scrolling? No. That's not my girl. My girl is someone intentional. You wanna give your kids the best education possible, and you're willing to invest a little bit in it.
• 21:48
  Not a lot, by the way. Just a little. But that's who I am. I hope your husband came. I'll try not to come on so strong with the husband.
• 21:56
  Scott: He didn't he's not home.
• 21:58
  Christy-Faith: Oh, okay. Yeah.
• 21:59
  Scott: He's not home.
• 21:59
  Christy-Faith: Because I was gonna, like, tone it down a bit.
• 22:02
  Scott: It's okay.
• 22:03
  Christy-Faith: Anybody else need me to tone it down for their husband right now? I'm happy to.
• 22:07
  Scott: Boondock Mama. Why are you closing Thrive registration?
• 22:12
  Christy-Faith: Okay. Boondock mama. Where is she?
• 22:14
  Scott: TikTok.
• 22:14
  Christy-Faith: Okay. Okay. This is actually really important. So I've done it two ways. I have done closings, and I have done staying open.
• 22:25
  So staying open does not work for the type of transformation that we want with mamas. So the reason why we're closing is we want like a fall twenty twenty five class, basically. What we're doing is we're starting a homeschool success accelerator group. You actually get it free if you join by tomorrow night. By midnight, Thrive is closing.
• 22:45
  You're getting this small group where we're walking you through for eight weeks, my homeschool success framework. You're gonna do it with two Thrive mentors. It's gonna be this beautiful small group experience. It's kinda like a cohort that we're starting. And we we've done it a different way where we kinda let moms come in at every given time.
• 23:06
  What happened if I may be honest, I don't mind sharing like the back side of, like, understanding the business part of it. What happened is it wasn't it didn't really serve the current Thrive members well. So we have mamas who've been in Thrive since the very beginning. And they we were coming to office hours and they were having to hear the beginner questions. Like, what about socialization?
• 23:29
  When these women have totally deschooled. And so we felt like the constant of new moms coming in during office hours wasn't serving or honoring our current Thrive members. And so the mentors and I, Marni and Denise and me, and we were talking about it, and I was talking about it with other Thrive women as well who have been in for a while. And we were like, you know what? We really think we need to close in the fall particularly so that we can have this cohort of women, this group of women that we have a special cohort with that we're taking through the deschooling process and our eight step framework, altogether.
• 24:10
  And can I tell you when we brainstormed this idea together, every single person was like, yes? Why didn't we do this earlier? Like, absolutely. It honors our current Thrive members well. It also gives us a special opportunity to do something really neat and like a gift.
• 24:30
  It's a $500 gift to the new women who join Thrive homeschool community. But people don't realize this is actually that cohort that's worth $500 that you get for free. That's worth more than joining Thrive. Like, it basically makes Thrive free. It pays for Thrive and more.
• 24:48
  Everyone who joins is going to be part of that cohort for free. Now let me tell you, we have small groups in Thrive that aren't free. But this one is, we're super excited about it. The mentor we've been building out that space. We've been welcoming moms.
• 25:03
  So many moms are flooding into Thrive. So that is one of the reasons why we really have to close. See, here's the thing. I'm not interested in running one of these, like, volume driven communities. Like, get as many women in as possible.
• 25:18
  Like, look, if I wanted to get if I wanted to make a lot of money, I wouldn't be in the homeschooling space. This is definitely my calling. And so I'm always asking myself, how can I serve women well with everything that I know, my knowledge, my expertise, my talent with systems building? That's one thing people don't realize is that I am like almost a it's just I don't wanna like be prideful about it, but for some reason, God has really gifted me with being able to build out frameworks that really work. So I have the homeschool success framework.
• 25:52
  It's eight modules. I have the fail safe setup, another eight modules, which is like all your homeschool logistics. I teach you how to do everything. Plan out your year, your entire year plan, your months, your weeks, your days. And, you know, is my plan perfect?
• 26:07
  No. But moms just need a plan. They just need like, just tell me what to do, Christy, and I'll do it. And what's crazy is I actually use my own frameworks every year. I go through my own fail safe setup every year.
• 26:19
  So that was a long answer to your question on why we close. That's why we close. So far, it has been the best decision for Thrive, for everybody in Thrive, our veteran homeschool moms who've been in there for years and our brand new ones. Is your child struggling with attention, memory, reading, writing, or math? If you're experiencing this, you know how heart wrenching it is to watch them face these hurdles.
• 26:44
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• 27:16
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• 27:37
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• 27:59
  Scott: Laura says.
• 28:00
  Christy-Faith: Hi, Laura.
• 28:01
  Scott: Did you say there's one Zoom meeting a month, especially for the early learning? Yes.
• 28:05
  Christy-Faith: Yes. There is one Zoom per month just for early learners. There is. Yep. And tons of master classes on it too on reading.
• 28:14
  And last month, we had an expert in there on early learning. So when you join Thrive, you can also you have access to all the master classes that have ever been taught by experts in Thrive. And we point you to like, when you say, oh, I have a three year old. What master classes do you suggest I watch? Our mentors will tell you exactly which ones are gonna help you.
• 28:35
  Yeah. That master class library alone is worth a thousand dollars, and you get it for free when you join. Yeah.
• 28:42
  Scott: Morgan says, I was a public school teacher and really tried to break my own training of school
• 28:47
  Christy-Faith: I know. Morgan.
• 28:48
  Scott: To homeschool my three year old
• 28:50
  Christy-Faith: Girl.
• 28:50
  Scott: Advice. I have my master's in curriculum and instruction, but
• 28:54
  Christy-Faith: I don't know, girl. Girl, where is she? What platform?
• 28:57
  Scott: Insta.
• 28:58
  Christy-Faith: Instagram. And Morgan okay. Morgan. Right?
• 29:00
  Scott: Yep.
• 29:01
  Christy-Faith: Morgan, I gotta tell you, it's harder for us. It's harder for us former teachers to homeschool. In fact, the one of the reasons why I started Thrive okay. So here's the story. It's like I was an educational expert.
• 29:14
  A listers and millionaires would sit billionaires would sit down across my desk and say with their seventh grader and say, alright. We want Harvard. Let's go. What's the plan? And then we would give the plan, and we would get the kid there.
• 29:26
  Right? And so I knew I know how to get kids where they wanna go, what the path needs to be. I know all of that. Okay. And I was a former classroom teacher like you were.
• 29:36
  But then I had kind of a deconstruction. It was pretty crazy epiphany, and it actually led us to sell our company. Because we had our child our first child, who's now my homeschool high schooler. We had our first child, and we were running the center. And we realized one day, we can count on one hand how many of the thousands of kids we've worked with actually loves learning.
• 30:00
  And that freaked us out because we didn't want that for our son. But yet as you guys know, my first child, my homeschool high schooler right now is a boy. That's what started everything. It started if you read chapter one of, my first chapter of homeschool rising, I go into that history. But here's the thing.
• 30:17
  So I start homeschooling, and I'm like, oh, these are amazing. I'm gonna be a classical homeschooler. My kid's gonna be a savant and this because we know there's nine homeschooling styles. Right? There's classical, Charlotte Mason, Montessori, Waldorf.
• 30:31
  Right? There's all these pedagogies for homeschooling or education actually. It doesn't need to just be homeschooling, which I wanna take a little side tangent. If this this talk about homeschooling pedagogies or homeschooling style is new to you and you're like, wait. Wait.
• 30:46
  What? Charlotte Mason classical? What's Christy talking about? I actually have a free five minute free. Five minute homeschool style finder, And you can take that right now.
• 30:56
  And something I love to do on my lives is for you guys to go take it and come back and tell me what you came out as because it's pretty accurate. We spent a lot of investment getting that accurate. So anyway, back to it's Morgan. Morgan. Right?
• 31:10
  The school teacher. Yeah. Okay. So here's the thing. So I start homeschooling, and here I am like, I'm in fact, one of my most viral videos is me, like, being completely humbled.
• 31:19
  Like, I'm walking to my first day of co op. Like, I got this. And I'm like, what? What? What?
• 31:25
  I quickly realized that I was completely over my head with a different pedagogy than the traditional pedagogy. Because traditional education, that style is one style out of eight others. There's nine total. So, anyway, I'm with you, girl, because what happened to me is I was here I was at my kitchen table. I had my, you know, my boy, and then I had twins, and then my baby, and they're screaming, and I'm having to do the dishes.
• 31:52
  And I want I want my kids to love learning, and I wanna do the read aloud and the art and the nature study and all of these things. And I'm like, wait a minute. Like, how do I what? I I knew where I wanted my kids to be. Like, I knew I want kids who love learning.
• 32:07
  I knew that I didn't want any doors closed for them. Right? I knew all of that, but I didn't know how to get there. And I realized very quickly that that curriculum companies are very good at trying to sell their way. Their way, meaning selling their curriculum.
• 32:24
  But isn't homeschooling about our way, what we want for our kids? And so I realized I don't fit necessarily into those pedagogies. They're a great starting point for women, but that's not and so I found myself really, really lost. Okay. So, Christy, land the plane here with your with what you're trying to say.
• 32:43
  My point is is what I found when I actually looked for support on how to build out a homeschool program that honored my values, my kids, where I wanted them to be, that was founded on best practices, research on secure attachment. You could ask me about secure attachment if that's a new term for anybody here on this live and all those things, and there was nothing. There was nothing. I was completely lost, completely lost. And so that's when I realized, wait a minute.
• 33:15
  Am I the only one? I can't be the only one. And so I start I what I realized was that the magic, the secret sauce of homeschooling wasn't in buying that particular curriculum or doing that particular coop. The secret sauce of homeschooling was in building a secure and unshakable leader who knows her why, who understands her kids, who does not doubt what her kids need, and there was nothing out there. And so that's what I built.
• 33:49
  So if you guys are wondering, like, what's Thrive Homeschool Community? It is proven. It is a proven framework so that you can give your kids the best education possible that is in alignment with you and your values. And no one else is doing it. It's why I'm doing it.
• 34:09
  So, anyway, that was a long story, but that's what I kind of was explaining is, like, I didn't have the help. I was where you are now. Totally. I get it.
• 34:19
  Scott: Morgan says, literally, you are speaking my
• 34:21
  Christy-Faith: Girl. Monologue. Girl.
• 34:23
  Scott: I just had my second, and I'm worried I can't do it all. Girl. Different ages and also teach them and not make them hate me.
• 34:31
  Christy-Faith: Girl, if you don't join Thrive, I will be so mad. In fact, you when you join Thrive, you need to tell Marnie because Marnie's the one who welcomes everybody. You guys get personally welcomed. You need to tell Marnie, like, was on Christy's live, and I'm the former school teacher because she'll tell me. Yeah.
• 34:49
  So we this is what we do. I literally I am not kidding when I say Thrive Homeschool Community is the best thing that has happened to homeschooling at least in the last decade. I kid you not. I will shout this from the rooftops. I think the magic of a successful homeschool is in building its leader.
• 35:11
  Right? Who's had like a really bad boss who was who was always second guessing, never quite sure, never secure. It's really hard to follow a leader who's always second guessing themselves. And that's what home and the thing that makes me so mad is that homeschool moms are expected to be wonder women right out of the gate. And one thing that is a really frustrating thing I'll just share this.
• 35:37
  Okay. This is something we talk about. Okay. Should I share this? This is something the mentors and I talk about.
• 35:43
  We talked about it yesterday in a Voxer is a frustration we have about how Thrive Homeschool Community is viewed by homeschool moms, and we realize this hits on something really deep, and I'm gonna try not to cry, is moms view it, sadly, and I got I maybe I need to do a better job of explaining it, so I'll take ownership of that. But moms view it as self care. This is not self care. I can't think of a more important job on the planet than educating our children. So to think that we might need a tad bit of pretty inexpensive training in doing it well is it's just crazy to me that, you know, women are like, well, this feels like self care, or they feel like they have to justify it to to whoever or their spouses or whatever.
• 36:37
  And to me, what I realized and I got a little bit emotional last night when I was sharing this with the Thrive mentors is I realized how much of, what we do really hits on the self worth of mom. She doesn't feel worthy. She doesn't see that she is the secret sauce of homeschooling. It's not in a curriculum. It's not in a program.
• 37:02
  It's not in this particular thing. It's you. And to get moms to actually understand it and that's why moms just stay in this cycle of doom scrolling and Internet searching and Facebook conflicting advice from strangers who have no business advising you. They're not experts. Right?
• 37:20
  If you have and I don't wanna throw shade, but if you have one kid with dyslexia and they ended up learning how to read, that does not make you a reading specialist. Like, let's times that by a thousand and give you several certifications, then I'll invite you into Thrive to coach moms on dyslexia. Right? So okay. I'm getting a little fired up, but this here's what I wanna this is what Thrive is.
• 37:46
  Okay. Sorry. Sorry.
• 37:47
  Scott: Morgan said, my husband told me, yeah. Let's do it. Okay. Why don't you get professional development before doing the most important job of our lives?
• 37:54
  Christy-Faith: Yes. Okay. Can your husband oh my goodness. Yeah. Thank you.
• 38:01
  Scott: The rheumatoid arthritis, it says. So true, Christy.
• 38:04
  Christy-Faith: Right? You guys, like, and so like on you know, sometimes on my lives, moms are like, oh, I just can't afford it. And they don't realize, like, Thrive will literally pay for itself. Like, you don't even understand the cost of homeschooling by trial and error is more than financial. It is financial.
• 38:25
  You're wasting so much money on curriculum, but the cost is a cost your kids are paying from having to start and stop, restart a math curriculum four months into the school year. It's it's a takes a toll on your kids too. And so I am so I hope you always see my like, I am so passionate. I don't know why our society has devalued homeschool motherhood in such a way that we are expected to get it absolutely perfect with zero training. Like, nail techs get training.
• 38:58
  Nurses get training. You know what I mean? And so it's just it's nuts to me. Okay. I'm a little bit
• 39:05
  Scott: Purple switch has a great
• 39:07
  Christy-Faith: Okay. Jen. Jen, I am I a little fired up tonight? I
• 39:12
  Scott: She says
• 39:12
  Christy-Faith: in the I need to calm she needs to calm down. She's being too loud.
• 39:18
  Scott: In the midst of this evolving world, sometimes I wonder if I'm sheltering my kids too much.
• 39:23
  Christy-Faith: Oh, that's a good question.
• 39:24
  Scott: But I think it's others who aren't sheltering their kids enough. Ugh.
• 39:28
  Christy-Faith: I love that. Okay. So Jen said Jen said, Jules, why are you here? Jules, you're supposed to be on vacation right now. I'm so mad at you.
• 39:38
  Go back to vacation. Jules works for me, and she's supposed to be spending time with her family right now, not on my life. Okay. Purple switch. Yeah.
• 39:48
  Who who has ever wondered let's change the subject so that Christy can have a moment where she breathes. Yes. We are accused of sheltering our kids. I remember when, several years ago when we had a neighborhood party, which I do not participate in the husband bashing of, like, that. But there was a neighborhood party, women were drinking a lot, and this one woman who had one too many, she was like, Christy, how long do you intend on sheltering your children?
• 40:16
  You'll send them to real school for high school. Right? And I was like, wow. She thinks I'm sheltering my kids. Wow.
• 40:27
  Okay. And then you look at what other kids have to deal with, anxiety, depression, serious stuff. And the thing is about you know, it's kind of like the myth of homeschool socialization. If you if you're hung up at all on socialization, chapter seven of my book will take care of that for you. So please grab my book if you want to.
• 40:51
  It's on Amazon. It's usually pretty cheap. It's usually, like, $17 on Amazon Prime. And I have an entire chapter on socialization that I think will be worth more than the $17 you pay for the book. By the way, I make nothing.
• 41:04
  I think I make, like, a dollar 30 a copy. I probably will get in trouble for saying that out loud. Is it less than that? A dollar 30? Like, don't think I'm trying to, like, push my book.
• 41:15
  Okay. Yeah.
• 41:16
  Scott: Two comments. Yeah. Purple switch. One, my son 10 had a frog and toad shirt on and got made fun of.
• 41:22
  Christy-Faith: Oh. Gross. What? That is so gross. Her 10 year old son had a frog and toad shirt on and got made fun of.
• 41:29
  That's terrible. I wanna give him a hug. My girls play with dolls, and I love it. And they play make believe. And their peers, their my twins are 11.
• 41:42
  Other 11 year old peers, because we have neighbor big neighborhood, they are not doing that. And and but the thing is is that doesn't mean my girls aren't less intelligent. My girls can write a five page essay. My kids my girls are learning Latin. This does indicator of lower intelligence.
• 42:03
  It's an indicator of greenhousing. Okay. So let's talk about that for a second. Sheltering who wants to hear my take on, like, sheltering and greenhousing? One more comment.
• 42:12
  Okay. One more comment.
• 42:13
  Scott: Sheltered mine sooner. June 5 broke my child's spirit.
• 42:17
  Christy-Faith: Oh, who was that?
• 42:18
  Scott: It's GLC832 on
• 42:21
  Christy-Faith: Mhmm. I'm so sorry. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.
• 42:28
  So let's take a hot minute and talk about sheltering versus greenhousing.
• 42:34
  Scott: One more, Jane Minky. Dang. You're dang right. I'm protecting my child. Have you seen what kids in high school go through?
• 42:40
  Christy-Faith: Oh, it's it's terrible. And, you know, I think that the what I what I think that society is not willing to admit, it's normal now for our children to experience trauma on a daily basis. And then when we decide, no, we don't mind our kids stretching and having growing pains, but trauma is not what builds a healthy adult. You know, where you get these comments like, you gotta toughen up. No.
• 43:07
  Trauma, we this is well researched. There are a lot of studies on this. Do I have any psychologists or therapists in my life right now? We know that trauma does not make a healthy adult. Now that doesn't mean that we don't shelter or make sure our kids are always never challenged or anything like that.
• 43:26
  In fact, I deliberately have my kids pushed to limits all of the time, and also trauma will come. There will be incredible loss for children. And so there's already a lot of that already that we just can't control. So why don't we control what we can? Right?
• 43:45
  And then and nurture them because so the the greenhousing thing, this is a beautiful analogy. I give this analogy in the keynote address that I give when I go and speak at conferences, and I talk about the a little sapling. So think about a greenhouse. So you have like a little sapling tree, and you have two choices with that little sapling tree. Right?
• 44:08
  You can put it in a greenhouse in the beginning, really nurture it and feed it and grow it strong before you transplant it to the outside. How will that tree do versus a tree that from the very get go is abused, battered, wind, hail, not not given the right nutrients and all of that? Which tree is going to be able to withstand, right, the challenges later in its life? So what people don't understand about childhood is in order to build a strong adult, we need to nurture the the beginning years. We need to make those resilient and strong, and that's what makes a resilient adult, not trauma in kindergarten and bullying.
• 44:56
  You know, that's putting the tree outside too early. So I I love that analogy because our goal with homeschooling and by the way, a really great book on this is is oh, do I have it here? Kim John Paine's what's the book, you guys? It's escaping me right now. Kim John Payne, his book on, I don't love the title because it Simplicity parenting.
• 45:23
  Thank you. Simplicity parenting. The title, it's one day I'll have him on my are you listening right now, Kim John Payne? I wish I'm sure your publisher I'm sure here's the thing that I know because I'm a published author now is we don't always get to choose our book titles. Okay?
• 45:39
  So grace grace where grace is due. But that book should have been titled something else because it's a really powerful book. So, anyway, someone can put the link and grace upon grace for book titles. If you know, you know.
• 45:53
  Scott: Oh, two things. Yeah. Shelter versus greenhouse,
• 45:55
  Christy-Faith: the
• 45:56
  Scott: analogy I never knew I needed.
• 45:57
  Christy-Faith: Oh, who said that?
• 45:58
  Scott: Switch. Then Liz, Thrive member here, it changed the trajectory of our lives without a doubt.
• 46:05
  Christy-Faith: Oh, thank you, Liz. That is so sweet of you to say. Can someone screenshot that? Now before we move on, I wanna say thank you so much for being here. And as you know, our sponsors are what makes this podcast free to you.
• 46:19
  Now let me ask you, if you have gotten any value from today's show, the way to say thank you is simply to engage with the show on whatever platform you're on. If you're not subscribed yet, please do that first and put on the notification to get the bell when a new episode drops. We love comments. Please make a comment. Send this show to a friend.
• 46:39
  Maybe do three things today just to say thank you for the show. And the reason why I asked that is because it's the robots behind the screen that decide if a show is worth putting in front of more eyeballs. And the way that happens is completely free to you, and it makes a huge difference if that's simply your engagement with the show. Plus, we love reading your comments. So maybe you were doing that right as I was talking.
• 47:00
  A lot of you tell me that you do that already. You know when this part of the show comes up and you just do your little thing. Anyway, I appreciate it so much. Thank you in advance. Plus, I love seeing you guys show up for each other in the comments.
• 47:11
  It's just really cool to watch. I get I get sad sometimes when it's such a battle to and I don't wanna use the word convince, but it kinda is. It feels like such a battle to convince moms that they are worthy of an investment for their kids. They think that they can keep homeschooling by trial and error. They can keep doom scrolling on Instagram, listening to that woman at the co op, this former public school teacher here who doesn't know her kids, don't have the same values.
• 47:46
  And we think we are led to believe that we can hodgepodge a well built homeschool that way. And that is a formula for years and years and years of struggle. And I can't tell you how many women who join Thrive after they've been Liz, aren't you weren't you homeschooling a while before Thrive? Three years, six years, ten years into homeschooling, about to quit, who joined Thrive and say, oh my goodness. I needed this ten years ago.
• 48:19
  If I would have started this way, everything would have been different. It's hard because I'm the one that founded Thrive, and the talking about it from the person who founded it, it's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, Christy, here's a sales pitch. And so that's why I like using a lot of testimonials when I talk about Thrive. I just let Thrive speak for itself. I actually have an Asana board.
• 48:40
  You guys use Asana? I have hundreds of women who have DM'd me,
• 48:46
  Scott: like and
• 48:48
  Christy-Faith: if you go to my Thrive community page, I have oh, I don't know. 123567891011 18 or something of those testimonials. I didn't ask for those. I didn't ask for those testimonials. Those are women that just messaged us.
• 49:06
  Okay. So yeah. Go ahead.
• 49:08
  Scott: Says, alright. I just joined Thrive. I'm determined to start this out on the right foot early on.
• 49:13
  Christy-Faith: Yes. Yeah. Is that the one with the husband? No. Oh, that's somebody else.
• 49:17
  Okay.
• 49:17
  Scott: Or she has
• 49:17
  Christy-Faith: the Okay. Ladies, if you have a husband that's going to give you pushback, bring them to this live right now. And honestly, like, even if the only thing you take away from listening to me tonight is that the first and foremost investment that you should make when you are homeschooling your kids is in the leader in the leader of it. If you were to hire a teacher, you would pay a teacher. Right?
• 49:44
  The average private school in our country costs between $11,000 a year and $30,000 a year. Right? Women don't realize this, and I think part of it is society because we so devalue homeschooling. Like the woman, bless your heart, I don't know if you're still here, but the woman who earlier was like, well, most people are abusing homeschooling. Right?
• 50:06
  Like how devaluing is that for those of us who are making incredible sacrifices to give our kids what they need? We are making financial sacrifices, career sacrifices to do this for our kids. So it really is hurtful when we have people like, well, as long as you do it right. It's like, we're trying. Thank you, Barbara.
• 50:28
  We're trying to do it right. Yeah.
• 50:30
  Scott: Morgan says, wait. My preschool curriculum was more expensive than that. LOL.
• 50:35
  Christy-Faith: Yeah. No. I'm serious. To get my four kids riding curriculum is way more than one annual membership to Thrive. And by the way, I price it that way because I know.
• 50:46
  I know you guys are making sacrifices to do this. But don't think that Thrive is a lot of work for you. We actually do most of the work. We want you to come and feel like you've taken an exhale. Okay.
• 50:57
  Before we go any further, I need to tell you about something that has saved our family a ridiculous amount of money. It's Summit HealthShare, my husband's company, and it is one of the most amazing organizations. Thank you for sponsoring this podcast. Now, if you're not familiar with health sharing, here's the short version. It's not health insurance, but it does replace it.
• 51:18
  What it is is a community of people sharing medical costs, and it's well established and safe. It's actually been around for over a hundred years. With Summit HealthShare, families who move over save between forty and sixty percent on what they were paying for traditional health insurance, and they have 98% customer satisfaction. And what's cool is you can see any doctor you want, even holistic ones. There are no networks, no permission slips.
• 51:42
  And there are different plan options depending on what your family needs, including just major medical only. On our plan, which is a little bit more robust, we get free prescriptions, free labs, and no copays. And our family of six saves a thousand dollars a month. And I know it sounds too good to be true, but it's not. It's actually how health care should work.
• 52:01
  It's just not how insurance companies do it. So here's what to do. Go to summithealthshare.com. I'll put a link in the show notes. Take the savings calculator.
• 52:09
  You can do it in under two minutes, and it will tell you what you should be paying for the care that you need. And when you see that number and how much lower it is than traditional health insurance, you will sprain your ankle running to the phone. And when you call, they will walk you through everything. And please tell them that you listen to the show because I want you to have the VIP treatment. How would you like to know which businesses, doctors, and organizations in your area share your same homeschool values?
• 52:34
  What started out of necessity for my family, finding safe service providers and doctors has turned into something really beautiful. A whole community of colleges, businesses, doctor's offices, reading specialists, you name it, all in one directory. It's The Christy-Faith List, a place where homeschool families can find and give business to the people who share their values. And it is free for homeschooling families to search. And if you're a business owner listening today and you love working with homeschooling families and wanna reach more of us, sign yourself up.
• 53:05
  We wanna know who you are. The Christy-Faith list. Support the people who support you. I'll put a link in the show notes so you can search the list right this second. So any questions you have about Thrive, ask them now because it is closing tomorrow night at midnight.
• 53:19
  Okay. Let's go on to other questions.
• 53:21
  Scott: Kendra, Thrive is the best.
• 53:23
  Christy-Faith: Kendra Kendra was at office hours today. Yes. Kendra is one of our special needs specialists in Thrive. I'm so glad you're here. Which platform is she on?
• 53:33
  Scott: TikTok.
• 53:34
  Christy-Faith: TikTok. Hi, Kendra. Yes. Awesome.
• 53:38
  Scott: I did get to go. It's like therapy. Love it.
• 53:40
  Christy-Faith: Oh, good. Kendra by the way, Kendra, she's one of our special needs specialists and has been man, I knew Kendra before Thrive. So I have known you for years, girl. That's so cool, and I've just loved that. And we've met in person.
• 53:55
  Did you know, Kendra, that I'm gonna be in Texas mid September? What city are we in? Okay. So forgive me, but I forget where I'm going. Half the time, I forget.
• 54:07
  I just show up at conferences. So, yes. No. I'm gonna decline a cohost. We don't need a coho we don't need more.
• 54:15
  Scott: Basic. Basic says, so my son just started second grade, and we are with a charter. He took the STAR three sixty reading portion.
• 54:23
  Christy-Faith: Okay. Tell me. Basic. Keep going. Dot dot dot.
• 54:27
  Purple switch. Do you have okay. Jen, do you have a homeschool convention in Wisconsin? Because girl, I mean, I would so be there. I would just fly there just to hang out with you and, like, do chickens with you because I think you do chickens and sourdough and all sorts of things, which I would love to experience.
• 54:47
  My sister does a sourdough thing. I don't. She also has a dog. You guys, people think it's weird that we are not pet. We're not a pet family, and I'm starting to think that maybe that's a bad decision.
• 54:58
  Scott: It's me, darling, says come to Orlando.
• 55:00
  Christy-Faith: Okay. So Florida does have a convention. Email them and request me, and I will be there. Okay? But you gotta you guys, if you want me to come to your state, you have to email your state org and request me to come.
• 55:17
  Because a lot of people can't handle me. A lot of people are scared of me. They're like, what is Christy gonna say? I'm actually really lovely. I'm really lovely in person.
• 55:28
  Scott: Me, darling, says I have
• 55:30
  Christy-Faith: Oh, you have? Yeah. Why aren't they listening to you? That would be so fun. Yeah.
• 55:36
  And so some of the conferences that I go to, we have like a Thrive meetup, which is so fun.
• 55:41
  Scott: Morgan Yes. Okay. So if we're going out of town and missed the orientation, is it recorded?
• 55:48
  Christy-Faith: Yeah. We think we're gonna record the replay. We're gonna have a replay for the orientation. Yeah. I might not keep it up forever.
• 55:56
  I might keep it up for just like three weeks because it'll start to get outdated as you know? So but, yeah, we'll we'll have that replay up for sure. No problem.
• 56:08
  Scott: It's me, darling. I put your name in every school social
• 56:12
  Christy-Faith: media post. Okay. Who's it's me darling and are we friends in real person? I maybe. I don't know.
• 56:17
  Who are you? I'm trying to look at the username. You are so sweet. That is so are you in Thrive? Who is it's me darling?
• 56:26
  So this is so funny as people Purple Switch, I know because that's Jen.
• 56:30
  Scott: Bridget Owens.
• 56:32
  Christy-Faith: Oh, Bridget. Now I'm gonna say, darling, every time I see you. Oh, I love it. Okay. Okay.
• 56:42
  Bridget, did you think I knew who you were? Because you guys have fun usernames and I never I don't know. I don't know who you are. Yeah.
• 56:55
  Scott: Basic. And the son didn't do well in the reading. We were doing AAR level two and halfway done. Yeah.
• 57:01
  Christy-Faith: Lot of
• 57:01
  Scott: the words on the test. He hasn't learned yet. So now I'm doubting what we were doing even though I said tests don't matter to me.
• 57:07
  Christy-Faith: Yes. Girl.
• 57:09
  Scott: Take the test with a grain of salt or switch up what we were doing.
• 57:11
  Christy-Faith: Girl. Girl. Yes. We can help you. How old is he again?
• 57:18
  Is he five? Is he kinder? We are we know we we can help you with the reading. I don't know. Yeah.
• 57:24
  And we know the thing is is I have a lot of questions for you that, like, this is kind of a public thing with hundreds of people right now. But so the our philosophy in Thrive Homeschool Community, and we feel confident in this because we are experts, is you know, I used to do reading intervention at our center. We had an entire department, and I had trained specialists. So we we know how to intervene with kids reading. We also know best practices, what not to do, you know, whole language.
• 57:49
  Right? And there's a certain we try here's what we do in Thrive is we we get you as far as you can on your own with the best resources possible so that if we do recommend an evaluation, we know for sure there's something going on with your kiddo. And how can I be so confident in this? It's literally what I did for a living. It's I I actually gave those tests and then intervened, and we intervened with our at our center and got those kids reading.
• 58:25
  So although I don't work with kids anymore, I did for twenty years. And so we know what to look for. Yeah. We can help you with that with the reading. And we have a special office hours every month.
• 58:37
  So we split you guys up into your age and stage of homeschooling. So we have one office hours per month just for preschool to to second second grade, grade, another office hours per month for elementary, another office hours per month for teens, another office hours per month just for homeschooling your child with special needs. By the way, everybody in these Zooms are hired experts. And then another Zoom per month for seasoned homeschool moms, like on the verge of burnout and quitting. Right?
• 59:05
  So we have tons of calls for you, and we split them up so they're not too large, and we can really get your questions answered. And it's so it's a lot more inexpensive for you rather than hiring an expert for $500 an hour to get one question asked. Right? The other cool thing about Thrive is you can direct message our mentors. So not only can you come to the office hours and ask your questions and have great discussions, but if you have something targeted or something came up or you're not sure about this particular thing, I pay my mentors to be available on DMs, direct messaging, to answer your your specific homeschooling questions so you have that one on one time with them as well.
• 59:51
  There's so much more in Thrive. You should just go to the page. So how long have I been on?
• 59:55
  Scott: We're good.
• 59:56
  Christy-Faith: How we've been on over an hour?
• 59:57
  Scott: It's about time.
• 59:57
  Christy-Faith: Okay. It's about time.
• 59:59
  Scott: How do you find Thrive?
• 1:00:00
  Christy-Faith: Last call for questions. How do you find Thrive? You go to my website. You hit my face, whatever platform you're on right now, and it will take you to the Thrive Homeschool Community page. You can see if it's for you.
• 1:00:12
  I am not for everybody. I if you're not a growth mindset girly, you're not my girl. If you lean more towards authoritarian parenting, punitive parenting. You're well, I don't wanna say you're not my girl. I would love to have you in Thrive.
• 1:00:34
  We are all about relationship with our kids and honoring our kids as persons, but we are still the leaders of our homeschools and our kids and all of that. So we are not we are also not like full blown child led loose parenting. No. No. No.
• 1:00:53
  No. No. No. No. No.
• 1:00:54
  That's not healthy for children. So did you know that they've done studies and, permissive parenting is equal as damaging as authoritarian? Crazy. Right? So we give you that balance.
• 1:01:06
  We really wanna honor you and what you want for your kids, and we wanna honor your children. And we because when we do that, you're gonna have an amazing relationship with your kids, and everyone's gonna thrive in the process. I should tell you that one of the mentors in Thrive is a certified parenting coach too. That's kind of a big deal. Morgan says Yeah.
• 1:01:24
  Scott: Okay. Last question.
• 1:01:25
  Christy-Faith: Yeah. Morgan.
• 1:01:26
  Scott: And one year old. Not too early to join.
• 1:01:29
  Christy-Faith: What? How old?
• 1:01:31
  Scott: Three year old and
• 1:01:31
  Christy-Faith: a one
• 1:01:32
  Scott: year old. Not too early to join, question mark.
• 1:01:35
  Christy-Faith: No. Yeah. Three
• 1:01:36
  Scott: three days of homeschool week and mainly Waldorf. Should I wait until kindergarten?
• 1:01:39
  Christy-Faith: No. No. No. No. We want you we have an entire Zoom call per month just for preschool.
• 1:01:45
  Absolutely. Last month, our master class speaker was on early learning. She did the science behind play. So what I say is because we we really wanna get you like with preschool, we say don't join before your oldest is two and a half. That's too early.
• 1:02:03
  But when your oldest child that you're gonna homeschool turns two and a half, we wanna we wanna get you ready for preschool. And then we serve you all the way through high school graduation. Our mentors have graduated high homeschool high school students. I have a homeschool high school student, so we nurture you through every age and stage of your homeschool. Okay.
• 1:02:23
  So gotta go.
• 1:02:24
  Scott: Anne says Anne. Master classes on high school?
• 1:02:27
  Christy-Faith: Yes, girl. We got master classes on high school. In fact, what I do is we plan it really carefully. So if we have a master class, say, on early learning, we really make sure that within the next couple of months and, you know, these are experts that are busy, so it may not be, like, exact. You know, gotta give me some grace.
• 1:02:44
  But we know we we don't lean heavily towards any one thing. So the month prior, I had a high school specialist on. So the next month, I made sure I had a preschool specialist. So if you do one thing per month, you're getting more than your money's worth. And so you get to pick and choose what you wanna do.
• 1:03:02
  Alright. I love you guys. I'm so glad you joined me tonight. I'll see you guys in Thrive. Bye.
• 1:03:07
  I hope this summer homeschool help desk episode gave you a little encouragement and one clear next step for your homeschool. If we mentioned any resources today, you'll find them in the show notes. And if this one helped you at all, will you do me a favor? Send it to another homeschool mom who could use a little clarity this week. Now you know the one, because here's the thing, friend.
• 1:03:28
  You do not have to figure this out alone, and you definitely don't have to build your homeschool off random Internet advice at midnight. I'm so glad you're here. I am cheering you on, and we'll talk soon.