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SELF CHECK 6 Signs You're Becoming A Toxic Person · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: When you think of a toxic person, what comes to mind?
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  Speaker 1: Toxic traits aren't always obvious. They can go unchecked for
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  Speaker 1: a while. It can be challenging to look inwards and
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  Speaker 1: consider whether you have these traits, but it can also
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  Speaker 1: give you the opportunity to become a better friend, family member,
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  Speaker 1: and significant other. In this video, we'll be learning about
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  Speaker 1: six signs that you're becoming a toxic person. If you
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  Speaker 1: notice you have some of these tendencies, there's no need
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  Speaker 1: to feel down on yourself. The goal is to help
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  Speaker 1: you reflect and see if there are any areas for
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  Speaker 1: improvement in your communication style or behaviors that you could
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  Speaker 1: benefit from changing. So let's jump into it. Number one,
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  Speaker 1: you're argumentative. Do you find yourself constantly getting into arguments
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  Speaker 1: or feeling excited when a conflict arises? If so, you
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  Speaker 1: could be acting in a toxic manner to those around
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  Speaker 1: you by causing unnecessary disagreements Of course, it's normal to
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  Speaker 1: argue occasionally with the people in your life. Disagreements happen
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  Speaker 1: from time to time. But if it's a constant pattern
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  Speaker 1: and you find it hard to keep your relationships peaceful,
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  Speaker 1: it may be worth considering whether you're starting fights that
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  Speaker 1: could be avoided. Number two, you never own up to mistakes.
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  Speaker 1: We all make mistakes and sometimes even hurt people unintentionally.
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  Speaker 1: But the way we act after these slip-ups can make
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  Speaker 1: a huge difference in our relationships. How do you respond
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  Speaker 1: in these situations? One telltale sign that you can't admit
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  Speaker 1: to your wrongdoings is that you often say, I'm sorry
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  Speaker 1: that you feel, instead of saying, I'm sorry that I.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of taking responsibility and apologizing when you mess up,
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  Speaker 1: you might tend to shift the blame to someone or
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  Speaker 1: something else. One way to avoid this toxic behavior is
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  Speaker 1: to listen to someone else's concerns before you become defensive
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  Speaker 1: and focus on fixing the issue at hand rather than
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  Speaker 1: being right. Number three. You can't seem to avoid drama.
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  Speaker 1: If you always find yourself in drama, whether it's at work, school,
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  Speaker 1: or in your personal life, it can be helpful to
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  Speaker 1: self-reflect and ask why. Is everyone else in the wrong
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  Speaker 1: or is there something you can change to maintain more
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  Speaker 1: peaceful relationships? Some people have different personalities and just don't
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  Speaker 1: get along, but there may also be a different cause.
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  Speaker 1: For example, does drama make you feel important because the
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  Speaker 1: attention is on you? Does it entertain you? If so,
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  Speaker 1: this could be a toxic behavior that may have a
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  Speaker 1: negative effect on you and others in your life. Number four,
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  Speaker 1: you are jealous and possessive. You find yourself getting jealous
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  Speaker 1: of your friends or partners. To consider this question further,
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  Speaker 1: notice how you feel when people you're close to hang
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  Speaker 1: out with others. If you feel a sense of possessiveness
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  Speaker 1: or have the urge to control them, this could be
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  Speaker 1: a toxic behavior to monitor more closely. Communicating openly with
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  Speaker 1: your friends or partner about setting reasonable boundaries can be beneficial.
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  Speaker 1: It's also important to be self-aware when feelings of jealousy
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  Speaker 1: come up. Remember, just because a friend enjoys hanging out
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  Speaker 1: with someone else, that doesn't mean your relationship is less
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  Speaker 1: important to them. Number five, you are overly competitive. Under
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  Speaker 1: normal circumstances, competition is healthy. Most of us want to
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  Speaker 1: excel and feel like we are above average. But it's
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  Speaker 1: also important to celebrate others' success and lift them up,
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  Speaker 1: especially those you love. How do you feel when you
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  Speaker 1: hear about a loved one's success? Are you happy for
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  Speaker 1: them or do you feel the need to downplay it?
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  Speaker 1: If you find yourself diminishing others wins and only celebrating
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  Speaker 1: your own, you might be engaging in toxic behaviors. There
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  Speaker 1: is room for all of us to win. Everyone's journey
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  Speaker 1: is different and others' accomplishments don't take away from your own.
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  Speaker 1: And number six, you are extremely critical of others. When
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  Speaker 1: you have a close relationship with someone, you might poke
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  Speaker 1: fun at each other every once in a while. This
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  Speaker 1: might even be a way to bond with your friend
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  Speaker 1: or partner. to show how comfortable you are with them.
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  Speaker 1: But you might cross the line and make someone feel
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  Speaker 1: negative about themselves. When you point out someone's flaws, it
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  Speaker 1: can sometimes do more harm than good. These criticisms don't
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  Speaker 1: always have to be serious. Mocking people or speaking in
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  Speaker 1: a disrespectful tone, whether it's sarcasm or not, can be
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  Speaker 1: a toxic way of communicating. If you catch yourself cracking
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  Speaker 1: jokes or making comments that tear others down, ask yourself
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  Speaker 1: whether it could be affecting their self-esteem. So, did you
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  Speaker 1: relate to any of these points? If you made it
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  Speaker 1: to the end of this video, take a moment to
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  Speaker 1: appreciate yourself for learning more about toxic traits and considering
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  Speaker 1: where you can improve in your relationships. That in itself
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  Speaker 1: is an achievement. Whether you recognized any of these traits
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  Speaker 1: in yourself or not, remember that everyone has room to improve.
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  Speaker 1: Your desire to reflect on your own habits will make
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  Speaker 1: you a better friend, coworker, family member, you name it.
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  Speaker 1: Asking others for feedback on your communication style, including what
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  Speaker 1: they want to see you do more or less of,
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  Speaker 1: can be a simple way to avoid toxic behavior and
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  Speaker 1: improve your relationships. If you found this video helpful, like
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  Speaker 1: Until next time.