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How to PREDICT a Narcissist's BEHAVIORS · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about how to predict a
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  narcissist behavior, how to get how to predict it, how to just
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  guess what they're going to do next.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  The Narcissist Code. So boom.
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  Welcome back, folks. Welcome back, welcome back.
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  Yeah, predicting a narcissist behavior can help you out, can
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  help so many people. Yeah, this can help you out so
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  damn much because a lot of narcissists and types of people
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  are very predictable. Their behaviors are very,
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  extremely predictable. It's like you, you can guess
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  what they're going to do next. You know what's coming next.
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  You know, a lot of them are. There's some narcissists that,
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  like, this is one thing you don't, this is one thing you do
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  not do to a narcissist. Don't tell them that they're
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  predictable. Yeah, you have to use like, this
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  is like your, this is like your dirty little secret right here.
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  Do not tell them that they are predictable, because once you
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  tell them that, they're going to start switching their behaviors
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  up like a damn committee. They're going to change their
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  colors. You know what I'm saying?
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  You don't want to let them know that you think that they're
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  predictable. Just predict it.
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  Just use that to your advantage. Use their predictability to your
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  advantage. Don't, don't, don't show your
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  hand. It's like you're playing poker.
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  Hey, what's your hand? Hey, you want to see my hand?
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  Oh, here it is. I had a full house.
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  Oh, you going to fold? I could have won if I didn't
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  tell you. Oh, damn.
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  I don't know the rules. Now you know the rules.
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  You know. Now you know the rules you have.
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  You have to have a you have to have a poker face.
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  It is it is type of situation right?
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  You have to understand your target.
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  You have to understand, but for lack of a better word, you have
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  to understand your enemy. These people are your these
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  people are your enemy. You know what I mean These
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  people are like these are these people.
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  Like I said, once you get good at predicting their behavior or
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  predicting what they're going to do next, it can help you
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  absolutely help you survive and thrive against this person.
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  Like I said, the the number one thing you do not want to do is
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  to say, hey, I you're predictable because my wife, you
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  say that. I know, I know exactly what
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  you're going to do. I know exactly what you're going
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  to say. I can predict you.
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  I know what you're going to do next.
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  OK, cool. You think I like this.
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  You think I like that. OK, watch this.
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  And I would switch my behaviors. I would switch up my likes and
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  my dislikes. I will become unpredictable,
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  even to my detriment, even if it would harm me in some way.
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  I wanted to be unpredictable because being to me, in my mind,
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  being unpredictable or not, people not knowing exactly what
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  I had going on side of my head gave me this weird type of
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  power, gave me this weird feeling of being in control and
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  things like that, right? So I like predict.
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  I like being unpredictable, so I don't like people being able to
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  guess what I'm going to do or what I'm going to say that I
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  hate that y'all hate that. And there are a lot of
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  narcissists out there that hate the same thing.
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  So if you tell me that you know me, I know everything about you,
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  I'm going to start adding things that you don't know.
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  I'm going to start doing things that you don't know.
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  So don't. So don't do not show your hand.
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  Understand their patterns. Like like in order to predict a
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  narcissist behaviors, right, you have to go to narcissist school.
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  You have to go to narcissism, narcissism one-on-one and
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  narcissism one-on-one. Lesson 1.
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  The greatest predictor of future behaviors is past behaviors.
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  Look at their past, y'all look at their past.
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  Very rarely do narcissists shift to the point where they're going
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  to be completely different people in new relationships.
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  So if you know this person, right, if you know them, you've
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  been knowing them for a while and they've been cheating on
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  everybody, they they they've been with, chances are they're
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  going to cheat on you. You see what I'm saying?
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  You can predict that behavior. You seen them cheating on people
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  around them. You seen them abusing people
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  around them. You seen them.
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  You know them, right, So you know you that's the easiest way
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  to predict. The easiest way to predict their
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  future behaviors is to see their look at their past.
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  I'm just like, if you already in a relationship with this person,
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  look how look at what they've done in the past when you've
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  responded to a certain way, right.
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  This is how you get predicting their behaviors can get to get
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  can get you. It can allow you to get them to
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  do what you want them to do, right.
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  So if you predict what they're going to do, what they're going
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  to say and how they're going to act, you can shift them to get
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  what you want from them. It's like being able.
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  It's like being a little manipulative a little it's a
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  splash of manipulation, but it's not.
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  This is a horrible manipulation unless you're trying to get them
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  to go to jail or something like that for something that some
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  trying to frame them for something, something that
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  narcissistic robot needs to reset talking to fans unless
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  you're trying to frame them for something that they did not
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  actually do, you know, So just like any spaces right here, look
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  at their past behaviors. Look at their past behaviors.
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  Like how what have they done in the past?
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  When you've said this, when you said that, how have they
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  reacted? Chances are they're going to
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  react the exact same way. You know what I said chances are
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  right. Yeah, chances are they're going
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  to react in a certain type of way.
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  They could change it up. Most times they're going to do
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  the same things over and over again.
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  The same behaviors, the same patterns are a is a narcissist
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  comfort zone, right? I'm, I'm comfortable being able
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  to do the same things over and over again.
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  No, I'm comfortable being able to do and say the same things
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  over and over again. Being able to act the same way
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  over and over again, being able to get away with the same things
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  over and over again by giving the same excuse over and over
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  again. I'm comfortable with my patterns
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  even though I don't want you to know what my patterns are.
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  I think my pattern. I think I'm smarter than you.
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  So I think I don't think you could predict predict my
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  patterns. Get good at predicting their
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  patterns. They coming home late at night
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  or whatever, but they told you to head stop cheating.
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  They're not seeing this person anymore.
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  Chances are they still are you something.
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  Chances are they still have not changed their behaviors.
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  They might try to get you to, they might switch it up for a
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  little while, but they revert back to their comfort zone.
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  They revert back to the comfort zone.
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  If you, if you've been in a relationship with them and
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  you've broken up four or five times and you've gotten back,
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  gotten back together so many times and every single time
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  you've gotten mad to the other two or three weeks later, they
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  start going back to their old ways.
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  That's predicting their behaviors.
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  You already know two or three weeks is going to change, but
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  it's going to go back to normal, predict their behaviors.
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  What are you doing? Tell yourself the truth.
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  Like I know that like I have, you have evidence that you're
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  that this is the truth of the situation, right?
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  You really, really do, you really, really, you really,
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  really have evidence that this person is who they, who you
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  think they are. And that's why I'm just saying
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  like you really can do the type of stuff to get them to do what
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  you want them to do. It's a, it's a, it's definitely
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  a possibility. So get good at predicting their
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  behaviors. And that way, and I said that
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  way, you can understand, you can kind of dig into the mind of a
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  narcissist. Don't show your hand, but just
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  get good at understanding their behaviors and another way to
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  predict their behaviors. Yeah, Ask yourself this one
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  question right here. What's the greatest benefit for
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  them? In what way is this going to
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  benefit them the most? In what way is accomplishing
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  this goal or getting this thing for them?
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  In what way is that going to benefit them the most?
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  In what way? How?
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  Like I said, how is this going to benefit them?
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  How? How is this going to benefit
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  them? That's how you can predict their
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  behaviors right there. Like, how is this going to hurt
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  them? How is this going to benefit
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  them? If you can understand how it's
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  going to benefit them, you can get them.
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  You can get them to shift their behaviors in your favor by
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  asking more beneficial questions to you, right?
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  How is this going to benefit them?
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  What good out of what good comes with this?
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  I was in last night. I was in, in my, in my, we do,
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  in my support group called the mental healers, right?
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  We do a weekly zoom meeting on Sunday evenings, right?
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  And there's a lady on there. She, she was trying to get her
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  narcissistic ex to sign some paperwork.
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  She's like, I need, I need him to sign this for me so I can
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  take him to court if I, if I need to.
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  She said I'm like, OK, what's the benefit in it for him to
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  sign that? She said, oh, there's no benefit
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  in it. It's just benefiting me.
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  I was like, if I was him, I wouldn't sign that.
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  How would that doesn't benefit? Like that's see, I predicted his
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  behavior. He's not going to sign it.
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  He's not going to sign a document saying that I owe you
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  this money and I have to pay this back.
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  Why would he do that? How is it going to benefit him?
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  I can predict that easy because I asked myself the question, how
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  is it going to benefit him? Oh, it isn't and he's not going
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  to do it. You have to make it beneficial
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  to them. That's how you can predict and
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  alter their behaviors. You know, because I don't I
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  don't know how how do I make it beneficial?
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  I like you have to understand who he is.
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  You have to go to narcissist school.
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  Look at your relationship. Look, look at kind of look at
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  your relationship as a like a book.
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  Go back to read this science book.
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  You know how those those I don't know if y'all went to college or
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  not. They're how high, how expensive
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  those damn textbooks are in college, narcissist, the
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  narcissist textbook is expensive as hell.
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  You don't like you pay. You pay the price with your
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  time, effort and energy in this relationship with them, right?
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  You paid your time with that, you paid, you paid you, you paid
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  the price, so to speak, within this relationship space.
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  So that's what I'm just saying right now with what you have
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  going on, this is how it goes. This is part of it.
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  So now you understand who this person is.
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  How does this benefit them directly?
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  Because if there's no benefit, then why would they do it?
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  You can predict their behaviors and shift their behaviors, you
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  know, because this helps you get good at predicting their
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  behaviors by understanding the the cost and the benefit for
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  that person. Kind of you, you kind of have
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  like reverse engineer a cost benefit analysis on your toxic
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  partner. If you understand what I'm
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  saying. The, the cost for them and the
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  benefit for them. Well, leave.
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  Why don't you just tell me the truth?
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  Like I know they're cheating. Why don't they just tell me the
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  truth? What's the benefit in telling
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  you, in telling you the truth when they think they're going to
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  leave, you're going to leave. They admit to it.
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  But what if I say I'm not going to leave or sign some paperwork
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  or something like that, Say I'm not going to leave?
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  Then they might, they might admit to it, but how much do you
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  need that? How much do you need that
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  admission of guilt when you already have proof?
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  Understand and that space right there.
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  That's why I'm trying to get to the point like understand what's
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  the benefit in it for them. That's how you can predict their
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  behavior. That's how you can predict what
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  what they're really going to do or really not going to do.
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  Because this is the type of stuff that can empower you,
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  y'all. This is the type of stuff that
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  helps you get inside the mind of a narcissist.
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  It really does like and that's why I'm just saying like the
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  more you do, the more you understand their minds and how
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  they work. Narcissistic people are pleasure
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  driven people, self-serving pleasure driven people.
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  What it what's what's going to bring in the most pleasure?
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  What's going to bring in the most pain?
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  Typically they're going to steer away from the pain.
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  Typically they're going to steer away from the pain in missions
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  of guilt. Taking account, taking
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  accountability. You see, there's no pleasure in
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  taking accountability. That's how you can get good at
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  predicting the narcissist behavior.
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  Y'all, that's this is those are just my thoughts.
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  Let me know what you think y'all.
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  Let me know what you're thinking about the video and whatnot,
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  because I know just say it can it can be a very difficult thing
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  and get inside the mind of a narcissist and try to understand
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  the any workings and the the craziness that kind of goes on
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  behind the scenes of a narcissist like it within our
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  minds within our mindscape. Anyway, job, but you haven't
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  I'm out. Peace.
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