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EP 33 - THE FU*K BOY POLICE W/LUCY & NIKKI · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables.
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  Speaker 2: I had a boyfriend and he went through my phone
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  Speaker 2: to see my chut ChiPT prompts. I would be and like,
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  Speaker 2: there's nothing in my chut ChiPT.
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  Speaker 3: That's a value invasion of your pride.
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  Speaker 2: I would be livid. I'd be like, get you're dumb.
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  Speaker 3: I dump them.
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  Speaker 2: I'd be like, and you know what I'm dumping you by?
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  Speaker 4: I would I was going to.
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  Speaker 3: Make the break up nicer.
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  Speaker 1: Okaydie and I.
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  Speaker 5: The other day we found these kind of like rage
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  Speaker 5: bait questions that girlfriends will ask their boyfriends, and so
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  Speaker 5: we were trying to figure out the right answer to them,
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  Speaker 5: and we think we found two really hard ones that
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  Speaker 5: don't have a right answer, and wanted to ask you
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  Speaker 5: guys if they do have a right answer. Okay, first
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  Speaker 5: one is if your X and I swapped bodies, who
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  Speaker 5: would you be with the y?
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  Speaker 6: You just say, you just say you obviously, or you
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  Speaker 6: just say why are you even thinking about that?
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  Speaker 3: That's strange, that's very diffive.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, deflect, deflect, No, you.
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  Speaker 3: Always say the girlfriend. I would say, I would be like,
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  Speaker 3: are you going.
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  Speaker 1: To be with? So?
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  Speaker 3: What's the question again?
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  Speaker 1: So let's say you've asked your your your your husband.
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  Speaker 5: Correct, Yeah, you've asked your husband if your ex and
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  Speaker 5: I swapped bodies as in X, who would you be
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  Speaker 5: with in?
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  Speaker 1: Why?
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 1: Who would he be with him? Why would he would
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  Speaker 1: you prefer him to be with You'd say, ex is
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  Speaker 1: brain and your body.
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  Speaker 2: Your brain is a brain, because I'm in love with
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  Speaker 2: your soul, not your physical appearance would be the right thing,
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  Speaker 2: but that I'd.
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  Speaker 3: Be like, so watch you god body.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, let's say I would say your brain, like the
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  Speaker 2: soul one is the right answer.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, it's a rock and a hard place. Okay, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to build on that. Then you can follow
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  Speaker 3: it and.
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  Speaker 2: Be like, but I'd be wishing I was sucking your body.
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  Speaker 3: No, No, that's when you do that thing.
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  Speaker 6: That's like, babe, i'd love you if you're even inside
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  Speaker 6: a bugs body?
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  Speaker 3: Oh why a bug? It's like a thing on TikTok.
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  Speaker 3: Would you love me if I was a bug?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: If I was a word? It is so like it's
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  Speaker 3: a Super Girls questions.
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  Speaker 2: Apple content online like would you still love mes?
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  Speaker 3: Like, but I'd be wishing I was fucking your body? Listen,
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  Speaker 3: this is what i'd actually say, you know what I'd say.
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  Speaker 2: So if someone asked me that, I'd be like, Babe,
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  Speaker 2: I'd be married to you, your soul in my ex's body,
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  Speaker 2: but I'd be cheating on you with your.
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  Speaker 7: Body, your cake and eat it to next We've got
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  Speaker 7: one more.
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  Speaker 1: We got one more too. If I didn't exist, would
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  Speaker 1: you date other women? Yes?
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  Speaker 3: I could never imagine a world without you.
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  Speaker 2: So we both said, like that, my personality is in
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  Speaker 2: a nutshell reflective aggressive.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like just being.
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  Speaker 2: Honest and say yeah, yeah, I know, but it's like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, but just answer the question dancing.
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  Speaker 3: I don't actually need.
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  Speaker 6: To know if you're dating anyone else. Like, it's my world,
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  Speaker 6: my university. I just want to be here.
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  Speaker 3: It's just me.
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  Speaker 2: I always used to say to my lie to me
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  Speaker 2: about that, just be cute. I always used to say
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  Speaker 2: to my ex boyfriend if I died or you could,
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  Speaker 2: you could move on.
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  Speaker 3: You want someone that you love to be happy.
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  Speaker 2: You know now that I'm still alive, you can go fuckself.
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  Speaker 6: But at the time it's funny though, because I always
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  Speaker 6: say I have this irrational fear, which is actually quite rational,
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  Speaker 6: of like losing the person I love like I'm so
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  Speaker 6: fearful of that, which I shouldn't even.
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  Speaker 1: Said.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I do so, I think I even thinking about
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  Speaker 3: that stuff. I probably just get a bit too emotion.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fair podcast.
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  Speaker 5: It's hosted by myself, Jake Craig a KA Daddy, and
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  Speaker 5: my partner in crime is the Autie Clark a k
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  Speaker 5: A Mummy, And we have two very special guests today,
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  Speaker 5: Lucy and Nicky from.
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  Speaker 6: Congress with that beautiful introo boy.
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  Speaker 1: For some reason, nerve wracking doing it in front of people.
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  Speaker 1: Were just like saying, Mummy and Daddy is just like
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  Speaker 1: in front of women.
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  Speaker 2: Was made up our intro for our podcast on the
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  Speaker 2: day we started, and it hasn't changed since. And there's
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  Speaker 2: some some days scripted. Yeah, there's some days because nick
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  Speaker 2: starts like he's the.
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  Speaker 1: First speaker and she the same person every single.
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  Speaker 3: Time every time. And when our producer goes, got us
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  Speaker 3: to do it.
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  Speaker 1: For you, y, did you do it? You didn't do it.
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  Speaker 1: We didn't get to see it.
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  Speaker 6: A oh yeah after cheers made so happy Hour of
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  Speaker 6: Lucy and Nicky the real life ship you only discuss
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  Speaker 6: over a drink. But before we start a little disclaimer,
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  Speaker 6: So today we are here.
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  Speaker 2: For blah blah blah, and that's when we like intro
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  Speaker 2: on the time time.
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  Speaker 3: I'm slowly losing my voice, by the way.
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  Speaker 1: Paul, so fine, that's funny when you did that in
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  Speaker 1: front of us.
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  Speaker 5: Leading up to this, I probably listened to like four
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  Speaker 5: or five episodes of yours and you do do that
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  Speaker 5: every single.
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  Speaker 3: And people think it's pre recorded, but it's the same.
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  Speaker 6: It's I thought, we do it every time.
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  Speaker 1: You go the same tone. That's good.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes I have to say, Nicky, more energy.
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  Speaker 6: We would have done like six episodes and I'd be
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  Speaker 6: like happy and the producers like.
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  Speaker 3: Say it like you mean it.
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  Speaker 1: We didn't have an intro for quite a while.
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  Speaker 5: We I don't really remember how we used to start it,
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  Speaker 5: and then we someone reached out to us and was
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  Speaker 5: sort of, I don't know, trying to just give us
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  Speaker 5: some advice, and they were like, one thing you should
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  Speaker 5: definitely do is create an intro that you do the
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  Speaker 5: same thing every single time. And I mean, we just
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  Speaker 5: thought of one and it's dark. Yeah, but I don't
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  Speaker 5: know if it would have helped on. Sometimes I feel
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  Speaker 5: like you can't there's no real like rule book to see.
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  Speaker 3: We started like when we did.
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  Speaker 2: The branding for our podcast, it was like, very well,
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  Speaker 2: it came very naturally, like we just like thought of
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  Speaker 2: those kinds of things, and like all of our taglines
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  Speaker 2: and even like our logo, we got like a logo
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  Speaker 2: drawn by our housemaid at the time, she's a graphic designer.
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  Speaker 2: And now it's like so heavily ingrained in the brand
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  Speaker 2: that is our podcast. Like when we do live shows,
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  Speaker 2: the whole audience chance what Nikki just said, the word
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  Speaker 2: it's a longer version and like they like chanted, So
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  Speaker 2: it's kind of funny. It's like, while as unimportant as
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  Speaker 2: those things can be, they actually become really important.
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  Speaker 1: So it does become We've done something. I bet you
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  Speaker 1: people would be able to be thinking about it.
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  Speaker 4: Do it. Yeah, you probably think you do live shows,
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  Speaker 4: you need to do it.
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  Speaker 1: I've never done Lifebreaker. I'm terrified.
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  Speaker 6: The first time we did it and we out, we
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  Speaker 6: were like, all right, let's see if does anyone know the.
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  Speaker 2: Intro and we were like, what, it's pretty crazy. Live
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  Speaker 2: shows are the most rewarding part of having a podcast
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  Speaker 2: in my opinion. Everyone's like everyone likes different things, but
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  Speaker 2: for men.
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  Speaker 6: It's numbers on a screen is like so awesome, but
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  Speaker 6: you don't really understand the full effect.
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  Speaker 3: So you see it like in person, that's so true.
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  Speaker 1: Like you don't think about I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: Even there's different posts of seen people putting things in
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  Speaker 5: perspective of like this is what one hundred people looks like,
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  Speaker 5: this is what looks like, this is what ten thousand
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  Speaker 5: looks like like. Even people at the World Cup. I
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  Speaker 5: see videos of there's like a stadium filled with a
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  Speaker 5: one hundred thousand people and someone's like, I can't understand
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  Speaker 5: how I have more followers on Instagram than the stadium is, right, and.
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  Speaker 1: They have like, I don't know, five hundred thousand. It's
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  Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, it's a lot of people. It's crazy. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: but we have you here for a reason.
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  Speaker 3: Talk to me.
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  Speaker 5: We asked our we asked our listeners to send us
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  Speaker 5: things men do, actions, actions men do, and we were
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  Speaker 5: gonna let them know if they're a nice guy of boy.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, well, you've got the police here today.
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  Speaker 1: We thought, we thought people in general police episode name
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  Speaker 1: that the police. You go, okay, so nice guy or
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  Speaker 1: fuck boy? Planning for the future on the first date.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, fuck boy, fu boy, love love Ye.
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  Speaker 3: Occasionally if you are a love BMMA, you are a one.
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  Speaker 6: Avoidant insecure attachment style, which means you have narcissistic tendencies.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, thinking about things like I'll like start talking to
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  Speaker 2: a boy and maybe we haven't even gone on a
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  Speaker 2: date yet, and in my mind like natural human psyche,
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  Speaker 2: like I'll be like, oh, imagining like when we start dating,
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  Speaker 2: we're gonna have to do this.
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  Speaker 3: This whatever.
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  Speaker 2: You just don't say it, like it would be like
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  Speaker 2: meeting a friend on your on a first like you know,
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  Speaker 2: meeting someone like a girl at an event for me
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  Speaker 2: and then being like, by the end of the event,
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  Speaker 2: you're my best friend.
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  Speaker 3: It's it's fucking weird. Keep it to yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Think about things, but don't future make future plans.
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  Speaker 3: It can be dependent on the delivery as well.
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  Speaker 6: So like say, for example, if you have been dating
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  Speaker 6: for a long time, you go with a girl and
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  Speaker 6: you ask her, like, what are you looking for? Because
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  Speaker 6: my ultimate goal is to like have a family and stuff,
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  Speaker 6: then I think there's stuff for that too. That's talking
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  Speaker 6: about your goals, that's not saying so when we go
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  Speaker 6: to Thailand in three months on holiday. Also when we
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  Speaker 6: buy French bulldogship, not the matching friendship. You know, so
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  Speaker 6: I think it's like, yeah, I think as someone who's
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  Speaker 6: had someone like multiple people do things like that, even
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  Speaker 6: not even on a first date. I'm talking like, you know,
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  Speaker 6: still early on, but further in than a first day.
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  Speaker 6: I have had moments where I have it's been like
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  Speaker 6: a that's a bit of a red flag.
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  Speaker 1: Valid, Valid, all right, you guys, readers.
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  Speaker 3: Readers, readers, audio.
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  Speaker 5: So nice guy boy he reads smutty books.
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  Speaker 6: Loser, everyone loves smart. I'm part of the problem is
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  Speaker 6: smart taking care over the world.
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  Speaker 2: Known to have a wank. Don't read a fairy porn
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  Speaker 2: that's so weird.
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  Speaker 3: Sorry, part of the problem. Part of the problem. Game
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  Speaker 3: of Thrones, that's not smarty, but hookups.
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  Speaker 2: I know if you guys, no problem, it's not. My
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  Speaker 2: eye wouldn't be I would find out strange.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think that that's a deal breakup. I just
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  Speaker 3: think a nice guy.
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  Speaker 1: Have you heard that men are learning like how to
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  Speaker 1: please their partners from books though, like in the bedroom? No, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because they're written by women and then they're saying what
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  Speaker 1: they want and rather than having a ship session, men
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  Speaker 1: are reading books and this is actually women want and
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  Speaker 1: learning from it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, read smut, get into the smart.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Nice guy or fuck boy sending songs to
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  Speaker 1: listen to.
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  Speaker 2: Nice Guy, I think that's nice, but like house bangers,
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  Speaker 2: not like acoustic ballads.
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  Speaker 1: No way.
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  Speaker 3: I love sharing.
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  Speaker 6: Anything with anyone, to be honest, Listen to this new song,
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  Speaker 6: look at this recipe, look at it like I love that.
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  Speaker 3: Ship into common interest me. The other day, we've just
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  Speaker 3: been chatting with people.
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  Speaker 2: He I was like going to be I hadn't slept
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  Speaker 2: and I had this huge job the next day and
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  Speaker 2: I just couldn't sleep and I was going in like
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  Speaker 2: a bit hungover, sleep deprived, like like low KEI wigging
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  Speaker 2: out a bit, and he was like, sent me in
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  Speaker 2: the morning. When I woke up, He's like, listen to
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  Speaker 2: this song. It's the best hangover cure. And it was
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  Speaker 2: like this really like upbeat up like upbeat, but like
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  Speaker 2: nice song. And I was like, oh, that's really nice.
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  Speaker 2: But if he had sent me like you and mayor, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I would have been like pretty, but.
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  Speaker 3: It was like it was a hangover cure.
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  Speaker 2: It was like one of those songs that's like, well,
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  Speaker 2: I can feel the serotonin like coming into my body.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what being serenaded. Has it ever happened to
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  Speaker 1: either you've kind of been brought home and they've got
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  Speaker 1: a guitar or something.
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  Speaker 6: I had a song written for me, really however, it
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  Speaker 6: again by her boyfriend though, oh yeah, but he was
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  Speaker 6: courting me at this point we were together, Okay, I
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  Speaker 6: was it that yeah, baby, it was early.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, he just it was so sweet.
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  Speaker 6: He was a really nice guy. Jolly is the word
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  Speaker 6: I would use to describe him. And he had he
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  Speaker 6: wrote this song and he lives and recorded it and
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  Speaker 6: sent it to me, and.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, oh, and he definitely wasn't a fuck boy.
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  Speaker 6: No, so nice, and he actually was. It was good
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  Speaker 6: at guitar, and it was a pretty good thing, so
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  Speaker 6: I was like, fuck, whatever, it's.
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  Speaker 3: So dependent too, right, Like it's like a bad The
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  Speaker 3: lyrics were girl you make My Head twelve.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 3: Lyrics, but the melody was quite catchy. We went together
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  Speaker 3: then for a very long time, so.
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  Speaker 2: It obviously worked. I think it's all about choosing your audience.
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  Speaker 6: It's all timing, right, Like I was already pretty like
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  Speaker 6: I liked him, Yeah, Like, howd I not liked him?
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  Speaker 6: That probably could have been deterring, but like I liked him,
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  Speaker 6: so it's like that whole thing, like can you get
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  Speaker 6: the ig from someone you love?
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  Speaker 5: Yeh, that's a very good point. Okay, introduces you to
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  Speaker 5: his friends quickly, I can play.
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  Speaker 2: On Yeah, I think, I think again, it all depends,
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  Speaker 2: like I, how many times have you come on my
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  Speaker 2: first dates with me?
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  Speaker 1: First dates?
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  Speaker 2: Well, like it'll just be like because she's that bored
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  Speaker 2: on them, She's like it's happened so many times.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe I'm part of the problem.
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  Speaker 2: But it's like, oh, you know, like we'll be out,
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  Speaker 2: I'll be on a date and then all my friends
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  Speaker 2: will be out and I'll be like, do we want
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  Speaker 2: to go and meet up with It's not like come
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  Speaker 2: and meets my friends.
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  Speaker 6: It's I will say, though, like oh here we go. No,
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  Speaker 6: It's like one of those things. It's kind of like
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  Speaker 6: maybe depends what you're exposed to. It's like sometimes I
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  Speaker 6: would think that would be a really big deal. Yeah
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  Speaker 6: you know, and to be like, oh my god, Like
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  Speaker 6: I don't get it he introduced me to his friends,
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  Speaker 6: Like how can he just like ghost me if he
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  Speaker 6: introduced me to his friends. But then like on the
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  Speaker 6: other hand, when you kind of like in your situation
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  Speaker 6: when you've been out on a date, people are out,
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  Speaker 6: you go all meet up.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes it's just not that deep.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, I think it's almost a good sign that
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  Speaker 1: you're like, yeah, you can come along.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like otherwise doesn't like either, Yeah, I think it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it just depends on the nature of it. Like I
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  Speaker 2: remember when I started dating a boy like I do.
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  Speaker 2: Remember in one instance, he was like, I'd really like
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  Speaker 2: for you to come down to the surf club to
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  Speaker 2: meet my friends. And that was kind of more of
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  Speaker 2: a like meet the friends moment. Yeah, like you know,
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  Speaker 2: because it was all kind of going out, like because
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  Speaker 2: I was like I don't want to. It was a
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  Speaker 2: Sunday night. I was like day of Sabbath. I don't
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  Speaker 2: can't be fucked. And he's like, no, this actually means
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  Speaker 2: something to me, like I want you to come and meet.
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  Speaker 3: My friends, Whereas like I would so easily bring.
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  Speaker 2: A dude that I was on like my second or
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  Speaker 2: third specialty. Yeah, because I like my friends a lot.
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  Speaker 6: I mean fair, you probably want to have bought to
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  Speaker 6: that intimate forties, have a spear seed.
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  Speaker 2: I've got a plus one coming I'd end up being
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  Speaker 2: my boyfriend kind of like I saw him for a while,
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  Speaker 2: but like that was pretty I am, yeah, it's just some.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, a nice guy. Then we'll take a nice guy.
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  Speaker 2: I also do think, Okay, let me ask you this.
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  Speaker 2: Do you not think I sometimes think when you're starting
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  Speaker 2: to date someone, like early stages, if you're just going
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  Speaker 2: on dates, dates, dates, date states that are just you
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  Speaker 2: and him, Like, whilst it's a good way to get
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  Speaker 2: to know someone, like, I'm like, oh man, I need
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: a bit of fucking alleviated pressure from this scenario. Like
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: I just want you to come out and meet my
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: friends when we're all out drinking, so there's multiple people
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: there to talk to. Otherwise it's like date, date, date,
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: it's so much emotional, Like it's just it's stressful.
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: I can understand that.
• 16:01
  Speaker 5: So when you first start seeing someone, initially you are
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: like you want to impress them, like you're being yourself,
• 16:08
  Speaker 5: but you're kind of being like a version of yourself
• 16:10
  Speaker 5: and like, but with every person you know, you have
• 16:13
  Speaker 5: like a kind of a different version of yourself anyway,
• 16:15
  Speaker 5: So if they see you with your friends, is that
• 16:17
  Speaker 5: good to like see men in their natural habitat too,
• 16:20
  Speaker 5: because on a date they could be putting up a
• 16:21
  Speaker 5: false pretense of who they are.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: Then you see, they might meet.
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: Their friends and be like, yeah, these guys are lemons.
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, Yeah, for sure.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: If you meet someone's friends and they're like a group
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: of lads that are like super yucky about women and
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: stuff like that, then that's a short fire signed to
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: probably get out of there.
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: But if you meet their friends and they're all legends
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: and it's it is attractive set of a vetting process, Yeah.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Probably a good thing. Actually, all right, this is my
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: last one. So nice guy or fuck boy having after
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: care after doing the deed?
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, one. I'm trying to get wrap my head around
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: the aftercare.
• 16:56
  Speaker 5: I think it's just like we've been getting a lot
• 16:58
  Speaker 5: of like for our at least from our audience. The
• 17:01
  Speaker 5: things that they like is that they like it when
• 17:04
  Speaker 5: someone's got good after care.
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: What is after like cuddling?
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: How was the session? The boy asked me?
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: How you enjoy that?
• 17:16
  Speaker 5: Actually have a fucking meltdown, pregame, locker room chat about
• 17:19
  Speaker 5: it type of things.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: I think.
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: Feedback survey For me, it's I can improve.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: There's an assumption that's the next time.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: So for me, if I say good after care would
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: be I don't want to talk about the sex. I like,
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: I would like if you like would be like, oh,
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: by the way, there's a box of tooth new toothbrushers
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: in there if you want to brush your teeth, like
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: if you're going to sleep over, Like.
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but if you went into someone he's a tower.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: They just said mountains and tooth.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Brushure would you be?
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: But I do think the like I have a packet
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: of toothbrushes, like for when my girlfriend's too many wines
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: and sleepover, Like it's not.
• 18:09
  Speaker 6: That deep thinking one of our friends who literally has
• 18:12
  Speaker 6: like that many kids, Yeah yeah, oh yeah baby, but
• 18:16
  Speaker 6: he is a player.
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: He's entertaining.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: But I think the thing is, it's like I would
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: if someone was like and like boys, I know that
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: you guys are really nice, like deep thinking boys, but
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: like I do not want to talk about sex with
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: someone unless they're my boyfriend. But like if I've just
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: like gone on a first or second date and like
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: you go home with someone and they're like, tell me
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: how is my performance? I would just be cringing so
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: hard and just I'd start laughing. I can't have that
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: conversation straight face.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe if the sex got a bit like risky,
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: Like was it okay that I choked you?
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: That maybe.
• 18:58
  Speaker 6: Just choking up.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: In times of after care, like I would be rattled
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: if I slept with someone and then we didn't cuddle laughter,
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: if we didn't cut all, I would be really rattled,
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Like if we didn't have a sleepover, I would be like.
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: What, I think you need to keep the intimacy on
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: intimate like providing.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: Love.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: Like I recently had this interaction with a boy and
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: I don't even think I think it's just one of
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: his like personal things that he does, but it is
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: really nice, like and I've noticed this because I've seen
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: him a few times. Every single time I spend time
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: with him or even like we have a phone call
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: or anything, he always says like something really nice, Like
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: every time we see each other and we're like not
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: going to date, but he'll always be like, I really
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: like spending time with you, Lucy, and like something like
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: that is just so simple or like or like you'll
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: get off the phone into each other and he will
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: like message me and be like I just feel so
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: good after we have a phone call yeah, and I'm
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: like every time like that might be like a small
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: form of after care that I'm like, wow, I genuinely
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: feel nice verbal follow up yeah, And I think it's
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: just like he's got a lot of flaws, this guy,
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: but that is one thing that he does really, really
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: really well. And I don't even know if it's intentional
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: or if he's just been raised with that certain kind
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: of thing that he does, but it's like it's like
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: a thing of his and I'm like, oh, wow, that's
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: a really nice, subtle after care, like I had a
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: really nice time with you, and like that's I think
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: that's a really nice thing. Especially as a woman, I
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: would feel nervous to say this is again probably the patriarchy,
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: but I'd feel nervous to say that to some guys
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: after sleeping with them, because I wouldn't want them to think,
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: fuck now, she's going to think what they would get married.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: But from a guy's perspective, and like I'm a pretty
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: tough like I'm a pretty rough and tumble girl, I
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: certainly don't want to be asked the hell was the sex?
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: But for a guy to say to me, well, I
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: had such a nice time with you last night, Lucy.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: That to me, it doesn't have to mean that we're
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: going to get married, but it still leaves me feeling
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: really nice. Yeah, it's a bit of a note for
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: the lads listening.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: That is good aftercare compliment. Yeah, that's funny, like.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: Saying something like I really like spending time with you.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: It's like, not like I loved fucking you last.
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: Night was incredible.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, simple as like I had so much fun with
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: you last night.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Like simple, simple, be nice as simple as that. Yeah,
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: that was really good. I actually wanted to ask, just
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: like on the topic of I guess sex.
• 21:42
  Speaker 5: I saw a video you made a while ago, asking like,
• 21:45
  Speaker 5: what percentage of people have you would you sleep?
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, my TikTok, And I was wondering what was
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: the was both men and women answering.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: No, I just mainly go.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: And the reason why I asked that was because I,
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: for the first time ever, actually wrote it my notes
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: app everyone i've slept with, I've never done it before.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: Well.
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: I had a boyfriend for.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: A long time and then I became single, like maybe
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: four or five years ago, and I have never like
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: sat down and actually like thought about it. Yeah, and
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: so I randomly did that one day in Bali with
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: one of our best friends. And then I was looking
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: through the list and it got me thinking, like, I wonder,
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: out of these people, how many I would sleep with again?
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: And then I just went on TikTok and asked the
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: world the same question. What was your percentage? Mike's pretty high?
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: Overall consensus, most people were like none, maybe one maybe,
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: like the majority was like a small amount.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but all men would be like all of them.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: I feel like men would like, yeah, all of them.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: I think that's the thing too, Like, say for me,
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: for example, not that I'm there like putting a huge
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: amount of thought into someone before I sleep with them,
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: especially if it's just like a really casual thing, but
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: I am pretty like I'm pretty selective, So that means
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: I'm going to have a higher chance of people I
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: would sleep with again because I like to think that
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: I don't make bad decisions all the time. Ye Whereas
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: when all the girls were commenting and they were like zero,
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: I was like, Wow, how many flops have you shagged?
• 23:16
  Speaker 6: Yeah? Up, like if things end, they don't always end
• 23:20
  Speaker 6: positively to which can make you.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: Well, that was.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, of course that was the majority of the ones
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: that I wouldn't have slept with was like bad boyfriends.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: Or okayie, I have got some exciting news.
• 23:40
  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, well the bad is no where. March of
• 23:43
  Speaker 5: Babes that we are. I've recently upgraded my game. I've
• 23:46
  Speaker 5: graduated to the perfect head ceremonial grade March of powder
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: love that.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: What flavors are there?
• 23:52
  Speaker 5: Well, there's the original, which is perfect if you're an
• 23:55
  Speaker 5: og marcher lover, or if you like to add your
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: own flavors.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: I am at this level. Now whoa to baddie?
• 24:02
  Speaker 5: And there's the strawberry and vanilla, which already have the
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: flavors perfectly mixed in.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: That's sick. So you could basically be your own barista
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: at home. Exactly. It tastes like it came from a cafe.
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: You've got to try it, bro, I want to, but
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: where can I grab it?
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Same as always, baby up next to this time for dilemmas.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: You do advice with the queens. We just do dilemmas perfect. Yeah,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: we should think of a name. That's cool. Do you reckinon?
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: We could come up a name now.
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: I've already called the dilemma is.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: Is it like essentially like asking for tips exactly.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: People just send in a dilemma. They haven't. I listened
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: to it, like you call yours.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: If you wanted to take something from us, you could
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: call it a boy's perspective, really like dilemmas.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: Dilemma.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: We came up organically on the pod just for some reason,
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: was having like a massive rut, and every week I
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: was coming with like a weekly dilemma, and then the
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: bat he started sending in their own dilemmas. I'm not alone.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: Let's call it, yeah, dilemmas from the baddies line.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Okay, so here we go. Me, twenty one year old female,
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: and my fiance, twenty year old male, have been together
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: for about a year and we are getting married in
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: two days.
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: Shit young early.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: I am over the moon and excited, but I'm may
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: be a bit fed up. We've always had an open
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: phone policy and rarely go through each other's phones, and
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: I've never had an issue with that. We have been
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: living together for six months and everything is perfect. We
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: have our ups and downs, but always come together in
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: the end and talk about it. Until now. He has
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: logged into his Gmail on my phone and I got
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: a message earlier today with a logging code from chat GBT.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: We have had many discussions and I am anti chat
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: because of the environmental effects, and he said he couldn't
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: use it again. He said he wasn't going to use
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: it again about a month or so ago. So when
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: he was asleep, I went through his chat prompts and
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: discovered that he had asked questions from when we first
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: started talking all the way to what ring he should
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: get me. He has written anniversary cards with it, and
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: other message responses are along along the way, and how
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: best to reply to me. I am deeply hurt because
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: I asked him early on is if he's ever used
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: chat GBT in our relationship, and he lied and said no. Also,
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: there were requests about relationships slash talking to girls before
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: we even started talking, and he said, I am the
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: first girl he's ever talked to or dated in a
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: couple of years because he's in the military. I will
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: take all advice. I have immense trust and commitment issues,
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: So I'm now dating the whole relationship. What should I do?
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: There's so many layers to this. Yeah, let's unpack.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: So is that the chat thing?
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: Firstly?
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: I I don't think you can tell your partner that
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: they can't have chat, GPT.
• 26:53
  Speaker 5: Chat.
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: I just don't think that.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: I think that that's it's similar to what we were
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: discussing earlier in our podcast with you guys. It's like
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: saying I don't want you to watch porn to someone,
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: and it's like it's on the grand scheme of life,
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: someone having chatchipt. It's you can't really tell someone you
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: can't have chatchipt.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: I think it comes it comes with maturity.
• 27:16
  Speaker 6: I think like sometimes to be in a couple, you
• 27:19
  Speaker 6: need to remember like it's two individual people come together,
• 27:25
  Speaker 6: your boundaries, your issues, like everything, believe valid. That doesn't
• 27:30
  Speaker 6: mean that every single person that comes into your circle
• 27:33
  Speaker 6: has to do the exact same iss you, especially when
• 27:36
  Speaker 6: you're not fucking hurting anyone.
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: Well that's what I mean.
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: It's like, so this is just about him having chat,
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: This isn't about the this is just about chat because
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: this is so like I do, so, I do think
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: it's kind of I think that sometimes in this lifetime,
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: if you go in to dating someone with a really
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: strict boundary of your own, that maybe isn't like ethically incorrect.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Like I personally don't think it's ethically incorrect for people
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: to watch porn. I watch porn. I don't think there's
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: anything like I obviously there's levels of porn, but like,
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: I have no ethical issue with that. Therefore, I would
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: have no ethical issue with a boyfriend watching porn. If
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: I did, I would just go and find a boyfriend
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: that didn't watch porn, or I would be like, listen,
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: maybe I'm just gonna have to get over that. I
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: don't think there's any issue with him having chatchipity and
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: the fact that he felt like he had to lie
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: about it. He shouldn't have lied, but you obviously made
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: it like abundantly clear that you had no you were
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: not okay with chatchipity. But then so that's where I think,
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: maybe not you're at fault, But I think it's like
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: a pretty high standard to set up your partner. Every
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: person in the world that I know has chatchipite. Secondly
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: to that, though, I do think it is firstly bad
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: that he's like lied about it to you, about like
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: your conversation, like about your like anniversary cards and stuff.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: I can tell what I can see why he lied
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: about it, because he obviously is scared that it's going
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: to piss.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: You off, but it's to be pissed off about, Like
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: he didn't put any effort into it.
• 29:20
  Speaker 6: I was going to say, it's interesting that, like knowing
• 29:22
  Speaker 6: that she's so against it, that he would then go
• 29:25
  Speaker 6: and use it to.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Write, well, it doesn't care. It's like they're both like.
• 29:29
  Speaker 6: Running at complete extremes. Yeah, which makes me think maybe
• 29:33
  Speaker 6: they're not a very well suited couple.
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: Well then, even like layer number three, the fact that
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: you went through his emails is a whole nother thing,
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: like I think it's okay. Well I don't think it's okay,
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: but I think there are moments in relationships where it
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: is play on to go through their phone if you
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: have like this deep suspicionating fire, but you probably knew
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: he was using chat, which is why you needed to
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: have that confirmation. Myself, if I had a boyfriend and
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: he went through my phone to see my chat ChiPT prompts,
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: I would be and like, there's nothing in my chat chipet.
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: That's a value invasion of your pride.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: I would be livid. I'd be like, get you're dumb,
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: I dump them. I'd be like, and you know what
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: I'm dumping you, y, I would.
• 30:33
  Speaker 5: Break up nicer, Like, I mean, we we use like
• 30:37
  Speaker 5: chatchiby t as well for a lot of things in
• 30:39
  Speaker 5: just for the podcast.
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: And I can issues different.
• 30:42
  Speaker 5: I can understand the concern of the environmental issue, and
• 30:44
  Speaker 5: it is like I mean full transparency. I just like
• 30:48
  Speaker 5: turn a blind eye to it, like I really do.
• 30:50
  Speaker 5: And we just convince ourselves that we're a small team
• 30:52
  Speaker 5: and and it just helps us so much that it
• 30:54
  Speaker 5: makes it worth it. But if you as a person
• 30:56
  Speaker 5: are very very against it, it's like I remember on
• 31:00
  Speaker 5: your Guys' podcast, if you have this standard, it's like, yeah,
• 31:03
  Speaker 5: you know, just stand on it or don't stand on it.
• 31:05
  Speaker 5: It's like like you were just saying that then, like
• 31:06
  Speaker 5: if you didn't want your boyfriend to watch porn and
• 31:08
  Speaker 5: they did, you would either dump them or you would
• 31:10
  Speaker 5: get over it.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: Like you need to choose something.
• 31:12
  Speaker 5: Yes, So it's like if you're about to get married
• 31:14
  Speaker 5: and you are that against chatgypt, that is totally all right.
• 31:17
  Speaker 5: But like if you're fed up, you're fed up, you
• 31:20
  Speaker 5: can you can end.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And like the.
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: Bloke obviously loves his chagy.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: He clearly loves chat like like just use Google, like well, yeah,
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: and Google bab Google Google literally has an AI built
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: into it, Like just use that.
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: I just think as well though, Like like Nick, I
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: think about a good point before about like when you
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: are two individuals that come together. It's like if you
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: meet someone, he's a good one. If you are a
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: vegan and you meet someone who isn't a vegan and
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: you fall in.
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: Love, but you are with that because you're like, but
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: you're just so hell.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: Bent on veganism. You stand so firmly in those beliefs
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: where like, yes, they might be your beliefs and you
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: might really strongly believe them, but like, societally, it's not
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: deemed as like bad to eat meat.
• 32:10
  Speaker 4: So if you then go.
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: Into this relationship with someone that eats meat and you're like,
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: either you become a vegan or I'm gonna be pissed off.
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: They're gonna eat Barbie, They're at Bunnings every Saturday.
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: There's no It's like you're essentially like enforcing a belief
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: that maybe they don't align with on them and like yes,
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: things like don't cheat, that's a societal norm. I think
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: it also comes down to the person the other person
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: in the relationship to have the balls to stand up
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: for what they also want to do. Yeah, I do
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: agree with your environmental issues, as data centers are using
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: a lot of order to make this happen. However, I
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: find that I use chat cheep is he really regular
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: and I don't want to make your promise that I
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: can't keep, do you know what I mean?
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: But now using it for like the valves, how do
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: you feel.
• 33:08
  Speaker 6: If my partner, don't you fucking dare put that in
• 33:11
  Speaker 6: tragy because that was one thing.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: I don't even know cha BT was around when you
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: got married. Yeah, babe, I was a late bloomer to
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: chat now child, I date chat, actually chat with my boyfriend.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: Chat.
• 33:28
  Speaker 6: And I did say that to him because I was like,
• 33:30
  Speaker 6: that's something that I could see you doing because you
• 33:33
  Speaker 6: use it regularly and you know exactly.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: Actually write it.
• 33:35
  Speaker 6: Always writes beautiful cards. I can barely see the Murry's
• 33:38
  Speaker 6: handwriting so fried. But I'm like, just so you know,
• 33:42
  Speaker 6: I really don't want that to come from Chat, and
• 33:44
  Speaker 6: he's like.
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, play on. Oh, I think it's like okay.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: As someone that loves chatchibt. The only thing I've ever
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: gotten Chat to write for me once was to make
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: a work related email more professional. Yeah, but like I like, say,
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: for example, if I'm talking to boy and I'm confused
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: by what he's saying, like old screenshot that put it
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: into Chat and be like, oh, help me, like understand
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: what's going on here. I wouldn't then get Chat to
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: write the response. I would write it.
• 34:12
  Speaker 6: But that's just that's my own That would be so
• 34:14
  Speaker 6: creepy if you found out the guy that was like
• 34:16
  Speaker 6: courting you was like.
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: But then again, Chat can also start to really understand you.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: If you're.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: My chap is making me pissing myself laughing, I literally
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: go Chat, You're so funny, Like Chad's.
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: Like my best team.
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: Again. I just think it's like, I don't know. I
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: think you just when you go into a relationship with someone,
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: you just have to be okay with the fact that
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: there are going to be things about the way.
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: I think that comes with maturity as well.
• 34:55
  Speaker 6: Yeah, being like confident in your decisions and like respecting
• 34:58
  Speaker 6: other people have different opinions and still being able to
• 35:00
  Speaker 6: like stand your.
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: Ground and they have that boundary.
• 35:03
  Speaker 6: If that's absolutely not happening for you, don't be fucking
• 35:07
  Speaker 6: PI going through his thing to see that he's been like, hey, Chat,
• 35:10
  Speaker 6: how do I make Mazaka like yeah?
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: Or Bassard Yeah, I don't know. I think there's a
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: real magic in being really honest with yourself at the
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: beginning of a relationship.
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: Where you and it's about knowing yourself as well.
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: And if having a boyfriend that uses Chat GPT is
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: a absolute no deal, good luck finding a man because
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: everyone uses it. But that's your prerogative, though I don't
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: think you can push those beliefs onto other people.
• 35:44
  Speaker 6: I agree, yeah, or he should just not be lying
• 35:46
  Speaker 6: and saying yeah, maybe no worries if he's actually that regular.
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so neither of them, neither of them.
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: Lot of miscommunication.
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: And also, don't get married at twenty one. You way
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: too young and you've only lived together for six months
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: aage first issue. But yeah, it wasn't going to be
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: a judgmental Look it is, Yah.
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: Said, we're twenty one young.
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: That is, it is exactly, But I mean each to
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: their own.
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, when you're.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: Twenty one, you done think think silly things like I
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: don't use Chat, so my boyfriend shouldn't.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the difference between a twenty one.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: Exactly instertantal business when you're older.
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: That's very yes.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 36:23
  Speaker 5: The title of this one is why aren't we having sex? Hey, guys,
• 36:27
  Speaker 5: just want to start saying absolutely, love the pod and
• 36:28
  Speaker 5: everything you do. Keep to keep the hard conversation at
• 36:32
  Speaker 5: the forefront of our minds. So now to my dilemma.
• 36:35
  Speaker 5: I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years.
• 36:38
  Speaker 5: He is twenty seven and I am twenty two, but
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: the age gap feels a lot more like one to
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: two years. We moved in together in February this year
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: and everything is going well. He has told me in
• 36:49
  Speaker 5: the past that he wants to marry me one day.
• 36:51
  Speaker 5: He often talks about the future with me in it,
• 36:54
  Speaker 5: so I generally feel secure and comfortable. Before we live together,
• 36:59
  Speaker 5: we were having sex at least four times a week.
• 37:01
  Speaker 5: To be honest, he had a much higher sex drive
• 37:04
  Speaker 5: than me, but this wasn't really an issue. For about
• 37:07
  Speaker 5: three months, we have been having sex about once every
• 37:10
  Speaker 5: two weeks. I'm pretty confident that he isn't wanking because
• 37:13
  Speaker 5: he comes quickly and makes a comment like sorry, I
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: haven't came in so long. It's making me feel totally undesirable.
• 37:21
  Speaker 5: I have spoke to him about it when it first started,
• 37:24
  Speaker 5: and for a week it did pick back up, but
• 37:27
  Speaker 5: then it fell back into no sex. I don't know
• 37:29
  Speaker 5: whether it's an effort thing. Is he just being super
• 37:32
  Speaker 5: lazy and can't be bothered having sex, or is there
• 37:34
  Speaker 5: something else? It could be something to do with our relationship.
• 37:37
  Speaker 5: I would really like a male's perspective on this. Has
• 37:40
  Speaker 5: there ever been a period of time where you are
• 37:42
  Speaker 5: not really having sex with your partner? And how do
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: we get past this? Everything else is totally normal.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: I just have no idea.
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: It's plind demand living together. You're fucking in the honeymoon phase.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: We've spoken about this recently, applying.
• 37:55
  Speaker 6: My partner and I literally I remember having this comment
• 37:57
  Speaker 6: when we moved in and we barely SEXYMO. He's like, yes,
• 38:01
  Speaker 6: we fucking do. And also we were not living together.
• 38:05
  Speaker 6: When you're together, you're kind of like, really maximize you
• 38:08
  Speaker 6: make the most.
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: I think it's like appetite can decrease, like it's just
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: a relationship big time.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: I got caught up on the fact that she's like,
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: I don't think he's wanking.
• 38:23
  Speaker 3: We're so pro masturbate.
• 38:25
  Speaker 6: I have a wave.
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: I don't think she said.
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: I think she just doesn't think I don't think she cares.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: You just want you.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: My boyfriend. Just anyone any boys listening.
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: You can watch porn and chat EBT and have a
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: wank whenever you like, Thank you very much, like.
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: Sharking hookers.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty fucking okay with everything. But it's crazy how
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: like it's the standards are crazy, Like I don't think
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: he's having a wank.
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: Big whoop it for you?
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: Who cares? Bro?
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: I used to have a boyfriend that used to text me.
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: We didn't live together at the time, and I was
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: much young, Going to be fair, he used to text me,
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: baby coming over tonight or should I huges like, have
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: a wank and watch porns and I'd be like, no, no, no, no,
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: I'm getting the car.
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: About this time. That is so funny.
• 39:21
  Speaker 6: I was picking her up from to go to lunch
• 39:24
  Speaker 6: or something, and I picked her up. She's like, oh, babe,
• 39:27
  Speaker 6: I forgot your things, and we're like, should we go back?
• 39:29
  Speaker 6: She's like, now we'll go to lunch and we'll get
• 39:31
  Speaker 6: it on you.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: No.
• 39:34
  Speaker 6: Yeah, so we circle back. So she's like, I'll run
• 39:36
  Speaker 6: in the house. And I was nearly going to go
• 39:37
  Speaker 6: with her, and now I'll run in and she runs in.
• 39:40
  Speaker 6: We have just left the house, mind you. She circles
• 39:44
  Speaker 6: back in the fucking big screens on.
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: The laptop. He's got his T shirt and pants on
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: the couch.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: Oh ship baby, and she's like, oh my god, that
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: is a con.
• 40:00
  Speaker 6: Left the house and they had a very healthy sex life,
• 40:03
  Speaker 6: but he just felt the need for some solo time.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: I mean we just laugh, you know. We we do
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: talk about how like every now and then you do
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: want to just like yourself, and she was she was laughing.
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: Experience. He's really actually he.
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: Really likes.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: But I think, yeah, she shouldn't be feeling insecure about that.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: No, yeah, I would, I.
• 40:39
  Speaker 5: Personally. Only it's maybe the last couple of years. I
• 40:43
  Speaker 5: think it's since I started dating my girlfriend. I like
• 40:46
  Speaker 5: we talk about how like we we talk about how
• 40:49
  Speaker 5: like porn can be quite it can be quite damaging
• 40:52
  Speaker 5: sometimes if you're like an addiction to it and it
• 40:55
  Speaker 5: can be very damaging. And another thing another way it
• 40:57
  Speaker 5: can be quite damaging. It's just like when you're young
• 40:59
  Speaker 5: and you're access to it at such a young age,
• 41:01
  Speaker 5: like that's where you learn about sex, which is just
• 41:04
  Speaker 5: like not very accurate. Yeah, but I like I have
• 41:08
  Speaker 5: like slowed down on it like a lot, And I
• 41:10
  Speaker 5: don't even know if it's just like due to like
• 41:12
  Speaker 5: growing up.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: And also like having a full time partner just like
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: I live with.
• 41:17
  Speaker 5: My girlfriend and stuff, but I remember and we had
• 41:21
  Speaker 5: a very similar dilemma the other day and I very
• 41:25
  Speaker 5: recently I spoke to my girlfriend about our sex life
• 41:27
  Speaker 5: and I just like brought up like I was like,
• 41:29
  Speaker 5: I just want to talk about her sex life or whatever,
• 41:30
  Speaker 5: and she straight out way was.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, I'm sorry, and I was like no, No,
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't. I'm not like demanding more
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: or I'm going to break up with you or anything
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: like that.
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: I was like I was sending away, like I so
• 41:41
  Speaker 5: like since we moved in together, we've lived nearly two
• 41:44
  Speaker 5: years together now, it definitely has slowed down. And I
• 41:48
  Speaker 5: was saying to her like, I've noticed it slowed down,
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: but I've noticed that I don't actually care.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: But what I care.
• 41:52
  Speaker 5: What's making me think about it right is like I'm thinking,
• 41:56
  Speaker 5: does besth care? Like I'm like, so I think, like, okay,
• 41:59
  Speaker 5: it's been like maybe a couple of weeks, and I'm
• 42:01
  Speaker 5: like it does best care? And then I also think
• 42:04
  Speaker 5: I think a lot of just like society and growing
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: up telling you like, if you stop having sex, you're
• 42:08
  Speaker 5: falling out a love type of thing, is like what
• 42:10
  Speaker 5: was affecting me? Yeah, so I just brought up with them.
• 42:12
  Speaker 5: She's like, oh no, I also like don't care, and
• 42:13
  Speaker 5: I was like, okay, cool on the same page.
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: I guess that's it.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: It's all about aligning on Like so you know we
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: are still sweet.
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you knows.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: I feel like, you know, in your.
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: Like energy towards each other, if it is a problem
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: or not, And like, you know, whilst I'm out here
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: being like everyone is allowed to watch porn, Yeah, I
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: wouldn't of course have a problem if my boyfriend was
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: watching porn every.
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: Day and not shagging.
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: Sex life at the same time.
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that would be I would be like, well
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: why don't why.
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: You know, can we put it? And I think we do.
• 42:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah, But like very like we have been lucky to
• 42:53
  Speaker 6: have been shown very healthy love in our lives, which
• 42:56
  Speaker 6: is probably why we can stand pretty firmly like a
• 43:00
  Speaker 6: lot of respect for ourselves, have a lot of respect
• 43:01
  Speaker 6: for our partners, Like yeah, we've always felt like that
• 43:05
  Speaker 6: we were treated well, so like that, Yeah, fucking blessings.
• 43:07
  Speaker 6: I know that's not always the case, and there are
• 43:09
  Speaker 6: some absolute dogs out there, but I do think, yeah,
• 43:12
  Speaker 6: it's it is a shame that, like, you know, girls
• 43:15
  Speaker 6: measure that like it shouldn't.
• 43:17
  Speaker 3: Really be that deep. What you said is perfect though.
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: I think it's like I think if you're both on
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: the same page, where like you're both aligned with the
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: fact that like, yeah, we don't do it as much
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: as we do, but we you know X y Z.
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: That's when the communication is like open and it's like
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: but you can you can feel it in your soul
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: when you're not doing it, or maybe it's like you're
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: extending the olive rench and it's always like a knock knock.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: You're trying to if you're trying to avoid it as well,
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: like you don't want it to happen, then you like, oh.
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: Not snight, babe, I'm tired, Not this morning, babe, I'm tired.
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: It's like it so mortified. If I kept trying to
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: shag someone my partner and they were like knocking me back,
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: maybe one cy could handle, maybe twice, but by the
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: third time, I'd be like.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: Reject, reject, I'm going to and you can see her
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: and was off campus.
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: Put it on the big straight, on the big string,
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: make a video for masculinity. Seriously, if you're not going
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: to put out on the big screen, that's so funny. Sorry,
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: we turn everything into a joke. Back to this Cheeks dilemma.
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: With not having sex is often I think it's fine,
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: But if you are genuinely a little bit concerned, I
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: think then maybe you should just have a nice conversation.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: You know, I just wanted to check in what's concerning you.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: The question is like are you concerned that he's concerned?
• 44:57
  Speaker 5: Are you concerned that everyone else is going to be like, oh,
• 45:00
  Speaker 5: you need to break up because you guys don't have
• 45:01
  Speaker 5: sex anymore.
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: Because you really want to.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: He doesn't very horny and you have giving you anything
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: and you are concerned that he does not. It's just
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: want to talk about it.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: Communicators, communication, Communication is key, and like being honest with
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: why you think things too, I think is another thing.
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: Like like you said, like think about what what's really
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: the issue for you? Is it because you're horning and
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: not getting a route? Is it because you're.
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: Worried about it's like sirable?
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, a symbol of like your relationships in a bad
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: place because as well your best mates, like, well, fuck
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: my boyfriend five nights a week and you think that
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: you're like less than Yeah, you gotta really be honest
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: with you, like why you think certain things.
• 45:43
  Speaker 6: Bad?
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: He's bad, he's baddies. After the dilemmas, we know you
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: love him, we thought we could go one step further
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: with a brand new segment, the Confession Hotline. Yeah, brought
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: to you, but as.
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: Clear because I just want to say something nothing.
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: How do I say this?
• 46:02
  Speaker 4: Nothing unites of people.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: Like a breakout? Oh, relatable because everyone's had them, all right,
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: nobody wants them. Yeah, that's a good point.
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: That's a very good point.
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: Whether you've had a lot or a little, you don't
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: want any Yeah. How it's going to work is the
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: listeners have sent in some dms, Yeah about some breakouts
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: they've had.
• 46:23
  Speaker 5: Yes, so we are gonna I'll go first, we both
• 46:27
  Speaker 5: have one. Yeah, Okay, Hey boys, I had a massive
• 46:31
  Speaker 5: breakout pop up the week of my dream job interview.
• 46:35
  Speaker 4: God, how's the timing?
• 46:37
  Speaker 5: It sounds so dramatic, but I almost canceled because I
• 46:40
  Speaker 5: was convinced that only look at my skin. I spent
• 46:43
  Speaker 5: the whole interview thinking about whether they were staring at
• 46:45
  Speaker 5: my forehead instead of listening to my answers. I ended
• 46:49
  Speaker 5: up getting the job. Congrats, But looking back, I hate
• 46:52
  Speaker 5: that my skin almost talked me out of one of
• 46:54
  Speaker 5: the biggest opportunities of my life.
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: How's the timing on that.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: Your skin always does that? Yeo, when you needed to turn.
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: Up, When you needed to turn up, it turns up
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: in the wrong way.
• 47:06
  Speaker 5: Oh, you're literally unfortunately unfortunately, but I mean a job interview.
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: But look look look like glass half full. Okay, you
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: still ace the interview. Clearly you did a good job. Yeah,
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: which is a takeaway, but I guess you wasn't present
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: and like took away from You want.
• 47:21
  Speaker 5: To cherish the moment of it. You're like, you probably
• 47:23
  Speaker 5: so you look back on your interview and you think
• 47:25
  Speaker 5: I was stressing.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was. I was stressing that they were looking
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: at me. I was stressing this.
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: I was stressing that.
• 47:30
  Speaker 5: And you want to look back on it and be
• 47:31
  Speaker 5: you want it to be one of those moments where
• 47:32
  Speaker 5: you're like, I'm proud of out of that moment in
• 47:35
  Speaker 5: my life, I conquered that.
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: You still conquered something. You still conquered it. Yeah, I
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: guess like takeaways are one, you got the job, and
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: then two Like for me, what has helped me with
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: confidence moving forward is like a simple skincare routine. Skinnermalism,
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: skinnermalism exactly. It's like you see my plan on words. Yeah,
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: it's pretty good. You come up without yourself. I did, Yeah,
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: I did, genuinely right off the dome, came off with
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: that and with a simple routine. I always just use
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: as clear.
• 48:03
  Speaker 5: Yes honestly good recommendation, it's it's suitable factory pro skin,
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: and just cut through all the skincare noise or your
• 48:12
  Speaker 5: head noise.
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: Yes, exactly. During that interview, baddie, all right, my turn
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: a DM sent in by you baddies. Here we go.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: I went to Europe with my best friends and had
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: the worst acne flare up I've had in years. Every
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: time someone pulled out a camera, I'd volunteer to take
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: the photo instead of being in it. No, now we're
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: all back home and I've realized I'm barely in any
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: photos from what was probably the best trip of my life.
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: It honestly makes me feel sad because I let a
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: breakout steal those memories from me here, No hold on,
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: let me just backtrack.
• 48:46
  Speaker 4: Here, all right, it didn't steal the memories. You've got
• 48:49
  Speaker 4: the memories up here.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: They're still there. Yeah, they are there. The photos, the
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: photos just yeah, so the memories are there, but there's
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: no photo evidence. Photos don't mean everything.
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: You know when people say like photo evidence and I'll
• 49:01
  Speaker 4: believe you. Yeah, Unfortunately you can't provide that.
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: But that's okay. Yeah, I feel bad. I thought about it.
• 49:08
  Speaker 4: It could have been a plane.
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: Ride, it could have been anything. It's out of your control. Yeah,
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: that's the hard thing about it.
• 49:13
  Speaker 4: That there's a hard thing about it.
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: Let's be real here, like do you know what I
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: bring on planes with me? But as clear four steps easy.
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: Once again, I'm gonna hit you with what I said
• 49:22
  Speaker 4: prior Skinner Moalism doesn't take up any.
• 49:24
  Speaker 5: Room in my bag.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: I couldn't agree more, Jade. Yeah, and anyone listening who
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: resonates with any of this, be sure to check out
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: the as Clear action range at your local pharmacy.
• 49:43
  Speaker 5: Talking about I guess communication because it goes both goes
• 49:46
  Speaker 5: with friendships, relationships and all that we wanted to talk
• 49:49
  Speaker 5: about before we finished up about you guys having obviously
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: like the successful podcasts and then the successful company, and
• 49:56
  Speaker 5: you guys also do a radio show. How do you
• 50:00
  Speaker 5: do you guys have you found like from Steak Did
• 50:02
  Speaker 5: you start jaggering Stone First?
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: We had a joint Instagram first, which was I guess
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: we kind of became like influencers first.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: You were like the first to do what kind of
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: was my girlfriends punter, like one of the first like,
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: yeah duos to do it.
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: Well when we started doing our Instagram together, I don't
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: I don't think anyone was really doing it as duo's
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: the whole one. Yeah, in our kind of space, and
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: we definitely were. We definitely learnt a lot more into
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: like lifestyle, Like we did a lot of festival fashion
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: that was kind of our thing. But then we were
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: also like just really lit and we did a lot
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: of like lifestyle and stuff. So I think that was
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: different back then too because that's was like the more
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: curated era and we were kind of a little bit
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: like less curated. Yeah, so I think that was kind
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: of how so then we started jagger, then a year
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: later we started the podcast, and then now it's kind
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: of just everything that we do.
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: Do you ever struggle with like only chatting about business
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: in your relationship or you guys could disconnecting we.
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: Don't really chat about business whatever.
• 51:06
  Speaker 6: Always say we're like, fuck, it's it's we actually don't
• 51:10
  Speaker 6: run out of shit to talk about, which is probably
• 51:11
  Speaker 6: why we're lucky to.
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: We could prioritize more formal business conversations between us.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: Because the opposite of us yeah, yeah.
• 51:17
  Speaker 5: See, like we could prioritize more friendship, which like, yeah,
• 51:20
  Speaker 5: we talk about and like we feel as though we
• 51:23
  Speaker 5: get like a lot of friendship and like camaraderie and
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: just like we feel like we get a lot of
• 51:28
  Speaker 5: that from doing the podcast because like we do sit
• 51:30
  Speaker 5: down and most of the time we just have like
• 51:32
  Speaker 5: a chat that yeah with a friend.
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: See.
• 51:34
  Speaker 6: We like when we do like our yeah, it does
• 51:38
  Speaker 6: get really conversational, like we're lucky, Like even if we
• 51:40
  Speaker 6: do like a punter submission episode, like often it ends
• 51:43
  Speaker 6: up us talking about our lives, so like it always
• 51:46
  Speaker 6: does feel very conversational. But no, we always say, we're
• 51:49
  Speaker 6: like we should be more dialed into talking about like
• 51:51
  Speaker 6: our business stuff as.
• 51:53
  Speaker 5: We just go off the tangent about ask about the
• 51:56
  Speaker 5: business stuff a lot kind of how you've done it,
• 51:59
  Speaker 5: like like just out of inspiration. Going to your studio
• 52:04
  Speaker 5: right before this was like something that we like walking
• 52:06
  Speaker 5: in there is kind of like, yeah, this is fucking
• 52:07
  Speaker 5: really cool.
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: It's like a big inspiration. Yeah, yeah, it's very it
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: was very very cool.
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: But do you know what we just still feel like
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: you guys, I think that's the thing. And like, don't
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: get me wrong, like we definitely have like leveled up
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: in the like last few years, and like for us
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: also having a nice studio and like a nice office
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: and things like that, it's like it's maybe not necessary. Yeah,
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: like we'd probably still make the same amount of money
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: if we didn't have all those nice things. But we're
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: also just like women in our mid thirties who I
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: like to have a nice home, I like to have
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: a nice office, and I like to have a nice car.
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: Like that's it's not like, yeah, I just think it's
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: kind of you know, we have a full team now,
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: so it's like, you know, we want to provide a
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: nice place for our teams to.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: Work and.
• 52:56
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't know, it's yeah, I guess it's like,
• 53:00
  Speaker 6: like like Lou said, this is only sort of recent
• 53:02
  Speaker 6: that we've actually we've always liked nice thing.
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we've never really been like, all right, we're actually.
• 53:06
  Speaker 6: Comfortable to part with this amount of money to do
• 53:09
  Speaker 6: something nice for our brand, and I think like something
• 53:12
  Speaker 6: like this studio it's all branding, so like if we can,
• 53:15
  Speaker 6: like would I go and drop that much on? Like
• 53:18
  Speaker 6: we don't ever go out and buy ourselves design a
• 53:21
  Speaker 6: handbags or anything. Like everything we do usually goes back
• 53:24
  Speaker 6: into like the business. We pat us up a wage,
• 53:30
  Speaker 6: we get paid. No, but like in terms of like
• 53:32
  Speaker 6: we wouldn't be like, well should I should we go
• 53:34
  Speaker 6: and buy these Pride bags? Should we put that money
• 53:37
  Speaker 6: into maybe fucking this little fandangle set up you've got?
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: You thought.
• 53:46
  Speaker 6: You walk into our studio, which is amazing, and we
• 53:48
  Speaker 6: come in here like, Okay.
• 53:51
  Speaker 7: I actually love the screen set up, isn't Yeah, I
• 53:56
  Speaker 7: feel like we're running out some sort of crazy or
• 53:59
  Speaker 7: like we actually.
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: Still feel like you're making it up the way.
• 54:01
  Speaker 6: We don't really ever sit and look at our lives
• 54:04
  Speaker 6: that is like a you know, eagle eye view, like
• 54:06
  Speaker 6: we're still in.
• 54:07
  Speaker 5: It, Like you don't really realize what was it like
• 54:09
  Speaker 5: because you had a you have a four months of baby?
• 54:11
  Speaker 5: What changed with Like I assume I guess stick on
• 54:14
  Speaker 5: the topic of communication, just like what's changed from that?
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: But what I really wanted to when Nick, Like I
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: think this was going to be naturally the progression, regardless
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: of babies or not. But what I really really wanted
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: to do before Nick had Raf was put in the
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: challenging thing when you're operating as a duo, even down
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: to something as simplistic as I'll give you a good example,
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: like before we had a text from someone being like, Hey,
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: I need to know if you guys can catch up
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: on Wednesday for a meeting or wasn't that direct, but
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: it was like, hey, can we catch up on Wednesday
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: for a meeting?
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: And what I was like, I.
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: Can't keep operating in this space of like us not
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: knowing who's that means I need?
• 55:00
  Speaker 6: But you can't like answer things without checking with the
• 55:03
  Speaker 6: other yes, So we're constantly like bottlenecking stuff.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's like I can't see nicks calendar, she
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: can't see mine. I don't want to. I'm too lazy
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: to even look at mine. I'm not going to go
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: and look at Nick's calendar. So I'm kind of like,
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: I was like, we need to have people that in
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: our two businesses that we have, which is Jagger and Stone,
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: which is like our fashion label, and then like the
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: Lucian Nikki brand which is like our radio podcasts, et cetera, Instagram,
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: and then also like the live shows and everything. I
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: was like, we need to have people that operate as
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: like the person between us that can answer these questions
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: for other people outside of us. So like when you
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: know upwards of like ten people in a day would
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: come that's not even a joke for one one of
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: those businesses come to us like what requesting meetings, needing answers.
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: We now have like two people that sit as like
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: the heads of those businesses that can answer on behalf
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: of us. That was something that I was like super
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: conscious of because it also like is one of those
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: things where like I didn't want to start to like
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: get pissed off at Nick because she won't answer questions
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: or you know what I mean, and she's just had
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: a baby. But I didn't want to be like, well,
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: why do I have to answer this question? So now
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: we have people that answer those questions.
• 56:16
  Speaker 3: For us, and they can be full time and keep
• 56:18
  Speaker 3: the wheels turning.
• 56:19
  Speaker 2: YEA, yeah, when I will kind of like in the
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: last like what nine months, But it was one of
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: those things that I was like, we needed a Jagger
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: and Stone regardless because just the nature of how we're
• 56:31
  Speaker 2: in and out of the time, and there's a whole
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: team there working on that, but like even just on
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: like the me and Nicky stuff. When nick was like
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: I am like having a baby, I was like, we
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: need to figure this out because we just when you
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: don't have really set roles between the two of you,
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: which we still kind of don't, like we kind of
• 56:51
  Speaker 2: like lean more into things. But I was like, if
• 56:54
  Speaker 2: we kind of just like always ambiguously being like I
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: don't know who's responsible to respet on to these people
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: and whatever or just to action these things, it can
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: get muddy and.
• 57:05
  Speaker 6: It's full on, like you think of the last twenty
• 57:07
  Speaker 6: four hours in our life right now to this point.
• 57:08
  Speaker 6: So yesterday we launched a Jagger and Stone collection. So
• 57:12
  Speaker 6: like obviously like there's all that happening in the background,
• 57:14
  Speaker 6: which the team are running, it's awesome whatever, and then
• 57:16
  Speaker 6: we go and do we're meant to do our Patreon recordings.
• 57:19
  Speaker 6: Yesterday I'd pull the pin because I lost my voice.
• 57:22
  Speaker 5: Lol.
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: I've got a sick.
• 57:23
  Speaker 6: Baby at home, we go and do a National drive
• 57:26
  Speaker 6: show live, so we're doing that today as well.
• 57:29
  Speaker 3: And then we've just recorded what three podcasts Jesus like.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you got two more, so we did one
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: before we did ours and one more before us.
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: And we're still getting in trouble from every single person
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: that we were. We're not getting to people when you
• 57:40
  Speaker 2: guys arrived.
• 57:41
  Speaker 6: I don't know if you saw, like our staff member
• 57:43
  Speaker 6: was like, girls, like it urgently needs you to film
• 57:47
  Speaker 6: this right now. We've got a message on our phone. Girls,
• 57:49
  Speaker 6: you still haven't to let me know if tomorrow is
• 57:50
  Speaker 6: good for this. Like it's like if you look at
• 57:52
  Speaker 6: your phone at any given time. And I've especially found
• 57:55
  Speaker 6: that since having a baby, and it's something I need
• 57:57
  Speaker 6: to figure out how to like lower my stress levels
• 58:01
  Speaker 6: in that because I feel like every time I pick
• 58:03
  Speaker 6: up my phone, I have not replied to fucking literally
• 58:06
  Speaker 6: forty people. Yeah, and it's hard needs something now, Yeah,
• 58:10
  Speaker 6: And that's that's the hard thing too, Like we like
• 58:13
  Speaker 6: and like this is still a work in progress. Yeah,
• 58:15
  Speaker 6: but like we also are recording like for so many
• 58:20
  Speaker 6: hours a week, like especially like this week because we're
• 58:22
  Speaker 6: on full time drive, like we're like and I find
• 58:24
  Speaker 6: that sometimes people don't understand that, like when we're working,
• 58:27
  Speaker 6: I'm not sitting on a laptop on our phones like
• 58:30
  Speaker 6: willy nilly.
• 58:30
  Speaker 3: It's like we're like locked in.
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: It's mental, very mentally, like this is so.
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: Easy for us.
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: But I'm also like not on my phone, so please
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: stop contacting me. My job is to not be on
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: my phone.
• 58:44
  Speaker 6: And you're Nikki to do the radio show that Lucy
• 58:46
  Speaker 6: Nikki to do this. But then it's like we're getting
• 58:48
  Speaker 6: like bombarded our recordings.
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: I need this now, I need this.
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: Now, and it's like and then on top of that,
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: you've also got to manage the fact that now for
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: the first few years about us having our businesses together,
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: like Nick and I live toge like you could guarantee
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: that from six am until nine pm we were pretty
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: much together, so we didn't have to have structures like
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: calendars and like even like roles and responsibilities because the
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: two of us were just sitting there, you know, raw
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: dogging life together. But now that like we don't live together.
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: Nick's got a baby, which like is so important in
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: the structure of her like week and stuff.
• 59:21
  Speaker 3: Like we have I'm still very much navigating myself, you know,
• 59:25
  Speaker 3: such new territory.
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and so we do have to have more like
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: formal things in place where it's like, you know, it
• 59:32
  Speaker 2: needs to be like for certain businesses, like you have
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: my undivided attention from this time to this time and
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: then that's it. Yeah, And you guys need to have
• 59:41
  Speaker 2: prepared what you need from me. It can't just be
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: this ad hoc needing things twenty four seven because we
• 59:47
  Speaker 2: don't work full time on any one thing.
• 59:49
  Speaker 4: We got so many people.
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's one thing I would say to people
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: starting businesses. I mean, it's hard for us now because
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: we're doing the opposite, but just do one thing and
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: get really good at one thing, because otherwise you'll end
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: up in the predicament that where in which now we
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: can manage because we've reached a certain level of like
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: you know, like we have teams around us.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: Now if you're new normal as well now.
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but if we.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: Were just doing what we were doing and raw dogging it,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: it would be so on unorganized.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 5: True.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes a lot of sense actually, And I
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: guess the last question we'll finish on too, Like that's
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: the business side of things. What about we said, our
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: demo is women and credit where credits you? You guys
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: are doing amazing.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 3: Thanks boys.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: Was there ever a point where like you doubt yourself
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: or had to find the confidence to like start all
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: the different avenues you.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: Do me all the time, never had to have So
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: it's so funny. I talk about this in my therapist
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: a lot. I have the what's it called limiting beliefs,
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: Like where dating is concerned, I am like such a
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 2: pessimist where work is concerned. If I decided I wanted
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 2: to be the Prime Minister of Australia tomorrow, I'd probably
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: just start doing it.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: You just want to do And she's like, that is
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: a trade.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 3: It is good.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: But we also like have had knockbacks and stuff, which
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: you know, but like I think because we're in it
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: together too, everything feels way less shit when you have
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: your best friend there to experience.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 6: We always say like, obviously I'm definitely not as like
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 6: confident or much of a leader as loose, but like,
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 6: if I ever see a moment where she's dipping, best believe,
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 6: I'll be like, we can do it. You know, Yeah,
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 6: that's fair, And I think that's also like it's like
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 6: a great dynamic and like there's probably been a million times,
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 6: and Nick He's like, can we just do things a
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 6: fucking normal way for once?
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, so I will be learning how to
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: come from the roof and a hula hoop with knives.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 3: Like how does that about that?
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: No?
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 3: But do you know what I mean?
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: But it's like I think the fact that you don't
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: ever then like kind of try and stop that process either,
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: you're kind of just like whatever you want to do,
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: let's fuck make happens.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 3: Born with star qualities.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 5: I am.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: I was so as a kid like I am the
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 3: thought I would never come down in a haul hoop.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: It's just not my like, you know, but you don't
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 2: try and stop me from coming down.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 3: I would never, do you know what I mean? And
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 3: you would never be like Nikki, you have to come
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 3: down to hull hoop because you know that I wouldn't
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 3: do that.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 2: Don't you know that you're learning new choreography for the
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: next live shows.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 6: But like if she was said to be like I
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 6: come down on a hula hoop and you do nothing,
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 6: I'd be like, no one, absolutely no one told you
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 6: to come down on a hul hoop.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: Except for you do.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 2: That's why we have the best life shows in Australia
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: because there's hullo hoops.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 5: But no, it is.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: It's just like we have a good working dynamic and
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 2: I think it's one of those things.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 3: Like we don't really piss each other off that much either.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 2: We often find it helps.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 6: That we are very different as well, you know what
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 6: I mean, Like we kind of come in and like
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 6: offer different things.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's not like I'm ever there like oh god,
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 3: I'm so jealous of that girl dangling from the roof.
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: I'm like, get the bag boom an amazing sweetie.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 2: But I think we're still like actually, like this is
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 2: a work in progress at the moment. And I think
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: now now that like work has changed a little bit
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: in the sense of like Nix and Mum, now we
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: are going to have to start being probably a little
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 2: bit more like you know, a lot of business duos
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 2: like need to kind of be like, Okay, what attributes
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: am I really contributing? How many hours can I actually
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: be at work a week? And what does that look
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 2: like from a fair perspective and vice versa, so that
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: it's not just like us both just like floating around
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 2: kind of like coming to things where maybe only one
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: of us needs to be there, and do you know
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: what I mean, So we're still juggling it. Oh, We're
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 2: just lucky that like because we get along so well.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: We've never and we're like, you know, have similar you
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: know vibes that for like nine to nine point nine
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: nine nine percent of things, we're just on the exact
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: same page, which is good.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 3: It's rare.
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  Speaker 6: And I think, like even just me, like I've just
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 6: like in my parenting journey, just this last week's probably
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 6: been like the hardest week I've had. And I've said
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 6: someone I feel like I peaked early, like I kind
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 6: of like don't know what everyone's on it, Like I
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 6: took six weeks Matt leave, do you know what I mean.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 6: It's it's kind of I think I've probably been living
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 6: in a bit of a days and now I'm like,
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 6: holy shit, this is actually my new normal of life
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 6: and I really need to look at what that is
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 6: and like how many hours we do have in a
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 6: week and like what that looks like moving forward because structure,
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 6: I keep saying, trying to do everything and it's only
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 6: just going to get busier. It's like I don't know
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 6: what kind of mum I'm going to be, Yeah, what
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 6: kind of business partner I'm going to be. So it's yeah,
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 6: just about being like realistic and honest with yourself and
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 6: honest with you know, like each other. And like, I
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 6: think that's where having these other people involved in our
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 6: businesses and stuff now is going to be. I think
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 6: I think it's really important for duos to have that
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 6: kind of person to lean on as well, because then
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 6: then it's not just like, no, Nikki, you have to
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 6: be back at work full time. Like it's kind of like,
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 6: not that I would ever say that anyway, but it's
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 6: kind of like you need to like have.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 3: Those resource where you can.
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 6: And obviously, like with them, where the podcast and radio
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 6: is concerned, we can't. It's Lucy and Nikki we have
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 6: to be there.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: So it's just always my brother had to fill in
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: for a while she was on Matt Lee. But even that,
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 2: like that's another thing that's like a dynamic to navigate.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: Like when Nick was on Matt leave, it was kind
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: of my responsibility to find someone to fill in for her,
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: even though.
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  Speaker 3: It shouldn't have It shouldn't have been but do you
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 3: know what I mean like.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 2: Things like that, like a duo, which you guys will
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: find is a really dynamic thing to navigate because it
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: is one of those things that it's kind of you
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: have to even though maybe like I could have done
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: radio with anyone, I'm gonna want to have a say
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: in who I do radio with, do you know what
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: I mean? So it is one of those things it
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 2: just takes more plan placeable for each other.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 3: Dog.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it just takes more planning and more like honest
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: conversations and STUFFA.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: Well, thank you very much for coming on. Usually we
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 1: call one of our baddies to sign off the episode,
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: but we thought maybe we could ask you, guys. I've
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: listened to a few episodes in Lucy. You have some
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 1: great one liners. So if we could ask you to
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: sign off the episode with any like life motto or
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: advice to give the baddies and you guys have when
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: you both live together or and you guys have kind
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 1: of separate.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 3: Ask and you shall receive. Oh yeah, that's our go to.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: What else have we got? Get little die trying a
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: little trying, Yeah, don't do that, don't actually die.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 3: Receive is a really good asking. You shall receiver.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: Is our favorite.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't go, you never know exactly.
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 3: Ask the questions. People aren't mind readers.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: If you need a lift.
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 3: Ask Vin Diesel might pick you up. Literally, you.
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: Might pick you up.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 2: Vin Diesel gave us a lift home from Coachella one night.
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 3: As we asked for a lift.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a story for another day. Thank you very
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: much for your time.