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- 0:01Speaker 1: Tammy Hembrough is Australia's most talked about influencer. At 19,
- 0:06Speaker 1: she made it big on social media when she shared
- 0:08Speaker 1: her fitness journey whilst pregnant. This is my first vlog again,
- 0:12Speaker 1: so it might be a little bad. I don't know
- 0:16Speaker 1: if it's going to be boring or what, but I
- 0:18Speaker 1: hope you guys enjoy it.
- 0:20Speaker 2: Tammy's life is far from boring. The fitness influencer and
- 0:23Speaker 2: her family are Australia's answer to the Kardashians. In fact,
- 0:27Speaker 2: she's even been involved in a few Kardashian scandals herself.
- 0:31Speaker 1: A model explains why she had to leave Kylie Jenner's
- 0:34Speaker 1: Los Angeles birthday party in a stretcher. By sharing her
- 0:37Speaker 1: life online, Tammy has attracted over 20 million followers and
- 0:41Speaker 1: built an empire worth $ 50 million.
- 0:43Speaker 2: What has really kept her followers glued are her romantic relationships.
- 0:48Speaker 2: Over the last 10 years, the internet has borne witness
- 0:51Speaker 2: to three engagements, three children, one epic wedding and now
- 0:55Speaker 2: a divorce.
- 0:56Speaker 1: We are journalists, Amy and Kate Torber, and in this
- 0:59Speaker 1: special Outspoken series, we explore the real story behind the
- 1:03Speaker 1: rise of Tammy Hembrough.
- 1:05Speaker 2: Now, where we last left you, things were officially over
- 1:08Speaker 2: between Tammy Hembrough and Matt Paul. And the end of
- 1:11Speaker 2: the last episode, we promised to take you back to
- 1:13Speaker 2: the start of Tammy's brief but controversial love story with
- 1:17Speaker 2: Matt Sikowsky. So that's where we're going to begin today.
- 1:19Speaker 1: I'm most excited for this part of the Tammy story,
- 1:22Speaker 1: Matt 2.0.
- 1:24Speaker 2: Yeah, when we originally started planning this series back in March,
- 1:27Speaker 2: I always thought it was going to be four parts.
- 1:29Speaker 2: But Matt Zukowski and Tammy Hembrough, they just keep giving.
- 1:32Speaker 2: This is the fourth episode, but we will be having
- 1:35Speaker 2: an episode next week. Number five will be the final one.
- 1:37Speaker 1: Well, let's take things back to the start. So on
- 1:39Speaker 1: the 3rd of September, 2023, Tammy was photographed outside a
- 1:44Speaker 1: hotel with former Love Island contestant Matt Zukowski. And this photograph,
- 1:49Speaker 1: it was taken by a fan and it was actually
- 1:51Speaker 1: sent into an influencer watchdog account, Influencer Updates AU. I
- 1:56Speaker 1: remember first seeing this photo and being like, there is
- 1:59Speaker 1: no way she's kissing Matt Zecowski. Like, surely this is
- 2:02Speaker 1: somebody else.
- 2:03Speaker 2: Yeah, because I've been a longtime listener of Matt's podcast,
- 2:06Speaker 2: Where's Your Head At? And I've listened to a lot
- 2:09Speaker 2: of his stories about his past relationships. He'd only recently
- 2:12Speaker 2: broken up with his girlfriend, Jen. And I was like, what? Like,
- 2:16Speaker 2: no way. This matchup does not make sense.
- 2:19Speaker 1: Yeah, it was this really weird crossover between reality TV
- 2:23Speaker 1: and the influencer world.
- 2:24Speaker 2: Now, shortly after, the pair were spotted again, this time
- 2:27Speaker 2: at Tammy's sister's skin clinic event. Now, I want to
- 2:31Speaker 2: go into who Matt Sikowsky is. As mentioned, Matt rose
- 2:35Speaker 2: to fame in 2019 after being runner-up on the second
- 2:38Speaker 2: series of Love Island Australia. But before appearing on reality TV,
- 2:42Speaker 2: he actually worked as an international model in London and Milan.
- 2:46Speaker 2: He also was a professional wrestler, so he performed under
- 2:49Speaker 2: the stage name Charlie Matthews. And according to Matt, his
- 2:53Speaker 2: character was known for winning the genetic lottery.
- 2:56Speaker 1: It's interesting he was a wrestler before going on Love
- 2:59Speaker 1: Island because normally men who appear on reality shows come
- 3:02Speaker 1: off it and then they start up these big celebrity
- 3:04Speaker 1: boxing matches against each other.
- 3:06Speaker 2: Do you know what would be great? If he did
- 3:07Speaker 2: some celebrity wrestle-off between him, Rhys Hawkins, and Matt Poole,
- 3:12Speaker 2: that would Would go viral.
- 3:14Speaker 1: It would. It sounds very Jordan Simmy. Like maybe they
- 3:16Speaker 1: could fight for the love of Tammy.
- 3:18Speaker 2: Oh God, that would absolutely go off on YouTube. Now,
- 3:21Speaker 2: as for Matt's day job, he worked and still works
- 3:24Speaker 2: at his father's pool company as a project manager. However,
- 3:28Speaker 2: it was Matt's side hustle, his podcast, that led him
- 3:31Speaker 2: to meet Tammy. So Matt hosts a podcast called Where's
- 3:34Speaker 2: Your Head At? with his former Love Island co-star, Anna McAvoy.
- 3:38Speaker 2: And in a bid to gain publicity leading into the launch,
- 3:41Speaker 2: Matt and Anna pretended that they were dating. So they
- 3:44Speaker 2: uploaded a video to TikTok where they looked like they
- 3:47Speaker 2: were about to kiss and wrote something coming soon. Now,
- 3:51Speaker 2: Matt's ex-girlfriend, former Bachelor contestant Kira Maguire, wasn't thrilled about
- 3:57Speaker 2: this publicity stunt. So they'd broken up just a few
- 3:59Speaker 2: months earlier after dating for over a year. In terms
- 4:02Speaker 2: of their dating timeline, They went official in July 2020,
- 4:06Speaker 2: shortly after Kira left Bachelor in Paradise. But they'd been
- 4:10Speaker 2: dating for a few months prior. And there was quite
- 4:13Speaker 2: a large age gap between them. So at the time,
- 4:15Speaker 2: Matt was 25 and Kira was 34.
- 4:17Speaker 1: We spoke about bizarre crossovers with Tammy and Matt. I
- 4:20Speaker 1: think this was even weirder, seeing Matt from Love Island
- 4:23Speaker 1: hook up with Kira from The Bachelor.
- 4:25Speaker 2: Yeah, which made people question whether it was a PR relationship.
- 4:29Speaker 1: This was peak COVID time. And I remember watching a
- 4:31Speaker 1: lot of their content together. They were isolating at home.
- 4:35Speaker 1: So maybe it was just one of those COVID relationships
- 4:38Speaker 1: where they thought, oh, well, I can't actually go out
- 4:40Speaker 1: and meet anyone. We're sort of in this together now.
- 4:42Speaker 2: Now, in July 2021, off the back of Matt and
- 4:45Speaker 2: Anna's video, Kira told the Daily Mail, they aren't dating.
- 4:48Speaker 2: They are pretending to be together as they want to
- 4:50Speaker 2: get exposure for some podcasts they are doing. I had
- 4:52Speaker 2: to block them both on socials as it was really
- 4:54Speaker 2: hurtful to watch. I expressed to both of them, especially Anna,
- 4:58Speaker 2: who was supposed to be my friend, that this was hurtful,
- 5:01Speaker 2: but she told me I shouldn't care and continue to
- 5:03Speaker 2: do it. I guess people will do anything to get exposure,
- 5:06Speaker 2: even if it hurts the people they are supposed to
- 5:08Speaker 2: care about. It makes me really question both of their
- 5:11Speaker 2: intentions for being in my life in the first place.
- 5:14Speaker 1: Now, off the back of Kira's comments, Matt told the
- 5:17Speaker 1: Daily Mail, we don't want to put any labels on anything.
- 5:20Speaker 1: We're just seeing where's our head at. It just reminds
- 5:23Speaker 1: me of all those people that come off maths now
- 5:25Speaker 1: that are pretending that they're in relationships. And I can't
- 5:27Speaker 1: believe people are buying it. You're just like, they're clearly not.
- 5:30Speaker 1: They're trying to get, they're trying to extend their 15
- 5:32Speaker 1: minutes of fame.
- 5:34Speaker 2: Well, after launching the podcast, Matt backtracked telling the Daily Mail, look,
- 5:38Speaker 2: we've just been hanging out a lot and people write
- 5:40Speaker 2: their own narratives. So we just didn't comment. We didn't
- 5:43Speaker 2: lead anyone on. We literally hung out and put Instagram
- 5:46Speaker 2: stories up together And the public wrote their own narrative.
- 5:50Speaker 1: No, they weren't misleading anybody, but they were happy with
- 5:52Speaker 1: the publicity they were getting.
- 5:54Speaker 2: Yeah, well, Anna also gave an interview. So when asked
- 5:57Speaker 2: about the podcast, she said, when I was on Love Island,
- 5:59Speaker 2: I was like the go-to advice girl. Matt gets himself
- 6:02Speaker 2: into bad situations and I try and give him the
- 6:04Speaker 2: best advice possible. So we thought it would be a
- 6:06Speaker 2: good dynamic. Now, the strategy appeared to work because by 2023,
- 6:10Speaker 2: the podcast had hit 1 million downloads and Matt and
- 6:13Speaker 2: Anna did a live show tour to celebrate the milestones.
- 6:17Speaker 2: So while planning for the live show, Matt claims a
- 6:20Speaker 2: PR manager for his podcast mentioned that Tammy Hembrough was
- 6:24Speaker 2: on the invite list. And according to Matt, he didn't
- 6:26Speaker 2: know who she was. So he took it upon himself
- 6:29Speaker 2: to look her up. And he said his first reaction
- 6:31Speaker 2: upon seeing Tammy was, fuck, she looks all right.
- 6:35Speaker 1: Well, it was actually journalist Mika Pistetto who debunked Matt's
- 6:38Speaker 1: claims that he didn't know who Tammy Hembrough was. So
- 6:41Speaker 1: in an episode of So Dramatic in October 2024, Megan
- 6:45Speaker 1: dug up an old podcast interview where Matt and Anna
- 6:47Speaker 1: had interviewed Chase Damore. And during the interview, they discussed
- 6:51Speaker 1: in length Chase's strategic attempt to date Tammy by sliding
- 6:55Speaker 1: into her DMs. Let's throw to some of the clips.
- 6:59Speaker 3: The main one I was trying to get, I was
- 7:01Speaker 3: trying to holler at Tammy while I was over there
- 7:03Speaker 3: because I saw whatever guy that she used to be
- 7:07Speaker 3: with making out with another girl at the pavilion.
- 7:10Speaker 4: And so me, I was just trying to do my
- 7:13Speaker 4: honest due diligence.
- 7:14Speaker 3: And I was like, look, Tammy, like if he's cheating
- 7:17Speaker 3: on you, like you need a shoulder to cry on.
- 7:19Speaker 3: I know a really tall, good looking American boy that's
- 7:22Speaker 3: here for the holiday.
- 7:23Speaker 4: Wow.
- 7:24Speaker 5: Right with kids.
- 7:25Speaker 4: Like, come on.
- 7:26Speaker 5: Yep. So did she reply to the slide in?
- 7:30Speaker 4: She just liked my message.
- 7:32Speaker 1: And did you send her a voice note?
- 7:35Speaker 4: Yes, I sent her a voice note.
- 7:36Speaker 1: And she liked it.
- 7:38Speaker 4: She liked my message. I mean, you got to like,
- 7:40Speaker 4: it's pretty good.
- 7:40Speaker 5: She's one of our, like the most famous influencer we
- 7:44Speaker 5: have here. Did you tell her in the voice note
- 7:47Speaker 5: that you saw her ex Or her boyfriend.
- 7:50Speaker 1: I don't know if they're still together.
- 7:51Speaker 3: I could play the voice note if you.
- 7:54Speaker 4: Guys want to hear it.
- 7:54Speaker 1: Play the voice note you sent to Tammy Hembrough.
- 7:57Speaker 4: That's a bold move though. Normally someone who passes on
- 7:59Speaker 4: the message gets shot. Like they always shoot the message up.
- 8:04Speaker 2: I'm assuming this is where Matt got the idea to
- 8:06Speaker 2: slide into Tammy's DMs and invite her to the live
- 8:08Speaker 2: show because it was literally six months later.
- 8:10Speaker 1: Wouldn't it be so awkward because he's obviously pretended to
- 8:12Speaker 1: Tammy like, I have no idea who you are. Like,
- 8:16Speaker 1: I just, you know, was inviting you to this event.
- 8:18Speaker 1: And then this clip comes out. You'd probably be like, oh,
- 8:20Speaker 1: for fuck's sake. I know. Imagine trying to explain that. Now, anyway,
- 8:25Speaker 1: back to the podcast live show planning meeting. Matt ended
- 8:28Speaker 1: up DMing Tammy and he wrote to her, hey, there'll
- 8:30Speaker 1: be a ticket on the door at the Brisbane show.
- 8:32Speaker 1: And Tammy just double tapped the message, but didn't respond.
- 8:37Speaker 1: I remember hearing an interview with Tammy and she was
- 8:39Speaker 1: talking about the first message that Matt sent her. And
- 8:41Speaker 1: she's like, I double tapped, but then I didn't hear
- 8:43Speaker 1: from him. And I felt like saying, but You can't
- 8:46Speaker 1: just double tap a message which has a question in it.
- 8:49Speaker 1: Like what's he meant to, if someone just double tapped
- 8:52Speaker 1: my message, I would take that as, oh, they're being polite.
- 8:55Speaker 1: They're not interested. They don't want to talk to me.
- 8:57Speaker 2: To be fair, she's got three kids. That's probably her
- 8:58Speaker 2: way of responding to people. Like you've got to be
- 9:00Speaker 2: quick and efficient.
- 9:01Speaker 1: So is the love heart message the mum's equivalent of
- 9:03Speaker 1: the dad's thumbs up?
- 9:04Speaker 2: I mean, I think the love heart is still nicer
- 9:06Speaker 2: than the thumbs up. Anyway, Matt ended up double messaging
- 9:10Speaker 2: Tammy and she did finally reply. And Matt spoke on
- 9:13Speaker 2: his podcast about how he found it really hard to
- 9:15Speaker 2: read Tammy's tone over message. So he ended up calling
- 9:18Speaker 2: her and apparently they talked for hours and arranged a date.
- 9:22Speaker 1: What do you think about that strategy of him just
- 9:24Speaker 1: giving Tammy a call? Do you like it? Or if
- 9:26Speaker 1: you're in that situation, are you just thinking, just reply
- 9:29Speaker 1: to my text, mate. I don't actually want to talk
- 9:30Speaker 1: to you.
- 9:31Speaker 2: On the phone. In 2025, I don't think anyone wants
- 9:32Speaker 2: to talk on the phone. I couldn't think of anything
- 9:34Speaker 2: worse than some guy I've never met calling me and
- 9:37Speaker 2: having to talk for hours. But I suppose it's also
- 9:40Speaker 2: a sign that someone really likes you if they're willing
- 9:42Speaker 2: to do that.
- 9:43Speaker 1: Well, apparently Tammy thought that her meeting up with Matt
- 9:45Speaker 1: was fate because his videos had been popping up on
- 9:48Speaker 1: her TikTok for you page and she thought he was
- 9:51Speaker 1: really cute.
- 9:51Speaker 2: And as we spoke about last week, she possibly watched
- 9:53Speaker 2: him on Love Island. Now, with Tammy based on the
- 9:57Speaker 2: Gold Coast and Matt living in Melbourne, Matt flew to
- 9:59Speaker 2: Tammy for their first date. And I think this is
- 10:02Speaker 2: becoming more and more common thanks to dating apps like Raya.
- 10:05Speaker 2: A couple of our friends have somehow got onto Raya
- 10:07Speaker 2: and they're not celebrities. And they've mentioned that they've been
- 10:10Speaker 2: offered to be flown out interstate for dates before.
- 10:13Speaker 1: Well, if we thought the phone call sounded keen, I mean,
- 10:16Speaker 1: flying over from Melbourne to Gold Coast, that's next level.
- 10:19Speaker 2: I want to know, did Matt pay for his own
- 10:20Speaker 2: flights or did Tammy? Because Tammy, you know, she's worth
- 10:23Speaker 2: $ 50 million. She's got a lot of coin. Matt was
- 10:26Speaker 2: working for his dad's pool company, not quite the same
- 10:28Speaker 2: amount of coin.
- 10:28Speaker 1: And if you listen to his podcast, it sounds like
- 10:30Speaker 1: Matt isn't the most generous person. It sounds like he's
- 10:33Speaker 1: actually a bit stingy on dates. But I think in
- 10:35Speaker 1: this case, he would have paid for his own flights
- 10:37Speaker 1: because he wanted to impress Tammy.
- 10:39Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 10:40Speaker 2: I'm hoping he paid for his own flight. Now, Matt
- 10:43Speaker 2: recounted the story on his podcast of their first date.
- 10:46Speaker 2: And he said that he had butterflies when he first
- 10:48Speaker 2: saw Tammy. And also confirmed that they kissed on the
- 10:51Speaker 2: first date. He said that Tammy was staring at him
- 10:54Speaker 2: and he asked her what she was thinking. And she replied,
- 10:57Speaker 2: you tell me what I'm thinking. And he said, does
- 10:59Speaker 2: this mouth taste as good as it sounds? And she
- 11:02Speaker 2: ended up laughing and they both went off separately to
- 11:05Speaker 2: the toilet and met back up in the hallway and kissed.
- 11:08Speaker 2: It's one of those stories where probably lovely for you
- 11:10Speaker 2: that was involved in it, not so lovely for people listening.
- 11:12Speaker 2: Like it just made me feel, oh, yuck.
- 11:14Speaker 1: It sounds like a real Love Island line as well,
- 11:17Speaker 1: like real cringe.
- 11:18Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
- 11:19Speaker 2: Now, Tammy and Matt were again spotted together hugging at
- 11:23Speaker 2: the Where's Your Head At podcast live show in Sydney
- 11:26Speaker 2: on the 22nd of September. And they made things Instagram
- 11:29Speaker 2: official on the 27th of September together. appearing together at
- 11:33Speaker 2: a premiere of a Stan original series in Sydney. So
- 11:36Speaker 2: Matt shared a photo dump with videos of the couple
- 11:39Speaker 2: making out in front of the sunset at the beach,
- 11:41Speaker 2: kissing in front of Australian landmarks, and even a video
- 11:45Speaker 2: of Tammy getting a strike at bowling. And Matt, of course,
- 11:48Speaker 2: also opened up about the relationship on his podcast.
- 11:53Speaker 1: Yeah, and despite the couple looking very smitten, Tammy's followers
- 11:57Speaker 1: weren't convinced. So Tammy received a lot of negative commentary
- 12:00Speaker 1: around the fact that she was moving on with a
- 12:03Speaker 1: new man so quickly after Matt Poole. I think there
- 12:06Speaker 1: was a lot of judgment from the public because of
- 12:08Speaker 1: the fact that Tammy had a young daughter. But interestingly,
- 12:11Speaker 1: that same judgment wasn't given to Matt Poole, who also
- 12:14Speaker 1: moved on quite quickly.
- 12:15Speaker 2: Yeah, there was a lot of mum shaming dressed up
- 12:18Speaker 2: as faux concern and also a lot of slut shaming
- 12:20Speaker 2: going on because A lot of the comments complained that
- 12:23Speaker 2: they couldn't keep up with all the men that Tammy
- 12:25Speaker 2: was dating. To put this into perspective, it was the
- 12:27Speaker 2: third man that she had publicly posted with in 10 years.
- 12:30Speaker 1: It is really sexist. I mean, again, if you look
- 12:33Speaker 1: at someone like Rhys Hawkins, he didn't cop the same
- 12:35Speaker 1: commentary when he also has children with two different women
- 12:39Speaker 1: and continues to date other people.
- 12:41Speaker 4: Exactly.
- 12:42Speaker 2: Now, Tammy hit back at the trolls reiterating that she
- 12:45Speaker 2: had only been with three men and suggested that people
- 12:48Speaker 2: who were struggling to keep up with the three of
- 12:50Speaker 2: them needed help with their memory. She also stated that
- 12:53Speaker 2: people don't know why she ended her relationships. And the
- 12:56Speaker 2: wording was rather interesting as she essentially confirmed that she
- 12:59Speaker 2: was the one who broke up with Matt Paul and
- 13:01Speaker 2: also Reese Hawkins. Now, Tammy ended the video saying that
- 13:04Speaker 2: she hadn't planned to ever share her relationship online again,
- 13:08Speaker 2: but she couldn't help herself because She was so happy
- 13:11Speaker 2: and wanted to shout it from the rooftops. Now, it's
- 13:13Speaker 2: interesting she mentioned that because the months leading into this
- 13:16Speaker 2: relationship with Matt Sikowsky, she was very open about how
- 13:19Speaker 2: difficult it was to date as a single mum and
- 13:21Speaker 2: that she didn't want a relationship. And I think that
- 13:24Speaker 2: is what led to people being really confused and a
- 13:26Speaker 2: little bit worried for her that this relationship was moving
- 13:29Speaker 2: so quickly.
- 13:30Speaker 1: And just a few weeks after making it Instagram official,
- 13:33Speaker 1: Tammy dropped a bomb at the White Fox Boutique 10th
- 13:36Speaker 1: birthday celebrations in L.A., So the White Fox social media
- 13:39Speaker 1: team were playing a game of pass the mic with
- 13:42Speaker 1: the influencers at the event and M Davies stitched Tammy
- 13:46Speaker 1: up saying this before passing the microphone to Tammy.
- 13:50Speaker 5: And passing the mic to someone who got their boyfriend's
- 13:54Speaker 5: name tattooed on them after dating them for two weeks.
- 13:58Speaker 2: It was a big night for Tammy with her ex
- 14:00Speaker 2: Tiger also performing on stage at the event.
- 14:04Speaker 4: Awkward.
- 14:05Speaker 2: Now, Tammy ended up debuting her Matt tattoo on the
- 14:08Speaker 2: couple's first romantic getaway to the Maldives in late November 2023.
- 14:13Speaker 2: And fans were quick to spot Matt's name inked on
- 14:16Speaker 2: Tammy's inner thigh with a little love heart in a
- 14:18Speaker 2: photo dump she posted of the trip. However, there was
- 14:21Speaker 2: another photo that generated even more attention. So in one
- 14:25Speaker 2: of the photos, Tammy was spotted sporting a mystery ring
- 14:28Speaker 2: on her wedding finger, which sent her followers into a frenzy.
- 14:33Speaker 2: Tammy's friend and fellow influencer, Em Davies, who stitched her
- 14:36Speaker 2: up at the White Fox Boutique event, commented, I can't
- 14:39Speaker 2: even see these pics without screaming.
- 14:42Speaker 1: She then further fueled engagement speculation by uploading and quickly
- 14:46Speaker 1: deleting a photo to her Instagram story wearing a massive
- 14:49Speaker 1: diamond ring. She also got a lot of people talking
- 14:52Speaker 1: after miming to this audio in a TikTok video. To
- 14:57Speaker 1: everyone who watches my life and gossips about it, don't
- 15:00Speaker 1: give up.
- 15:06Speaker 2: Now, because this is an audio platform, I do need
- 15:08Speaker 2: to mention that during the TikTok, Matt joined Tammy at
- 15:11Speaker 2: the end of the video to indicate that he's part
- 15:14Speaker 2: of season two. Now, pap shots of the couple on
- 15:18Speaker 2: their way home from the Maldives threw fans off the
- 15:20Speaker 2: scent though. So someone snapped a sneaky photo of Tammy
- 15:24Speaker 2: and Matt queuing separately at the airport. And in the photo,
- 15:27Speaker 2: Tammy was standing ahead of Matt in the airport queue
- 15:30Speaker 2: with several people between them. So fans hypothesized that the
- 15:34Speaker 2: couple were fighting because they weren't standing together. And it
- 15:37Speaker 2: turns out the speculation could have possibly been true because
- 15:40Speaker 2: Tammy opened up about their nightmare trip home from the Maldives.
- 15:45Speaker 2: So to begin with, their flight was delayed. And once
- 15:47Speaker 2: they were in the air, their pilot made three attempts
- 15:50Speaker 2: to land the plane before diverting to another airport. They
- 15:53Speaker 2: then missed their connecting flights and sat around airports for
- 15:56Speaker 2: days waiting. Tammy even admitted on Instagram that she had a, quote,
- 16:01Speaker 2: mental breakdown at the airport because she missed her kids
- 16:04Speaker 2: so much. And she said that she had major mum
- 16:07Speaker 2: guilt for being away from them for even longer. So
- 16:10Speaker 2: knowing all of these details, I can see how a
- 16:12Speaker 2: disagreement could have potentially broken out.
- 16:14Speaker 1: Oh, 100%.
- 16:15Speaker 2: Well, once the couple arrived home, it was clear just
- 16:17Speaker 2: how serious their relationship was because Tammy shared a photo
- 16:20Speaker 2: of Matt, her three kids, and her dad, Mark, And
- 16:24Speaker 2: an anonymous source told Influencer Updates AU, they are engaged,
- 16:28Speaker 2: just had my nails done next to Tammy on the
- 16:30Speaker 2: golf course. Now, this tip-off ended up being 100% correct
- 16:34Speaker 2: because on the 10th of December, just three months after
- 16:37Speaker 2: going public with their relationship, Tammy announced that she was
- 16:41Speaker 2: engaged to Matt Sikowsky. So she shared a reel of
- 16:45Speaker 2: the romantic moment to her 17 million Instagram followers, captioning
- 16:49Speaker 2: the post, never in my life have I felt so
- 16:51Speaker 2: safe So loved, so understood, so cared for. What a
- 16:55Speaker 2: plot twist you were.
- 16:56Speaker 1: I love how as soon as that post went up,
- 16:58Speaker 1: everyone started comparing all of the engagement rings. Do you
- 17:01Speaker 1: have a favorite of Tummy's?
- 17:03Speaker 2: Well, I mentioned last week that my favorite has to
- 17:05Speaker 2: be the one Matt Paul gave her. It's an oval
- 17:07Speaker 2: shaped diamond with a lot of diamonds around it. I
- 17:09Speaker 2: have an oval shaped engagement ring. So I think that's
- 17:11Speaker 2: why it's my favorite.
- 17:11Speaker 1: What about you? I actually think my favorite one was
- 17:14Speaker 1: Matt Zukowski's. He did a really good job. When I
- 17:16Speaker 1: first saw the ring though, I thought, Has Matt got
- 17:19Speaker 1: it from some kind of sponsored deal? Because it would
- 17:21Speaker 1: be worth an absolute fortune. And we know that Matt
- 17:24Speaker 1: isn't in the same financial bracket as Tammy.
- 17:27Speaker 2: Well, it seems like the engagement wasn't so spontaneous as
- 17:30Speaker 2: they made it out to be. Because when he was
- 17:32Speaker 2: interviewed on the Inherited podcast in May, when asked if
- 17:36Speaker 2: he and Tammy had discussed marriage before he proposed three
- 17:39Speaker 2: months into their relationship, he said this.
- 17:43Speaker 4: Yes, we spoke about marriage.
- 17:44Speaker 3: Yes.
- 17:45Speaker 4: We were planning on eloping. And I just thought to myself, okay,
- 17:50Speaker 4: I came back to Melbourne to do something. And I
- 17:52Speaker 4: spoke to Anna and I told her, she was one
- 17:55Speaker 4: of the people I told. We had a date booked
- 17:57Speaker 4: in at the courthouse. And she said, well, you know,
- 17:59Speaker 4: you're going to the Maldives in like four days. Why
- 18:02Speaker 4: don't you do something there? So my idea was originally
- 18:05Speaker 4: to get like a promise ring and be like, look,
- 18:07Speaker 4: I understand we're not doing it traditional, but then I
- 18:10Speaker 4: saw a ring there and it was gorgeous and I
- 18:12Speaker 4: fell in love with it. And I was like, okay.
- 18:15Speaker 4: So I got an engagement ring for her. Yeah. And
- 18:18Speaker 4: then did the proposal, organize it quickly with the people
- 18:20Speaker 4: at the Maldives. I said, look, I'm planning on proposing.
- 18:23Speaker 4: Can you organize like a thing for me and organize
- 18:25Speaker 4: a dinner?
- 18:26Speaker 5: Yeah.
- 18:27Speaker 2: So it sounds like the original plan was to actually
- 18:30Speaker 2: elope to the Maldives and get legally married at the
- 18:32Speaker 2: registry office beforehand. And Matt said that And Matt said
- 18:36Speaker 2: that Anna McAvoy was the one that talked him out
- 18:38Speaker 2: of it. But I think it was Tammy's sisters who
- 18:39Speaker 2: did that.
- 18:40Speaker 1: Yeah, because I recall in their interview that they did
- 18:42Speaker 1: with Matt on his podcast, they were saying to him
- 18:45Speaker 1: that they were horrified to hear that Matt and Tammy
- 18:47Speaker 1: were planning on eloping. And it sounds like maybe Tammy
- 18:51Speaker 1: was the one that said, look, if you want people
- 18:53Speaker 1: to take us seriously, it's probably not going to be
- 18:55Speaker 1: good that we go off and just elope. We need
- 18:57Speaker 1: to actually have a proper wedding.
- 18:59Speaker 2: In January, Tammy Hembrough made a guest appearance on Matt's podcast.
- 19:03Speaker 2: and revealed that she would be changing her last name
- 19:05Speaker 2: to Sikowsky when she gets married. This is what she said.
- 19:09Speaker 4: Yeah, Tammy Sikowsky, that rolls off the tongue. Yeah.
- 19:13Speaker 1: Will you change your name?
- 19:15Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so. I love that. We've had that discussion.
- 19:18Speaker 4: I said I don't... It does sound nice, actually. I
- 19:20Speaker 4: said I understand if you don't want to.
- 19:22Speaker 2: Well, it's like none of my kids have my last name,
- 19:25Speaker 2: so it's.
- 19:25Speaker 4: Like I'm not trying to, you know, like.
- 19:27Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.
- 19:28Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's not like I'm... trying to hold on
- 19:31Speaker 2: to it for a reason.
- 19:33Speaker 4: This is true. Well, your brand is your name. Yeah,
- 19:35Speaker 4: obviously my, like, brand and that. But you'd keep your brand.
- 19:38Speaker 5: But, yeah, I can still, like, people can call me
- 19:41Speaker 5: whatever they want.
- 19:42Speaker 2: But, yeah, it'll be Tammy Zukowski.
- 19:44Speaker 5: That's so cute.
- 19:46Speaker 2: It's pretty awkward because Matt recently spoke on his podcast
- 19:49Speaker 2: about how Tammy was in the process of changing her
- 19:52Speaker 2: last name as someone who recently legally changed their name.
- 19:56Speaker 2: The process is so drawn out and such a pain
- 19:59Speaker 2: in the ass. So I feel for Tammy if she
- 20:01Speaker 2: has to go change it back now.
- 20:02Speaker 1: I think he should have changed his name to Hembro.
- 20:04Speaker 1: He could have done a Dalton Henshaw. I mean, she's
- 20:06Speaker 1: got the better last name.
- 20:08Speaker 2: Well, she's got the bigger profile. I'm surprised he didn't
- 20:10Speaker 2: want to take on him.
- 20:11Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. Now, in this interview, Tammy opened up about
- 20:14Speaker 1: her engagement to Matt. So she explained it's the third
- 20:17Speaker 1: time she's been engaged, but she never actually planned a
- 20:20Speaker 1: wedding or bought a wedding dress before.
- 20:22Speaker 2: Yeah, and she also touched on the backlash they had
- 20:24Speaker 2: received after announcing their engagement. Here's what Tammy said.
- 20:29Speaker 4: I don't really care. Yes, I've been engaged three times.
- 20:32Speaker 4: Get over it. I make light of it as well.
- 20:34Speaker 4: I call her Thanos.
- 20:35Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm collecting.
- 20:36Speaker 4: In the stones, the infinity stones. She's got her own gauntlet, Colin.
- 20:40Speaker 5: I mean, it's a good thing, right?
- 20:42Speaker 1: Like when I was 29 and hadn't been engaged at all,
- 20:44Speaker 1: I was like, I'm offended that I haven't been proposed
- 20:47Speaker 1: to yet.
- 20:47Speaker 4: Like, I mean, she's a catch. Of course she's going to,
- 20:50Speaker 4: you know.
- 20:51Speaker 2: I don't know why people have such a problem with it.
- 20:54Speaker 4: I don't and I'm marrying you. So what's their problem?
- 20:57Speaker 1: Yeah. Now, in March 2023, unverified rumors started circulating that
- 21:04Speaker 1: Matt had been messaging another woman. Screenshots of an alleged
- 21:07Speaker 1: private conversation between Matt and another woman were shared to
- 21:11Speaker 1: a gossip account before being deleted. Now, they, of course,
- 21:14Speaker 1: were screenshot before they were deleted and they went viral.
- 21:18Speaker 2: Now, in these screenshots, the woman covered her own name,
- 21:22Speaker 2: but you could see Matt's Instagram handle with his verified tick.
- 21:26Speaker 2: And Matt's account sent a message saying, still with your boyfriend?
- 21:30Speaker 2: The woman ended up replying saying, hey Matt, yes, why
- 21:32Speaker 2: is that? Still marrying Tammy. And Matt responded three hours
- 21:35Speaker 2: later writing, interesting, haha, and yes.
- 21:38Speaker 1: The woman wrote back, why the.
- 21:40Speaker 2: Message then, haha. Now these messages came out just days
- 21:44Speaker 2: after Tammy and Matt attended Glamour on the Grid for
- 21:46Speaker 2: the Grand Prix. And there were a bunch of photos
- 21:49Speaker 2: taken at the event where they looked very loved up.
- 21:51Speaker 2: So it was all very confusing.
- 21:53Speaker 1: Yeah, and then not long after, Tammy was spotted without
- 21:56Speaker 1: her engagement ring. And the timing couldn't have been worse
- 22:00Speaker 1: because a week later, Tammy embarked on a press tour
- 22:03Speaker 1: to promote her book, Show Up. And it was clear
- 22:06Speaker 1: that Matt was scrambling to win Tammy back because when
- 22:09Speaker 1: she appeared on Mamma Mia's No Filter podcast, Matt shared
- 22:12Speaker 1: a photo of him and Tammy to his Instagram story.
- 22:16Speaker 1: And he wrote, I have never felt a love that
- 22:18Speaker 1: is so strong and pure. I love you so much, babe.
- 22:22Speaker 1: He also left a comment under the podcast promotion of
- 22:24Speaker 1: the episode saying he couldn't wait to listen. Now, Tammy
- 22:28Speaker 1: didn't address the incident publicly, but 24 hours after Matt's post,
- 22:32Speaker 1: she unfollowed him. Now, during her interview on No Filter,
- 22:36Speaker 1: which was obviously recorded prior to the fallout, Tammy revealed
- 22:40Speaker 1: that she's not done having kids. So she admitted that
- 22:43Speaker 1: she thought Posey would be her last because she broke
- 22:45Speaker 1: up with Matt Paul shortly after. But now that she's
- 22:48Speaker 1: in a new relationship, she was open to it. This
- 22:51Speaker 1: was interesting news because Matt has bravely spoken publicly about
- 22:55Speaker 1: the fact that he doesn't produce sperm. So it will
- 22:58Speaker 1: be difficult for him to naturally conceive children. And Tammy
- 23:02Speaker 1: explained that Matt was upfront with his fertility struggles and
- 23:05Speaker 1: said there were options for them to conceive. It was
- 23:07Speaker 1: pretty funny because during this press tour, she made a
- 23:10Speaker 1: joke about how convenient it was that her last two
- 23:12Speaker 1: fiancés are called Matt, so she can't mix up their names.
- 23:16Speaker 2: She also admitted that she gets where people are coming
- 23:18Speaker 2: from when they comment that she's introducing her kids to
- 23:21Speaker 2: another man, but she said that she doesn't do it
- 23:23Speaker 2: lightly and always has her kids' best interest at heart.
- 23:27Speaker 1: Tammy also spoke about how Matt's public profile actually helped
- 23:30Speaker 1: their relationship because she said it made him understand the
- 23:33Speaker 1: demands and exposure that comes with being an influencer. And
- 23:37Speaker 1: she was also asked about how she deals with negativity online.
- 23:40Speaker 1: And she said, In the beginning, it definitely got to me,
- 23:43Speaker 1: but I couldn't really care less anymore. It doesn't change
- 23:46Speaker 1: how I'm going to act or how I'm going to
- 23:48Speaker 1: live my life.
- 23:49Speaker 2: Now, in April, Matt Zukowski broke his silence after being
- 23:52Speaker 2: accused of cheating on Tammy. He spoke candidly on his
- 23:55Speaker 2: podcast about the situation and confirmed he did message another woman,
- 24:00Speaker 2: but claimed he did so on his friend's behalf. The
- 24:03Speaker 2: whole episode felt like damage control but really lacked the
- 24:07Speaker 2: guidance from a public relations professional to actually achieve that. Well,
- 24:10Speaker 2: I don't think anyone really believed him because it just
- 24:13Speaker 2: didn't really make much sense. And you could tell that
- 24:16Speaker 2: Matt and Anna were working in overdrive to try and
- 24:19Speaker 2: garner public sympathy for Matt because at the start of
- 24:22Speaker 2: the episode, Anna said she didn't even recognise him because
- 24:25Speaker 2: he looked so dishevelled and lost. She then asked Matt
- 24:29Speaker 2: how he was coping with this situation and he said this.
- 24:33Speaker 4: I'm not going to lie. I'm in a pretty bad
- 24:35Speaker 4: place mentally. Like it's just, I don't know, like look,
- 24:42Speaker 4: like it's just more embarrassed than anything. Like, and it's
- 24:46Speaker 4: just taken a strain on like everyone around me. Like
- 24:50Speaker 4: I'll go into more details later, but like, yeah, I'm exhausted.
- 24:55Speaker 4: I'm drained. It's just something that's like to me was,
- 24:59Speaker 4: and I get what I did and I'll explain, like
- 25:01Speaker 4: I get what I did was wrong. Yeah, it's just exhausting.
- 25:03Speaker 4: We're just working through it.
- 25:06Speaker 2: Before delving into the incident, Matt and Anna really built
- 25:09Speaker 2: up just how hard they had been partying at Glamour
- 25:12Speaker 2: on the Grid. Matt explained that after the event, he
- 25:15Speaker 2: and Tammy went back to their suite with Anna and
- 25:17Speaker 2: her fiancé Michael and drank until 3am. Matt claimed he
- 25:21Speaker 2: was so drunk that he projectile vomited the following morning.
- 25:25Speaker 2: And Anna recounted that she and Michael went back to
- 25:28Speaker 2: their room at 3 a.m. just as Matt opened another
- 25:31Speaker 2: bottle of champagne. Matt confirmed that this was the moment
- 25:35Speaker 2: he messaged the mystery woman.
- 25:36Speaker 1: This is what he said.
- 25:39Speaker 4: Honestly, I'm not making excuses, but I don't fully remember
- 25:43Speaker 4: sending any message. I know that sounds bad.
- 25:45Speaker 5: It doesn't sound bad because Michael was like, When it
- 25:49Speaker 5: came out, Michael was like, there's no way Matt would
- 25:51Speaker 5: remember sending that because he was popping another bottle when
- 25:55Speaker 5: we were leaving. Anyway, we're not, you know.
- 25:57Speaker 4: Not making excuses. Yeah.
- 25:58Speaker 1: Okay.
- 25:58Speaker 4: So, what happened was I saw, I messaged a girl
- 26:03Speaker 4: and I asked her if she was single. But the
- 26:05Speaker 4: story behind it is my mate showed me her and
- 26:08Speaker 4: he said, your sister and her follow each other and
- 26:11Speaker 4: she follows you. Do you know her? And then he goes, look,
- 26:13Speaker 4: do you reckon you could message her for me? And-
- 26:17Speaker 4: you know, put in a good word and tell her
- 26:18Speaker 4: to message me. And I was like, no, man, like,
- 26:20Speaker 4: that's not, I'm not going to do that for you.
- 26:22Speaker 1: I'm engaged.
- 26:23Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, yeah, I just don't, it's not what
- 26:25Speaker 4: I wanted to do. And then this is cringe, but
- 26:28Speaker 4: he did say, use your blue tick, she'll message you back.
- 26:31Speaker 4: And I was like, no, man, I'm not going to
- 26:32Speaker 4: do that. And then I ended up doing that when
- 26:35Speaker 4: I was fucked off my head at like 3 a.m.,
- 26:38Speaker 4: pissed as. Waking up the next day, I realized that
- 26:41Speaker 4: that is not a good idea. It's embarrassing for my fiancée.
- 26:46Speaker 4: It's embarrassing to my family. It's embarrassing to my friends.
- 26:50Speaker 4: It's embarrassing to her family, her friends. Most of all,
- 26:53Speaker 4: it's embarrassing to the relationship. Like I don't want to
- 26:55Speaker 4: be someone in a relationship that does stuff like that.
- 26:58Speaker 4: Like I'm not that sort of person. Like I don't
- 27:01Speaker 4: do stuff like that. I think at the moment I
- 27:04Speaker 4: did it because I was pissed. I know it's not
- 27:07Speaker 4: an excuse and I'm not trying to make an excuse.
- 27:09Speaker 4: The moment something like this came out, they just jumped
- 27:12Speaker 4: on it and they were just like, oh, he's like this,
- 27:14Speaker 4: this is like, you know what I mean, cheater, all
- 27:16Speaker 4: this sort of stuff. But that's not what happened and
- 27:18Speaker 4: that's what has really like made me frustrated with it
- 27:22Speaker 4: all because I did live, did stay quiet on socials
- 27:26Speaker 4: about it. I didn't think that it was worth addressing
- 27:28Speaker 4: in that way. So, I kept it quiet because I
- 27:30Speaker 4: wanted to do it like this where I could actually
- 27:32Speaker 4: talk raw and actually talk about it. But yeah, I
- 27:37Speaker 4: think that I'm not making excuses. It was the wrong
- 27:40Speaker 4: thing to do, but I feel like, yeah, it's embarrassed Tammy.
- 27:43Speaker 4: It's embarrassed me. It's embarrassed the relationship.
- 27:46Speaker 1: I'm so confused how they thought that that was helping
- 27:50Speaker 1: the situation. Like we were so drunk. We had no
- 27:54Speaker 1: idea what we were doing, but I must point out
- 27:57Speaker 1: that it wasn't, I wasn't messaging this girl for me.
- 27:59Speaker 1: It was for a friend. Yeah, right.
- 28:01Speaker 2: Yeah, they constantly contradicted themselves throughout the entire episode, making
- 28:04Speaker 2: excuses for Matt's behavior. And they kept using alcohol as
- 28:08Speaker 2: an excuse because after talking about how drunk they were
- 28:11Speaker 2: at the event, they also spoke in length about how
- 28:13Speaker 2: Matt had all these other instances where he's lost control
- 28:16Speaker 2: binge drinking. So he recounted a story about how he
- 28:20Speaker 2: fell through a glass door of his friend's house and
- 28:23Speaker 2: his roommate's girlfriend had to call the police. He also
- 28:25Speaker 2: spoke about how He was really drunk at Anna's 30th
- 28:28Speaker 2: and woke up on Chapel Street and his phone had
- 28:30Speaker 2: been stolen and he didn't know where he was. So,
- 28:32Speaker 2: I don't think it was helping the situation. He then
- 28:34Speaker 2: read out the apparent full text exchange. Let's take a listen.
- 28:39Speaker 4: She asked me why. Like, I think I... So, she said...
- 28:44Speaker 4: I used to do a timing and I said, yes,
- 28:46Speaker 4: because I don't... I'm not interested in this girl. So,
- 28:48Speaker 4: I said, yes. And then she goes, why the message then?
- 28:50Speaker 4: And I said, my friend Dale saw you while we
- 28:52Speaker 4: were out, was trying to help a friend... friend haha
- 28:56Speaker 4: but i will let him down gently she goes i'll
- 28:58Speaker 4: say hope he finds the one i said so do
- 29:00Speaker 4: i the hunt continues she goes i've got a friend
- 29:03Speaker 4: i said okay send through your friend's insta and i'll
- 29:06Speaker 4: get him to message her she sent the name i
- 29:08Speaker 4: said thank you for the help she love heart reacted
- 29:11Speaker 4: to that and she goes this was this one was
- 29:14Speaker 4: scouted by love island do your magic and i said
- 29:16Speaker 4: i'll try my.
- 29:17Speaker 2: Best Look, I'm finding it hard to believe this text exchange,
- 29:20Speaker 2: particularly because he didn't provide a screenshot of it.
- 29:23Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 29:23Speaker 1: I mean, all this episode achieved was just making Matt
- 29:26Speaker 1: look even guiltier than he already did. And it made
- 29:29Speaker 1: no sense because throughout the episode, he kept saying that
- 29:32Speaker 1: he was in the wrong and he'd learned his lesson,
- 29:34Speaker 1: but then he denied cheating. So it really didn't make
- 29:37Speaker 1: much sense.
- 29:38Speaker 2: It really did make the situation worse. so he literally
- 29:40Speaker 2: confirmed that he did in fact message a woman tammy
- 29:43Speaker 2: isn't happy about it he then dropped that they're currently
- 29:46Speaker 2: in couples counseling over and said this.
- 29:49Speaker 5: Is there anything else that you want to say matt.
- 29:52Speaker 4: Yeah i'd like to officially in front of everyone apologize
- 29:56Speaker 4: to tammy um I am sorry that I did that.
- 30:02Speaker 4: I really do love you and I can't wait to
- 30:04Speaker 4: spend the rest of my life with you.
- 30:08Speaker 1: The grovelling was next level. I think a lot of
- 30:10Speaker 1: us just assumed that this was it for Tammy and Matt.
- 30:12Speaker 1: There was no coming back from it. But spoiler alert,
- 30:15Speaker 1: they got married seven months after this incident.
- 30:19Speaker 2: I mean, it's hard not to feel sorry for Tammy.
- 30:20Speaker 2: It was completely embarrassing for her. It was at this
- 30:23Speaker 2: point where her audience completely turned against Matt and At
- 30:27Speaker 2: the start, for Matt, it may have looked very lucrative
- 30:29Speaker 2: being Tammy's fiancé, but not when you piss off 20
- 30:32Speaker 2: million people who follow her. Now, that is where we're
- 30:35Speaker 2: going to leave things today. Next week in the final
- 30:38Speaker 2: instalment of this series, we'll be diving into the wedding
- 30:41Speaker 2: and seven months of not-so-marital bliss.
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- 30:48Speaker 1: This episode was recorded on the traditional land of the
- 30:51Speaker 1: Kaurna people of the Adelaide Plains. We pay respect to
- 30:54Speaker 1: elders past and present.