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Inhale Pain and Exhale Purpose · Groove with Portia

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Welcome to Group Porsche, the podcast that uncovers the hidden treasures within grief.
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I'm your host, Porsche the producer, and I'm inviting you to join me
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on a transformative journey where we will exchange laughter, of course, the best
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medicine of them all, reflect on cherished memories, Remember that time that the
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little boy grabbed my hand instead of his mother's at the amusement park yikes,
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And of course, discover gratitude while navigating one of the life's hardest challenges,
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loss. So get ready to gree with me, Porsche the producer, let's
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dive in. Hey, everybody, welcome to Group Porsche. I am your
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host and face Portione the producer, and this is Grow Porsche on Location.
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So as always I asked, don't forget too like share and subscribe to keep
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you with the latest and grace of all grew with portion. So today on
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location, we are joining by our girls from Island Beats, Zoe and Iris,
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and we also have our friends from the American Long Association, Miss Kiara.
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So for starters, everybody, you know I love to start off my
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conversations with gratitude. I noticed that the WiFi pass for downstairs to gratitude,
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So why not? So we'll start with you, Zoe, what are you
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grateful for today? I am grateful for the opportunity to be around such beautiful
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women today works from me. Why not? You know that's a real thing,
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right, because we tend to sometimes not always be in community where we
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feel safe, when we feel herb when we feel as though there's a connection
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deeper than just superficial business to business. Right. I agree? What about
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you, Iris? I am grateful that every women are starting to get our
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message. We have a message, and you know because we built Island Beats
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for a purpose. And I thank you ladies for getting our message from understanding
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why are we here? Everybody has a purpose and you guys am to stupid
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our purpose? Thank you. Yeah, there's always a pain point to the
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purpose, and we're gonna dive more into that so I can say I'm grateful
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as always for these opportunities. Those of you who know Grow a Portion will
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be four in October now, and when I started do a porche its thank
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you, Thank you so much. This is one of my dreams was to
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be able to take Grow a Portion on the road and be able to have
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these social conversations with people, to really share the richness that's within stories,
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and also to be able to give people an opportunity to see that there's more
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to us beyond what we do in the face of the public. So I'm
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grateful for these opportunities. What about you, Ka, I think you all
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headed on the head. I think I'm grateful to have two other organizations willing
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to partner with me to help us get our mission across that we know to
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help fight lucky. I think it takes the community, and you're seeing the
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community here together awesome. What's the what's the word unity and community lie?
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So one of the things that all of us have in common, being the
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human beings that we are, is grief, right each and every one of
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us, those of you who know I talked about my grief journey and losing
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both my parents and I amongst each other. But one of the central things
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that grew with Porscha is showcasing the gift, the hidden gift that comes from
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our grief journey. So I'm gonna start with Kiar at first. We all
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have what would you say is the hidden gift within a recent grief journey that
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you've had. I would say that you find strength that you didn't know you
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had the ability to pull from where you thought you had nothing else to pull
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from. You typically don't discover those things until you're in something tragic like grief.
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So that's something I've learned over my my recent griefs. Yes, yeah,
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strength, I can agree with that. Right, Like, there's this
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flame that you have that you know tends to be anger, right where anger
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is a good thing. I think we tend to put a negative connotation on
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anger, but I can say from my journey, anger has been kind of
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that feel for me to take action. And what about you, ivers,
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what would you say is that hidden gift? I think that my hidden gift,
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mostly everybody's hidden gift is faith. Faith. Have faith that you can
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bypass that have faith that you have family that will support you, friends that
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will support you. Have faith in God. You know there's always something higher
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and more, way above and stronger than you are, and I believe in
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that. Yeah, I agree, Yeah, that faith is is that what
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I call the life jack You know, grief is kind of the life jacking
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are on the ocean, right, But it's that faith that gets us back
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to shore and gives us that opportunit say, you know what, I can
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swim and I can also drown. So I think that's a good way to
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put it. And I just I appreciate that. What about you, Zo,
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what's the hidden gifting? Grom and I had drowned. So for me,
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the hidden gift that I discovered in my grief was a purpose for my
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life M that I didn't even know elaborate on that existed. So my father
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was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer in February of twenty nineteen MM and it
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was pretty tragic like it. It came about all of a sudden, but
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not that I think about it. It really wasn't cause he was complaining about
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certain things. But anyway, May he died MM And from February to May,
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I needed an outlet. I needed something to do. And both my
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mom and my dad knew that I had started taking Zoomer classes and they were
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both like, just go and when then come back when you're done. So
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I would go to these classes, not realizing that I would be here,
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you know, four or five years later, and that that it kind of
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it was a flame that M that sparked in me. It wasn't anger.
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It was. It was grief, it was sadness, but within there I
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found joy, which is kind of like sweating drowned at the same time,
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when you're experiencing you know someone's that you love them passing away and you're learning
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something new that you like, it's like not duality. So there's a lot
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of little gifts in there. I guess for me in that journey, I
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love how you brought up the word duality because I think grief does paint that
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if we're open to sitting in it, right. It shows the reality of,
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yes, I'm hurting because this person who I've grown to love all these
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years is no longer here, right, But then also the world world around
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me is still going on, right, So it paints the yes, I'm
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gonna have sad moments, but also I'm gonna have happy memories with other people
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without this person with me. Yeah. So, before we jump into the
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next part of the conversation, if our audience wants to connect with you and
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learn more about you and come in up dance the pain away, like right,
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right? Could you guys share your social media or a website where they
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can find you. We can be found on Instagram. I'm looking at the
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camera right. Instagram at land dot Beats, dot Ceiling, and we're also
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on Facebook island Beats for Iris and Zoe. We have a Facebook page individually.
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You can follow Iris at the Ava nineteen eighteen and n e v eighteen.
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Just look up a part snow look at fish and my handle on ig
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is gone on dot Girl, dot go. I I just wanted to say
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just I wanted to touch base back on that because I lost my dad all
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of a sudden, not cancer, but it was a there was a very
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tragic death, and it puts you back to reality. You have to be
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realistic, guys. We are not here to live forever. It's a grief.
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Yes, I cried and cried, and up to this day I still
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it's been twenty years. But my thing is it's the reality of it.
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And this is where you learn to walk those steps because you have to be
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come back to reality because this is what's gonna happen to all of us.
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So just that guy, as we go, our kids, our family are
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gonna be grieving us also, So we have to be realistic and teach that
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forward. This is the real thing. And then, and I always say
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that when I was going up, there's three things in life that you can't
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avoid. I mean, there's three things in like that you can't that you
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can't avoid, which is death, which is make somebody to love you,
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and which is and which is trying to be something else that you're not those
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three things. So I always known that since I was little, and my
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mother always told me that, and that put me back to reality. And
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I thank you for sharing now. Is because I mean, when you think
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about grief is a part of all of our journey, but we have been
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conditioned to see grief in such a negative light, right, And what I'm
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hearing from everybody who's present here is that we've all taken our grief journey and
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turned it into something purposeful, something powerful. Yeah, And I can share
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with all of you that through losing both my parents, I'm thirty one years
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old and I'm an adult orphan, right, And I can laugh at it
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because pretty funny, but it's like, at the same time I know that
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my parents are proud. I also am open to the fact that I can
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help other people. Right, Because grief, even though it's a process,
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right, there's also an opportunity for us to grow. Yeah, there's also
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an opportunity for us to really choose to live a life to the fullest,
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because, like Iris was saying, it puts the reality check in front of
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like, here's your check, now read it. It says this amount of
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money and that's all you're getting. And I think that if we take that
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approach with our grief and embrace it instead of invade it, I think it'd
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be a little smooth of the ryme. So that kind of leads to the
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next part of the conversation that I wanted to start with. So I know,
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Kiara, you are here with us because we have a special event that
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is going on that all of us are going to be a partner. So
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I'm gonna let you share about it. Then we'll let iris Is always share
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with their part is gonna be. Yeah, Well, I think it's two
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things because there's a pre event to the event. But Zoe and Iris are
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grateful been a pleasure that they're willing to have a zoomba class where they will
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be donating the funds to our Lungforce Walk. So our Lungforce Walk is going
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to be Sunday, October first at the Cleveland Metro Park Zoo. Yeah,
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with Cleveland Clinic Respiratory Institute being the presenting sponsor again, and I think something
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new this year is that we hear walk and we think a walk is a
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walk, But really we want it to be a fun community event where you
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can come and you can participate in games, enjoy some zoomba, learn about
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our mission, learn some lung facts, and get to mingle with other people
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in your community. You care about the same things you care about. How
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I'm really excited about it. I'm really excited to be at the zoo.
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And then you get the added bonus of well, if we wrap up,
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you could to enjoy the rest of your day at the zoo complimentary compliments of
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a la so KEA really quick for our audience if they want to register for
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the event, if they have not joined a team, is there a website
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or social media or contact they can find to do that? Yeah, so
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you can go to lungforce dot org slash Cleveland to register or create a team,
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and then as well, you can follow us at American Lung Cleveland to
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keep up with all that we're doing here in Cleveland and are in our bio.
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Is some more links for you if you can't find that, and our
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link of being up soon because we have a team at Island bas team.
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So we're gonna put our link on our social media, join our team and
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thing. Yes, yeah, I mean, and you know it's it's a
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collective, right, yeah, you know, is we do these types of
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collaborations, there's a bigger purpose behind it, right, Each and every one
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of us has what I call the wide effects. We all have our wife.
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For both of you, it stems from your journey of creating Island Beats
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and the pain of losing somebody saying with me, my mom was a lu
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Enforce hero. And that's how I even got involved with the American Lung Association
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because my very first walk, my very first walk was the very last walk
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to me and my mom did as a team. Oh and I'll never forget
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it because it was so profound and so powerful. My mom was on oxygen,
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had our walker walking up and this was at the Rock and Roll Hall
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of Fame the year that I went with my mom. My mom finished her
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entire mom on oxygen and with her walker. That's amazing. And so I
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always remember that, you know, as my why to show up for other
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people and not only just continue my mom's legacy, but also encourage other people.
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Yea, yeah, that's good stuff. You know. I'm gonna touch
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on something we were talking about in the beginning before we started this conversation when
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it comes to breathing, right, and you were kind of talking about a
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little bit. Why do we tend to hold our breath when we're doing cardio
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exercises and how can people remember to actually breathe when they're doing some type of
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cardio. Well, I'll just say real quick that you need that oxygen.
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You need that oxygen because you're betting goes so much of the other stuff that
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comes out of your body you need to replace it. So I think that
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we tend to hold our breath because we think that's that's easy. It's easy.
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It's like a default kind of thing, right, Like we just default
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to that. Yeah, but when you make a point so bringing that,
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I'm serious. Yeah, And that's part of the reason why I think we
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can be so loud. We use our voices a lot when we're doing zoo
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because we're breathing, and that helps to kind of keep us energized. So
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I also think that you know, there's the same you can't think and chew
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gum at the same time. So sometimes people are working out and they can't
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do that breathing technique at the same time. So it takes practice. And
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while we teach, we show our girls breathing, relax, breathe out.
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It's not it's not a race. Oh I'm gonna get to the next song.
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No, it's an exercise, but that whole exercise has to come with
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the full body effect. Also, hydration is very important, so that helps
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to breathe better. Not a fan, not a fan, so everybody.
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So it's all hard in here. You need to hydrate because that's when you're
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It's like your body comes back to life every time you take a sip of
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water, so that's very important too, and then you stay beautiful like me.
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It's like putting water on the dry plant, just sprout exactly. Yeah,
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back to life. That's a reality. Three three, yes, yes,
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well sometimes you need to just let it out to Yeah. I'm like
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in yoga they're big on that. It's not it's because you're releasing the air
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and all the toxins out of your body. So yeah, it's important.
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We all got to do that, like take that in and you know,
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I want to thank you and every one of you for being a part of
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group with Porsche. We're gonna wrap up here. We're gonna start with Kiara.
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I always love to save this question for last for our listeners who's tuning
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in. What words of inspiration can you leave with them today? Whether someone
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who was wants in your shoes and wants to really make a difference in their
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life starting today, What words of inspiration can you leave with them today?
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Oh boy, put me on the spot, puttin the fire. They didn't
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know this question before the beginning. I'm yeah, I'm like a jack in
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the box. I'm don't you gonna get neither? Well, I don't.
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I will. I'll say that since I've only been with a La well a
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year. I used to intern here back, you know, when I went
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to the Ohio State University. So it's been a But what I've learned is
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when I get to have these conversations with the poor show with a Zoe,
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with some of these other individuals who've lost their loved ones, and that's why
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they reach out. They're seeking us. They want to know what they can
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do to get awareness outcause they didn't know. Right. People always think that
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you only get lung cancer because you smoked. You only get lung cancer because
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you were around someone who smoked. So they often think like, right,
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I didn't know, right, and I wasn't seeking the information. But now
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that I know, I want to share that information. So I think it's
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very inspiring that instead of we don't hide away, we come and we seek
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one another when we're looking. We want to fill that void we don't.
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For the most part, those have been some of the uh, you don't
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know, the most beneficial conversations. I didn't know when I approached Zovie and
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Iris, so she had the connection to lung health and lung cancer. You
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you, I have So often I go out and I'm in the community trying
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to get people to join us and partner with us, and they're they've lost
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someone, their son has asthma, their child suffered long terms effects of RSV,
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and so I think it's often inspired to me to know that we're not
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alone. There's someone else going through hardships also, and when we can come
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together, we can support one another and you know, join together. Thank
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you for sharing. I I can't agree like that. Community and grief can
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be so isolating. Something. Yeah, So I can agree I respect about
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you. What words are besp Edukiley with our listeners, I just say,
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retail to your community. You know, there's so many things out there that
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you can help. Just a little grain of rice. You know how rice
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grows, it grows. And the more the more can we talk to the
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community and you put the little grain of rice, the more blessed you will
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be in your life. You have to do that. You can't just take
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take, take, You gotta give and give and give. And that's important
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because what you take insight here is what's important, not what you have around
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you that stays. What you take with you is your conscience and your good
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way of being a good human being. So for me that's important, Like
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man, hey, my drop on that, go ahead, And so what
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words of inspiration can you leave? You know that first Well, the second
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question you ask is about the gifts. Find the gifts and life and enjoyed
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life. I mean, we can be so stressed out, we can be
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so worried about the future. We can be stressed because we got bills to
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pay and you know the kids in school, you know, just any and
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every yeah, yeah, but when do we get a chance to really actually
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enjoy by Yeah exactly, you know, and I have made it my mission
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at fifty five years old. My life isn't that perfect. I got craziness
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like everyone. But I tell you what, I'm gonna try my best to
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enjoy the rest of my life because I saw what happens to my father.
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Mark your calendar for September twenty four, one thirty to two thirty pm at
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the Old Brooklyn Social Join your favorite duo Iris and Zoe for Just Breathe a
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zoom both pop up class that's all about giving. You'll be supporting the American
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Lung Association Lungforce Walk on October first at the Cleveland Zoo. It's just ten
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dollars, but it goes a long way for a worthy cause. Remember,
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particle pollution in the air we all breathe can lead to lung dis pieces,
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including cancer. That's why we're here to promote clean air and healthy lungs.
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Save the date, September twenty fourth. Let's make a difference together, Iris,
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Zoe and Kiara. I thank you guys for to bouying my heart for
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coming on. This concludes another episode a Grew of Porsche Season number two.
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Thanks for listening to everybody piece of hair grease. Hey, thank you so
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much for tuning in to Grew of Porsche. Remember to subscribe to my channel
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follow me on Instagram at Porsche the Producer Anyway, guys, until we meet
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again, peace and hair grease.