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The Cheat Codes That Will Change Your Life In 2025 · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.
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  Speaker 2: Hey chicks, I'm sou and I'm here and this is
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  Speaker 2: two broke chicks to show that shares life lessons and
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  Speaker 2: tips to help make you rich in life.
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  Speaker 3: And we are so big.
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  Speaker 1: Are So.
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  Speaker 2: We're back in the studio for our very first episode
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  Speaker 2: of twenty twenty five.
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  Speaker 3: What the fuck? Sorry?
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  Speaker 1: I just was only a moment when I was like,
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  Speaker 1: we first started recording this in twenty twenty one. Yeah, exactly,
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  Speaker 1: we first started recording.
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  Speaker 3: That was a great tongue pop. By the way, thank you.
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  Speaker 3: We first started recording to brow Chicks in twenty twenty one.
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  Speaker 1: My god, not raved down record, not the Riverside zero recording.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, so this is our very first record of
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  Speaker 2: twenty twenty five. We're so excited to get back into
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  Speaker 2: it and back into your ear holes. So we're going
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  Speaker 2: to start with cheat codes for twenty twenty five. I
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  Speaker 2: love a cheat code, you know, we love a cheat code.
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  Speaker 3: How was your holidays?
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  Speaker 2: Fabulous? Lots of like family time, very wholesome vibes. So
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  Speaker 2: much decluttering, Yeah, yeah, so much. I had a list
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  Speaker 2: and a game plan, of course, of what I needed
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  Speaker 2: to do, and I would say I did a lot
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  Speaker 2: more than I thought I was going to get through.
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  Speaker 2: I like feel so much lighter and like ready to
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  Speaker 2: tackle the new year.
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  Speaker 3: That's the best thing to do over the break. I
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  Speaker 3: think the same thing. I made a notion board of a.
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  Speaker 1: Twenty twenty five dep clutter and I like shared it
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  Speaker 1: with my boyfriend Rob and like assigned him jobs.
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  Speaker 3: That's a good idea. How was your holidays? It was good.
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  Speaker 1: It was such nice weather and I ended up going
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  Speaker 1: up the coast for a little bit also with my fam,
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  Speaker 1: which was just so good, and I just read so
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  Speaker 1: many books.
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  Speaker 3: It was so fun. But yeah, it was just good.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I definitely.
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  Speaker 1: Had a bit of like an off the grid holiday
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  Speaker 1: which was just nice.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, much needed, Yah needed. And what's your obsession at
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  Speaker 2: the moment?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, my obsession? You're gonna love this?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Victorian slang that needs to come back in twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty five.
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  Speaker 2: I'm here for this.
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  Speaker 3: You're gonna love this.
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  Speaker 2: He he yee.
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  Speaker 1: Bitch, all right, coffee sisters, what do you think that means?
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  Speaker 3: Girls who drink coffee together?
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  Speaker 1: Best friends? Oh cute, So we're coffee sisters.
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  Speaker 3: We are in every sense of the word giggle mug.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know someone who's always giggling, So you're
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  Speaker 1: a giggle mug.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is my favorite. Half rats, half rats. Is
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  Speaker 2: that like half curly hair, you know how you like
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  Speaker 2: rat your hair? Close means you're a bit drunk.
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  Speaker 1: Ah yeah, so like if we're a bit tipsy, it
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  Speaker 1: means we're a bit half rat feeling half rats.
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  Speaker 3: I like that.
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  Speaker 2: Say I love all of these.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, chuck a boo, I'm not even gonna guess is
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  Speaker 1: a dear friend.
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  Speaker 3: Chuck a booga boo.
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  Speaker 1: Chuckaboo, come here, chegababe Jacoba mccaffee, sister and my chokaboo.
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  Speaker 1: She's such a giggle mug that she is half friends.
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  Speaker 1: She's half rats right now. Okay, it's champagne weather.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh like nice weather to sit outside and have a champagne.
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  Speaker 3: No, it's pouring rain. Oh yeah, well there's nothing to
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  Speaker 3: do except.
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  Speaker 1: Drink, so champagne champagne showers.
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  Speaker 3: You stole it from the Victorian. Oh my god, this
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  Speaker 3: one's my favorite.
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  Speaker 1: Not up to dick, oh like, not up to scratch,
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  Speaker 1: not very well, you're bit sick which means you're not
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  Speaker 1: up to dick.
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  Speaker 3: Next six with it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with that and that's the last one.
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  Speaker 1: So to summarize, we have coffee sisters aka best friends,
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  Speaker 1: giggle mug aka someone who's always giggling, half rats aka
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  Speaker 1: a bit drunk, chuck a boo aka a dear friend.
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  Speaker 1: It's champagne weather aka it's pouring rain and not up
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  Speaker 1: to dick.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, not very well, Okay, what's your obsession?
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  Speaker 2: My obsession is something that we have both been obsessing
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  Speaker 2: over for a long long time, and I feel like
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  Speaker 2: a lot of the other girllypops have been too.
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  Speaker 3: And it's the color cherry red.
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  Speaker 2: Because according to the Pinterest Predicts report that came out
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  Speaker 2: I think at the end of last year, they have
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  Speaker 2: announced that.
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  Speaker 3: Cherry red is not going anywhere. It's not going anywhere.
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  Speaker 3: If anything, she is.
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  Speaker 2: The color of twenty twenty five and the term cherry
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  Speaker 2: red vibe is up three hundred and twenty five percent
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  Speaker 2: in searches on Pinterest.
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  Speaker 3: Right, because it's already half my wardrobe.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, look at the surroundings. Yes, chicks, we have
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  Speaker 2: cherry red accents all around the studio.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm like, I'm here.
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  Speaker 1: For I think red is a neutral. Red is a
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  Speaker 1: neutral color. It goes with everything. Everyone looks good in red.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what was also in that Pinterest report
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  Speaker 1: which we spoke about when we were going through from
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  Speaker 1: Moments was Fishermen's Core.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like cable knit jumpers, overalls, like boxer shorts,
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  Speaker 1: gum boots, beanies.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so here for this, especially as we get into
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  Speaker 2: the cooler month same.
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  Speaker 3: I literally can't wait that.
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  Speaker 1: I was even being like, I'm going to buy a
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  Speaker 1: really nice cable knit jumper now because it's summer, so
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  Speaker 1: I'll get it on sale.
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, Alex, you already have someoney nit jumpers.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, I feel like You've already got so
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  Speaker 2: many things that could work into that, and so do I,
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  Speaker 2: which is good.
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  Speaker 3: And the other one is Castle Core.
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  Speaker 2: That was my favorite that one.
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  Speaker 3: I'm ready. It's like fucking fairy Castle into it.
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  Speaker 1: Corsets, they're not going anywhere, They're not to go anywhere,
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  Speaker 1: my eyes. But also like chain metallics, all that bar studs, yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: Joan of arc Yeah, yeah, yeah, So I'm excited for those.
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  Speaker 1: But I think we'll do a whole episode about like
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty five fashion trends and like ways to upscale
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  Speaker 1: your wardrobe as well that are affordable.
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  Speaker 3: Not yet, don't get to it.
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  Speaker 2: Don't get too excited, chicks. Okay, so we've got our
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  Speaker 2: obsessions of the week out of the way, but Alijandro,
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  Speaker 2: you have some very exciting news for the chicks.
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  Speaker 3: Oh god. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So we have launched a second podcast and it is
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  Speaker 1: called The Basic Bitch book Club, the book Club for Basic,
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  Speaker 1: and it is hosted by one Head Basy Bitch and
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  Speaker 1: basically it is a podcast that combines everything book talk,
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  Speaker 1: from smart self help, all of the fun stuff, enemies
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  Speaker 1: to lovers, trope, akatar theories, recaps, and just all the
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  Speaker 1: fun stuff that I absolutely love talking about with books.
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  Speaker 1: And it launched today that we're recording, so yesterday by
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  Speaker 1: the time this episode comes out, and it literally hit
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  Speaker 1: number one on the Arts podcast. So I shit my pants.
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  Speaker 3: I literally like punch my boyfriend when I woke up,
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, wait, but yeah, definitely go give
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  Speaker 3: it a listen. We can put a little link in
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  Speaker 3: the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely, And yeah, yeah, I said smut and sex in
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  Speaker 1: the first episode about seventeen times, so it.
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  Speaker 2: Kind of sounds like to roache. Yeah, if you love
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  Speaker 2: our episodes on books to Read in your twenties, you
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  Speaker 3: It's all right, well, very exciting, spooky of.
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  Speaker 2: Course, but shall we get into l episode. Our first
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  Speaker 2: cheat code of twenty twenty five is to pick a
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  Speaker 2: word of the year.
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  Speaker 3: I love this me too. It's for breakfast. Nummy nummy
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  Speaker 3: numby no nice. What's your word of the year?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, my word of the year is less less stress less, stuff, less,
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  Speaker 1: clutter less, routine, less control, less of just like everything
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  Speaker 1: and just like peel all my shit back and just
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  Speaker 1: have the basics and the fundamentals because last year there
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  Speaker 1: was just like it was such a great year, but
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  Speaker 1: there was just a lot going on between you know,
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  Speaker 1: launching jewelry and bikinis and the planners and writing a book.
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  Speaker 3: And doing a live show and all that stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah that I know. I thrive in chaos a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: It's my brain, Like I when there's a lot going on,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like.
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  Speaker 3: Yep on it got it. But bah, like I love that.
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  Speaker 1: But I think with how I started feeling towards the
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  Speaker 1: end of the year, I just was really really tired
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  Speaker 1: and then overwhelmed because my brain was going a million
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  Speaker 1: miles an hour with like multiple different things.
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  Speaker 3: So this year I'm just a bit like, let's just
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  Speaker 3: do a little.
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  Speaker 1: Bit less nothing that like you guys will feel on
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  Speaker 1: your end more, just like in terms of me that
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I just think I'm letting I'm gonna be
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  Speaker 1: letting go of a lot of the control I feel
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  Speaker 1: the need to have in life and just do a
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  Speaker 1: little bit less. I'm still going to be the loudest
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  Speaker 1: obnoxious person obviously, and in terms of even just products
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  Speaker 1: and shopping and spending like less, spending less shit around
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  Speaker 1: my house, less of all of that. Like I just
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  Speaker 1: want you know, my ride or die in every category
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  Speaker 1: of my life, in terms of people, in terms of
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  Speaker 1: activities and events and spending and drinking and all that stuff,
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  Speaker 1: my word is less. So like, if I'm feeling overwhelmed,
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  Speaker 1: like that's the thing that I'm going to be using
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  Speaker 1: to center myself being, Like, Okay, how can I bring
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  Speaker 1: this to be a little bit less?
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  Speaker 3: I like that. There's a reason why they say less
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  Speaker 3: is more.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it's a classic what you said that, didn't you?
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  Speaker 3: You invented that? Yeah, I feel like that was pretty sure.
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  Speaker 1: No one else said that before you just did less
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  Speaker 1: is more dash.
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  Speaker 3: Sally mcmully.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, my word of the year is consistency, And I
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  Speaker 2: think it's in a similar vein of your word of
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  Speaker 2: the year in terms of where it came from and
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  Speaker 2: what inspired me to get there. Because we did have
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  Speaker 2: so many amazing things happen last year. We were so
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  Speaker 2: incredibly busy. I let go of a lot of really
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  Speaker 2: basic sort of routines that helped me feel put together
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  Speaker 2: and like a functioning adult.
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  Speaker 1: And your Sunday Sunday hair mask, face mask.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, things like that, or just like logging off at
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  Speaker 2: the same time every day and then having an afterwork routine,
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  Speaker 2: making sure that I'm really romanticizing the shower routine and
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  Speaker 2: moisturizing my whole body when I get out, flossing my
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  Speaker 2: teeth every day, like things like that that are so.
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  Speaker 1: Basic, but they do make you feel put together one
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  Speaker 1: thousand percent.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, And there was just like a list of
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  Speaker 2: those things, and I'm like, oh my god, Like I
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  Speaker 2: was feeling really frazzled, and I was like, all of
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  Speaker 2: these things are so easy, but I feel like when
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  Speaker 2: you are frazzled, that's when it's hard to get back
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  Speaker 2: into it because you're like, exactly, yeah, But consistency is
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  Speaker 2: what turns those habits into everyday routines for you rather
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  Speaker 2: than like chores.
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  Speaker 3: So that's what I'm trying to lean.
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  Speaker 2: Into those everyday, really basic things and doing those consistently
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  Speaker 2: so that when things do get busy or I do
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  Speaker 2: feel stressed, I at least feel like I'm put together
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  Speaker 2: and like have that structure in my life amongst the chaos,
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  Speaker 2: but also amongst those times when things are a little
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  Speaker 2: bit more relaxed.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, do you know what my favorite thing to say
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  Speaker 1: to myself in those moments where I'm like, fuck, I
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  Speaker 1: can't be bothered to like have a shower, or I
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  Speaker 1: can't be bothered to put my clothes away from the laundry,
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  Speaker 1: which is every day. The like grounding thing, which this
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  Speaker 1: is not new thought to anyone, but it's like focusing
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  Speaker 1: on how good it's going to feel after I do
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  Speaker 1: that thing because I am. I came out of the
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  Speaker 1: womb of procrastinator. I was like, I hate doing stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I hate doing a task. Brushing my teeth worst job
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  Speaker 1: in the world. But I'm like, how good is a
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  Speaker 1: minty fresh male? I feel like that's going to be great.
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  Speaker 1: Do I enjoy brushing my teeth?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm being very brave by admitting that, big girl,
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  Speaker 1: But I'm like, yeah, big deal.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm like, but it feels good to have clean tape.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, you know, it's like when you get into bed
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  Speaker 1: and you have a shower before bed.
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  Speaker 3: But sometimes, like you know, when you come home and
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  Speaker 3: work and.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, I don't want I don't want to wash
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  Speaker 1: my hair, I wash my legs, I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: put my.
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  Speaker 3: Fake tan on dirt. Yeah here, but how good is
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  Speaker 3: it going to feel after?
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  Speaker 1: And that's like what you have to like latch onto
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  Speaker 1: even with like going to the gym, Like I literally
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  Speaker 1: went to the gym nearly like every day over the break,
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  Speaker 1: and I'll who who am I?
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  Speaker 3: Who's that new.
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  Speaker 1: Fitness influencer on the block. She's coming, She's coming for
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  Speaker 1: the gig Jk's.
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  Speaker 3: But I was like, I do feel good after God,
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  Speaker 3: damn it, cow I let us go.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: No, I think that's the key. Okay, So if you
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  Speaker 2: checks haven't chosen your word of the year yet, let's
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  Speaker 2: talk through why it's beneficial. You know, we've spoken through
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  Speaker 2: our individual ones and why they feel good. But here's
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  Speaker 2: why you should choose a word of the year.
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  Speaker 1: Oh and then tell us comment comment on the potty
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  Speaker 1: what your word of the year is.
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  Speaker 2: So the number one reason is clarity and focus. So
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  Speaker 2: it simplifies that decision making, I guess, and gives you
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  Speaker 2: a north star to look to when things do feel
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  Speaker 2: chaotic and overwhelming, which I think is really helpful because
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  Speaker 2: sometimes you can feel like, oh, but I need to
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  Speaker 2: be this and I need to listen. It's easy to.
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  Speaker 1: Get distracted as well, because everyone I think January eighth
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  Speaker 1: is the day that nearly half of people give up
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  Speaker 1: on their news resolutions or New Year's goals, right, and
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  Speaker 1: it is really easy to have your life vision and
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  Speaker 1: goals are just as.
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  Speaker 3: You're continuing through the year, even though we're only in January.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I can definitely say that some of the things
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  Speaker 1: that I was thinking as out of the year aren't
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  Speaker 1: what I'm thinking now because they just change. Whereas like
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  Speaker 1: having one word that's kind of like a guiding word
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  Speaker 1: gives room for flexibility, and like you said, it's like
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  Speaker 1: a north star, so you can kind of go through
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  Speaker 1: the evolving changes that is just fucking life and ask
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  Speaker 1: yourself does this align.
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  Speaker 3: With my word?
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  Speaker 1: So you know, if I was going to start doing
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  Speaker 1: a fuck ton of more work in some sort of area,
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  Speaker 1: I'd be like, does this align?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I probably need a repreioriti.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to come and whisper No.
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  Speaker 3: Now, see, C only knows what I'm like. I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: you start throe new business.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, I'm teeth please, I'm like thrifting with
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  Speaker 4: like literally seventeen blue jeans in my arms and You're like, yes,
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  Speaker 4: I'm like.
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  Speaker 1: Well please that I need a boot cut. And then
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  Speaker 1: the second reason why having a word of the year
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  Speaker 1: is beneficial is because unlike resolutions that focus on what
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  Speaker 1: to do, a word of the year emphasizes how to
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  Speaker 1: approach life, and similar to what we were just saying,
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  Speaker 1: I think this just gives you so much more guidance
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  Speaker 1: because you can know what you want, but how to
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  Speaker 1: get it is a completely different ball game.
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  Speaker 3: And kind of like what you were saying before.
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  Speaker 2: The third reason that it's beneficial is flexibility, because having
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  Speaker 2: goals are amazing and great, but as you mentioned, things change,
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  Speaker 2: especially throughout a year, let alone from day to day,
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  Speaker 2: and having a Word of the Year can keep you
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  Speaker 2: accountable and keep you on track without making you feel
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  Speaker 2: like a failure or you're off track if things.
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  Speaker 3: Do change slightly.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you're allowed to change your goals as the
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  Speaker 2: year progresses. But if you have that word of the
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  Speaker 2: year keeping you accountable, you can make sure it still
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  Speaker 2: aligns to what you truly want, which I think is
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  Speaker 2: so important.
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  Speaker 3: Do you have any goals this year?
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  Speaker 2: Nah?
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  Speaker 5: No, I.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I don't really feel like I do, like in
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  Speaker 1: terms of how I've kind of got into this year
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  Speaker 1: compared to last year.
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  Speaker 3: Like last year, I had a full vision.
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  Speaker 1: Board and decked out, and I had all these goals
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  Speaker 1: that were so measurable, so numerical, and all such annual goals,
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: but so many of those happened, and then this year
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: I just am feeling such a gentler approach, which I
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: think is the theme that's I'm repeating myself with that.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: I'm like, my.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: Goals are very much aligned just to that one word,
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: and my goals are literally like to have more fun. Yeah,
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Like I don't have a single thing that's like run
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: five k's or save this much money. I think it's
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: more aligned to just being a little bit lighter this year. Yeah,
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: having a little bit less expectation of myself, which is
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: sometimes what you need to do when you have had.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: A really big year, or you have had a really
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: intense year. Maybe last year you went through a breakup.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: Maybe last year you decided that the career that you're
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: pursuing isn't necessarily for you, or you moved out of
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: home and you're struggling with that.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: Whatever that is.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: If last year felt like just the downward part of
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: a roller coaster and your tummy is flipping and you're like,
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: is this ever going fucking end? Yeah, then going into
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty five being a little bit gentle is probably
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: the right way to go through because you can always
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: add them in.
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you can get.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Car halfway through the year and be like, okay, do
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: you know what I do? Want to write down some goals.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I think having an intention for the year is always important,
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: like not going in and raw dogging it, but not
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: necessarily like writing a list of expectations for yourself when
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: you're already a little bit tired.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think that's the thing. Like with the
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: word of the year, it could be fun, or it
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: could be joy, or it could be friendship. It doesn't
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: have to be reinvention or you know, elevation or something
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: that's about self betement in the traditional way. It can
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: be something that is purely about feeling better and feeling happier.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: And I think I do have goals for the year,
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: but a lot of them are in line with that
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: to kind of rain me in.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: Okay, So how to get the most out of a
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: word of the year.
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: So Number one is having visual reminders.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: After doing a vision board last year, it was crazy
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: how much of it actually happened.
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: When we were making them last year, I was like,
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: fuck it, I'll just put it on. I'll just see.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Because I've never ever ever achieved my goals, Like I've
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: never achieved news resolutions because I get the joke from
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: me and hit of setting them and then I'm like done.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: That's why we launched reach in life.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: Literally the first.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Year that we like launched the planner made vision boards
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: and actually like applied it to our life was the
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: first year I ever achieved my news goals, which was
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: like but it was crazy the amount of stuff that
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: was on our vision boards that actually came true.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: And I loved that trend that was like vision board verse.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: Reality and going through like I had, like getting a
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: new like upgrading my car because rip Bessie but she
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: stopped working, and then going to Europe, getting you know,
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: myself into a stronger phase of my life, learning how
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: to do like my brows at home, Like there was
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: just it was so crazy.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: A new couch. My couch was literally on my vision
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: board and then was it and I was like, this
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: is what is this black magic?
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: But yeah, having it visually and it does really help
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: because I remember there was days that I was like
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah, and it would be and it was
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: right next to my bed and I'd look at it
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: and it was judging me and it was like listen here,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: you little shit, get up and I was like, fine, yeah,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: And it's so good because out of sight, out of mind,
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: And we actually did do a whole episode on vision
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Boards last year.
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: So you can type that.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: In and you'll be able to find it easy psy
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: We can link it in the share notes that having
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: the word of the year, stick it on your mirror,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: stick it on your phone, stick it somewhere that you're
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: always going to see it, because that is going to
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: keep it in the front of mind for you in
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: those moments where maybe you are spiraling.
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: Or you've been like, what am I doing with my life? Yeah?
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: I think having something visual to anchor you to that
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: is so important because a lot of us say our
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: priorities are one thing, but your priorities are reflected in
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: how you spa and your money and how you spend
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: your time. And the start of the year is an
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: amazing time to reflect back on the last twelve months
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: and your habits and how you have been spending your
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: money and how you have been spending your time. And
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: it can be confronting, it can be hard, but it's
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: also really liberating because you may be like, oh, my
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: priority is to say, for a house, and it's like,
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: I think your priority is actually online shopping.
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: Why are you being mean?
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean, But I'm not saying that
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: it's not hard to do and that it's not a
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: tough conversation to.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: Have your cycle person.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: You know, like you say your goal is to save
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: for a house, but why you're on deep up every
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: day and I'm Mike Sally lower your damn.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: Pase that's different. You're supporting slow fashion, yeah, sustainability.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: Sayentrification for everything exactly.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: Okay. The next way to get.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: The most out of your word of the year is
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: daily reflect So start or end your day by asking
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: how can I live my word today?
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: And then lastly is check ins.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: So revisit your word monthly to reflect on how it
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: is influencing your life.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: And again, like we said, you can change it if
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: you want.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: If you're like, do you know what I think this
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: word reflects better on how I'm feeling now, Like they're
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: literally no rules.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: And a free hack. If you're listening to this and
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: you're like, how I don't know what to do? I
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: have a thousand words going through my head. Here's A
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: free tip to help you identify your word of the year,
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: and that's to use chat GPT, So just type in
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: help me choose my word of the year. My goals
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: and vision for twenty twenty five include and include a
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: list of the things that you want to achieve and.
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: Or do or spend more time with.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah Yeah, Moving on to cheat code number two for
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: twenty twenty five, say no to permissive thoughts. So what
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: are permissive thoughts? These are the things that we tell
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: ourselves to justify the habits or behaviors that we have
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: that are stopping us from achieving our goals. So, for example,
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: a permissive thought could be it's only fifty dollars ah,
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: or I know I'm burnt out, but things will slow
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: down once his project is over. These are all going
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: to be very different for every person. So a good
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: exercise to identify what your permissive thoughts may be is
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: to grab a piece of paper and divide it into
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: two columns. On the left side, write down what goals
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: you've wanted to achieve, and then next to those in
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: the right column, write down some of the things that
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: you have told yourself that have stopped you from achieving
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: those goals.
• 24:57
  Speaker 5: Like I'll start tomorrow exactly, yeah, or i'm really tired,
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: I'll just sleep in another ten minutes ah ah, or
• 25:10
  Speaker 5: I work.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: Better under pressure.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: It just seems like a reader.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: Nos.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: A lot of these are things that I wrote down
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: in my right hand column. They're not they're definitely it's
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: not personal. But by defining exactly what these permissive thoughts are,
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: in those moments when you don't want to do something
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: that's a little bit hard but you know it is
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: good for you and will help you achieve those goals,
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: something will go off in your brain and you'll say
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: that's a permissive thought and you can swap it with
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: something else. So instead of saying to yourself, I work
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: better under pressure, so I'll start right before it's due,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: reframe that and say, I know i'll get stressed the
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: day before and I'll be able to produce a better
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: piece of work if I give myself more time to
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: work on it.
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: And I think it's just being conscious of those things
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: and being conscious of those permissive thoughts that are holding
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: you back, and because the alternative is that you never
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: change them and you keep acting on these permissive thoughts.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: And something that was really hard for me to do,
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: but really cemented this and why this is so important
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: for me is that it was like, Okay, well, the
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: alternative is you don't change them.
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: So what happens?
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: You say, I always choose work over spending time with
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: my partner. I always choose sitting down and scrolling on
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: TikTok instead of reading the book that's on my bedside table.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: I choose to sleep in instead of going to the gym.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: And it's like, you always choose this because I think
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: we kind of lie to ourselves that those are our priorities.
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: But they're not.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: And it's these things we tell ourselves because it change
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: is really hard, and I think we try and you know,
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: ease the blow to ourselves and be like, oh no,
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: but it's you know, it'll slow down after the soil.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: I'll do it tomorrow, or it's only fifty dollars.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: All these little things are trying to convince us to
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: just stay in these same patterns and habits that we've
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: been doing. But it is a difficult exercise, but I
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: really do recommend it because it will make you realize
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: that your priorities don't currently align with your values and.
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: Your actions and something really good to do.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: I think at the beginning of the year, especially.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Next cheat code and last cheat code of this episode, the.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Rule of one hundred.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: You're gonna like this because this is actually so aligned
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: to your word of the year.
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: So I just it was like I just told you
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Sana was coming in the studio.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: I recently read this and became utterly obsessed with it.
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: And it's called the rule of one hundred.
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: So if you spend one hundred hours a year in
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: any discipline, which is only eighteen minutes a day, you'll
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: be better than ninety five percent of the world in
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: that discipline. Consistency is everything. So this is Jade Bonacoult's quote,
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: and it highlights the incredible power of consistency and the
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: high impact of small daily efforts over time, because when
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: you break down it down to eighteen minutes, Like if
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: I said I want you to spend one hundred hours
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: this year learning Italian, you'd.
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: Be like, I didn't have one hundred hours.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: I didn't have one hundred hours a year to spend
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: learning how to play a new instrument or journaling or
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: learning a new language. But when you realize it's only
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: eighteen minutes a day, and think about how many minutes
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: a day you scroll on your phone. It's really easy
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: to actually achieve one hundred hours a year bettering yourself
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: in some way that's not necessarily self development, it's not
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: necessarily about that. But I think any way that you're
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: spending time that is building consistency in a hobby or
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: an interest or journaling or gratitude or whatever it is,
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: you're so much better off for that instead of the
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: shit dover I mean.
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: You get from strolling on your phone.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: So the key to the rule of one hundred is consistency.
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: Regular daily practice is more effective than sporadic, intensive efforts,
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: and this approach helps build habits and ensures steady improvement.
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: I love that.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So what would you spend eighteen minutes doing a day?
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: What do you want to spend This is my follow
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: up question, follow up, follow up?
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: What do you want to spend one hundred hours doing
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: this year?
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: I think it's walking for me. Did you buy a
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: walking pad yet?
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: No?
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: I haven't mine comes today.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: Well, I can't wait to hear the full review, obviously,
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: but I've made more of an effort to walk instead
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: of getting an uber or public transport where I can
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: and building that into my routine only.
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: Two weeks in. Right, bad, We're good, We're good.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: But I can already already feel that it's having such
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: a positive impact and even again being like, you can
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: just do eighteen minutes.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: And it's not about I think there's a lot of
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: content and narratives at the start of the year that's
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: about changing the way that you look.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not about it, and it's.
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: Not about that at all.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: I think it's truly about the way that you feel.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: And we were talking about this over the break because
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: we were going to the beach and we ended up
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: getting a park but it was like a little bit
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: far away, but I ended up enjoying walking like from
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: the car to the beach ten times more rather than
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: getting one.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: Like right there.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And we're just saying how even when we're on holidays,
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: you just walk everywhere. Yeah, like when we were in Europe,
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: but when we go to you know, wherever we've been,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: you just walk everywhere and you just feel so much better.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: My eighteen minutes to day that I want to spend
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: is like on hobbies, So I think I need to
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: identify and pick which one.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: But the one that I've been the most consistent with.
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: I would say is learning Italian, which I'm really excited
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: bye and DUELINGO.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: And I become a really good friends.
• 31:13
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, imagine spending it.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: Like I get to the end of the year and
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: I can be like, I spent one hundred hours learning Italian.
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: I'm immediately better than everyone else.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: That little bird I'm due Lingo is going to be
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: giving you all the accolades.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's all you need. Yeah, he's obsessed with me.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: I'm like, stop messaging Meduo and he's like, baby girl.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: You need to continue a streak. And I'm like, okay,
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: do it.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: I'll do it all right.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: Shall we get into advice with the Chicks?
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it all right.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much to the Cheeky Chook for emailing
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: this into us. If you do want to send anything,
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: you can either email us or you can send it
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: to the Broke Chicks Hardline, which will leave the number
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: in the description of the episode.
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: All right, strap In is a bit of a tail.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: Okay, Hi, Shikis, I'm in need of your advice. Am
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: I in the wrong for confronting one of my friends? Ooh,
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: so myself and my partner went away with some of
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: my friends on.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: A holiday midyear.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: All was well until this one particular friend got a
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: bit drunk half rats and cracked it because she was
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: losing at an Uno game and threw the cards directly
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: at my partner.
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: Everyone thought it was a bit aggressive, but she thought
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: it was and still thinks it's funny. My partner wasn't happy,
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: but he shrugged it off. Fast forward to Christmas and
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: we had an annual Christmas shindig. There was multiple people
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: in the room and she sat there flirting with my
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: partner's best friend and also continuously throwing a dog toy
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: at my partner's face and a head for over an hour.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: He tried to ignore her, hoping she would stop, but
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: she didn't.
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: He then made a comment about needing.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: A shield if she's going to be continuing to throw
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: stuff at him.
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: She didn't get the hint that he wanted her to stop.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: He didn't want to embarrass her in front of all
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: of our friends, so we let it go after making
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: a hinted joke to stop. During the night, she also
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: made a few flirty comments to him, but he shrugged
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: it off.
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: Oh my god. After everyone had left. He mentioned how
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: annoying it was and how he.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Didn't appreciate having a toy thrown at him continuously. I
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: also had a few of the friends that were there
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: make comments about her behavior. After a couple days of
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: thinking about how to approach it, I sent her a message,
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: as the next time I was going to see her
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: would be in a group setting and I didn't want
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: to wait long to confront the issue.
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: That's smart.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: So a messaged just saying, on a side note, drunk
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: slash Tipsy needs oh so like her. So drunk slash
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: Tipsy needs to stop throwing things at my partner as
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: he doesn't appreciate it and I would hate for him
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: to snap.
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: And have a go at her if it was to continue.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: I stated it wasn't a big issue, just needed to
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: nip it in the bud and ensure it doesn't continue
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: to happen as it's happened twice now.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: Oh shit ah.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: She then replied saying if I'm such a problem, don't
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: bother inviting me to things. Take this as my notice
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: for all future invites. Thank you, but no thank you.
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: Fuck.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: It was a bit of an overreaction. She could have
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: just said shit sorry, didn't realize. Yeah, it's now been
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: six weeks since, and her sister, who I'm also friends with, is.
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: Now getting involved. When she said, she.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: Didn't want to be in the middle, saying it shouldn't
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: have come from me, it should have come directly from
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: my partner if it was an issue, that I hurt
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: her feelings, and that I'm being stubborn for not messaging
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  Speaker 1: her since etc. I asked a few friends and they
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  Speaker 1: all agreed with me, saying that it was the nicest
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: way possible and that it makes sense for it to
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  Speaker 1: come from me, as in a relationship, you stick up
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: for your other half. They deal with their friends and
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: family and you deal with yours if there's any issues.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: I don't tolerate disrespectful behavior and would have said the
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: same thing to anyone and have done so in the past.
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  Speaker 1: Some of my friends think her behavior is more primary
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: school flirty and that she likes my post partner. Oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, the issue being we are getting married in
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: a few months and she's meant to be one of
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  Speaker 1: my bridesmaids.
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  Speaker 5: Fuck.
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  Speaker 1: I'm disappointed in her behavior and if she's flirting with him,
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  Speaker 1: I would be hurt by her actions and she's meant
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  Speaker 1: to be one of my closest friends.
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  Speaker 3: No part of me is jealous. I completely trust my partner,
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  Speaker 3: just disappointed in the friendship. Am I wrong for confronting
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  Speaker 3: my friend or is she just out of line?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, I know, I know You're definitely not
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  Speaker 2: in the wrong for confronting her. I think like it
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  Speaker 2: probably could have been better if your partner was in
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: a difficult situation. But it could have been good if
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: he was like, okay, like enough now.
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  Speaker 1: But I was in a room full of people, like
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: you know, if that happens, then like there's that awkward silence,
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  Speaker 1: and then as well, like he did kind of be like, oh,
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna need a shield, Like most self aware people
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: would pick up most aypful way people wouldn't spend.
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  Speaker 3: An hour throwing a dog to it at someone ahead. Yeah,
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: and that does kind of give the energy of being like,
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: oh my god, give me your heart. Yeah, you know totally.
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  Speaker 1: That is like it is semi attention seeking behavior to
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  Speaker 1: be doing that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, And I think that the way that
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: she responded was she's clearly embarrassed on the defense, which
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  Speaker 2: I get that is embarrassing, So you know, I can
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  Speaker 2: understand why she would be a little bit but hurt
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  Speaker 2: about it, but the way that she responded is not right,
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: Like she should have apologized.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: Also, this saying of take this as my RSVP to
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: all invitations, thank you, but no thank you.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like no accountability, no apology, completely putting it back
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: on you and making you feel like you're the bad person.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder if this is a unique instance like these
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  Speaker 2: last two parties, or if this is the sort of
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: behavior that she's shown like throughout their friendship. Because as
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  Speaker 2: much as I'm like, I can understand if you appreciate
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: and value the friendship and you want to reach out
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  Speaker 2: to her and try and make amends. But I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if you want somebody like this in your bridal party.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, no, because bridal parties are.
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  Speaker 2: Notorious for bringing up drama in friendship, throwing a dog
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  Speaker 2: toy at his head when you're saying you're there exactly
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: mid kiss, you may now kiss dog toy right at
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: the face.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I just I think that her response was quite immature.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: I think she could have been a little bit more understanding,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: And I don't think your partner should have been the
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: one to send the message, I think she's your friend.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: I think it would have been weird, uncomfortable and overstepping
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: for him to do that. Like if my partner messaged
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: a friend of mine and was like, hey, you pissed
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  Speaker 1: me off, I would probably kick him.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh my god, we have a seal kaboo.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: Boo, I'd be like, like, I don't, I completely agree.
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  Speaker 3: I think they deal with their friends and family.
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: You deal with your friends and family, Like, I don't
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: think you've done the wrong thing with that at all.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: But what I would suggest maybe thinking about and listening
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: to it's this new book from Mel Robbins and it's
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: called the Let Them Theory, which everyone probably knows at
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: this point, like the video Went Violet had nineteen million views.
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  Speaker 1: But there's a chapter in the book and it's the
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: second chapter, so it'll probably.
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  Speaker 3: Really really help.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: And it's not only about let them, but let me,
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: So let Them is kind of situating you and being like,
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: you know what if she wants to be mad about this,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: if she wants to tell her sister and they don't
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: want to talk to me, and she doesn't want to
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: come to events, and she doesn't want to.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: Be in my bridal party, anymore. Whatever that is.
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: Let them, but don't forget to also follow it up
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: with let me, So then let them do that, let
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: me continue on with my partner, ensure that I have
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: my boundaries, go about my wedding, find a different bridesmaid,
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: whatever that is. But have a listen to that, because
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: I think it'll really help you decide whether or not
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: you want to continue the friendship and if you think
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: there's something worth saving, or if you think that it's worth.
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: Just walking away.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: Because what would be hard in this situation is it
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: wasn't a big blow up. It was something really small
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: that obviously they're really close friends, so that's going to
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: be hard to just stop being friends because she was
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: throwing a dog toy at a boyfriend.
• 39:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, but I don't think it's about that.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: I think it's about the way that it's been handled
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: after and how you know, personal and defense ive.
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: She got about it.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I think sit with it a little bit
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: and have a think about what you want.
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: I think you went about it in the most mature
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: and gentle way that you could while also being honest,
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: because I.
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: Also don't think it should have been like I think
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: even meeting up in person to discuss it would have
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: made it a bigger deal than it needed to be. Yeah,
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: like I feel like sending a Texas phone. It's been
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: like hey, just a heads up, like this wasn't a vibe.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: And then to be like.
• 40:06
  Speaker 6: Okay, fine, I'm not coming to anything anymore. I was like, oh, yeah, good, Okay.
• 40:13
  Speaker 6: I don't know if that helped, but we made you
• 40:16
  Speaker 6: feel better.
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: I'd loved that. I've decided that we made you feel better. Okay,
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: you feel better? You feel good now? Yeah, you feel good?
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: Now?
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: That's a rap. That's a rappy doodle.
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: On our very first episode of Two Broke Chicks for
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: twenty twenty five, So Glad to be Better remix the
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: remix Rember, thanks for having us in your ear holes, chickies,
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: we love to be here. We really missed it, And
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: thanks to mk made for making today's episode of Two
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: Broke Chicks happened.
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  Speaker 3: Kisses, smooches, a little tickle