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Your Loop Is Lying to You. Here Are the Three Biggest Lies · Afzal's Reset Entropy Podcast

• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: Your emotional loops talk to you every day.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: And the problem is not that it talks, the problem is that it sounds exactly like you.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: So you cannot tell the difference between your voice and the loop's voice.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Ever felt that two people talking each against venue in the overthinking zone.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: That is one of the examples of this.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: Today I am going to expose the three biggest lies your loop tells you about your business, and once you hear them named out loud, you will start catching them in real time, which is the beginning of everything.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: Lie number one, which comes in the line of I need to figure it out before I start.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is the C code lie, the thinker lie, and it sounds so reasonable.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: I just need one more course, one more framework, one more mentor's opinion, one more month of research, then I'll be ready.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: You will never be ready, not because you are unprepared, because your loop has redefined ready as a destination that does not exist.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: How much ever theory knowledge you get about anything, there will always be the practical and the experience knowledge that will be always there new to learn.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: There will be always some new experience that is there to learn.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: So this idea of when I'll be ready doesn't necessarily exist.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's a closed system scenario you can say from and our world is not a closed system.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: Ready for a C code means zero risk of failure, and zero risk of failure means zero action.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: And the whole agenda of having zero risk doesn't exist.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: Where will be the learning curvature?
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: Where will be the moving ahead criteria?
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Where will be the life learnings from it?
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: Where will be the up and down of graph?
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: You can't expect just the graph to go straight up in a perpend in a nice perpendicular trajectory.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't work like that in real life, and if you try to create that that is like creating laws which are not natural laws and these are the exact laws which strangest secrets in the world.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: The video I talked about last podcast by Earl Nightingale.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: He also talks about something like this when people try to create laws which are not natural, they end up being part of something which doesn't exist.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: When there are natural laws that actually helps you grow further, but avoiding that and taking a path deviating from that doesn't lead you nowhere.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_00: I sat with the founder last week, 28 years old, has been planning his business for 14 months, has not launched.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: Not because the plan is incomplete, I saw the plan, it is excellent because every time he gets close to launching, his system manufactures a new concern, a new gap, a new reason to wait.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: Another friend of mine took two years to launch a brand.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying you shouldn't do a specific survey, a specific insight, a specific getting specific knowledge on that that is necessary.
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_00: But if you're waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect moment is never going to arrive.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: The challenges is what is part of the system, the challenges is what it makes interesting.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_00: Also, the fear of failure is on the other end of the spectrum, which we are trying to put in a real world scenario, which is nothing but a loop that needs to be addressed.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_00: This founder's loop was his was uh he's not protecting him from failure, it was much more deeper than that.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: It he was trying to protect him from being seen because slaunching means putting yourself out there, and putting yourself out there means being judged, and his system decided long ago that being judged is the worst thing that can happen because of that there was a deviation, because of that there was a stagnation, because of that there was a delay, and because of which after the launch it still not able to go ahead, so it keeps him planning endlessly, safely, invisibly, and the lie is I am not ready, I am figuring out, oh this is something else only.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_00: But the truth is I am afraid of what happens when I'm visible.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_00: That is the truth.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: The lie to member the lie number two if I just work harder it will break through.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: This is the A code lie, the achievers lie, the most celebrated lie in the entrepreneur culture.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: Hustle more, grind more, outwork everyone, sleep less, post more, launch more, the breakout is right around the corner.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: Except you have been saying that for two years and the corner keeps moving.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: So here is what the HI loops does not want you to see.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: Hard work is hiding place, okay.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: A place you are busy, you do not have to ask the uncomfortable question.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_00: Am I working hard on the right thing or am I working hard because stopping would force me to feel something I have been avoiding in any of this scenario?
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: I am not saying that you should not work out a trajectory plan.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: I am not saying you shouldn't work hard, but to overcompensate those things to hide the other factor is what I'm saying is wrong.
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_00: The second example which I gave you is another person I know personally.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: I ran multiple businesses simultaneously.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_00: Real estate, hospitality, coaching, and for a long time I told myself the volume was ambition to be honest.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: It was not, it was my loop keeping me in motion because stillness meant facing a version of myself I was not ready to meet, and I had deep patterns and loops embedded in myself.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: The one where not want to be visible was there in mind, the one who was not confident, the one who didn't never would never want to show up on camera, the one who would never want to come out because of fear of judgment, because fear of not being enough, because fear of not able to help their parents, not having any confidence in taking a simple call.
• 8:44
  SPEAKER_00: Coming out of those safe walls which we create to this takes a lot of courage, a lot of awareness, a lot of insight.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: But for that, one of the most important things is giving yourself time with yourself twenty minutes of silence with yourself.
• 9:20
  SPEAKER_00: You'll answer most of the questions you ever have faced or having issue with throughout your life.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: The lie is in second example is I need to work harder.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: But the truth is I need to work on the right thing and figuring out the right thing requires that one thing my loop will not let me do.
• 9:54
  SPEAKER_00: That was the slowing down incident back then, and the same is happening with this person, and that is what he says as well.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: If he is not doing anything just for five-ten minutes, he is getting anxious with it.
• 10:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'll tell you about lie number three as well, which is I cannot afford to show weakness.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: This is decode, which is the performer lie, and it is the loneliest of the three.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: If I show doubt, my team loses faith.
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_00: If I admit I do not know, my investor pulls out.
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_00: If I look uncertain, my client leaves, so I perform confidence every day in every room to every person and underneath the performance.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: I am drowning, but nobody can know because the moment they know the image breaks, and the image is the only thing keeping everything together.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: This is the lie that cost founders their health, their relationship, and eventually their businesses, because they have to perform and perform fake manner because a person who cannot show weakness, cannot ask for help, cannot perceive feedback, cannot course correct based on honest input from the people around them.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: Because they know everything, they do everything.
• 11:33
  SPEAKER_00: The D code founder builds a beautiful company that nobody can really contribute to because contributing requires honesty and honesty requires safety.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: And nobody feels safe being honest with someone who is performing invincibly.
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: Is over here.
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_00: I cannot show weakness.
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_00: The truth is showing the truth is the only thing that will let other people actually help you, actually understand you, actually see where you're coming from, where you're going, what your thought process is, but that masks hides the people, and more than what you say, people feel it, people feel all of this.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: Even when I'm recording reels, like I had told that I was never a camera person.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: People can feel that hesitation in my reel.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: I can tell that I feel my hesitation and the recording because it's new.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: I'm also learning, I'm always on learning curvature.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: But this small small thing, there are intuition, there is energy, there is vibrations.
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_00: People connect to that automatically, they see it, they feel it.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: So when people put all these loops and masks they attract also people like that.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: They push away people also according to that.
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_00: Because those who feel and understand, they'll automatically go away.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: Then you're left with who?
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: The ones who will be similar.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's a simple math here.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_00: That's why in relationships as well, people attract people who are they like exact likes most of the time.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: Because like attracts like say whatever t and that's what happens.
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_00: If you are trying to hide something from someone, you will attract a person who is also trying to hide something from you.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: Simple math there.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: That is what happens in most scenarios.
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_00: Because the other ones which whom you want, who won't be hiding anything from you, they sense this, but of course, there are parameters and ups and downs, the graphs are separate altogether and little bit associated with this, but that was a bulb on insight which I also wanted to give.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: You heard of this three lies, you heard of this three loops, one pattern underneath all of them.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: Your emotional system telling you stories that feel like truth because they haven't been running since before you started your first venture.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: The C code says be more prepared, the A code says work harder, the D code says never crack.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: All three are loop protecting itself, not protecting you.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: If you heard your lie in this episode and you know which one it was, I want to talk to you.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: Free clarity call 30 minutes.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: You bring the lie, I show you the loop underneath it, and for the first time you hear your own voice separate from the pattern voice.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: DM me call on Instagram at Risha Dentropy or book through the link in my bio.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: Thursday's episode next week will go into B code specially, which is the fixer lice, the one that sounds like generosity, but are actually control.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: Until then, take care, bye bye, and don't forget to follow me on Instagram, YouTube, and you can join my WhatsApp community as well.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: I will see you then.