Latest / Authentic Living / How to Keep Your Employees Engaged with Jason Cochran (Part II)
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- 0:01Welcome to authentic living with Roxanne, a place where we have as conversations about
- 0:08things that really matter in our lives.
- 0:11And now here's your host, Roxanne Derhodge.
- 0:36Hi.
- 0:37It's Roxanne Derhodge of Authentic Living with Roxanne.
- 0:40This week, my special guest is Jason Cochran.
- 0:43And he and I had such a great conversation with so much information packed in that we we
- 0:48started to tune it into a two part series.
- 0:51If you missed last week, you'll find the link in the show notes.
- 0:55It's not mandatory that you listen, but we wanna make sure that you don't miss out on this
- 1:01amazing conversation.
- 1:04I would say that oftentimes most leaders, you know, are are very they're very driven they're
- 1:11one pointed.
- 1:12They are very good at a certain subset, but sometimes what happens is they can put their
- 1:17feet to the fire at a different temperature that's a little bit higher because they
- 1:21compared to the people they're leading.
- 1:24And what I find is that they because they can trudge through so many things without thinking
- 1:30of themselves that oftentimes a lot of, leaders end up coming to seek, coaching or executive
- 1:37coaching, or any kind of support a little bit late.
- 1:40So I often talk a little bit about understanding earlier what is my response?
- 1:47Okay.
- 1:47What parts am I in that window of tolerance of taking care of myself?
- 1:52Or I'm not always tipped out that my expectations are so high of others around me
- 1:56that I'm putting them under duress and I may not know it.
- 2:00So let's talk a little bit about awareness from a stress perspective.
- 2:04So with, with leaders, what kind of things do you kind of, deal with when leaders in
- 2:10reference to stress that you find has been helpful, to helping them with awareness.
- 2:17Yeah.
- 2:17I love what you can share that's gonna be in your forthcoming book, and I can't wait to read
- 2:21it, but that idea, the stress signature, is brilliant Roxanne, and obviously, you know,
- 2:27with you being a psychotherapist and my background as a psychologist, I tend to think
- 2:31of things.
- 2:32Old habits are are hard to break.
- 2:33I tend to think of in terms of antecedence, behavior, and consequences.
- 2:37Yeah.
- 2:38So what happens before a behavior, then you have the behavior, and then what happens after
- 2:42it?
- 2:43And a lot of the work we try and do is around the antecedent.
- 2:46So what are the things?
- 2:46What are the signals that you can tell?
- 2:48Some of them are biological.
- 2:50Like, if you can train yourself to be present in the moment and you can actually feel your
- 2:54heart rate, you know, starting to increase, that's a sign.
- 2:57That's a physiological response.
- 2:59To stress.
- 3:00It's not always a bad thing, but certainly it's something that you wanna be aware of that can
- 3:05then start triggering certain kinds of inner dialogue again, back to the inner dialogue of
- 3:11thoughts that you need to use to prime yourself for the situation that you're in.
- 3:15So that you can handle it more appropriately.
- 3:18So recognizing some of those physiological signs, sweaty palms, you know, things of that
- 3:23nature, I think, are really important But then after that is once you recognize the signals,
- 3:28then you gotta have the the tools in your tool belt.
- 3:30Okay.
- 3:31I'm recognizing this about myself.
- 3:33Now how am I going to engage with this person?
- 3:36And so, obviously, each person is gonna be a little bit different for some who who tend to
- 3:42be a little bit more Oh, this happened.
- 3:44I'm gonna go right now and go solve this.
- 3:48Probably would be wise, you know, to take a little time.
- 3:51You know, before something happens and to go, interject yourself into the situation, take
- 3:57some time, you know, to do a little bit of research, some fact finding to understand it,
- 4:02because we definitely have worked with leaders that very much are, well, I'm gonna go solve
- 4:06this right now.
- 4:07Mhmm.
- 4:07And so they'll quote unquote grab the bull by the horns.
- 4:11And so even though it may not be something that necessarily pertains to them, they see the
- 4:15quickest way of dealing with it is for them to intervene and to do it.
- 4:21And that can often backfire because now you may have undercut potentially a manager or a
- 4:27supervisor who really should be the 1 in power to handle that situation.
- 4:31Potentially with an employee or vice versa, you know, if it's something an employee is coming
- 4:35to you with.
- 4:36So I think there's always that balance of recognized junior signals and then making sure
- 4:41you've got the tools in your toolbox, and that's where experts like you come in to really
- 4:46help is they need a wide array of skills.
- 4:51Obviously, you know, we could go on and on probably for an hour a half today.
- 4:56Of, you know, brainstorming the different skills or things that we have have done with
- 5:01leaders to put in their toolbox.
- 5:02There's many of them but I think the the main point from that is every context can be or
- 5:09situation can be unique.
- 5:10And so the more tools that you have at your disposal if we're training those leaders and
- 5:16equipping them with the skills to really be collaborative problem solvers, to think deeply
- 5:22on the situation before acting, then that's gonna give you a higher probability of them
- 5:28pulling a plan together that's going to work for the parties involved and come to a
- 5:34successful resolution and seldom do I see the impulsiveness of this happened.
- 5:40I'm gonna go take care of it right now.
- 5:43There may be some situations that require that Like, if it's a safety measure or something
- 5:47like that, but most decisions throughout the day or conflict or challenges that come up, the
- 5:53prudent approach is to use those self awareness skills if you don't necessarily have them
- 6:00enlisting support from a coach or a consultant.
- 6:03That works on those things is absolutely critical.
- 6:06And then once you have those skills, start to use them to really collaboratively problem
- 6:10solve with your people, because as we know as therapists, you can't solve people's problems.
- 6:17No.
- 6:18I mean, many people think that's what we do.
- 6:20And and, you know, when they when you start to say to them, you know, I can Harry, let's play
- 6:25a game.
- 6:25I'm gonna tell you exactly what to go out and do.
- 6:28And I'm gonna write it out for you, and I'm gonna sign it.
- 6:31And then you're gonna go out and you're gonna try it for a week.
- 6:33Maybe you kinda go, oh, 2nd week, you're gonna fall flat, and you're gonna come back and
- 6:37you're gonna be mad.
- 6:38Because it's framed in my space versus yours.
- 6:41Right?
- 6:41And it's really about understanding of what, who, what, why, and when.
- 6:45Like, you know that stuff in reference to what the fit is for that person.
- 6:49And I think leaders as well, because leaders have they're well intentioned and they're you
- 6:54know, they're they're driven and they get a lot done and, you know, those types of things.
- 6:59But I even when working with, leaders in awareness, something is simple, and this is So
- 7:03the strategy that I use with them is that they put alerts, have them put alerts on their
- 7:09phone, to queue them up to actually do something to a presence based on the the type
- 7:15that gets hyper or hypo.
- 7:17So hyper is just like it sounds.
- 7:19They get a little bit kind of, you know, frenetic or hypo means that they get frozen.
- 7:23So throughout the day, this is something that I've done with a couple of CEOs I've been
- 7:27working with, And they come back and they go, it can't be that simple.
- 7:31And then they try it.
- 7:33And then they come back and they're like, wow.
- 7:35So I'll make them come up with something as silly as what's one of the songs that you,
- 7:41like, every time you listen to it, it brings you back, you know, into, like, a happy place.
- 7:46And then they'll, you know, they'll tell me.
- 7:47So I say, okay.
- 7:48Perfect.
- 7:49That's gonna be one of your cues.
- 7:51Okay.
- 7:51So visually, you know, it's a if maybe for me, it would be an ocean.
- 7:55Alright?
- 7:56So then you're gonna, you know, load that on the top of your phone and sites out taste touch
- 8:01smell, and I make them put those cues in with the, actual, alarms, and they come back, and
- 8:09they're like, I can't believe it.
- 8:11I, I did more.
- 8:14Plus at the end of the day, I had energy.
- 8:18I had energy to go back, you know, to come home and, you know, take my voice to the park or,
- 8:22you know, to get out to have that swim or versus me completely depleted.
- 8:27To the point where, you know, I still work the same amount of time, but because I took those
- 8:32little breaks to kinda stay present, and I I was, you know, had a lot.
- 8:37Stay the same things, balls in the air that I was, you know, oftentimes, the CEOs were
- 8:43shocked that that they were experiencing because but they hadn't thought about that.
- 8:47And it was very long.
- 8:48It could be 2 minutes.
- 8:49It could be, you know, something very simple.
- 8:51And and then they kind of were present again, and then they could go on and be more
- 8:56productive.
- 8:56So again, it's that whole element of being mindful and being in the present.
- 9:01So that you can kind of take that mental break.
- 9:03Do something that replenishes you and go on again.
- 9:07Music is so powerful to do that.
- 9:09I I definitely have songs that I play whenever I'm about to step into certain kinds of
- 9:14meetings to get my mindset right and something definitely on that category.
- 9:18And I think what's so cool about that too is even musicians themselves, you know, talk about
- 9:24having an alter ego that they step into before they hop in.
- 9:29Beyonce.
- 9:30I think Yeah.
- 9:31Is it what what's her Sasha fears?
- 9:32And she
- 9:33Sasha fears.
- 9:34Yes.
- 9:34She said she came up with that.
- 9:35And when she gets on sale, she's in that persona.
- 9:37So I think When we think about being authentic, it's about could we all have these aspirations?
- 9:43I'm sure you, Jason or myself with my family.
- 9:47But we get driven, but then, you know, through the day, if you're not consistently taking
- 9:52those little breaks to to do something to replenish, you know, then then we we see a lot
- 9:58of, like you said, stress, which is positive, which is use stress.
- 10:02That's one thing.
- 10:02That helps us get out of bed and achieve.
- 10:04But the other end is a short term impact of of stress.
- 10:07And but then when we get into the longer term things where you see people like with short
- 10:12term disability or the incidental absences go in.
- 10:16That's showing you that your environment is kind of speaking back to you that's saying
- 10:21there's more arbitration.
- 10:22There's most sick days you're tracking her of intels incidental absences are going up, that
- 10:27we need to do something.
- 10:29And that's where you know, to your point, and I love and my book is based on that as well with
- 10:34I have an assessment that all the authentic card leadership skills the leader gets assessed
- 10:41on it.
- 10:41And then not only does the leader, assess themselves, but their teams assess the leader
- 10:48as and then as the leader goes through the training, the team continues to kind of bench
- 10:52how the leader's doing.
- 10:54So oftentimes, we kind of have metrics for employees, but why shouldn't it be, both ways?
- 11:01If we're rating, creating change in reference to training.
- 11:06That's so true.
- 11:07Absolutely.
- 11:08I mean, obviously, candor is important.
- 11:10When it comes to any of us developing and growing, we need honest feedback, and we need
- 11:15people to not hold back because they're worried about hurting feelings or things like And the
- 11:20only way we get there is by building trust with each other, and authentic leaders have that.
- 11:24And that's what helps them to continue to as fire and grow is because they're getting real
- 11:29feedback.
- 11:30Their people aren't afraid to step up and say, hey.
- 11:33As great as you are, here's here's some things that weren't handled very well from my
- 11:37perspective.
- 11:38Mhmm.
- 11:38You know, over the last month.
- 11:40And those are the leaders that are going to get the feedback that's gonna help them take the
- 11:44next step and take their company and organization and their people to the next
- 11:48level, you know, psychological safety, you know, just in terms of how important that is,
- 11:54to have that.
- 11:54But even outside of business, we all need that in our lives.
- 11:58I remember, the the church we go to our our pastor He now has, a separate business.
- 12:04He does.
- 12:05He does some leadership consulting.
- 12:06And I remember one Sunday, he shared about the importance of having 3 to 4 mentors He believes
- 12:13that constellation of mentors in your life for those different aspects or context of our
- 12:18lives.
- 12:18He was talked about having a mentor you know, someone that's within your family doesn't
- 12:23necessarily have to be your spouse or your kids, but someone who gets the family context
- 12:28of your life that can give you feedback on on how you're doing, how they perceive, you know,
- 12:34that you're doing.
- 12:35Someone, you know, from the business world, someone in your friend world.
- 12:39And when you have that constellation of people that you can count on that aren't gonna hold
- 12:44back and are gonna be honest with you because they care about you, that really helps you to
- 12:50develop that self awareness signal.
- 12:53And and really understand how you're doing.
- 12:56I like the word you used to benchmark to kind of benchmark yourself.
- 12:59How am I doing as a dad?
- 13:01How am I doing as a husband?
- 13:04How am I doing as a leader in the organization?
- 13:07How am I doing as a friend?
- 13:10And, you know, just getting those inputs, if if you've put in the work to really cultivate
- 13:15those relationships with people, they're gonna be honored to be asked to be a mentor.
- 13:20They'll say, absolutely.
- 13:21You know, I'll I'll be happy to to do that and to provide some feedback as best I can.
- 13:26And when he shared that, I thought that was a really unique way also that that concept of
- 13:32having a constellation of mentors for different aspects of your life.
- 13:36And that's something that I'm working on.
- 13:38I have someone that my family and my friends, but I need to start working on more within the
- 13:44business aspect of things.
- 13:47To help with that.
- 13:48Well, I I, you know, one of the I think one of the questions in the book is I ask, the the
- 13:53leaders when they're finding out information.
- 13:54I say, take one of your children.
- 13:57Obviously, one of them that can understand that concept and ask them how they know when you're
- 14:02stressed versus not.
- 14:04As so that they could get feedback from, say, you know, one of their children because that
- 14:10may be what you're mirroring at work, but oftentimes people may not, you know, feel safe
- 14:15enough to your point psychologically to say, hey, you know, Roxanne, you know, when you're,
- 14:20you know, stress.
- 14:20You seem to do this, this, or this.
- 14:22You're more equipped or whatever.
- 14:24And it's it's it's that knowledge again because you're the whole person and most, you know, I I
- 14:29interviewed a couple of authentic leaders.
- 14:31And the one parallel that I I learned from them is that they said, Most of them were in
- 14:37service, meaning they were in service in some way in their life.
- 14:40And this particular, leader that I interviewed He talked a little bit about being humbled
- 14:46because he said, initially, when he got into leadership, you know, he was, you know, yes, he
- 14:52had thoughts of what it what it was to be a good leader, but then he was a bit ego driven.
- 14:56And as he grew as a person and he was on a several, social organizations boards, then he
- 15:03really started to realize the importance of that reflective mirror back to him because when
- 15:08he was serving, he was in a different space to being the CEO.
- 15:12And he said what he he learned was that I really needed to recognize that I'm just like
- 15:17everybody else, I needed the same things, and I was not, in fact, there's not a strata and
- 15:23more, you know, shoulder to shoulder.
- 15:25When I was like that, from his personal life when he was going out there into his community
- 15:30and making a difference.
- 15:31And he brought that back into his company.
- 15:33He said he saw the productivity of company just go through the roof because then everybody felt
- 15:39like they were as important as he was, which she said it took a lot of his internal growth
- 15:45to get to that space.
- 15:46And then, you know, when the pandemic hit, he made 200 phone calls to every one of his
- 15:53employees.
- 15:55To say, you know, first of all, people were like freaking out because they thought, oh, no.
- 15:59The CEO is calling me.
- 16:01And then he says, I just wanted to let you know, we're all in this together.
- 16:05Nobody will lose their jobs.
- 16:06We may have to adjust things accordingly, and I'm here if you never need anything, which what
- 16:11what a powerful space to come from.
- 16:13So even his interviewing these leaders and talking to them about their steps of
- 16:18development was amazing.
- 16:20It was research that I was doing for my book, but it also helped me to reflect on my life and
- 16:24what kind of leader am I being in my life as well?
- 16:27Yeah.
- 16:28I mean, absolutely, that idea of service you know, in servant leadership that that's what
- 16:33gets people to it's it's their choice whether they're gonna follow you or not.
- 16:38You know, you you can't force them.
- 16:39I mean, you can, but it's not gonna work well.
- 16:42Right?
- 16:43Short term.
- 16:44And then long term, you realize it's it's kind of, the people need to see that congruence
- 16:50between, you know, if I were to see, you know, here in Canada on the hockey rink versus in the
- 16:55boardroom.
- 16:56Am I any different?
- 16:57Am I the same person?
- 16:58And, you know, we all need to feel like the person we're working with or for is is kind of
- 17:05the same person in every, space of their life, and that's you know, with a lot of the leaders
- 17:10that I work with, they're the ones that are really wanting to, to, like you said, they're
- 17:14wanting to do better.
- 17:15They're wanting to learn, some Some companies will come to me where there's been an issue.
- 17:20And oftentimes, you know, there's need for education of that company on psychological
- 17:26safety first before they can do the authentic, leadership development.
- 17:31Because if you've got kind of pervasive themes of lack of safety, lack of trust, ineffective
- 17:39leadership practices, those types of things.
- 17:41You have to acknowledge them and, you know, say, okay, this is how we're gonna repair it,
- 17:46but you can't jump into, you know, I'm I was inauthentic yesterday, and guess what?
- 17:51Today, we have, every, you know, bell and whistles that authentic, that's like, you know,
- 17:56shooting yourself in the foot by figuratively.
- 17:58So I think with a lot of companies, they're recognized through the last couple of years,
- 18:04what's happened is, unfortunately, by the pandemic, most people have had, to learned that
- 18:13lesson on, unfortunately, the hard way.
- 18:17So a lot of companies that worth worth surviving maybe with unresolved issues.
- 18:23That was one thing, but the ones that really wanted where to connection was those are the
- 18:28ones that, we've seen thriving.
- 18:31No doubt about it.
- 18:32The healthy business to connection, companies are the ones that are thriving in the pandemic.
- 18:38They're not losing sleep at night wondering whether or not people are showing up to work.
- 18:43They know they are because they've already been pouring into them for years.
- 18:46They spent the time creating a culture, where people know that they're cared for, that
- 18:51they're able to speak up if there are certain things that need to change and that there's
- 18:55follow through.
- 18:56On those things.
- 18:58You know, we talk so much about so many different variables that go into healthy
- 19:01business to employee relationships.
- 19:03But really at the end of the day, a lot of it's pretty simple motivating things.
- 19:07People want a lot of freedom and the decisions that they make.
- 19:11They wanna be recognized and appreciated beyond just their paycheck and perks, but they need to
- 19:16hear it and needs to be specific.
- 19:18And then, they also want some flexibility as well, especially now.
- 19:23And I get that.
- 19:24I'm blessed that I'm able to do that I have 4 young 40 young boys here at home that are age
- 19:29seven and under.
- 19:31And, you know, if I, you know, we're somewhere else, I'd miss out on a lot of buildings.
- 19:35Twins that just turned 1, I wouldn't have been able to see them take their first steps, you
- 19:39know, here at home.
- 19:41And so, you know, those companies that already had been doing these things for several years,
- 19:46you know, are the ones that are navigating the storm really well.
- 19:50And certain industries, companies, you know, that didn't put in the time for those things.
- 19:55You know, now's the time.
- 19:57Yes, I know that you still feel like your, you know, the ship might still be sinking in terms
- 20:01of people not showing up.
- 20:03Don't put it off another day.
- 20:05Whatever those things are that you've received from people saying, hey.
- 20:09We can help you.
- 20:10We can help you with your people strategy, get started on it now.
- 20:14And, yes, it might take some time before you start to see the results, but each day that you
- 20:18wait, is making that day when things finally start to click be pushed out later and later
- 20:25and later.
- 20:26And we're just at a at a point now in the labor market where people are figuring out what does
- 20:33work mean in my life.
- 20:34They're asking higher level questions than they used.
- 20:38They're thinking about their life.
- 20:40They're dreaming again.
- 20:41Mhmm.
- 20:41What's the vision for my life?
- 20:43And does the current work that I do fit within that picture?
- 20:47Well, if they're working for a leader, that that they know cares about them and has created
- 20:53a healthy culture within the organization with everyone, they're more likely to stay even if
- 20:59it's a job, maybe that they don't see themselves doing their whole life, they're
- 21:02probably likely to stay and continue making great contributions for longer.
- 21:07Than if it's one where they just feel like they're punching in and out, and it's just,
- 21:13okay, I'm just putting one foot in front of the other.
- 21:15Each day, and that's not motivating.
- 21:18And all of that, the consistent theme is, as you mentioned, Roxanne is It's about the
- 21:23leadership.
- 21:25It starts at the top.
- 21:26I know everyone contributes to the culture, but if you don't have leadership, leading, guiding,
- 21:34directing the way, saying, you know, this is the the way that we want our culture to be that
- 21:40we want to have psychological safety.
- 21:43We're gonna invest in it to make sure that we do it really well.
- 21:47Then it won't happen if leadership's not on board.
- 21:51And it's just interesting to me that we we finally hit a point in human history, I think,
- 21:55where a lot of these things that seemed, oh, well, that's just a bunch of, you know, hippie
- 22:01baloney, you know, or or even automation.
- 22:05It seemed like science fiction for so long, and here we are right now where we need automation
- 22:11so that automation can help do certain jobs that people don't want to do.
- 22:15We need automation that can help people get more done with their jobs, their repetitive
- 22:19things.
- 22:20Because more is being thrown on their plate because they're working more hours to try and
- 22:25keep up with productivity.
- 22:27We need healthy culture and people now it's not just a bunch of, you know, hippie kind of
- 22:32stuff, but we need it because that's what your business needs, your people, are the most
- 22:37important aspect of your business and your employees are your first customer.
- 22:42If they aren't feeling good, about the relationship they have with the organization
- 22:47and the people within it, then your customers aren't gonna feel that way either.
- 22:52And so that's why these things are are so important, I believe, right now.
- 22:56And authentic leadership is absolutely that cornerstone piece that has to be in place first
- 23:04before you start building and adding the other components to it.
- 23:08You've got to have those pieces, and that's why the work that you're doing right now is so
- 23:14critical and so important and that we get it right And, again, for those organizations, if
- 23:20you haven't started it, don't sweat it.
- 23:22Don't beat yourself up.
- 23:23Let that go.
- 23:24Today is the day.
- 23:26It matched up with Roxanne, some other experts, you know, in the in the area that may be close
- 23:31by to you that can help with this because This has everything to do with the health and
- 23:38wellness of your people and the health and wellness of your business.
- 23:42It's that important.
- 23:44Absolutely.
- 23:45It couldn't have been, better said.
- 23:47Now, Jason, I think you are right.
- 23:50You and I can probably talk for a very long time.
- 23:52So What I'd like you to do is to, you know, tell people if they're interested in
- 23:58understanding more about, how to engage.
- 24:01Like you said, today is as perfect of a day.
- 24:04And we're talking about snippets of, knowledge that can help.
- 24:09That's, you know, I know with, your company.
- 24:12That's something that you do.
- 24:13So let people know where they can get a hold of you if they wanted to consult to understand
- 24:17some of the things that you do further.
- 24:19Yeah.
- 24:20Thank you, Roxanne.
- 24:20Yeah.
- 24:20The best way to get ahold of me is on LinkedIn.
- 24:23I love the platform.
- 24:25I'm on there many times throughout the day.
- 24:28So feel free to send me a direct message, Jason Cochran, with due lead.
- 24:34And then you can check our company out at duelead.com that's d as in dog, u l e a, d as
- 24:42in dog, dot com, and you can kinda see how we're trying to help lead the way in terms of
- 24:49automation with a lot of the people processes, to keep things moving the the ingredients that
- 24:54help make a a healthy culture.
- 24:57Thanks so much again for your time.
- 24:59So what am I walking away with?
- 25:00I'm walking away with the fact your first customers, your employees.
- 25:06If we keep that in mind, and we recognize that and that's you know, shows us even more so as
- 25:12as leaders that we need to be, authentic within ourselves the more where we are, the more
- 25:19authentic we're able to kind of, create the space around us.
- 25:22And then I I say that everything takes care of itself.
- 25:26So if ever if anyone listening would like to have a a coaching call with me, please reach
- 25:32out.
- 25:32It's roxanderhodge.com.
- 25:34We can talk a little bit about some of the things that Jason and I talked about today for
- 25:38yourself and your teams, I would love to help out.
- 25:40So again, Jason, thanks so much and for everyone.
- 25:43I'll talk to you next week.
- 25:44Take care.
- 25:45Thanks for tuning in to authentic living with Roxanne, creating the space for positive,
- 25:51healthy change.
- 25:52Roxanne is a keynote speaker cycle therapist and coach to work with Roxanne, visit
- 25:59rocksandurhaj.com/blueprint.
- 26:02We'll see you next time on authentic living with Roxanne.