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TV Nostalgia, Emmys and the Financial Dynamics of Love, Marriage, Relationships and Prenups · All About The Joy

• 0:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey Rick, what's up?
• 0:02
  Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy, all about the joy.
• 0:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm in a bad mood already.
• 0:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me just put on the cat.
• 0:09
  TikTok Video: See if you can change that.
• 0:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, you know, it's just weird.
• 0:12
  Carmen Lezeth: So everyone I'm using a new laptop computer and a new camera and a new lav mic and whatever, and Rick and I were just having these conversations because I'm having issues with restream, with the customer service situation part, which I understand why they do what they do, which is they have 24 seven, so anybody at any time will take over your case.
• 0:37
  Carmen Lezeth: The problem is is that when it's an ongoing case, like I've been having, what were you saying?
• 0:42
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not good, what did you say?
• 0:44
  Rick Costa: I used to be in IT.
• 0:45
  Rick Costa: So when you're in IT you're supposed to have a ticket open and anybody who works can.
• 0:50
  Rick Costa: What's you know?
• 0:51
  Rick Costa: They look you up what's your information, they find your ticket, they read everything, so you don't have to regurgitate the whole thing over and over again and then it goes.
• 0:58
  Rick Costa: Ok, now I'm up to speed what's going on.
• 1:00
  Rick Costa: Now let's see how we can help you instead of you having to repeat it over, and that's ridiculous.
• 1:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, and I think that's what's happening and then so I bought this laptop specifically so I can start dealing with this issue, but also because I need a new laptop and I have to travel right.
• 1:16
  Carmen Lezeth: So it's fine.
• 1:17
  Carmen Lezeth: But it's a gaming laptop Like.
• 1:19
  Carmen Lezeth: I bought it, so it had all the bells and whistles.
• 1:22
  Rick Costa: That's a good one.
• 1:23
  Carmen Lezeth: And it cost me way too much money than I needed to buy it, but it's fine.
• 1:28
  Carmen Lezeth: So I go on to the chat to tell people you know in the restream and they're like ooh, we really need you to be connected with the whatever Ethernet and not just on the Wi-Fi and only use Chrome, whereas they were telling me before not to use Chrome.
• 1:43
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm just saying today I have been tested.
• 1:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me tell you.
• 1:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, let me tell you something else about customer service that pissed me off today, because I just want to stress about this.
• 1:53
  Carmen Lezeth: So I work with a lot of banking people.
• 1:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I have for 30 years I hate to date myself, but I know banking people all over California in every banking institution.
• 2:05
  Carmen Lezeth: The biggest ones are JP Morgan and Wells Fargo.
• 2:07
  Carmen Lezeth: And let me tell you the thing I can't stand.
• 2:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't stand when people do not respond to an email when it's been an ongoing issue and, by the way, I'm not asking these people to do anything other than, like banking thing a majiggey.
• 2:24
  Carmen Lezeth: So today's email was or it wasn't.
• 2:26
  Carmen Lezeth: It was January 8th.
• 2:28
  Carmen Lezeth: I sent an email saying we need to change an address.
• 2:31
  Carmen Lezeth: We need to change an address for an account.
• 2:34
  Carmen Lezeth: So what are we?
• 2:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Today's, what?
• 2:36
  Carmen Lezeth: The 18th?
• 2:37
  Carmen Lezeth: We've been going back and forth with no information and today I lost it.
• 2:42
  Carmen Lezeth: I put our lawyer on that, not our lawyer.
• 2:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I put my GPA on there, I put my client on there.
• 2:46
  Carmen Lezeth: All of a sudden responses.
• 2:49
  Carmen Lezeth: That's disrespectful.
• 2:50
  Carmen Lezeth: So I responded, and in a tone that was like oh so now you're going to respond.
• 3:01
  Rick Costa: I just went through that too, because our company has moved cities and buildings and so he's like my boss.
• 3:04
  Rick Costa: I call all the vendors, tell me change the address.
• 3:06
  Rick Costa: And then this one it was like four days before they finally did it and I was like I'm not asking you to write a book, I'm asking you to just go in and data entry.
• 3:16
  Rick Costa: That takes two seconds.
• 3:17
  Rick Costa: Why is it takes so long?
• 3:18
  Rick Costa: Oh, it has to go through this data.
• 3:19
  Rick Costa: No, it's just changing an address.
• 3:22
  Carmen Lezeth: What are you talking about?
• 3:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Just update me, right?
• 3:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Or just let me know.
• 3:25
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what, rick, I can't get to this till next week, on February, whatever, like, give me an update.
• 3:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, look at, things happen all the time and there was a problem with trying to contact my client, which I understand.
• 3:40
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 3:40
  Carmen Lezeth: But if you don't tell me that information and you tell me the information's coming in, I'm accepting, I'm expecting that the information's coming, but yeah, so I'm just not having a great week.
• 3:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, my goodness, how are you doing, mr Dawson?
• 3:57
  Rick Costa: I know.
• 3:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I don't know, but he always changing his picture.
• 4:02
  Rick Costa: He likes to switch it up.
• 4:03
  Rick Costa: Keep it guessing.
• 4:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I know who does.
• 4:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, hi, mario, I miss you.
• 4:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Mario's going to come up on the show too, as soon as he can.
• 4:10
  Carmen Lezeth: He's always welcomed.
• 4:12
  Carmen Lezeth: We were going to try to get him on last week but he was a little busy.
• 4:15
  Carmen Lezeth: He was traveling a little bit.
• 4:17
  Carmen Lezeth: But you can come up now if you want.
• 4:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick's going to have to send you the invite, but I don't know if you can, so no biggie.
• 4:24
  Rick Costa: Hey Melanie, hey Melanie.
• 4:27
  Rick Costa: Today she did it again.
• 4:28
  Rick Costa: What's the deal?
• 4:28
  Rick Costa: She snuck in a sentence.
• 4:30
  Rick Costa: I said you know, it's all about the joy.
• 4:32
  Rick Costa: I'm like I see what you did there, I see what you did there, yay, but you know what?
• 4:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Not even about this show.
• 4:39
  Carmen Lezeth: But it is really true and I, a couple of people have told me that they love the logo, they love the concept of all about the joy and, because it really should be, we need to change the dynamic.
• 4:51
  Carmen Lezeth: But, melanie, thank you.
• 4:53
  Carmen Lezeth: This is, I think, the second time Rick has told me that you did that.
• 4:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, rick, are you able to send him the link?
• 5:01
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah yeah, I got it.
• 5:03
  Carmen Lezeth: You watched the Emmys.
• 5:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I know you mentioned it.
• 5:07
  Rick Costa: And I was like, let me, let me try and let me give it 10 minutes.
• 5:10
  Rick Costa: And then I was like I kept laughing.
• 5:10
  Rick Costa: I was like, okay, I'm watching this whole thing because it was so funny, Wasn't it great?
• 5:14
  Rick Costa: I never saw an award show that made me laugh that much ever.
• 5:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, anthony Anderson, let's just give him his props.
• 5:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't even like a sing.
• 5:23
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like boy singing what I didn't know you could sing.
• 5:25
  Carmen Lezeth: He did so, even the way that he walked in, because he did kind of a homage to Mr Roger.
• 5:34
  Rick Costa: Oh, yeah, that one.
• 5:35
  Rick Costa: Yeah, that was funny.
• 5:36
  Carmen Lezeth: But he walked in with like a fur I'm sure it was a fake fur coat and he put it up.
• 5:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And then he put on Mr Rod.
• 5:42
  Carmen Lezeth: It said Mr Anderson's neighborhood or whatever.
• 5:45
  Carmen Lezeth: And so then he put on the house coat or whatever, and that was really well done, so the writing was brilliant.
• 5:52
  Rick Costa: And then, when he talked about Miami Vice, he switched to a white jacket.
• 5:54
  Rick Costa: It was so funny.
• 5:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, it was so great.
• 5:57
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, it would have been awesome if Don Johnson and Phillip Michael Thompson I was hoping they would.
• 6:01
  Rick Costa: Why didn't they call him?
• 6:03
  Carmen Lezeth: They're probably over it.
• 6:04
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 6:04
  Carmen Lezeth: They had their heyday.
• 6:05
  Carmen Lezeth: They're in their 70s.
• 6:08
  Rick Costa: Yeah, but still.
• 6:08
  Carmen Lezeth: I started watching Miami.
• 6:10
  Rick Costa: Vice, show it up.
• 6:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, wait, okay, let's talk about that in a minute, though.
• 6:13
  Carmen Lezeth: And so the other one, joan Collins.
• 6:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like what's happening?
• 6:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, let's get Mario.
• 6:19
  Rick Costa: She looks good too.
• 6:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey Mario, what's up?
• 6:23
  Maurio Dawson: Hey, hey, hey, what's going on?
• 6:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, like this with your phone.
• 6:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, for my.
• 6:29
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah.
• 6:30
  Carmen Lezeth: How you?
• 6:31
  Maurio Dawson: doing.
• 6:31
  Maurio Dawson: I'm doing really well.
• 6:33
  Maurio Dawson: Did you lose weight?
• 6:35
  Maurio Dawson: Yes, I did.
• 6:36
  Rick Costa: Oh yeah, I can see it in your face, yeah.
• 6:38
  Maurio Dawson: I lost like 60 pounds.
• 6:41
  Rick Costa: What no way.
• 6:42
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, wow.
• 6:44
  TikTok Video: So, I've been out.
• 6:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't think it's a congratulations thing, is it?
• 6:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, if that's what you're trying to do, I'm just trying to get my hands on it.
• 6:53
  Maurio Dawson: I'm on my health journey, so you know, just doing my thing.
• 6:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm glad you okay.
• 6:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so you're great.
• 7:00
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, I'm walking and going to the gym and changing my eating habits Awesome.
• 7:07
  Maurio Dawson: You know I get bored doing the same thing.
• 7:09
  Maurio Dawson: So if you saw, I was at Disneyland Was that day before yesterday?
• 7:14
  TikTok Video: So just well yesterday?
• 7:14
  Maurio Dawson: Was it yesterday?
• 7:15
  Maurio Dawson: Yes, and just try to find ways to just stay happy and active, and so that was a new way to do it.
• 7:24
  Maurio Dawson: I went to Disneyland and I did like 13,000 steps.
• 7:27
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah.
• 7:28
  Maurio Dawson: Just was going.
• 7:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi Jason.
• 7:33
  Carmen Lezeth: What's up, Jason?
• 7:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, Congratulations on losing 60 pounds.
• 7:37
  Rick Costa: I always tell people like the reason a lot of people gain weight is they don't.
• 7:40
  Rick Costa: They don't move.
• 7:42
  Rick Costa: Yeah, people need to move more, that's all and it's not.
• 7:44
  Rick Costa: You don't have to do a whole lot either.
• 7:45
  Rick Costa: You just don't sit down all day, because I'd be able to sit all day.
• 7:48
  Rick Costa: Why am I gaining weight?
• 7:49
  Rick Costa: Because you need to move.
• 7:51
  Maurio Dawson: Well, for me you know my, my situation is different because you know my transplant I have, I'm on steroids, so you know that's permanent part of my life.
• 8:01
  Maurio Dawson: So that has to find creative ways to just get this weight off, because I'm trying to keep this transplant as long as possible.
• 8:07
  Maurio Dawson: Right, right.
• 8:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, well, that's why it was hesitant when you first said it, because you look beautiful no matter how I see you.
• 8:16
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm always trying to stop people from being like oh, you look so good because you're skinny, because skinny don't mean skinny.
• 8:24
  Maurio Dawson: No, skinny doesn't mean healthy at all.
• 8:25
  Maurio Dawson: But no but no, I feel good.
• 8:28
  Maurio Dawson: So no, thank you, I take that, I receive that yeah.
• 8:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm so happy that you were.
• 8:33
  Carmen Lezeth: You're feeling good.
• 8:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm glad you're on here, because I'm always so worried.
• 8:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, can you come on today?
• 8:39
  Carmen Lezeth: And you're like, yeah, yeah.
• 8:41
  Maurio Dawson: No, like I, with everything going on with with my kid and everything's just been kind of crazy and we're in that last, with that final stretch, so we're just going, going, going.
• 8:51
  Maurio Dawson: And I then I had I had to get rid of my car and get another car, and so yeah, Wait, was that a good thing?
• 8:59
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, that's a great thing.
• 9:00
  Maurio Dawson: It's a great thing, so yeah.
• 9:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, so, mario, let me ask you this question Did you watch the I mean my chance the other night?
• 9:07
  Maurio Dawson: No, I watched segments.
• 9:09
  Maurio Dawson: I didn't watch it, I got I was.
• 9:10
  Maurio Dawson: You know I I tune in.
• 9:13
  Carmen Lezeth: It's all good.
• 9:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Anthony Anderson was good.
• 9:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't watch it live.
• 9:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I happened to hear, like on Tik Tok or whatever, that he did great, so I wanted to support him and I was hesitant.
• 9:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God.
• 9:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Then I told Rick and Rick watch it.
• 9:25
  Carmen Lezeth: It was so good.
• 9:27
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, between him and his mother, they're pretty funny now.
• 9:31
  Rick Costa: Oh, his mother cracked me up.
• 9:33
  Rick Costa: Some people got annoyed about his mom, so for people who don't know?
• 9:37
  Carmen Lezeth: his mom was stopping people who were talking too long.
• 9:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, he kind of brought her on to be like you know, your time is up with your acceptance speech and all that was staged.
• 9:48
  Carmen Lezeth: There's no way she would have been disrespectful and some of them just went with it.
• 9:53
  Rick Costa: I thought it was hilarious, like a good little change in how they usually do with the music, yeah, yeah, and I think I think it put the fear God a little bit in some of the people.
• 10:04
  Rick Costa: They were trying to hurry because they didn't want to yell that by mama.
• 10:07
  Carmen Lezeth: No, she wasn't being disrespectful.
• 10:10
  TikTok Video: No.
• 10:11
  Carmen Lezeth: She can't be.
• 10:13
  Maurio Dawson: Well, you know, she started off trying to.
• 10:14
  Maurio Dawson: She wanted to be an actress first.
• 10:16
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, she wanted to be an actress first, and then, you know, she didn't, and you know Anthony went on, so he that's why he's always trying to put his mama on everything now.
• 10:27
  Maurio Dawson: So I think it's great and their show we are family is it's funny too.
• 10:32
  Maurio Dawson: She's no, it's a competition show.
• 10:39
  Maurio Dawson: It's it's called we are family, and so what happens is they have the celebrities, have family members come on and sing and you have to guess who their celebrity relative is.
• 10:54
  Maurio Dawson: So and they'll give clues behind Clues behind the person singing.
• 11:00
  Maurio Dawson: So, like I think last last night it was, the celebrities were Tiffany Haddish, debbie Gibson and Tamar Braxton so so, like I Think it was Tiffany Haddish's aunt and then it was Debbie Gibson's nephew, and I think it was Tamar Braxton and Tony Braxton's brother, because you know they only have one brother.
• 11:24
  Maurio Dawson: So if you ever watched Braxton family values, you knew who it was right away, right.
• 11:30
  Maurio Dawson: So almost like a variation of the mass singer in a way, sort of yes, exactly, but there you're giving people who aren't celebrities an opportunity to just sing and have a good time.
• 11:40
  Maurio Dawson: And her Mother, their mother is Mamadou's, is Mamadou's, she's going to call it like she said, you know.
• 11:46
  Maurio Dawson: So she's hilarious.
• 11:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that is so cool.
• 11:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I did not realize all of that.
• 11:50
  Carmen Lezeth: That is so cool.
• 11:51
  Carmen Lezeth: You know I don't usually watch any reality or any competition, game shows or whatever, but I would watch that to support her.
• 11:59
  Carmen Lezeth: She was hilarious.
• 12:00
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah.
• 12:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, oh, it's their show.
• 12:04
  Carmen Lezeth: It's her and Anthony.
• 12:06
  Maurio Dawson: I heard Anthony, so it's Anthony show he's hosting.
• 12:09
  Maurio Dawson: But just like what was the other show they did with him and his mother when they had to get through the To tell the truth?
• 12:18
  Maurio Dawson: Okay, yeah, they have a show called to tell the truth and all he did was have his mama sitting a chair over in the corner and give commentary.
• 12:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Comfortable yesterday because I was like see, I did not know all this.
• 12:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like this is this woman is so comfortable, yeah, and she's so comfortable talking to all these little ones because she's been doing it forever, okay.
• 12:41
  Maurio Dawson: And then he and his mom did a Trip to Europe together and they did a whole series on it on Fox where they followed them throughout Europe and those.
• 12:51
  Maurio Dawson: It was hilarious because she had never been in, you know, to Europe before.
• 12:56
  Maurio Dawson: So and you know she doesn't call him Anthony, she called him Anthony.
• 13:02
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
• 13:02
  Carmen Lezeth: It's such a beautiful relationship and I think that's why, also last night, it works so well.
• 13:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Because Anthony's spirit I'm just gonna talk a little bit about different award shows, like why the Oscars aren't doing so well and why people don't watch Award shows.
• 13:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I felt like Anthony Anderson made the show about everyone else and not about himself as a comic.
• 13:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, because everyone's trying to be like I'm a comic, I'm gonna come on the show and be blah, blah, blah.
• 13:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, anderson and the writers.
• 13:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Let's give props to the writers About and and Mari I know you didn't see it, but you may want to catch it.
• 13:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Homage to all the old-school shows.
• 13:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I mean, the actors came up from all in the family, from Martin.
• 13:49
  Rick Costa: It was so good, it was actually did the set of Martin and everything and we can't forget we can't forget the Lucy skit.
• 14:03
  Maurio Dawson: Right, that was yeah, I saw her.
• 14:05
  Maurio Dawson: I saw Tracy Ellis Ross as Lucy and Carol Burnett came out.
• 14:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, cal Burnett.
• 14:12
  Carmen Lezeth: And what's the other one, joan Crawford?
• 14:15
  Rick Costa: She looks like John Collins.
• 14:17
  Rick Costa: John call your John Collins 90s yeah.
• 14:23
  Carmen Lezeth: John Collins hasn't changed for like 30 years.
• 14:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Great to see them.
• 14:32
  Carmen Lezeth: And man, 90s being 90 has changed.
• 14:35
  Carmen Lezeth: You got you know like when I think in 90s, I'm thinking like you're came in you know, looking at Marla Gibbs because she looked great.
• 14:43
  Maurio Dawson: She's over.
• 14:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Amazing and she came out with Taraji.
• 14:48
  Maurio Dawson: Yes, exactly Clips.
• 14:51
  Maurio Dawson: Like I said, I saw clips.
• 14:53
  Maurio Dawson: I thought I saw the highlights and I saw a lot of Anthony stuff.
• 14:56
  Maurio Dawson: He said he's coming for Jimmy Kimmel for the Oscars.
• 15:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Because, as much as I like Jimmy Kimmel, he's just boring and that's why they're having them, because there's no controversy.
• 15:06
  Carmen Lezeth: But Anthony Edd I mean Anthony Edwards, anthony Anderson was amazing last night.
• 15:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah well, I watched it last night, I don't know when, it was the other day.
• 15:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Sunday it was Monday.
• 15:17
  Carmen Lezeth: It was Monday, martin Luther King Day, and that's right.
• 15:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I did a homage to to MLK, to you, so, yeah, I was really impressed.
• 15:27
  Carmen Lezeth: It was really well done, and I just wanted to talk about old school.
• 15:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me ask you this, because you guys probably watch a lot more television than I do.
• 15:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Just time wise.
• 15:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah you think TV is better today?
• 15:38
  Carmen Lezeth: No, it was better before.
• 15:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And why good Mario Mars already jumping in there?
• 15:45
  Maurio Dawson: No, I mean, this new stuff is, it's entertaining, but it's just not.
• 15:50
  Maurio Dawson: There's no classic stuff that I remember.
• 15:52
  Maurio Dawson: There's nothing that's memorable like I can go back to a loosey sketch, I can go back to all in the family.
• 15:58
  Maurio Dawson: I can go back to Jeffersons, I can go back to Martin.
• 16:01
  Maurio Dawson: I can go to Living Stingo, I can go to friends.
• 16:04
  Maurio Dawson: I can name a classic Moment in those episodes and those shows and these new shows I I'm like okay, haha, you know, and then I think it's so.
• 16:15
  Maurio Dawson: I think we're over saturated with content that you just you don't have the same feeling, whereas back in the 70s, 80s, in the 90s, you would gather around the TV and everybody was watching the same thing.
• 16:30
  Maurio Dawson: So everybody had more relatable content to, to relate to each other in terms of what was funny.
• 16:36
  Maurio Dawson: Whereas now there's we're so over saturated and there's so much content.
• 16:40
  Maurio Dawson: People like you can call friends ahead.
• 16:43
  Maurio Dawson: Did you watch the trust?
• 16:45
  Maurio Dawson: And your friend will be like what is that?
• 16:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, you just think, those I haven't seen.
• 16:52
  Maurio Dawson: That's what I'm saying.
• 16:53
  Maurio Dawson: So it's just, I don't, I don't, just, I don't think it's the same.
• 16:57
  Maurio Dawson: But like those old shows, this 70s, 80s, 90s, even early 2000s, I'd like, yeah, okay, but 70s, 80s and 90s, for sure was way better, even 60s, like.
• 17:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Like shows like Game of Thrones and succession, which one big and beef, and and I haven't seen all of these shows.
• 17:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I've seen moments of the whatever.
• 17:19
  Carmen Lezeth: But are these shows and I'll ask Rick to get Rick to chime in.
• 17:23
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, how do you feel about it?
• 17:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you think?
• 17:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it art?
• 17:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it us being biased because we grew up in that time period, or is it because the quality has changed?
• 17:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick, what do you think?
• 17:36
  Rick Costa: There's one thing, because Mari got me thinking pre-internet, like you said, you know you didn't have everybody didn't have own little suburb devising on their separate rooms, so you just naturally stayed together and watch whatever was on the TV.
• 17:48
  Rick Costa: So like, yeah, unlike today.
• 17:50
  Rick Costa: What was the demographic back then?
• 17:53
  Rick Costa: Everybody because you're all together.
• 17:56
  Rick Costa: And now it's like we're trying to target these people, target this people and da-da-da-da.
• 17:59
  Rick Costa: So I think you know it was different, just because of that.
• 18:02
  Rick Costa: That's one major reason.
• 18:03
  Rick Costa: They also didn't have to tiptoe around every little thing.
• 18:06
  Rick Costa: That's we do today.
• 18:09
  Carmen Lezeth: That's true, just saying I mean I think there was something in the writing of Norman Lear's shows, but also bringing something to light that way wasn't much.
• 18:18
  Carmen Lezeth: It was like a big explosion when Sammy Davis Jr kissed Archie Bunker on the cheek you know what I mean and everyone had to talk about it and it was a good explosion.
• 18:29
  Carmen Lezeth: It was scary and funny and interesting.
• 18:32
  Carmen Lezeth: But now it becomes a bigger deal because we already know about it.
• 18:37
  Carmen Lezeth: So racism isn't tolerated, so it isn't something we can.
• 18:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Just I'm like I don't wanna blame it on us being worse of the society.
• 18:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I want it to be that we've grown.
• 18:46
  Carmen Lezeth: So people always like to say this thing that I don't think I agree with is back then you could say certain things and get away with it.
• 18:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you could.
• 18:56
  Carmen Lezeth: You could call people the N word and get away with it.
• 18:58
  Carmen Lezeth: That doesn't necessarily mean it was a good thing.
• 19:01
  Maurio Dawson: It wasn't a good thing, but yeah, it was just a different time.
• 19:04
  Maurio Dawson: But we were also people of color were calling each other that on television, you know.
• 19:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So but there was a conversation to be had when it was the first time, or I mean, what Norman Lear was able to do was make everyone, especially white people, talk about something that no one ever talked about out loud.
• 19:23
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, and that's what was interesting about him.
• 19:26
  Maurio Dawson: I have an interesting story for you in terms of Norman Lear.
• 19:29
  Maurio Dawson: So you know, we had all in the family first.
• 19:33
  Maurio Dawson: Then we got good times right.
• 19:35
  Maurio Dawson: Well, did you know that the Black Panthers came up to Mr Lear and addressed him head on at the studio and said look, all Black people are not poor in the ghetto?
• 19:47
  Maurio Dawson: And they had a real hard conversation and Mr Lear.
• 19:52
  Maurio Dawson: He then, in turn, created the Jefferson's.
• 19:55
  Maurio Dawson: And that's how the Jefferson's came about.
• 19:57
  Maurio Dawson: It's because you had to have the conversations about what was difficult and the thing is, but you also had to have someone who was willing to listen and understand.
• 20:07
  Maurio Dawson: Open minded.
• 20:09
  Maurio Dawson: Open minded in every culture, in every race, is complex and there's race class.
• 20:14
  Maurio Dawson: I mean, there's classes in every race.
• 20:18
  Maurio Dawson: You understand what I'm saying.
• 20:19
  Maurio Dawson: So therefore, you had to, he had to be addressed, but they came in hot.
• 20:23
  Maurio Dawson: They came in smoking hot.
• 20:27
  Carmen Lezeth: They came in hot.
• 20:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Let's give him credit because they couldn't have gone to talk to him if he wasn't open to listening to I mean you know what I mean.
• 20:35
  Maurio Dawson: People wait for him in the studio.
• 20:36
  Maurio Dawson: They got in, wow.
• 20:38
  Carmen Lezeth: That's what I'm trying to say.
• 20:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I, I I revered Norman Lear, and may he rest in peace.
• 20:43
  Carmen Lezeth: He passed away.
• 20:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I think he's one of the good ones, right.
• 20:46
  Maurio Dawson: I mean too A hundred percent.
• 20:48
  Carmen Lezeth: And I agree with you.
• 20:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I heard that story before you know I, you know.
• 20:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I heard it different variations, you know and how it happened.
• 20:56
  Carmen Lezeth: What happened was someone turned around and told someone what they didn't know and that person said you know what, let's do something different I didn't know that.
• 21:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me take that in and let me see what I can do with that with my power.
• 21:09
  Carmen Lezeth: It's a thing with Betty White.
• 21:11
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, betty White had that show and they she, she had a black man.
• 21:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I forget his name and I'm so mad at myself because I promised myself I would never forget his name and they wanted to get him off of the show and she said absolutely not, he is staying on this show, he is amazing and you will not fire him.
• 21:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Blah, blah, blah.
• 21:32
  Rick Costa: And she.
• 21:33
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I'm talking about.
• 21:34
  Rick Costa: The golden girls when they went to the hotel.
• 21:36
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, no, no no.
• 21:37
  Rick Costa: Oh, no, no I mean this was way before the Golden Girls Way before, after Mary Tyler Moore, before I think this was before that.
• 21:47
  Carmen Lezeth: She had her own variety show or something, and they were trying to tell her she couldn't have a certain gentleman on her show and she said now I will have a black man on my show and he is staying.
• 21:58
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 21:59
  Carmen Lezeth: And I mean kind of that thing.
• 22:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, the reason why she's so revered isn't just because she was America's sweetheather, blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 22:06
  Carmen Lezeth: It's because she had real integrity.
• 22:09
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 22:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Real integrity, so fascinating.
• 22:13
  Rick Costa: Another example I could think of because I have to go here is Gene Ronberry.
• 22:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, we love him yeah for sure For sure.
• 22:22
  Rick Costa: America had a heart attack when Uhura kissed Kirk and right, uhura just moved on the show.
• 22:28
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, or.
• 22:28
  Maurio Dawson: Period yeah.
• 22:29
  Maurio Dawson: They didn't have black people in space or Asian people either.
• 22:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I guess Melanie said too.
• 22:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I just want to share some comments.
• 22:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie said too many channels today, absolutely agree.
• 22:42
  Carmen Lezeth: And she's saying I know what you're talking about.
• 22:45
  Carmen Lezeth: We were talking about Betty White, I believe.
• 22:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, Melanie, I appreciate it.
• 22:49
  Rick Costa: Another point I'd like to bring up too is I at least felt like back then a lot of the shows, even if it wasn't obvious, they kind of were trying to teach a little bit of a lesson, life lesson, something to learn from when?
• 23:01
  Rick Costa: Today it's just, oh, we just trying to be funny and that's why I think Mario's like that's forgettable today, Because there's nothing for your brain to latch on to, You're just trying to make me laugh.
• 23:10
  Rick Costa: And then it's done, when, especially Star Trek, so many things Tried races and tried to teach you about how it's bad and did a long, long, long cool and stuff.
• 23:19
  Rick Costa: But we don't get that much today.
• 23:20
  Rick Costa: Maybe a few, but not like before.
• 23:24
  Maurio Dawson: Now you brought up succession in beef.
• 23:26
  Maurio Dawson: Now beef was actually very entertaining.
• 23:29
  Maurio Dawson: I watched beef.
• 23:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't watch all of it, I just watched a few episodes.
• 23:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I haven't watched anything.
• 23:35
  Maurio Dawson: It was entertaining Succession.
• 23:38
  Maurio Dawson: I never really got into it, you know, it wasn't for me.
• 23:44
  Maurio Dawson: I'll just say that I'll leave it there.
• 23:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, look, I try to watch a couple of shows and then you know of everything that's going on.
• 23:51
  Carmen Lezeth: But if it's not for me, it's not for me.
• 23:52
  Carmen Lezeth: And also I say this respectfully I'm jealous Because I can just say one word, and Rick, if he hasn't seen the show, he'll see it by tomorrow.
• 24:00
  Carmen Lezeth: How do you have the word?
• 24:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, thank you.
• 24:03
  Rick Costa: That's so true.
• 24:05
  Carmen Lezeth: No worries, I think he was going to try to stop by if she could get home early enough.
• 24:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Don't worry about it.
• 24:09
  Carmen Lezeth: No problem, we're glad you stopped by.
• 24:11
  Rick Costa: Is that true what Mellie said?
• 24:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Didn't they cancel the show because Betty White didn't back down?
• 24:17
  Carmen Lezeth: That is possible.
• 24:19
  Carmen Lezeth: It's possible.
• 24:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know the rest of that, but that could be possibly it.
• 24:23
  Carmen Lezeth: I only remember the good part.
• 24:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I hate the thought that they actually did cancel the show, but I think he might be right.
• 24:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Betty White was an incredible person.
• 24:32
  Rick Costa: Oh yeah.
• 24:33
  Carmen Lezeth: He was an incredible person.
• 24:34
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, she was amazing.
• 24:35
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, for sure.
• 24:36
  Maurio Dawson: And Carol Burnett is amazing too.
• 24:39
  Maurio Dawson: Listen, I'll fight you over Carol Burnett.
• 24:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I think they're all good people and we have to upvote the good people you know, especially in light of the fact that there are so many bad people not wanting to be open-minded and listen and try to change your ways after all this damn time.
• 25:00
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 25:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I will say this about television I love that there's so much more outlets and possibilities to see things, but I do hate the lack of community around a show, like I used to love.
• 25:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Being like.
• 25:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Did you watch Time Felt Like yes, I did Not.
• 25:19
  Carmen Lezeth: How did you see that?
• 25:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, whatever it was, you know, whatever the show was Exactly, for me it was X-Files, which is more dramatic, but I remember we would all want to do X-Files and have a conversation next day about what happened, you know.
• 25:30
  Maurio Dawson: You know, there's your girl, Alma.
• 25:31
  Maurio Dawson: She loves X-Files Like I just had to watch one the other day, so we're the same people, Me and Alma.
• 25:37
  Carmen Lezeth: we're the same.
• 25:38
  Rick Costa: Let's do an X-Files show.
• 25:40
  Rick Costa: Do an X-Files show and invite her on.
• 25:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Yes, do an X-Files show.
• 25:44
  Carmen Lezeth: That would be so cool.
• 25:46
  Maurio Dawson: Look at Mario.
• 25:46
  Maurio Dawson: He can quote lines.
• 25:48
  Maurio Dawson: She can quote lines.
• 25:49
  Maurio Dawson: I'll set that one out.
• 25:54
  Rick Costa: I'm going to re-watch the whole thing by tomorrow.
• 25:56
  Rick Costa: No, I'm kidding, I love.
• 25:58
  Carmen Lezeth: X-Files.
• 25:58
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what's so weird too?
• 26:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Because now I'll watch it Like every once in a while it'll be on-comment or whatever, and I'll watch an episode.
• 26:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like this is so scary, how did I watch this?
• 26:08
  Rick Costa: Because I don't like it.
• 26:09
  Rick Costa: You don't like scary.
• 26:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, sure, you know what I loved me.
• 26:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Some day, when you come, you could not tear me away from that man.
• 26:16
  Carmen Lezeth: And now I look at him and I'm like why?
• 26:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm so wanted to him now See how quickly it changes.
• 26:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, listen.
• 26:26
  Maurio Dawson: I would go.
• 26:27
  Maurio Dawson: That's OK.
• 26:28
  Maurio Dawson: It is nothing wrong with that OK.
• 26:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Let's change the subject for a moment, just because I want to.
• 26:35
  Carmen Lezeth: We're at the halfway mark.
• 26:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Ok, mario, if you can stay on, rick, do you think you could play that?
• 26:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I would love to get Mario's take on his position being a married man on this TikTok video.
• 26:46
  Carmen Lezeth: You want to try that?
• 26:47
  Carmen Lezeth: We're going to change the subject completely right now.
• 26:52
  Maurio Dawson: All righty.
• 26:53
  Carmen Lezeth: We're going to see if he can do the share thing, because, god knows, I can't do it on my regular computer.
• 26:57
  Carmen Lezeth: And it was on the Sherry Show.
• 26:59
  Carmen Lezeth: It was on the Sherry Show.
• 27:01
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, wait a minute.
• 27:02
  Maurio Dawson: I watch this show every day.
• 27:03
  Maurio Dawson: Which one is it?
• 27:04
  Carmen Lezeth: OK, well then you'll know, but let's see for the other people who might be paying attention in the room.
• 27:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Baby, look at Mario, it's all about me.
• 27:14
  Maurio Dawson: It's about me.
• 27:15
  TikTok Video: You know that thing with Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade 50-50, she going 50-50 with him, 50-50 with her.
• 27:21
  TikTok Video: Which y'all think about that, because I don't know about this 50-50.
• 27:24
  TikTok Video: You married.
• 27:24
  TikTok Video: What do you think about?
• 27:25
  TikTok Video: 50-50?
• 27:26
  TikTok Video: 50 is us coming to the table every Friday working on it?
• 27:29
  TikTok Video: Ok, so we just added up it was like what you got and what I got, and we put it together.
• 27:35
  TikTok Video: I might have 500, he might have 1,000.
• 27:37
  TikTok Video: Or he might have 200, and I might have 1,200.
• 27:39
  TikTok Video: Yeah, we're broke.
• 27:40
  TikTok Video: No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 27:41
  TikTok Video: 200.
• 27:41
  TikTok Video: and 1,200 is different.
• 27:42
  TikTok Video: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 27:45
  TikTok Video: Because you and I are single, we feel differently.
• 27:48
  TikTok Video: With the 50-50 coming to the thing, I'm like if I got 50, you got 49.
• 27:53
  TikTok Video: It ain't going to work.
• 27:54
  TikTok Video: No, no, no, no, no.
• 27:54
  TikTok Video: You got to tighten up Tuesdays.
• 27:56
  TikTok Video: I got Lucy Goosey Wednesday, that is I'm telling you right now.
• 27:59
  TikTok Video: I've done that before.
• 28:00
  TikTok Video: I've had 50% and he had 1%.
• 28:03
  TikTok Video: And the next thing, you know, I couldn't buy no hair, I couldn't buy no fare.
• 28:06
  TikTok Video: Ok, because I'm putting you through.
• 28:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Ooh, let me just tell you that.
• 28:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Ok, let me give you some more context, why this is such a funny thing to me.
• 28:16
  Carmen Lezeth: So today I got a TikTok from Joel.
• 28:20
  Carmen Lezeth: We all know who Joel is.
• 28:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Right Now he's on TikTok maybe once every three months and I sent him a TikTok like three months ago.
• 28:28
  Carmen Lezeth: He responded to it.
• 28:28
  Carmen Lezeth: And then he sent me this other TikTok and it was about prenuptials, right, like I'm prenuptials, you know what I mean.
• 28:36
  Carmen Lezeth: And I was like are we getting married?
• 28:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Because, whatever you want, baby.
• 28:41
  TikTok Video: But it does.
• 28:44
  Carmen Lezeth: But the video he sent was kind of similar, but it was a lawyer, right, talking about you should spend $2,000 or $3,000 before you get married on a prenuptial, as opposed to, after the fact, spending hundreds of thousands of dollars in a divorce settlement.
• 29:02
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
• 29:03
  TikTok Video: I mean.
• 29:03
  Carmen Lezeth: So with all that as context.
• 29:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Ok, bari, I'm going to ask you first how do you feel about 50-50?
• 29:10
  Carmen Lezeth: And remember, we're not just talking about your little perfect marriage now.
• 29:13
  Carmen Lezeth: So, in the context of the general.
• 29:17
  Maurio Dawson: You know what OK, I'll preface it like this my niece.
• 29:24
  Maurio Dawson: She was in a relationship.
• 29:25
  Maurio Dawson: She's no longer in a relationship.
• 29:26
  Maurio Dawson: I have multiple nieces, so I'm not saying any names.
• 29:29
  Maurio Dawson: However, she was getting serious about this young man and she was thinking about marrying him.
• 29:40
  Maurio Dawson: And I told her.
• 29:41
  Maurio Dawson: I said your mom might not agree with me, but I'm telling you you need to live with him, because the only way you're going to know someone is to live with him.
• 29:49
  Maurio Dawson: Oh, you mean first before marriage, first before marriage, and that way you know how they clean, how they sleep, what their habits are, what their spending is, all of that, and therefore you have a better idea of what you're going into later on, because if you can't live with it now, you won't be able to live with it later on.
• 30:10
  Maurio Dawson: Amen.
• 30:10
  Maurio Dawson: So my advice to anyone is how you start is how you finish, and for me and in my house I'm just speaking from Mario in my house we don't.
• 30:26
  Maurio Dawson: It's not always 50-50.
• 30:28
  Maurio Dawson: But you always know that your person has your back and that's the most important thing, because someday I'm going to be able to hold my wife up and other days she's going to have to hold me up and that's what we have to do in terms of money.
• 30:43
  Maurio Dawson: You need money too, because you have to remember, unfortunately, I'm medically retired, so my income is not as high as my wife.
• 30:52
  Maurio Dawson: So, therefore, but we don't hold it.
• 30:55
  Maurio Dawson: She's never held that over my head, or vice versa, when I came into a windfall.
• 30:59
  Maurio Dawson: I don't hold that over her head, so it's just.
• 31:03
  Maurio Dawson: But you're also talking to someone who's been with someone.
• 31:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I was just going to say, even when I met you, though, you were bringing in some change, because I know how I met you, but back then I was making substantially more money than she was, right so.
• 31:20
  Maurio Dawson: But it never was a matter of someone holding the other one, the holding the purse string.
• 31:25
  Maurio Dawson: It's like what do we need?
• 31:28
  Maurio Dawson: How can we move forward?
• 31:29
  Maurio Dawson: What do we really need?
• 31:30
  Maurio Dawson: And if you go into any relationship thing about us instead of the I, then you'll be OK.
• 31:39
  Maurio Dawson: But if you're talking about what the I and what I need and what I want, you'll never get anywhere.
• 31:46
  Maurio Dawson: You'll never find that.
• 31:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me throw a wrench into this, because I should have gotten the video that Joel sent, because that would give some difference about the prenup, because what the lawyer was saying and he was saying it so eloquently and so well he was just saying and I'm not going to do it justice but he was saying you go into it, you have the conversation, it forces the conversation and if you really love each other, you can have the conversation about money.
• 32:14
  Carmen Lezeth: A lot of people don't have the conversation because they're all like oh, I love him, he loved me, we never going to leave each other have the conversation about money.
• 32:21
  Carmen Lezeth: And he's like what's mine is mine, what's yours is yours, what we make together is each other, simple is ours.
• 32:30
  Carmen Lezeth: And so if you have a and he was just saying it was a simple prenup he was saying if you build something together, ok, then you know that's going to be half and half.
• 32:39
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not saying your marriage is doomed or something or nothing.
• 32:43
  Carmen Lezeth: He's just saying be clear about it so that she could buy her hair.
• 32:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I love it.
• 32:49
  Rick Costa: No hair, no hair.
• 32:51
  Maurio Dawson: No hair, no hair.
• 32:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I was on the floor.
• 32:54
  Carmen Lezeth: That was so funny.
• 32:56
  Rick Costa: How do?
• 32:56
  Carmen Lezeth: you feel about it being someone who has gone through divorce?
• 32:59
  Carmen Lezeth: What's your thought process on it?
• 33:01
  Rick Costa: Yeah, I mean, as far as from the experience I had, we didn't make completely different ranges of money, so I couldn't really ever say, oh, we make so much more and we dah, dah, dah.
• 33:11
  Rick Costa: So what's his is mine.
• 33:14
  Rick Costa: Cynthia said.
• 33:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, what's mine is mine, what's his is mine.
• 33:18
  Maurio Dawson: What's mine is mine.
• 33:19
  Maurio Dawson: What's yours is mine.
• 33:21
  Rick Costa: That reminds me of a Little Rascals episode.
• 33:23
  Rick Costa: This little kid was giving out candy.
• 33:25
  Rick Costa: She's like one for you, one for me, one for you, two for me.
• 33:29
  TikTok Video: Two for you, two for me.
• 33:30
  Rick Costa: No that's not his work.
• 33:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Smart, smart person no.
• 33:36
  Rick Costa: That person's rich today.
• 33:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Entrepreneur right there, Entrepreneur right.
• 33:40
  Rick Costa: Very.
• 33:41
  Rick Costa: But yeah, I mean, as far as pre-nups, I think I said this to you earlier.
• 33:47
  Rick Costa: I was like it's just, I think it's an individual thing, a couple.
• 33:50
  Rick Costa: They have to decide what they want to do.
• 33:52
  Rick Costa: You know, like that can't make a blanket statement for everybody.
• 33:56
  Rick Costa: Everybody's situation is going to be different, you know.
• 33:58
  Rick Costa: They may, they may die making the same amount of money the whole time, or one of them could get rich, and then there's a problem.
• 34:04
  Rick Costa: I don't know, money's a number.
• 34:05
  Rick Costa: I also look at it as so, let's say, somebody doesn't make a whole lot of money, but the other one that don't, they might be actually physically working like a dog.
• 34:14
  Rick Costa: So it's like, you know, give me some props too, because I'm sitting here working like a dog, I mean you have an easy job.
• 34:21
  Carmen Lezeth: So it's like that's still, you know so much, but I don't know if it's so.
• 34:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just going to say this I don't think that they're that.
• 34:27
  Carmen Lezeth: He, this lawyer, was specifically talking about a value judgment on money, right?
• 34:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean he did say at one point the person interviewing him said so yeah, like she moves into your $8 million house Now you have to give half of that to her when it's over.
• 34:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, it's his house, it's over.
• 34:48
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, if it's over, so he's like.
• 34:50
  Carmen Lezeth: And he didn't say yeah, that's why he was like you need to have the conversation.
• 34:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I think his point was not like don't give her half or she doesn't deserve half, or whatever he was saying.
• 35:01
  Carmen Lezeth: People go into relationships nowadays and they go into it because, I'm sorry, men too.
• 35:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Everybody wants the wedding, everybody wants to be married, but nobody realizes how much work it can take and what changes over time.
• 35:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you said, mario, live with somebody first.
• 35:18
  Carmen Lezeth: I agree with that 100%.
• 35:19
  Carmen Lezeth: See how they did 24 seven.
• 35:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Can you handle their cute little idiosyncrasies after every day at the?
• 35:27
  TikTok Video: kitchen table yeah.
• 35:30
  Maurio Dawson: I mean, I just I stand on that.
• 35:33
  Maurio Dawson: You know a lot of people are very traditionalist, but I am not.
• 35:37
  Maurio Dawson: I would tell my own daughter that I would say, hey, you need to figure that out first.
• 35:43
  Maurio Dawson: You need to figure out if that's something you can live with for a lifetime, Because otherwise you say, oh, I'm in so much love, he's so great or she's so great and I just wanted I'm love, love, love, love.
• 35:55
  Maurio Dawson: Well, that gets old.
• 35:56
  Maurio Dawson: And so you know, you got to be able to like the person and know who they are and what their spending habits are, Know if they have any type of addictions, Watch out for all of that stuff, Anything you know.
• 36:10
  Carmen Lezeth: And look at, that's not love at the beginning, we all think it.
• 36:12
  Maurio Dawson: No, that's love.
• 36:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Love is when it's hard.
• 36:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Love shows itself when things are not easy, when it's only them paying or addicted or fall, if it's in an accident or loses that you know, eight million dollar house, or whatever it is.
• 36:28
  Carmen Lezeth: That's when love comes into play.
• 36:31
  Rick Costa: And love does not clean the house, love does not pay the bills, love does not drive your kids to school.
• 36:37
  TikTok Video: Nope, Uh-uh, love does not wash the dishes.
• 36:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I wish it did.
• 36:43
  Maurio Dawson: Love does not wash the dishes.
• 36:45
  Maurio Dawson: Love does not wash the clothes.
• 36:46
  Maurio Dawson: Love does not wash the clothes.
• 36:48
  Maurio Dawson: It don't walk the dog, it doesn't clean the toilet.
• 36:52
  Rick Costa: OK, here's the thing.
• 36:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I would have said before this that I will never get married again.
• 36:57
  Carmen Lezeth: But I would get married again.
• 36:58
  Carmen Lezeth: But I would definitely do a pre-nup with anybody.
• 37:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I would.
• 37:02
  Maurio Dawson: I would get married again with a pre-nup.
• 37:04
  Maurio Dawson: I mean, I have a perfect example.
• 37:06
  Maurio Dawson: I know you don't watch reality shows, but I do.
• 37:09
  Carmen Lezeth: No, it's OK, that's why you do it.
• 37:13
  Maurio Dawson: Real Housewives of Atlanta, candy Burrs.
• 37:16
  Maurio Dawson: She was on the show already.
• 37:19
  Maurio Dawson: She met her husband because he was working production on the show.
• 37:23
  Maurio Dawson: He had to leave production because they decided to date.
• 37:27
  Maurio Dawson: Now, once they got serious and they decided to get married, she asked for a pre-nup Because Candy Burrs is a multi-hyphenated person she has Grammy, she has millions and millions of dollars before she met him.
• 37:43
  Maurio Dawson: So therefore her mother and her were like I need to protect what's mine.
• 37:47
  Maurio Dawson: But she also had a daughter, so she was also protecting her kid and he had a daughter as well, but he again was not in the same tax bracket and so therefore she was like look, whatever you bring to the table is yours, whatever I bring to the table is mine.
• 38:08
  Maurio Dawson: And then after that let's work on it.
• 38:10
  Maurio Dawson: Now they've gone on to be extremely successful.
• 38:13
  Maurio Dawson: They have three restaurants.
• 38:15
  Maurio Dawson: They have three restaurants, they have a production company.
• 38:21
  Maurio Dawson: They're doing extremely well.
• 38:23
  Maurio Dawson: They produce films and TV shows outside of Housewives, but all of that stuff they built together.
• 38:32
  Maurio Dawson: So that's the stuff that they have to worry about together.
• 38:36
  Maurio Dawson: But she's still kind of coddling his ego, which is unfortunate, because she's like I want to do this and I want to do that she's like.
• 38:48
  Maurio Dawson: Well, where's the money for that?
• 38:50
  Maurio Dawson: You know, oh, OK, yeah.
• 38:52
  Maurio Dawson: She's like where's the money for that?
• 38:54
  Maurio Dawson: Because where are we pulling that money from?
• 38:56
  Maurio Dawson: And so those are the conversations they're still having.
• 38:59
  Carmen Lezeth: But she seems to be very businessy.
• 39:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean she's not wrong.
• 39:03
  Rick Costa: Straight up and down.
• 39:04
  Rick Costa: Yeah, I would say too, if you said tax bracket, I love that.
• 39:08
  Rick Costa: If you are in totally different tax brackets, I understand the prenup.
• 39:12
  Rick Costa: That should be almost obvious, because it's like you know, some people they act like they love you but that's not ultimately what they love and unfortunately that happens sometimes.
• 39:20
  Rick Costa: Not everybody, not everybody.
• 39:22
  Carmen Lezeth: But you know what?
• 39:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know if it's about tax brackets.
• 39:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I just think if you really don't fear losing this person, you're in love with, what's the big deal?
• 39:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Just to protect his own or your own?
• 39:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I never understood the drama Like you're so insulted, because I guess you think, like for me, it's the reverse, right?
• 39:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Why are you getting so triggered because somebody's asking you for a prenup?
• 39:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Because they have OK?
• 39:45
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm coming to this from a different point of view, right?
• 39:47
  Carmen Lezeth: So I work for a lot.
• 39:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I have worked for a lot of different people.
• 39:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I've worked for wealthy people who, in Mar, you know some of these people, some of them have prenups, some of them did not.
• 40:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Both sides have divorces that come into play.
• 40:04
  Carmen Lezeth: And, oh my goodness, let me tell you, the women that are in and I am going to say women that had the prenups and had the okay I shouldn't say like that the two examples I had, where the women had less money than the men, the men who are big time people or whatever in this town, doing whatever they do, but signed a prenup, were much easier for them themselves to walk away because they knew what they needed to do to walk away from a bad situation and they knew what they were coming into and what they were taking with them, because they had a prenup, and here's the thing prenups like that also come with.
• 40:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you decide, like after, after the first or second year of marriage, you get a hundred thousand dollars.
• 40:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you do you know you do a negotiation or whatever.
• 40:53
  Carmen Lezeth: But if you cheat on me and that's what it gets into all that intricacy, you know.
• 40:57
  Carmen Lezeth: But those women, and I would say one of them was emotionally abused.
• 41:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean it's not what I'm going to say, but he laughed.
• 41:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like go ahead, girl.
• 41:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I had since quit working there, but I think that was the other part of it too, like I wasn't there when they got married.
• 41:14
  Carmen Lezeth: But my thought process is is if you walk in knowing what you know, that that belongs to him and this belongs to me, and I'm coming and I really love him, I'm going to respect that.
• 41:24
  Carmen Lezeth: That's his stuff and that is for his child or his family.
• 41:28
  Carmen Lezeth: But we're going to build something together and we go start fresh here.
• 41:32
  Carmen Lezeth: That's how I always said.
• 41:34
  Carmen Lezeth: But women get so up.
• 41:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I shouldn't say women.
• 41:37
  Maurio Dawson: No, not just women.
• 41:38
  Maurio Dawson: I mean I'm coming from a different point of view because, like I said, being I'm going to be together almost 30 years, so whatever whatever, that's all my jealousy.
• 41:54
  Carmen Lezeth: That's all my jealousy coming out.
• 41:55
  Carmen Lezeth: It is what it is.
• 41:56
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, hate about you too, is that you really do love each other.
• 42:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Like.
• 42:06
  Maurio Dawson: I do that's like my heart and my soul.
• 42:11
  Maurio Dawson: You know I do I know?
• 42:17
  Carmen Lezeth: like again my jealousy.
• 42:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie said if you need a cleanup, should you really be getting married?
• 42:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Just stay single.
• 42:28
  Maurio Dawson: Well, no, it depends on what's on the table, you know.
• 42:31
  Maurio Dawson: And again, because, like I said, that example of candy, she had a daughter, you know, she had a legacy already in place, so she had to protect her kid.
• 42:42
  Maurio Dawson: And I get it, you know.
• 42:43
  Carmen Lezeth: But it comes from a place of more religiosity, like Christianity, the idea that when you find your soulmate you're going to stay together forever, and the idea is, if you sign a prenup, you're already deciding you're not going to last, and I think that's a.
• 42:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's an old way of thinking, but I respect what Melanie is saying.
• 43:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I've never thought of it that way.
• 43:05
  Maurio Dawson: You know, I get it, but I mean I also see people as using it as a safety net, you know, because you just don't know until you know, you know and again.
• 43:14
  Carmen Lezeth: that's why you said live with somebody first 100%.
• 43:18
  Maurio Dawson: I stand on it.
• 43:19
  Carmen Lezeth: I will stand on it, so I can't call you tomorrow that I'm getting married because you don't know that I've been living with somebody for five years.
• 43:27
  Carmen Lezeth: How long should I live with somebody first you tell me?
• 43:30
  Maurio Dawson: You know what?
• 43:31
  Maurio Dawson: I don't tell anybody, I don't give anybody a definition.
• 43:33
  Maurio Dawson: You know when you know because, again, my niece, she had enough.
• 43:38
  Maurio Dawson: She was in there a long time but long enough to know she was in there too long.
• 43:44
  Maurio Dawson: She wasn't in too long, but she was in there long enough to know that that wasn't going to work for her.
• 43:49
  Maurio Dawson: So you just, you know when you know, you start looking for the red flags and then if the red flags keep popping up and you keep ignoring it, shame on you, not shame on them, shame on you because you're you know.
• 44:03
  Maurio Dawson: Take those rose, those rose colored glasses.
• 44:07
  Carmen Lezeth: It's hard.
• 44:08
  Carmen Lezeth: It's hard, I think it's hard.
• 44:10
  Maurio Dawson: A glow of love is fun in the first year.
• 44:12
  Maurio Dawson: Get past the first year and then you know that second year they it, it.
• 44:16
  Maurio Dawson: Those walls start coming down and you'll start really seeing what's right.
• 44:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know how long you've known the person too.
• 44:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, you've known someone for 20 years and you guys get together.
• 44:27
  Carmen Lezeth: You should still live together because it still changes things.
• 44:30
  Carmen Lezeth: It still changes things when you live Like I don't know if I can ever live with somebody ever again.
• 44:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I just I don't feel it in my bones how fine you are either.
• 44:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you need to leave as soon as possible.
• 44:42
  Carmen Lezeth: I wonder about that too.
• 44:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm kind of it's not about being set in my ways.
• 44:47
  Carmen Lezeth: It's going to have to be a very spectacular person that understands, and we have to have a very big place.
• 44:51
  Carmen Lezeth: That's going to be my like.
• 44:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I need to have my wing and we can meet in the middle.
• 45:00
  Maurio Dawson: And then you go back to your own side.
• 45:01
  Maurio Dawson: Okay, I have to eat tomorrow.
• 45:04
  Rick Costa: Maybe a guesthouse might be nice.
• 45:05
  Rick Costa: If he's really a pain in the neck, just leave a guesthouse tonight.
• 45:08
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 45:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I just need him to.
• 45:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I don't, it's not even about him, it's like I just think I have always been some.
• 45:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Look at my best relationship.
• 45:17
  Carmen Lezeth: We lived in different states and we saw each other every other week.
• 45:22
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, marry, I think you knew me when I was dating?
• 45:25
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, but, but you know who's like that right now?
• 45:27
  Maurio Dawson: Who?
• 45:28
  Maurio Dawson: Shirley Ralph?
• 45:28
  Maurio Dawson: She's been married to her husband almost 30 years and they live in different states.
• 45:32
  Maurio Dawson: See.
• 45:33
  TikTok Video: I think I'm not perfect.
• 45:35
  Maurio Dawson: And they do it on purpose.
• 45:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, Melanie just said a long courtship should show you what you need to know.
• 45:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I do not think living with someone outside of marriage is the answer.
• 45:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, Because Melanie's old school, she old fashioned.
• 45:48
  Carmen Lezeth: I kind of love that, but if I get it I'm going to reshuffle.
• 45:53
  Maurio Dawson: I understand that and I get that, but I respectfully disagree because you don't know, you really don't know someone until you live with them, and that's just the truth of it.
• 46:03
  Maurio Dawson: Because people, people will court you and there will be this, this wonderful person, and then, as soon as you get in the house, you'd be like wait a minute, when did you start leaving your drawers on the floor?
• 46:14
  TikTok Video: Wait a minute.
• 46:15
  Maurio Dawson: Right.
• 46:18
  Carmen Lezeth: But just to, as you said, respectfully, this is also more of a Rick how do I say this?
• 46:24
  Maurio Dawson: a Christian thought process, which is, yeah, no, I'm a conservative traditional.
• 46:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Very conservative.
• 46:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah.
• 46:34
  Rick Costa: And I'll to be the contrarian.
• 46:37
  Rick Costa: I can't say I learned anything new when I got married and moved in with my wife.
• 46:40
  Rick Costa: I knew everything, but I knew her for a very long time.
• 46:43
  Carmen Lezeth: How long did you know?
• 46:44
  Carmen Lezeth: You guys got married.
• 46:45
  Rick Costa: We were friends for many years.
• 46:47
  Rick Costa: We were boyfriend and girlfriend for like three years, engaged for probably another couple of years, so I knew her for a long time.
• 46:54
  Rick Costa: There was nothing new, okay.
• 46:56
  Rick Costa: Except her level of how to cook.
• 46:59
  Carmen Lezeth: That's the only thing I was like oh okay, I lived with one for four years before engagement and then we got married after 13 years together.
• 47:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Wow, oh, alma is in the house, she's going to tell a couple of things on Mario.
• 47:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I say communicate to your partner the things that are making you unhappy or causing concern.
• 47:21
  Carmen Lezeth: If nothing changes, then it's on you to self reflect and either say I will live with it or I can't.
• 47:29
  Maurio Dawson: And that's the conversation we had with our niece.
• 47:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Got it.
• 47:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I can relate to Rick's courtship Same here, still not married.
• 47:36
  Rick Costa: Yeah.
• 47:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, look, I think whatever works for you I feel the traditional old school thing, I think, especially if you're connected to your Christianity that may work for you and it may not, and maybe there's a different way.
• 47:53
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think what Mario's point is not to speak for you, mario, but you're saying there are things that change when you live with someone, when you're with someone 24, seven that you will not, which is going on dates every week.
• 48:06
  Maurio Dawson: Yes, and I'm dropping you off at the house and giving you sweet kisses and sending you.
• 48:11
  Maurio Dawson: You know, the courtship, the courtship is very, very sweet and you know that's.
• 48:16
  Maurio Dawson: You know I did all of that, you know the courtship now is a swipe.
• 48:25
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not the same as back in the day.
• 48:27
  Maurio Dawson: No, it was fun.
• 48:30
  Maurio Dawson: Thanks, it's like an emoji Right or the three dots just keep you waiting.
• 48:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I got an iPhone.
• 48:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I got an iPhone, but I hear you Right, but yeah, I mean I think that's the thing is that it's changed.
• 48:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if a courtship and the truth, but I don't even know if marriage is back then lasted, I think people, you know, I grew up Catholic and so many people were in miserable marriages because they would not divorce, because you know to get it to center or whatever it was, and they were just miserable and I don't know if that's the right.
• 49:03
  Maurio Dawson: But the sweet piece that she's 28 years together and we still haven't gotten married.
• 49:06
  Maurio Dawson: But see, that's a choice too, and there's nothing wrong with that.
• 49:09
  Maurio Dawson: But that's a choice and there's.
• 49:12
  Maurio Dawson: I don't see anything wrong with that, because I had an aunt who, who was, who, became a domestic partner with her, with her guys, and they didn't get married forever.
• 49:21
  Maurio Dawson: They.
• 49:22
  Carmen Lezeth: They were together for like 20 plus years before they got married, before they said well, you know, we're just doing it, just because well, look, I think, the truth, the only thing I would say, and you know, cause this is you know, oprah and Stedman are the same way, goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, kurt Russell that way.
• 49:40
  Maurio Dawson: One thing I would say is make.
• 49:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that his name, kurt Can?
• 49:43
  Maurio Dawson: I just say something, kurt Russell.
• 49:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I think what you need to make sure is that when you're not married, you do not have privilege to go to the hospital or to do these things.
• 49:54
  Carmen Lezeth: So you have to make sure you have that stuff written up with lawyers.
• 49:57
  TikTok Video: That's true 28 years.
• 49:58
  Carmen Lezeth: you want to be the person, the go-to person, not a person's ex, whoever, or cousin or brother or whatever who will come to claim so and I'm not trying to say that on sweepy, but just know that's the other part of that.
• 50:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I agree I never want to get married again, but I use the word marriage as like I would love to be in a long-term relationship with someone.
• 50:19
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, but I don't know if I need to get married again.
• 50:23
  TikTok Video: Oh yeah.
• 50:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Your stuff has to be in order Exactly.
• 50:26
  Rick Costa: Isn't it also depending on the state too, like when you're married a certain number of years it's considered was it called married?
• 50:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Common law marriage.
• 50:33
  Carmen Lezeth: That's all a wife's tale that doesn't do nothing in the legal form when your husband or wife is in the hospital.
• 50:40
  Maurio Dawson: Don't play that game, yeah, yeah, when your partner's in the hospital, it doesn't mean anything.
• 50:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you got to get all that stuff to take care of, because I get it, but you want to make sure because other people look, I've had to write down and this has nothing to do with marriage I've had to write down in a will, and I have nothing, what I want to happen to me and all my little things.
• 51:04
  Carmen Lezeth: And if I'm in a hospital bed, god forbid, and about to, you know, gonna be at a coma or something like that.
• 51:10
  Carmen Lezeth: I've had to write that down because I don't want quote unquote blood family to think they can have blood after all these years.
• 51:19
  Carmen Lezeth: So my family, my chosen family, are those legal people.
• 51:23
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 51:24
  Carmen Lezeth: When I had that surgery a couple of years ago, I had to send a legal document to Cynthia, because I know Cynthia would be the person who would make sure to stop anybody who thought they would be able to do anything if something were to happen to me other than the people I requested.
• 51:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And Cynthia.
• 51:40
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, so everyone should have that on point.
• 51:44
  Carmen Lezeth: And let me just say this since we went down this rabbit hole a little bit, the reason why I am like this is because the reason why I ended up in the childhood that I ended up in is because my mother never did that and never told anybody what she wanted done.
• 52:00
  Carmen Lezeth: If God forbid, something happened to her and she had always been in the hospital in and out, in and out.
• 52:04
  Carmen Lezeth: So I ended up not being taken care of by any one person.
• 52:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Look at Cynthia, I'm not your back, I know baby, but you know what I mean Like.
• 52:16
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why I do that and I encourage everyone to make and it's free, it doesn't go to your state website and find out all the things you need to know about simple wills, your living will.
• 52:28
  Carmen Lezeth: You know it goes back to that donor thing.
• 52:30
  Carmen Lezeth: All those things are free.
• 52:32
  Carmen Lezeth: It's a little bit of you doing a little investigation.
• 52:35
  Carmen Lezeth: It's very simple and you can take care of whatever your wishes are.
• 52:40
  Maurio Dawson: It's a PLA, but it's another one too.
• 52:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Power of attorney.
• 52:44
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, it's a power of attorney, but you can have, you can.
• 52:48
  Carmen Lezeth: A designated like if you're about to die or something.
• 52:53
  Maurio Dawson: Well, for example, my grandmother was ill, my mother was out of the state, but we made my cousin in charge of my grandma.
• 53:02
  Maurio Dawson: They're legally, but I can't remember the name of the document we had to do.
• 53:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it was a living there's a living will, but then there's the one.
• 53:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I know what you're talking about, so we'll put that.
• 53:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll put that in the show notes.
• 53:13
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll put that information in the show notes so that we don't give anyone bad information, but I'll look at it up in the show notes for people in the podcast.
• 53:21
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I know what you're talking about.
• 53:22
  Carmen Lezeth: During that surgery, I had Andrea and my doctor be the people to make a decision about if something were to happen to me, that Andrea would overstep the doctor.
• 53:33
  Carmen Lezeth: But that way I knew that.
• 53:35
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 53:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Like there is a word for it.
• 53:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I know what you're talking about, so that they can make that decision on your behalf.
• 53:44
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, it's slipping my.
• 53:45
  Maurio Dawson: It's on the tip of my tongue.
• 53:47
  Carmen Lezeth: A proxy Cynthia just wrote it.
• 53:49
  Carmen Lezeth: That's right Look at it this is like because I read all your crap.
• 53:54
  Rick Costa: You probably said I wrote that five minutes ago and you finally see it enough.
• 53:58
  Carmen Lezeth: We know what's actually works in a hospital.
• 54:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, that's what she does.
• 54:01
  Carmen Lezeth: She works in an emergency room, so she knows all this stuff.
• 54:03
  Rick Costa: Sorry you already almost commented Sure.
• 54:07
  Rick Costa: I also ask about finances what debt do they have, et cetera, and what expectations are If and when you move in together.
• 54:13
  Rick Costa: These are the most stressful conversations and it will tell you a lot about them.
• 54:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Yes.
• 54:17
  TikTok Video: People are funny with money and I think what?
• 54:19
  Carmen Lezeth: that lawyer was saying was have the conversation.
• 54:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Have the conversation about money.
• 54:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, traveling with somebody will tell you everything you need to know and how they treat service workers.
• 54:32
  Maurio Dawson: Listen, listen, listen, Listen, listen, Listen, Listen.
• 54:38
  Maurio Dawson: I went to Europe with some people and they I'm like, okay, you got me, but never again.
• 54:46
  Maurio Dawson: Never again.
• 54:49
  Maurio Dawson: I said you got me.
• 54:51
  Maurio Dawson: They invited they kind of.
• 54:53
  Maurio Dawson: They came along because we went to go see my daughter in Switzerland and they came along, boy.
• 55:01
  Carmen Lezeth: Never again.
• 55:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, I'm going with 14 women to the Caribbean for 10 days.
• 55:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I know I already know this is gonna be a one time thing for me, and then Cynthia and I, next year, are going to Ireland, so that'll be cool.
• 55:19
  Carmen Lezeth: I think Cynthia and I will be cool.
• 55:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't have any issues with Cynthia, so 14.
• 55:25
  Rick Costa: Did you rent the entire floor of the hotel?
• 55:27
  Rick Costa: The whole floor is off floor.
• 55:28
  Carmen Lezeth: So look at, here's the no, no, no, no, it's all hotel rooms, everything.
• 55:31
  Carmen Lezeth: But here's the thing these women go every year, they get, they leave their husbands and their children.
• 55:38
  TikTok Video: My wife said good luck.
• 55:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And then, and they go every year and they hang out and they happen.
• 55:43
  Carmen Lezeth: They invited me because I went to the funeral and they said why don't you come out?
• 55:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I said you know what?
• 55:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I need a break.
• 55:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm a go.
• 55:48
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm invading their space.
• 55:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Mama, be the good person, I just want to go and be on the beach, and that's all they do.
• 55:53
  Carmen Lezeth: They go be on the beach, they drink, they go scuba diving, they go.
• 55:57
  Carmen Lezeth: So I think it'll be fine, but in my head I'm like 14 women.
• 56:02
  Maurio Dawson: That's a lot.
• 56:04
  Rick Costa: That's a reality show right there yeah.
• 56:07
  Maurio Dawson: You know my cousin, you know my cousin Nikki.
• 56:09
  TikTok Video: So yeah, yeah, I know Nikki.
• 56:11
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah.
• 56:12
  Maurio Dawson: So Alma was asking me she's like she knows Nikki, right?
• 56:15
  Maurio Dawson: I'm like, yeah, she knows Nikki, but I don't know what her next comment was.
• 56:18
  Maurio Dawson: So oh.
• 56:20
  Maurio Dawson: We're supposed to be traveling next year to go to Ireland.
• 56:24
  Maurio Dawson: Oh really, we're going.
• 56:27
  Maurio Dawson: No, we're going in 2025, yes, yeah, 2025.
• 56:30
  Carmen Lezeth: We're going to Scotland and Ireland Really.
• 56:32
  Maurio Dawson: We're going to Scotland and Ireland as well, because we've been doing our lineage and my great great grandfather is Irish and his last name was Dunlap and we did the history and we found where he I just speak to him from in Ireland.
• 56:50
  Maurio Dawson: So we're going to Ireland, in Scotland, in 2025 to go see his homeland.
• 56:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, well, you need to, we need to talk, and maybe we'll see each other in time.
• 57:01
  Maurio Dawson: That would be great, that would be great.
• 57:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I also have British and Irish in my I did 23 and me in ancestry.
• 57:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Which one did you do?
• 57:09
  Carmen Lezeth: You did the both.
• 57:11
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, yeah, but we actually have our grant, we have his actual picture.
• 57:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you did the whole, thing, okay, yeah.
• 57:21
  Maurio Dawson: No, no, my great grandmother always had pictures, so we have his actual picture.
• 57:26
  Maurio Dawson: So we have a picture of him in his bolero.
• 57:30
  Maurio Dawson: If you go, I'll have to repost it, but I have a picture of him posted on my Facebook page and it's a great picture of him.
• 57:39
  Maurio Dawson: His name is Oliver Dunlap.
• 57:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that is so awesome.
• 57:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Wow, Okay, we're going to have to.
• 57:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I'm so glad you guys are going.
• 57:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you know when you're going about.
• 57:49
  Carmen Lezeth: We haven't decided yet.
• 57:50
  Maurio Dawson: We haven't decided yet.
• 57:51
  Maurio Dawson: We're still talking about our dates, but we've already.
• 57:53
  Maurio Dawson: We said next year because we're doing stuff.
• 57:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, Everything was about my kid this year, so and Cynthia's going to Greece or something this year and I'm going to the country and so the year, so we're going to 2025.
• 58:06
  Carmen Lezeth: The only month I'm not going is we're sure of not going in August.
• 58:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Now I wanted to go, but in Scotland they have the Arts Fair, which is a big deal and we thought about going because I thought it'd be great.
• 58:18
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I was like it's going to be too many people.
• 58:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm really one of the people I just want to go, like, I like to go to one place and stay there for a few days.
• 58:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't want to go to 95 different countries.
• 58:28
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 58:29
  Carmen Lezeth: So we're not going to go in August, so, but you guys might go in August because you like to see all the cool stuff.
• 58:37
  Maurio Dawson: No I don't oh look, no, no, no.
• 58:41
  TikTok Video: What do I always think of?
• 58:42
  TikTok Video: Kind of like the town you forget.
• 58:44
  Maurio Dawson: Alma and I are very different.
• 58:45
  Maurio Dawson: Alma, she's the tourist girl.
• 58:47
  Maurio Dawson: She wants to go to every single stop.
• 58:49
  Maurio Dawson: She wants to see every single thing there is.
• 58:52
  Maurio Dawson: To see me, I'm good, like I have targets, I want to hit this, this and this.
• 58:58
  Maurio Dawson: Once I've done that, I'm good.
• 59:00
  Maurio Dawson: But her, she's like go, go, go, go go.
• 59:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, I know, I just want to sit in one place and get to know the neighborhood.
• 59:08
  Carmen Lezeth: I want people to know my name by the time I leave, after five years, yeah.
• 59:12
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, I have FOMO.
• 59:14
  Maurio Dawson: One time when they left me to go to the Lent Chocolate Factory in Zurich and I didn't go because I was just exhausted and I'm staying in.
• 59:24
  Maurio Dawson: That was the only time.
• 59:25
  Maurio Dawson: Other than that, I'm good.
• 59:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, rick, you're going to be traveling soon.
• 59:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I know you can't, but you want to travel.
• 59:32
  Carmen Lezeth: One day one day, one day, you will, you will.
• 59:35
  Rick Costa: I've been to Portugal, canada, bermuda, so I've seen a few places I've seen stuff yeah.
• 59:40
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, I've always wanted to go to Lisbon.
• 59:42
  Maurio Dawson: I haven't.
• 59:43
  Maurio Dawson: That's what that's on my bucket list.
• 59:45
  Carmen Lezeth: So my, so my.
• 59:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I found out that my father because, you know, I know nothing about my father is.
• 59:51
  TikTok Video: Yeah.
• 59:52
  Maurio Dawson: That's so, I can see that.
• 59:53
  Maurio Dawson: Right, I see it.
• 59:56
  Rick Costa: Yes, why we get along so well?
• 59:58
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why we get along, yeah, but look, family and everything.
• 1:00:00
  Rick Costa: And I was just looking at my 23 and me the other day, so it's really funny that we're talking about this.
• 1:00:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I just looked it up in the day just to see if there was any different, because they updated a lot, you know they updated a lot, yeah, but.
• 1:00:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm still possible, as my is mostly where I'm from, which is weird.
• 1:00:14
  Carmen Lezeth: It's still pretty.
• 1:00:16
  Rick Costa: Beautiful place.
• 1:00:17
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, but I mean it's weird because I think I told you that it's part of my second book, that I'm writing that because I did it like 10 years ago or maybe 11 years ago, Right, so I first did it and it came back that I was 51% Caucasian.
• 1:00:31
  Carmen Lezeth: It came you know when it, because you know they've been updating it as they go along, yeah, and it was like 51% Caucasian.
• 1:00:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I was 52%.
• 1:00:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I started crying.
• 1:00:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I was so upset and people thought I was upset because I was white or whatever, and I'm like no, it's because my entire life I've been treated a certain way and we are much more alike than we are not alike and racism sucks.
• 1:01:01
  Carmen Lezeth: And to be told that you're 52% of something.
• 1:01:06
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, you know what.
• 1:01:07
  Maurio Dawson: I mean, you were just talking about it, right?
• 1:01:09
  Maurio Dawson: I think you both understand what I'm saying.
• 1:01:11
  Carmen Lezeth: It was.
• 1:01:11
  Maurio Dawson: Yeah, I do, I get it.
• 1:01:12
  Maurio Dawson: People yeah.
• 1:01:14
  Maurio Dawson: I get it.
• 1:01:15
  TikTok Video: So you know.
• 1:01:16
  Maurio Dawson: I understand that, but it's also important to know where you come from.
• 1:01:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, oh no, we don't.
• 1:01:22
  Carmen Lezeth: So now we're going down a whole other.
• 1:01:24
  Carmen Lezeth: We don't have to talk about this the most.
• 1:01:26
  Carmen Lezeth: That was when we are at the hour something mark.
• 1:01:28
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm going to have to get off.
• 1:01:31
  TikTok Video: OK.
• 1:01:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Mario, thank you for stopping by Charlie.
• 1:01:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I know Charlie's watching this show.
• 1:01:35
  Rick Costa: I was going to say is he on now?
• 1:01:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I know.
• 1:01:38
  Carmen Lezeth: He's probably like Mario's on, I ain't no, bother, though I know he's on, come on in.
• 1:01:44
  Carmen Lezeth: No, it's OK, charlie's like you.
• 1:01:46
  Carmen Lezeth: We don't need no one else when there's you on baby.
• 1:01:50
  Rick Costa: No, I'm going to say right.
• 1:01:52
  Carmen Lezeth: So thank you, I missed you so much.
• 1:01:55
  TikTok Video: I missed you too, thank you, thank you for stopping by.
• 1:01:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I want to thank everybody in the chat and everybody who's listening, and I'm going to give some love again to LinkedIn.
• 1:02:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much.
• 1:02:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate you all.
• 1:02:06
  Carmen Lezeth: We keep adding more and more people.
• 1:02:08
  Maurio Dawson: Yes.
• 1:02:09
  Carmen Lezeth: And yeah, thank you everyone, and remember, it's all about the joy.
• 1:02:14
  Rick Costa: It's, always it's all about the joy.
• 1:02:15
  Rick Costa: Bye guys, See you next time.
• 1:02:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by.
• 1:02:20
  Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy Be better and stay beautiful.
• 1:02:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Folks have a sweet day.