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If We Could Ask Our Ancestors About Their Pain… What Would They Say - Part 2 · Mediumship Sparks-The Next Chapter

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Speaker 1: Welcome to mediumship Sparks, where we connect more deeply with
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Speaker 1: spirit and source and follow the sparks of insight and
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Speaker 1: inspiration that bring us greater awareness, healing, and just more
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Speaker 1: flow into our lives. I'm Noel dean intuitive medium, licensed therapist,
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Speaker 1: and your host. A quick note before we begin. This
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Speaker 1: podcast is for educational purposes only and provides general information.
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Speaker 1: It is not medical or psychological advice and is not
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Speaker 1: a substitute for care from a licensed health professional. I'm
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Speaker 1: so grateful we get to step into this together. Let's
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Speaker 1: dig in. So looking back, do you have any regrets
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Speaker 1: about how you lived your life past that point? She's
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Speaker 1: saying yes many. She's saying, my husband was disappointed. She's
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Speaker 1: using an analogy of a balloon. She's showing a balloon
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Speaker 1: filled with air and ak not tide at the end,
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Speaker 1: and the idea that it can bounce and bounce back.
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Speaker 1: She's saying how she chose to live the rest of
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Speaker 1: her life was and she shows when you have a
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Speaker 1: balloon and you pull the tip of it, you pull
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Speaker 1: it kind of tight and air leaks out very slowly.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes it makes a squeaky noise. She's saying, that's how
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Speaker 1: she chose to live. But there was no squeaking. There
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Speaker 1: was very little life that came out or came from her.
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Speaker 1: After that, they went on to have their third child.
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Speaker 1: She's using the term pretended to raise him, but that
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Speaker 1: she was very absent. She was just not present except physically.
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Speaker 1: Most of the time. She would be in the hospital
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Speaker 1: for various stays. Had she bounced back differently, she's saying,
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Speaker 1: not that they would have necessarily forgotten, but they would
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Speaker 1: have forgiven, forget kind of thing, but she could never
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Speaker 1: let it go. So people always felt sorry for her family.
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Speaker 1: And she's saying that had its own kind of contained
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Speaker 1: energy that she didn't like. But she's saying she felt
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Speaker 1: like she couldn't help. It was like there was a
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Speaker 1: grave mark for her already and she was just slowly
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Speaker 1: rotating around, spinning herself down into it over the course
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Speaker 1: of many years. And she's asking, do I think that
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Speaker 1: she has regrets of how she lived? I guess I
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Speaker 1: do that it seemed like you never really enjoyed life,
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Speaker 1: at least for the chapter of your life that I
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Speaker 1: can remember being a part of. And I can understand
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Speaker 1: the commitment and choice to not leave your body and
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Speaker 1: to quote be there for your family, and you were.
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Speaker 1: Things would have been very different had you not been around.
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Speaker 1: It just seems like I don't want to say it
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Speaker 1: this way, but these are the words that are coming
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Speaker 1: to me, and I guess they're coming from you. A
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Speaker 1: waste of life energy to have surrendered and given up
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Speaker 1: so completely and severely in that way. She's saying that
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Speaker 1: she had some quote good company. What do you mean
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Speaker 1: by that? She's saying that she had lovely grandchildren three,
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Speaker 1: then she got more. My parents divorced, and then Harvey
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Speaker 1: married somebody who had two of their own children. She
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Speaker 1: would have known them because they were neighbors. There was
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Speaker 1: a friendship history there. Oh really huh? And she said
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Speaker 1: she wanted to make sure that happened like her son,
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Speaker 1: Harvey remarrying, And Wow, wouldn't have thought that. The widow
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Speaker 1: of my father's best friend from years earlier, Tolene, who
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Speaker 1: became my stepmother, who lived four minutes away from my
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Speaker 1: grandparents when my parents got divorced, and I guess she
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Speaker 1: found out. She started spending time around my grandparents and
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Speaker 1: being helpful about things, And it feels to me like
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Speaker 1: she wanted to make sure they got together, and she
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Speaker 1: passed soon after they got married. So is that part
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Speaker 1: of why you stuck around as long as you did? Huh?
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Speaker 1: She's saying definitely, because she knew Harvey would have been
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Speaker 1: alone without her help to facilitate him engaging in the
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Speaker 1: relationship with Helene. Okay, So she's saying, so regret no,
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Speaker 1: because that had to happen. She wanted Harvey to feel
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Speaker 1: taken care of. And she's saying Helene did a good
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Speaker 1: job and for Harvey his limitations, she was a perfect match.
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Speaker 1: She didn't care that he was so disengaged in ways.
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Speaker 1: She was very accepting of him. She was like, oh,
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Speaker 1: that's just Harvey being Harvey. She didn't necessarily make it wrong,
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Speaker 1: like she could live with it. And I guess she
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Speaker 1: also loved the idea of creating this bigger family with
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Speaker 1: four kids who then became with each other. She's saying
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Speaker 1: there were better relationships to come of it than what
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Speaker 1: would have happened without it. Okay, message received. She's saying,
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Speaker 1: do I wish I would have enjoyed life more. She's
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Speaker 1: showing me a picture. Mom and Papa's apartment had a
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Speaker 1: wall of family photos. There's a picture of them they
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Speaker 1: took a trip to Florida and the area. She's having
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Speaker 1: me focus onto her eyes because she was pretty much blind.
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Speaker 1: If she was in a photograph, she never knew where
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Speaker 1: to look, so her eyes were always looking somewhere else,
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Speaker 1: not straight ahead. And with that visual comes that feeling
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Speaker 1: of a lack of presence in the moment. She's showing
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Speaker 1: me another photograph where mom and Papa came to visit
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Speaker 1: us after Harvey and Helene got married, and they were
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Speaker 1: in our house in New Jersey. I'm just seeing the wallpaper,
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Speaker 1: so I'm clear of where this was, and they did
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Speaker 1: look pretty happy. Papa had his arm around Mama. They
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Speaker 1: were sitting in chairs in the dining room. She's saying
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Speaker 1: she did feel happy and content with that. She knew
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Speaker 1: that Harvey was better off. Helene would bring out this
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Speaker 1: part of him to make him like a bigger man
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Speaker 1: or a better man, she sang. Other than that, he
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Speaker 1: tried to be like his version of the perfect husband,
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Speaker 1: which was to be at home each night and to
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Speaker 1: have worked hard at his job and provide a financial support,
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Speaker 1: and that he wasn't always successful, but he tried, She's saying,
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Speaker 1: and they lived happily, never after they coexisted well, and
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Speaker 1: she's sang happy they had their moments they were okay
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Speaker 1: with each other, especially at the end that he did
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Speaker 1: attempt to be more nurturing Helene had cancer and seeing
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Speaker 1: he was applying some kind of lotion or taking care
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Speaker 1: of a wound. Mama saying about Helene that she had
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Speaker 1: expected Harvey to be less than motivated to be nurturing
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Speaker 1: and handy in that way. He surprised her and she
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Speaker 1: appreciated it. She's saying that image in her mind was
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Speaker 1: seeing him as a good son because she had such
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Speaker 1: health issues and Papa had done everything to take care
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Speaker 1: of her. He even sewed her clothing so it wouldn't
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Speaker 1: irritate her body, and that Harvey got his own taste
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Speaker 1: of supporting and nurturing and loving his wife in that way.
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Speaker 1: It was a proud moment for her son, for himself
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Speaker 1: as well as she got to see the training he
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Speaker 1: would have seen. Even out of a pretty dismal situation.
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Speaker 1: He got to see how to love differently, and that
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Speaker 1: got carried forward. She's saying, she's very proud of all
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Speaker 1: the grandchildren. Lisa, my sister returned to the heavens sooner
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Speaker 1: than we expected. It seemed that she would turn things
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Speaker 1: around in some way sooner. I guess there were choices
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Speaker 1: that were made, the culmination of which had her leave
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Speaker 1: at fifty eight. But she might have left at sixty
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Speaker 1: two or sixty four, or seventy five or seventy nine,
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Speaker 1: And then she keeps kind of going with the numbers,
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Speaker 1: but it culminated for her to leave at fifty eight.
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Speaker 1: Mom is saying that she was always so proud of
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Speaker 1: Lisa because she knew that she did her best in
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Speaker 1: the moment, even if it seemed poor performance in coping skills.
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Speaker 1: Mom is making fun of herself. The great example she
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Speaker 1: had shown. What she's making me aware of is that
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Speaker 1: the example she showed through her own behavior or what
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Speaker 1: she role modeled, was a sickly rather dysfunctional person on
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Speaker 1: the earth. And she's reminding me how Harvey in his
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Speaker 1: adult life really sabotaged his own health and in many ways,
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Speaker 1: he didn't become like a housebound in the way that
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Speaker 1: she did, and he didn't take care of his health
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Speaker 1: to change that trajectory, she's saying, And in a lot
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Speaker 1: of ways, my sister Lisa learned those same behaviors because
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Speaker 1: she also through joblessness. She was married to a man
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Speaker 1: who loved her very much, so she emulated that same
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Speaker 1: thing where she was home, and health issues and health
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Speaker 1: conditions that were part of self sabotage kept her quite
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Speaker 1: ill and healthbound ish in her own way. I had
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Speaker 1: breast cancer and I did work again after, but for
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Speaker 1: the most part, I've been home since. But I feel
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Speaker 1: like I've behaved. She's saying, yes, thank goodness, I've behaved
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Speaker 1: differently and have trained myself to do this work and
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Speaker 1: have my business and do things to support other people
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Speaker 1: and teach classes and do readings. She's saying, the inertia
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Speaker 1: didn't take me over as it did with the other
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Speaker 1: two that were talking about. She's also showing, I just
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Speaker 1: want you to double check on me. But I'm left
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Speaker 1: with that you stayed as long as you did because
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Speaker 1: you wanted to make sure that Harvey was coupled up
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Speaker 1: and got remarried and was taken care of, and that
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Speaker 1: it was pre arranged about Gilbert leaving before he turned six.
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Speaker 1: So that was She's using the word commitment in my head.
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Speaker 1: I just said, oh, So the question was about having
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Speaker 1: any regrets, and she said to me that she's proud
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Speaker 1: of herself because she did the best that she could
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Speaker 1: with what she already knew. There were limits to how
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Speaker 1: she could see her role as a housewife, and she's
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Speaker 1: saying there wasn't very much to live for other than
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Speaker 1: her commitment to her relationships. Do you feel like you
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Speaker 1: missed out on many things when you were still here?
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Speaker 1: I guess she's saying she didn't really care about those things.
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Speaker 1: She didn't really care to travel. She felt the safest
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Speaker 1: at home. That was her comfort zone, my sister and
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Speaker 1: I being there pretty much every day until we moved
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Speaker 1: to New Jersey. But she's saying that brought sunshine and
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Speaker 1: life into their home. And now she's given me a
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Speaker 1: visual of the emptiness in her apartment when we were
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Speaker 1: no longer living in the neighborhood. We didn't see them
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Speaker 1: nearly as much after, but we didn't spend the kind
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Speaker 1: of time that we did when we were young. And
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Speaker 1: I can just feel as if she's given me a
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Speaker 1: view of the apartment from the kitchen, and I could
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Speaker 1: just feel the emptiness of the energy. She's using the
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Speaker 1: word listless. My sister and I brought life into the apartment,
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Speaker 1: and she appreciated that light, the sunshine, and that it
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Speaker 1: wasn't the same without us in the neighborhood. Now she's
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Speaker 1: showing that when Helene started spending time at her apartment
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Speaker 1: with her kids, that that helped and she would hear
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Speaker 1: the neighborhood kids if she had the window open, she
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Speaker 1: could hear them outside playing. And she's saying, and that
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Speaker 1: brought her some joy, okay, And then she says, but
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Speaker 1: any regrets, And then in capital she says no, She says,
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Speaker 1: those are my choices, and I stand by them. I
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Speaker 1: did the best I could manage at the time. And
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Speaker 1: she's saying, and if I want to do it over again,
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Speaker 1: have another life, she would do it again and live
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Speaker 1: out a different kind of extension of life and have
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Speaker 1: those same experiences, but manage and do differently. So, if
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Speaker 1: you wanted to have another go at it to maybe
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Speaker 1: bounce back more like the balloon, would you set up
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Speaker 1: the same kind of situation but be determined to handle
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Speaker 1: it differently? She's saying similar, Like it could be that
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Speaker 1: she would be a young woman that would have lived
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Speaker 1: with or visited with her mother very often and been
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Speaker 1: very close, and then her mom passing would feel like
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Speaker 1: as tragic, like her mom passing at a young age
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Speaker 1: would feel as tragic more or less as as Gilbert's
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Speaker 1: passing did, and then she would work to recover hopefully
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Speaker 1: more easily. Okay, And that question keeps bouncing back in
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Speaker 1: my head, So any regrets. Maybe why this is coming
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Speaker 1: back each time is like I'm now picturing these different
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Speaker 1: chapters of her life or her time in Poland emigrating
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Speaker 1: over here, not just Gilbert's passing, and like any regrets
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Speaker 1: about any of that stuff. And she's saying, these were
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Speaker 1: all experiences that I lived with. And she's showing her
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Speaker 1: siblings and she's saying that we chose to be in
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Speaker 1: this together, like same time, one family. We made it
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Speaker 1: happen together. And she's saying, and that's we wished and
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Speaker 1: wanted that, So no, no regrets about it. And she's
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Speaker 1: saying hard or difficult is not impossible to live with.
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Speaker 1: It's meaningful. And I can feel some emotion come up
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Speaker 1: that it's meaningful. She's saying, there's a purpose to our pain.
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Speaker 1: You can't bypass pain in this life. You just can't.
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Speaker 1: And you wouldn't want that because then you just don't
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Speaker 1: learn anything. She said, it made her richer mom to
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Speaker 1: have lost her son because she valued every precious moment
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Speaker 1: with her kids. After that she thought about them, they
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Speaker 1: just felt so precious and loved in her heart. And
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Speaker 1: then grandchildren were like the cherries on top. And she's saying,
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Speaker 1: I can't manage to have regrets because then it would
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Speaker 1: be like wishing none of that existed. And that was
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Speaker 1: the sunshine of my life. So you and Papa are
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Speaker 1: you part of the same soul group? No, but a
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Speaker 1: kin or related Okay, And I'm feeling aware. If I
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Speaker 1: asked my mother if she was curious about mom and Papa,
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Speaker 1: her first question, and it is with anybody who's passed,
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Speaker 1: are they still together kind of thing? It's my impression
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Speaker 1: that some people are still together, like my mother's mother
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Speaker 1: and her stepfather. So when you first crossed, you met
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Speaker 1: up with papa. She's of course, duh, because you left first.
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Speaker 1: So were you waiting for Papa? She's saying, absolutely, as
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Speaker 1: well as many others were also waiting for her. And
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Speaker 1: do you spend time with Papa? Now? Do you guys know?
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Speaker 1: That's been my impression every time I've asked over the
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Speaker 1: last however many years. She says, we're different, very different
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Speaker 1: in our purpose and our intention of being over there.
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Speaker 1: She's saying, she says, I'm not into that, and then
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Speaker 1: I see the word lucky. She's sharing about Papa, and
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Speaker 1: he has shared this with me in a different kind
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Speaker 1: of way that she calls him a traveler healing, and
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Speaker 1: she's not into that. She's more of family, gathering kinfolk
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Speaker 1: and surrounding family members with love all the time. She's saying,
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Speaker 1: not just a few, but all of them that she
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Speaker 1: can muster to gather around and support. And how maybe
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Speaker 1: somebody that she doesn't feel I wouldn't have thought her
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Speaker 1: to feel very connected with, let's say a great great
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Speaker 1: grandson of some distant cousin of hers or something like,
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Speaker 1: she becomes part of that group. Is the impression that
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Speaker 1: you're giving me. So she's like this traveling family member.
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Speaker 1: But that's very different than what Papa does. And she's saying,
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Speaker 1: if we had aligned goals, we would travel together because
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Speaker 1: we get along so well. I love that, and I
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Speaker 1: feel shaking my head back into reality of remembering that
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Speaker 1: how I experienced Mama was just so frail or fragile
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Speaker 1: that imagining her without Papa would be scary because she
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Speaker 1: couldn't even walk out of her apartment without holding somebody's
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Speaker 1: arm or hand or hanging on to somebody because she
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Speaker 1: just couldn't do anything on her own. So it's something
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Speaker 1: I have to reawaken too at times when there's any
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Speaker 1: conversation like this. I'm hoping that people can apply this
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Speaker 1: to their thoughts about their own grandparents and great grandparents, Mama,
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Speaker 1: people that they love and that they think of and
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Speaker 1: hope and wonder if they're okay, but also hope that
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Speaker 1: their loved one has recovered from some of the tragic
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Speaker 1: things in their lives that would have happened. She's saying, yes,
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Speaker 1: but could you also imagine how they've feeled? Could you
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Speaker 1: also imagine and she's showing a visual of you listener,
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Speaker 1: thinking about your grandparents and imagining them being restored up
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Speaker 1: in what we consider the heavens, that they've reconciled with
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Speaker 1: past partners and cousins and sisters or brothers or parents
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Speaker 1: that they had discord with, or even friends, not just family,
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Speaker 1: and that it's not or is it? She said, It's
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Speaker 1: one big, happy, connected family. There are no grudges that
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Speaker 1: last long term. It's reminding us. People don't shake off
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Speaker 1: their personalities, but they are restored and they return to
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Speaker 1: their core energy, which is basically love, unconditional love of
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Speaker 1: self and others, she's saying, which means it can go anywhere,
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Speaker 1: and it does. So she's encouraging all of us to
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Speaker 1: hang on to that idea that memory isn't still how
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Speaker 1: they live, that your loved one in spirit, That it
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Speaker 1: takes time for healing, but time is eternal. There's no
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Speaker 1: markers of it or dividers of it. She's saying, up
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Speaker 1: in heavens, do you really call it that for yourselves? No? No,
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Speaker 1: she's being funny, and she goes, huh, who Okay, she's
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Speaker 1: reminding all of us. She shows this a line of people,
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Speaker 1: like a very long line of people, and they're all
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Speaker 1: holding hands and making this long stretch, and she's reminding
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Speaker 1: us that we all at some point take our place
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Speaker 1: in that line, and the feeling that comes with that
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Speaker 1: is we all become realigned with that sense of oneness.
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Speaker 1: So she's saying, at some point, there's no discord, there's
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Speaker 1: no destruction, there's just a healing and loving and supporting
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Speaker 1: each other and looking for growth, and that how people
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Speaker 1: are and were when they were down here is just
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Speaker 1: so vastly different than who they really are underneath. And
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Speaker 1: she's encouraging us to remember that about people. So even
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Speaker 1: the meanest of souls when they were here eventually someday,
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Speaker 1: and she's showing that for some it's an extremely long road.
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Speaker 1: But also their behaviors served a purpose even when it
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Speaker 1: seemed like tragedy struck because of them, that they represented
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Speaker 1: something that was alive in many and lived it out
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Speaker 1: because there was agreement about doing so. And she's saying,
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Speaker 1: and we all overcome someday, and she's showing like, we
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Speaker 1: go back and it's restorative and healing, and then we
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Speaker 1: choose and decide to start over again in another incarnation
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Speaker 1: with each other, without each other. We draw different lines
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Speaker 1: of connection and family and kin for the next generation
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Speaker 1: of our incarnation, and we do it for the most growth.
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Speaker 1: Most times. Sometimes we choose ease because we're supporting others
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Speaker 1: be able to survive their own painful experiences and we
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Speaker 1: come in as a support. And if we've dealt with
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Speaker 1: too much tragedy, we couldn't do that, so we modify
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Speaker 1: that and monitor it so there isn't too much for
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Speaker 1: the person who becomes the glue or the standing post
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Speaker 1: to support others. And she shows somebody who seems to
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Speaker 1: have some clarity on being very loving, and I guess
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Speaker 1: sometimes them having too much tragedy in their own life
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Speaker 1: would prevent them from being able to be that. She's
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Speaker 1: using the term guiding post of support and recovery. Or
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Speaker 1: they'll just have a taste briefly and then they're so
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Speaker 1: determined to get past it so they can reinvent themselves
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Speaker 1: to help other people overcome. So she's just reminding us
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Speaker 1: that these are deliberate choices, despite even how tragic they
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Speaker 1: may seem or feel empathically or even subjectively, there are reasons, mom.
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Speaker 1: Is there anything else that you think would be helpful
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Speaker 1: for people to hear about this so they could reinvent.
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Speaker 1: She's using the term reinvent the notion of how tragic
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Speaker 1: you're grandparents' lives were and help you have some peace
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Speaker 1: of mind about them and their journeys. And she's saying,
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Speaker 1: remember this that we all came here and signed up
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Speaker 1: for it, And even if the question who in the
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Speaker 1: hell would sign up for that? Whatever that is, she's
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Speaker 1: reminding you some people would say that about your choices
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Speaker 1: or some of your choices, and that we all come
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Speaker 1: here differently for different reasons, and to maybe not judge
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Speaker 1: that part of it, and then it would feel less tragic.
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Speaker 1: And she's just reminding us that it's so easy to
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Speaker 1: look at somebody's life that seems like it got really
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Speaker 1: effed up because of tragedy, and then to remember that
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Speaker 1: they actually came and accomplished the things that they came
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Speaker 1: to accomplish, and that they walk away feeling good about
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Speaker 1: how things played out, even though it seemed like it sucked.
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Speaker 1: That those were her choices, and who am I to
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Speaker 1: judge that may things went way wrong? And how sorry
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Speaker 1: I feel for her about that, because how it sounds
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Speaker 1: is that she's pretty empowered that she stuck by what
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Speaker 1: she chose and she made the best of it, and
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Speaker 1: she's still fulfilled on her commitments and she feels good
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Speaker 1: about that. So tuck that in your pocket and keep
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Speaker 1: walking forward, because the same applies to you. And she's
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Speaker 1: I believe she's talking to you and me as well,
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Speaker 1: and she says, yes, of course, And now I start
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Speaker 1: hearing this song, don't go changing to try to please me.
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Speaker 1: You never held me down before so Billy Joel, just
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Speaker 1: the way you are. That's so sweet. Okay, let's all
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Speaker 1: go listen to that song and read the words of it. Oh,
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Speaker 1: and then she's given kind of this chef's kiss, like
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Speaker 1: just the way you are to you and to me,
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Speaker 1: and to know that we are loved just the way
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Speaker 1: we are. And we did come in for these experiences, hard, difficult, pleasurable, enjoyable,
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Speaker 1: all of it, and to not wish it away because
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Speaker 1: there is growth. And she's saying excitement in the journey
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Speaker 1: before we ever came, and that we're doing our best
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Speaker 1: to stay sane and to get through things, and we'll
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Speaker 1: be proud of how we handle the journey when we leave.
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Speaker 1: So we're just doing our best and that is pretty
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Speaker 1: damn good. Anything else you want to say to everybody,
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Speaker 1: she says to all of us, I love you just
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Speaker 1: as you are, just the way you are, and so
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Speaker 1: does everybody else who knows you up in the heavens.
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Speaker 1: There's no judgment, there's no theory you should be doing better.
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Speaker 1: You came in with the struggles that you have, like
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Speaker 1: you knew ahead of time. It's not like you efed
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Speaker 1: up your path and now you're just disappointing people and yourself,
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Speaker 1: your future self, like when you're in spirit. She says,
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Speaker 1: that's not happening. That's not happening right now. That's not happening.
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Speaker 1: She's saying, it's never worked that way, and that doesn't
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Speaker 1: change for you. It's not different for you. You're okay.
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Speaker 1: You're okay, just the way you are. Thank you, Mama,
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining Mama and myself, and
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Speaker 1: I hope this episode supported you in things that you
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Speaker 1: might wonder about sometimes and that maybe put a little
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Speaker 1: pain in your heart, and maybe it helps relieve some
25:37
Speaker 1: of that for yourself. If you have other things that
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Speaker 1: you wonder about in this kind of vein, and you
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Speaker 1: think that maybe one of my family members in spirit
25:48
Speaker 1: or my team and I can help explore it a
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Speaker 1: bit that might bring you some extra piece. Let me
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Speaker 1: know it's a mean email and we'll do our best.
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Speaker 1: Getting the sense of a toast like cheers to all
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Speaker 1: of our journeys together. I wish you peace of mind
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Speaker 1: and peace in your heart and thinking of you with love.
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