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#538 Holiday Highlight - Wally Goddard · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
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  Speaker 1: time poor parent who just on answers Now, Hello the Stocks.
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  Speaker 1: Justin Colson, the parenting expert on Channel Line's Parental Guidance
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  Speaker 1: and author of six books. Seventh book comes out in
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  Speaker 1: a couple of weeks time. Stay tuned to the podcast
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  Speaker 1: for more. Recently, we were having a conversation on the
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  Speaker 1: Happy Families podcast and I just loved it. Decided to
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  Speaker 1: share a bit more about this. Professor h Wallace Goddard,
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  Speaker 1: or Wally as I know him, shared a conversation with
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  Speaker 1: me on episode three hundred and forty four of The
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  Speaker 1: Happy Family's podcast. He's a wonderful mentor, he's a great friend.
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  Speaker 1: So much wisdom it's really hard to pick one highlight
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  Speaker 1: from his incredible conversation. I recommend you go and listen
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  Speaker 1: to the whole Thing episode three forty four. But here's
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  Speaker 1: Wally talking about how being a compassionate parent matters.
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  Speaker 2: Another would be to teach compassion by living compassion. And
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  Speaker 2: often we want to teach compassion through a lecture, and
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  Speaker 2: it doesn't ring true when we do that. And I
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  Speaker 2: think of the example of a dad who was frustrated
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  Speaker 2: with his little boy who was playing with legos and
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  Speaker 2: didn't want to go to bed, and the dad kept saying, no,
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  Speaker 2: it's almost time, you got to go. You got to
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  Speaker 2: get your sleep. And I think about how the dad
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  Speaker 2: will only got mad and grabbed the boy and dragged
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  Speaker 2: him to his room and put him to bed angrily.
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  Speaker 2: What if what if dad talk compassion by living in compassion?
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  Speaker 2: What if he knelt by his son and says, show
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  Speaker 2: me what's you're building, Tell me about it? How far
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  Speaker 2: along is it? I mean, what's your next step? Wow?
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  Speaker 2: Is this a good stopping place? Or do you need
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  Speaker 2: two more minutes to finish what you're doing? And then
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  Speaker 2: lets you and me go to bed, and let's tell
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  Speaker 2: us each other stories as I tuck you in. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: the way children learn compassion is by experiencing it, so
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  Speaker 2: would be a big one in my view. And another
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  Speaker 2: one is to enjoy life together. One of our daughter
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  Speaker 2: ones said to me, dad, joy is a good thing,
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  Speaker 2: but you've just taken it too far.
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  Speaker 1: Life.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, somehow we've learned to manage some of
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  Speaker 2: the anxiety and fear and tiredness, and we've tried to
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  Speaker 2: teach ourselves to really focus on on the joy, the goodness,
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  Speaker 2: the happy, the connection, and by doing that we have
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  Speaker 2: filled our lives with a level of happiness. That's that's
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  Speaker 2: grand So enjoying life together with our children, you know,
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  Speaker 2: taking their hand and going for a walk, or when
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  Speaker 2: we go visit the grandkids, Nancy always fills a box
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  Speaker 2: with games that are not any better than the games
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  Speaker 2: they have, but they're new, unfamiliar to them. And she
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  Speaker 2: also happens to take some bubble gum and the kids
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  Speaker 2: love seeing seeing and she makes peanut butter balls with them.
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  Speaker 2: Then anyway, those little things say we love life and
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  Speaker 2: we love you, and it makes a connection that otherwise
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  Speaker 2: doesn't grow.
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  Speaker 1: That's Professor h. Wallace Gottar from episode three hundred and
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  Speaker 1: forty four of The Happy Families podcast. Go and check
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  Speaker 1: out the rest of the episode. Now, between fifteen and
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  Speaker 1: twenty percent of teens have anxiety. Anxiety is one of
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  Speaker 1: the leading causes of mental illness in our children, and
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  Speaker 1: as parents, we want to know where is it coming from,
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  Speaker 1: can we stop it, and how do we help our
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  Speaker 1: children just feel better? Start by learning how to recognize
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  Speaker 1: anxiety in your child, how to respond, and how to
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  Speaker 1: give them hope. And the anxiety in your child. Webinar
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  Speaker 1: can help. It's available at Happy families dot com dot au.
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  Speaker 1: The Happy Families membership is available right now. It's thirteen
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  Speaker 1: dollars a month for a basic membership or eighteen dollars
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  Speaker 1: a month for a premium membership. With that membership you
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  Speaker 1: get so much value to make your family happier. You'll
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  Speaker 1: receive a monthly webinar. Recently, we've been talking about everything
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  Speaker 1: from emotion coaching to carrots and sticks. We've been talking
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  Speaker 1: about how to guide our children successfully, what to do
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  Speaker 1: about praising our kids, why that's a problem, how to
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  Speaker 1: minimize control, why competition can undermine our kids well being,
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  Speaker 1: and so much more. And the rest of this year's
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  Speaker 1: webinars have been penciled into the calendar and you wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: believe how great the content will be. Normally it's thirty
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  Speaker 1: bucks a month for a webinar. If you're a Happy
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  Speaker 1: Family's member, it's only thirteen dollars or eighteen dollars. But
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  Speaker 1: on top of the webinars, you also receive a monthly
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  Speaker 1: Q and A with me. And if it's not a
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  Speaker 1: Q and A, it's an ask the expert, where I
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  Speaker 1: bring in experts who know how to answer the questions
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  Speaker 1: that you have about specific topics like technology or friendships
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  Speaker 1: or school issues. And the list goes on and on. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, we also do this thing once a
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  Speaker 1: quarter called a role play with Doctor J. Two or
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  Speaker 1: three people get to spend some time while everyone else
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  Speaker 1: takes notes and listens carefully as we go through role plays.
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  Speaker 1: Here's what you do when your kids are having a
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  Speaker 1: hard time. They tell me what their problem is, and
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  Speaker 1: then I roll play it as if they're the kid
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  Speaker 1: and I'm the parent, and then we swap so they
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  Speaker 1: get to discover just how hard it is to do it,
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  Speaker 1: so that we can help you to improve your parenting
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  Speaker 1: and progress it in the right direction. Role Play with
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  Speaker 1: Doctor J, A, Doctor JQ and A, and ask the expert.
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  Speaker 1: That's all part of the Happy Famili's premium membership. On
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  Speaker 1: top of that, if you're a premium member, you get
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  Speaker 1: access to our entire webinar video library. We are talking
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  Speaker 1: thousands of dollars worth of webinars all sitting there waiting
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  Speaker 1: for you to consume so that you can get yourself
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  Speaker 1: essentially a PhD in parenting. And the list goes on
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  Speaker 1: there's more stuff than I have time to tell you about.
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  Speaker 1: The value is amazing. Oh by the way, if you
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  Speaker 1: get a twelve month membership, we'll give you two months free.
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  Speaker 1: So you pay upfront and instead of paying twelve times
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  Speaker 1: thirteen or twelve times eighteen. I can't do the mass,
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  Speaker 1: but whatever it is, you just pay one hundred and
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  Speaker 1: thirty or one hundred and eighty bucks. Well times are
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  Speaker 1: by ten instead of by twelve, you save money. It's
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  Speaker 1: all there. So that's the Happy Families membership. We don't
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  Speaker 1: usually do pretty hard cells on the podcast, but a
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  Speaker 1: couple of times during these school holidays, I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: make sure that you're aware of it because there's so
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  Speaker 1: much value and it makes such a difference in people's lives.
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  Speaker 1: The Happy Families membership you can find it online at
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  Speaker 1: happy families dot com dot au. The Happy Family's podcast
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  Speaker 1: is bridged by Justin Ruland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce
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  Speaker 1: is our executive producer and if you want more info
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  Speaker 1: about making your family happy, I check out our memberships
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  Speaker 1: or just visit us at Happy Families dot com dot au.