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The Perfect Mindset · The Missing Secret Podcast

• 0:04
  Kelly Hatfield: We believe life is precious. This is it. We've got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our full potential.
• 0:18
  John Mitchell: Are you living up to your potential? Are you frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.
• 0:32
  Kelly Hatfield: If this is hitting home, you're in the right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher level. So you're playing at your full potential, rather than at a fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you learn it, watch what happens.
• 0:59
  Welcome to Think It Be It the podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.
• 1:04
  John Mitchell: And I'm John Michell. So Kelly, I've got a good topic today. The topic today is the perfect mindset. What do you think?
• 1:15
  Kelly Hatfield: Intriguing. I'm excited. I'm excited to dive into this one. Let's get rolling.
• 1:21
  John Mitchell: Okay, well, you know, what his has caused this idea is that I think I told you, I'm thinking, I'm teaching Thank you be it to the star basketball player at the University of Texas, that that I just met, you know, three or four weeks ago and, and he was captivated by think at bed and all that, which is interesting it you know, I've been thinking about this, you know, I know you'll appreciate this. So I've been in the in the success business for 10 years now. And the lesson I've learned, basically, is that most people are pretty lame. I hate to say that, I hate to say that. And I will also caveat that I'm looking at it from the lens of success. Now, you know, overall, people, most people are not lame, because they are what they are. But from a success standpoint, they're pretty damn line. And I say that, partly because it's exactly what Darren Hardy told me. You know, five years ago, he said, you know, for most people more success is merely a preference, just merely a preference. And he says, John, you're not going to do your 12 Minute day technique because of that, and you got to find driven people. And it's interesting. As you know, that's what we found, we were stunned to find out that most people are not like you and me, most entrepreneurs are not like you and me, we thought for us, they want to be more successful in and they're going to do what it takes to do it wrong, they are not going to do it. And they're not that interested in it. Oddly enough, but but it's the irony is that there is a group of people that are very interested in it. And that is young people about the Danner they are the real world is and specifically athletes that are senior in college, because when you go to them, and you say, Hey, I got a way to allow you to create the exceptional life rather than the average life. And it takes 12 minutes a day. They're like, I'm all in. Are you kidding me? And then then you tell him? Well, yeah, we're applying the central concept of the topic of the world on success to your life. They're like, Oh, man, give it to me. And it's just, you know, it's so interesting to me to see that difference between adults in their 30s and 40s. And 50s. When you you are offering to give them something like what we have, versus, you know, young people about to start creating their life is like night and day. And it makes it so much fun to teach. Think of bed, of course, if we have somebody that is over the top into it, like I got a new client, I think I told you about, it's a joy to teach them. But you know, it's the difference between swimming against the current and swimming with the current. And so that's exciting. Anyway, after that dialogue. The reason I wanted to talk about this topic today is I'm in the in the middle of of doing a research project called the athlete's perfect mindset and I'm Trying to take our template and, and adjust it to to reflect this perfect mindset. Now I don't think I'm going to have it all figured out here in in a month or two, which is when he'll get his visualization, but I think I'll be well on on the road. And i i So I wanted to share with you seven things that I see that go into the perfect mindset for an athlete. And of course, this all applies to anybody. I mean, there's nothing really too unique about athletes, but let me tell you what the seven are. And you tell me if there's anything you would add. So the first one is, do your best, and understand what doing your best is. Second one, enjoy the process. And understand hard work is how you get to be great. Then the third one is, be your biggest supporter, gotta have the attitude that I can accomplish anything I set my mind to, then the fourth one would be learn from your mistakes and setbacks. And, and just take the attitude that everything is feedback, then the fifth would be when you're playing, when you're on the court be in the moment, trice your training, then the sixth is you got to have a higher gear, there are moments when you're playing a sport, you got to be able mentally to go to a higher gear, you can't stay in that higher gear all the time. But you've got to be able to have it and go to it. And then the last one is understanding how the human mind works. But those are the seven principles of the athlete's perfect mindset. Well, what's your take on all that?
• 6:51
  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah, I mean, there's a lot here, right? I mean, it sounds like a good starting place, you know, obviously, do your best and understand what your best is. Because that was the thing until you said the second part, I was like, I'm not certain that people understand what that means. Do you know to do your best, right, you know, right. And so I'm sure they don't, yeah. And so, you know, having clarity around what that means to that I think is important. Enjoy the process, you know, on honor the struggle, enjoy the process, like, you know, that's exactly what this is, it's involving you as a human being. So I love that I love that, that, you know, it puts you in the right mindset around that. And then being your biggest supporter, I think we talked about this frequently, John, where negative self talk is the you know, it's it's going to be the thing that will stop you from achieving the things you want to achieve. Obviously, as an athlete, it is going to be the, you know, your demise. The difference between being a top performer and sitting on the bench, you know, and so I think that the importance of being your biggest supporter, and having that positive self talk is critical. Learning from your mistakes and setbacks. I mean, that's what life's about. Yeah, that's where the gold is, you know, that's how you get better. That's how you become a Kobe Bryant, and is that you are clued into those and learning from them. You know, being in the moment trusting your training, I think just yeah, that presence and being where you are not thinking about the next move, not thinking about the one that just happened, but thinking about what you're doing right this moment, and trusting that training, and then having a higher gear. I like that I'm not sure how, like, what is that? How do you?
• 8:39
  John Mitchell: Well, I'll give you an example of this. So you know, my University Texas football team played Oklahoma a week ago, and we were number three in the country and we got beat in the last minute of the game. Well, in the fourth quarter, we get the ball on the one yard line on their one yard line. And we could not punch it in with four tries cannot punch it in. Well, that's a perfect example of if you're the offensive lineman, you got to have a higher gear where you go, okay, enough's enough. I'm blowing this guy in front of me out, because I just want him more and I'm just going to another gear, but they are not taught that. They're about to get taught that by me, but they're not naughty today. And, and that's what but that's what I mean by a higher gear.
• 9:31
  Kelly Hatfield: Okay, got it. Perfect. And then what was the last one understand Understand
• 9:36
  John Mitchell: how the human mind works? You know? Yeah, that made a huge, I mean, you and me, understanding how the human mind works was what took us to the next level. And so, you know, that's certainly a part of the perfect mindset, but is there anything I'm missing that you can employ
• 9:54
  Kelly Hatfield: off the cuff? You know, the one thing that always stands out To me, when I think of a perfect mindset goes back to like, the energy that you put out into the world is what you get back. You know, so what you focus on expands, you know, and so making sure you're focusing on the right things, you know what I mean? And yeah, showing up because like, you're gonna get the energy back. If you're in a hole, you know, then you're gonna end up being surrounded by those type of people in your life. You know what I mean? If you're, you know, so and I know, I don't need to go any further. It's pretty self explanatory. But that was the one thing that came to mind for me that I felt like was missing was, yeah, that was that piece.
• 10:42
  John Mitchell: Yeah, I, I think that's right. You know, I would also add that you got to embrace being a grower. Right? Being a grower. Yep. And I like that.
• 10:54
  Kelly Hatfield: I think that that learning from mistakes and setbacks is a part of that grower set. But having something in there that specifically, you know, around taking, you know, out outside influences to expand your, you know, your world, I think is an important aspect to having the right mindset.
• 11:17
  John Mitchell: Right. You know, it's interesting, I'm doing my my weekly program for the head coaches today. And so I just interviewed the the Head Basketball Coach, and we're talking and we're talking about, you know, what does he do for personal growth. So he, I was able to use him as an example of how important personal growth is. And so I was telling the coaches, I'm like, you know, think back when you were a up and coming coach in your 20s, and 30s. Just picture that younger version of yourself. And now, think about where you are today, how, how much more enlightened you are, than you were back then? Well, why did that happen? Why, why did you become more enlightened? Well, I dare say that it mostly happened because you learn from other people, you know, you got the wisdom of other people coming in your head, they showed you a better way to do things. And so you started doing them the better way and you became more enlightened. And that process just continued to where you are today. And and, you know, the point I was sort of making, too, is, is you think, you think you're all that today, but you got you still got more to grow. And if you will be more intentional about creating a system for personal growth, then the sky's the limit, but the vast majority of people do not have a system for personal growth. Right.
• 12:54
  Kelly Hatfield: I think that's important. And I think that just the understanding of the growth mindset versus the fixed mind. Yeah. You know what I mean, and those two components, I was listening to this really funny story, Charles Barkley was being interviewed on a podcast and he was taught, they asked about mentorship and about growth. And he talked about when he was playing for the 70 Sixers at the beginning of his career, you know, and he wasn't getting any playtime, you know, well, of course, he was, he was overweight, you know. And, you know, he was sitting on the bench a lot. And Moses Malone took him under his wing. And, you know, he went and he said, what's going on? You know, what do I need to do? And he said, most of said, You're fat, and you're lazy, you know? And Charles said, I was devastated, obviously, but having an open mindset, a growth mindset. I was like, it took me a couple of days to recover from that. And then I went to him, you know, instead of what is it and Moses Mullen took him under his wing, he helped him lose the weight, they trained before and after practice and did the things. So it's being open, you know, and receptive, you know, so gotten down to 250. So then he was playing all the time. And I mean, it changed the equation. So I think that having the open mindset and setting your ego aside and taking on the, the expertise and the wisdom of those that have gone before you and soaking that up and leaving your ego at the door, you know, along with what you were talking about with having a systemized growth, but I think the importance of I think so many times young athletes, you know, and people in general, let egos get in the way and it fixes that mindset and doesn't open them up to hearing some of the hard things that you need to hear to grow.
• 14:48
  John Mitchell: Right. Well, you know, as as I started the podcast, I said, I think most people are pretty lame in terms of success. And I'm like, you know, I was pretty damn lame myself. off until I turned 50. And you know, is that that difference between working smart and working hard? But, you know, at this point in life for me, I'm like, why are people so hesitant to take the wisdom of other people? You know? And again, I think that I probably was, too, I wasn't awake enough to realize how critical it is to, to learn from people that know more than than I do. Why? What's your take on that?
• 15:33
  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah, I think a couple of things popped into my mind, as you were talking at the opening of this, I think, one of the reasons why the athletes and these younger people who are just entering the world are more receptive to this is because it goes back to the your seventh principle here, which was understanding how the human mind works, right? Their subconscious is still in the process of being like they haven't had the 40 years of being kicked in the teeth, of the stories that you tell, like your subconscious is made up of maybe these bad habits that you've gotten over the years, right? Or is that your, like, all of this old baggage stuff, so we're all operating from that lower frequency autopilot, you know, 95% of that subconscious? So I think it's harder to receive some of this, because you've got these old stories are like, Oh, I've tried that before, or before or, or, you know, whereas somebody younger, whose subconscious obviously, still in the process of being influenced, it becomes more and more influenced, and that evolves over time. But they're in that perfect prime spot where they've got enough behind them, and not enough in front of them yet, that I think that that's where you are really getting the traction with the younger folks is for that reason, and why there's so much maybe resistance on the people who are further along in their careers in their 30s and 40s, is because their subconscious is running their life. But there's so many more experiences, stories, and all of those things that are making up that 95% of that, of that subconscious. Does that make sense?
• 17:15
  John Mitchell: Oh, yeah, I think I think you're right. And you know what, one of the things that anyways, is interesting, I was telling this athlete, who is I think, 23, he's actually a sixth year of senior if you believe that, because they got an extra year of eligibility from COVID. But so I was telling him, I said, you know, this template, that they were going to create the succinct articulation of your lifeline, it really gives you the maturity of a 50 year old, because it's, it was, you know, certainly developed when I was 50. But, and has evolved as, as time has gone on. And you know, it's interesting when you take somebody that's 23, and now all of a sudden, you're gonna give them the mentality of a 50 plus person, what a difference it makes, and you and, you know, it's not like, you know, they can't get the 50 year old mentality, because I look at, like, a good example is, is doing my best, you know, my 30s and 40s. I thought it was just effort, you know, getting up at five in the morning. And when I got to be 50, I'm like, Whoa, that is so unenlightened. It hurts, you know, doing my best sure is doing is getting up early, but it's embracing personal growth and having a system for personal growth. It's tuning into reality. And what's reality telling me and, and it's figuring out what moves the needle and only focusing on that, you know, now, that didn't take a 15 year old mind to grasp it. You could have, I could have grasped it at 23 And somebody had slapped me upside the head and said, John Chenault you're very enlightened. Here's how it works. Get this, I would have gotten it immediately as you would have to. And so I'm, I'm fascinated that fascinated now in this process of being a college professor, this the challenge of waking people up to you can be 100 times more enlightened than you are right now. And I got the things to enlighten you with. So get them here they are. Fine, man. Yeah, yeah. And, you know, some of them won't because they're just not, they're not bright enough to get well, I take that back. They're all bright enough, but they're not hearing it at the right time. Maybe any number of things. And and my, I think my expectation is that maybe half of them, even 75% of them may really embrace it. I don't about what do you what do you say?
• 20:01
  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah, I'm not sure it'll be interesting to, you know, to see, I Yeah, it'll be interesting to see what kind of a, you know of a, what's the word not show up, right. But adoption rate that you get with the with the methodology is it might it's for sure going to, you know, probably at a minimum 5x, you know, the engagement that we've had with the other group, you know,
• 20:31
  John Mitchell: And I, you know, the thing I'm going to do is, is I'm going to, I'll teach it to every everybody and grade them on, are you getting the concepts, and then after the semester, if you want to actually implement it into your life, you can join a master, a private mastermind, I'll create, and I'll mentor them, you know, for the rest of their life. So, you know, in that private mastermind, tell him, you know, some ongoing tweaks to the methodology as well as ideas and concepts, sets for creating the exceptional life. You know, I think the reason this whole thing interests me is because, you know, in college, nobody is teaching them how to be successful in the real world. This has not been taught in college. And, you know, it's one thing when you're teaching them, say, math or English, you know, they're either getting it or they're not, and half the time, they don't care if they get it or not. But when you're talking about here's how to be successful in the real world, and it's proven, and we're gonna teach you how to leverage yourself through science, you know, we'll see, I'm thinking it's basically with athletes who are by their nature high achievers, not only are they at the right stage in life to get this, but they're, they're by their nature high achievers. And that's, that's what's required of our methodology. So it's interesting. Yeah, interesting. Yeah. Well, this has been good. You have helped me to you've added to my list. The two key things, I think, maybe three were focused on what moves the needle, really embrace being a grower and having a system for personal growth and emitting the right energy, you know, embracing the right right energy. So, until next time, we'll see ya.
• 22:31
  Kelly Hatfield: Thanks for listening today. If you've had your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So email us at kelly@thinkitbeit.com or john@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional life