What Happens When She Becomes the Breadwinner?

It's All Relative with Dr Eliza Filby · Oct 16, 2026 · 33m

Women are earning more than men in more relationships. So why does being the breadwinner still feel like a trap?Female breadwinners, women earning more than their husbands, the mental load, mankeeping, gender roles and the economics of marriage are changing relationships across Britain and beyond.

Dual-income households have become the norm, fathers are doing more domestic work, and women have achieved extraordinary financial independence. Yet the transition is proving much harder than many of us expected, particularly once children arrive.

We daughters of feminists were taught to compete…