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In Defense of Hustle · Wealthy Woman Lawyer Podcast, Helping you create a profitable, sustainable law firm you love

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  I hear reminders to be in a Frederick and I'd like to
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  welcome you to the wealthy woman lawyer podcast. If you've been a
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  fan for a while now, I really thank you for being here. I'm
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  you're going to get a lot of value from it. If you're new to
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  gross annual revenue with total ease so they can fully find and
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  still have time to enjoy the lifestyle of their dreams. If
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  that sounds like something you'd like to do, they come hang out
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  with us in our Facebook community, wealthy woman lawyer
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  or follow us on Instagram at wealthy woman lawyer. I got the
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  inspiration for today's topic from a social media post that I
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  saw as I was scrolling through my feed, the poster was
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  lamenting hustle culture, which she called bro hustle, hustle
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  culture. It's this idea that we all should be hustling all the
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  time, day and night to get rich, instead of being more balanced
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  with lots of time for rest and relaxation. First, let me just
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  say this, if you need a break from work, then take it, you do
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  not need to work yourself into the ground, nor do you need to
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  justify your need or desire for time off away from work social
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  media, other people, whatever it is you need and want a break
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  from. In fact, that's one of the distinct privileges of business
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  owners. And it's one of the things that in the poll that
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  I've done on my community, a lot of women law firm owners say the
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  reason that they went into business for themselves because
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  they wanted that flexibility, we do have the option to say no,
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  and to create more flexibility in our lives. If that is what we
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  choose. There's no boss telling us that we need to work.
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  However, I suspect that this poster was feeling pressure from
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  what she's seeing in her social media feed more than anything.
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  And to that I say, if it's bugging you, then delete it,
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  hide it, block it on your social media. That's what those buttons
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  are for. If someone is stressing you out by what they post, we
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  don't have to look at it. I use the block feature liberally
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  because my social media team is for me, and it's for my
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  pleasure. And if there's somebody getting on my nerves, I
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  just unfollow I block them. I I don't look at that, what they're
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  posting on their feed. I choose other things that I find more
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  interesting or fulfilling. I'm better still. You can take a
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  break from social media altogether. You know, that's
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  allowed, right? We can do that. If if what we're seeing is
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  stressing us out. All that said the title of this podcast
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  episode is in defense of hustle culture, not how to reduce
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  stress in your life by scrolling your social feed, not scrolling
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  your social media feed all day, comparing yourself to others. So
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  let's get to it. Oprah Winfrey, Michael Jordan, Tony Robbins,
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  Jeff Bezos, Beyonce, Jay Z. Rihanna, Mark Zuckerberg. Sara
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  Blakely, Sara Blakely, Leslie stall, Barbara Walters, Gary
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  Vaynerchuk Mark Lowe bonus. Most of the sharks on Shark Tank.
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  Name any highly successful person you know, so just right
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  now write down the names of some highly successful people that
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  you admire. And name any of those people who were not born
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  into the top 1%. And you better believe that they hustled to get
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  where they are today. If you know Do you know any dedicated
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  competitive athletes for example? If so, then you know
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  they likely are are up way before anybody else is in the
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  morning, hitting the pool, the rink, the court, the road or the
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  field or wherever it is they practice their sport. And
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  they'll be back later in the evening after everybody has gone
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  to bed. And they're very careful about every scrap of food they
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  put in their mouths because their goal is to be number one,
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  a champion and achiever. So they hire coaches, they work extra
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  hard, they hustle, they make sacrifices, they make choices,
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  all because they want to achieve certain goals. It's the same
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  with most any highly successful person you know, who did not
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  start out that way. At some point, they made the decision
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  that they wanted to achieve a high level goal and to do so
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  they would need to bring in high level performance. In essence,
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  they would need to hustle
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  is the concept. If you want to live a life few others get to
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  live, then you must make choices others are unwilling to make. Of
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  course, most people I named now have the choice of living more
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  balanced lives, because they have plenty of money to hire
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  others to produce for them. And they've likely all got to a
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  place where they put their money to work for them as well. But
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  they did not start out that way. And I bet good money that many
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  of them still rise early to get after their goals. Why? Because
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  they built themselves that way, through their choice of habits.
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  So they have created the person and created themselves to be the
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  person who, who will go after their goals and do what is
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  necessary to achieve their goals. Even if it means making
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  sacrifices of sleep, or, or, you know, certain he habits or
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  certain activities or making choices about how they spend
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  their money or don't spend their money, invest their money, don't
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  invest their money. They make those choices early on. There is
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  nothing inherently wrong with hustling. All the great
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  achievers hustle, when you get into trouble when we get into
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  trouble is when we compare ourselves to others, when we
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  feel resentment, because we don't want to hustle to achieve
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  important goals. If that's not your choice, then don't do it.
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  If you feel pressure by it, then make a choice to step away. But
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  I promise you this, no one who has achieved the goals that you
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  are aspiring and working hard to achieve is going to judge you
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  for hustling to get out there and get after your goals and get
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  after you want. It's only going to be those people who are
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  comparing themselves to you and feeling like they're coming up
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  short. And it makes them uncomfortable to watch you do
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  those things. If you are driven to achieve whatever your goals
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  are, don't let other people get in your head about personal
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  culture, and make you feel wrong about your choices. I once had a
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  conversation with a commercial artists friend who said his
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  partner fusses at him because he wants to work all the time on
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  his art, even while he's on vacation. And he said to me,
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  when it's your passion, your calling, you do what you want to
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  do all the time, it doesn't feel like work. So he really had a
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  desire to go on vacations, because he was at that point in
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  his business where he just wanted to spend all of his time
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  focus on his passion, which was growing his commercial art
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  business. But he you know, made it a point to take those time
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  that time away, because it was important to somebody else in
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  his life. And I agree, I know I make a point to schedule time
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  away from my business because I recognize the need to allow my
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  brain to shut off every now and then. And really, since I work
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  in my home office. Work is always on my mind. And my
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  business is always on my mind, because I'm excited about it.
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  I'm excited about growing and serving people. And the only
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  thing that really gets me out of that is to go away on a trip or
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  a vacation. And I know that's important, not just for me, but
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  also for my marriage, my husband for us to be able to do that.
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  And I tend to function in a level of intensity. That, you
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  know, most days when I'm thinking about my business that
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  I do need a break every now and then from that. However, I love
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  working with women, law firm owner coaching clients, the
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  conversations I have with them about their businesses really
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  energizes me. Some days after I've had a day full of calls, I
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  will be absolutely exhausted. But I will just feel so high on
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  life because I just had such a good time enjoying. They're
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  seeing the world through their eyes and their business through
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  their eyes and watching their accomplishments. I love creating
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  growing my business, not only because of the wealth, and
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  therefore the options that that will affords me, but for the
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  sense of accomplishment I feel when a plan works. In fact, I
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  love it so much the best way, I found the best way to expand my
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  capacity because I couldn't keep starting new businesses and
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  growing them was to help others create and grow businesses that
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  they love. Now of course I've invested untold hours in a very
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  my business and serving my clients. I've worked straight
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  through several weekends in a row to create products that I
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  could put out into the world to be able to serve more people.
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  And it's not always fun. Sometimes it's tough to sit down
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  in front of this computer again. Others would admonish me to
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  breast they do monitor speed arrests and safety Like, all
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  work and no play makes till the dough girl. That's my mother's
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  favorite thing to say. And the people who say that, to me are
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  people who love me and care about me. And they're also
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  people who work for other people. And they don't
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  understand the drive and passion of entrepreneurial life. I find
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  it particularly interesting, my parents are always, you know,
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  telling me, they're in their 80s. And they're always telling
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  me I need to rouse. And I remind them that these are the same
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  people that would work all day in their nine to five jobs, and
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  then they would get off work, they would pack up, you know,
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  sandwiches in a bag, and we would all go to the property
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  that they bought, where they say the two of them, my parents
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  would physically build the houses, they did this more than
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  once that we lived in growing up. So to advance themselves in
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  life. And in their wealth. They built their own houses my
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  fortunately my dad had those skills, my mom was right there
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  beside him on hammering in boards. And so I remind them
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  that when they see me putting in extra time to create the life
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  that I want, or to bring out a project or a passion of life,
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  that they did the very same thing. And that's where I got it
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  from, right. So I will apologize for my hustle, are there some
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  days I'd rather be in Paris or on the beach, or in a mountain
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  cabin somewhere, of course. But everyone everywhere has those
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  days, no matter how rich or poor, they are. fantasizing is
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  just a part of human nature. And we can make those things happen
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  for ourselves. But it is also part of human nature to work
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  hard for big, audacious goals. So here's the hustle culture,
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  and also to taking rest when you need it. It all boils down to
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  you making choices that serve you and what you want, and not
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  worrying about what other people are doing. So that's a wrap for
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