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Why HE Cheats ?!?!?! · WDYM What Do You Mean?

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  SPEAKER_00: You're listening to the WDYM.
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  SPEAKER_00: The what do you mean podcast?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now everyone gather around and listen to one of Hamilton's best podcasts.
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  SPEAKER_00: No research to back this up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your host, Michael Gillespie.
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  SPEAKER_01: And welcome to the conclusion of the cheat series where last episode we talked about the 12 reasons why women cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now we're going to go over the quote unquote, yeah, I said that.
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  SPEAKER_01: 30 reasons why men cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, uh, before we get into the meat and potatoes of this article, let it be known that there is one, one, there is no no way someone could find 30 separate reasons to cheat on their significant other.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's no way, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then, spoiler alert, those 30 is really 24.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's a little repetitive um reasons why, according to the article, why men cheat, is really 24.
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  SPEAKER_01: But we're not even going to cover 24.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're going to cover 12.
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  SPEAKER_01: The reason why is because we did 12 for the women.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's only fair to do 12 for the men.
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  SPEAKER_01: With that being said, we got to get into it because it's a lot.
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  SPEAKER_01: So this article is written by Rachel Pace on the 30 Reasons Why Men Cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this was read up to 57,000 times.
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  SPEAKER_01: So imagine, imagine there's 57,000 people that, hey man, your man ain't nothing.
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  SPEAKER_01: He crap.
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  SPEAKER_01: He out there cheating.
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  SPEAKER_01: So with that said, with that being said, let's get into it.
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  SPEAKER_01: What are the signs of a man cheating?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, number one, it says your your female friends will notice.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your female friends rolling up on you like, you don't find that suspicious?
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't find that suspicious.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't find that suspicious.
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  SPEAKER_01: Where your friends notice your partner is acting different.
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  SPEAKER_01: That there he those are the signs of cheating where he's with somebody that you have no idea, and your friends come back and tell you that he's acting suspicious.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's number one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number two, there's a mismatch in things.
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  SPEAKER_01: When a man cheats, he says something and his actions don't add up.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this could be alarming.
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  SPEAKER_01: You could also notice a change in routines.
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  SPEAKER_01: Once he begins lying, it's hard to keep up with the act.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ladies, that's a dumb man.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're with a dumb man, then you get dumb results like that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do I need to go on?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you're basically saying if a man lies, his actions don't add up.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you're dealing with the dumb man, a dumb dumb, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh he gets irritated a lot.
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  SPEAKER_01: If he's quick to get irritated, he is getting irritated a lot.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is only because he is losing his patience for you and could be finding interest in someone else.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or maybe he's tired.
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  SPEAKER_01: Have you ever thought of that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe he's just sleepy and you just want to keep talking and stuff.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm tired.
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  SPEAKER_01: Could be.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_01: These are all, according to Miss Rachel, these are her signs of cheating.
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  SPEAKER_01: Communication has decreased.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your man doesn't communicate as much as he used to, which is a glaring sign of him losing interest in you.
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  SPEAKER_01: On the one hand, it could be stress or worry, but on the other hand, the guilt has reached him and now he's scared to confront you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Communication has decreased.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, that could be legit.
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  SPEAKER_01: Another one, he rarely talks about his life outside of the home.
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  SPEAKER_01: Considering men who have affairs have a lot of fishy things going on in their life, they have little to disclose because they know the more they speak, the more they will be trapped in their web of lies.
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  SPEAKER_01: So rather than fabricating stories, they prefer to stay silent.
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  SPEAKER_01: That one's a load of horse crap.
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  SPEAKER_02: That one makes me ladies and gentlemen, let me tell you what I do on a day-to-day basis.
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  SPEAKER_01: I come into work.
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  SPEAKER_01: I get drinks.
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  SPEAKER_01: I get food.
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  SPEAKER_01: I put it on a tray.
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  SPEAKER_01: Put drinks on a tray.
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  SPEAKER_01: I run the tray to a resident.
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  SPEAKER_01: I do this about 60 to 70, 80 times a day.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you want me to talk about that when I get home after work?
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  SPEAKER_01: Hey, I loaded a tray today, babe.
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  SPEAKER_01: You cool with that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Guess what I did?
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  SPEAKER_01: I made a resident smile.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: You want to hear about that every day?
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  SPEAKER_01: No, it's just, you know, it's the same repetitive thing that work is.
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  SPEAKER_01: So those are the signs, according to Rachel, why men cheat, which is a load of horse crap.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here are the 12 reasons why men cheat according to the article.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then at the at the end of each statement, we're going to say, is the woman responsible for this reason men cheat?
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  SPEAKER_01: Number one, and I don't even have to go further into the article.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men cheat due to lack of maturity.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that a woman's fault?
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  SPEAKER_01: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_01: Alright, so come on.
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  SPEAKER_01: We all know as men, some of us, a lot of us, probably 90% of us, have a level of immaturity.
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  SPEAKER_01: Duh.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, shoot, I still play video games.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think at a certain age used to stop playing video games, but now video games have gotten to a point where it's really it's nice.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's nice to play video games.
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  SPEAKER_01: That could be a sign of immaturity, okay?
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, so is that legit?
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  SPEAKER_01: That is that a woman's fault?
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  SPEAKER_01: No, that's not.
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  SPEAKER_01: But that is true.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men, we do lack maturity issues, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Number two, men cheat when they are made to feel inadequate.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why do men cheat?
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  SPEAKER_01: A gnarling feeling of inadequacy is a major prelude to the urge to cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men and women indulge in cheating when they feel inadequate.
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  SPEAKER_01: What does that mean?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like you feel uneasy to a point where you do another thing that's uneasy?
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that a woman's fault?
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  SPEAKER_01: No, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you feel so inadequate that you base the reason of doing that act is because you feel inadequate, you got problems, brother.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so that's not the woman's fault either.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men feel number three, sorry.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men feel ashamed about the desire for pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why do good husbands have affairs?
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  SPEAKER_01: The answer is shame.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why men have emotional affairs, not just physical?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's because of shame and why people cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know this sounds ironic, like the cart and a horse dilemma, since many people become ashamed after getting caught cheating, but cheating and behaviors are often triggered by shame.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let that sit in for a minute.
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  SPEAKER_01: What kind of thing is going on in your relationship at a point where you feel ashamed for a desire in your relationship?
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  SPEAKER_01: To a point where you say, well, this is not gonna happen, so I'm gonna go out and go go see Barbara down the street.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is ridiculous.
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  SPEAKER_01: And uh, is that is that a woman's fault?
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  SPEAKER_02: No, God, no, God, please, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you again, no, I'm not gonna touch it no more.
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  SPEAKER_01: That one's weird to me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number four, men sometimes have intimacy disorders.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, when I first read this article, I was thinking the disorder was a common disorder among men as they get older in life, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: But no, they're saying there's initial intimacy disorders.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, I'm gonna tell, I'm gonna give the man a cheat code for this.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're having intimacy disorders, sit down, watch two Hallmark movies or on a Hallmark channel, and you should understand how to be intimate with your significant other.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because that's what that's what, in my opinion, that's what Hallmark channel is all about, which is how men and women are intimate with each other.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's it's something that you should learn through every movie, every story, every show, every book is how to be intimate with your partner.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're missing that, I think I think you know you need to go see a counselor for that because that one is a little weird to me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number five.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men don't cheat because they simply choose to.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, this one doesn't make you angry as a man.
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  SPEAKER_01: Something wrong, something might may be wrong with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Simply because we choose to.
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  SPEAKER_01: You could rob a bank.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can simply choose to rob a bank, but you have to feel you have to face the consequences of your actions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just because there's an option for it doesn't mean a man is stupid enough to just say, okay, I'll do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: It just it just plays on the IQ level of a man, period.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this one is a bad example why a man would do it, just because they choose to.
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  SPEAKER_01: Cheating is a choice.
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  SPEAKER_01: He will either choose to do it or not.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just like if you're on a diet and you want to eat the donut.
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  SPEAKER_01: Donut looks good and tempting and glazed and has sprinkles on it, and it's super delicious, but I'm on a diet.
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  SPEAKER_01: Same thing when you're in a marriage.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm in a committed relationship, and yo, this is that girl that BW3s and looking all good and stuff, but you have a choice.
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  SPEAKER_01: And most men would not be like, okay, I'm just gonna do this quick thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, we're not stupid.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're not.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're not.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're not.
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  SPEAKER_01: That one's sad.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number six.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, this one is the I'm gonna say the meat of of the uh of the podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is the main reason in my book why a man would cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men cheat due to lack of appreciation.
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  SPEAKER_01: While there are numerous stated reasons, one thing that runs through them for men is the lack of appreciation and attention.
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  SPEAKER_01: Many men feel that they work hard for their families, they eternalize their emotions, and can feel they have been doing much and not receiving enough in return.
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  SPEAKER_01: Explains why men cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: The affair offers the opportunity to receive admiration, approval, new attention, seeing themselves anew in someone else's eyes.
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  SPEAKER_01: This one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ladies and gentlemen, get your pen and no, ladies, get your pens out, pay a piece of paper, and write this down.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men cheat due to lack of appreciation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, they've stated it everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: We work hard, we do for our families, we sacrifice.
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  SPEAKER_01: And as men, we we are not very vocal with our emotions.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's a proven fact.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men, we don't talk about emotions.
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  SPEAKER_01: We like, that's cool, you know, I'm cool.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we don't really ever break down and talk emotionally about our emotions.
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  SPEAKER_01: That is a that is a that is a cold hard fact.
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  SPEAKER_01: So appreciation goes a long way, ladies.
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  SPEAKER_01: So this one, write it down.
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  SPEAKER_01: Lack of appreciation.
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  SPEAKER_01: That is very vital in a relationship.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number seven.
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  SPEAKER_01: That is so true.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, is that a woman's fault?
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  SPEAKER_03: Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: Shout out to Girl Group for the for the sound bit.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, just like there was one where we supposed to uplift our woman, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: When they are feeling emotional or down about themselves, same thing goes for the men.
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  SPEAKER_01: We need our ego stroked every time to time.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, hey, you look good today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hey, you combed over your ball spike.
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  SPEAKER_01: Good job.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hey, you've been working out.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're we're we're humans too.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you, you know, tell us every now and then we're good, you know, you look good today, you know, you've been working out and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Every person needs some sort of validation.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's number seven.
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  SPEAKER_01: So number eight, men become delusioned with their marriage.
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  SPEAKER_01: Often men cheat on their wives because they have become delusioned with their marriage.
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  SPEAKER_01: They thought they once they were married, life would be great and would be together with their spouse and be able to talk about what they want, you know, have great adventures and live an uncumbered world together.
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  SPEAKER_01: However, they begin to do life together with work, financial responsibilities, having children.
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  SPEAKER_01: All of a sudden, the pleasure is gone.
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  SPEAKER_01: It appears that everything is about work and taking care of other people and their needs.
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  SPEAKER_01: What about my needs?
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  SPEAKER_01: Very true.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is why married men cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men become jealous of the little ones in the house who are consuming all their spouses' time, energy, and I'm gonna put in another one food.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_01: I got every time I get a frosty, I got my little one, my my children coming over.
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  SPEAKER_01: They can have a bike.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, don't get you.
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  SPEAKER_01: You I'm pretty sure you had a chance to get a frosty, but you wanted some sweet tea.
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  SPEAKER_01: Jokes aside.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, when now this is a this goes back, in my opinion, to um a maturity thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like when you decide to get married and you have kids, there has to be, in my opinion, again, a sacrifice.
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  SPEAKER_01: You have to sacrifice the idea that you are no longer number one A.
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  SPEAKER_01: You still should be one B, one C, but at some times you have to understand that, hey, you're raising a human being that you want to be a responsible adult, and you have to understand that while yes, your needs are important, your children are also important.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that is one of the one of the things that need to be talked about, I guess, or decided when you decide to, when you're married and and decide to have kids and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_01: You gotta understand that it's no longer about you, it's about all of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's number eight.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, number nine, number nine listed is men cheat for various reasons.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is a catch-all, we're gonna get you eventually because of one of these multiple reasons.
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, this was in the article.
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  SPEAKER_01: This was in the article written that number nine has a whole bunch of things that can possibly catch how to catch a how to catch a man cheating.
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  SPEAKER_01: Here we go.
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  SPEAKER_01: Variety, boredom, thrill of the hunt, danger of an affair.
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  SPEAKER_01: Some men have no idea they're compelled to do it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Seriously, that is listed as one of the reasons why men cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: No moral code for marriage.
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  SPEAKER_01: Inner drive, need for attention.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their partner has a low drive.
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  SPEAKER_01: Marriage is collapsing, unhappy with their partner.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their partner is who they used to be.
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  SPEAKER_01: She gained weight.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wife nags to us is trying to change him or is a quote unquote ball buster.
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  SPEAKER_01: Better relationships with someone who understands them better.
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  SPEAKER_01: The chemistry is gone.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh it's just skin on skin, baby.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because they feel entitled and they can.
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  SPEAKER_01: So these are all the catch-all reasons why men cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: And now that's a loaded piece of crap.
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  SPEAKER_01: That all these reasons are men cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, if now some of these are, you know, valid.
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  SPEAKER_01: If your marriage is collapsing, you can see the low drive that needs to be talked about.
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  SPEAKER_01: All these things can be avoided if you guys communicate with each other.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wife nags too much and tries to change them is now a ball buster.
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  SPEAKER_01: What does that mean?
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't I would like to know what a ball buster is.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's number nine.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number ten, and listen to this load of crap.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry.
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  SPEAKER_01: It is.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number ten, men cheat because of the darkness in their hearts.
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  SPEAKER_01: One of the most common reasons men cheat on their partners centers on darkness in their heart or mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: Where factors include lust, pride, enticement of affair, or personal frustration with their partner or life.
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  SPEAKER_01: In general, makes them susceptible to being unfaithful.
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  SPEAKER_01: So there is a darkness, natural darkness in all men, where if we cheat, it's because there's darkness in our heart and brains.
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  SPEAKER_01: What kind of load of baloney is that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, this article was published, and the editor is like, that's cool.
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  SPEAKER_01: Go ahead, go ahead and put that one out there.
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  SPEAKER_01: The darkness in their heart.
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  SPEAKER_01: That is number 10 for reasons why men cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Number 11.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men cheat when they feel that a woman is unhappy.
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  SPEAKER_01: I believe men cheat because men live to make their women happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when they no longer feel that they are succeeding, they seek a new woman that they can make happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wrong, yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: But true, why men cheat, according to relationship expert Tara Burns.
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  SPEAKER_01: Does that make any sense at all?
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  SPEAKER_01: That I let's just put the scenario out there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, yeah, you ain't happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, that's fine.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna go see Barbara down down the street and uh see if I can make her happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: That this literally makes no sense.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I feel obligated to go out and in the streets because I cannot make you happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Am I the only one tripping that doesn't make sense to?
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  SPEAKER_01: That doesn't make sense at all.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's that's a BS reason why a man would cheat.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the last reason I'm going over is this one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men cheat when they can't connect with themselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why men cheat is because their inability to emotionally connect to their wounded inner child who is searching to be nurtured and affirmed that they are enough and deserving of being loved simply due to their inherent worth and preciousness.
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  SPEAKER_01: Since they struggle with the concept of worthiness, they constantly chase the unattainable goal and move from one person to the next.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think the same concept applies to many women too.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_01: Mark Glover Counselor.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that is that a woman's fault at all?
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  SPEAKER_03: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_01: What is this about?
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  SPEAKER_01: Men cheat when they can't connect with themselves?
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  SPEAKER_01: What what is that what is that even?
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  SPEAKER_01: What do you mean?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's a reason why men cheat, because we can act we cannot connect with ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: So again, if if you're feeling if you're feeling like this is a reason to go out on these streets this is not.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_01: This is a whack, another bad reason for a bad reason to claim that men cheat because we cannot connect with ourselves.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_01: I'm pretty sure if you're a married man, you have connected, if not with yourself, at least with that significant other.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_01: These are that's a bad, that's again another bad reason.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_01: An editor should have stopped them from putting that reason in the article.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_01: This is this is this is these are see do you not do you not see the reasons why this is terrible?
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_01: Because again, there is not 30 reasons for any person to cheat, let alone a man to cheat.
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_01: So what do you take away from all this, right?
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_01: Now that you have various reasons why men cheat and lie, you must make an honest effort to take care of the critical aspects to save your marriage.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_01: Of course, you could do nothing if it is done deliberately by your husband to get rid of you or hurt you.
• 19:43
  SPEAKER_01: But in other cases, when you know that your husband is a great person, try to cultivate a deeper bond, friendship, and love.
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_01: No man in his right mind would want to ruin a relationship that offers him and all this and more.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_01: These pieces are useful are useful advice to help women identify the reasons why men cheat and perhaps give them some insight into how men think and what they can do to prevent them from cheating.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_01: So that's the 12 reasons why men cheat.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_01: And some of these reasons are absolutely bogus, are terrible.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_01: They are cannot connect with our inner selves, have some darkness in our heart.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_01: What are we, some Marvel character out there just cheating on the streets and stuff?
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_01: Going to see Barbara down the street?
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_01: These are bad reasons why men, let alone anybody's cheat.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_01: So take this with a grain of salt because I think the majority of these were bogus, right?
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_01: Now, maturity issues, yes.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_01: I I wholeheartedly believe that.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_01: But other ones, no, not at all.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_01: But that is a rap.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_01: But I also want to say this all this was for everybody, every man in there, except the African-American community.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_01: Because I don't know if you know this or not, but they say of what you heard in the streets.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_00: Everybody knows black men to see.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of TLC, but we don't ever creep, so F4 black men go steady.
• 21:13
  SPEAKER_01: And that's the end of the episode.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_01: I had to put this in there because I heard this.
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_01: I had to put it in there.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_01: Of course, black men cheat, man.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_01: We all cheat again.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_01: I'm an out, girl scout, boy scout.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_01: Appreciate each other, love one each other, and I'm an out.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_01: Peace.