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Tehilim for the Soul: Psalm 34 — Changing Your Mindset from Negativity to Peace · Tehillim for the Soul with Dr. Miriam Menaker

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  "Who is the man who desire life, See good." So who is that person?
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  Is a person that guards himself, guards his tongue for no connecting with evil.
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  It's very hard not to connect, not to judge something negative that we see on others.
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  But instead to focus in negativity, let's focus in goodness.
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  Let's focus in doing good things.
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  Welcome, my dear friends, to Psalm for the Soul, a weekly Torah study exploring the timeless wisdom, prayers, and praise of the Book of Psalm.
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  Together, we'll uncover their historical context, spiritual depths, and practical application for everyday life.
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  Whether you are seeking peace, encouragement, or deeper connection with God, you will find hope and inspiration one psalm at a time good morning.
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  We reach Psalm 34.
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  We are moving on, Baruch Hashem, this psalm is a, Psalm of David that connected with our daily life.
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  It will be a very practical psalm, With some, points that we can review and ex- expand and comment.
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  So this psalm start with L'David bashonoto etamo, means by David, when he feigned ma- madness before Abimelech, who drove him away, and he left.
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  So what happened here is that he, the name Abimelech is connected with the Philistines, meaning to say Pharaoh.
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  Pharaoh, is the general name for all the kings of Egypt.
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  Abimelech is the general name for the all the kings of Philistines.
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  When he was fleeing from Shaul, of Abimelech, of the Philistine.
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  And, a- and he enter into his palace.
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  They wanted to kill him.
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  So what he did, he was trapped there, and the solution that he found is to make himself to look like, a mad man.
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  David pretended to be mad since madness are generally regarded as being harmless.
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  So he started even to,, to make an idea that he had a scissor, and the trick succeeded in that David was not attacked, but they threw them out from the palace and out of the kingdom, and that was the way that he was safe.
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  This, story can apply in a more spiritual way because when everything in the Torah is written with...
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  and the no- the name king, we have to remember that a king is the king of the universe.
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  Is giving us a hint of how we can behave With the King of the universe.
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  So what, m- is, what that's mean is if, for example, we are in a situation in which we are, under danger.
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  So we have to change our mind, the way that we are thinking.
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  and that is what means here.
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  The same way that David change his mind and look for another solution in order to find a, a, the, a, the way to go out from, from being trapped by that situation, this is what we learn here.
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  So I end, he, David, is praising Hashem and thank him, Hashem, for saving him.
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  "So I bless God at all times," he said.
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  "In times of glory and redemption as well as sorrow and trouble." Because Hashem creates negativity and positivity.
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  Hashem is the only one.
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  So if we are receiving situation under distress, this situation is a challenge for us and is a teaching from Hashem.
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  So circumstance, be they good or bad, will not interfere with the psalmist's continual blessing of God.
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  So we have to bless Hashem in when for the good and also for the bad.
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  In situation where we feel I am happy and is a clear really happiness in a, a wedding, a, something that make me feel, that content.
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  And by the other side, when I feel also constricted, when I feel in distress, also I have to bless Hashem.
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  The number third says,"My soul glories in God." what means praising God.
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  If he dwells on his own problems, this is another approach.
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  If you dwell in your own problems, he is liable to feel anguish and doubt.
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  Correct?
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  I feel doubt.
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  I cannot sleep at night.
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  But by thinking about God, he invar- he automatically have awareness of a, of the greatness and glory of Hashem.
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  And that is a eternally present, and Hashem is eternally present.
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  So when he feels that and he change the attitude of feeling the constrictedness, the despair And you divert that from anguish and doubt, and change your mind and instead of, thinking about negativity, you think about God greatness.
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  When you think about that, that create- a change of mind, and this is what David is using, a change even in his attitude of like a mad man.
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  So the humble will hear and rejoice.
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  The arrogant who were the enemies of David will not rejoice hearing of his salvation.
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  Means that we have to be humble.
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  What is humble?
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  There is two thing.
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  When a person is psychology.
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  when you depend in what others will think about you, and you are looking about the external result, and then you are enforcing your ego.
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  But when you are humble and then you are not dependent of what others may say about you, you enforce your capacity, and that is what means to be humble.
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  A arrogant is a person that suffer of ego, and he get upset, he may respond with anger towards others.
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  But when you think about yourself, and you don't care about others, so you are independent, if I suffer because someone is thinking negatively about me, I am showing my ego.
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  If I don't take care of that, and instead I turn my concern towards holiness, towards God, what is being a, a suffering turn to something that give me a, peace of mind, and I am not afraid.
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  The only one that we have to fear is the fear of God.
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  It is important that who I consider myself, who I am, strong.
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  And this is the moral that shows David.
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  Consequently, the psalmist calls on everyone to extol God.
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  Declare the greatness of the Lord Let us extol his name together.
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  And this is, David advice.
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  He says in the fifth,"I sought the Lord and he answered me.
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  He delivered me from all the things I dreaded." So if I look for Hashem instead of looking for me and seeing me like a victim, then I overcome the situation and I am safe.
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  So six, those who look at him, means to Hashem, are not humiliated, and their faces will never be ashamed.
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  The centrality of God's presence in their lives is a primary source of blessing and strength.
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  So this is what the Kabbalist teaches us.
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  Since the moment we wake up, we have to feel that we are in front of the master of the universe.
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  When I feel that Hashem is in front of me, then there is no fear because I feel his presence.
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  I feel his protection.
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  In addition, the psalmist affirms that God listen to the humble and comes to their aid.
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  And when they say, a poor cried out, and the Lord heard him and saved him from all his trouble." Who is a poor man?
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  Is a man that is humble.
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  And the idea of humble mean no ego.
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  And the way to remove the ego, that is something very difficult to do, is not simple.
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  Is by turning our face and our mind, because the mind is the one that think, and analyze the situation.
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  in reference to Hashem.
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  So the God's salvation is not always noticed by its beneficiary.
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  But the angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him and rescue and protect them.
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  So every mitzvah we perform generates an angel.
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  So we have many angel that constantly protects us.
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  What it is?
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  An angel is energy.
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  Is something that I create.
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  We create angel.
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  We create situations in our life.
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  Nothing comes by mistake.
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  Everything is created by us.
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  When I feel the responsibility that everything that happen is because of the way that I behave, then I remove that fear from me, and I feel responsible, and I turn my face only to the master of the universe.
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  "Taste and see that the Lord is good." The word that they use here as taste, means come from closeness to God.
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  When you taste something, you discern if it is salty, if it is sweet, if it is bitter.
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  At level of sensation that goes to our brain, spiritually means when I taste a situation that I have in life, I analyze that situation, then I understand clearly what is happening.
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  The way to behave is by understanding.
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  When not rewarded by material gain.
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  So taste is the metaphor for intellectual discernment, just as one tastes food to see if it is bitter or sweet.
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  Relationship with God can be approached in two ways.
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  Through simple faith that we inherit from our ancestor, or through our own personal appreciation of him.
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  We have two ways to connect with Hashem.
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  So this verse teaches us to cultivate both.
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  Taste means understanding God with the mind, making devotion genuine and personal, while see points to recognizing God's goodness through the simple faith passed down from our ancestors.
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  So there is two ways one is, I accept.
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  The other way is analyzing, recognizing that what is in reality behind everything So the 10 says, fear the Lord, his only ones, for those who fear him lack nothing." Hashem is the one that will protect and bless us.
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  The 11 says,"Young lion may suffer want and hunger, but those who seek the Lord will lack no good." Lion because we are compared like Israel is compare like lions.
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  A lion symbolized by a unrefined soul which has not yet elevated the body it inhabits.
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  Means we have two things.
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  Our body that is rough, is our, wanting to move, to react, to go to war, to be a strong.
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  But also there is lacking it feels hungry.
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  But this is the hunger of the physical desires.
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  It experiences a spiritual hunger, yearning for its true nourishment, the godly sparks hidden within the physical world.
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  So we have hiding sparks that are holy, and this is part of our neshamah.
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  We have two type of souls, and the Alter Rebbe teaches us in Chabad.
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  That we have a, an animal soul, and a godly soul.
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  So the animal soul looks for satisfaction of the physical body and is oriented only about materiality.
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  But the godly soul is connected with God and is holy.
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  And every one of us, have a spark of holiness inside us.
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  So what we have to do is to elevate these holy spiritual sparks of holiness, of goodness, of kindness that are inside us to give, God wants to give.
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  The, body wants to receive.
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  So when we connect both of them and we channel the power and the strength of the body, of the animal soul, because the animal has a physical strength.
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  I want to exercise.
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  I want to increase the size or the power of my muscles.
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  But at the same time, we have to train our spiritual muscles, those muscles that connect us with Hashem.
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  Those who seek Hashem, those that seek the sparks of holiness inside, strive to reveal God's presence in the world, it's also to include other people to, ones closest to me, to influence there is another connection in the world same way that a network is the internet network I can connect to you even that we are not in the same physical space The same way our energy, when we express an energy of kindness, an energy of holiness, that energy doesn't stay in us only.
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  It is spread everywhere.
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  To the contrary, if a negative, kind of situation, or you are dominated with your yetzer hara, your, evil inclination, will influence everyone around you.
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  We have to see, that the world was created for each of us, because what I see is a reflection of What I am thinking.
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  We are a reflection.
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  Everything that we see is a mirror of who we are.
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  When we see something negative on others, that is something negative in us.
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  And here, this in the 12 says,"Come children Listen to me.
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  I will teach you to fear the Lord.
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  So the following verses addresses to students or young people do not supply practical instruction for material success, but are intended to define the proper behavior of God-fearing people.
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  So the 13 says,"Who is the man who desire life, See good." So who is that person?
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  Is a person that guards himself, guards his tongue for no connecting with evil.
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  It's very hard not to connect, not to judge something negative that we see on others.
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  But instead to focus in negativity, let's focus in goodness.
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  Let's focus in doing good things.
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  It's the same idea that if you want to remove a negative trait the example of a diet.
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  Instead of restrict myself of not eating something that is bad for me, let's eat something that is good So when I eat something that is good I eat a protein I eat something that is not toxic and doesn't have any processes food, automatically, I am going to decrease my inclination to eating wrong thing.
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  The same way is here.
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  If I want to remove negative trait that I have, we cannot be,, stuck in negativity and feel that I am bad or feeling that I cannot improve.
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  No.
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  Absolutely not.
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  If I am learning a new way of using science or technology, I will not feel that I have an obstacle.
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  To the contrary, I have to be open I have to move and continue feeding the good place, the good things that I have.
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  The same idea, feed in a child their strength.
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  And don't, signal, negative, the 14 say,"Guard your tongue for evil." So that is what it means.
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  "And guard your lips from speaking any word of deceit." We have to guard our tongue and guard ourself not to become angry.
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  And understanding that if I become angry, it's because of my ego, because I feel that I was not listened, they didn't do whatever I wanted they will do.
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  "So turn away from evil," says the 15, say David HaMelech,"and do good." Exactly.
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  "Seek peace and pursue it." So the Baal Shem Tov here says something very beautiful, he taught that one who sees fault in his fellow is himself guilty of that fault to some degree.
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  The fact that he observes it in his fellow is a prompt from heaven to address that same flaw in himself.
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  When you see something negativity, this is in regard to that everything is a mirror of ourself.
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  You are seeing yourself.
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  You are not seeing them.
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  So when we understand that is a way that Hashem is telling us,"Okay, pay attention of that." Instead of to judge in a negative way, look at yourself because when we judge, we are judging, we are creating the energy of judgment, the energy of Din.
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  And the energy of Din is very strong and severe, so we don't want to feel severity on us.
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  We don't want to have a iron fist that will turn towards us.
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  And instead of if you want to teach someone that is behaving not right way, express that with kindness and with love, never with negative words.
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  Okay, so the 16 says,"The eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and His ears are open to their cry." Hashem always is connected with us.
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  Hashem sees us every second.
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  Ev- Hashe- Hashem knows every one of our thought, even our thought we might change.
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  So how we change our thought?
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  By something very important: having control.
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  Having control of my mind.
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  Okay, I have a negative thought, I have to say,"Cancel," to myself.
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  I...
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  this is not the right way to f- to continue.
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  So when I control that at the level of my mind, I will control when I want to exteriorize through my speech and through my physical actions.
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  So that is very important, so we have to, start controlling from the mind in order that the physicality of our bodies, our speech, and our action will be controlled, too Okay.
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  uh, 17, the face of the Lord, turns against the evil doers.
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  So we have to think to say,"Okay, this is not my business to judge.
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  Hashem is in charge.
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  He will know if they deserve or if they don't deserve." He will show them also, because all of us, every human being is a son or a daughter of Hashem.
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  And he loves all of us with our mistakes.
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  Hashem loves us.
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  So he will find, this is not my business.
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  I am not...
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  I ha- I cannot be the judge of other person.
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  So the 18, they cry out and the Lord hears them, delivering them from their troubles.
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  Okay, and the 19, the Lord is near to the people with broken heart and save those whose spirit is crushed.
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  And here is the idea of to be humble again.
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  Through our prayers, through our study of Torah, we have to humble ourself and turn to Hashem for his guidance.
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  And the 20 says, many evils may afflict a righteous man.
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  Okay, that is true.
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  We can, even that we are righteous and we didn't do anything wrong, and we have problems, but this is like Hashem is sending that in a beneficiary way.
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  It's for us, for our benefit.
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  Not for, punish.
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  Hashem doesn't want to punish us.
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  We came to this world as Neshamot invested inside a body and clothed in a body to repair something that we didn't accomplish in previous life.
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  That is the reason that we are here.
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  And the challenges that we confront in life are challenges that are specifically for me.
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  So what I am looking- is exactly what I need to repair.
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  If we have that in our mind, then we can change our attitude, and instead of no sleeping at night because something happened to us, we have the Shema Yisrael Alamita in order to make a analyzing what is there, what is happening during the day, and how I can repair.
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  So the, 21 say,"He preserves all his bones, and that not one of them will be broken." The word bones in Hebrew is etzem.
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  And the word etzem means the essence of a person.
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  So we have an essence, and that essence is never broken.
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  So Hashem preserves us, preserves inner soul, this inner spark, this inner, fire that is a good fire, a fire of devotion for Hashem.
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  This fire is the passion we have., There is two type of fires.
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  You can have a fire that destroy and a fires that, warms you up when it's winter and it's very cold.
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  That is the bones.
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  And the bones also refers that Hashem give us, 248 positive commandment and 363 negative commandments.
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  Law not to do.
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  Yes do.
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  So the positive is do it.
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  What is an example?
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  Do Shabbat.
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  light the candles.
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  Is a do of the 248.
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  Negative, don't slander.
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  Don't say, any evil t- tongue.
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  Don't say words that are negative.
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  And share your goodness with others.
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  Have the courage to always stand, to Hashem.
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  This psalm is recited during Shabbat, the morning prayer of Shabbat- and holidays.
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  It expresses a devotion to God especially suited to days set apart from the weekday material concerns.
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  During the sixth day of the week, we are concerned with many situation.
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  We are fighting many problems of We need to solve many material problems that we may have.
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  And we are absorbing the struggle of the livelihood, but in Shabbat is the day of rest.
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  Is not only a day where we can sleep the whole day.
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  It's a day rest for our conne- our mind, that we have time on Shabbat to connect completely with Hashem.
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  So when we go to the synagogue, when we pray collectively with others, and all we are united and sharing our love and our connection, that is the moment that we have in order to nourish that holy spark that we have in us.
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  So where we nourish that?
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  We nourish in Shabbat.
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  Shabbat is a moment of nourishment.
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  What we have to do in life is to change our mindset and have this mindset David HaMelech is giving us, to turn from negativity and turn negativity into good and focus more in the good than in the negativity.
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  Not to judge anybody And leave to Hashem his job, because this is the job of Hashem, not yours.
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  So I don't have to do that.
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  I have to only look at me.
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  Remember that everything that we see in the world is a mirror of ourself.
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  Every beauty that we see outside is the beauty that we have inside.
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  Every negativity that we have is inside us.
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  So when we understand that what we see is me, I am seeing myself, then I can understand and remove from there, and become and improve in my life, become better and better, and have this love for others.
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  It.
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  Thank you.
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  I would like to hear, Elisabetta, if you want any comment.
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  yeah, it's very insightful and, I love the, the, the closure because, it, it really wraps it all up when it says, Shabbat or...
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  really we need to, change our mindset, transform ourself like in a way, like, like David did by faking, madness.
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  It was a change, in his mindset.
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  I think that's, to me at least the way I'm understanding, the essence of this Psalm.
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  And so let the Yetzer Tov, you know, prevail over the Yetzer Hara because- As you said, we have this duality of animal soul and godly soul and the key is to let the yetzer hara tov prevail control the yetzer hara.
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  You can't eliminate it, but you need to control it because they're both...
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  You need both in life.
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  Exactly.
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  You can't live only with yetzer hara or only yetzer tov.
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  You need both, but the key is controlling, right?
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  I think that is like life mission to control think.
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  Exactly.
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  And, be the better than we can be.
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  Yes, exactly, the, animal soul is what preserve our body.
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  Is what preserve you, to take care of your health.
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  So it's important.
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  you need to exercise.
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  You need to- Exactly yeah You need to exercise.
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  It's important for you.
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  But is, uh, also think of exercising your spiritual muscles, like I said.
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  That's right.
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  That's right.
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  That's right.
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  Very good.
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  Thank you.
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  Julie So I would say that Psalm 34 is really about changing your mindset.
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  If you're really struggling with something, it's all about turning to the Psalm and really recognizing the example that King David, presented to us.
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  So it's the idea of being able to be so clear in your mind to be able to analyze a situation, to be able, again, to go back to another Psalm, to pause in those moments, and to really be able to step into, how am I going to analyze this situation?
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  Instead of getting so overwhelmed, because like I said the other day, which I've been really working- on is that, yeah, I have problems.
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  But my problems, first of all, were created, I also know that Hashem is so much bigger than my problem, okay.
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  So it's then taking that moment to pause, analyze with a healthy, clear mind how I'm going to resolve a situation.
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  Exactly.
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  Perfect.
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  So that's what Psalm 34 is really all about.
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  And it's really interesting, because if you look at a pattern that we're creating is that earlier on it was all about the pause, okay.
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  And now we're moving into, okay, you can pause, but what about changing your mindset?
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  So that's really powerful.
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  Yeah, exactly.
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  And again, I hear it all the time, but it was just so beautiful how you said again, there's only one judge.
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  And it's not me.
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  And who am I to judge?
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  That's their journey, with Hashem.
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  It's just to be kind, to be loving, be compassionate, and be there for someone.
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  How can I offer my help in a situation?
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  I heard a woman talking and she was saying, and I loved how she said it, she said,"How can I be helpful to you?" And it's like in that moment you're like, that person hears you,"How can I be helpful to you in, in this moment?" And so I thought that was really powerful That whole idea of changing your mindset and how David, King David, was so clear of how he was able to behave in order to be able to accomplish what he was attempting to accomplish.
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  So I th- I think that's beautiful.
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  That's- Very well said, Judy.
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  Very well said.
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  Excellent.
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  So I just...
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  If you could put a label on that, that sentence when it comes to- what is Psalm 34 about, and you're struggling, change your mindset.
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  And it's so beautiful.
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  It really is.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  It's absolutely beautiful.
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  this psalm is good to use when you have, for example, an interview with someone that is, an interview for work, and, and you need to present yourself and whatever you know and your, a- and your skills in a job.
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  So you say this psalm before the interview.
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  Interesting and also another, uh, advice is to use this psalm when you are in a court in order to influence positively the judge on you.
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  So that's like Psalm 5, when you talked about- Yes Psalm 5 in the court.
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  Yes.
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  Yes.
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  Youn- Yeah, I'm just...
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  Probably it's echoing to everybody, and, it reminds me, that judgment belongs to God.
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  And our job is bring goodness and light by Torah study and mitzvot.
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  There are situations, and an interaction with the people we may like, we may not like it.
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  But,, it's all part of, Hashem's creations and His plan.
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  He will be the judge.
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  Hashem is just showing, and doing our job by being His lamp.
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  So our job is to follow the commandments.
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  That is our job.
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  If you follow the commandments, you will be protected.
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  They are not an imposition, the commandments are for our benefits, to protect us.
• 35:07
  Why we have to have Shabbat?
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  Because this is the moment that I can reflect a little more.
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  I don't have any stress of the da- my livelihood.
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  In Shabbat, I have to forget everything.
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  Shabbat, we don't talk about, work problems.
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  Doesn't exist.
• 35:28
  N- there is no problems in Shabbat.
• 35:31
  Shabbat is the day of kindness, is the days of love, is the days of interconnection with the transcendental, with Hashem Agadol, Gibor veNora.
• 35:43
  So it's interesting that it's in this extreme way, but it has this very hidden meaning of the importance of simply changing your mindset.
• 35:54
  Excellent.
• 35:55
  Yes, it is.
• 35:56
  Natalie?
• 35:57
  There's so much.
• 35:58
  Basically, e- everything that everybody said.
• 36:01
  There's so much., I think that the importance that grabbed me is the importance of mindset.
• 36:06
  And we're seeing, it's, it, Judaism seems like that's almost a crux that, we're taught.
• 36:10
  And everything that we're taught is to have the mindset of positivity, to not be negative, to not be...
• 36:16
  i love the thought about there's no...
• 36:18
  We shouldn't be judgmental.
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  that's Hashem's job.
• 36:21
  there's just, I, this Shabbat, the reflection, thinking of Shabbat as a day of reflection, not just a day of not working, but of what we, the, the peacefulness and positivity of Shabbat.
• 36:34
  When you enter Shabbat and light the candles It's a very special moment the We are lighting the light in our home, lighting love, lighting wisdom in everything that surrounds us.
• 36:52
  And we have to meditate that this is the light that comes from above, is the primordial light.
• 36:59
  It is the first light., The light that is hidden in Shamayim from the first day of creation, and that, light, brings warm, bring peace, bring healing to us.
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  So that is the message when we light the candles.
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  And, the custom is that the husband, before he say Kiddush, before he give the blessing of the wine, he must turn his face towards the candles light Because now he is making a junction between him and his wife, because they both, they are looking to the source of blessings.
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  That is what they are bringing.
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  And then when they pronounce the Kiddush, that is the holiness of the Shabbat, so that is the connection, and you have a completeness there between husband and wife.
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  Remember that the Psalm, message is to change our mind constantly, and changing our mind in a positive way, turning from negativity and be in peace.
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  So when we do that, we create a completeness in us.
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  We create what it means shalom, Word to use in a meditation could be shalom, because that is the completion of changing our mind.
• 38:25
  The solution is completeness, is peace of mind.
• 38:29
  So I wish you a peace of mind, that you will have a wonderful week, a week filled of wonderful accomplishment your mind always will go towards Hashem,...
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  See Hashem in front of you always.
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  When you see Hashem in front of us always, we receive that peace, this shalom that I am mentioning.
• 38:53
  So thank you.
• 38:54
  No.
• 38:54
  Actually, it's inside of us, right?
• 38:56
  Exactly.
• 38:57
  We have, different levels, four levels in order to be connected with Hashem.
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  A first level would be Hashem as completely external.
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  Then there is level in, which Hashem is nourishing me.
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  The maximum, the high level, is the level of Atzilut when I am like a flame.
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  I am part of a flame Hashem.
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  This light, I am one spark of that light.
• 39:25
  I am included inside the light.
• 39:28
  So- So when you say that, is it like when you're talking about, the 13 attributes of Hashem, for example?
• 39:35
  Is that more when we're...
• 39:37
  It's more God is within us?
• 39:41
  N- not necessarily.
• 39:42
  Not necessarily.
• 39:43
  Okay.
• 39:43
  The, the, the third attributes are only teaching us, that the, is, the attributes of God.
• 39:50
  Is the attribute of kindness, the attributes of mercy, the attributes of being- slow in anger, and- So that's, but how we're supposed to- okay.
• 40:00
  Exactly yeah.
• 40:00
  Correct.
• 40:00
  Okay But we must internalize those attributes in us.
• 40:07
  So that is the goal, to internalize.
• 40:09
  If we Internalize The kindness of Hashem inside me- that is something huge, correct?
• 40:16
  And no one can reach that level.
• 40:19
  That will be the goal.
• 40:19
  That's the goal, to look at those 13 attributes and say,"Am I behaving the way that God wants me to behave?" Exactly.
• 40:26
  Okay.
• 40:26
  And this is what you want as a parent.
• 40:29
  For us, mothers or fathers- when, our child n- doesn't behave, you overlook many things- because of your love.
• 40:37
  Exactly.
• 40:39
  Okay.
• 40:40
  Correct?
• 40:40
  Thank you so much.
• 40:40
  So I wish you, a wonderful week.
• 40:42
  Elul is a time of analyzing our acts for the year.
• 40:48
  So that will be the next class.
• 40:50
  Beautiful.
• 40:50
  Great.
• 40:50
  Thank you.
• 40:50
  Okay, everybody have a lovely week.
• 40:52
  Thank you.
• 40:52
  Bye.
• 40:53
  Bye.
• 40:53
  Thank you.
• 40:54
  Thank you very much.
• 40:55
  Thank you.
• 40:55
  Thank you, Miriam.
• 40:56
  Bye.