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Someone Threw a Football In My Yard... · Armstrong & Getty One More Thing

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  Speaker 1: Somebody threw a football into my backyard? Do you know
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  Speaker 1: who it belongs to? It's one more thing.
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  Speaker 2: I'm one more thing.
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  Speaker 3: What are you talking about?
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  Speaker 1: I've been familiar with next door for a long time,
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  Speaker 1: but I'd never had the notifications on where I would
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  Speaker 1: get where I would get the regular everything everybody posts?
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  Speaker 1: Good God, is that a smorgus board of unimportant things?
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  Speaker 1: It is?
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  Speaker 3: Question?
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  Speaker 2: It is the forum the first world problems?
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  Speaker 1: Is well, it's it's a combination of like first world
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  Speaker 1: problems that you really don't need to mention out loud
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  Speaker 1: to anyone, and uh, and like big problems.
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  Speaker 3: That there are much better venues for finding the answer,
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  Speaker 3: like my you know, my dad has got this disease.
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  Speaker 1: My dad's got Parkinson. He happened to be president. Does
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  Speaker 1: anybody recommend a good doctor? You're going on next door
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  Speaker 1: for that, as that your best place to try to
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  Speaker 1: figure out these things?
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  Speaker 3: Just seems odd to me. Yeah, I guess nobody ever responds,
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  Speaker 3: So I don't know why everybody's fishing in this pond.
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  Speaker 3: I could see asking for a recommendation of like a
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  Speaker 3: service provider or something like that. I wouldn't ask what
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  Speaker 3: medicine do you think he ought to take or anything
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  Speaker 3: like that.
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  Speaker 1: Or you know a football is in my backyards, they
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  Speaker 1: may know it belonged to That was one this morning.
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  Speaker 2: Oh boy, I saw one the other day that somebody
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  Speaker 2: took a picture off of a ring camera of a
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  Speaker 2: kid that doorbell ditched them, and they posted the video
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  Speaker 2: on next door going.
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  Speaker 3: Who is kid? Is this right? Right?
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  Speaker 1: Lots of those, lots of those, lots of did anybody
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  Speaker 1: just hear that noise that happens like ten times a day?
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  Speaker 3: And then various responses.
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  Speaker 1: I did too. I thought it sounded like a gun.
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  Speaker 1: It didn't sound like a gun. It sounded like more okay, whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But here's my favorite one from today that got me
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  Speaker 1: on this very topic. Here's another one. Somebody asking about shingles.
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  Speaker 3: Find a medical professional or glitter or web md or
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  Speaker 3: something not next door. She's talking about roof depilating a
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  Speaker 3: nerve pain or exactly I'm talking about the disease. Here's
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  Speaker 3: my favorite one.
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  Speaker 1: Does anybody know what I should do with this crow?
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  Speaker 1: It has a hurt wing. It landed between our houses.
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying.
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to I'm trying to nurse it back to health.
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  Speaker 1: It keeps hopping around, and I don't know what to
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  Speaker 1: do with it. You got to put the whip to it.
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  Speaker 1: It's not trying hard enough. What should I do with it?
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  Speaker 2: Call it a sissy and tell it to try harder.
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  Speaker 3: Right, exactly, tell it. The Good Lord helps crows that
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  Speaker 3: help themselves. Like, is it like the new Google for
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  Speaker 3: your neighbors?
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  Speaker 2: I don't understand why people are utilizing that, all.
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  Speaker 1: Right, that's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: You don't have Google or any of the other search
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  Speaker 3: engines for figuring stuff out, or even TikTok or whatever
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  Speaker 3: you do. You go to the next door with the
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  Speaker 3: other eighty year old. Nothing else to do is to
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  Speaker 3: answer your question. Yeah, yeah, it's just I just shocked
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  Speaker 3: by it. And I've always wondered this about when I
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  Speaker 3: didn't live in a neighborhood for like twenty years.
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  Speaker 1: But now I'm in a neighborhood. Every neighborhood I've ever
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  Speaker 1: lived in, pretty much, there are quite a few houses
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  Speaker 1: where you know who lives there, even if you don't
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  Speaker 1: know know them, you see them on a regular basis,
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  Speaker 1: getting in their car, kid, coming home on a bike, whatever.
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  Speaker 3: But there's always several houses where you just never see anybody.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah ever, ever, you never see anybody ever. Somebody lives there.
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  Speaker 3: Lights get turned on at night, off in the morning,
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  Speaker 3: and that must be the crowd that's on next door
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  Speaker 3: asking about crows or medical questions or whatever. It must
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  Speaker 3: be that crowd. You gotta go on next door and say, hey,
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  Speaker 3: has anybody ever seen anybody come out of the blue house?
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  Speaker 2: Just start asking really weird questions on there, Jack, that'd
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  Speaker 2: be perfect.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, speaking of asking advice, I thought this was so
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  Speaker 3: interesting and it makes sense in my head. See if
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  Speaker 3: it does to you. It's new research out about getting advice,
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  Speaker 3: asking for advice, that sort of thing, and this, Elizabeth
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  Speaker 3: Bernstein writes, we tend to believe the best person for
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  Speaker 3: support during a tough time will always be someone who's
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  Speaker 3: been there before. Turns out that's wrong. New research shows
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  Speaker 3: we may get better help from people who've been through
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  Speaker 3: a significant challenge that's different from our own. Because social
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  Speaker 3: scientists say this is because those who have been through
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  Speaker 3: an unrelated challenge can empathize with our emotional pain, but
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  Speaker 3: they won't assume they know what our experience is like
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  Speaker 3: or bring their own emotional baggage to the conversation.
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  Speaker 1: Oh Hunt great, That is interesting. I think that one over.
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  Speaker 3: Meanwhile, somebody who's quote unquote been there before sometimes talks
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  Speaker 3: more than they listen. They may also give advice solely
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  Speaker 3: based on their experience and forget that ours is going
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  Speaker 3: to be different, and because they got already got over
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  Speaker 3: the problem, they think we should too, and tend to
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  Speaker 3: minimize how painf situation is.
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  Speaker 1: My main advice with big things that I've been through
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  Speaker 1: is usually having been through this, don't listen to anybody's advice.
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  Speaker 1: So that's about my only advice on a number of
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  Speaker 1: big things.
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  Speaker 3: Wow wow interesting. A cynical man or an experienced man.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes you don't know. Sometimes someone you don't know well
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  Speaker 3: may have different life experiences that you can draw upon.
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  Speaker 3: You never know what people know until you ask.
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  Speaker 1: Well, like, that's the advice I give them my cancer experience,
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  Speaker 1: because I've had a number of people ask me who
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  Speaker 1: get cancer, and I say, don't take anybody's advice because
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  Speaker 1: everybody's situation is so incredibly different. I heard so many
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  Speaker 1: things that turned out not to be true. I'd've been
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  Speaker 1: better off if I never asked. Everybody's situation is miles
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  Speaker 1: apart and changes on a daily basis, so don't worry
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  Speaker 1: about it. And child rearing while not the same as that,
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  Speaker 1: because there are some truths tochild wearing, definitely, but man,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of I don't know, what are you
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  Speaker 1: telling me this for when it comes to child wearing.
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  Speaker 3: Also, yeah, a lot of people are trying to express
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  Speaker 3: their own how do I put this, work out their
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  Speaker 3: own issues or exhibit their own egos or something.
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  Speaker 1: Because kids are so different, and then the parents interaction
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  Speaker 1: with the kid is so different. It's just, yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: hard to normalize a lot of it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe the worst advice giver is somebody who's raised
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  Speaker 3: a kid, because getting back to the beginning of this article,
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  Speaker 3: they're completely convinced that their experience is universal. I'm not
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  Speaker 3: talking about all of you that have had one child.
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  Speaker 3: Obviously some of you have wisdom, but yeah, you'd exactly
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  Speaker 3: be what she was describing. Yep, I because I've got
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  Speaker 3: that situation. It ends up fine.
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  Speaker 1: If I just if I'd only had one of them,
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  Speaker 1: I would think I was the world's greatest parent and
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  Speaker 1: be willing to lay out all kinds of advice and
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  Speaker 1: maybe write a book if I don't la ad the
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  Speaker 1: other one.
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  Speaker 3: I would think I'm a disaster. Yeah, I heard that.
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  Speaker 3: So final note on this, which I found interesting was
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  Speaker 3: the power of weak ties. Conversations with people that you
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  Speaker 3: have weak ties with can be surprisingly helpful. They don't
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  Speaker 3: know us well, they don't know our faults. They're less
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  Speaker 3: likely to judge us or make assumptions about our situation
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  Speaker 3: or something like that.
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  Speaker 1: I've had many experiences like this.
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  Speaker 3: Are much more likely to be a fellow, like a brainstormer,
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  Speaker 3: than a bestower of alleged wisdom. They're much more likely
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  Speaker 3: to listen and toss out ideas with you than try
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  Speaker 3: to lay the law down.
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  Speaker 1: This is the guy sitting next to you at the
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  Speaker 1: bar or the bus stop or whatever. Yeah. I've had
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  Speaker 1: this experience many times in my life, and it works
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  Speaker 1: both directions. They don't have any particular agenda. Because they
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  Speaker 1: don't know you and you don't They can say things
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  Speaker 1: that if somebody who did know you said them, you'd
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  Speaker 1: get furiously angry. But because you don't know them at
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  Speaker 1: all and have nothing invested, you can just hear what
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  Speaker 1: they have to say.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, the power of weak ties thought provoking. Yeah, ask
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  Speaker 3: a stranger, Well, I guess that's it.