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What's actually keeping you stuck · This Daring Adventure

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  Welcome
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  to
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  this
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  Daring
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  Adventure
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  podcast,
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  where
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  we
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  work
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  on
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  bridging
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  the
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  gap
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  between
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  where
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  we
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  are
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  and
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  where
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  we
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  in
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  order
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  to
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  live
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  a
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  bigger
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  and
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  bolder
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  life.
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  In
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  this
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  podcast,
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  we
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  will
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  provide
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  inspiration,
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  tips,
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  and
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  skills
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  you
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  need
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  to
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  make
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  your
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  life
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  the
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  adventure
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  you
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  want
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  it
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  to
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  be.
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  Here's
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  your
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  host,
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  mindset
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  mentor
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  and
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  life
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  coach,
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  Trista
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  Guertin.
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  Hey,
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  everybody.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  This
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  Daring
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  Adventure.
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  This
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  is
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  episode
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  one
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  sixty-four.
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  And
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  I
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  wanted
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  to
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  talk
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  more
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  in
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  depth
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  about
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  feeling
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  stuck.
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  And
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  I
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  have
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  clients
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  who
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  will
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  tell
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  me
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  that
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  they
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  feel
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  stuck,
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  and
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  it's
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  like
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  it's
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  a
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  fact.
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  It's
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  a
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  thing.
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  It
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  is
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  just
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  the
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  way
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  things
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  are.
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  And
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  if
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  you've
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  worked
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  with
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  me
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  for
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  a
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  little
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  while
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  or
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  listened
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  to
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  any
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  of
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  the
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  other
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  podcasts,
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  you
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  know
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  that
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  It's
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  not
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  about
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  so
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  much
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  being
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  stuck
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  as
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  it
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  is
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  feeling
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  and
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  being
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  very
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  practiced
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  at
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  feeling
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  stuck.
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  And
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  your
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  brain
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  is
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  probably
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  right
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  now
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  saying,
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  "No,
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  I
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  am
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  stuck.
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  This
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  is
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  my
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  life.
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  These
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  are
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  my
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  circumstances.
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  This
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  is
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  what's
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  going
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  on."
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  You
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  can
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  probably
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  list
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  them
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  all
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  off
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  for
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  me.
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  But
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  what
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  if
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  that's
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  not
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  true?
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  What
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  if
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  that's
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  not
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  what
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  is
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  actually
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  happening?
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  What
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  if
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  what's
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  actually
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  happening
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  is
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  this:
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  You've
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  been
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  thinking
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  the
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  same
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  thoughts,
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  creating
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  the
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  same
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  feelings,
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  and
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  taking
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  the
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  same
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  actions
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  for
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  so
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  long
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  that
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  your
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  body
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  now
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  believes
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  that
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  this
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  is
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  just
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  who
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  you
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  are.
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  It's
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  important
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  to
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  know
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  that
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  your
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  body
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  can
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  become
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  addicted
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  to
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  certain
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  emotional
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  states:
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  frustration,
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  confusion,
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  overwhelm,
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  doubt.
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  Not
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  because
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  you
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  like
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  them,
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  right?
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  Nobody
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  would
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  say,
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  "Hey,
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  this
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  is
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  great.
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  I
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  love
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  feeling
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  this
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  way.
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  Let's
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  continue
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  doing
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  it."
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  But
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  it's
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  because
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  they're
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  familiar,
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  and
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  your
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  brain
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  and
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  your
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  body
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  will
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  always
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  choose
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  familiar
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  over
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  unknown,
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  even
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  if
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  the
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  familiar
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  is-
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  Is
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  keeping
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  you
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  stuck.
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  So
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  here's
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  why
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  you
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  feel
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  stuck,
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  and
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  I'm
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  gonna
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  try
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  and
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  break
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  this
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  down
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  in
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  the
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  simplest
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  way.
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  Nothing
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  in
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  your
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  life
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  is
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  creating
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  your
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  stuckness
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  directly.
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  It's
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  your
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  thinking.
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  And
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  I
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  know
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  you
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  might
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  have
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  heard
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  that
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  before,
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  and
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  I'm,
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  I'm
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  not
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  gonna
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  tell
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  you
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  to
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  think
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  positive
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  here,
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  but
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  it's
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  not
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  just
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  that
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  you're
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  thinking,
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  "I
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  don't
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  know
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  what
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  to
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  do.
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  This
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  is
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  too
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  hard.
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  I
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  can't
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  do
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  it.
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  What
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  if
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  I
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  fail?"
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  It's
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  that
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  those
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  thoughts
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  create
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  a
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  feeling,
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  and
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  that
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  feeling
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  becomes
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  your
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  default
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  state,
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  becomes
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  very
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  easy.
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  Overwhelm,
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  doubt,
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  discouragement,
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  defeat,
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  frustration.
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  And
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  then
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  from
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  that
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  feeling,
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  you
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  hesitate,
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  you
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  overthink,
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  you
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  wait,
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  you
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  scroll,
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  you
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  delay.
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  And
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  then
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  what
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  happens?
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  Nothing.
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  Nothing
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  changes,
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  and
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  your
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  brain
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  goes,
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  "See?
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  I
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  told
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  you.
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  We're
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  stuck.
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  This
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  isn't
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  gonna
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  work.
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  We
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  can't
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  do
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  this.
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  There's
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  something
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  wrong
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  with
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  us.
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  It's
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  not
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  possible."
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  Basically,
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  you're
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  stuck
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  in
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  an
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  emotional
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  loop.
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  And
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  here's
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  where
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  it
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  gets
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  really
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  interesting.
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  When
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  you
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  feel
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  the
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  same
• 4:12
  emotion
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  over
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  and
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  over
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  again,
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  your
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  body
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  starts
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  to
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  expect
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  it.
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  It
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  gets
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  used
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  to
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  it.
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  It
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  just
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  becomes
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  normal.
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  This
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  happens
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  to
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  everybody.
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  So
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  now,
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  even
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  if
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  you
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  try
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  to
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  think
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  something
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  new,
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  even
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  if
• 4:27
  you
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  say,
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  "I'm
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  going
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  to
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  change.
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  I'm
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  ready.
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  This
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  time
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  will
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  be
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  different,"
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  your
• 4:31
  body
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  is
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  like,
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  "Nope,
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  we
• 4:33
  don't
• 4:33
  do
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  that
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  here.
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  We
• 4:35
  do
• 4:35
  doubt.
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  We
• 4:36
  do
• 4:36
  hesitation.
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  We
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  do
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  stuck."
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  And
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  it
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  will
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  pull
• 4:40
  you
• 4:40
  right
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  back
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  into
• 4:41
  those
• 4:41
  familiar
• 4:42
  feelings.
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  And
• 4:44
  even
• 4:44
  if
• 4:44
  you
• 4:44
  don't
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  like
• 4:45
  it,
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  that's
• 4:46
  where
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  you
• 4:47
  land
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  up.
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  Not
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  because
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  something
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  has
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  gone
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  wrong,
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  not
• 4:50
  because
• 4:50
  there's
• 4:50
  something
• 4:50
  wrong
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  with
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  you,
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  but
• 4:52
  because
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  that's
• 4:53
  what
• 4:53
  you've
• 4:53
  practiced,
• 4:54
  and
• 4:55
  your
• 4:55
  brain
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  finds
• 4:56
  it
• 4:56
  familiar,
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  and
• 4:58
  it
• 4:58
  wants
• 4:58
  that
• 4:58
  familiarity.
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  So
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  does
• 5:01
  your
• 5:01
  body.
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  And
• 5:04
  so
• 5:05
  if
• 5:05
  you
• 5:06
  wanna
• 5:06
  shift
• 5:06
  this,
• 5:07
  we
• 5:07
  wanna
• 5:08
  look
• 5:08
  at
• 5:08
  your
• 5:09
  identity
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  because
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  over
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  time,
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  these
• 5:13
  patterns,
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  these
• 5:14
  thought
• 5:14
  loops,
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  this
• 5:16
  emotional
• 5:16
  pattern
• 5:17
  becomes
• 5:18
  your
• 5:18
  identity.
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  You
• 5:20
  become
• 5:20
  someone
• 5:21
  who
• 5:21
  struggles.
• 5:21
  You
• 5:22
  become
• 5:22
  someone
• 5:23
  who
• 5:23
  starts
• 5:24
  but
• 5:24
  doesn't
• 5:24
  finish.
• 5:26
  You
• 5:26
  become
• 5:26
  someone
• 5:26
  who
• 5:27
  can't
• 5:27
  figure
• 5:27
  it
• 5:28
  out.
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  But
• 5:30
  listen
• 5:30
  to
• 5:30
  me.
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  This
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  not
• 5:33
  who
• 5:33
  you
• 5:34
  are.
• 5:34
  It's
• 5:34
  not
• 5:34
  terminal.
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  It's
• 5:36
  not
• 5:37
  something
• 5:37
  that
• 5:37
  you
• 5:37
  can't
• 5:38
  change.
• 5:39
  This
• 5:40
  is
• 5:40
  who
• 5:40
  you've
• 5:40
  trained
• 5:41
  yourself
• 5:41
  to
• 5:41
  be
• 5:43
  through
• 5:43
  repetition.
• 5:44
  Through
• 5:45
  emotional
• 5:45
  rehearsal,
• 5:47
  through
• 5:48
  not
• 5:48
  interrupting
• 5:49
  the
• 5:49
  pattern.
• 5:50
  It
• 5:50
  just
• 5:51
  repeats,
• 5:51
  repeats,
• 5:51
  and
• 5:52
  repeats
• 5:53
  again
• 5:53
  because
• 5:54
  it
• 5:54
  becomes
• 5:54
  comfortable,
• 5:55
  because
• 5:55
  it
• 5:55
  becomes
• 5:56
  easy.
• 5:57
  Comfortable
• 5:58
  in
• 5:58
  the
• 5:58
  sense
• 5:58
  that
• 5:58
  it's
• 5:58
  known,
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  not
• 6:00
  because
• 6:00
  it
• 6:00
  feels
• 6:01
  good.
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  But
• 6:03
  this
• 6:04
  is
• 6:04
  where
• 6:04
  we
• 6:04
  start.
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  If
• 6:06
  you
• 6:06
  can
• 6:06
  see
• 6:06
  that
• 6:07
  pattern
• 6:07
  and
• 6:07
  understand
• 6:08
  that
• 6:08
  this
• 6:09
  is
• 6:09
  what's
• 6:09
  happening,
• 6:11
  that
• 6:11
  awareness
• 6:12
  starts
• 6:13
  to
• 6:13
  create
• 6:14
  change.
• 6:14
  Awareness
• 6:15
  creates
• 6:16
  an
• 6:17
  interruption
• 6:18
  to
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  pattern.
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  And
• 6:22
  once
• 6:22
  that
• 6:22
  starts,
• 6:23
  then
• 6:23
  that
• 6:23
  pattern
• 6:23
  of
• 6:23
  change
• 6:24
  can
• 6:25
  occur
• 6:26
  because
• 6:27
  if
• 6:27
  it
• 6:27
  was
• 6:27
  learned,
• 6:28
  it
• 6:28
  can
• 6:28
  be
• 6:28
  unlearned.
• 6:32
  Now,
• 6:33
  of
• 6:33
  course,
• 6:34
  you
• 6:34
  probably
• 6:35
  know
• 6:35
  this,
• 6:35
  change
• 6:36
  can
• 6:36
  feel
• 6:36
  so
• 6:37
  uncomfortable,
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  this
• 6:40
  is
• 6:40
  why
• 6:40
  when
• 6:40
  you
• 6:41
  try
• 6:41
  to
• 6:41
  change,
• 6:41
  it
• 6:42
  feels
• 6:43
  awful.
• 6:44
  It
• 6:44
  feels
• 6:44
  uncomfortable,
• 6:45
  it
• 6:45
  feels
• 6:45
  unnatural,
• 6:46
  it
• 6:46
  feels
• 6:46
  hard,
• 6:48
  takes
• 6:48
  work,
• 6:51
  and
• 6:51
  especially
• 6:52
  when
• 6:52
  you're
• 6:52
  starting
• 6:53
  out,
• 6:54
  you'll
• 6:54
  believe,
• 6:55
  your
• 6:55
  brain
• 6:56
  will
• 6:56
  tell
• 6:56
  you,
• 6:57
  "This
• 6:57
  isn't
• 6:57
  working."
• 6:59
  But
• 7:00
  that's
• 7:00
  not
• 7:01
  what
• 7:01
  it
• 7:01
  means.
• 7:02
  It
• 7:02
  means
• 7:03
  you're
• 7:03
  stepping
• 7:03
  out
• 7:04
  of
• 7:04
  the
• 7:04
  emotional
• 7:04
  pattern
• 7:05
  that
• 7:05
  your
• 7:05
  body
• 7:06
  is
• 7:06
  used
• 7:06
  to.
• 7:07
  It
• 7:08
  means
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  are
• 7:09
  breaking
• 7:09
  the
• 7:09
  loops
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  your
• 7:11
  brain
• 7:11
  has
• 7:11
  been
• 7:12
  spinning
• 7:12
  in
• 7:13
  all
• 7:13
  of
• 7:13
  these
• 7:13
  years.
• 7:15
  You're
• 7:15
  literally
• 7:16
  teaching
• 7:16
  yourself
• 7:16
  a
• 7:16
  new
• 7:17
  way
• 7:17
  to
• 7:17
  be,
• 7:18
  and
• 7:18
  it's
• 7:18
  like
• 7:19
  anything.
• 7:20
  It
• 7:20
  takes
• 7:20
  time,
• 7:20
  it
• 7:21
  takes
• 7:21
  effort,
• 7:22
  takes
• 7:22
  persistence
• 7:23
  and
• 7:23
  consistency.
• 7:27
  But
• 7:27
  it's
• 7:27
  new.
• 7:28
  It's
• 7:28
  different.
• 7:30
  It's
• 7:30
  unfamiliar,
• 7:31
  so
• 7:31
  it
• 7:31
  is
• 7:32
  gonna
• 7:32
  feel
• 7:32
  weird.
• 7:33
  That's
• 7:33
  okay.
• 7:34
  Stick
• 7:35
  with
• 7:35
  it.
• 7:38
  And
• 7:38
  so
• 7:38
  here's
• 7:39
  how
• 7:39
  you
• 7:39
  get
• 7:39
  unstuck.
• 7:41
  It's
• 7:41
  not
• 7:42
  by
• 7:42
  waiting
• 7:42
  to
• 7:42
  feel
• 7:42
  motivated.
• 7:43
  It's
• 7:44
  not
• 7:44
  by
• 7:44
  waiting
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  feel
• 7:44
  confident.
• 7:45
  Please
• 7:46
  don't
• 7:46
  do
• 7:46
  that.
• 7:47
  You
• 7:47
  change
• 7:48
  it
• 7:48
  by
• 7:49
  practicing
• 7:50
  a
• 7:50
  different
• 7:50
  emotional
• 7:51
  state
• 7:51
  on
• 7:52
  purpose.
• 7:54
  Before
• 7:54
  you
• 7:55
  have
• 7:55
  evidence,
• 7:55
  before
• 7:56
  it
• 7:56
  feels
• 7:56
  natural,
• 7:57
  before
• 7:57
  your
• 7:57
  brain
• 7:58
  agrees,
• 8:00
  you
• 8:00
  decide,
• 8:02
  "I
• 8:02
  am
• 8:03
  someone
• 8:03
  who
• 8:03
  is
• 8:03
  committed.
• 8:04
  I
• 8:04
  am
• 8:04
  someone
• 8:05
  who
• 8:05
  follows
• 8:05
  through.
• 8:06
  I
• 8:06
  am
• 8:06
  someone
• 8:07
  who
• 8:07
  can
• 8:07
  figure
• 8:07
  this
• 8:08
  out."
• 8:10
  And
• 8:10
  if
• 8:10
  that
• 8:11
  doesn't
• 8:11
  feel
• 8:11
  good,
• 8:12
  you
• 8:12
  can
• 8:12
  start
• 8:13
  smaller.
• 8:15
  "I
• 8:15
  am
• 8:15
  becoming
• 8:16
  someone
• 8:16
  who
• 8:16
  is
• 8:16
  committed.
• 8:18
  I'm
• 8:18
  learning
• 8:19
  to
• 8:19
  be
• 8:19
  someone
• 8:20
  who
• 8:20
  follows
• 8:20
  through.
• 8:23
  It's
• 8:23
  possible
• 8:25
  that
• 8:25
  I
• 8:25
  can
• 8:25
  figure
• 8:26
  things
• 8:26
  out."
• 8:29
  And
• 8:29
  then
• 8:29
  take
• 8:29
  a
• 8:29
  small
• 8:31
  action
• 8:32
  from
• 8:32
  that
• 8:32
  place.
• 8:33
  Small,
• 8:34
  micro
• 8:34
  actions.
• 8:35
  No
• 8:35
  problem.
• 8:38
  Five-minute
• 8:38
  walk.
• 8:41
  A
• 8:41
  short
• 8:41
  blog
• 8:42
  post,
• 8:44
  one,
• 8:45
  one
• 8:45
  application,
• 8:46
  whatever
• 8:46
  it
• 8:47
  is
• 8:47
  that
• 8:47
  you
• 8:47
  wanna
• 8:47
  work
• 8:47
  on,
• 8:48
  whatever
• 8:48
  it
• 8:48
  is
• 8:48
  you
• 8:48
  wanna
• 8:48
  change,
• 8:50
  asking
• 8:50
  one
• 8:50
  question.
• 8:54
  Doesn't
• 8:55
  matter.
• 8:56
  It
• 8:56
  can
• 8:56
  be
• 8:57
  teeny-tiny.
• 8:59
  You
• 8:59
  don't
• 9:00
  need
• 9:00
  to
• 9:02
  undertake
• 9:03
  a
• 9:03
  massive
• 9:04
  life
• 9:04
  overhaul
• 9:06
  in
• 9:06
  the
• 9:06
  first
• 9:06
  step.
• 9:07
  That's
• 9:07
  not
• 9:08
  the
• 9:08
  point.
• 9:08
  That's
• 9:08
  not
• 9:09
  necessary,
• 9:10
  and
• 9:10
  it
• 9:10
  doesn't
• 9:10
  help
• 9:11
  in
• 9:11
  the
• 9:11
  long
• 9:12
  run.
• 9:13
  You
• 9:13
  need
• 9:14
  repetition,
• 9:15
  you
• 9:15
  need
• 9:15
  consistency,
• 9:17
  and
• 9:17
  you
• 9:17
  need
• 9:18
  evidence,
• 9:19
  and
• 9:19
  this
• 9:19
  is
• 9:19
  how
• 9:19
  we
• 9:19
  build
• 9:20
  it.
• 9:20
  This
• 9:20
  is
• 9:20
  how
• 9:20
  we
• 9:20
  do
• 9:20
  it.
• 9:21
  You
• 9:21
  need
• 9:21
  to
• 9:21
  show
• 9:22
  your
• 9:22
  brain
• 9:22
  and
• 9:23
  your
• 9:23
  body
• 9:24
  that
• 9:24
  we
• 9:24
  can
• 9:24
  do
• 9:24
  something
• 9:25
  new
• 9:25
  now.
• 9:28
  And
• 9:28
  so
• 9:29
  this
• 9:30
  week,
• 9:32
  look
• 9:33
  at
• 9:33
  your
• 9:33
  patterns.
• 9:35
  Look
• 9:35
  at
• 9:37
  the
• 9:37
  stories
• 9:37
  that
• 9:38
  your
• 9:38
  brain
• 9:38
  is
• 9:38
  offering
• 9:39
  you.
• 9:41
  Look
• 9:41
  at
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  emotions
• 9:42
  that
• 9:43
  you
• 9:43
  are
• 9:43
  feeling
• 9:44
  on
• 9:44
  a
• 9:44
  consistent
• 9:45
  basis.
• 9:45
  What
• 9:45
  are
• 9:45
  your
• 9:46
  top
• 9:46
  three
• 9:46
  emotions
• 9:47
  over
• 9:48
  the
• 9:48
  course
• 9:48
  of
• 9:48
  a
• 9:48
  week?
• 9:51
  Understand
• 9:52
  that
• 9:52
  those
• 9:53
  are
• 9:53
  just
• 9:54
  habits
• 9:55
  and
• 9:55
  patterns
• 9:56
  and
• 9:56
  loops.
• 9:58
  So
• 9:58
  you
• 9:59
  are
• 9:59
  stuck
• 10:00
  in
• 10:00
  those,
• 10:03
  but
• 10:03
  it's
• 10:03
  a
• 10:03
  learned
• 10:04
  behavior.
• 10:06
  And
• 10:06
  so
• 10:06
  regardless
• 10:07
  of
• 10:07
  the
• 10:07
  circumstance,
• 10:08
  what
• 10:09
  we
• 10:09
  can
• 10:09
  do,
• 10:10
  where
• 10:10
  our
• 10:10
  power
• 10:11
  is,
• 10:11
  what
• 10:11
  we
• 10:11
  can
• 10:11
  control,
• 10:13
  is
• 10:13
  how
• 10:13
  we
• 10:13
  think,
• 10:13
  how
• 10:14
  we
• 10:14
  feel,
• 10:15
  and
• 10:15
  the
• 10:15
  actions
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  we
• 10:16
  take
• 10:16
  from
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  place.
• 10:19
  Start
• 10:20
  small.
• 10:21
  Understand,
• 10:22
  gain
• 10:22
  that
• 10:23
  awareness
• 10:23
  of
• 10:23
  what's
• 10:23
  going
• 10:24
  on,
• 10:24
  what
• 10:24
  your
• 10:24
  brain
• 10:24
  is
• 10:24
  offering
• 10:25
  you,
• 10:26
  what
• 10:26
  your
• 10:26
  body
• 10:27
  is
• 10:27
  feeling,
• 10:30
  and
• 10:30
  then
• 10:30
  start
• 10:31
  to
• 10:31
  offer
• 10:31
  your
• 10:32
  brain
• 10:32
  something
• 10:32
  different.
• 10:34
  It's
• 10:34
  gonna
• 10:34
  be
• 10:34
  hard
• 10:35
  at
• 10:35
  first.
• 10:35
  It's
• 10:35
  gonna
• 10:35
  feel
• 10:36
  terrible.
• 10:36
  It's
• 10:36
  gonna
• 10:36
  feel
• 10:37
  uncomfortable.
• 10:38
  It's
• 10:38
  gonna
• 10:38
  feel
• 10:38
  like
• 10:38
  it's
• 10:38
  not
• 10:39
  working.
• 10:40
  Keep
• 10:41
  going.
• 10:44
  Listen,
• 10:45
  you
• 10:46
  are
• 10:46
  not
• 10:46
  broken,
• 10:47
  you
• 10:47
  are
• 10:47
  not
• 10:47
  behind,
• 10:49
  and
• 10:49
  you
• 10:50
  are
• 10:50
  not
• 10:51
  stuck.
• 10:53
  You
• 10:53
  are
• 10:53
  practiced.
• 10:55
  It's
• 10:55
  a
• 10:55
  habit.
• 10:56
  It's
• 10:56
  a
• 10:56
  loop.
• 10:58
  And
• 10:58
  that's
• 10:59
  great
• 10:59
  news
• 11:01
  because
• 11:02
  you
• 11:02
  can
• 11:02
  decide
• 11:03
  to
• 11:03
  start
• 11:04
  practicing
• 11:04
  something
• 11:04
  new.
• 11:05
  Everything
• 11:06
  begins
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  shift.
• 11:08
  So
• 11:08
  if
• 11:08
  you're
• 11:08
  ready
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  stop
• 11:09
  spinning,
• 11:10
  if
• 11:10
  you're
• 11:10
  ready
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  stop
• 11:11
  overthinking
• 11:12
  and
• 11:13
  actually
• 11:13
  start
• 11:13
  moving
• 11:14
  forward,
• 11:15
  this
• 11:15
  is
• 11:16
  the
• 11:16
  work
• 11:16
  that
• 11:16
  we
• 11:16
  do.
• 11:19
  You're
• 11:19
  not
• 11:19
  addicted
• 11:20
  to
• 11:20
  your
• 11:20
  problems.
• 11:21
  You're
• 11:21
  addicted
• 11:21
  to
• 11:21
  the
• 11:22
  way
• 11:22
  you
• 11:22
  feel
• 11:22
  while
• 11:22
  living
• 11:23
  them.
• 11:24
  And
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  moment
• 11:25
  you
• 11:25
  change
• 11:25
  that,
• 11:26
  your
• 11:26
  life
• 11:27
  changes
• 11:27
  too.
• 11:30
  Thanks
• 11:30
  everybody
• 11:30
  for
• 11:30
  listening.
• 11:31
  I'll
• 11:31
  catch
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  next
• 11:32
  week.
• 11:32
  Bye-bye.