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32. Revive Your Spirit: 1 Simple Strategy to Refocus With Joy · Treasured Momma | Time Management Tips, Motherhood, Family Life, Daily Routines, Christianity

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  At the beginning of this year, God gave me the phrase, joy in the journey.
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  We are only one month into the year, and I love how God has already provided
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  greater understanding of what this actually means.
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  Are you walking out the thing God placed on your heart for this year?
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  In today's episode, we have a nice little coffee chat about real life and how
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  this time of year finds many people already deviating from those new year's resolutions,
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  those commitments we feel like we have to determine at the new year.
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  And I find it honestly quite refreshing to know it's not too late.
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  No matter how messy this month has been for you, you can start over today.
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  Day. Permission granted.
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  Speaking of doing something new, I received this super awesome five-star review
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  entitled Renewed, Refreshed, and Messy from Geordry701.
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  And it says, Kori is an inspiring speaker who leaves you with a renewed sense
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  of belief in yourself self while living in Christian values.
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  She is relatable, uplifting, encouraging, supportive, and meets you where you are today.
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  Thank you so much, Lovely. Your words bless me so very much.
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  I know you are a woman as well who holds space for others, so many people,
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  and helps them feel renewed and refreshed as well.
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  I appreciate you and I love giving back and honoring all of our listeners by
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  featuring them in a weekly newsletter and in a future episode.
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  So head on over to iTunes and leave your very own review you because I cannot
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  wait to feature you in the next episode.
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  For now, let's explore one simple strategy that can be the key to train your
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  brain on how to find joy in your journey today.
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  Hey, hey mama, welcome back to the Treasured Mama podcast.
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  I'm Kori Messer, a Kingdom Life coach and messy mompreneur, and I want to know if you're like me.
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  Have you ever felt like you've You've lost yourself in all the things,
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  or perhaps you just need some encouragement on this messy journey of authentic motherhood.
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  In this space, we love sharing routines, rhythms, and real stories of real moms
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  as we declutter our heads, our hearts, and our homes to discover clarity and confidence.
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  If you're ready to gain clarity on who God designed you to be,
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  create simple systems for a more peaceful household, and connect with other
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  mamas doing the same, this podcast is right up your alley. My prayer is this
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  episode will encourage you.
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  So grab a drink, take a mommy moment, and listen in to today's goodness.
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  Welcome back. It is so good to have you here.
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  Kori here, and we are diving into the phrase God gave me for this month,
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  which is joy in the journey.
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  And really, it's the phrase he gave me for the entire year.
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  But since this is the last podcast episode of January,
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  I thought we would do some reflection on how I've unpacked this phrase and one
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  of my personal experiences with walking this out.
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  Don't know about you, but I do know from my personal experience,
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  when God gives me a scripture,
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  a word, or in this case, a phrase to focus on for the year, it's amazing that
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  He will speak that specifically to me.
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  However, I also know it is going to be challenged.
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  And therefore, Therefore, when God gave me joy in the journey,
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  I knew there would be plenty of opportunity for me to be tempted by something that is not joy.
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  And that is what happened this past month. I will share a little bit of my personal
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  experience and then something I have observed in other people as well.
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  I was walking through this month. Of course, it's a new year.
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  I'm a planner by heart. I absolutely love getting my planner out,
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  getting all the things ready to rock and roll.
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  And that does not always play out well when you have four young children,
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  you're running a business, the Christmas season, the new year,
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  and a couple of family birthdays in there.
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  And what I realized was instead of just simplifying my life to avoid a potential chaotic situation,
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  I could simply reframe my thoughts around it and find the joy in the journey,
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  realizing there would be seasons of busy and messy, and there would be seasons
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  of decluttered and organized,
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  and that is fine.
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  And for me coming into this particular month, I knew it would be different than
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  previous years because I really had to focus in on a couple of really large work projects.
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  And although I gave myself margin or what I call white space to have some flexibility
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  in the scheduling and to allow for correspondence and having other people involved in the project,
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  what I didn't do was allow extra space in between projects.
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  And because they are deadline specific, that meant just like a physician,
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  if they start their day and their first patient is late and their second patient
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  takes up more time than was allotted on the schedule,
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  everybody else is late during the day.
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  All their other appointments are running not on time, not on schedule,
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  and it sets the a tone for your day to be rushed and frazzled unless you're
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  intentional to find joy in the journey.
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  I had a moment where I really got to choose,
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  am I going to feel overwhelmed because the first project did not meet the deadline
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  that I had anticipated, or would I find joy in the the journey. And that is what I chose.
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  And so I give God so much thanks and absolutely all the praise because he knew this would happen.
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  He knew I would have this opportunity.
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  And because I started the year out with an expectation that I would have plenty
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  of opportunity to partner with with joy or partner with the opposite.
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  I had an expectation. It was front of mind for me to choose the joy and then walk it out.
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  For you, beloved one, I ask you, are you walking out that thing that God placed on your heart?
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  What I know from working in the fitness industry as a certified personal trainer,
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  a group fitness instructor in so many modalities, and somebody who has created
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  curriculum and established departments in a variety of capacities.
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  I know that most people, we are talking 80 to 90% or more in certain areas of the world.
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  Stop following through on their New Year's resolutions by the second week and
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  for sure by the third week of the year.
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  And that's where we are right now. So I wanted to take the time this episode
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  to give you permission to start over, if that's where you're at,
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  and really simplify things.
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  Simplify things and have what I call a first focus.
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  This is the biggest takeaway. You take this and implement it in your life as
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  a mom, as a woman, as a daughter of the the king and it can completely shift
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  the way you show up, the results you achieve,
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  and the person you are when you're doing it.
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  Because how many of us get overwhelmed and we can still get all this stuff done,
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  but our family isn't super fond of us when we finish it.
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  And that's because we get in this zone of doing all the things,
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  but we're not very pleasant.
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  What if it could be be different? What if even in the unexpected,
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  you could pursue spontaneity, find the joy in the moment, and advance forward?
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  And that is what I have found by making this mindset shift. I simplified,
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  what is the next right thing?
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  Focus on that. And as the Bible says, don't worry about tomorrow.
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  Tomorrow will worry about itself.
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  So focus on the next great thing right now. What is that? And implement the
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  concept of a first focus.
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  We have four kids and they are all so different in their personalities.
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  And I love it because we have two girls and two boys.
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  The boys are right around two years apart. and then the girls are right around two years apart.
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  And we had boy, boy, girl, girl. So they're the same gender,
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  very close in age, same parents, growing up in the same household,
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  and yet there's such diversity in their personalities.
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  And what we have noticed is that there is one child in particular,
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  who likes to do all the things all the time and doesn't want to miss out on anything.
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  And sometimes that can come across as lacking focus.
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  But really, we know this child is multi-passionate.
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  So that's a bonus as far as your children.
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  Find their strengths, find their their giftings and their abilities and speak
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  to that and speak life over your children.
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  But going back to first focus, one thing that I started implementing with this
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  child was to keep it very simple and direct.
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  I would say first focus, and that would bring he or she back to the main thing.
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  You know, with Jesus, we say, keep the main thing, the main thing.
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  If you're out playing soccer, Jesus is your first focus.
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  You want to demonstrate behavior and sportsmanlike conduct that would be in
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  alignment with Jesus' character.
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  If you're cooking and you burn your finger, how many of you know you really
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  find out if someone is saved alive?
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  When they are in a challenging situation. In all seriousness,
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  we want to keep Jesus the main thing in everything that we do.
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  And first focus is something that you can train your brain to associate that
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  with Jesus first and getting back on track with the thing you are to focus on. Here's an example.
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  This particular child that I was referencing was sitting at the table and eating dinner.
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  And a few of the other siblings were done with their dinner and we gave them
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  permission to be excused from the table because this child was taking quite a bit of time.
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  And as they were running around, this kiddo was looking at them and wanting to engage and.
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  Share in the verbal communication and get up on their chair and cheer them on
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  as they're of running around and we would just say, first focus. Food is first focus.
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  We keep it very simple and that would draw this child back in.
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  They were able to refocus on keeping the main thing, the main thing,
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  because one of the things that we say in our house is anything worth doing is
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  worth doing with excellence.
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  And that reminds us to show up in the way that Jesus does, show up with with excellence.
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  So I encourage you with whatever it is that God is having you focus on for this year,
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  get very clear on what it is, write it down, and decide one thing every single
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  day you can do to moving you closer to that goal.
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  Many people will say, pick 10 goals or pick five goals, focus on all those goals.
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  And if you haven't trained yourself to focus with intentionality and excellence
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  on one thing, 10 things is just going to further dilute your ability to focus.
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  So I encourage you to do that and have an expectation that finding joy in the
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  journey is something that you can do and it will completely shift the way that you show up.
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  You know, there's something in, it's kind of at the base of your neck.
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  And your skull, kind of where they meet. It's called your reticular activation system.
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  And to simplify this, I am oversimplifying for the context of this conversation.
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  When you think about something, that part of your body wants to prove you right.
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  So it will seek opportunities to prove you right.
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  So if you are speaking to yourself negatively, if you are speaking over your
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  children negative things instead of life-giving words, your reticular activation
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  system will find things that prove what you're saying.
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  This is why the Bible says the power of life and death are in the tongue.
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  It is powerful what we say. It can shift our physiology.
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  It shifts the atmospheres that we encounter.
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  I have been extended an incredible opportunity to help manage some social media
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  for somebody and get some behind the scenes insight into how they run their business.
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  And I have the distinct privilege to work with a small team of ladies in this particular community.
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  And one of the conversations we continually have is how do we add value in the
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  group and yet hold them accountable and encourage them to rise up to a level of excellence?
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  In other words, we want to help them, guide them, provide them with the things
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  that we are there to help them with,
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  but we also want to teach them how to do it for themselves so they can independently
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  be successful and grow and scale in the things that they are working toward.
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  And another thing that we really have conversations on often are things like,
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  how do we engage engage with them in a meaningful way, and yet manage our time well.
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  And yes, sometimes this means taking 15 minutes of a 30-minute time block to
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  pour into one situation.
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  However, oftentimes it means loving somebody enough to call them higher.
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  And this is what I have found is when When we speak to somebody in a way that
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  lets them know we see greater ability in them and then we give them opportunity to do that,
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  they find joy in the journey, even if it is challenging.
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  This is the case with our kids as well. For example, my three-year-old,
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  I was having help me in the kitchen.
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  We were making dinner today and we were going to make regular garlic bread with our spaghetti. Eddie.
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  And I had this moment of, I don't have homemade bread, so it's not going to
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  be the healthiest option.
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  However, what is something I can do to have her help in the kitchen to build her confidence?
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  Because cooking is a skill I want her to have. It's a life skill.
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  And let's just be honest, kids always enjoy their food more if they can eat it off of a stick.
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  So we found a way to to make these garlic twists on a kebab stick.
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  And my daughter absolutely loved it. But what did I do?
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  I let her know that she was an amazing helper in the kitchen.
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  I framed it so this was something special.
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  It wasn't any garlic bread. It was twisty garlic bread.
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  And twisty starts with the same letter as her first name. So I personalized it.
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  And then I believed in her enough to let her twist a couple of them completely
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  on her own, even if they weren't perfect.
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  Why? Because she's a kinesthetic learner. She learns by doing,
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  and she was so proud of herself.
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  So I encourage you to do the same thing in the people that you are engaging
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  with, especially those that you know can be rising up and doing more with what
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  they have, but maybe they don't have that belief.
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  Allow them to borrow some of your belief in them until they have acquired it themselves.
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  And you do that by allowing them to do things messy and finding joy in that journey together.
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  When we just go do something for somebody else, what that actually communicates
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  is I don't believe you're capable.
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  So let your kids load the dishwasher messy. Let that person learn the new skill messy. messy.
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  Let yourself re-envision what your future is going to look like and take the first step messy.
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  It's not too late. Your past experiences do not define what your future has to look like.
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  Simplify and create a first focus and then believe in yourself enough to give
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  yourself self-permission to take the next step messy.
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  Heavenly Father, I thank you so much for this opportunity to explore the subject
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  matter of simplifying things and finding joy in the journey,
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  God, as we recalibrate and determine what is our first focus.
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  So as we go into the the month of February. We can have a first focus in February.
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  We can show up from a place of love as we exemplify your character in everything
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  that we do, because we know anything worth doing is worth doing with excellence.
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  In your mighty name, Jesus, we pray. Amen. Hey mama, one quick thing before you go.
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