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Hypnosis for Extreme Stress Relief - Calm Your Nervous System and Reclaim Control · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this hypnosis session
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  you're going to be listening to hypnosis for not just stress,
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  but we're talking extreme stress.
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  I was working with a client that had a very very high level job
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  and with. That came.
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  Very high level responsibilities and lots of demands.
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  A useful way of defining stress. You can't just say it's
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  demanding. It has to be.
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  Demanding alongside the resources.
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  You have the resources on one side and the demands on the
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  other, and if demands are high but you feel really resourceful,
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  generally this is what's called a flow state.
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  So you feel really resourceful and you get lots of things done,
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  and that's really good. But what can happen is if the
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  demands exceed the resources, that can feel very, very
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  stressful. They exceed it by a lot.
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  That can actually feel overwhelming.
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  And sometimes that amount of stress can lead to health issues
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  or lack of sleep, which then make the person even less
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  resourceful, which then feels even more demanding.
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  And if that then links to people thinking about what if I lose my
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  job? What if this happens?
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  That can then increase anxiety by thinking about what can go
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  wrong, which increases the demands even more.
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  So it can feel like a cycle. It can feel like a vicious cycle
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  where one thing feeds on the other, feeds on the other.
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  And the client I was working with did have genuine health
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  issues, but also the demands of a very demanding role.
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  They even perceived things like Christmas as demands.
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  It was have to buy presents, have to go to certain places,
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  and that felt draining. So what you're going to hear in
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  this is framing the whole thing in a way that feels more based
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  on choice and empowerment and giving it meanings that are
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  going to be more conducive. To a.
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  Calmer, more relaxed nervous system and sometimes that comes
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  from contrast or comparison or linking a new emotion.
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  One of the key things that can lead to stress, by the way, is
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  when people feel obligated. And the clue to obligation is
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  using the word have to I have to do this.
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  And when you feel obligated, that can then feel like you're
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  coerced or forced or trapped. That feels less like it's a
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  choice. If you say I get to do this, it
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  can feel very different. A lot of people will say I have
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  to go to work. I'm stuck in this job.
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  Even this client said that the job is killing them.
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  Now, none of those things are objectively true.
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  What's actually true is that people are choosing to be in a
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  particular job. Anyone could quit.
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  It just comes with consequences. How do you pay the bills?
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  But it feels. Very different from saying I'm
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  stuck in. This job that I hate to, I'm
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  choosing to work in this place for now.
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  And that may sound like a very subtle shift, but from a
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  biochemical and an autonomic nervous system response, that's
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  a big difference. One feels like you're in.
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  Prison. And the other feels like you're
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  just choosing to do something because it's in your own
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  interest. And that's a very calm nervous
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  system on the 2nd and a very stressed nervous system in the
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  1st. So I appreciate I've given a bit
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  of a detailed explanation as to what's happening in this
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  hypnosis session. I think anyone with severe
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  stress will benefit from this because it's very much about
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  calming down the nervous system. But if you're stressed about
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  Christmas or if you hate where you work?
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  Right now whether? Or not you're planning on being
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  self-employed or a consultant is immaterial.
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  There's lots of suggestions here that are quite empowering and
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  useful and conducive to improving health.
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  That said, it was created for an individual.
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  Some of these suggestions are incredibly specific to the
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  client that I was working on and may not be at all relevant for
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  you. So ignore any suggestions that
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  aren't relevant, double down on the ones that are.
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  And at the same time, if you like the idea of a bespoke
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  session where you're working with me directly so we can
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  actually build the session and you experience that live with
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  me, there will be a link in the description in the show notes
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  where you can schedule a completely free consultation
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  call with me. For now though, you might
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  actually get some value from this session.
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  So find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be
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  disturbed, Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  wonderful feeling of calm relaxation and as you exhale,
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  feel a wonderful feeling of release, like a pressure valve
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  just allowing stored up tension, stress, worries to be released
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  in every outward breath. That's it.
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  Breathing in calm, relaxation and releasing as you extend that
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  outward breath for longer than it would normally be.
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  And when you breathe in, breathe in for deeper.
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  So much so that each breath takes you deeper and deeper,
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  relaxed. That's it.
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  And maybe you could imagine one of those old pressure cookers,
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  perhaps an old fashioned steam engine.
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  And I want you to get a sense then for a while now, all of
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  these demands and all of these thoughts and all of these
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  worries feel like they're all building up.
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  And just imagine that steam engine or pressure cooker, if it
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  didn't have that release valve, all that pressure would start
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  causing problems. And I want you to get a sands
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  that now, here, in this moment, give permission to release.
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  Imagine on your outward breath seeing something dark or shadowy
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  leaving your body as you exhale. And then imagine a resourceful
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  healing colour that you breathe in through your nose or your
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  mouth, breathing in what your body needs and exhaling all of
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  these stresses, worries, but also any disempowering beliefs.
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  All it takes is a false belief believed to be true to
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  completely change biochemistry. If you felt with certainty that
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  your life is in danger, your body would act as if that is
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  true. And even if it's just a turn of
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  phrase, thinking or believing that your job is killing you
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  gives a problem that your unconscious is trying to solve.
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  I want you to think of the face of a child, maybe 3-4 years old.
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  How excited they were at the idea of Santa Claus putting a
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  carrot out for a reindeer, a mince pie for Santa.
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  And the excitement was real. Even if the underlying belief
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  behind it was never true. And if that's true for a child,
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  that could be true for you. You might be having real
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  anxieties, real worries, real feelings of stress based on a
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  belief that isn't even true. And therefore, if we change just
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  one belief, what if this House of Cards that's been affecting
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  your health all comes crumbling down?
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  Because sometimes if people are stressed, they don't sleep well.
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  They don't sleep well, they feel less resourceful the next day.
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  Small things like buying a Christmas present feels like a
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  big deal. And the stress feeds on stress
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  feeds on stress. And let's start to reverse that
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  vicious cycle. Because when you feel more
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  resourceful, you start seeing the wood for the trees.
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  And when you start evaluating what's real and what's just
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  imagined, everything feels less overwhelming.
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  And when things feel less overwhelming, you start thinking
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  of all of those things you can do to improve your health even
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  more. Two or three quick phone calls
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  that might find a specialist that you need, or maybe treating
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  buying Christmas presents or social occasions as things that
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  recharge your batteries, not drain it as you breathe in and
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  breathe out. I don't need to get a sense that
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  you're feeling more hopeful, feeling more resourceful,
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  feeling like you have more options to move things in the
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  very direction that you desire. I want you to get a sense that
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  you are awakening the part of your nervous system that knows
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  how to rest, heal and relax. In fact, the slower you breathe
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  and the longer that outward breath, the more you are
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  signalling to your brain, your biology and your unconscious
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  that you are safe to relax and heal.
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  As you breathe out, just imagine the out breath or switching off
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  the alarms that have been warning and blaring for too
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  long. And now imagine yourself
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  floating as if your body is held by warm, steady water, supported
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  without effort, your muscles softening, your chest loosening,
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  any tension, and your mind beginning to drift into that
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  familiar trance where clarity starts to replace pressure and
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  stress. And as you float, I wonder if
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  you could imagine a dial in front of you, the dial of your
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  nervous system from zero to 10. And I want you to see that your
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  nervous system is in the red zone, perhaps an 8A9 or even
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  A10. And I want you to imagine on
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  each outward breath, as you release more of that tension
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  pressure, that number comes down.
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  Let me get into an 8 or A7. Each outward breath exit 1
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  number downwards. Seven goes to six, six goes to
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  five. And feel your body releasing,
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  relaxing with each outward breath.
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  Five goes to four, and then four to three.
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  And maybe you don't want it all the way at one.
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  Maybe you want some pressure, some tension to ensure you do
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  what needs to be done. But I want you to feel you've
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  dialed it all the way down. At least for now.
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  Right now, calm relaxation is the dominant signal in your
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  body. Remind yourself you're just a
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  few phone calls away from solving and resolving what would
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  be an unknown issue had you not discovered it.
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  I want you to feel that that is a good thing.
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  It's good that you know, and it's good that the solution is
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  something within your control. And I wonder for just how many
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  problems and demands in every area of your life.
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  I wonder for how many of those that the solutions already
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  exist. People you can delegate, things
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  you can prioritize, support you can use, and every breath you
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  take in this calm state brings your mind closer to the
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  resourceful version of you. Version of you who handles what
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  needs to be handled. One step at a time, and
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  certainly not all at once. Because you can't do it all at
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  once. Do what you can the best you
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  can, trusting that your future self will deal with future
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  problems as you allow your current self to deal with
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  current demands. And just allow your mind to
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  drift toward Christmas and allow your unconscious to give it a
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  new narrative, a new way of thinking about it.
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  Some people think of Christmas as a list of things to do,
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  places to be, things that are just a drain of time, energy and
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  emotion. Some people look at it as a
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  magical time full of wonder, excitement, connection and joy.
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  And just allow your unconscious to reactivate that part of you
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  where Christmas would be something that charges your
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  batteries, not drains in something you get to do, not an
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  obligation you have to do. And I want you to think perhaps
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  of just one person that would love to be able to give presents
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  or receive them, share a meal with close ones, and yet can't.
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  And sometimes contrast is all you need to feel grateful, to
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  feel privileged, to feel that it's something you choose to do,
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  not have to do. Some people think of a an
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  incredible vacation as a list of itineraries and problems and
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  situations. And other people treat a
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  vacation as something that really charges the boundaries.
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  And whatever area of your life that thing charges your
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  boundaries. Just allow the neural plasticity
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  in your brain to map that feeling and apply it to
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  Christmas. And maybe, maybe there's already
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  things that make you feel that way, to become the thin end of
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  the wedge that expands. Maybe the joy in someone's face
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  when they open a present that you've chosen for them.
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  Think of that moment, perhaps from the past, and allow that
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  feeling to expand. Feel it expanding.
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  Warmth, connection, something to appreciate.
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  So many people spend Christmas alone, and you are not one of
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  them. So allow that gratitude and
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  appreciation to release even more of those demands pulling on
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  your nervous system. And as it's released, feel
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  lighter, more relaxed. These moments could remind you
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  that you're supported, connected, and not isolated, so
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  allow it to recharge you from the inside by plugging your
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  emotional batteries into a source of warmth.
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  And now move your mind naturally to work.
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  For a while you feel like you've been like a rat in a cage with
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  no way out, or perhaps trapped, stuck, secured by those golden
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  handcuffs. At one point you even believed
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  that the job is killing you, and now you know that's not true.
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  I want you to replace all of our beliefs with one that you are
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  choosing to work there for now. That ensures your nervous system
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  knows that it is a choice, not a trap, not an obligation, and for
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  now tells your unconscious that it is temporary and when
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  situations change, you can leave to say this to yourself.
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  I am choosing to work here for now.
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  Say it internally. Feel the difference?
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  Because choice creates control, and control creates agency, and
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  agency dissolves helplessness. So feel that shift.
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  And what if you are just a few weeks from improving health with
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  less pain? And maybe that comes from
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  thinking differently about your life.
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  Maybe it comes from acupuncture, finding the right combination of
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  foods to eat in your diet. We're just resolving that issue
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  in your home. You don't know which one or
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  combination of things will work. Just believe that something
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  will, and when it does, it creates an option without an
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  obligation. An option to keep the security
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  and gain the freedom. To have a.
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  Future where you're doing things for yourself with autonomy and
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  confidence. I want you to think that there's
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  just two things necessary to escape that cage, escape that
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  maze to unlock the handcuffs, security of future work but for
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  yourself, and clues that your health is improving.
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  This is a winnable game not years from now, but perhaps
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  weeks from now. And when you operate from
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  choice, the whole board changes. And I want you to feel all those
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  old loops of learned helplessness breaking apart at
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  their weakest points. Feel a rising sense of
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  resourcefulness filling that space where fear and insecurity
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  and feeling trapped and stuck used to live.
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  In fact, feel the internal posture shift from I'm trapped
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  to something more empowering, like I'm building my exit with
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  clarity and control. Some people believe that where
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  focus goes, energy flows. And if your focus is on
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  resentment, being stuck, trapped, no options, imagine how
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  your body would respond to that perception.
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  But when you start to feel that there's things you can do to
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  lower your stress, to increase resourcefulness and decrease
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  demands. And I want you to start thinking
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  of a future where you see yourself healthy, your digestive
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  system is calm, your body's stable.
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  What choices with foods and breathing deeply, without
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  effort, clear eyed and confident.
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  Imagine yourself in just a few months time working for
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  yourself, consulting on your terms, earning on your terms,
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  living with both security and autonomy.
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  And you're not running from your job, just evolving it into the
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  next phase. And you're building that bridge
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  step by step and hold that version of you in front of you
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  came out the other side lighter, calmer, stronger, even more
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  capable. And allow your unconscious to
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  lock it in like the destination on a sat NAV because this is now
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  the direction that you are moving towards.
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  Take one more slow breath and feel that pressure cooker, that
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  steam engine is now completely released.
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  All of that pressure the arrow back in the Green Zone and
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  imagine yourself floating all the way back to the present, but
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  with more of a sense of hope, optimism, and that the game is
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  most definitely winnable. Take a deep breath in through
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  your eyes and out. Just release everything from
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  your eyelids to your jaw, your chest, all the way down to your
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  gut, all the way down to your toes.
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  That's in wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Start to calibrate with the here and the now as I now count from
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  1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8 open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you so much for.
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