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FOCUS: Maximise your potential & have no regrets · Do You F*cking Mind?

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  Speaker 1: Hello, beautiful beans, and welcome to this focused episode. So
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  Speaker 1: this focused episode is an extract from one of my
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  Speaker 1: older episodes, just to bring it to the forefront and
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  Speaker 1: remind you of for topic that is really important that
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  Speaker 1: I've spoken about in the past. If you would like
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  Speaker 1: to hear the entire episode, just click on the link
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  Speaker 1: in the show notes and it will take you to
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  Speaker 1: the full episode.
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  Speaker 2: I hope you enjoyed, Dunker. Another reason why it should
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  Speaker 2: matter is because of this idea of compounding interest. If
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  Speaker 2: you do an action, and I've spoken about this when
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  Speaker 2: we do, when I talk about habits and rituals and
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  Speaker 2: why they're so important to absolutely transform your life. But
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  Speaker 2: when you do an action, if you do it again
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  Speaker 2: and again and again, these tiny actions, it compounds. It's
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  Speaker 2: not like, oh, this little tiny action is then independent
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  Speaker 2: to the other tiny action you do the next day. No,
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  Speaker 2: they start to add up, add up. And not only
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  Speaker 2: do they add up, but the benefits that you get
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  Speaker 2: start compounding like interest, and the benefits get bigger and
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  Speaker 2: bigger and bigger. So that's why it should matter. Now,
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  Speaker 2: that's why you should be listening to this, and that's
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  Speaker 2: why you should be paying attention, thinking Okay, I have
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  Speaker 2: to put this into practice today, because if I maximize
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  Speaker 2: my potential today, it's going to be better than if
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  Speaker 2: I waited ten years. But if you did wait ten years,
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  Speaker 2: then fucking maximize it then there. Okay. Next thing I
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  Speaker 2: want to talk about is why is it that people
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  Speaker 2: don't maximize their potential. The main reason is because they
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  Speaker 2: don't know what they want in their life. Okay, and
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  Speaker 2: they have well there's two things. Number one, they don't
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  Speaker 2: know what they want or they don't know what their
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  Speaker 2: purpose is. And another really big one is that they
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  Speaker 2: have a huge lack of self belief. So they might
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  Speaker 2: have an idea of what they want, but they don't
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  Speaker 2: think that they're able to do it. They just don't.
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  Speaker 2: They don't trust in themselves. They haven't ever had support externally,
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  Speaker 2: so they think I can't support myself if I've never
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  Speaker 2: received it externally, or they just don't know, you know,
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  Speaker 2: if they have the intelligence, they just don't back soelves basically,
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  Speaker 2: so they don't do anything about it. And before I
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  Speaker 2: get into what you actually can be doing, I want
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  Speaker 2: to talk about also what happens when you do maximize
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  Speaker 2: your potential, you actually learn what you want and what
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  Speaker 2: your purpose is by doing Okay, so I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: talk about those points in a second. But when you
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  Speaker 2: do things which I'll be teaching you how to do
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  Speaker 2: in one second, when you do these things that are
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  Speaker 2: going to help you maximize your potential in your life
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  Speaker 2: in every area, you actually start to realize more and
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  Speaker 2: more and more of what you want and what you're
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  Speaker 2: passionate about. Okay, the more you sit around, the harder
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  Speaker 2: it's going to get, the harder it's going to be
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  Speaker 2: for you to formulate an idea of what you love
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  Speaker 2: or what you're passionate about. Okay, we think that if
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  Speaker 2: we start doing something, a lot of people have this
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  Speaker 2: fucked up conception, like this idea that, Oh but if
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  Speaker 2: I start doing that and I go too far down
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  Speaker 2: the track, well then I've lost time. So I might
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  Speaker 2: as well not bother investing time in that because I'm
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  Speaker 2: not truly passionate about it, So I won't even start.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just going to sit here and fucking wait till
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  Speaker 2: something lands in my love that I adore, then I'll
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  Speaker 2: follow that. That's not how it fucking works. Firstly, if
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  Speaker 2: you found something that you were interested and you went
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  Speaker 2: down that track, and you followed it and it didn't
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  Speaker 2: work out, It wasn't a waste of time. And I
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  Speaker 2: can guarantee you you either met someone, you learned something,
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  Speaker 2: or you got a good memory out of it. Some
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  Speaker 2: you had experiences that have now this is that compounding
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  Speaker 2: interest have added to your life and helping steer you
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  Speaker 2: in another direction if that wasn't the direction for you.
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  Speaker 2: But a lot of people will sit there and be like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I could do that because I'm kind of interested, but
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  Speaker 2: I don't love it, so I won't. So you would
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  Speaker 2: rather not do something that you sent me interested in,
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  Speaker 2: to sit in your ass and do fuck all with
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  Speaker 2: your life. That's what a lot of people would rather do,
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  Speaker 2: which is actually quite messed up. But people genuinely think
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  Speaker 2: that things that they love and a passionate about are
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  Speaker 2: going to land in their lap. Life doesn't work that way.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't fucking work that way.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Stop thinking that by making a decision or taking
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  Speaker 3: a choice, you are cock blocking yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. It is always better, always better to have less
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  Speaker 2: options that are good than endless options of which you
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  Speaker 2: know nothing about. Okay. When you have endless options, it
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  Speaker 2: is confusing, It is exhausting, and it is paralyzing. It
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  Speaker 2: stops you from taking action because you're constantly like, oh, this, that,
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  Speaker 2: And I have an episode all about you know, how
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  Speaker 2: to make irreversible decisions and the importance of making a
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  Speaker 2: decision where you can't you know, where you have less
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  Speaker 2: options and why that is so beneficial. So that's all
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  Speaker 2: in a decision making episode. So go check that one out.
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  Speaker 2: So now I want to talk about things that you
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  Speaker 2: can be doing already to start maximizing your potential. Now,
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  Speaker 2: the first one I've kind of just touched on it
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  Speaker 2: is less option. So we think that the key to
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  Speaker 2: happiness is endless options, but it's not. It's having a
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  Speaker 2: choice to stay or leave is the key to happiness.
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  Speaker 2: Independence is the key to happiness in the sense that
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  Speaker 2: you don't have that, you're not trapped or you're not
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  Speaker 2: relying on someone to do something else, and if that
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  Speaker 2: person won't do it, then you can't do it. Independence
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  Speaker 2: is the key to happiness. Having a choice, freedom of
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  Speaker 2: choice is the key to happiness, okay, but not endless options.
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  Speaker 2: We don't need endless options, And often when we give
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  Speaker 2: ourselves endless options, we think that we're a lot happier.
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  Speaker 2: But in reality, we now are doing nothing because we
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  Speaker 2: don't know what to choose. We don't know what to do. Okay, Simplicity,
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  Speaker 2: When you scale things down and keep it simple, that's
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  Speaker 2: when you're going to find that you're a lot happier. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not saying that you should now make your life
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  Speaker 2: boring and have less options. I'm saying when you have
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  Speaker 2: a whole bunch of options, start to cull it down
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  Speaker 2: pretty quickly, very fucking quickly, okay, because you waste time.
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  Speaker 2: And there's so many things in our life that have
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  Speaker 2: been created to save time, but in reality they've made
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  Speaker 2: us our life away. Okay. So now endless options is
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  Speaker 2: what is marketed to us all the time, and we
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  Speaker 2: now feel that if you have endless options, that's what
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  Speaker 2: we want. Okay, in every area. Okay, look at look
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  Speaker 2: at streaming services, something like Netflix endless options, and not
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  Speaker 2: only is it endless options, but everything's at our fingertips
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  Speaker 2: and we can access it now now now, now, now
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  Speaker 2: look at dating apps. You have endless options at your fingertips.
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  Speaker 2: So it's a lot harder to commit to one thing
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  Speaker 2: because you're like wholl whoa whoah, whah whoah. But there's
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  Speaker 2: like literally thousands of other people that I could be
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  Speaker 2: like going through and checking out and maybe messaging. You know,
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  Speaker 2: look look at food delivery services, look at those you know,
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  Speaker 2: when you're trying to decide what to eat, and there's
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  Speaker 2: just so many fucking decisions that it takes you forever. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: has it made you infinitely happier all these things that
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  Speaker 2: have that have occurred. No, it hasn't.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: The more options do not equal more happiness. Okay, we
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  Speaker 2: need to be carling these fucking options and sticking to
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  Speaker 2: fewer but good options. Okay. Do you remember when we
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  Speaker 2: used to wait to watch one, maybe two of our
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  Speaker 2: favorite TV shows on fucking TV and we would have
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  Speaker 2: to wait to watch one hour and then once that
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  Speaker 2: hour was over, we would have to be waiting until
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  Speaker 2: the next week for that TV show to go on.
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  Speaker 2: We didn't choose which show it was going to be.
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  Speaker 2: It was just when the network decided when they were
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  Speaker 2: going to er it. And this is now on eight
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  Speaker 2: pm on a Thursday night, and that's just how it was. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Do you think you're so much more your life is
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  Speaker 2: better and you are happier now that you've got infinite
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  Speaker 2: TV shows at your fingertips. No, if anything, I was
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  Speaker 2: actually a lot more excited because I had something to
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  Speaker 2: look forward to and it was really good. And then
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  Speaker 2: when it was on, I was fucking here for it.
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  Speaker 2: I was present and I didn't want anyone to interrupt me,
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  Speaker 2: and I was really enjoying it. Now there's this complacency
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  Speaker 2: because we have so much accessibility, we have so much
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  Speaker 2: hat of figurtives to start watching something, we get over it,
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  Speaker 2: click next, next, next next. People are like that in
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  Speaker 2: the dating scene as well. There's so much, so much available,
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  Speaker 2: too many options that you're literally saying next next, because
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  Speaker 2: you don't invest enough time in somebody to know if
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  Speaker 2: it's worth your while or not. It's not that person's
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  Speaker 2: not good enough. Is that people can't be fucked anymore
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  Speaker 2: because they have too many options. Okay. If you want
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  Speaker 2: to maximize your relationships, your time, your potential in your life,
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  Speaker 2: cull your options. Okay,