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Danish Parenting - The Secret Sauce of Danish Childhood · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Hello,
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  everyone.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  parenting
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  books
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  and
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I
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  am
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn,
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  best
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  selling
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  author
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  and
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  I
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  love
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  you
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  in
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  turquoise.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Is
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  this
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  your
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  winter
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  colors?
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  Yeah,
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  it's
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  my
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  jewel
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  toned
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  winter
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  colors.
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  Well,
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  it
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  does
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  suit
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  you.
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  I
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  have
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  to
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  give
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  that
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  to
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  Kathleen,
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  right?
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  She
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  did
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  my
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  colors.
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  So
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  shout
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  out
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  to
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  Kathleen.
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  Yes.
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  We
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  love
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  Kathleen.
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  Yes,
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  we
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  do.
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  I
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  think
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  you
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  guys
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  can't
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  smell
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  this
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  because
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  even
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  if
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  you're
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  watching
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  this,
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  you
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  don't
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  have
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  the
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  sense
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  of
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  smell
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  for
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  these
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  videos.
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  But
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  I
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  smell
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  burnt
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  because
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  I
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  almost
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  burnt
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  my
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  house
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  down
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  today.
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  I
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  was
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  trying
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  to
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  make
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  the
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  baby
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  lunch,
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  and
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  I
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  was
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  putting
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  sweet
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  potatoes
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  in
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  water,
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  and
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  then
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  I
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  got
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  distracted
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  by
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  about
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  40,000
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  other
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  things,
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  and
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  I
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  forgot
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  about
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  them.
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  And
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  then
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  my
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  husband
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  was
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  like,
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  is
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  there
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  something
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  burning?
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  And
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  I
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  was
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  like,
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  oh,
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  my
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  God,
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  no,
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  no.
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  You
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  must
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  be
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  the
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  neighbors.
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  That's
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  crazy.
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  Turns
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  out
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  I
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  had
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  to
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  throw
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  away
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  a
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  pan
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  because
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  it
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  was,
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  like,
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  beyond.
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  It
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  was
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  so
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  burnt,
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  which
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  is
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  so
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  crazy
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  to
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  me
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  because
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  I
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  put
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  so
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  much
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  water
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  in
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  that
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  pot.
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  Well,
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  you
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  gotta
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  give
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  it
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  more
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  time.
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  Maybe
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  soak
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  it
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  overnight.
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  I
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  would
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  take
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  it
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  back
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  out.
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  What?
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  Yes.
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  Well,
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  you
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  could.
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  Don't
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  throw
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  it
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  away.
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  Did
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  you
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  throw
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  it
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  down
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  the
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  chute?
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  No,
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  it's
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  sitting
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  in
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  my
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  sink.
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  But,
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  like,
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  you
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  might
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  get
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  better.
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  You
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  might
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  fix
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  it.
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  It
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  might
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  be
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  okay.
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  It's
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  okay.
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  I
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  don't
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  know
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  about
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  that.
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  It's,
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  like,
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  pretty
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  bad.
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  Like,
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  the
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  sweet
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  potatoes
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  were
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  charred.
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  That's
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  okay.
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  Just
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  leave
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  it
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  in
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  the
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  water
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  and
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  it'll
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  come.
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  I'll
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  help
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  you.
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  Yeah.
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  And
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  that
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  on
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  top
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  of
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  the
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  fact
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  that
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  I'm
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  in
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  this
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  awkward
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  stage
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  right
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  now
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  with
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  my
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  bangs
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  that
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  my
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  friends
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  and
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  I
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  affectionately
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  refer
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  to
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  as
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  the
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  young
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  lad
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  phase,
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  where.
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  Which
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  is
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  like,
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  I'm
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  trying
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  to
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  grow
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  them
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  out,
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  but
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  it's
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  gonna
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  be
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  a
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  few
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  more
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  weeks
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  before
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  I
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  can
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  get
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  a
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  haircut.
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  And
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  they
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  look
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  okay.
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  So
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  it's
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  like
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  I'm
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  kind
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  of
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  like,
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  giving
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  Paul
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  Revere.
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  Yes.
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  Right
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  now.
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  Yes,
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  you
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  are.
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  I'm
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  trying
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  my
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  best.
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  Okay.
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  But
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  this
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  is
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  all
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  we
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  can
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  do.
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  Speaking
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  of
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  young
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  lads,
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  today
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  we're
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  covering
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  the
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  Danish
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  way
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  of
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  parenting.
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  That's
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  right.
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  This
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  is
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  the
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  Danish
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  way
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  of
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  parenting
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  book.
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  Yeah.
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  Danish
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  young
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  lad.
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  That's
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  kind
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  of
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  what
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  you
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  look
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  like.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Like
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  from
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  a
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  Danish
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  fair,
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  Hans
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  Christian
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  Andersen.
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  So
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  one
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  thing
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  about
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  these
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  fairy
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  tales,
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  the
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  Hans
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  Christian
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  Andersen
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  fairy
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  Tales
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  is
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  like
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  the
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  Disney
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  fied
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  versions
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  are
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  so
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  much
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  nicer.
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  They
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  are
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  in
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  the
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  Little
• 2:38
  Mermaid,
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  the
• 2:39
  Hans
• 2:39
  Christian
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  Andersen
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  version,
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  I
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  think,
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  like,
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  the
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  little
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  mermaid
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  doesn't
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  grow
• 2:44
  legs
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  and
• 2:45
  go
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  to
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  land.
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  I
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  think
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  she
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  just
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  like,
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  no,
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  with
• 2:48
  Hans
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  Christian
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  Anderson,
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  it's
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  always
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  like
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  the
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  sad
• 2:52
  story
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  and
• 2:53
  the
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  hero
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  dies.
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  I
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  think
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  she
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  thinks
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  of
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  seafoam.
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  I
• 2:56
  don't
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  know.
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  I
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  never
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  read
• 2:58
  it
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  to
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  you.
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  So
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  I
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  gave
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  you
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  the
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  nicer
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  version,
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  the
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  happier
• 3:05
  version,
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  which
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  is
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  so
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  funny
• 3:06
  that
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  that's
• 3:07
  their
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  whole
• 3:08
  fairy
• 3:08
  tale
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  bit,
• 3:09
  because
• 3:09
  they
• 3:10
  seem
• 3:10
  like
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  the
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  nicest
• 3:11
  people
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  based
• 3:12
  on
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  this
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  book.
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  They
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  are.
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  And
• 3:14
  they
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  talk
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  about
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  this
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  in
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  the
• 3:15
  book.
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  They
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  talk
• 3:16
  about
• 3:16
  the
• 3:17
  fact.
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  We'll
• 3:17
  get
• 3:17
  to
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  this
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  in
• 3:18
  the
• 3:18
  book,
• 3:18
  that
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  I'm
• 3:20
  skipping
• 3:20
  ahead.
• 3:21
  You
• 3:21
  are
• 3:21
  skipping
• 3:21
  ahead.
• 3:22
  But
• 3:22
  that
• 3:22
  you
• 3:22
  know
• 3:23
  that
• 3:23
  Hans
• 3:23
  Christian
• 3:24
  Andersen
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  wrote
• 3:25
  all
• 3:25
  these
• 3:25
  really
• 3:26
  dark
• 3:27
  fairy
• 3:27
  tales
• 3:28
  and
• 3:28
  that
• 3:28
  they
• 3:29
  show
• 3:30
  read
• 3:30
  them
• 3:30
  to
• 3:30
  their
• 3:30
  children
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  because
• 3:31
  they
• 3:31
  want
• 3:32
  children
• 3:32
  to
• 3:32
  know
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  not
• 3:34
  all
• 3:34
  of
• 3:34
  life
• 3:35
  is
• 3:35
  going
• 3:35
  to
• 3:35
  be
• 3:35
  happy,
• 3:36
  happy,
• 3:36
  happy.
• 3:36
  There's
• 3:37
  going
• 3:37
  to
• 3:37
  be
• 3:37
  some
• 3:37
  dark
• 3:38
  moments
• 3:39
  when
• 3:39
  you
• 3:39
  turn
• 3:39
  into
• 3:39
  sea
• 3:40
  foam
• 3:40
  or
• 3:40
  something,
• 3:40
  and
• 3:41
  it's
• 3:41
  going
• 3:41
  to
• 3:41
  be
• 3:41
  fine.
• 3:42
  You're
• 3:43
  going
• 3:43
  to
• 3:43
  be
• 3:43
  gone.
• 3:44
  Life
• 3:44
  goes
• 3:44
  on.
• 3:44
  You're
• 3:45
  just
• 3:45
  a
• 3:45
  sea
• 3:46
  foam
• 3:46
  now.
• 3:47
  But
• 3:47
  anyway,
• 3:48
  okay.
• 3:48
  I
• 3:48
  really.
• 3:49
  So
• 3:50
  this
• 3:50
  book
• 3:50
  was
• 3:51
  great.
• 3:51
  I
• 3:51
  like
• 3:52
  more
• 3:52
  than
• 3:52
  anything
• 3:53
  what
• 3:53
  I
• 3:53
  took
• 3:53
  away
• 3:54
  from
• 3:54
  this
• 3:54
  book
• 3:54
  is
• 3:55
  the
• 3:56
  perspective
• 3:57
  they
• 3:57
  choose.
• 3:58
  Optimism.
• 3:59
  It
• 3:59
  seems
• 3:59
  like
• 4:00
  over
• 4:00
  everything,
• 4:00
  under
• 4:01
  all
• 4:01
  circumstances,
• 4:02
  no
• 4:02
  matter
• 4:03
  how
• 4:03
  garbage
• 4:04
  a
• 4:04
  day
• 4:04
  is
• 4:04
  going,
• 4:05
  they're
• 4:05
  like,
• 4:05
  you
• 4:05
  know
• 4:06
  what?
• 4:06
  Here's
• 4:07
  this
• 4:07
  one
• 4:07
  thing
• 4:07
  that's
• 4:08
  not
• 4:08
  horrible.
• 4:09
  Right.
• 4:09
  And
• 4:10
  they
• 4:10
  can
• 4:10
  turn
• 4:11
  the
• 4:11
  bleakest
• 4:12
  thing
• 4:12
  into
• 4:12
  something
• 4:12
  positive.
• 4:13
  Yeah.
• 4:14
  So
• 4:14
  it's
• 4:14
  just
• 4:14
  having
• 4:15
  that
• 4:15
  optimistic
• 4:16
  outlook
• 4:16
  that's
• 4:16
  part
• 4:17
  of
• 4:17
  what
• 4:17
  we're
• 4:17
  gonna
• 4:17
  learn
• 4:18
  about.
• 4:18
  So,
• 4:18
  Tien,
• 4:19
  from
• 4:20
  scientist
• 4:20
  to
• 4:20
  parent,
• 4:21
  how
• 4:21
  readable
• 4:21
  was
• 4:21
  this
• 4:21
  book?
• 4:22
  It's
• 4:22
  a
• 4:22
  very
• 4:23
  readable
• 4:23
  book.
• 4:23
  It's
• 4:24
  an
• 4:24
  easy
• 4:24
  book.
• 4:25
  It's
• 4:25
  not
• 4:25
  that
• 4:25
  long.
• 4:26
  Short.
• 4:27
  Yes,
• 4:27
  I
• 4:27
  know.
• 4:27
  And
• 4:28
  giant
• 4:28
  fonts.
• 4:29
  I
• 4:29
  know.
• 4:29
  So
• 4:30
  we
• 4:30
  like
• 4:30
  that.
• 4:30
  We
• 4:30
  like
• 4:31
  that.
• 4:31
  We
• 4:31
  like
• 4:31
  that.
• 4:31
  I
• 4:31
  appreciate
• 4:32
  that.
• 4:32
  Yeah.
• 4:33
  So
• 4:33
  it
• 4:33
  was
• 4:33
  easy
• 4:33
  to
• 4:34
  read.
• 4:34
  It's
• 4:34
  a
• 4:34
  fast
• 4:35
  read.
• 4:35
  But
• 4:36
  we'll
• 4:36
  tell
• 4:36
  you
• 4:36
  what
• 4:36
  it
• 4:37
  says
• 4:37
  and
• 4:38
  then
• 4:38
  you
• 4:38
  can
• 4:38
  decide
• 4:38
  if
• 4:39
  you
• 4:39
  want
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  read
• 4:39
  it.
• 4:40
  I
• 4:40
  feel
• 4:40
  like
• 4:41
  I'm
• 4:41
  sensing
• 4:41
  a
• 4:42
  bit
• 4:42
  of
• 4:42
  a
• 4:42
  pattern
• 4:43
  with
• 4:43
  our
• 4:43
  European
• 4:44
  parenting
• 4:44
  books.
• 4:45
  The
• 4:45
  things
• 4:45
  they
• 4:45
  seem
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  value
• 4:47
  in
• 4:47
  Europe
• 4:49
  revolve
• 4:49
  more
• 4:50
  around,
• 4:50
  like,
• 4:51
  being
• 4:51
  part
• 4:51
  of
• 4:51
  a
• 4:52
  society
• 4:52
  and,
• 4:53
  like,
• 4:53
  being
• 4:54
  civilized.
• 4:55
  They're
• 4:55
  not
• 4:55
  quite
• 4:56
  as
• 4:56
  obsessed
• 4:56
  with
• 4:57
  skill
• 4:57
  building.
• 4:58
  They're
• 4:58
  more
• 4:59
  like,
• 4:59
  you
• 4:59
  know
• 4:59
  what?
• 5:00
  He's
• 5:01
  not
• 5:01
  gonna
• 5:01
  be
• 5:01
  in
• 5:01
  diapers
• 5:02
  at
• 5:02
  his
• 5:02
  wedding,
• 5:03
  so,
• 5:03
  like,
• 5:04
  eventually
• 5:05
  he'll
• 5:05
  be
• 5:05
  potty
• 5:06
  trained,
• 5:06
  but
• 5:06
  he'll
• 5:07
  get
• 5:07
  there
• 5:07
  when.
• 5:07
  When
• 5:08
  it's
• 5:08
  his
• 5:08
  time.
• 5:09
  That's
• 5:09
  right.
• 5:09
  They're
• 5:09
  a
• 5:10
  little
• 5:10
  more
• 5:10
  relaxed
• 5:11
  about
• 5:11
  things.
• 5:11
  Yeah.
• 5:12
  Yeah,
• 5:12
  I
• 5:12
  would
• 5:12
  say
• 5:12
  that's
• 5:13
  true.
• 5:13
  Yeah.
• 5:13
  Which
• 5:14
  I
• 5:14
  respect.
• 5:15
  I'm
• 5:15
  pretty
• 5:15
  relaxed.
• 5:17
  Well,
• 5:17
  are
• 5:17
  you?
• 5:18
  I
• 5:18
  was
• 5:18
  gonna
• 5:19
  say,
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  don't
• 5:19
  know.
• 5:20
  No,
• 5:20
  I'm
• 5:20
  very
• 5:20
  stressed.
• 5:21
  Okay.
• 5:21
  Well,
• 5:22
  I
• 5:22
  don't
• 5:22
  know
• 5:22
  if
• 5:22
  you're
• 5:22
  stressed,
• 5:23
  but.
• 5:23
  But
• 5:23
  you
• 5:23
  are
• 5:24
  really
• 5:24
  on
• 5:25
  top.
• 5:25
  I
• 5:25
  mean,
• 5:25
  I
• 5:26
  saw
• 5:26
  your
• 5:26
  baby
• 5:27
  doing
• 5:28
  exercises
• 5:29
  on
• 5:29
  a
• 5:29
  mat
• 5:29
  with
• 5:30
  you.
• 5:30
  Well,
• 5:30
  I
• 5:31
  don't
• 5:31
  know
• 5:31
  what
• 5:31
  you
• 5:31
  were
• 5:31
  doing.
• 5:31
  She's
• 5:32
  doing
• 5:32
  Pilates.
• 5:32
  Well,
• 5:33
  not
• 5:33
  Pilates,
• 5:33
  but.
• 5:34
  What?
• 5:34
  She
• 5:35
  was
• 5:35
  like,
• 5:35
  hold
• 5:35
  your
• 5:35
  head
• 5:35
  up,
• 5:36
  you
• 5:36
  know?
• 5:36
  Yeah,
• 5:37
  well,
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  mean,
• 5:37
  listen,
• 5:38
  according
• 5:38
  to
• 5:39
  our
• 5:39
  pediatrician,
• 5:39
  she
• 5:40
  needs,
• 5:40
  like,
• 5:40
  an
• 5:40
  hour
• 5:41
  and
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  half
• 5:41
  of
• 5:41
  tummy
• 5:42
  time
• 5:42
  every
• 5:42
  day.
• 5:42
  Really?
• 5:43
  Which,
• 5:43
  like,
• 5:43
  it
• 5:44
  doesn't
• 5:44
  sound
• 5:44
  like
• 5:44
  that
• 5:44
  much
• 5:45
  tummy
• 5:45
  time,
• 5:45
  except
• 5:46
  when
• 5:46
  they
• 5:46
  hate
• 5:46
  it.
• 5:47
  And
• 5:47
  it's
• 5:47
  like,
• 5:48
  I
• 5:48
  can
• 5:48
  maybe
• 5:48
  do,
• 5:48
  like,
• 5:49
  three
• 5:49
  minute
• 5:49
  increments
• 5:50
  before
• 5:50
  she
• 5:50
  is
• 5:51
  in
• 5:51
  shambles
• 5:51
  screaming
• 5:52
  when
• 5:52
  she
• 5:53
  doesn't
• 5:53
  want.
• 5:53
  Well,
• 5:53
  then
• 5:53
  I
• 5:54
  don't
• 5:54
  think
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  should
• 5:54
  do
• 5:54
  tummy
• 5:55
  time.
• 5:55
  You
• 5:55
  have
• 5:55
  to.
• 5:56
  Why?
• 5:56
  You're
• 5:57
  there
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  correspond.
• 5:58
  I
• 5:59
  have
• 5:59
  a
• 5:59
  weak
• 5:59
  core.
• 6:00
  Oh,
• 6:00
  really?
• 6:00
  I
• 6:00
  am
• 6:01
  weak.
• 6:01
  Oh,
• 6:01
  no.
• 6:02
  It's
• 6:02
  because
• 6:02
  I
• 6:02
  did
• 6:02
  not
• 6:02
  get
• 6:03
  enough
• 6:03
  tummy.
• 6:03
  Because
• 6:03
  I
• 6:03
  didn't
• 6:04
  give
• 6:04
  you
• 6:04
  tummy
• 6:04
  time.
• 6:05
  Yeah.
• 6:05
  So
• 6:05
  now
• 6:06
  I
• 6:06
  can
• 6:06
  barely
• 6:06
  hold
• 6:06
  my
• 6:07
  head
• 6:07
  up.
• 6:07
  Teen.
• 6:07
  Oh,
• 6:08
  no.
• 6:08
  Oh,
• 6:09
  God.
• 6:09
  Okay.
• 6:10
  I'm
• 6:10
  sorry.
• 6:10
  It's
• 6:11
  okay.
• 6:11
  I
• 6:11
  forgive
• 6:11
  you.
• 6:11
  Nobody
• 6:12
  ever
• 6:12
  told
• 6:12
  me
• 6:12
  about
• 6:13
  tummy
• 6:13
  time.
• 6:14
  Oh,
• 6:14
  I
• 6:14
  don't
• 6:14
  know
• 6:14
  what
• 6:14
  to
• 6:15
  tell
• 6:15
  you.
• 6:15
  It's
• 6:15
  huge
• 6:16
  now,
• 6:16
  but
• 6:16
  in
• 6:17
  Denmark,
• 6:17
  it's
• 6:17
  not
• 6:18
  huge.
• 6:18
  I
• 6:18
  bet.
• 6:18
  Well,
• 6:19
  we
• 6:19
  don't
• 6:19
  know
• 6:19
  that.
• 6:20
  We
• 6:20
  just
• 6:20
  know
• 6:20
  it's
• 6:20
  not
• 6:21
  mentioned
• 6:21
  in
• 6:21
  this
• 6:21
  book.
• 6:22
  Okay.
• 6:22
  All
• 6:22
  right,
• 6:23
  all
• 6:23
  right,
• 6:23
  all
• 6:23
  right.
• 6:24
  Okay.
• 6:25
  So,
• 6:25
  all
• 6:25
  right.
• 6:25
  Should
• 6:26
  we
• 6:26
  give
• 6:26
  us
• 6:26
  a
• 6:26
  delve
• 6:27
  into.
• 6:27
  Overview.
• 6:28
  Overview.
• 6:29
  Okay.
• 6:29
  So
• 6:30
  this
• 6:30
  book
• 6:31
  was
• 6:31
  written
• 6:32
  by
• 6:32
  two
• 6:32
  people.
• 6:34
  One
• 6:34
  is
• 6:35
  a
• 6:35
  therapist.
• 6:36
  The
• 6:36
  other
• 6:36
  is
• 6:36
  a
• 6:37
  mom,
• 6:38
  like
• 6:38
  all
• 6:38
  of
• 6:38
  our
• 6:39
  European
• 6:39
  books.
• 6:39
  A
• 6:40
  mom
• 6:40
  who
• 6:40
  came
• 6:40
  over
• 6:41
  who
• 6:41
  was
• 6:41
  not
• 6:42
  Danish,
• 6:43
  married
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  Dane,
• 6:44
  lives
• 6:45
  there,
• 6:45
  and
• 6:46
  is
• 6:46
  noticing
• 6:47
  how
• 6:48
  they
• 6:49
  raise
• 6:49
  their
• 6:49
  children
• 6:49
  differently.
• 6:50
  So
• 6:50
  she
• 6:51
  wrote
• 6:51
  a
• 6:51
  book
• 6:51
  about
• 6:51
  it.
• 6:51
  She
• 6:52
  and
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  therapist.
• 6:53
  Yes.
• 6:53
  And
• 6:54
  ibn.
• 6:55
  Yes.
• 6:56
  Jessica
• 6:56
  Alexander
• 6:57
  and
• 6:57
  Ibn
• 6:58
  Sandal.
• 6:59
  Ivan.
• 7:00
  I
• 7:00
  don't
• 7:01
  know.
• 7:01
  Ibn
• 7:01
  or
• 7:02
  Iban.
• 7:02
  I'm
• 7:02
  not
• 7:03
  sure
• 7:03
  how
• 7:03
  they
• 7:04
  pronounce
• 7:04
  it
• 7:04
  because
• 7:04
  they
• 7:05
  pronounce
• 7:05
  things
• 7:05
  very
• 7:06
  differently
• 7:06
  here.
• 7:07
  And,
• 7:07
  like,
• 7:08
  W's
• 7:08
  or
• 7:08
  V
• 7:09
  sounds.
• 7:10
  Yeah.
• 7:10
  Things
• 7:10
  are.
• 7:10
  I
• 7:11
  learned
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  from
• 7:11
  Luann
• 7:12
  when
• 7:12
  she
• 7:13
  met
• 7:13
  Carol
• 7:13
  Radzivill.
• 7:14
  Oh.
• 7:15
  And
• 7:15
  everyone's
• 7:15
  like,
• 7:15
  who's
• 7:15
  Carol
• 7:16
  Radzivill?
• 7:16
  And
• 7:17
  she's
• 7:17
  like,
• 7:17
  well,
• 7:17
  in
• 7:17
  Europe,
• 7:18
  this
• 7:18
  is
• 7:18
  how
• 7:18
  we
• 7:19
  pronounce.
• 7:19
  This
• 7:19
  is
• 7:19
  how
• 7:19
  we
• 7:20
  pronounce
• 7:21
  it.
• 7:21
  It's
• 7:21
  like,
• 7:21
  Luann,
• 7:22
  you're
• 7:22
  from
• 7:22
  Connecticut.
• 7:23
  Oh,
• 7:23
  wow.
• 7:24
  Well,
• 7:24
  she
• 7:24
  married
• 7:24
  a
• 7:24
  count.
• 7:24
  So
• 7:25
  she
• 7:25
  did.
• 7:25
  So
• 7:25
  she
• 7:25
  knew.
• 7:26
  By.
• 7:26
  So
• 7:26
  by
• 7:26
  proxy.
• 7:27
  She
• 7:27
  is
• 7:27
  European.
• 7:28
  Well,
• 7:28
  the
• 7:28
  thing
• 7:29
  about
• 7:29
  the
• 7:29
  Danish
• 7:30
  is
• 7:31
  that
• 7:31
  the
• 7:31
  Danes
• 7:32
  have
• 7:32
  been
• 7:32
  voted
• 7:32
  the
• 7:32
  happiest
• 7:33
  people
• 7:33
  on
• 7:34
  earth
• 7:34
  every
• 7:35
  year
• 7:35
  since
• 7:35
  1973
• 7:37
  by
• 7:37
  the
• 7:38
  OECD,
• 7:39
  the
• 7:40
  Organization
• 7:41
  for
• 7:41
  Economic
• 7:42
  Cooperation
• 7:42
  and
• 7:43
  Development.
• 7:43
  Love
• 7:44
  know.
• 7:45
  So
• 7:45
  they've
• 7:45
  been.
• 7:45
  They're
• 7:45
  happy
• 7:46
  people.
• 7:46
  And
• 7:46
  the
• 7:47
  research
• 7:47
  shows
• 7:48
  that,
• 7:48
  at
• 7:49
  least
• 7:49
  according
• 7:49
  to
• 7:49
  the
• 7:49
  authors,
• 7:50
  that
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  Danish
• 7:51
  way
• 7:51
  of
• 7:51
  raising
• 7:52
  kids
• 7:52
  yields
• 7:53
  happy
• 7:53
  children
• 7:53
  who
• 7:54
  become
• 7:54
  happy
• 7:55
  adults.
• 7:56
  And
• 7:57
  so
• 7:57
  the
• 7:57
  authors
• 7:58
  really
• 7:58
  studied
• 7:59
  well,
• 7:59
  how
• 7:59
  do
• 8:00
  we
• 8:00
  do
• 8:00
  it?
• 8:01
  How
• 8:01
  do
• 8:01
  we
• 8:01
  do
• 8:02
  it?
• 8:02
  And
• 8:02
  they
• 8:02
  came
• 8:02
  up
• 8:03
  with
• 8:03
  an
• 8:03
  acronym.
• 8:04
  Okay.
• 8:04
  Which
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  will
• 8:05
  say.
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  hate
• 8:06
  acronyms.
• 8:07
  That.
• 8:07
  Because
• 8:07
  when
• 8:08
  you
• 8:08
  come
• 8:08
  up
• 8:08
  with
• 8:08
  a
• 8:09
  good
• 8:09
  acronym,
• 8:09
  then
• 8:10
  you're
• 8:10
  like,
• 8:11
  squeezing
• 8:11
  concepts
• 8:12
  into
• 8:12
  letters
• 8:13
  that
• 8:13
  just
• 8:13
  don't.
• 8:13
  I
• 8:14
  know.
• 8:14
  It's
• 8:14
  really.
• 8:14
  It's
• 8:15
  very
• 8:15
  rare
• 8:15
  that
• 8:15
  an
• 8:16
  acronym
• 8:16
  makes,
• 8:16
  like,
• 8:17
  perfect
• 8:17
  sense.
• 8:18
  Very
• 8:18
  rare.
• 8:18
  Yeah,
• 8:19
  but
• 8:19
  her
• 8:19
  acronym,
• 8:20
  their
• 8:20
  acronym
• 8:21
  is
• 8:21
  parent.
• 8:22
  So
• 8:22
  let's
• 8:22
  hear
• 8:22
  it.
• 8:22
  What
• 8:23
  are.
• 8:23
  What
• 8:23
  are
• 8:23
  the
• 8:23
  letters?
• 8:24
  Play.
• 8:25
  Oh,
• 8:26
  pay
• 8:26
  for
• 8:26
  P
• 8:26
  for
• 8:27
  parent.
• 8:28
  No,
• 8:28
  you
• 8:28
  can
• 8:29
  just
• 8:29
  say
• 8:29
  what
• 8:29
  they
• 8:29
  stand
• 8:29
  for.
• 8:30
  All
• 8:30
  right.
• 8:30
  I
• 8:31
  don't
• 8:31
  have
• 8:31
  to.
• 8:31
  Okay,
• 8:32
  play.
• 8:32
  Authenticity.
• 8:34
  Reframing.
• 8:35
  Empathy.
• 8:36
  No
• 8:37
  ultimatums.
• 8:38
  That's
• 8:38
  a
• 8:38
  stretch.
• 8:38
  Continue.
• 8:40
  Togetherness
• 8:41
  and
• 8:43
  Hygge.
• 8:44
  That's
• 8:44
  how
• 8:44
  you
• 8:44
  pronounce
• 8:45
  it?
• 8:45
  Yes,
• 8:45
  it's
• 8:45
  pronounced
• 8:46
  Hygge.
• 8:46
  How'd
• 8:47
  you
• 8:47
  find
• 8:47
  out?
• 8:47
  I
• 8:47
  looked
• 8:48
  it
• 8:48
  up.
• 8:48
  I
• 8:48
  looked
• 8:48
  it
• 8:48
  up.
• 8:50
  Which
• 8:50
  means
• 8:51
  coziness.
• 8:51
  And
• 8:52
  that
• 8:52
  means
• 8:52
  coziness.
• 8:53
  I
• 8:53
  love
• 8:53
  that
• 8:53
  it's
• 8:54
  spelled
• 8:54
  H,
• 8:55
  Y,
• 8:55
  G,
• 8:55
  G,
• 8:55
  E.
• 8:56
  So
• 8:56
  we
• 8:56
  were
• 8:56
  calling
• 8:57
  it
• 8:57
  Hygie,
• 8:58
  but
• 8:58
  it's
• 8:58
  Hygge.
• 8:59
  Turns
• 8:59
  out
• 9:00
  it's
• 9:00
  Hygge.
• 9:01
  Okay,
• 9:02
  so
• 9:02
  shall
• 9:03
  we
• 9:03
  start
• 9:03
  with
• 9:03
  play?
• 9:03
  Yes.
• 9:04
  Teach
• 9:04
  us
• 9:04
  about
• 9:04
  play,
• 9:05
  team.
• 9:05
  Well,
• 9:05
  play.
• 9:06
  Okay,
• 9:07
  listen.
• 9:07
  Who
• 9:07
  can
• 9:07
  argue
• 9:09
  play?
• 9:10
  The
• 9:10
  Danes
• 9:10
  never
• 9:11
  over
• 9:12
  program
• 9:12
  their
• 9:13
  children's
• 9:13
  lives.
• 9:15
  Their
• 9:15
  focus
• 9:15
  is
• 9:16
  never
• 9:16
  on
• 9:17
  external
• 9:17
  signs
• 9:18
  of
• 9:18
  progress
• 9:19
  like
• 9:20
  grades,
• 9:20
  awards
• 9:21
  or
• 9:21
  sports
• 9:22
  competitions.
• 9:23
  They
• 9:23
  emphasize
• 9:24
  socialization,
• 9:25
  autonomy
• 9:26
  and
• 9:26
  self
• 9:26
  esteem.
• 9:27
  They
• 9:28
  believe
• 9:28
  kids
• 9:28
  should
• 9:29
  play.
• 9:29
  It's
• 9:29
  the
• 9:29
  most
• 9:30
  important
• 9:30
  thing
• 9:30
  kids
• 9:31
  can
• 9:31
  do.
• 9:32
  And
• 9:33
  when
• 9:33
  they
• 9:33
  talk
• 9:33
  about
• 9:34
  play,
• 9:35
  it
• 9:35
  should
• 9:35
  be
• 9:35
  free
• 9:36
  of
• 9:36
  adult
• 9:36
  intervention.
• 9:38
  Just
• 9:39
  give
• 9:39
  kids
• 9:39
  space
• 9:40
  to
• 9:40
  learn
• 9:41
  and
• 9:41
  grow
• 9:41
  on
• 9:41
  their
• 9:42
  own.
• 9:42
  And
• 9:42
  unless,
• 9:43
  like,
• 9:43
  there's
• 9:43
  a
• 9:43
  huge
• 9:44
  fight
• 9:44
  breaking
• 9:44
  out
• 9:44
  and
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  must
• 9:45
  intervene,
• 9:46
  do
• 9:46
  not
• 9:46
  intervene.
• 9:47
  Yeah.
• 9:47
  One
• 9:47
  fun
• 9:48
  fact
• 9:48
  is
• 9:48
  that
• 9:49
  Legos
• 9:50
  are
• 9:50
  Danish.
• 9:51
  They
• 9:51
  were
• 9:52
  created
• 9:52
  by
• 9:52
  a
• 9:53
  Dane,
• 9:54
  and
• 9:54
  they
• 9:55
  were
• 9:55
  created
• 9:55
  for
• 9:55
  the
• 9:56
  purpose
• 9:56
  of.
• 9:57
  It's
• 9:58
  like
• 9:58
  a
• 9:58
  structural
• 9:59
  thing
• 9:59
  that
• 9:59
  you
• 9:59
  can
• 9:59
  make
• 10:00
  into
• 10:00
  anything.
• 10:01
  And
• 10:02
  they
• 10:02
  encourage
• 10:03
  free
• 10:03
  play.
• 10:03
  Exactly.
• 10:04
  Yeah.
• 10:04
  Because
• 10:05
  weren't
• 10:05
  Lincoln
• 10:05
  Logs
• 10:06
  also
• 10:07
  Danish?
• 10:07
  I
• 10:08
  don't
• 10:08
  know
• 10:08
  if
• 10:08
  Lincoln
• 10:09
  Logs
• 10:09
  were
• 10:10
  Danish.
• 10:10
  They
• 10:10
  seem
• 10:10
  so
• 10:11
  western.
• 10:11
  But
• 10:12
  why?
• 10:12
  Because
• 10:13
  of,
• 10:13
  like,
• 10:13
  make
• 10:14
  western
• 10:14
  log
• 10:14
  cabins
• 10:15
  and
• 10:15
  things
• 10:15
  with
• 10:16
  them.
• 10:16
  I
• 10:16
  bet
• 10:16
  you
• 10:16
  can
• 10:17
  make
• 10:17
  log
• 10:17
  cabins
• 10:17
  in
• 10:18
  Denmark.
• 10:18
  I'm
• 10:19
  sure
• 10:19
  that's
• 10:19
  true.
• 10:20
  They
• 10:20
  have
• 10:20
  cabins.
• 10:21
  No,
• 10:21
  the
• 10:21
  fjords
• 10:21
  are
• 10:22
  Iceland.
• 10:24
  Sweden.
• 10:26
  We
• 10:26
  are
• 10:26
  very
• 10:27
  mad
• 10:27
  at.
• 10:27
  Well,
• 10:28
  see,
• 10:28
  we
• 10:28
  didn't
• 10:28
  do
• 10:29
  very
• 10:29
  well
• 10:29
  in
• 10:29
  geography.
• 10:30
  I've
• 10:30
  never
• 10:30
  seen
• 10:30
  the
• 10:30
  map
• 10:31
  anyway.
• 10:31
  Okay,
• 10:33
  it
• 10:33
  is
• 10:33
  so
• 10:33
  embarrassing,
• 10:34
  but
• 10:34
  anyway.
• 10:35
  Yeah.
• 10:36
  Not
• 10:36
  only
• 10:36
  did
• 10:36
  the.
• 10:37
  Did
• 10:37
  the
• 10:38
  Danes
• 10:38
  invent
• 10:39
  Legos,
• 10:40
  the
• 10:40
  biggest
• 10:41
  playground
• 10:42
  company
• 10:42
  in
• 10:42
  the
• 10:42
  world
• 10:43
  is
• 10:43
  in
• 10:44
  Denmark.
• 10:45
  Because
• 10:46
  play
• 10:46
  is
• 10:46
  so
• 10:46
  important.
• 10:47
  And
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  just
• 10:47
  want
• 10:48
  to
• 10:48
  mention
• 10:48
  that
• 10:48
  in
• 10:48
  my
• 10:49
  own
• 10:49
  book
• 10:49
  that
• 10:49
  I
• 10:49
  wrote,
• 10:50
  Testing
• 10:50
  for
• 10:50
  Kindergarten.
• 10:51
  Plug,
• 10:51
  Plug,
• 10:51
  Plug,
• 10:52
  Plug,
• 10:52
  Plug
• 10:52
  Plug.
• 10:53
  No,
• 10:53
  but
• 10:53
  my
• 10:53
  own
• 10:54
  book,
• 10:54
  I
• 10:54
  spent
• 10:54
  a
• 10:54
  lot
• 10:55
  of
• 10:55
  time
• 10:55
  talking
• 10:55
  about
• 10:55
  play
• 10:56
  also
• 10:56
  because
• 10:57
  I
• 10:57
  believe,
• 10:57
  I
• 10:57
  agree,
• 10:58
  play
• 10:58
  is
• 10:58
  super
• 10:59
  important.
• 11:00
  You
• 11:00
  learn
• 11:01
  so
• 11:01
  many
• 11:01
  things
• 11:01
  from
• 11:01
  play.
• 11:02
  God,
• 11:02
  you're
• 11:03
  so
• 11:03
  Danish.
• 11:03
  Well,
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  guess
• 11:04
  so.
• 11:05
  Maybe
• 11:06
  a
• 11:06
  little
• 11:06
  bit.
• 11:07
  But
• 11:07
  anyway,
• 11:08
  no,
• 11:08
  it's
• 11:09
  like,
• 11:10
  it's
• 11:10
  great.
• 11:10
  The
• 11:10
  more
• 11:11
  you
• 11:11
  can
• 11:11
  let
• 11:11
  your
• 11:11
  child
• 11:12
  play,
• 11:12
  they're
• 11:13
  going
• 11:13
  to
• 11:13
  learn.
• 11:14
  They
• 11:14
  learn
• 11:15
  things
• 11:15
  like,
• 11:16
  let's
• 11:16
  see,
• 11:17
  Imagination,
• 11:18
  imagination,
• 11:19
  getting
• 11:19
  along
• 11:19
  with
• 11:19
  others.
• 11:22
  Just
• 11:22
  it
• 11:23
  helps
• 11:24
  them,
• 11:24
  you
• 11:25
  know,
• 11:25
  socially.
• 11:26
  There's
• 11:26
  just
• 11:26
  so
• 11:26
  much
• 11:27
  that
• 11:27
  they
• 11:27
  learn
• 11:28
  from
• 11:28
  play.
• 11:29
  They
• 11:29
  learn
• 11:29
  to
• 11:30
  be
• 11:30
  more
• 11:30
  resilient,
• 11:32
  they're
• 11:32
  less
• 11:32
  anxious.
• 11:34
  So
• 11:34
  in
• 11:34
  fact,
• 11:35
  in
• 11:35
  Denmark
• 11:37
  for
• 11:37
  a
• 11:37
  long
• 11:38
  time,
• 11:38
  kids
• 11:38
  didn't
• 11:38
  even
• 11:39
  start
• 11:39
  school
• 11:39
  until
• 11:39
  they
• 11:40
  were
• 11:40
  seven.
• 11:41
  And
• 11:41
  the
• 11:41
  reason
• 11:41
  was
• 11:42
  they
• 11:42
  just
• 11:42
  wanted
• 11:42
  them
• 11:42
  to
• 11:43
  play.
• 11:43
  It's
• 11:44
  like
• 11:44
  a
• 11:44
  gap
• 11:44
  year
• 11:45
  for
• 11:45
  babies.
• 11:46
  Play,
• 11:46
  play,
• 11:46
  play,
• 11:46
  play,
• 11:47
  play
• 11:47
  until
• 11:47
  you
• 11:47
  are
• 11:48
  seven.
• 11:48
  And
• 11:48
  then
• 11:49
  now
• 11:49
  I
• 11:49
  think
• 11:49
  it's
• 11:50
  a
• 11:50
  little
• 11:50
  bit
• 11:50
  earlier,
• 11:51
  but
• 11:51
  they
• 11:52
  just
• 11:52
  wanted
• 11:52
  kids
• 11:53
  to
• 11:53
  have
• 11:53
  the
• 11:54
  desire
• 11:54
  to
• 11:54
  learn
• 11:54
  from
• 11:55
  within
• 11:55
  and
• 11:55
  just
• 11:56
  be,
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  know,
• 11:57
  just,
• 11:58
  just
• 11:58
  grow
• 11:59
  naturally.
• 12:01
  And
• 12:01
  in
• 12:02
  fact,
• 12:02
  when
• 12:03
  Danish
• 12:03
  kids
• 12:04
  finish
• 12:05
  school,
• 12:05
  when
• 12:05
  they.
• 12:06
  Up
• 12:06
  until
• 12:06
  the
• 12:06
  age
• 12:06
  of
• 12:07
  10,
• 12:07
  they
• 12:08
  finish
• 12:08
  school
• 12:08
  at
• 12:08
  2
• 12:09
  and
• 12:09
  then
• 12:09
  they
• 12:09
  go
• 12:09
  to
• 12:10
  free
• 12:10
  time
• 12:10
  school,
• 12:10
  which
• 12:11
  is
• 12:11
  just
• 12:11
  more
• 12:11
  play.
• 12:12
  I
• 12:12
  love
• 12:12
  that.
• 12:13
  I
• 12:13
  know.
• 12:13
  Free
• 12:13
  time
• 12:14
  school.
• 12:14
  Free
• 12:14
  time.
• 12:15
  When
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  said
• 12:15
  they
• 12:15
  finish
• 12:16
  school
• 12:16
  at
• 12:16
  10,
• 12:16
  like
• 12:17
  10
• 12:17
  years
• 12:17
  old
• 12:17
  and
• 12:18
  then
• 12:18
  they
• 12:18
  go
• 12:18
  to
• 12:18
  college.
• 12:19
  Oh,
• 12:19
  no,
• 12:19
  no,
• 12:19
  no.
• 12:20
  When
• 12:20
  school's
• 12:21
  over
• 12:21
  two
• 12:21
  years
• 12:22
  of
• 12:22
  school
• 12:22
  and
• 12:22
  then
• 12:22
  they're
• 12:23
  ready
• 12:23
  for
• 12:23
  adult
• 12:24
  life.
• 12:24
  No,
• 12:24
  no,
• 12:24
  when
• 12:24
  school's
• 12:25
  over
• 12:25
  for
• 12:25
  the
• 12:25
  day,
• 12:26
  that's
• 12:26
  what
• 12:26
  they
• 12:26
  do.
• 12:27
  And
• 12:27
  by
• 12:27
  the
• 12:28
  way,
• 12:29
  free
• 12:29
  time
• 12:29
  school
• 12:30
  is
• 12:30
  free,
• 12:32
  as
• 12:32
  is
• 12:33
  everything.
• 12:33
  It
• 12:34
  seems
• 12:34
  like
• 12:34
  in
• 12:35
  another
• 12:35
  thing,
• 12:35
  another
• 12:36
  place,
• 12:36
  Europe,
• 12:37
  Western
• 12:38
  Europe
• 12:38
  has
• 12:38
  on
• 12:39
  us.
• 12:39
  Yes,
• 12:39
  things
• 12:40
  are
• 12:40
  free.
• 12:40
  Things
• 12:41
  are
• 12:41
  free,
• 12:41
  which
• 12:41
  we
• 12:41
  love.
• 12:42
  Granted,
• 12:42
  they're
• 12:42
  taxed
• 12:43
  at
• 12:43
  like
• 12:43
  80%.
• 12:45
  That's
• 12:45
  the,
• 12:46
  that's
• 12:46
  the
• 12:46
  trade
• 12:46
  off.
• 12:46
  But
• 12:47
  they,
• 12:47
  but
• 12:47
  they
• 12:47
  feel
• 12:48
  like
• 12:48
  they
• 12:48
  get
• 12:48
  a
• 12:48
  lot
• 12:49
  for
• 12:49
  their
• 12:49
  money.
• 12:49
  I
• 12:49
  mean,
• 12:49
  they
• 12:50
  get,
• 12:50
  they
• 12:50
  get
• 12:51
  schooling.
• 12:51
  They
• 12:52
  get.
• 12:52
  Yeah,
• 12:52
  free
• 12:53
  time
• 12:53
  school,
• 12:53
  after
• 12:54
  school
• 12:54
  support.
• 12:55
  Worth
• 12:56
  it.
• 12:56
  Yeah,
• 12:57
  it
• 12:57
  would
• 12:57
  be
• 12:57
  nice
• 12:58
  if
• 12:58
  we
• 12:58
  got
• 12:58
  that
• 12:58
  too.
• 12:59
  Yeah.
• 13:00
  Anyway,
• 13:01
  schools
• 13:01
  integrate
• 13:02
  play
• 13:02
  into
• 13:02
  the
• 13:02
  curriculum.
• 13:03
  They
• 13:04
  have
• 13:04
  something
• 13:04
  called
• 13:04
  Play
• 13:05
  Patrol
• 13:05
  where
• 13:06
  older
• 13:06
  kids
• 13:07
  play
• 13:07
  with
• 13:07
  younger
• 13:08
  kids.
• 13:10
  They
• 13:10
  take
• 13:11
  kids
• 13:11
  out
• 13:11
  into
• 13:11
  the
• 13:11
  forest
• 13:12
  and
• 13:12
  they
• 13:12
  just
• 13:13
  let
• 13:13
  them
• 13:13
  go
• 13:13
  and
• 13:14
  play
• 13:14
  and
• 13:15
  climb
• 13:15
  trees
• 13:16
  and
• 13:17
  climb
• 13:18
  on
• 13:18
  logs,
• 13:19
  whatever.
• 13:19
  Cool.
• 13:21
  And
• 13:21
  so
• 13:22
  the
• 13:22
  book
• 13:22
  gives
• 13:23
  us
• 13:23
  Westerners
• 13:24
  tips
• 13:25
  about
• 13:25
  how
• 13:25
  to
• 13:25
  encourage
• 13:26
  play.
• 13:27
  They
• 13:27
  say
• 13:27
  turn
• 13:27
  off
• 13:28
  electronics.
• 13:29
  And
• 13:29
  with,
• 13:29
  with
• 13:30
  this,
• 13:30
  you
• 13:30
  don't
• 13:30
  want
• 13:30
  to
• 13:30
  buy
• 13:31
  toys
• 13:31
  for
• 13:32
  your
• 13:32
  children
• 13:33
  that
• 13:33
  can
• 13:34
  only
• 13:34
  be
• 13:34
  used
• 13:35
  one
• 13:35
  way.
• 13:36
  You
• 13:36
  know,
• 13:36
  there's
• 13:36
  certain
• 13:36
  things
• 13:37
  like
• 13:37
  put
• 13:37
  it
• 13:37
  together,
• 13:37
  this
• 13:38
  only
• 13:38
  one
• 13:38
  way
• 13:39
  you
• 13:39
  want
• 13:39
  things
• 13:40
  that
• 13:40
  are
• 13:40
  free
• 13:40
  form.
• 13:41
  Like
• 13:41
  Montessori
• 13:42
  toys.
• 13:42
  Yeah,
• 13:43
  Montessori,
• 13:44
  Legos.
• 13:45
  Lego
• 13:45
  you
• 13:46
  could
• 13:46
  build
• 13:46
  anything
• 13:46
  with.
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  love
• 13:47
  Legos.
• 13:48
  During
• 13:48
  the
• 13:48
  pandemic
• 13:49
  I
• 13:49
  got
• 13:49
  really
• 13:49
  into
• 13:49
  Legos.
• 13:50
  Oh,
• 13:51
  interesting.
• 13:52
  I
• 13:52
  love
• 13:52
  Legos
• 13:53
  too.
• 13:53
  Do
• 13:53
  you
• 13:53
  remember
• 13:53
  how
• 13:53
  many
• 13:54
  Legos
• 13:54
  we
• 13:54
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• 13:54
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• 13:54
  have?
• 13:55
  We
• 13:55
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• 13:56
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• 13:56
  Bins.
• 13:58
  I
• 13:58
  mean,
• 13:58
  I'm
• 13:58
  talking
• 13:59
  like
• 13:59
  3
• 13:59
  cubic
• 14:00
  feet
• 14:00
  of
• 14:01
  Legos.
• 14:02
  Very
• 14:02
  valuable.
• 14:03
  I
• 14:03
  just
• 14:03
  gave
• 14:03
  them
• 14:03
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• 14:04
  at
• 14:04
  some
• 14:04
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• 14:04
  Because
• 14:05
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• 14:05
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• 14:06
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• 14:06
  Well,
• 14:06
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• 14:07
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• 14:07
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• 14:07
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• 14:07
  costs
• 14:07
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• 14:07
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• 14:08
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• 14:08
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• 14:08
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• 14:08
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• 14:09
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• 14:09
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• 14:09
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• 14:09
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• 14:09
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• 14:09
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• 14:10
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• 14:10
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• 14:10
  And
• 14:11
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• 14:11
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• 14:11
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• 14:11
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• 14:11
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• 14:12
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• 14:12
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• 14:13
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• 14:13
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• 14:14
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• 14:14
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• 14:14
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• 14:14
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• 14:14
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• 14:14
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• 14:15
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• 14:15
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• 14:16
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• 14:16
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• 14:16
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• 14:17
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• 14:17
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• 14:17
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• 14:18
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• 14:19
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• 14:19
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• 14:19
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• 14:20
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• 14:20
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• 14:20
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• 14:21
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:23
  Mind
• 14:23
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• 14:23
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• 14:24
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• 14:24
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• 14:24
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• 14:24
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• 14:25
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• 14:25
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• 14:25
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• 14:25
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• 14:26
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• 14:26
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• 14:26
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• 14:26
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• 14:27
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• 14:27
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• 14:27
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• 14:28
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• 14:28
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• 14:28
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
  learn.
• 14:30
  And
• 14:31
  you
• 14:32
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• 14:32
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• 14:32
  they
• 14:32
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• 14:33
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• 14:33
  just
• 14:33
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• 14:33
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• 14:34
  kids
• 14:34
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• 14:35
  And
• 14:36
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• 14:36
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• 14:37
  there,
• 14:38
  the
• 14:38
  well
• 14:38
  being
• 14:38
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• 14:39
  students
• 14:39
  is
• 14:40
  more
• 14:40
  measured
• 14:41
  by
• 14:41
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• 14:41
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• 14:42
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• 14:43
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• 14:43
  how
• 14:45
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• 14:46
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• 14:46
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• 14:47
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• 14:47
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• 14:48
  know,
• 14:48
  how
• 14:48
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• 14:48
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• 14:48
  handle
• 14:49
  that.
• 14:50
  More
• 14:50
  than
• 14:50
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• 14:51
  scores
• 14:51
  like
• 14:52
  on
• 14:52
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• 14:52
  test,
• 14:52
  more
• 14:53
  than
• 14:53
  math,
• 14:53
  more
• 14:54
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• 14:54
  English.
• 14:54
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• 14:54
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• 14:55
  it
• 14:55
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• 14:55
  like
• 14:55
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• 14:55
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• 14:55
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• 14:56
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• 14:56
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• 14:56
  it
• 14:56
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• 14:57
  it's
• 14:57
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• 14:57
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• 14:57
  if,
• 14:57
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• 14:58
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• 14:58
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• 14:58
  sure
• 14:58
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• 14:59
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• 14:59
  you
• 14:59
  need
• 14:59
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• 15:00
  Yes,
• 15:00
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• 15:00
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• 15:00
  But
• 15:01
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• 15:01
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• 15:01
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• 15:02
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• 15:02
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• 15:03
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• 15:03
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• 15:03
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• 15:04
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• 15:04
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• 15:04
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• 15:04
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• 15:05
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• 15:05
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• 15:12
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• 15:13
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• 15:15
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• 15:15
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• 15:16
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• 15:16
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• 15:16
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  It
• 15:17
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• 15:17
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• 15:18
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• 15:18
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• 15:19
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• 15:20
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• 15:21
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• 15:22
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• 15:22
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• 15:22
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• 15:23
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• 15:23
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• 15:24
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• 15:25
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• 15:25
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• 15:25
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• 15:25
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• 15:25
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• 15:26
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• 15:26
  that's
• 15:26
  how
• 15:26
  they
• 15:27
  measure
• 15:27
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• 15:27
  It's
• 15:28
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• 15:28
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• 15:29
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• 15:29
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• 15:31
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• 15:31
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• 15:31
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• 15:31
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• 15:32
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• 15:32
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• 15:32
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• 15:33
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• 15:33
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• 15:33
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• 15:33
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• 15:36
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• 15:36
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• 15:36
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• 15:36
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• 15:37
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• 15:37
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• 15:37
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• 15:37
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• 15:38
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• 15:38
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• 15:39
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• 15:39
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• 16:50
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• 16:50
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• 16:50
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• 16:50
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  Sure.
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• 16:53
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• 16:54
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• 16:54
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• 16:54
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• 16:54
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• 16:55
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• 16:55
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• 16:56
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• 16:56
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• 16:56
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• 16:56
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• 16:57
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• 16:57
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• 16:57
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• 16:58
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• 16:58
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• 16:58
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• 16:59
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• 16:59
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• 17:00
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• 17:00
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• 17:02
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• 17:02
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• 17:03
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• 17:03
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• 17:03
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• 17:04
  life.
• 17:05
  So
• 17:05
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• 17:05
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• 17:05
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• 17:05
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• 17:05
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• 17:06
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• 17:06
  kids
• 17:06
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• 17:06
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• 17:07
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• 17:07
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• 17:07
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• 17:08
  all
• 17:08
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• 17:08
  them,
• 17:09
  the
• 17:09
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• 17:09
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• 17:10
  spectrum.
• 17:11
  And
• 17:11
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• 17:11
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• 17:12
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• 17:13
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• 17:13
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• 17:13
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• 17:14
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• 17:14
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• 17:15
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• 17:15
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• 17:16
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• 17:16
  I
• 17:17
  think
• 17:17
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• 17:17
  healthy.
• 17:18
  I
• 17:18
  think
• 17:19
  here
• 17:19
  we
• 17:20
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• 17:20
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• 17:21
  shelter
• 17:22
  kids
• 17:23
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• 17:23
  a
• 17:23
  lot
• 17:23
  of
• 17:23
  it's
• 17:24
  created
• 17:24
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• 17:24
  very
• 17:25
  fragile
• 17:26
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• 17:28
  in
• 17:28
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• 17:29
  day.
• 17:30
  You
• 17:31
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• 17:31
  I
• 17:31
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• 17:32
  I
• 17:32
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• 17:32
  wonder
• 17:33
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• 17:34
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• 17:34
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• 17:35
  know,
• 17:35
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• 17:36
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• 17:36
  like
• 17:37
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• 17:37
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• 17:37
  an
• 17:37
  extent.
• 17:38
  Right.
• 17:38
  Because
• 17:38
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• 17:38
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• 17:38
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• 17:38
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• 17:39
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• 17:39
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• 17:39
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• 17:39
  You
• 17:40
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• 17:40
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• 17:40
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• 17:40
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• 17:40
  expose
• 17:41
  kids
• 17:41
  to
• 17:41
  things
• 17:41
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• 17:41
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• 17:42
  just
• 17:42
  way
• 17:42
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• 17:42
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• 17:43
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• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  understand.
• 17:44
  Right.
• 17:44
  But
• 17:44
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• 17:45
  think
• 17:45
  introducing
• 17:46
  the
• 17:47
  full
• 17:47
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• 17:47
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• 17:47
  emotions
• 17:48
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• 17:48
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• 17:49
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• 17:49
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• 17:50
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• 17:50
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• 17:50
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• 17:51
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• 17:51
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• 17:51
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• 17:51
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• 17:52
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• 17:52
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• 17:52
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• 17:53
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• 17:54
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• 17:54
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• 17:55
  you
• 17:55
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• 17:55
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• 17:55
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• 17:55
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• 17:56
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• 17:56
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• 17:56
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• 17:57
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• 17:57
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• 17:57
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• 17:58
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• 17:59
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• 17:59
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• 17:59
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• 17:59
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• 17:59
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• 18:00
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• 18:00
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• 18:00
  I
• 18:00
  think
• 18:00
  that
• 18:00
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• 18:01
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• 18:01
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• 18:01
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• 18:01
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• 18:02
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• 18:02
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• 18:02
  it.
• 18:02
  Yeah.
• 18:03
  So
• 18:03
  parents
• 18:04
  also
• 18:05
  model
• 18:05
  emotional
• 18:06
  honesty
• 18:06
  with
• 18:07
  their
• 18:07
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• 18:07
  We
• 18:08
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• 18:08
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• 18:08
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• 18:09
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• 18:09
  lot.
• 18:10
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• 18:11
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• 18:11
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• 18:11
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• 18:11
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• 18:12
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• 18:12
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• 18:12
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• 18:13
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• 18:13
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• 18:13
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• 18:14
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• 18:14
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• 18:14
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• 18:15
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• 18:15
  So
• 18:16
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• 18:16
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• 18:16
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• 18:17
  in
• 18:17
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• 18:17
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• 18:17
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• 18:17
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• 18:18
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• 18:18
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• 18:18
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• 18:18
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• 18:19
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• 18:19
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• 18:20
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• 18:20
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• 18:21
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• 18:22
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• 18:22
  be
• 18:22
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• 18:23
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• 18:23
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• 18:23
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• 18:24
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• 18:24
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• 18:24
  healthily
• 18:25
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• 18:26
  You
• 18:27
  should
• 18:27
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• 18:27
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• 18:28
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• 18:28
  people
• 18:29
  are,
• 18:30
  they
• 18:30
  contain
• 18:31
  multitudes
• 18:31
  that's
• 18:32
  right.
• 18:32
  As
• 18:32
  we
• 18:32
  say,
• 18:33
  yes,
• 18:34
  and
• 18:34
  that's
• 18:34
  okay.
• 18:35
  And
• 18:35
  you
• 18:36
  can
• 18:36
  express
• 18:36
  anger
• 18:37
  and
• 18:37
  that's
• 18:37
  okay.
• 18:38
  You
• 18:38
  can
• 18:38
  express
• 18:38
  sadness
• 18:39
  and
• 18:39
  that's
• 18:39
  okay.
• 18:40
  And
• 18:40
  we
• 18:40
  love
• 18:40
  you
• 18:40
  and
• 18:41
  accept
• 18:41
  you
• 18:41
  and
• 18:41
  that's
• 18:42
  important.
• 18:42
  Right?
• 18:43
  That's
• 18:43
  a
• 18:43
  big
• 18:43
  part
• 18:43
  of
• 18:44
  it.
• 18:45
  And
• 18:46
  they,
• 18:46
  they
• 18:46
  go
• 18:47
  into
• 18:47
  a
• 18:47
  whole
• 18:47
  thing
• 18:47
  in
• 18:48
  this
• 18:48
  section
• 18:48
  about,
• 18:49
  which
• 18:49
  was
• 18:50
  interesting
• 18:51
  about
• 18:52
  a
• 18:52
  growth
• 18:52
  mindset
• 18:53
  that,
• 18:53
  you
• 18:54
  know,
• 18:54
  don't
• 18:54
  over
• 18:55
  praise
• 18:55
  your
• 18:55
  kids.
• 18:56
  Like
• 18:56
  when
• 18:56
  you
• 18:56
  see
• 18:57
  they
• 18:57
  make
• 18:57
  a
• 18:57
  painting,
• 18:58
  you
• 18:58
  don't
• 18:58
  want
• 18:58
  to
• 18:58
  go,
• 18:59
  oh
• 18:59
  my
• 18:59
  gosh,
• 18:59
  it's
• 18:59
  the
• 19:00
  most
• 19:00
  beautiful
• 19:00
  painting
• 19:01
  I've
• 19:01
  ever
• 19:01
  seen.
• 19:02
  Because
• 19:03
  kids
• 19:03
  will
• 19:03
  know
• 19:03
  you're
• 19:04
  lying.
• 19:04
  So
• 19:04
  instead
• 19:06
  they
• 19:06
  take
• 19:07
  a
• 19:07
  page
• 19:07
  off
• 19:08
  of
• 19:08
  Carol
• 19:08
  Dweck's
• 19:09
  book,
• 19:09
  which
• 19:09
  is
• 19:10
  growth
• 19:10
  mindset.
• 19:11
  Comment
• 19:12
  on
• 19:12
  the
• 19:12
  process.
• 19:13
  I
• 19:13
  like
• 19:13
  the
• 19:13
  way
• 19:13
  you
• 19:14
  worked
• 19:14
  so
• 19:14
  hard
• 19:15
  to
• 19:15
  make
• 19:15
  that
• 19:16
  picture
• 19:17
  or
• 19:17
  the
• 19:18
  colors
• 19:18
  you
• 19:18
  chose.
• 19:19
  Tell
• 19:19
  me
• 19:19
  about
• 19:19
  why
• 19:19
  you
• 19:20
  chose
• 19:20
  those
• 19:20
  colors.
• 19:21
  Like
• 19:21
  get
• 19:21
  into
• 19:22
  the
• 19:22
  process
• 19:23
  instead
• 19:23
  of
• 19:23
  the
• 19:23
  result
• 19:25
  and
• 19:25
  don't
• 19:26
  overdo
• 19:26
  it.
• 19:26
  And
• 19:27
  it
• 19:27
  made
• 19:28
  me
• 19:28
  wonder,
• 19:28
  like
• 19:28
  we
• 19:28
  always
• 19:29
  say
• 19:29
  growth
• 19:29
  mindset
• 19:30
  came
• 19:30
  from
• 19:30
  Carol
• 19:31
  Dweck,
• 19:31
  but
• 19:32
  I
• 19:32
  wonder
• 19:32
  if
• 19:32
  maybe
• 19:32
  Carol
• 19:32
  Dweck
• 19:33
  went
• 19:33
  to
• 19:33
  Denmark
• 19:34
  and
• 19:34
  learned
• 19:34
  about
• 19:34
  it.
• 19:35
  Maybe
• 19:35
  she
• 19:35
  did.
• 19:35
  Maybe
• 19:36
  Carol
• 19:36
  Dweck
• 19:37
  has
• 19:37
  Danish
• 19:38
  lineage.
• 19:38
  Maybe
• 19:39
  now
• 19:39
  we're
• 19:39
  just
• 19:39
  speculating.
• 19:40
  We're
• 19:40
  speculating.
• 19:40
  We
• 19:40
  don't
• 19:40
  know.
• 19:41
  We
• 19:41
  don't.
• 19:41
  Yeah,
• 19:41
  we
• 19:41
  don't
• 19:41
  know.
• 19:42
  But
• 19:42
  we're
• 19:43
  making
• 19:43
  it
• 19:43
  up.
• 19:43
  But
• 19:43
  we're
• 19:43
  wondering.
• 19:44
  We're
• 19:44
  wondering
• 19:45
  because
• 19:45
  it's
• 19:45
  part
• 19:45
  of
• 19:46
  their
• 19:46
  culture,
• 19:46
  according
• 19:47
  to
• 19:47
  the
• 19:47
  author.
• 19:48
  Yes.
• 19:49
  And
• 19:49
  then
• 19:50
  honesty
• 19:50
  is
• 19:51
  a
• 19:51
  very
• 19:51
  important
• 19:52
  value
• 19:52
  there.
• 19:54
  You
• 19:54
  need
• 19:54
  to
• 19:54
  be
• 19:54
  honest
• 19:55
  with
• 19:55
  yourself
• 19:56
  about
• 19:56
  what
• 19:56
  you
• 19:57
  want,
• 19:57
  what
• 19:57
  makes
• 19:57
  you
• 19:58
  happy,
• 19:58
  and
• 19:59
  go
• 19:59
  with
• 19:59
  what
• 20:00
  makes
• 20:00
  you
• 20:00
  happy,
• 20:00
  not
• 20:01
  with
• 20:01
  what
• 20:01
  you.
• 20:02
  What
• 20:02
  other
• 20:02
  people
• 20:02
  have.
• 20:03
  You
• 20:03
  know,
• 20:04
  look
• 20:04
  at
• 20:04
  that.
• 20:04
  Look
• 20:04
  at
• 20:04
  what
• 20:05
  you
• 20:05
  want.
• 20:05
  Yeah.
• 20:05
  Material
• 20:06
  possessions
• 20:07
  are
• 20:07
  not
• 20:07
  quite
• 20:08
  as
• 20:08
  emphasized
• 20:09
  there.
• 20:09
  Wealth
• 20:09
  doesn't
• 20:10
  seem
• 20:10
  to
• 20:10
  be
• 20:11
  as
• 20:11
  emphasized
• 20:11
  there.
• 20:12
  Like
• 20:12
  these
• 20:12
  are
• 20:12
  not
• 20:12
  things
• 20:13
  to
• 20:13
  strive
• 20:13
  for
• 20:14
  there
• 20:14
  seem
• 20:15
  like
• 20:15
  it.
• 20:16
  At
• 20:16
  least
• 20:16
  according
• 20:16
  to
• 20:16
  the
• 20:16
  author.
• 20:17
  Yeah,
• 20:17
  at
• 20:17
  least
• 20:17
  according
• 20:17
  to
• 20:18
  this
• 20:18
  book.
• 20:18
  I
• 20:19
  don't
• 20:19
  know,
• 20:19
  but
• 20:19
  I
• 20:20
  think
• 20:20
  that's
• 20:20
  probably
• 20:21
  true.
• 20:21
  Yeah,
• 20:21
  I
• 20:21
  think
• 20:21
  that's
• 20:22
  true.
• 20:23
  And
• 20:23
  now
• 20:24
  we're
• 20:24
  in
• 20:24
  reframing.
• 20:25
  So
• 20:26
  this
• 20:26
  is
• 20:26
  what
• 20:26
  I
• 20:27
  meant
• 20:27
  when
• 20:27
  I
• 20:27
  mentioned
• 20:28
  perspective
• 20:29
  earlier.
• 20:29
  So
• 20:30
  any
• 20:30
  situation
• 20:32
  they
• 20:33
  can
• 20:33
  turn
• 20:33
  into
• 20:34
  a
• 20:35
  positive,
• 20:35
  even
• 20:36
  if
• 20:36
  it
• 20:36
  is
• 20:36
  very
• 20:36
  negative.
• 20:38
  So
• 20:39
  they
• 20:40
  call
• 20:40
  it
• 20:40
  realistic
• 20:41
  optimism.
• 20:42
  So
• 20:42
  they're
• 20:42
  not
• 20:43
  being
• 20:43
  dishonest
• 20:44
  about
• 20:44
  the
• 20:44
  situation,
• 20:45
  but
• 20:45
  they
• 20:46
  are
• 20:46
  choosing
• 20:47
  what
• 20:47
  to
• 20:47
  highlight
• 20:48
  about
• 20:48
  it.
• 20:49
  So
• 20:49
  like
• 20:49
  for
• 20:49
  example,
• 20:49
  they
• 20:50
  were
• 20:50
  like,
• 20:51
  you
• 20:51
  know,
• 20:51
  oh,
• 20:52
  it's
• 20:52
  a
• 20:52
  rainy
• 20:53
  day,
• 20:53
  it's
• 20:53
  horrible,
• 20:53
  we
• 20:54
  can't
• 20:54
  go
• 20:54
  outside.
• 20:54
  But
• 20:55
  the
• 20:55
  danger,
• 20:55
  like,
• 20:55
  ooh,
• 20:56
  what
• 20:56
  a
• 20:56
  nice
• 20:56
  day
• 20:56
  to
• 20:56
  stay
• 20:57
  cozy
• 20:57
  in
• 20:57
  my
• 20:58
  house.
• 20:58
  Uh
• 20:58
  huh.
• 20:58
  They
• 20:59
  can
• 20:59
  do
• 20:59
  Hygge.
• 21:00
  Hygge.
• 21:00
  Which
• 21:01
  we'll
• 21:01
  talk
• 21:01
  about.
• 21:01
  Yes.
• 21:02
  But,
• 21:03
  yeah,
• 21:03
  it's
• 21:03
  realistic.
• 21:04
  Optimist.
• 21:04
  Like,
• 21:05
  they're
• 21:05
  in
• 21:05
  touch
• 21:05
  with
• 21:05
  reality,
• 21:06
  but
• 21:06
  they
• 21:07
  always
• 21:07
  look
• 21:07
  at
• 21:07
  things
• 21:08
  in
• 21:08
  the
• 21:08
  more
• 21:08
  positive
• 21:09
  light.
• 21:09
  And
• 21:10
  she
• 21:10
  noticed
• 21:11
  this
• 21:11
  with
• 21:11
  her
• 21:11
  husband,
• 21:12
  that
• 21:12
  she
• 21:12
  thought
• 21:12
  that
• 21:12
  was
• 21:13
  one
• 21:13
  of
• 21:13
  the
• 21:13
  things
• 21:13
  that
• 21:13
  attracted
• 21:14
  her
• 21:14
  to
• 21:14
  her
• 21:14
  husband,
• 21:15
  who's
• 21:15
  Danish,
• 21:16
  because
• 21:16
  he
• 21:17
  always
• 21:17
  was
• 21:17
  so
• 21:18
  positive.
• 21:19
  Little
• 21:19
  did
• 21:20
  she
• 21:20
  know,
• 21:20
  everyone
• 21:21
  in
• 21:21
  Denmark
• 21:21
  is
• 21:21
  positive.
• 21:22
  Yeah.
• 21:22
  This
• 21:22
  wasn't
• 21:22
  just
• 21:23
  a
• 21:23
  him
• 21:23
  thing.
• 21:23
  No.
• 21:24
  But
• 21:25
  anyway,
• 21:26
  they
• 21:26
  say
• 21:26
  that
• 21:28
  the
• 21:28
  ability
• 21:28
  to
• 21:28
  reframe
• 21:29
  things
• 21:29
  positively
• 21:30
  is
• 21:30
  a
• 21:31
  really
• 21:31
  important
• 21:32
  part
• 21:32
  of
• 21:32
  being
• 21:32
  resilient.
• 21:33
  And,
• 21:33
  of
• 21:33
  course,
• 21:34
  resilience
• 21:34
  is
• 21:34
  super
• 21:34
  important.
• 21:37
  So
• 21:37
  they're
• 21:37
  taught
• 21:38
  not
• 21:38
  to
• 21:38
  use
• 21:38
  limiting
• 21:39
  language.
• 21:40
  So
• 21:40
  if
• 21:41
  a
• 21:41
  child
• 21:41
  were
• 21:41
  to
• 21:41
  say,
• 21:42
  I
• 21:42
  hate
• 21:42
  math,
• 21:45
  they
• 21:45
  really
• 21:45
  won't
• 21:45
  say
• 21:46
  that
• 21:46
  there.
• 21:47
  Or
• 21:47
  their
• 21:47
  parent
• 21:47
  might
• 21:48
  redirect
• 21:48
  them
• 21:48
  to
• 21:48
  say,
• 21:49
  well,
• 21:49
  math
• 21:50
  may
• 21:50
  be
• 21:50
  hard
• 21:50
  for
• 21:51
  you,
• 21:51
  but
• 21:51
  you're
• 21:51
  working
• 21:51
  on
• 21:52
  it
• 21:52
  and
• 21:52
  you're
• 21:52
  getting
• 21:52
  better
• 21:53
  at
• 21:53
  it.
• 21:53
  So
• 21:54
  they
• 21:54
  turn
• 21:54
  it
• 21:54
  into
• 21:54
  something
• 21:55
  positive.
• 21:55
  Yes.
• 21:56
  And
• 21:57
  they
• 21:57
  say
• 21:57
  language
• 21:58
  is
• 21:58
  super
• 21:58
  important.
• 22:00
  Don't
• 22:01
  label
• 22:01
  your
• 22:01
  kids.
• 22:02
  They
• 22:02
  don't
• 22:02
  label
• 22:03
  kids.
• 22:04
  I
• 22:04
  think
• 22:04
  we
• 22:05
  could
• 22:05
  definitely
• 22:05
  take
• 22:05
  a
• 22:05
  page
• 22:06
  out
• 22:06
  of
• 22:06
  that
• 22:06
  book.
• 22:06
  Yeah.
• 22:07
  I
• 22:07
  think
• 22:08
  we
• 22:08
  label
• 22:09
  everybody.
• 22:09
  We
• 22:09
  pathologize
• 22:10
  everything.
• 22:11
  It's
• 22:12
  like,
• 22:12
  at
• 22:12
  a
• 22:12
  certain,
• 22:13
  you
• 22:13
  know,
• 22:14
  at
• 22:14
  some
• 22:14
  point,
• 22:15
  like,
• 22:15
  when
• 22:15
  is
• 22:15
  it
• 22:16
  no
• 22:16
  longer
• 22:16
  useful?
• 22:17
  You
• 22:17
  know,
• 22:17
  if
• 22:18
  everybody
• 22:18
  is
• 22:18
  different,
• 22:19
  Is
• 22:19
  anybody
• 22:20
  truly
• 22:20
  different?
• 22:21
  Ooh,
• 22:21
  that's
• 22:22
  very
• 22:22
  deep.
• 22:22
  I
• 22:23
  don't
• 22:23
  know.
• 22:24
  Let
• 22:25
  me
• 22:25
  drop
• 22:25
  some
• 22:25
  philosophical
• 22:26
  pearls
• 22:27
  on.
• 22:27
  You
• 22:28
  think
• 22:28
  about
• 22:28
  that.
• 22:30
  No,
• 22:30
  but
• 22:30
  I
• 22:31
  was
• 22:31
  kind
• 22:31
  of
• 22:31
  laugh.
• 22:31
  I
• 22:32
  wasn't
• 22:32
  really
• 22:32
  laughing.
• 22:33
  But
• 22:33
  she.
• 22:33
  This
• 22:33
  was
• 22:34
  something
• 22:34
  she
• 22:35
  said
• 22:35
  in
• 22:35
  the
• 22:35
  book,
• 22:35
  which
• 22:36
  I
• 22:36
  did
• 22:36
  not
• 22:36
  agree
• 22:37
  with.
• 22:37
  Okay,
• 22:38
  all
• 22:38
  right.
• 22:38
  She
• 22:39
  goes,
• 22:39
  okay,
• 22:40
  that.
• 22:40
  And
• 22:41
  it's
• 22:41
  kind
• 22:41
  of
• 22:41
  like
• 22:41
  what
• 22:41
  you're
• 22:42
  saying.
• 22:42
  People
• 22:43
  pathologize
• 22:44
  things.
• 22:44
  But
• 22:44
  she
• 22:44
  said,
• 22:45
  you
• 22:45
  know,
• 22:46
  if
• 22:46
  your
• 22:46
  child
• 22:46
  is
• 22:46
  shy,
• 22:47
  you'll
• 22:47
  say
• 22:47
  to
• 22:48
  somebody,
• 22:48
  oh,
• 22:48
  he's
• 22:49
  got
• 22:49
  Asperger's.
• 22:50
  Which
• 22:50
  I
• 22:50
  would
• 22:50
  never
• 22:50
  say
• 22:51
  about
• 22:51
  my
• 22:51
  child,
• 22:52
  my
• 22:52
  shy
• 22:53
  child,
• 22:53
  that
• 22:53
  they
• 22:53
  have
• 22:53
  Asperger's
• 22:54
  or
• 22:54
  that
• 22:57
  if
• 22:57
  they
• 22:57
  have
• 22:57
  high
• 22:58
  energy,
• 22:58
  you
• 22:59
  just
• 22:59
  say
• 22:59
  they're
• 22:59
  adhd.
• 23:00
  I
• 23:00
  think
• 23:01
  what
• 23:01
  she
• 23:01
  meant
• 23:02
  by
• 23:02
  that
• 23:04
  is
• 23:04
  more
• 23:05
  that,
• 23:05
  like,
• 23:06
  other
• 23:06
  cultures
• 23:07
  feel
• 23:07
  like
• 23:07
  we
• 23:08
  need
• 23:09
  to
• 23:09
  offer
• 23:09
  a
• 23:10
  reason
• 23:11
  for
• 23:11
  a
• 23:11
  certain
• 23:11
  behavior.
• 23:13
  You
• 23:13
  know,
• 23:14
  where
• 23:14
  it's
• 23:14
  like,
• 23:14
  well,
• 23:14
  he
• 23:15
  behaves
• 23:15
  this
• 23:15
  way
• 23:15
  because
• 23:16
  X,
• 23:16
  or
• 23:17
  she
• 23:17
  behaves
• 23:17
  this
• 23:17
  way
• 23:18
  because
• 23:18
  Y.
• 23:19
  And
• 23:19
  there
• 23:20
  they're
• 23:20
  like.
• 23:20
  We
• 23:21
  just
• 23:21
  like.
• 23:21
  Everything
• 23:22
  is
• 23:22
  at
• 23:22
  face
• 23:22
  value
• 23:23
  in
• 23:23
  terms
• 23:24
  of
• 23:24
  behavior.
• 23:24
  We're
• 23:24
  not
• 23:24
  gonna
• 23:25
  assume
• 23:25
  that
• 23:25
  this
• 23:26
  is,
• 23:26
  like
• 23:26
  a
• 23:26
  permanent
• 23:27
  characteristic.
• 23:28
  Okay.
• 23:28
  This
• 23:28
  is
• 23:29
  who
• 23:29
  they
• 23:29
  are
• 23:29
  today.
• 23:30
  They
• 23:30
  might
• 23:30
  evolve
• 23:31
  tomorrow.
• 23:32
  Right.
• 23:32
  You
• 23:32
  know,
• 23:32
  And
• 23:33
  I
• 23:33
  do
• 23:33
  think
• 23:33
  there's
• 23:33
  something
• 23:33
  to
• 23:34
  that,
• 23:34
  because
• 23:35
  there
• 23:35
  is
• 23:36
  a
• 23:36
  Psychological
• 23:37
  thing
• 23:37
  that
• 23:38
  happens.
• 23:38
  When
• 23:38
  we
• 23:38
  are
• 23:39
  told
• 23:39
  something
• 23:39
  about
• 23:39
  ourselves
• 23:40
  enough
• 23:40
  times,
• 23:41
  whether
• 23:41
  it's
• 23:41
  true
• 23:42
  or
• 23:42
  not,
• 23:42
  we
• 23:42
  start
• 23:43
  to
• 23:43
  believe
• 23:43
  it,
• 23:43
  we
• 23:44
  start
• 23:44
  to
• 23:44
  lean
• 23:44
  into
• 23:44
  it.
• 23:45
  And
• 23:45
  I
• 23:45
  think
• 23:46
  if
• 23:46
  the
• 23:46
  culture
• 23:47
  is
• 23:47
  like,
• 23:47
  listen,
• 23:47
  we're
• 23:48
  not
• 23:48
  gonna
• 23:48
  like
• 23:48
  label
• 23:48
  anybody
• 23:49
  anything.
• 23:49
  You
• 23:50
  can
• 23:50
  be
• 23:50
  this
• 23:50
  today,
• 23:50
  you
• 23:51
  can
• 23:51
  be
• 23:51
  that
• 23:51
  tomorrow.
• 23:52
  There's
• 23:52
  no
• 23:52
  attachment
• 23:53
  to
• 23:54
  it.
• 23:54
  Okay,
• 23:54
  I
• 23:55
  see
• 23:55
  that.
• 23:55
  That
• 23:55
  makes
• 23:56
  sense.
• 23:56
  So,
• 23:57
  yeah.
• 23:58
  Because
• 23:58
  labels
• 23:58
  do
• 23:58
  kind
• 23:59
  of
• 23:59
  become
• 23:59
  self
• 23:59
  fulfilling
• 24:00
  prophecies
• 24:00
  if
• 24:01
  we
• 24:01
  hear
• 24:01
  them
• 24:01
  enough.
• 24:02
  Yes.
• 24:02
  Yeah.
• 24:03
  Okay,
• 24:03
  I
• 24:03
  get
• 24:03
  that.
• 24:04
  So
• 24:04
  they
• 24:05
  use
• 24:06
  less
• 24:06
  limiting
• 24:06
  language
• 24:08
  and
• 24:09
  they
• 24:09
  don't
• 24:09
  tell
• 24:09
  their
• 24:09
  kids
• 24:10
  how
• 24:10
  they
• 24:10
  should
• 24:11
  or
• 24:11
  shouldn't
• 24:11
  feel
• 24:11
  in
• 24:12
  a
• 24:12
  situation.
• 24:14
  You
• 24:14
  know,
• 24:14
  they
• 24:14
  talk
• 24:15
  to
• 24:15
  their
• 24:15
  kids,
• 24:16
  they
• 24:16
  try
• 24:16
  to
• 24:16
  guide
• 24:16
  them.
• 24:18
  If
• 24:18
  their
• 24:18
  kids
• 24:19
  are
• 24:19
  a
• 24:19
  little
• 24:19
  negative
• 24:19
  about
• 24:20
  something,
• 24:20
  they
• 24:20
  try
• 24:21
  to
• 24:21
  guide
• 24:21
  them
• 24:21
  towards
• 24:22
  more
• 24:22
  positive
• 24:23
  interpretation.
• 24:23
  And
• 24:24
  I
• 24:24
  think
• 24:24
  that's
• 24:24
  how
• 24:24
  they
• 24:24
  become
• 24:25
  so
• 24:25
  much
• 24:25
  more
• 24:26
  positive
• 24:26
  in
• 24:26
  general.
• 24:27
  Yeah.
• 24:27
  It
• 24:28
  takes
• 24:28
  practice.
• 24:28
  It's
• 24:28
  a
• 24:28
  muscle.
• 24:30
  It
• 24:30
  works
• 24:30
  if
• 24:30
  you
• 24:30
  work
• 24:31
  it.
• 24:31
  That's
• 24:31
  right.
• 24:32
  That's
• 24:32
  right.
• 24:32
  So
• 24:33
  they
• 24:33
  give
• 24:33
  you
• 24:34
  tips
• 24:34
  for
• 24:34
  reframing.
• 24:35
  Pay
• 24:35
  attention
• 24:36
  to
• 24:36
  your
• 24:36
  negativity.
• 24:37
  Change
• 24:37
  phrasing
• 24:38
  of
• 24:38
  negative
• 24:38
  thoughts.
• 24:39
  Use
• 24:40
  less
• 24:40
  limiting
• 24:40
  language.
• 24:41
  Rewrite
• 24:42
  your
• 24:42
  child's
• 24:43
  narrative
• 24:43
  into
• 24:43
  one
• 24:44
  that's
• 24:44
  more
• 24:44
  loving
• 24:44
  and
• 24:44
  positive.
• 24:45
  And
• 24:46
  help
• 24:46
  your
• 24:46
  child.
• 24:47
  Use
• 24:47
  supporting
• 24:48
  versus
• 24:49
  limiting
• 24:49
  behavior
• 24:51
  language.
• 24:52
  Yeah.
• 24:53
  So
• 24:53
  I
• 24:53
  think
• 24:54
  that
• 24:54
  is
• 24:54
  good.
• 24:54
  I
• 24:55
  mean,
• 24:55
  yeah,
• 24:55
  the
• 24:55
  reframing,
• 24:56
  I
• 24:56
  mean,
• 24:57
  all
• 24:57
  of
• 24:57
  us
• 24:57
  could
• 24:58
  use
• 24:58
  that.
• 24:58
  Yeah,
• 24:59
  yeah.
• 25:00
  Being
• 25:00
  more
• 25:00
  optimistic
• 25:01
  and
• 25:01
  positive.
• 25:01
  Like,
• 25:02
  before
• 25:02
  we
• 25:02
  started
• 25:02
  this
• 25:03
  episode,
• 25:03
  I
• 25:03
  was
• 25:03
  telling
• 25:04
  my
• 25:04
  mom,
• 25:04
  I
• 25:05
  wear
• 25:05
  a
• 25:05
  watch,
• 25:05
  but
• 25:05
  I
• 25:05
  can't
• 25:06
  tell
• 25:06
  time.
• 25:06
  Here's
• 25:07
  a
• 25:07
  big
• 25:07
  secret.
• 25:07
  It's
• 25:08
  like
• 25:08
  that
• 25:08
  rumor
• 25:09
  that
• 25:09
  Lea
• 25:09
  Michele
• 25:09
  can't
• 25:10
  read.
• 25:10
  I
• 25:10
  think
• 25:10
  she
• 25:10
  can
• 25:10
  read.
• 25:11
  I'm
• 25:11
  confirming
• 25:12
  the
• 25:12
  rumor.
• 25:12
  I
• 25:13
  cannot
• 25:13
  tell
• 25:13
  time
• 25:14
  on
• 25:14
  a
• 25:14
  watch.
• 25:15
  And
• 25:15
  you
• 25:15
  know
• 25:15
  there's
• 25:16
  a
• 25:16
  reason
• 25:16
  for
• 25:16
  that
• 25:17
  in
• 25:17
  that.
• 25:18
  And
• 25:19
  I'm
• 25:19
  gonna
• 25:19
  violate
• 25:20
  your
• 25:20
  hipaa.
• 25:20
  Violate
• 25:21
  my
• 25:21
  hipaa,
• 25:21
  Mom.
• 25:21
  Okay,
• 25:23
  you
• 25:23
  have
• 25:23
  a
• 25:23
  visual
• 25:24
  spatial
• 25:24
  learning
• 25:25
  disability.
• 25:25
  You
• 25:26
  always
• 25:26
  have.
• 25:26
  And
• 25:27
  you
• 25:27
  have
• 25:27
  a
• 25:28
  hard
• 25:28
  time
• 25:28
  with
• 25:28
  spatial
• 25:29
  things.
• 25:29
  Yes,
• 25:29
  but
• 25:29
  before
• 25:30
  this
• 25:30
  I
• 25:30
  was
• 25:31
  saying,
• 25:31
  I
• 25:31
  will
• 25:31
  never
• 25:32
  learn
• 25:32
  how
• 25:32
  to
• 25:32
  tell
• 25:33
  time.
• 25:33
  Right.
• 25:33
  It's
• 25:33
  just
• 25:33
  something
• 25:34
  I'm
• 25:35
  incapable
• 25:35
  of.
• 25:35
  And
• 25:35
  you
• 25:36
  know
• 25:36
  what?
• 25:36
  This
• 25:37
  book,
• 25:37
  this
• 25:38
  episode
• 25:38
  is
• 25:38
  inspiring
• 25:39
  me.
• 25:39
  You
• 25:39
  can
• 25:40
  learn.
• 25:40
  I
• 25:40
  can
• 25:40
  learn.
• 25:41
  I'm
• 25:41
  not
• 25:41
  going
• 25:41
  to
• 25:41
  limit
• 25:42
  myself
• 25:42
  with
• 25:43
  language.
• 25:43
  You
• 25:44
  can
• 25:44
  learn
• 25:44
  to
• 25:44
  read
• 25:44
  a
• 25:44
  clock.
• 25:45
  You
• 25:46
  know,
• 25:46
  little
• 25:46
  children
• 25:47
  learn.
• 25:47
  And
• 25:47
  you
• 25:48
  can
• 25:48
  learn,
• 25:48
  too.
• 25:48
  You
• 25:48
  and
• 25:49
  Lenny
• 25:49
  can
• 25:49
  learn
• 25:49
  together.
• 25:49
  You
• 25:50
  know,
• 25:50
  it
• 25:50
  reminds
• 25:50
  me,
• 25:51
  when
• 25:51
  I
• 25:51
  was
• 25:52
  in.
• 25:52
  When
• 25:52
  I
• 25:52
  was
• 25:52
  in
• 25:53
  a
• 25:53
  senior
• 25:53
  in
• 25:53
  high
• 25:53
  school,
• 25:54
  I
• 25:54
  had
• 25:54
  switched
• 25:55
  schools
• 25:55
  for
• 25:55
  like
• 25:55
  the
• 25:55
  55th
• 25:56
  time
• 25:57
  and
• 25:57
  I
• 25:57
  had
• 25:57
  never
• 25:58
  taken
• 25:59
  a
• 25:59
  particular
• 26:00
  science
• 26:00
  course
• 26:00
  and
• 26:01
  I
• 26:01
  needed
• 26:01
  it
• 26:01
  to
• 26:01
  graduate.
• 26:03
  So
• 26:03
  I
• 26:03
  was
• 26:04
  in
• 26:04
  a
• 26:04
  class
• 26:05
  as
• 26:06
  a
• 26:06
  senior
• 26:06
  with
• 26:07
  all
• 26:07
  8th
• 26:07
  graders.
• 26:09
  All
• 26:09
  of
• 26:09
  whom
• 26:10
  were
• 26:10
  doing
• 26:10
  better
• 26:11
  than
• 26:11
  me.
• 26:11
  Okay.
• 26:12
  In
• 26:12
  that
• 26:13
  class.
• 26:14
  Okay.
• 26:15
  And
• 26:15
  so
• 26:16
  what.
• 26:16
  How
• 26:17
  did
• 26:17
  that
• 26:17
  feel
• 26:17
  to
• 26:17
  you?
• 26:18
  You
• 26:18
  know,
• 26:18
  honestly,
• 26:19
  I
• 26:19
  didn't
• 26:19
  care,
• 26:19
  because
• 26:20
  I
• 26:20
  was
• 26:20
  like,
• 26:20
  listen,
• 26:21
  I'm
• 26:22
  simply
• 26:22
  not
• 26:22
  built
• 26:23
  for
• 26:23
  academia.
• 26:24
  And
• 26:24
  that's
• 26:24
  fin.
• 26:25
  We
• 26:25
  can't
• 26:26
  all
• 26:26
  be
• 26:26
  everything.
• 26:27
  Right.
• 26:27
  You
• 26:27
  had
• 26:28
  other
• 26:28
  qualities.
• 26:28
  Yes,
• 26:29
  exactly.
• 26:29
  I
• 26:29
  was
• 26:30
  like,
• 26:30
  I
• 26:30
  have
• 26:30
  redeeming
• 26:30
  qualities.
• 26:31
  It's
• 26:31
  gonna
• 26:31
  be
• 26:31
  fine.
• 26:31
  I'm
• 26:32
  gonna
• 26:32
  be
• 26:32
  fine.
• 26:34
  But
• 26:34
  I
• 26:34
  forgot
• 26:34
  where
• 26:35
  I
• 26:35
  was
• 26:35
  going
• 26:35
  with
• 26:35
  that.
• 26:35
  But
• 26:35
  it
• 26:35
  had
• 26:36
  such
• 26:36
  a
• 26:36
  but.
• 26:36
  I
• 26:36
  will
• 26:36
  teach
• 26:36
  you
• 26:37
  to
• 26:38
  read
• 26:38
  a
• 26:38
  clock.
• 26:39
  I
• 26:39
  swear.
• 26:39
  I
• 26:39
  can
• 26:39
  do
• 26:40
  it
• 26:41
  in
• 26:41
  an
• 26:41
  hour.
• 26:41
  I
• 26:42
  will
• 26:42
  teach
• 26:42
  you.
• 26:42
  I
• 26:42
  really
• 26:43
  believe
• 26:43
  that.
• 26:43
  I
• 26:44
  mean,
• 26:44
  if
• 26:44
  you
• 26:45
  haven't
• 26:45
  yet,
• 26:46
  what's
• 26:46
  gonna
• 26:46
  change
• 26:46
  now?
• 26:47
  Well,
• 26:48
  because
• 26:49
  you
• 26:49
  didn't
• 26:49
  ever
• 26:50
  tell
• 26:50
  me
• 26:50
  you
• 26:50
  wanted
• 26:50
  to
• 26:51
  learn.
• 26:51
  I
• 26:51
  will
• 26:51
  teach
• 26:51
  you.
• 26:52
  I
• 26:52
  think
• 26:52
  I've
• 26:52
  probably
• 26:52
  actively
• 26:53
  told
• 26:53
  you
• 26:53
  I
• 26:53
  didn't
• 26:53
  want
• 26:53
  to
• 26:53
  learn.
• 26:54
  Yeah.
• 26:54
  But
• 26:54
  now
• 26:54
  we're
• 26:54
  gonna
• 26:55
  have
• 26:55
  a
• 26:55
  growth
• 26:55
  mindset,
• 26:56
  and
• 26:56
  I'm
• 26:56
  gon.
• 26:57
  Okay,
• 26:57
  we're
• 26:57
  gonna
• 26:58
  do
• 26:58
  that
• 26:58
  today.
• 26:58
  Join
• 26:59
  us
• 27:00
  for
• 27:01
  a
• 27:01
  lesson
• 27:01
  on
• 27:01
  reading
• 27:02
  the
• 27:02
  face
• 27:02
  of
• 27:02
  a
• 27:02
  clock.
• 27:03
  Yes.
• 27:04
  All
• 27:04
  right,
• 27:05
  let's
• 27:05
  get
• 27:05
  into
• 27:05
  empathy.
• 27:07
  That's
• 27:07
  another
• 27:07
  one,
• 27:08
  which
• 27:08
  is
• 27:09
  great.
• 27:09
  An
• 27:09
  excellent
• 27:10
  principle
• 27:10
  to
• 27:10
  encourage
• 27:11
  for
• 27:11
  kids.
• 27:13
  The
• 27:14
  empathy,
• 27:14
  Really,
• 27:15
  I
• 27:15
  think
• 27:15
  what
• 27:15
  they're
• 27:16
  talking
• 27:16
  about
• 27:16
  is.
• 27:18
  It's
• 27:18
  more
• 27:19
  than
• 27:19
  empathy.
• 27:20
  It's
• 27:20
  just.
• 27:22
  It's
• 27:22
  understanding
• 27:23
  emotions.
• 27:24
  That's
• 27:24
  a
• 27:24
  big
• 27:24
  part
• 27:25
  of
• 27:25
  it.
• 27:26
  But
• 27:26
  also
• 27:28
  it's
• 27:28
  about
• 27:28
  caring
• 27:29
  about
• 27:29
  other
• 27:30
  people's
• 27:30
  happiness.
• 27:31
  Yeah.
• 27:31
  And
• 27:32
  that's
• 27:32
  what
• 27:32
  their
• 27:33
  society
• 27:33
  is.
• 27:34
  We
• 27:34
  care
• 27:34
  as
• 27:34
  much
• 27:34
  about
• 27:35
  other
• 27:35
  people
• 27:35
  being
• 27:35
  happy
• 27:36
  as
• 27:36
  us
• 27:36
  being
• 27:37
  happy.
• 27:37
  Right.
• 27:38
  And
• 27:39
  in
• 27:39
  their
• 27:39
  school
• 27:40
  system,
• 27:41
  there
• 27:41
  are
• 27:41
  all
• 27:42
  these
• 27:42
  mandatory
• 27:43
  programs
• 27:44
  around
• 27:44
  social
• 27:45
  emotional
• 27:45
  learning
• 27:46
  education.
• 27:47
  We
• 27:47
  could
• 27:47
  learn
• 27:48
  a
• 27:48
  thing
• 27:48
  or
• 27:48
  two.
• 27:48
  Yeah.
• 27:49
  I
• 27:49
  mean,
• 27:49
  we
• 27:49
  should
• 27:49
  have
• 27:50
  more
• 27:50
  of
• 27:50
  that
• 27:50
  in
• 27:50
  the
• 27:51
  classroom.
• 27:51
  It's
• 27:52
  more
• 27:52
  of
• 27:52
  an
• 27:52
  extra
• 27:53
  in
• 27:53
  the
• 27:53
  United
• 27:53
  States.
• 27:54
  And
• 27:54
  they
• 27:54
  have.
• 27:54
  From.
• 27:55
  What
• 27:55
  is
• 27:55
  it
• 27:55
  sounds
• 27:56
  like
• 27:56
  less
• 27:56
  bullying.
• 27:57
  Obviously
• 27:57
  not.
• 27:57
  No
• 27:58
  bullying,
• 27:58
  because
• 27:59
  some
• 27:59
  kids
• 27:59
  are
• 28:00
  savage,
• 28:00
  but,
• 28:01
  yeah,
• 28:01
  less
• 28:02
  bullying
• 28:02
  than
• 28:03
  it
• 28:03
  seems
• 28:03
  that
• 28:03
  we
• 28:04
  have
• 28:04
  here.
• 28:05
  Like,
• 28:05
  less
• 28:05
  problematic
• 28:06
  bullying.
• 28:07
  There's
• 28:07
  a
• 28:08
  national
• 28:08
  anti
• 28:08
  bullying
• 28:09
  and
• 28:09
  anti
• 28:09
  teasing
• 28:10
  program
• 28:11
  beginning
• 28:12
  in
• 28:12
  preschool.
• 28:13
  They're
• 28:13
  teaching
• 28:13
  kids
• 28:14
  to
• 28:14
  recognize
• 28:14
  emotions
• 28:16
  and
• 28:16
  how
• 28:16
  to.
• 28:17
  How
• 28:18
  to
• 28:18
  be
• 28:18
  empathetic.
• 28:20
  They're
• 28:20
  teaching
• 28:20
  kids
• 28:21
  about
• 28:21
  problem
• 28:22
  solving,
• 28:22
  self
• 28:23
  control,
• 28:23
  reading
• 28:25
  facial
• 28:26
  expressions.
• 28:27
  Amazing.
• 28:28
  For
• 28:28
  years,
• 28:29
  that's
• 28:29
  part
• 28:29
  of
• 28:29
  the
• 28:29
  curriculum.
• 28:31
  And
• 28:31
  in
• 28:31
  fact,
• 28:32
  they.
• 28:32
  They
• 28:32
  mix
• 28:33
  kids
• 28:33
  of
• 28:33
  different
• 28:34
  abilities
• 28:34
  in
• 28:34
  the
• 28:34
  classroom
• 28:35
  to
• 28:35
  teach
• 28:36
  kids
• 28:36
  that
• 28:36
  everyone
• 28:37
  has
• 28:37
  positive
• 28:37
  qualities.
• 28:38
  Even
• 28:39
  if
• 28:39
  you're
• 28:39
  not
• 28:39
  as
• 28:40
  smart
• 28:40
  as
• 28:40
  another
• 28:41
  child,
• 28:41
  maybe
• 28:42
  they've
• 28:43
  got
• 28:43
  you.
• 28:43
  The
• 28:44
  one
• 28:44
  who.
• 28:44
  Maybe
• 28:44
  not
• 28:44
  as
• 28:44
  smart
• 28:45
  in
• 28:45
  math
• 28:45
  might
• 28:46
  be
• 28:46
  great
• 28:46
  in
• 28:47
  English,
• 28:47
  you
• 28:48
  know,
• 28:48
  so
• 28:48
  they
• 28:48
  mix
• 28:48
  them
• 28:49
  up.
• 28:51
  And
• 28:51
  when
• 28:52
  Danish
• 28:53
  parents
• 28:53
  talk
• 28:54
  to
• 28:54
  their
• 28:54
  children
• 28:54
  about
• 28:55
  other
• 28:55
  children,
• 28:56
  they
• 28:57
  always
• 28:57
  point
• 28:57
  out
• 28:57
  the
• 28:58
  other
• 28:58
  children's
• 28:58
  good
• 28:59
  qualities.
• 29:00
  So
• 29:00
  even
• 29:00
  if
• 29:01
  a
• 29:01
  child,
• 29:01
  they
• 29:01
  see
• 29:01
  a
• 29:01
  child
• 29:02
  screaming,
• 29:03
  they
• 29:04
  might
• 29:04
  say,
• 29:04
  oh,
• 29:04
  that
• 29:05
  child
• 29:05
  looks
• 29:05
  so
• 29:05
  upset.
• 29:06
  What
• 29:06
  do
• 29:06
  you
• 29:07
  think
• 29:07
  could
• 29:07
  have
• 29:07
  upset
• 29:07
  them?
• 29:08
  Yeah.
• 29:08
  As
• 29:08
  opposed
• 29:09
  to
• 29:09
  God,
• 29:09
  that
• 29:09
  child
• 29:10
  can't
• 29:10
  behave.
• 29:11
  Yeah.
• 29:11
  Like,
• 29:11
  can't
• 29:11
  they
• 29:12
  control
• 29:12
  themselves?
• 29:12
  Yeah.
• 29:13
  They
• 29:13
  don't
• 29:13
  criticize.
• 29:14
  They
• 29:14
  invite
• 29:14
  them
• 29:14
  to
• 29:15
  be
• 29:15
  curious,
• 29:16
  which
• 29:16
  I
• 29:16
  think
• 29:16
  is
• 29:16
  such
• 29:17
  an
• 29:17
  amazing
• 29:17
  quality.
• 29:18
  It
• 29:18
  will
• 29:18
  take
• 29:18
  you
• 29:19
  so
• 29:19
  far
• 29:19
  in
• 29:19
  life.
• 29:20
  It
• 29:20
  will
• 29:20
  also
• 29:20
  help
• 29:21
  you
• 29:22
  be
• 29:22
  less
• 29:22
  stressed
• 29:23
  out
• 29:23
  by
• 29:23
  other
• 29:23
  people's
• 29:24
  behavior
• 29:24
  if
• 29:24
  you
• 29:24
  get
• 29:25
  curious
• 29:25
  about
• 29:25
  it
• 29:26
  instead
• 29:26
  of
• 29:26
  like
• 29:26
  take
• 29:26
  it
• 29:27
  personally
• 29:28
  or
• 29:28
  judgmentally.
• 29:29
  Yeah,
• 29:30
  right.
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• 30:33
  say
• 30:34
  tips
• 30:35
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• 30:36
  this
• 30:36
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• 30:36
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• 30:36
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  are
• 30:37
  practice
• 30:38
  understanding
• 30:38
  others
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  instead
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  of
• 30:39
  shaming
• 30:39
  them.
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  Help
• 30:40
  your
• 30:41
  child
• 30:41
  notice
• 30:41
  and
• 30:41
  identify
• 30:42
  their
• 30:42
  own
• 30:43
  emotions.
• 30:44
  Read
• 30:44
  books
• 30:44
  that
• 30:44
  encompass
• 30:45
  all
• 30:45
  emotions
• 30:46
  and
• 30:46
  discuss
• 30:46
  the
• 30:47
  feelings
• 30:47
  with
• 30:47
  your
• 30:48
  child.
• 30:48
  Be
• 30:49
  vulnerable
• 30:49
  about
• 30:49
  your
• 30:49
  own
• 30:50
  feelings
• 30:50
  with
• 30:50
  your
• 30:51
  child
• 30:51
  and
• 30:52
  surround
• 30:52
  yourself
• 30:52
  with
• 30:53
  kind,
• 30:53
  empathetic
• 30:54
  people.
• 30:55
  Yeah,
• 30:56
  that
• 30:56
  was
• 30:56
  good.
• 30:56
  Totally.
• 30:57
  All
• 30:57
  right,
• 30:57
  now
• 30:58
  no
• 30:58
  ultimatums.
• 30:59
  No
• 30:59
  ultimatums.
• 31:00
  Okay.
• 31:01
  Oh,
• 31:02
  and
• 31:02
  now
• 31:02
  we
• 31:02
  go
• 31:02
  back
• 31:03
  they
• 31:04
  to
• 31:04
  the
• 31:04
  four
• 31:04
  parenting
• 31:05
  styles
• 31:05
  which
• 31:05
  we
• 31:06
  have
• 31:06
  discussed
• 31:06
  before.
• 31:07
  Yes,
• 31:07
  those.
• 31:08
  They
• 31:09
  just
• 31:09
  rear
• 31:09
  their
• 31:09
  heads.
• 31:10
  They
• 31:10
  like
• 31:10
  every
• 31:11
  other
• 31:11
  book.
• 31:11
  Yeah,
• 31:12
  yeah.
• 31:13
  Authoritarian,
• 31:14
  authoritative,
• 31:16
  permissive
• 31:17
  and
• 31:18
  uninvolved.
• 31:19
  Yeah.
• 31:19
  I
• 31:19
  usually
• 31:20
  don't
• 31:20
  even
• 31:20
  bring
• 31:20
  up
• 31:21
  uninvolved
• 31:21
  because
• 31:21
  I
• 31:22
  don't
• 31:22
  know
• 31:22
  anyone
• 31:22
  who's
• 31:22
  uninvolved.
• 31:23
  There
• 31:23
  are
• 31:24
  people.
• 31:24
  I
• 31:24
  guess
• 31:25
  there
• 31:25
  are.
• 31:25
  There
• 31:25
  are
• 31:25
  plenty
• 31:26
  of
• 31:26
  people.
• 31:26
  I
• 31:26
  can't
• 31:27
  believe.
• 31:27
  I
• 31:27
  know.
• 31:27
  Why
• 31:27
  have
• 31:27
  a
• 31:28
  kid
• 31:28
  if
• 31:28
  you're
• 31:28
  not
• 31:28
  gonna
• 31:29
  enjoy
• 31:29
  them?
• 31:30
  I
• 31:30
  know.
• 31:30
  Yeah.
• 31:30
  They're
• 31:31
  so
• 31:31
  much
• 31:31
  fun.
• 31:31
  People
• 31:32
  listening
• 31:32
  to
• 31:32
  our
• 31:33
  podcast
• 31:33
  are
• 31:33
  not
• 31:34
  uninvolved.
• 31:34
  Yeah,
• 31:34
  that
• 31:35
  we
• 31:35
  can
• 31:35
  presume.
• 31:35
  Because
• 31:36
  if
• 31:36
  you
• 31:36
  care
• 31:36
  enough
• 31:37
  to
• 31:37
  listen
• 31:37
  to
• 31:37
  this,
• 31:38
  chances
• 31:38
  are
• 31:38
  you're.
• 31:39
  You're
• 31:39
  involved.
• 31:39
  Of
• 31:39
  course
• 31:40
  you're
• 31:40
  involved.
• 31:40
  This
• 31:40
  is
• 31:40
  a
• 31:41
  way
• 31:41
  of
• 31:41
  involving
• 31:41
  yourself.
• 31:42
  Exactly.
• 31:43
  Just
• 31:43
  this
• 31:43
  alone.
• 31:44
  Good
• 31:44
  work.
• 31:44
  You're
• 31:45
  already
• 31:45
  into
• 31:45
  one
• 31:46
  of
• 31:46
  the
• 31:46
  better
• 31:46
  three
• 31:46
  Cat.
• 31:47
  And
• 31:47
  the
• 31:47
  permissive
• 31:48
  category
• 31:48
  is
• 31:48
  not
• 31:49
  so
• 31:49
  good.
• 31:49
  But,
• 31:50
  you
• 31:50
  know,
• 31:50
  that's
• 31:51
  like
• 31:51
  when
• 31:51
  you
• 31:51
  try
• 31:51
  to
• 31:51
  be
• 31:52
  the
• 31:52
  friend
• 31:52
  to
• 31:52
  your
• 31:52
  child.
• 31:53
  Yeah.
• 31:53
  And
• 31:53
  authoritarian
• 31:54
  is,
• 31:55
  you
• 31:55
  know,
• 31:55
  punishing.
• 31:56
  And
• 31:57
  I
• 31:57
  think
• 31:57
  we're
• 31:57
  being
• 31:57
  judgmental
• 31:58
  of
• 31:58
  permissive
• 31:59
  parents
• 31:59
  because
• 31:59
  maybe
• 32:00
  some
• 32:00
  circumstances,
• 32:01
  like,
• 32:02
  maybe
• 32:02
  for
• 32:02
  the
• 32:02
  kid,
• 32:03
  it
• 32:03
  makes
• 32:03
  sense.
• 32:04
  I
• 32:04
  guess
• 32:05
  you're
• 32:05
  right.
• 32:05
  Maybe
• 32:05
  I,
• 32:06
  you
• 32:06
  know,
• 32:06
  look,
• 32:06
  but
• 32:07
  I'm
• 32:07
  just
• 32:07
  saying
• 32:07
  what
• 32:07
  the
• 32:07
  research
• 32:08
  says.
• 32:08
  Yeah.
• 32:08
  Okay.
• 32:09
  Me
• 32:09
  personally,
• 32:10
  I
• 32:10
  think
• 32:10
  if
• 32:10
  you
• 32:10
  want
• 32:10
  to
• 32:11
  be
• 32:11
  permissive
• 32:11
  and
• 32:11
  it
• 32:12
  makes
• 32:12
  sense.
• 32:12
  Yeah.
• 32:13
  If
• 32:13
  you.
• 32:13
  I'm
• 32:13
  not
• 32:13
  judging
• 32:14
  you.
• 32:14
  If
• 32:14
  you
• 32:14
  have
• 32:15
  a
• 32:15
  child
• 32:15
  who
• 32:15
  you
• 32:16
  really
• 32:16
  feel
• 32:16
  you
• 32:17
  can
• 32:17
  trust,
• 32:17
  like,
• 32:18
  I
• 32:18
  think
• 32:18
  of,
• 32:18
  like
• 32:18
  that
• 32:18
  book
• 32:19
  hunt
• 32:19
  Gather
• 32:19
  parents,
• 32:20
  and
• 32:21
  most
• 32:22
  of
• 32:22
  those
• 32:22
  communities
• 32:23
  were
• 32:23
  pretty
• 32:24
  permissive,
• 32:25
  you
• 32:25
  know,
• 32:26
  because
• 32:26
  I
• 32:26
  think
• 32:26
  that
• 32:26
  there
• 32:27
  was
• 32:27
  a
• 32:27
  level
• 32:27
  of
• 32:27
  trust
• 32:28
  both
• 32:28
  in
• 32:28
  their
• 32:29
  community
• 32:30
  and
• 32:31
  in
• 32:31
  their
• 32:31
  child.
• 32:32
  It's
• 32:32
  like,
• 32:32
  listen,
• 32:32
  you'll
• 32:32
  find.
• 32:33
  Figure
• 32:33
  it
• 32:33
  out.
• 32:34
  You
• 32:34
  are
• 32:34
  more
• 32:34
  capable
• 32:35
  than
• 32:36
  maybe
• 32:37
  we
• 32:37
  give
• 32:37
  you
• 32:37
  credit
• 32:37
  for.
• 32:38
  That's
• 32:38
  true.
• 32:39
  You
• 32:39
  know,
• 32:39
  I
• 32:40
  believe
• 32:40
  in
• 32:40
  you.
• 32:41
  Well,
• 32:41
  so.
• 32:41
  So
• 32:42
  you're
• 32:42
  right.
• 32:42
  There
• 32:42
  may
• 32:42
  be
• 32:42
  circumstances
• 32:43
  where
• 32:43
  it
• 32:44
  makes
• 32:44
  sense.
• 32:45
  Authoritative
• 32:46
  is
• 32:47
  what's
• 32:47
  almost
• 32:48
  always
• 32:48
  considered
• 32:49
  the
• 32:49
  best
• 32:49
  way
• 32:49
  to
• 32:50
  do
• 32:50
  it.
• 32:51
  And,
• 32:52
  you
• 32:52
  know,
• 32:53
  always
• 32:53
  across
• 32:53
  the
• 32:54
  board.
• 32:54
  Well,
• 32:54
  generally,
• 32:55
  that's
• 32:55
  what
• 32:55
  the
• 32:55
  research
• 32:56
  says.
• 32:56
  You
• 32:56
  know,
• 32:57
  authoritarian
• 32:58
  is
• 32:58
  when
• 32:58
  you're
• 32:58
  punishing
• 32:59
  your
• 32:59
  kids
• 32:59
  or
• 32:59
  you're
• 33:00
  saying
• 33:00
  it's
• 33:00
  my
• 33:00
  way
• 33:00
  or
• 33:00
  the.
• 33:01
  The
• 33:01
  highway,
• 33:01
  and
• 33:02
  you
• 33:02
  don't
• 33:02
  give
• 33:02
  them
• 33:02
  any.
• 33:02
  Say.
• 33:03
  You
• 33:03
  create
• 33:04
  a
• 33:04
  lot
• 33:04
  of
• 33:04
  opportunities
• 33:05
  for
• 33:05
  conflict.
• 33:06
  Yeah.
• 33:07
  And
• 33:08
  in
• 33:09
  Denmark,
• 33:09
  spanking
• 33:10
  is
• 33:10
  considered
• 33:10
  very
• 33:11
  bad
• 33:11
  for
• 33:11
  kids.
• 33:11
  Good.
• 33:12
  They
• 33:13
  say
• 33:13
  it
• 33:13
  leads
• 33:13
  to
• 33:13
  depression,
• 33:14
  lying,
• 33:14
  anxiety,
• 33:15
  drug
• 33:15
  and
• 33:16
  alcohol
• 33:16
  use.
• 33:17
  You
• 33:18
  might
• 33:18
  think
• 33:18
  it's
• 33:18
  effective,
• 33:19
  but
• 33:19
  kids
• 33:19
  only
• 33:20
  listen
• 33:20
  because
• 33:21
  they're
• 33:21
  afraid
• 33:21
  of
• 33:21
  you.
• 33:21
  Yeah.
• 33:22
  And
• 33:22
  that
• 33:22
  is
• 33:23
  not
• 33:23
  a
• 33:23
  healthy
• 33:23
  dynamic
• 33:24
  to
• 33:24
  create
• 33:24
  with
• 33:25
  your
• 33:25
  child.
• 33:25
  You
• 33:26
  don't
• 33:26
  want
• 33:26
  to
• 33:26
  be
• 33:27
  feared.
• 33:27
  You
• 33:27
  want
• 33:27
  to
• 33:27
  be
• 33:27
  respectful,
• 33:28
  respected.
• 33:29
  You
• 33:29
  know,
• 33:29
  and
• 33:29
  there's
• 33:30
  a
• 33:30
  very
• 33:31
  big
• 33:31
  gulf
• 33:31
  in
• 33:32
  between.
• 33:32
  And
• 33:33
  actually,
• 33:33
  spanking
• 33:34
  is
• 33:34
  illegal
• 33:34
  in
• 33:35
  Denmark.
• 33:35
  Love
• 33:36
  that.
• 33:36
  Yeah.
• 33:36
  Love
• 33:37
  that.
• 33:38
  It
• 33:38
  is
• 33:38
  antiquated.
• 33:40
  It
• 33:40
  is
• 33:40
  barbaric.
• 33:41
  Yeah.
• 33:41
  That's
• 33:42
  okay.
• 33:43
  And.
• 33:43
  And
• 33:44
  what's.
• 33:44
  It's
• 33:45
  nice
• 33:45
  because
• 33:45
  this.
• 33:45
  This
• 33:46
  gets
• 33:46
  into
• 33:46
  that
• 33:46
  whole
• 33:47
  positive
• 33:47
  language,
• 33:48
  but
• 33:48
  what
• 33:48
  we
• 33:49
  call
• 33:49
  the
• 33:49
  terrible
• 33:50
  twos,
• 33:50
  Danes
• 33:51
  call
• 33:51
  the
• 33:52
  boundary
• 33:52
  age,
• 33:52
  because
• 33:53
  this
• 33:53
  is
• 33:53
  when
• 33:53
  kids
• 33:54
  push
• 33:54
  boundaries,
• 33:55
  and
• 33:55
  that's
• 33:55
  normal
• 33:56
  and
• 33:56
  welcome
• 33:57
  and
• 33:57
  healthy.
• 33:58
  Yeah,
• 33:58
  exactly.
• 33:58
  It
• 33:59
  doesn't
• 33:59
  annoy
• 33:59
  them.
• 33:59
  So
• 34:00
  I
• 34:00
  like
• 34:00
  that.
• 34:01
  I
• 34:01
  hope
• 34:02
  that
• 34:02
  when
• 34:02
  my
• 34:03
  daughter
• 34:03
  reaches
• 34:04
  that
• 34:04
  stage,
• 34:04
  I
• 34:05
  can
• 34:05
  be
• 34:05
  as
• 34:05
  understanding.
• 34:06
  I
• 34:06
  hope
• 34:06
  so
• 34:06
  as
• 34:07
  that.
• 34:07
  Yeah.
• 34:08
  My
• 34:08
  big
• 34:08
  fear
• 34:09
  is
• 34:10
  that.
• 34:10
  And
• 34:11
  it's
• 34:11
  an
• 34:11
  irrational
• 34:12
  fear
• 34:12
  because
• 34:12
  my
• 34:13
  dogs
• 34:13
  are
• 34:13
  now
• 34:13
  learning
• 34:14
  to
• 34:14
  not
• 34:15
  run
• 34:15
  away.
• 34:15
  Yeah.
• 34:16
  But
• 34:16
  my
• 34:16
  fear
• 34:17
  is
• 34:17
  that
• 34:17
  one
• 34:17
  day
• 34:18
  she's
• 34:18
  just
• 34:18
  gonna
• 34:18
  open
• 34:18
  the
• 34:19
  door
• 34:19
  and
• 34:19
  let
• 34:19
  the
• 34:20
  dogs
• 34:20
  leave.
• 34:21
  Oh.
• 34:22
  And
• 34:22
  like,
• 34:22
  I
• 34:22
  know
• 34:23
  it's
• 34:23
  not
• 34:23
  rational,
• 34:23
  like
• 34:24
  she's
• 34:24
  never
• 34:24
  done
• 34:24
  it,
• 34:24
  but
• 34:25
  like,
• 34:25
  we've
• 34:26
  proofed
• 34:27
  our
• 34:27
  home.
• 34:28
  Right.
• 34:28
  In
• 34:28
  anticipation
• 34:29
  of
• 34:30
  that.
• 34:30
  Uh
• 34:30
  huh.
• 34:31
  But
• 34:31
  because.
• 34:31
  Oh
• 34:32
  my
• 34:32
  God.
• 34:32
  A
• 34:32
  couple
• 34:33
  months
• 34:33
  ago
• 34:34
  I
• 34:34
  was
• 34:34
  in
• 34:34
  my
• 34:34
  lobby
• 34:35
  and
• 34:35
  I
• 34:36
  noticed
• 34:36
  this
• 34:36
  like
• 34:37
  two
• 34:37
  year
• 34:37
  old
• 34:37
  boy
• 34:37
  just
• 34:38
  on
• 34:38
  the
• 34:38
  floor
• 34:38
  playing
• 34:39
  with
• 34:39
  something
• 34:39
  in
• 34:39
  the
• 34:39
  lobby.
• 34:40
  He
• 34:40
  was
• 34:40
  in
• 34:40
  his
• 34:40
  sleep
• 34:41
  sack
• 34:41
  and
• 34:41
  I
• 34:41
  was
• 34:41
  like,
• 34:41
  huh,
• 34:42
  Maybe
• 34:42
  his
• 34:42
  mom's
• 34:43
  like
• 34:43
  picking
• 34:43
  up
• 34:43
  a
• 34:43
  package
• 34:44
  or
• 34:44
  something.
• 34:44
  Did
• 34:45
  you
• 34:45
  know,
• 34:45
  wait
• 34:45
  and
• 34:46
  watch.
• 34:46
  Well,
• 34:46
  yeah,
• 34:47
  I
• 34:47
  had
• 34:47
  the
• 34:47
  dogs
• 34:47
  and
• 34:47
  I
• 34:47
  was
• 34:47
  like,
• 34:48
  this
• 34:48
  is
• 34:48
  strange
• 34:49
  because
• 34:49
  I
• 34:49
  was
• 34:49
  like,
• 34:49
  there
• 34:49
  was
• 34:50
  one
• 34:50
  doorman,
• 34:50
  I
• 34:50
  was
• 34:50
  like,
• 34:50
  I
• 34:51
  wonder
• 34:51
  what's
• 34:51
  going
• 34:51
  on?
• 34:51
  And
• 34:52
  then
• 34:52
  the
• 34:52
  elevator
• 34:53
  opens
• 34:53
  and
• 34:53
  the
• 34:53
  most
• 34:54
  frantic
• 34:54
  father
• 34:55
  I
• 34:55
  have
• 34:55
  ever
• 34:56
  seen
• 34:56
  in
• 34:56
  my
• 34:57
  life
• 34:58
  jumps
• 34:58
  out.
• 34:58
  And
• 34:58
  I
• 34:58
  see
• 34:59
  him
• 34:59
  take
• 34:59
  a
• 34:59
  breath
• 34:59
  and
• 34:59
  like
• 35:00
  take
• 35:00
  a
• 35:00
  moment
• 35:00
  to
• 35:00
  collect
• 35:01
  himself
• 35:01
  before
• 35:01
  he
• 35:02
  addresses
• 35:03
  his
• 35:03
  kid.
• 35:04
  Which
• 35:04
  was,
• 35:04
  honestly,
• 35:05
  I
• 35:05
  don't
• 35:05
  know
• 35:05
  that
• 35:05
  I
• 35:06
  would
• 35:06
  have
• 35:06
  had
• 35:06
  the
• 35:06
  wherewithal
• 35:07
  to
• 35:07
  do
• 35:07
  that
• 35:07
  in
• 35:07
  that
• 35:07
  situation.
• 35:07
  So
• 35:08
  good
• 35:08
  on
• 35:08
  him.
• 35:09
  But
• 35:10
  his
• 35:10
  kid
• 35:10
  escaped.
• 35:11
  He
• 35:11
  just
• 35:11
  escaped.
• 35:11
  He
• 35:12
  just
• 35:12
  escaped.
• 35:12
  Oh,
• 35:13
  it
• 35:13
  can
• 35:13
  happen.
• 35:14
  Yeah.
• 35:15
  I
• 35:15
  mean,
• 35:15
  that's
• 35:16
  one
• 35:16
  thing
• 35:16
  that
• 35:17
  I
• 35:17
  think
• 35:17
  the
• 35:17
  city
• 35:18
  in
• 35:18
  a
• 35:18
  way
• 35:18
  has
• 35:19
  on
• 35:19
  the
• 35:19
  suburbs.
• 35:20
  Like,
• 35:20
  if
• 35:21
  you're
• 35:21
  just
• 35:21
  in
• 35:21
  a
• 35:21
  house,
• 35:22
  no
• 35:22
  one's
• 35:23
  gonna
• 35:23
  stop
• 35:23
  your
• 35:23
  kid.
• 35:24
  Like,
• 35:24
  the
• 35:24
  doorman
• 35:25
  clearly
• 35:25
  was
• 35:25
  like,
• 35:25
  listen,
• 35:26
  like,
• 35:26
  if
• 35:26
  he's
• 35:26
  just
• 35:26
  in
• 35:27
  the
• 35:27
  lobby,
• 35:27
  it's
• 35:27
  okay.
• 35:28
  I'll
• 35:28
  call
• 35:28
  his
• 35:28
  dad
• 35:28
  or
• 35:29
  his
• 35:29
  mom.
• 35:29
  Right.
• 35:29
  Let
• 35:30
  him
• 35:30
  know.
• 35:30
  Yeah,
• 35:31
  but.
• 35:32
  And
• 35:32
  they're
• 35:33
  obviously
• 35:33
  not
• 35:33
  gonna
• 35:33
  like,
• 35:33
  let
• 35:34
  the
• 35:34
  kid
• 35:34
  leave
• 35:35
  the
• 35:35
  premises.
• 35:35
  Yeah,
• 35:36
  right.
• 35:36
  But
• 35:37
  yeah,
• 35:37
  like
• 35:37
  if
• 35:38
  you're
• 35:38
  just
• 35:38
  in
• 35:38
  a
• 35:38
  house
• 35:38
  and
• 35:38
  your
• 35:38
  kid
• 35:39
  leaves,
• 35:39
  like,
• 35:39
  what
• 35:39
  do
• 35:39
  you
• 35:40
  do?
• 35:40
  Oh
• 35:41
  my
• 35:41
  God.
• 35:41
  Yeah.
• 35:42
  Well,
• 35:42
  so,
• 35:43
  well,
• 35:43
  and,
• 35:43
  and
• 35:44
  this
• 35:44
  was
• 35:44
  a
• 35:44
  child
• 35:44
  who
• 35:45
  couldn't
• 35:45
  be
• 35:45
  punished
• 35:46
  or
• 35:46
  yelled
• 35:47
  at
• 35:47
  because
• 35:47
  he
• 35:47
  was
• 35:47
  a
• 35:48
  baby.
• 35:48
  Yeah,
• 35:48
  he
• 35:48
  was
• 35:48
  a
• 35:48
  baby.
• 35:49
  He
• 35:49
  didn't
• 35:49
  know
• 35:49
  better.
• 35:50
  Right,
• 35:50
  right,
• 35:50
  Exactly.
• 35:51
  He's
• 35:51
  just
• 35:52
  out.
• 35:52
  He's
• 35:52
  like,
• 35:52
  I'm
• 35:52
  just
• 35:52
  hanging
• 35:52
  in
• 35:53
  the
• 35:53
  lobby
• 35:53
  for
• 35:53
  a
• 35:53
  while.
• 35:54
  Whenever
• 35:54
  I
• 35:54
  see
• 35:54
  an
• 35:55
  unattended
• 35:56
  child,
• 35:57
  I
• 35:57
  immediately
• 35:58
  go
• 35:58
  attend
• 35:58
  that
• 35:58
  child.
• 35:59
  Until
• 35:59
  I
• 35:59
  see
• 35:59
  a
• 36:00
  parent.
• 36:00
  I
• 36:00
  just
• 36:00
  do
• 36:01
  it.
• 36:01
  I
• 36:01
  just
• 36:01
  do
• 36:01
  it.
• 36:02
  I
• 36:02
  can't
• 36:02
  help
• 36:02
  myself.
• 36:03
  Just
• 36:03
  as
• 36:03
  a
• 36:03
  mom.
• 36:03
  Yeah.
• 36:04
  I
• 36:04
  don't
• 36:04
  blame
• 36:04
  you.
• 36:04
  I
• 36:05
  don't
• 36:05
  blame
• 36:05
  you.
• 36:06
  Just
• 36:06
  in
• 36:06
  case.
• 36:06
  Just
• 36:07
  in
• 36:07
  case.
• 36:07
  Where's
• 36:07
  the
• 36:08
  mom?
• 36:08
  Where's
• 36:08
  the
• 36:08
  mom?
• 36:08
  I
• 36:09
  do
• 36:09
  that
• 36:09
  all
• 36:09
  the
• 36:09
  time.
• 36:09
  I
• 36:10
  mean,
• 36:10
  it
• 36:10
  happens.
• 36:10
  I
• 36:11
  seen
• 36:11
  it.
• 36:11
  Yeah.
• 36:11
  And
• 36:12
  you
• 36:12
  never
• 36:12
  know
• 36:12
  what
• 36:12
  the
• 36:12
  Circumstances,
• 36:13
  you
• 36:14
  just
• 36:14
  never
• 36:14
  know.
• 36:14
  So
• 36:15
  you
• 36:15
  just.
• 36:15
  Just
• 36:16
  make
• 36:16
  sure
• 36:16
  this
• 36:16
  kid's
• 36:16
  okay.
• 36:17
  That
• 36:17
  happened
• 36:17
  to
• 36:17
  me
• 36:17
  once
• 36:17
  on
• 36:18
  the
• 36:18
  train.
• 36:18
  I
• 36:18
  was
• 36:18
  coming
• 36:18
  back
• 36:19
  from
• 36:19
  Yankee
• 36:19
  Stadium,
• 36:19
  and
• 36:20
  this
• 36:20
  little
• 36:20
  girl
• 36:20
  got
• 36:21
  separated
• 36:21
  from
• 36:22
  her
• 36:22
  mom
• 36:22
  on
• 36:22
  the
• 36:23
  subway.
• 36:23
  And
• 36:23
  she
• 36:23
  was
• 36:24
  on
• 36:24
  and
• 36:24
  her
• 36:24
  mom
• 36:24
  was
• 36:24
  off.
• 36:25
  And
• 36:25
  the
• 36:25
  look
• 36:26
  on
• 36:26
  her
• 36:26
  mom's
• 36:26
  face,
• 36:27
  sheer
• 36:27
  terror.
• 36:27
  What
• 36:28
  did
• 36:28
  you
• 36:28
  do?
• 36:28
  I
• 36:29
  just
• 36:29
  said,
• 36:29
  next
• 36:29
  stop.
• 36:30
  I'll
• 36:30
  stay
• 36:30
  with
• 36:30
  the
• 36:30
  kid.
• 36:31
  Next
• 36:31
  stop.
• 36:32
  And
• 36:32
  then
• 36:32
  we
• 36:32
  waited
• 36:33
  on
• 36:33
  the
• 36:33
  platform
• 36:33
  for
• 36:33
  her
• 36:34
  mom
• 36:34
  and
• 36:34
  her
• 36:34
  mom.
• 36:34
  I've
• 36:35
  never
• 36:35
  seen
• 36:36
  so
• 36:36
  much
• 36:36
  fear.
• 36:37
  And
• 36:37
  I
• 36:37
  get
• 36:37
  it.
• 36:37
  It's
• 36:37
  like
• 36:38
  they're
• 36:38
  probably
• 36:38
  not
• 36:38
  from
• 36:39
  the
• 36:39
  city.
• 36:39
  He
• 36:39
  doesn't
• 36:40
  know
• 36:40
  who
• 36:40
  you
• 36:40
  are.
• 36:40
  Yeah.
• 36:41
  Kidnapper.
• 36:42
  I
• 36:42
  could,
• 36:42
  but
• 36:42
  I
• 36:42
  didn't
• 36:43
  look
• 36:43
  like
• 36:43
  a
• 36:43
  kidnapper.
• 36:43
  I
• 36:44
  wasn't
• 36:44
  like,
• 36:44
  giving
• 36:44
  off
• 36:45
  kidnapper.
• 36:46
  Well,
• 36:46
  I
• 36:46
  know,
• 36:46
  but,
• 36:47
  you
• 36:47
  know,
• 36:47
  you
• 36:47
  never
• 36:48
  know.
• 36:49
  I
• 36:49
  think
• 36:49
  if
• 36:49
  it
• 36:49
  were
• 36:49
  like
• 36:49
  a
• 36:50
  giant
• 36:50
  man
• 36:50
  who,
• 36:51
  like,
• 36:51
  looked
• 36:51
  gruff
• 36:53
  like,
• 36:53
  I
• 36:53
  think
• 36:53
  she
• 36:53
  probably
• 36:54
  would
• 36:54
  like.
• 36:54
  Please.
• 36:54
  No,
• 36:55
  no,
• 36:56
  but
• 36:56
  they
• 36:56
  think.
• 36:56
  I
• 36:57
  mean,
• 36:57
  what
• 36:57
  do
• 36:57
  you
• 36:57
  do?
• 36:58
  Okay.
• 36:58
  Anyway,
• 36:59
  back
• 36:59
  to
• 36:59
  the
• 36:59
  Danes.
• 37:00
  Back
• 37:00
  to
• 37:00
  the
• 37:00
  day.
• 37:00
  Back
• 37:01
  to
• 37:01
  the
• 37:01
  Danes.
• 37:02
  Okay,
• 37:03
  so
• 37:04
  let's
• 37:04
  see.
• 37:04
  We
• 37:05
  find
• 37:05
  out
• 37:05
  that
• 37:06
  Danish
• 37:06
  parents
• 37:07
  pick
• 37:07
  their
• 37:08
  battles.
• 37:09
  They
• 37:09
  don't
• 37:09
  make
• 37:10
  a
• 37:10
  big
• 37:10
  deal
• 37:10
  about
• 37:11
  children's
• 37:12
  choices
• 37:13
  in
• 37:13
  general.
• 37:14
  They
• 37:14
  know
• 37:14
  that
• 37:14
  kids
• 37:15
  will
• 37:15
  test
• 37:15
  things.
• 37:16
  And
• 37:16
  they
• 37:16
  try
• 37:16
  to
• 37:16
  avoid
• 37:17
  power
• 37:17
  games.
• 37:19
  The
• 37:19
  way
• 37:19
  they
• 37:19
  eat.
• 37:19
  They
• 37:20
  give
• 37:20
  kids
• 37:20
  healthy
• 37:21
  choices
• 37:22
  of
• 37:22
  everything.
• 37:22
  They
• 37:23
  can
• 37:23
  eat
• 37:23
  whatever
• 37:23
  they
• 37:23
  want.
• 37:25
  Not
• 37:26
  as
• 37:26
  much
• 37:26
  about
• 37:26
  eating
• 37:27
  in
• 37:27
  Denmark.
• 37:28
  Well,
• 37:28
  I
• 37:29
  like
• 37:29
  that.
• 37:29
  It's
• 37:29
  like.
• 37:29
  It's
• 37:30
  sort
• 37:30
  of
• 37:30
  that
• 37:30
  principle
• 37:30
  of,
• 37:31
  I'm
• 37:31
  going
• 37:31
  to
• 37:31
  give
• 37:31
  you
• 37:31
  a
• 37:31
  bunch
• 37:31
  of
• 37:32
  options,
• 37:32
  all
• 37:32
  of
• 37:32
  which
• 37:32
  I
• 37:33
  approve
• 37:33
  of.
• 37:33
  You
• 37:33
  can
• 37:34
  have
• 37:34
  any.
• 37:34
  Have
• 37:34
  whatever
• 37:34
  you
• 37:34
  want
• 37:35
  that
• 37:35
  I
• 37:36
  think
• 37:36
  I'm
• 37:36
  gonna
• 37:36
  use.
• 37:37
  Yeah.
• 37:37
  Because
• 37:38
  I
• 37:38
  want
• 37:38
  my
• 37:38
  daughter
• 37:39
  to
• 37:39
  feel
• 37:39
  like
• 37:39
  she
• 37:39
  has
• 37:40
  autonomy
• 37:40
  and
• 37:40
  choices
• 37:41
  over
• 37:41
  what
• 37:41
  she
• 37:41
  eats.
• 37:42
  But
• 37:42
  it's
• 37:42
  gonna
• 37:42
  be
• 37:43
  pre
• 37:43
  approved
• 37:43
  things.
• 37:43
  It's
• 37:44
  the
• 37:44
  same
• 37:44
  way
• 37:44
  I
• 37:44
  treat
• 37:44
  furniture
• 37:45
  in
• 37:45
  my
• 37:45
  apartment
• 37:46
  with
• 37:46
  my
• 37:46
  husband.
• 37:47
  Pick
• 37:47
  any
• 37:48
  of
• 37:48
  these.
• 37:48
  I
• 37:48
  like
• 37:48
  them
• 37:49
  all.
• 37:49
  Whatever
• 37:49
  you
• 37:49
  want,
• 37:50
  I'll
• 37:50
  be
• 37:50
  okay
• 37:51
  with.
• 37:51
  Yeah,
• 37:51
  it's
• 37:51
  always
• 37:52
  a
• 37:52
  good
• 37:52
  way
• 37:52
  to
• 37:52
  give
• 37:52
  people
• 37:52
  choice.
• 37:53
  I
• 37:54
  like
• 37:54
  that.
• 37:55
  And
• 37:55
  rather
• 37:56
  than
• 37:57
  yelling
• 37:57
  at
• 37:58
  kids
• 37:58
  or
• 37:58
  saying
• 37:59
  no,
• 37:59
  which
• 37:59
  they
• 38:00
  call
• 38:00
  it,
• 38:00
  that
• 38:00
  to
• 38:00
  them
• 38:01
  is
• 38:01
  an
• 38:01
  ultimatum.
• 38:02
  And
• 38:02
  parents
• 38:02
  try
• 38:03
  to
• 38:03
  offer
• 38:04
  distractions,
• 38:06
  humor.
• 38:07
  They
• 38:07
  take
• 38:07
  kids
• 38:07
  out
• 38:08
  of
• 38:08
  bad
• 38:08
  situations.
• 38:10
  They
• 38:10
  take
• 38:10
  away
• 38:11
  something
• 38:11
  they're
• 38:11
  throwing.
• 38:12
  So
• 38:12
  they
• 38:12
  just
• 38:12
  try
• 38:12
  to.
• 38:13
  Rather
• 38:13
  than
• 38:14
  make
• 38:14
  a
• 38:14
  scene
• 38:14
  or
• 38:14
  make
• 38:15
  a
• 38:15
  big
• 38:15
  deal
• 38:15
  of
• 38:15
  things,
• 38:16
  they
• 38:16
  calmly
• 38:17
  kind
• 38:17
  of
• 38:17
  diffuse
• 38:18
  the
• 38:18
  situation.
• 38:19
  Great.
• 38:20
  We
• 38:20
  can
• 38:20
  all
• 38:20
  learn
• 38:20
  from
• 38:20
  that.
• 38:21
  We
• 38:21
  can.
• 38:21
  Yeah.
• 38:22
  That
• 38:22
  was
• 38:22
  good.
• 38:23
  And
• 38:24
  now
• 38:25
  we
• 38:25
  talk
• 38:25
  about
• 38:27
  what
• 38:27
  is
• 38:28
  spelled
• 38:28
  H,
• 38:28
  Y,
• 38:28
  G,
• 38:29
  G,
• 38:29
  E,
• 38:29
  which
• 38:30
  we
• 38:30
  thought
• 38:30
  was
• 38:30
  Hygge,
• 38:31
  but
• 38:31
  not.
• 38:32
  It's
• 38:32
  Hygge.
• 38:34
  It's.
• 38:34
  That's
• 38:34
  how
• 38:34
  you.
• 38:35
  And.
• 38:35
  And
• 38:35
  it
• 38:35
  comes
• 38:36
  from
• 38:36
  the
• 38:36
  German
• 38:37
  word
• 38:37
  that
• 38:37
  means
• 38:37
  to
• 38:38
  think
• 38:38
  or
• 38:38
  feel
• 38:39
  satisfied.
• 38:39
  This
• 38:40
  is
• 38:40
  a
• 38:40
  big
• 38:40
  cultural
• 38:41
  thing.
• 38:41
  Yeah.
• 38:42
  In
• 38:42
  Denmark,
• 38:44
  even
• 38:44
  when
• 38:44
  I
• 38:45
  looked
• 38:45
  it
• 38:45
  up,
• 38:46
  like
• 38:46
  I
• 38:46
  looked
• 38:46
  up
• 38:46
  on
• 38:47
  AI
• 38:47
  just
• 38:48
  to
• 38:48
  see
• 38:48
  what
• 38:48
  does
• 38:48
  AI
• 38:49
  say?
• 38:49
  Why
• 38:49
  are
• 38:50
  these
• 38:50
  people
• 38:50
  so
• 38:50
  happy?
• 38:52
  They
• 38:52
  said
• 38:52
  huga.
• 38:54
  That
• 38:54
  was
• 38:54
  one
• 38:54
  of
• 38:54
  the
• 38:54
  things.
• 38:54
  Well,
• 38:55
  listen,
• 38:55
  if
• 38:55
  AI
• 38:55
  said
• 38:55
  so.
• 38:56
  AI
• 38:56
  says
• 38:56
  it's
• 38:57
  a
• 38:57
  big
• 38:57
  part
• 38:57
  of
• 38:58
  the
• 38:58
  culture.
• 38:58
  And
• 38:58
  this
• 38:59
  is
• 38:59
  what
• 38:59
  the
• 38:59
  author
• 38:59
  says
• 39:00
  too.
• 39:00
  Cool.
• 39:00
  What
• 39:01
  does
• 39:01
  it
• 39:01
  mean?
• 39:02
  It
• 39:03
  means
• 39:03
  to
• 39:03
  cozy
• 39:04
  around
• 39:04
  together.
• 39:05
  It's
• 39:05
  a
• 39:05
  way
• 39:05
  of
• 39:06
  life
• 39:06
  in
• 39:06
  Denmark.
• 39:06
  It
• 39:07
  involves
• 39:07
  cozying
• 39:08
  around
• 39:08
  as
• 39:08
  a
• 39:09
  family,
• 39:09
  lighting
• 39:10
  candles,
• 39:11
  playing
• 39:11
  games,
• 39:12
  eating
• 39:12
  nice
• 39:13
  meals,
• 39:13
  having
• 39:14
  cake
• 39:14
  and
• 39:14
  tea
• 39:15
  in
• 39:15
  a
• 39:15
  cozy
• 39:16
  atmosphere.
• 39:17
  Love
• 39:17
  that.
• 39:17
  Doesn't
• 39:18
  that
• 39:18
  sound
• 39:18
  great?
• 39:19
  That's
• 39:19
  a
• 39:19
  big
• 39:19
  part
• 39:20
  of
• 39:20
  their
• 39:20
  culture.
• 39:20
  I
• 39:21
  love
• 39:21
  that
• 39:21
  you're
• 39:22
  creating
• 39:22
  a
• 39:22
  psychological
• 39:23
  space
• 39:23
  where
• 39:24
  that
• 39:24
  you
• 39:24
  can
• 39:24
  get
• 39:25
  into
• 39:25
  with
• 39:25
  the
• 39:25
  people
• 39:26
  you
• 39:26
  love
• 39:27
  and
• 39:27
  you're
• 39:28
  just
• 39:28
  present
• 39:28
  with
• 39:28
  your
• 39:29
  loved
• 39:29
  ones.
• 39:30
  It's
• 39:31
  recharging
• 39:31
  for
• 39:31
  everyone.
• 39:32
  It
• 39:33
  sounds
• 39:33
  like
• 39:33
  Shabbat.
• 39:34
  It
• 39:34
  does.
• 39:34
  That's
• 39:34
  what
• 39:35
  I
• 39:35
  thought.
• 39:35
  The
• 39:35
  same
• 39:35
  thing.
• 39:36
  It's
• 39:36
  like
• 39:36
  Friday
• 39:36
  night
• 39:37
  Shabbat.
• 39:37
  That's
• 39:38
  what
• 39:38
  it
• 39:38
  sounded
• 39:38
  like.
• 39:39
  It's
• 39:39
  recharging.
• 39:40
  It's
• 39:40
  like
• 39:40
  there's
• 39:40
  little
• 39:41
  negativity.
• 39:41
  There's
• 39:42
  no
• 39:42
  complaining.
• 39:43
  They
• 39:43
  sing.
• 39:44
  Well,
• 39:44
  there's
• 39:44
  a
• 39:44
  lot
• 39:45
  of
• 39:45
  complaining
• 39:45
  at
• 39:45
  Shabbat.
• 39:46
  Yeah,
• 39:46
  I
• 39:46
  guess
• 39:46
  there
• 39:46
  is,
• 39:47
  but
• 39:47
  here
• 39:48
  there's
• 39:48
  not.
• 39:48
  They
• 39:48
  don't
• 39:49
  complain
• 39:49
  in
• 39:49
  Nedmark,
• 39:51
  but
• 39:51
  they
• 39:51
  sing.
• 39:53
  That's
• 39:53
  cute.
• 39:53
  And
• 39:53
  they're
• 39:54
  always
• 39:54
  trying
• 39:54
  to
• 39:54
  make
• 39:54
  cozy
• 39:55
  time
• 39:55
  together.
• 39:56
  And
• 39:56
  they
• 39:56
  have
• 39:56
  this
• 39:56
  great
• 39:57
  feeling
• 39:57
  of
• 39:57
  connection.
• 39:59
  And
• 40:00
  there's
• 40:00
  no
• 40:00
  drama.
• 40:02
  And
• 40:02
  it's
• 40:02
  all
• 40:02
  about
• 40:03
  making
• 40:03
  everyone
• 40:04
  happy.
• 40:04
  Not
• 40:05
  just,
• 40:05
  you
• 40:05
  know,
• 40:06
  not
• 40:07
  one
• 40:07
  person,
• 40:07
  but
• 40:08
  everybody.
• 40:09
  And.
• 40:10
  And
• 40:10
  they
• 40:10
  say
• 40:10
  that,
• 40:10
  you
• 40:10
  know,
• 40:11
  groups
• 40:11
  in
• 40:11
  general
• 40:11
  are
• 40:12
  just
• 40:12
  so
• 40:12
  important.
• 40:12
  In
• 40:13
  Denmark.
• 40:13
  It's
• 40:13
  all
• 40:13
  about
• 40:14
  the
• 40:14
  group.
• 40:14
  I
• 40:14
  like
• 40:15
  that.
• 40:15
  Yeah.
• 40:16
  The.
• 40:16
  At
• 40:16
  school
• 40:17
  kids
• 40:17
  work
• 40:17
  on
• 40:17
  group
• 40:18
  projects.
• 40:19
  People.
• 40:21
  It's
• 40:21
  community.
• 40:22
  They.
• 40:22
  They're.
• 40:22
  You're
• 40:23
  not
• 40:23
  encouraging
• 40:23
  one
• 40:24
  person
• 40:24
  to
• 40:24
  stand
• 40:25
  out.
• 40:26
  It's
• 40:27
  like,
• 40:27
  isn't
• 40:27
  that.
• 40:28
  Which
• 40:28
  is
• 40:28
  different
• 40:28
  from
• 40:29
  America?
• 40:29
  Yeah.
• 40:29
  It's
• 40:30
  all
• 40:30
  about
• 40:30
  individualism.
• 40:31
  Like,
• 40:31
  set
• 40:32
  yourself
• 40:32
  apart
• 40:32
  from
• 40:33
  the
• 40:33
  crowd.
• 40:33
  Be
• 40:34
  the
• 40:34
  best.
• 40:34
  Right.
• 40:35
  Singular.
• 40:36
  Singular.
• 40:36
  And
• 40:37
  here
• 40:37
  it's
• 40:37
  like,
• 40:37
  no.
• 40:37
  Like
• 40:38
  we're
• 40:38
  just
• 40:39
  all
• 40:39
  going
• 40:39
  to
• 40:39
  be
• 40:39
  improved.
• 40:40
  Yeah.
• 40:40
  And
• 40:41
  I
• 40:41
  like
• 40:41
  that.
• 40:41
  That's.
• 40:42
  That's
• 40:42
  sweet.
• 40:43
  Very
• 40:43
  nice.
• 40:43
  And
• 40:44
  okay.
• 40:44
  When
• 40:45
  enjoying
• 40:45
  Hygge
• 40:46
  time,
• 40:46
  turn
• 40:46
  off
• 40:47
  your
• 40:47
  electronics.
• 40:49
  No
• 40:49
  drama.
• 40:50
  Don't
• 40:50
  complain.
• 40:51
  Look
• 40:51
  for
• 40:51
  ways
• 40:52
  you
• 40:52
  can
• 40:52
  be
• 40:52
  helpful.
• 40:52
  Light
• 40:53
  candles,
• 40:54
  put
• 40:54
  on
• 40:54
  a
• 40:54
  fire.
• 40:55
  If
• 40:55
  there's
• 40:55
  a
• 40:55
  fireplace.
• 40:57
  Enjoy
• 40:57
  the
• 40:57
  food,
• 40:58
  the
• 40:58
  drinks.
• 40:58
  Don't
• 40:59
  bring
• 40:59
  up
• 40:59
  controversial
• 41:00
  topics.
• 41:01
  Tell
• 41:01
  stories.
• 41:02
  Don't
• 41:03
  brag.
• 41:04
  Think
• 41:05
  we.
• 41:05
  Not
• 41:06
  me.
• 41:07
  Don't
• 41:07
  talk
• 41:07
  negatively.
• 41:08
  Play
• 41:08
  Games.
• 41:09
  It's
• 41:09
  just
• 41:10
  feel
• 41:10
  gratitude
• 41:11
  for
• 41:11
  the
• 41:11
  people
• 41:11
  that
• 41:11
  are
• 41:11
  around
• 41:12
  you.
• 41:12
  Totally.
• 41:12
  That's
• 41:13
  what
• 41:13
  it
• 41:13
  is.
• 41:15
  Yeah.
• 41:15
  I
• 41:15
  love
• 41:15
  Hygge
• 41:16
  time.
• 41:16
  I
• 41:17
  love
• 41:17
  Hygge
• 41:17
  time
• 41:18
  as
• 41:18
  well.
• 41:18
  We
• 41:18
  should
• 41:18
  have
• 41:19
  Hygge
• 41:19
  time
• 41:19
  ourselves.
• 41:20
  I
• 41:20
  feel
• 41:20
  like
• 41:20
  I
• 41:21
  try
• 41:21
  and
• 41:22
  create
• 41:23
  that
• 41:23
  atmosphere
• 41:24
  like
• 41:25
  at
• 41:25
  least
• 41:25
  once
• 41:25
  a
• 41:25
  week
• 41:26
  when
• 41:26
  my
• 41:26
  whole
• 41:26
  family
• 41:27
  is
• 41:27
  at
• 41:28
  our
• 41:28
  home.
• 41:28
  And
• 41:28
  it
• 41:28
  makes
• 41:29
  me
• 41:29
  so
• 41:29
  happy.
• 41:29
  It
• 41:29
  reminds
• 41:30
  me
• 41:30
  of
• 41:30
  like
• 41:30
  our
• 41:30
  Thanksgiving
• 41:31
  where
• 41:31
  it
• 41:32
  was
• 41:32
  our
• 41:32
  family
• 41:33
  and
• 41:34
  my
• 41:34
  husband's
• 41:34
  family
• 41:35
  and
• 41:35
  my
• 41:36
  sister
• 41:36
  in
• 41:36
  law's
• 41:37
  husband's
• 41:37
  family.
• 41:38
  I
• 41:38
  love
• 41:38
  that.
• 41:38
  It
• 41:38
  was
• 41:39
  just
• 41:39
  so
• 41:40
  nice,
• 41:40
  warm,
• 41:41
  cozy.
• 41:42
  It
• 41:42
  was
• 41:42
  Hygge.
• 41:42
  It
• 41:43
  was.
• 41:43
  It
• 41:44
  was
• 41:44
  total
• 41:44
  Hygge
• 41:45
  time.
• 41:45
  Total
• 41:45
  Hygge
• 41:46
  time.
• 41:46
  I
• 41:46
  know.
• 41:46
  You
• 41:46
  got
• 41:46
  to
• 41:47
  explain
• 41:47
  that
• 41:47
  to
• 41:47
  your
• 41:47
  in
• 41:48
  laws.
• 41:48
  I
• 41:48
  will.
• 41:48
  I
• 41:49
  feel
• 41:49
  like
• 41:49
  we
• 41:49
  do
• 41:49
  that
• 41:49
  though
• 41:50
  because
• 41:50
  they
• 41:50
  do
• 41:50
  end
• 41:50
  a
• 41:50
  lot
• 41:51
  of.
• 41:51
  Yeah.
• 41:51
  We
• 41:51
  spend
• 41:51
  a
• 41:52
  lot
• 41:52
  of
• 41:52
  weekends
• 41:52
  together
• 41:53
  just
• 41:53
  because
• 41:53
  they're
• 41:54
  here
• 41:55
  and
• 41:56
  it's
• 41:56
  just
• 41:56
  really
• 41:56
  nice.
• 41:57
  It's
• 41:57
  nice
• 41:57
  to
• 41:57
  all
• 41:58
  be
• 41:58
  together.
• 41:58
  Yeah.
• 41:59
  You
• 41:59
  know,
• 41:59
  they
• 42:00
  make
• 42:00
  a
• 42:00
  great
• 42:00
  Hga
• 42:01
  Hygge.
• 42:02
  They're
• 42:02
  good
• 42:02
  at
• 42:02
  that.
• 42:03
  They
• 42:03
  really
• 42:03
  are.
• 42:04
  You
• 42:04
  know,
• 42:04
  I
• 42:04
  was
• 42:05
  thinking
• 42:05
  about
• 42:05
  this
• 42:06
  book
• 42:06
  and
• 42:06
  I
• 42:07
  was
• 42:07
  thinking,
• 42:07
  you
• 42:07
  know,
• 42:08
  these
• 42:08
  are
• 42:09
  all
• 42:09
  these
• 42:09
  different
• 42:10
  cultural
• 42:10
  things.
• 42:12
  It's
• 42:12
  a
• 42:12
  little
• 42:12
  bit
• 42:13
  easier
• 42:13
  as
• 42:13
  a
• 42:14
  society
• 42:15
  in
• 42:16
  Denmark
• 42:16
  to
• 42:17
  do
• 42:17
  this
• 42:17
  because
• 42:18
  to
• 42:18
  have
• 42:19
  such
• 42:19
  a
• 42:19
  strong
• 42:20
  culture.
• 42:20
  It's
• 42:21
  a
• 42:21
  very
• 42:21
  homogeneous
• 42:22
  culture.
• 42:22
  Yes.
• 42:24
  There's
• 42:24
  about
• 42:25
  homogenous.
• 42:26
  Did
• 42:26
  I
• 42:26
  say
• 42:26
  that
• 42:26
  wrong?
• 42:27
  Homogeneous.
• 42:29
  Maybe
• 42:29
  it's
• 42:29
  homogenous.
• 42:30
  It
• 42:30
  is
• 42:30
  homogenous.
• 42:32
  That's
• 42:32
  okay.
• 42:34
  You
• 42:34
  said
• 42:34
  it
• 42:34
  with
• 42:34
  such
• 42:35
  conviction.
• 42:35
  I
• 42:35
  was
• 42:35
  like,
• 42:35
  do
• 42:36
  I
• 42:36
  not.
• 42:36
  Do
• 42:36
  I
• 42:36
  not
• 42:37
  know
• 42:37
  this
• 42:37
  word?
• 42:38
  You
• 42:39
  know,
• 42:39
  I'm
• 42:39
  terrible.
• 42:40
  It's
• 42:40
  okay.
• 42:41
  Listen,
• 42:41
  I
• 42:41
  love.
• 42:42
  I
• 42:42
  love
• 42:42
  homogeneous.
• 42:43
  Homogeneous.
• 42:43
  It's
• 42:44
  not
• 42:44
  homogeneous.
• 42:45
  No.
• 42:46
  Unless
• 42:47
  someone
• 42:47
  correct
• 42:47
  me
• 42:48
  if
• 42:48
  I'm
• 42:48
  wrong
• 42:48
  because
• 42:48
  they're
• 42:49
  very.
• 42:49
  What
• 42:49
  do
• 42:49
  I
• 42:50
  know?
• 42:50
  There's
• 42:50
  a
• 42:50
  probability.
• 42:50
  I'm
• 42:51
  probably
• 42:51
  wrong.
• 42:51
  I
• 42:51
  know,
• 42:52
  but
• 42:52
  listen.
• 42:52
  Homogeneous.
• 42:53
  Yeah.
• 42:53
  It's
• 42:53
  like.
• 42:53
  It
• 42:53
  is
• 42:54
  a
• 42:54
  homogeneous
• 42:54
  community.
• 42:55
  It
• 42:55
  is
• 42:55
  homogeneous.
• 42:56
  They're
• 42:56
  the
• 42:56
  same.
• 42:57
  That's
• 42:57
  the
• 42:57
  idea.
• 42:57
  They
• 42:58
  probably.
• 42:58
  I'm
• 42:58
  not
• 42:59
  even
• 42:59
  going
• 42:59
  to
• 42:59
  say
• 42:59
  what
• 42:59
  I
• 42:59
  was
• 42:59
  about
• 43:00
  to
• 43:00
  say.
• 43:00
  No,
• 43:00
  no,
• 43:02
  they
• 43:02
  are.
• 43:03
  I'll
• 43:03
  tell
• 43:03
  you,
• 43:03
  I
• 43:03
  looked
• 43:04
  it
• 43:04
  up.
• 43:04
  They.
• 43:04
  There
• 43:04
  are
• 43:05
  six.
• 43:05
  Let's
• 43:05
  see,
• 43:05
  about
• 43:05
  6
• 43:06
  million
• 43:06
  Danes.
• 43:08
  They.
• 43:08
  86%.
• 43:09
  Almost
• 43:10
  90%
• 43:10
  of
• 43:10
  them
• 43:10
  are
• 43:11
  ethnic
• 43:11
  Danes.
• 43:12
  I
• 43:12
  mean,
• 43:12
  they
• 43:12
  are
• 43:12
  all
• 43:13
  from
• 43:13
  the
• 43:13
  same
• 43:13
  place.
• 43:14
  Yes.
• 43:15
  Not
• 43:15
  a
• 43:15
  lot
• 43:15
  of
• 43:15
  people
• 43:15
  come
• 43:16
  or
• 43:16
  go.
• 43:16
  Most
• 43:17
  of
• 43:17
  them
• 43:17
  are
• 43:17
  the
• 43:17
  same
• 43:18
  religion.
• 43:18
  Yeah.
• 43:19
  So
• 43:19
  it's
• 43:19
  easy.
• 43:20
  It's
• 43:20
  very
• 43:20
  easy
• 43:21
  to
• 43:21
  get
• 43:21
  people
• 43:22
  to
• 43:22
  do
• 43:22
  the
• 43:22
  same
• 43:22
  thing.
• 43:23
  Yes.
• 43:23
  And
• 43:23
  agree
• 43:24
  on
• 43:24
  stuff.
• 43:24
  Because
• 43:25
  everyone
• 43:25
  shares
• 43:25
  the
• 43:25
  same
• 43:25
  value
• 43:26
  system.
• 43:26
  Not
• 43:26
  everyone,
• 43:27
  but
• 43:27
  for
• 43:27
  the.
• 43:27
  The
• 43:27
  most
• 43:27
  part.
• 43:28
  Exactly.
• 43:28
  So
• 43:29
  it's
• 43:29
  harder
• 43:30
  to
• 43:30
  be
• 43:30
  homogeneous
• 43:31
  or
• 43:31
  homogeneous
• 43:32
  in
• 43:32
  America.
• 43:33
  Well,
• 43:33
  we
• 43:33
  are
• 43:33
  not
• 43:34
  a
• 43:34
  homogeneous
• 43:34
  society.
• 43:35
  Meeting.
• 43:35
  We
• 43:36
  have
• 43:36
  so
• 43:36
  many
• 43:36
  different.
• 43:37
  Yeah.
• 43:37
  Religions,
• 43:38
  races
• 43:38
  and
• 43:39
  cultures.
• 43:39
  Especially
• 43:40
  in
• 43:40
  New
• 43:40
  York
• 43:40
  City,
• 43:41
  it's
• 43:41
  like
• 43:41
  block
• 43:42
  to
• 43:42
  block.
• 43:42
  You're
• 43:43
  in,
• 43:43
  like,
• 43:43
  different
• 43:43
  countries,
• 43:44
  which
• 43:44
  certainly
• 43:45
  I
• 43:45
  love.
• 43:46
  That
• 43:46
  was
• 43:46
  one
• 43:46
  of
• 43:47
  my
• 43:47
  favorite
• 43:47
  parts
• 43:47
  about
• 43:48
  growing
• 43:48
  up
• 43:48
  here,
• 43:48
  is
• 43:49
  that,
• 43:49
  I
• 43:50
  mean,
• 43:50
  you
• 43:50
  were
• 43:50
  just
• 43:50
  exposed
• 43:51
  to
• 43:51
  so
• 43:51
  much,
• 43:52
  like,
• 43:52
  nothing
• 43:52
  shocked
• 43:53
  me
• 43:53
  anymore.
• 43:54
  Right.
• 43:54
  The
• 43:54
  things
• 43:54
  I've
• 43:54
  seen
• 43:55
  on
• 43:55
  the
• 43:55
  subway
• 43:55
  alone.
• 43:56
  Oh,
• 43:56
  I
• 43:56
  know.
• 43:56
  Yeah.
• 43:57
  You
• 43:57
  know,
• 43:57
  but
• 43:57
  I.
• 43:58
  I
• 43:58
  really
• 43:58
  liked
• 43:58
  this
• 43:58
  book.
• 43:59
  I
• 43:59
  would
• 43:59
  recommend
• 43:59
  this
• 44:00
  book
• 44:00
  if
• 44:00
  you
• 44:00
  feel
• 44:00
  like
• 44:01
  the
• 44:01
  culture
• 44:02
  in
• 44:02
  your
• 44:02
  family
• 44:03
  could
• 44:03
  use
• 44:04
  a
• 44:04
  little
• 44:04
  more
• 44:05
  warmth.
• 44:05
  Okay.
• 44:06
  And,
• 44:06
  like,
• 44:06
  a
• 44:06
  little
• 44:07
  more
• 44:07
  peace.
• 44:08
  Yeah.
• 44:09
  I
• 44:09
  think
• 44:09
  it's
• 44:09
  a
• 44:09
  way
• 44:10
  of
• 44:10
  thinking
• 44:10
  and
• 44:10
  a
• 44:10
  way
• 44:11
  of
• 44:11
  being
• 44:12
  that
• 44:12
  is
• 44:13
  really,
• 44:14
  like,
• 44:15
  nice
• 44:16
  if
• 44:16
  you
• 44:16
  can
• 44:16
  manage.
• 44:17
  Right.
• 44:18
  No,
• 44:18
  I.
• 44:18
  I
• 44:19
  agree.
• 44:19
  I
• 44:19
  mean,
• 44:20
  here's
• 44:21
  the
• 44:21
  book
• 44:21
  again.
• 44:21
  Here's
• 44:22
  the
• 44:22
  book
• 44:22
  again.
• 44:23
  Thank
• 44:23
  you,
• 44:23
  Vanna
• 44:24
  White.
• 44:24
  I
• 44:24
  know.
• 44:26
  It's
• 44:27
  what
• 44:27
  the
• 44:27
  happiest
• 44:27
  people
• 44:28
  in
• 44:28
  the
• 44:28
  world
• 44:28
  know
• 44:28
  about
• 44:29
  raising
• 44:29
  confident,
• 44:29
  capable
• 44:30
  kids.
• 44:31
  And
• 44:31
  lots
• 44:32
  of
• 44:32
  good
• 44:32
  ideas.
• 44:32
  You
• 44:33
  don't
• 44:33
  have
• 44:33
  to
• 44:33
  live
• 44:33
  in
• 44:33
  Denmark
• 44:34
  to
• 44:35
  institute
• 44:35
  these
• 44:35
  ideas.
• 44:36
  You
• 44:36
  can
• 44:36
  do
• 44:36
  them
• 44:37
  in
• 44:37
  your
• 44:37
  home.
• 44:39
  And,
• 44:40
  yeah,
• 44:40
  I
• 44:40
  thought
• 44:40
  it
• 44:40
  was
• 44:41
  a
• 44:41
  good
• 44:41
  book,
• 44:41
  too.
• 44:41
  I
• 44:41
  enjoyed
• 44:42
  it.
• 44:42
  I
• 44:42
  really
• 44:42
  liked
• 44:43
  it.
• 44:43
  And
• 44:44
  again,
• 44:44
  it's
• 44:44
  an
• 44:44
  easy
• 44:45
  read.
• 44:45
  I
• 44:45
  probably
• 44:45
  read
• 44:45
  it
• 44:46
  in,
• 44:46
  like,
• 44:46
  two
• 44:46
  days,
• 44:47
  which,
• 44:47
  again,
• 44:47
  I
• 44:48
  love
• 44:48
  authors.
• 44:49
  Please,
• 44:49
  if
• 44:49
  you
• 44:50
  can
• 44:50
  make
• 44:50
  your
• 44:50
  books
• 44:51
  more
• 44:51
  concise,
• 44:52
  by
• 44:52
  all
• 44:53
  means.
• 44:53
  A
• 44:53
  book
• 44:54
  does
• 44:54
  not
• 44:54
  need
• 44:54
  to
• 44:54
  be
• 44:54
  300
• 44:55
  pages.
• 44:55
  I
• 44:55
  can
• 44:56
  say
• 44:56
  it
• 44:56
  again.
• 44:57
  I
• 44:58
  know.
• 44:58
  If
• 44:58
  I
• 44:58
  ever
• 44:58
  write
• 44:59
  another
• 44:59
  parenting
• 45:00
  book,
• 45:00
  I
• 45:01
  will
• 45:01
  make
• 45:01
  it
• 45:02
  short
• 45:03
  and
• 45:03
  I
• 45:03
  will
• 45:03
  put
• 45:03
  pictures
• 45:04
  in
• 45:04
  it.
• 45:04
  Love
• 45:04
  that.
• 45:05
  Yeah.
• 45:05
  Love
• 45:05
  that
• 45:05
  for
• 45:05
  us.
• 45:06
  But
• 45:06
  anyway,
• 45:07
  anyway,
• 45:07
  thank
• 45:08
  you
• 45:08
  guys
• 45:08
  for
• 45:08
  joining
• 45:08
  us
• 45:09
  for
• 45:09
  this
• 45:09
  episode
• 45:10
  of
• 45:10
  Other
• 45:10
  People's
• 45:10
  Parenting,
• 45:11
  and
• 45:11
  we
• 45:11
  hope
• 45:11
  to
• 45:11
  see
• 45:11
  you
• 45:12
  next
• 45:12
  week.