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Steering #1149 · From Chad

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  You steer straight into whatever you stare at.
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  There's a story behind that. This is your daily message from
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  Chad #1149 to upgrade your mental game today by telling
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  yourself a better story. Because the most important story
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  you hear is the story you tell yourself.
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  This message is dedicated to John Assyraf.
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  You can get a free copy of my book, The Most Powerful Story in
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  the World, by going to from chad.gumroad.com.
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  The transcript of this message and hundreds of others are
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  always available at www.fromchad.com.
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  Here's the upgrade. You think your expectations are
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  just predictions, but upgraded thinking knows it's a steering
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  wheel. Here's the story.
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  They teach you this on the first day of racing school when your
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  car starts to slide toward the wall.
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  Every instinct screams to look at the wall.
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  And that's exactly why drivers hit it.
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  Your hands follow, your eyes fixate on the wall, and you
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  drive into the wall. So they train you to do the
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  hard, unnatural thing. Turn your eyes to the open
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  track, the line you want, the way out.
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  The car goes where you look. Your brain runs the same wiring.
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  John Aserath teaches that your reticular activating system Ras,
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  that ancient filter at the base of your brain, decides what
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  reaches your awareness based on what you've told.
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  It matters. What you expect largely
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  determines what you experience. What you expect largely
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  determines what you experience. You don't just predict your
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  experience, you steer into it. The same idea has been
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  illustrated this way. Look around you, wherever you
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  are, and find 3 things that are brown.
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  Now close your eyes. Unless you're driving your car
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  right now and picture something that was blue around you, it's
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  usually not possible because you weren't looking for something
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  blue. You steered your focus on what
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  was brown. However, sometimes the things
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  we're looking for don't show up. They're just not there.
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  You can have an apple tree and expect the fruit to grow, but
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  you can't control it. What you can control is watering
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  your apple tree, fertilizing it, and keeping the bugs and pests
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  away. You are entitled to the action,
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  never the fruit. You can stare at the branches
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  and leaves all season, but there's no guarantee you aren't
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  entitled to the results you want.
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  The better story to tell yourself is I aim my eyes at my
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  effort and let go of the fruit. Steer toward the effort.
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  John Wooden refused to define success as trophies.
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  Success wasn't the fruit. He called it Peace of Mind,
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  which is the direct result of self satisfaction in knowing you
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  made the effort to do your best. Success was in the effort.
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  Marcus Aurelius said the same thing to himself.
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  Ambition ties your well-being to what other people say and do.
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  Sanity ties it to your own actions.
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  Sanity is focusing on your own efforts.
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  Fix your eyes there. Do your work, do it well.
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  Then let go and let God tell me a story of aiming at effort over
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  outcome to from chadsmith@gmail.com.
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  Send someone a text and ask them how are you staring your
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  expectations today?