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When Should Your Kids Meet the New Person You're Dating · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  So when should you introduce your kids to that person you're
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  dating? Let's talk about it.
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  I find that men usually tend to introduce their children to a
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  new person sooner than women do. Women seem to be a little more
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  protective of their kids. I think men do it honestly,
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  either two, one or two things, either out of convenience
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  because it makes their life easier if they've incorporated
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  the kid into the story. Now they don't have to deal
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  with, you know, getting babysitters.
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  They can bring the kid along. A lot of times I've seen that or
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  it, it sometimes guys do this and it's really screwed up.
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  It gives the woman a false sense of intimacy with him.
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  I've even known men who've texted photos of their children,
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  them and their their children. And then and the woman like
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  barely knows the guy. And it leads a woman to believe
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  that there's that there's more to it there that they perhaps
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  have a relationship even when they don't even really have a
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  relationship. OK, all right.
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  But I've gotten sidetracked. Let me get back on the on the
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  topic. Hang on.
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  So when, when, when, when this thing is real.
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  So first it has to be real, then I would give it still 3-4 more
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  months. So after you guys have decided
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  you're just seeing each other, however long that is and you
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  always, my preference is he initiates that conversation.
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  Ladies, if you've got to initiate the conversation, it's
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  already not great. But whenever you guys have the
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  conversation in your exclusive, I would say give it another
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  three to four months at minimum. I know a woman who dated a guy
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  for two years. She never introduced her kid to
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  the guy, OK, because she was so protective of her child.
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  And it's a bad idea to have this revolving door where your kids
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  are constantly meeting people that aren't necessarily going to
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  stick around. All right?
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  You only get one shot at your kids being little, and you don't
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  want to screw it up, right? It's a big role.
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  It's a big job. It's a big job you have.
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  So that's what I say. Wait until you guys become
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  exclusive and then add on another four months at minimum,
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  at minimum. OK, I hope it helps.