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The Bachelor That Never Was, Has Tied The Knot with Peter Kraus and Hana Ostapchuck · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hey guys, welcome to the almost of His podcast. Today.
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  Speaker 2: We have such a treat. We have newlyweds Peter Krause
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  Speaker 2: and Hannah Obbs. Okay, Obbs, Chuck stop.
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  Speaker 3: It was great. And you know what, I do plan
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  Speaker 3: on changing my name to Kraus officially, so it doesn't
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  Speaker 3: even matter.
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  Speaker 2: So thank you for that first answer, because that, of
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  Speaker 2: course is on our rundown of questions. Are you going to.
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  Speaker 3: Change your name?
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  Speaker 2: Have you been dying to change your name your whole life?
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  Speaker 3: I mean I always joked that I wanted to marry
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  Speaker 3: like a Smith or a Jones, like somebody with like
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I need a basic last name because yeah,
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  Speaker 3: stop chuck. Coming from sports broadcasting, it was just like everyone.
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  Speaker 3: That was their first question to me. They were like, quick,
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  Speaker 3: how do we say your name so you're not alone?
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  Speaker 2: That's really well, Krause is a pretty easy name.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we nailed that one. Thank you. We didn't get
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  Speaker 3: that one down.
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  Speaker 2: Just congratulations. You guys have had a wild six months.
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  Speaker 2: It was crazy because the last time Peter was on
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  Speaker 2: here it was May twenty twenty five, and he was.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, Hannah just the cutest is absolutely gushing about
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  Speaker 2: you and saying that you guys would be engaged by
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  Speaker 2: the end of the year. But lo and behold, you
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  Speaker 2: were actually married by the end of the year, and
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  Speaker 2: also with child.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, a little bit of a blood twister.
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  Speaker 4: Then when I put my mind was something I do it? Yeah?
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  Speaker 5: Did you know, I mean, remide, did you know that
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  Speaker 5: this was how it was going to play out when
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  Speaker 5: you were on our show, Peter, Okay, I.
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  Speaker 4: Mean I knew I was going to get engaged in the year.
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  Speaker 6: I didn't think we'd be married within the year, that's
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  Speaker 6: for sure, Okay, Okay, Yes, I didn't think we'd be
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  Speaker 6: pregnant and expecting at the same time.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, but you found out, Yeah didn't you find out
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  Speaker 2: that you were pregnant after the proposal?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah? It was literally like six days later.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Wait, I think it was within semary days.
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  Speaker 3: It was, truly, it was eight days later. On the dot.
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  Speaker 3: I went to one of his workout classes and somebody
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  Speaker 3: was like, you're glowing. It's the engagement glow. And I
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  Speaker 3: was like ooh, and then I was like, eureka, mental note,
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  Speaker 3: I am actually a day late. It was one of
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  Speaker 3: those things. But yeah, we took a pregnancy test, and yeah,
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  Speaker 3: plot twist, total plot twists, but it was it's all
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  Speaker 3: a great timing. We figured it out. I mean, I've
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  Speaker 3: never wanted like a long engagement anyways. I think we're
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  Speaker 3: too old for you know, really that way. Like I
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  Speaker 3: was like, I don't want to be engaged for like
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  Speaker 3: two years, like we don't have time. So that happened,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, I guess it kind of worked out.
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  Speaker 4: I would say it worked out.
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  Speaker 5: Let's have a parenting conversation real quick, one of our
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  Speaker 5: favorite topics I have on the show. In all honesty,
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  Speaker 5: I'm not I don't want to make any assumptions when
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  Speaker 5: you found out. What was the initial emotion. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 5: we had complete opposite reactions. Just laid down for a
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  Speaker 5: nap and she's like, I'm gonna take a pregnancy test.
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  Speaker 5: I'm like, please don't do it now. I'd really like
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  Speaker 5: to take a nap. I haven't slept in a few days.
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  Speaker 5: And she's like, now now is the time. And so
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  Speaker 5: when she did, uh, take the first one it was positive.
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  Speaker 5: The initial reaction was like, all right, I just relaxed,
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  Speaker 5: take another one, and then it was taking another one
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  Speaker 5: another one, and I just started laughing, like I couldn't.
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  Speaker 4: Help but laugh the whole situation.
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  Speaker 6: He was laughing, and she immediately started crying.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, this is backwards, this is not what
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  Speaker 3: it's supposed to be, Like, oh my god, I was
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  Speaker 3: having a mental breakdown. Funny enough, my best friend who
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  Speaker 3: has kids, had gotten me the pregnancy test, like sort
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  Speaker 3: of as a joke when I moved in with Peter.
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  Speaker 3: So I was like, these are rigged.
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  Speaker 4: Like these.
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  Speaker 3: So I made Peter pianistick.
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  Speaker 4: We learned it was not we had to have all
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  Speaker 4: and I was the control.
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  Speaker 7: That's brilliant.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's brilliant. Was to say I'm not pregnant.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, that's so funny. Okay, So I understand that you
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  Speaker 2: probably were excited about wearing a wedding dress in a
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  Speaker 2: traditional way.
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  Speaker 3: It sounds so stupid, but like you spend your whole
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  Speaker 3: life thinking about what you would look like in a
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  Speaker 3: wedding dress, and then if you search on Pinterest like
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  Speaker 3: pregnancy bride, nothing good comes up, like truly nothing.
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  Speaker 2: So then I was stunning.
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  Speaker 3: It was perfect.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it was.
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  Speaker 3: It was just one of those things where I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: I have to re shift everything in my brain that
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  Speaker 3: I thought I would have.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, it was the death of a dream there.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, oh thank you for getting that, because it's like
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  Speaker 3: I felt so silly in the whole process, being like,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not a I can't be like a you know,
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  Speaker 3: a Pinterest bride. But I like once, once it got
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  Speaker 3: to the day of I was like, I honestly couldn't
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  Speaker 3: care less. So that worked out.
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  Speaker 7: You are a Pinterest bride.
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  Speaker 5: So now when people google it, they're going to see
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  Speaker 5: you and they're like, oh, that looks nice, like that
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  Speaker 5: looks good.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly, you are going to show up as one of
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  Speaker 2: the top options.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Well thanks guys, I appreciate that.
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  Speaker 5: Hey, yeah, I want to keep going though in this
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  Speaker 5: so you were you were crying. There was like a
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  Speaker 5: lot obviously a lot of emotion. When did it start
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  Speaker 5: to like settle in though? I mean even for you know,
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  Speaker 5: for me, we had been trying, like this was a
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  Speaker 5: planned to have and right now I am sitting next
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  Speaker 5: to my daughter as she throws it looks like cotted
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  Speaker 5: cheese across the floor. But and like even for me,
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  Speaker 5: I was like shocked. We trying and when Jess told
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  Speaker 5: me she was pregnant, was like, whoa, And then all
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  Speaker 5: of a sudden, like it set in and I was
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  Speaker 5: very nervous, like for a long time. So anyways, when
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  Speaker 5: did it set in for you? How did this all
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  Speaker 5: kind of like sift through in your mind?
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  Speaker 6: I mean for me, it went in waves. I think
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  Speaker 6: in the beginning it was just like, Okay, this is
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  Speaker 6: almost unbelievable, so it didn't really hit as real yet.
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  Speaker 6: But then over the next like weeks and months, and
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  Speaker 6: especially once we did the ultrasound and then she started
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  Speaker 6: to have a baby. Like, the more into the process
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  Speaker 6: it's been, the more realistic it gets, the more exciting
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  Speaker 6: I get. But I'm very like I need to see
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  Speaker 6: it and believe it before it like really sets in.
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  Speaker 6: So like if someone says goodbye, Like even I don't
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  Speaker 6: really process the goodbye tolls.
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  Speaker 4: And I go to calm, they're not there.
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  Speaker 6: I was like, oh, so, having a baby for the
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  Speaker 6: first time with no baby bump was I don't know,
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  Speaker 6: hard to understand.
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  Speaker 3: I think it takes men a little bit longer. I mean, Ashley,
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  Speaker 3: you probably get this, like I the minute you get pregnant,
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  Speaker 3: I feel like everything changes, like your body changes and
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  Speaker 3: shifts daily, even if you're not like full blown belly bump,
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  Speaker 3: you're just like you can feel it mentally internally, like
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  Speaker 3: you I feel it in my skin, my everything.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, everything was taken from me. I felt like everything
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  Speaker 2: was stolen.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I was like, I have acting I've never had.
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  Speaker 3: I haven't had acting in ten years? What is going on?
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  Speaker 3: Like things like that, where he was like, it is
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  Speaker 3: funny to look back on because I did think I
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  Speaker 3: was showing for a long time, where now I can
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  Speaker 3: safely say, I'm like, I'm in my third trimester. I'm
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  Speaker 3: very much showing. But I think that's maybe why it
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  Speaker 3: took him a long time, because to him, I like,
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  Speaker 3: it was no difference, you know, until we felt that
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  Speaker 3: heartbeat and really saw her.
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  Speaker 2: So how did you feel otherwise? Because Jared really couldn't
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  Speaker 2: not know because I threw up for thirty weeks straight. Wow. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: with our first it was totally different. I had hyper
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  Speaker 2: emesis gravidarium, so it was you know, so it was awful.
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  Speaker 2: And then I totally expected to have it again the
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  Speaker 2: second time because the likelihood is very high, and I didn't,
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  Speaker 2: like I just had like a regular yucky pregnancy, but
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  Speaker 2: I even physically, like I didn't look nearly as honestly heinous.
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  Speaker 2: I looked like a pregnant lady, whereas like beforehand, it
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  Speaker 2: was like is she well? So anyway anyway, not about me?
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  Speaker 2: How did you feel?
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  Speaker 3: No, I get that completely. I I wasn't sick, like
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't throwing up, but I was nauseous. I actually
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  Speaker 3: felt like things would be easier if I would just
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  Speaker 3: if I could just throw up, but I just didn't
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  Speaker 3: have that. But yeah, I wasn't feeling great. I was
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  Speaker 3: definitely hormonal.
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  Speaker 4: There were moments, yeah, I throws.
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  Speaker 3: Where I was like should we even get married now?
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  Speaker 3: Like what should we do? Like just rethinking the entire
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  Speaker 3: thought process of of our lives.
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  Speaker 5: I'm so excited to talk about this because I am
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  Speaker 5: sitting here today Jessica for Christmas. I thought it was
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  Speaker 5: such a good idea to buy her a SPA day
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  Speaker 5: because she does so much well today was that day,
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  Speaker 5: and yet I forgot to block this day off from
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  Speaker 5: all other things. So so we're doing it, and I
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  Speaker 5: now know why Jessica deserved a SPA day because of
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  Speaker 5: the last like even just two hours of my life.
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  Speaker 3: But you're doing great.
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  Speaker 4: You're doing great.
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  Speaker 7: It is It.
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  Speaker 5: Is the coolest thing. It is nothing but fantastic. When
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  Speaker 5: did this whole thing turn into excitement or has it
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  Speaker 5: turned into excitement yet for you?
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  Speaker 1: So?
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  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I mean NonStop excitement. I think the moment
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  Speaker 6: it's set in for me. I don't know what day
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  Speaker 6: or time that was, but it's like the wedding was great,
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  Speaker 6: but it really like shifted gears to the baby, like
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  Speaker 6: everything's been baby since that point.
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  Speaker 4: The wedding was beautiful and it was amazing. It was perfect
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  Speaker 4: from like start to finish it.
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  Speaker 6: It was just like the baby brings a hole new
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  Speaker 6: excitement to life as a whole, which is so great.
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  Speaker 3: I actually think once we found out it was a
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  Speaker 3: girl was when we really shifted into just like such excitement.
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  Speaker 3: I think the fear went away then because we had
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  Speaker 3: always talked about, you know, we would want a girl first.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know why, but we just both said that,
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  Speaker 3: and so then when we realized it was a girl,
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  Speaker 3: it just felt like such a gift and I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: this is like everything we wanted it's happening. It's just
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  Speaker 3: happening faster than we thought, and that's okay, so just
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  Speaker 3: like rewiring our brains a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Nice, that's so said.
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  Speaker 4: I just can't wait to hugger. I want to kiss
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  Speaker 4: her and huggers so cute.
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  Speaker 7: You're it's you're going to be broken. You're going to
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  Speaker 7: be absolutely broken. My man.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to be girl's finger. It's so bad.
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  Speaker 7: It's going to yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: You She's like she she will destroy you in the
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  Speaker 5: best of ways, like a must like mush.
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  Speaker 2: Mus, like solidly not having another kid. But now Ben
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  Speaker 2: says this and I'm like, so I have to gender
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  Speaker 2: select a girl. Oh man, okay, Well, so where when
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  Speaker 2: you found out that you were going to have a
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  Speaker 2: baby and then you're also going to get married and
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  Speaker 2: you said that like you had to change your whole
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  Speaker 2: mentality as far as dress and like kind of planning goes.
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  Speaker 2: What why did you decide to not get married after
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  Speaker 2: having the baby? Did you want to be like traditional
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  Speaker 2: in that sense?
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  Speaker 3: Part of me was just like I knew that once
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  Speaker 3: I had a baby, I wouldn't give a crap about
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  Speaker 3: a wedding.
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  Speaker 2: I just was like so accurate.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like the only way to do it
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  Speaker 3: is just to do it now. And I'm like traditional
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  Speaker 3: in the sense like I would rather be married before
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  Speaker 3: having a baby, but I wasn't. I didn't want to
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  Speaker 3: like force it and rush it, and so we came
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  Speaker 3: up with like a few dates, and I think the
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  Speaker 3: ones like after the baby. I was just like who cares?
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  Speaker 3: Like the only thing in the way was my ego.
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  Speaker 3: So I was like, am I really going to let
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  Speaker 3: my ego stop us from having a wedding beforehand when
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  Speaker 3: we have time and we can do it, Like like
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  Speaker 3: so what, I'm not going to be this like thing
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  Speaker 3: that I thought I would be, but I was. I
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  Speaker 3: just had to have that talk with myself and I
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  Speaker 3: was like, kind of, who cares? It's like so stupid.
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  Speaker 3: So I think that was honestly the only reason, and
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  Speaker 3: that being the only reason, Like my physical self was
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  Speaker 3: like I was like, can I get over it? And yeah,
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  Speaker 3: So that was it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean we had a lot of conversations about it.
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  Speaker 1: There.
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  Speaker 6: It's like life doesn't stop just because of something that
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  Speaker 6: we have on our schedule, so at some point there's
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  Speaker 6: gonna be something else. And if it was yeah, now
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  Speaker 6: the baby's little and we got to have the baby
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  Speaker 6: involved or baby non involves.
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  Speaker 4: So I just to take care of the baby.
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  Speaker 6: And it's like, well, if you get pregnant again right away,
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  Speaker 6: then do we push off another year. It's like it's
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  Speaker 6: the difference. It's yeah, we're getting married and that's what's
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  Speaker 6: most important. And I actually thought it was more exciting
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  Speaker 6: being pregnant during the wedding because it created a family
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  Speaker 6: unit right.
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  Speaker 2: Then and there just the two of us.
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  Speaker 3: We did have a lot of kids at our wedding.
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  Speaker 3: So many kids, yeah, which was fun because like spoiler alert,
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  Speaker 3: I was obviously caring one, so I was like, we're
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  Speaker 3: going to have like we didn't have bridesmaids or groomsmen. Like,
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  Speaker 3: we were just like, let's have all of our nieces
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  Speaker 3: and nephews in the wedding. So we did that and yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I think that ended up just being so fun, and
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  Speaker 3: it was like it was such a family oriented thing.
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  Speaker 3: Not knowing it would come out like that. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: there was part of me that, like, you know, Peter
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  Speaker 3: was getting fitted first tucks and I was like, lucky,
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  Speaker 3: you you just have to get you know, like you
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  Speaker 3: have no body changes and place. But I mean you
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  Speaker 3: looked great.
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  Speaker 2: You guys both like absolutely stunning, and those pictures were
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  Speaker 2: like I don't even know what to say underneath them.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, this is just like actually in like home
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  Speaker 2: goods in the frames.
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  Speaker 7: No, that's good, that's good. Actually I like that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it was great funny.
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  Speaker 2: Jared and I were reminiscing on before having kids and
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  Speaker 2: how we used to like plan our dream house and
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  Speaker 2: we were like, the kitchen will look like this with
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  Speaker 2: this kind of hardware. And now you know, you.
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  Speaker 3: Had like all these details and grand plans.
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  Speaker 2: And then you have a kid and you're like, remember
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  Speaker 2: when we cared about the hardware we were going to
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  Speaker 2: put on the cabinets. That's so silly. All I care
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  Speaker 2: about now is that they have a huge open space
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  Speaker 2: for all their toys and like made We'll think about
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  Speaker 2: this when they're in middle school.
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  Speaker 4: Totally.
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  Speaker 6: I mean that was literally the conversation in the wedding itself.
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  Speaker 6: It was just life was going to keep going and
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  Speaker 6: things are going to change.
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  Speaker 4: And priorities will shift. Yeah, well we'll stress about now,
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  Speaker 4: will not matter in six, twelve, twenty four months whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so crazy, how much it doesn't ye? Yeah, So
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  Speaker 2: baby moon, honey moon combined?
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  Speaker 4: What are we doing none of the above.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, like we don't have time. Did you guys
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  Speaker 3: all do one? Like I did not do a baby
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  Speaker 3: moon either time.
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  Speaker 5: Now, we did, but we wrapped it around like a
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  Speaker 5: work trip, and so it was just like going to
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  Speaker 5: a cool place and we stayed at a hotel for
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  Speaker 5: two extra days.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it was great.
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  Speaker 5: But you know, at the same time, I think when
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  Speaker 5: you get later and later in pregnancy, I think, Ashley,
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  Speaker 5: you know, I don't know. Jessica was kind of like
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  Speaker 5: just wanted to be home. So traveling anyways was like
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  Speaker 5: more inconvenient. Then it wasn't like and it's not like
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  Speaker 5: she can have a cocktail on the beach. It's not
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  Speaker 5: like we can go out late, like you know. Food
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  Speaker 5: was always messing with her in certain ways. So honestly,
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  Speaker 5: I think it was just great for her to be home.
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  Speaker 5: Those were our best memories.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I second that. I think that if anything,
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  Speaker 2: do like the after baby moon, if you have like
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  Speaker 2: a pair of grandparents that are willing to watch for
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  Speaker 2: four nights once the baby's like four months. We did
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  Speaker 2: do our little Paradise dint there and it was four
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  Speaker 2: months in and.
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  Speaker 3: It was perfect. Oh okay, that's good. I do hear that.
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  Speaker 3: It's easier to travel, Easier to travel than you'd think
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  Speaker 3: with a baby that's under six months. So we're already
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  Speaker 3: planning a few, certainly.
• 15:35
  Speaker 4: Two trips coming up.
• 15:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah, Wenona has twenty five flights under her belt and she's.
• 15:39
  Speaker 7: Eleven months old.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: I think my kids were the exact same.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, all right, you guys make it sound easy.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: I feel like, I mean, we my family's in Florida.
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: I like to go to Florida, so I mean, like,
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: to us, it's like if we can just pop down there,
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: and you know, my mom would be thrilled that I
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: left the baby for a day.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and you're here in Florida, so you can
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: actually just drive somewhere close and it'll feel like a
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: vacation far away. That's perfect. And don't listen to Ben.
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: Ben has the easiest baby that's ever existed. But I
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: will tell you, Hannah, whoever told you the six month
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: period is very accurate because they will fall asleep on
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: the plane kind of whenever between zero to six months.
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: But once you get to the six months to two,
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: that is hell on earth because that's when they don't
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: want to watch iPad, they won't watch TV yet and
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: they do not know what in the world to do.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: The people will be like snacks or like the spinners,
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: like yes for two minutes at a time. The rest
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: of it's like I speak as somebody who is currently
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: in it, But just a variety of snacks can help, ye, anything,
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: it doesn't matter how unhealthy it is. Sorry, Peter, So
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: I know, just.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: Give them cookies.
• 17:01
  Speaker 6: Yeah, and they're also her child and a trusts me.
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: There's plenty of cookies for those kids.
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: Yeahs sweets that's like been my only craving. My only
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: like weird craving is like, uh, the occasional salt and
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: vinegar anything, and then just like sugar, sweets, candy, sour candy,
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: regular candy. We had like a candy bar at the
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: wedding because I was like, this is a seaking bar
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: I could be at. So I'm gonna just say here
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: an assortment of different types of candies that I've now
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: all brought back to Wisconsin because.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: I had like a my strange addiction like I wanted
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: to eat detergent powder detergent both times.
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: What that means something that's like, yeah.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: I had like low iron. It wasn't significantly as low
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: as you would think if the fact that I really
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: wanted to eat detergent both times. But okay, so are
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: there any baby items that people have been suggesting to
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: you guys? Like what's on the registry? Are you having
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: a baby shower?
• 18:08
  Speaker 6: This is a great conversation because it's very different between
• 18:10
  Speaker 6: the two of lists. Ye, Hannah's got a very long
• 18:15
  Speaker 6: list of baby items in mind, had like two.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: Okay, I just feel like I know more about babies
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: than Peter Nuts, and so I'm like, this is what
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: we need. This is But I will say that it's
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: like it's really easy to get stuck into the weeds
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: of what people say you need for a baby, and
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: then it's like you have to just like drop the
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: crap and be like, I actually don't need the Nike
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: version of whatever. This is that we went through our
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: baby list and he was like, why do we have
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: so many things that are high priced? And I was like,
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: you're right, like it's kind of silly. So there's a
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: lot of things that we like mixed from the baby list,
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: and we luckily have a lot of good friends and
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: family who are hand me downs. Yeah, Like I don't
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: even think we need to buy one outfit. Did you
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: feel that way, like everyone just keeps giving us girl clothes.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: I'm like, great, I didn't have that for some reason.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: But my sister just had a boy like three days ago.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: So now this is the third boy things in almost
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: four years. So this baby has all the handy downs
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: and he also has all the handy down equipment, which
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: is so nice. They barely had to get anything. Yeah, yeah,
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: so it works out like that.
• 19:24
  Speaker 6: But sons and clients that have babies around the same,
• 19:28
  Speaker 6: I guess, like age right, young young babies are toddlers still,
• 19:31
  Speaker 6: and so we're getting a lot.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: Of their stuff.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: It's so nice. That's so great.
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: We're trying to.
• 19:36
  Speaker 6: Build a business, buy a house, all these things in
• 19:39
  Speaker 6: life that I spend eight hundred thousand dollars on one
• 19:43
  Speaker 6: piece of equipment when.
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: You can just get it from someone else.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely. And then I was going to say about houses,
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: because this is my biggest advice to new parents who
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: like are in that in between, Like oftentimes you'll be
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: living in an apartment and you'll feel this pressure that
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: you need to live in a house for a baby,
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: And my biggest advice is for that first year, absolutely no,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: just stay put where you are because the baby does
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: not take up much space at all at that point,
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: and you can transform like a little nook for them.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: They don't need this instagrammable nursery.
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: Totally hundred percent.
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: I have no we have no nursery, and we we
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: have a you know, a second bedroom that's like lovely,
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: but it's always been our makeshift office, absolutely costroom and
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: all of that. So it's like, we're going to put
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: her stuff in there, but you know, for a while
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: they sleep with you in the best nut next to
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: the bed. It's like, it's fine. I once she can
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: remember what life is like, I will obviously have a
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: room for her and we'll make sure it's like, you know,
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: it's great. But I get trying not to fall into
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: that trap of thinking you need everything because people are like, okay,
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: I'm you know, I'm thirty weeks right now. So then
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: people are like, I see on my TikTok algorithm, it'll
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: be like people who are, you know, thirty three weeks
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: and they're like, I'm just putting the finishing time just
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: on the nursery, and I'm like, uh, we're not doing that.
• 21:03
  Speaker 7: That's okay.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: That's like my biggest advice is, don't listen to influencers
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: when it comes to like having the perfect space put together.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it almost needs to be de influenced.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Yes, that's great.
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: Everyone needs to just do less in the early stage department,
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: because it's true they don't. I mean, my mom, who's
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: so excited, is like, Okay, we have a pool. We
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: gotta like, you know, I have to figure out how
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: to get the pool. And I'm like, you know, the
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: baby's not moving mobiles.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: A year, Like you're okay, yeah, you are, Okay.
• 21:39
  Speaker 5: I'm curious though, because we've talked a lot about babies,
• 21:43
  Speaker 5: what has it been like for the two of you.
• 21:45
  Speaker 5: I mean, obviously, when you're on here, Peter, you said, hey,
• 21:48
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna get engaged by into the year. We've talked
• 21:50
  Speaker 5: about the expedited timeline. We talked about the beautiful wedding.
• 21:53
  Speaker 5: We talked about the gift and the joy it is
• 21:55
  Speaker 5: that you will be that you're expecting a little monster.
• 22:01
  Speaker 5: And but for the two of you as a couple,
• 22:04
  Speaker 5: I would have to think like this is you've had
• 22:07
  Speaker 5: to navigate a lot and have more intense conversations than
• 22:12
  Speaker 5: most you know, pre engaged couples have had, So can
• 22:16
  Speaker 5: you walk all of us through kind of how you
• 22:17
  Speaker 5: guys have navigated it, where you stand today and how
• 22:20
  Speaker 5: you feel like you're a team.
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think empathy leads the way. You just got
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: to be open and.
• 22:25
  Speaker 6: Understanding and allow space for a lot of challenging conversations
• 22:30
  Speaker 6: and listen a lot to why someone feels the way
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: they feel, trying not to interject during those conversations, allow
• 22:37
  Speaker 6: us one and get out exactly what they need to
• 22:39
  Speaker 6: get out, and then I just have to sit with
• 22:41
  Speaker 6: it and process it before I have to like be
• 22:45
  Speaker 6: the dad in the situation and start trying to like
• 22:47
  Speaker 6: make decisions. It's actually been really great. It's allowed us
• 22:53
  Speaker 6: to build a relationship that much stronger, and I think
• 22:55
  Speaker 6: allowed us to move so fast, so it's easy to
• 22:58
  Speaker 6: have I guess, challenging conversations when the love between us
• 23:02
  Speaker 6: with each step just gets stronger and stronger.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 23:04
  Speaker 6: Like I think on our wedding day, I didn't expect
• 23:07
  Speaker 6: to feel a change, but I felt a change, like
• 23:09
  Speaker 6: it really increased.
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: My love for her.
• 23:13
  Speaker 6: And then during our wedding, I felt the baby kick
• 23:15
  Speaker 6: my arm while we were staying there at the altar.
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: That's so special.
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, ILF like it.
• 23:22
  Speaker 6: Just it's further proof that this is all right and
• 23:26
  Speaker 6: there's no reason to question it. And little things will
• 23:29
  Speaker 6: come up throughout the process and they're not that serious.
• 23:32
  Speaker 6: We'll deal with them as they come. Yeah, so I
• 23:34
  Speaker 6: try not to overthink any of it.
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. I
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: think that at the end of the day. It sounds silly,
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: but I always just have to remind myself, like we're
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: walking and answered prayers like these are this is what
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: we wanted and from our life, and again it happened quickly.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: So just knowing that these were like this was all
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: an answered prayer to us and like these things that
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: we wanted, it's it's so refreshing. But of course there's
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: a side of me, like I see couples who are like,
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: you know, I've been together for ten years and it's
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: so much time together before getting married and before having kids,
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: and I'm like, oh, that must be really cool, Like
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: I don't know what that's like. But I also think
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: the silver lining is that we'll have a little bit
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: of like I don't even know how to describe it,
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: like a this sounds bad, but like a selfishness and
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: a relationship with this new family that we're building, Like,
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: we'll prioritize making time for each other so much more
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: because we didn't really have, you know, like years and
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: years and years of dating before all of this happened.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: So I think it will help us, like prioritize each other.
• 24:45
  Speaker 7: I don't want to give advice, but I do.
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: I have one next.
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: But based on my relationship, those two years that Jessica
• 24:58
  Speaker 5: and I spent as the married couple were magical. They
• 25:01
  Speaker 5: were They were so fun. They were very free. There
• 25:05
  Speaker 5: was no responsibilities. It was do whatever you want. But
• 25:09
  Speaker 5: I mean this when I say it, I think Jessica
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: would agree. They make zero sense to us now, like
• 25:16
  Speaker 5: with Winnie in our lives, this is where our life started,
• 25:20
  Speaker 5: this is when our marriage like started. So yes, they
• 25:24
  Speaker 5: were fun, they're great, we love them, but they don't
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: make any sense to us anymore because how in the
• 25:29
  Speaker 5: world did we survive, like do life without this little
• 25:33
  Speaker 5: girl and I and I I only say that because
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: I want I know that temptation will be there to
• 25:37
  Speaker 5: be like, gosh, you know you know what, uh, we
• 25:42
  Speaker 5: missed out on that, like that honeymoon phase. But the
• 25:46
  Speaker 5: honeymoon phase with a child just brings us closer together,
• 25:50
  Speaker 5: and I wish that for the two of you.
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: Thank you for saying that. That's great. That's like, it's
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: that's I I totally visualize that, and I love looking
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: forward to that idea, that concept because that does seem
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: so real to me. I see it in my friendships
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: and like their relationships too.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Ben put that really beautifully. I would say, in
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: my own less beautified way, it does feel like marriage begins.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: When the baby comes. There's just like a lot more
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: like a lot more like communication. I don't know what
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: it is, just like if the relationship feels more of
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: like something that you have to like talk through a
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: lot more, whereas like before it it feels like you're
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: just like friends having a great time together. You're just
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: you're hanging out, you're having fun, like everything's off the
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: seat of your pants. But like it feels like marriage
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: really like begins then, because I think that almost like
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: before kids, it's kind of like a continuation of dating. Yeah, yeah, okay,
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: And then I was also going to say that I
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: think that when you have only one child, it also
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: can remain a little bit more like feeling you're gonna
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: be able to get in more date nights. You know,
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: grandparents asking them to take care of a one kid,
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: No deal, they can handle that. Getting a babysitter like
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: wanting to do that also so cute, so easy, and
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: then putting one kid to bed and then being able
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: to watch a movie. Yeah you can do that. You
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: can eat dinner after you put the baby to bed
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: and like kind of feel like your nights are normal.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: Then you have to and then you're just like where
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: chickens with our heads cut off.
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: Wait hell for a part of the ages of your kids,
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: the two and a half years is very perfect.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: It's but like when you're it's the almost he's almost four,
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: and then the one and a half it's it's definitely
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: there's like a chaotic period of life. There's just like
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: no denying that if you have a three and a
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: one year and a half year old and it's gonna
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: be nuts.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: Sure, I can totally see that.
• 27:56
  Speaker 6: There's a like a depiction of happiness, or I would
• 27:58
  Speaker 6: say there's like a chart showing happiness. It shows those
• 28:01
  Speaker 6: who are single without kids tend to be the least
• 28:04
  Speaker 6: happy overall. Those who are married with kids tend to
• 28:10
  Speaker 6: be like the highest peak of unhappiness.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: Wait, the highest peak of unhappiness.
• 28:15
  Speaker 6: Yeah, but then they create it return unhappiness long term.
• 28:19
  Speaker 6: So it's like it's basically saying that, like when someone
• 28:22
  Speaker 6: is like early in their relationship, they're young, they have
• 28:24
  Speaker 6: two kids. There's a lot of stress on that relationship,
• 28:27
  Speaker 6: that family, the day to day, like there's lack of sleep,
• 28:30
  Speaker 6: there's a lot of financial stress for a lot of people.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: There's just a lot of challenges.
• 28:36
  Speaker 6: But then having your child grow up in front of
• 28:39
  Speaker 6: your eyes and seeing the result of all your hard
• 28:41
  Speaker 6: work results in the highest peak of happiness hands down
• 28:45
  Speaker 6: by the end.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: Interesting, Well, that's when you talk to older people, they
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: say what part of your life do you wish you
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: could return and relive, like in just enjoying mode, And
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: older people usually say that when their kids are little,
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: like not like necessarily want to brief like before ten
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: And I thought you were going to say that like
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: once all your kids reached the age of five, that
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: was going to happiness.
• 29:08
  Speaker 6: I don't know when like the change happens, but like
• 29:11
  Speaker 6: stress hands down, and then it's once things start to
• 29:14
  Speaker 6: like level off and the kids are growing up and
• 29:17
  Speaker 6: they're not as I guess, needy of your time and
• 29:20
  Speaker 6: attention and finances, it's much easier to sit back and
• 29:24
  Speaker 6: the like see the result of all your hard work.
• 29:26
  Speaker 6: And I think, like anything in life, when you work hard,
• 29:29
  Speaker 6: your enjoyment or happiness resulting from that hard work is
• 29:33
  Speaker 6: so much higher than if it just came to you.
• 29:35
  Speaker 6: And so your kids are by the hardest thing that
• 29:36
  Speaker 6: you're ever going to experience in life.
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and so the result the greatest happiness.
• 29:41
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 29:41
  Speaker 5: I would also argue that having a kid is hard,
• 29:44
  Speaker 5: It isn't as bad and hard as what Like, people
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: are going to start telling you here and Peter, here's
• 29:48
  Speaker 5: the cool part. And I seem to be so focused
• 29:50
  Speaker 5: on your relationshipause. I think it's wonderful the things and
• 29:53
  Speaker 5: the steps that you've taken here. But you're going to
• 29:57
  Speaker 5: get to fall in love all over again too, Like
• 30:01
  Speaker 5: it's crazy you have very little to do with the
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: success of this child for the first few weeks, like
• 30:07
  Speaker 5: you are.
• 30:08
  Speaker 7: You're a solid.
• 30:09
  Speaker 5: Bench player, filling in when you get called into the game.
• 30:13
  Speaker 5: But there and I know Jared would agree with you.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: I called a lot.
• 30:22
  Speaker 7: Maybe Jared would not agree with me.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: With him, he loves being active with that.
• 30:29
  Speaker 5: But seeing the person you love turn into a mother
• 30:34
  Speaker 5: is the coolest feeling as a husband, and I that's
• 30:39
  Speaker 5: that's one hundred percent true across the board. I've never
• 30:41
  Speaker 5: met a husband who's like, yeah, I saw my wife
• 30:43
  Speaker 5: as a mother and that was that sucked.
• 30:48
  Speaker 7: It is.
• 30:50
  Speaker 5: It is so cool that you get to experience not
• 30:52
  Speaker 5: only that wedding day where you look down and see
• 30:54
  Speaker 5: your bride, but also very soon the day you know
• 30:58
  Speaker 5: you two become parents, because you get like two of
• 31:01
  Speaker 5: the coolest feelings in the world back to back. And then,
• 31:05
  Speaker 5: like I said, I wasn't kidding when I said, be
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: prepared to be rot Everything in your life is going
• 31:09
  Speaker 5: to change and you are going to be a mushball
• 31:13
  Speaker 5: for maybe ever now, So have fun.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: I always say Peter is like such a smosh to
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: begin with, Like there's like him having a girl to
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: me just made sense.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: He's such a girl dad. It's like crazy. It's like
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: crazy only you know spend a number of days in
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: his presence, but like you just wreak girl dad in
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: the best way.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: It's so true. And he started with like a girl
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: dog and then me and now an actual daughter. So
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: it's just like really funny. He's like, I'm surrounded.
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there's.
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: Business. Also was like led by a bunch of women,
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: so like, yeah, let's freaking go. It's happening.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: My dad was always surrounded by women and female dogs
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: as well. Like he didn't even want a boy dog
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: in the house. No, yeah, so he never craved that.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: And you know, my parents are crazy. They they actually
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: didn't go for a third because they didn't want a boy. No,
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: they're so now they have three grandsons, which is absolutely hilarious,
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: and they're obsessed with them. Yeah, I know it goes
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: all the way, like the Jonas brothers have all all girls.
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: And they were all see yeah, like him and I
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: both only have brothers, so we only know what it's
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: like with boys in the house. So but I always
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: wanted sisters, and like grew up watching the Kardashians and
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: was like, you know, wanted I wanted.
• 32:33
  Speaker 6: That she and her mom are like they're identical twins
• 32:38
  Speaker 6: and best friends.
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: And I have a feeling that this daughter is gonna
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: be exactly the same way. It's like watching triplets.
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: That's so so sweet. Love you guys, I'm so sweet.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: Before we let you guys go, I just have to say, Okay,
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: So when Peter was on our podcast in May, I
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: like geeked out Hannah that like you end up being
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: his wife because you and I met so soon after
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: my time on the Bachelor, was even before I went
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: to go film Bachelor in Paradise, but like, we hit
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: it off at that party, and I followed you and
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: have been following you on Instagram ever since. So when
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: I saw the two of you together, I was like,
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: this world is far too small. You guys met on
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: dating app?
• 33:23
  Speaker 6: Yeah, yes, well technically we met in twenty seventeen in
• 33:26
  Speaker 6: Las Vegas. While I was with you and ben Ban,
• 33:31
  Speaker 6: myself and Dean were at a pool.
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: This was so sad, I want to say. It was
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: that the so weird. I don't know, it doesn't Hollywood.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: We were playing Hollywood Hollywood.
• 33:40
  Speaker 6: Yeah, and we were we were just like out by
• 33:44
  Speaker 6: the pool and she came up with actually herself to start.
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: Nobody else would know. This was just like my this
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: a season of I mean, I just I spent my
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: entire twenties being like the chronically single friend. And so yeah,
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: I was on a bachelorette party and I you know,
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: we so them at the pool, and I was like,
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: how funny would it be if you know, we're on
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: a bachelor party we have to go talk to the
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: guys from bacheloring. It's you know, it's too funny. So
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: I led the way and yeah, I didn't even like,
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: I don't remember. I actually didn't remember this. My cousin
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: whose bachelor party was had to remind me that this
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: all happened. It was such a nuanced thing, like it
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: was like, I think we all spoke for like five
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: minutes at the pool and it was like a funny
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: story and then we that was it. I don't remember anything.
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: It wasn't like I'm the single bunch of my friends
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: and Peter Krause's over there and I'm going to go
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: like make this happen.
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: No, I wasn't really going for anything. It just was like,
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: I don't know, I have no idea why approached. But yeah,
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: that was a really funny time. There were a few
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: instances where him and I will talk about how we
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: were definitely in the same room. We're at the same party, like.
• 34:50
  Speaker 6: Super Bowls and Miami, New York, Yeah, Las Vegas. Multiple
• 34:55
  Speaker 6: times where we crossed paths. We just like put our
• 34:59
  Speaker 6: timelines together really as we probably passed each other at
• 35:01
  Speaker 6: some point multiple time.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: Anybody that want to write a rom com about this,
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: it's pretty good, which is it is really funny to
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: think about.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: But yeah, like I liked The Bachelor, like I watched
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: it and it's especially in its peak days, so like
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: I knew who he was, and even when I saw
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: him on Rayah all those years later, I was like, oh, yeah,
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: that's Peter Grass from The Bachelor, Like that's how I
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: still registered.
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: It was so so we matched, and she didn't respond
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: or say anything.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: Well because also like what did you say? Did you
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: start it?
• 35:34
  Speaker 7: Yeah?
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: I desaid I and nice to meet you, Like that's it,
• 35:38
  Speaker 4: Like how's your day? I don't know. I always staying
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: a conversation and be very simplistic. It's like if I
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: want meeting, it's nice to hear.
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I would just say that coming from I don't know,
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: years of talking to people online. I just like got
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: over it. So I never cared and I was like,
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: he lives in Wisconsin. I'm never going to be this man.
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: So I didn't answer.
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: And so my rebuttal is why match in the first place?
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so stupid, but that happened a lot.
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: It's like it's that thing of like you're almost dating
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: has to do with like the mood you're in. It's bizarre,
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: like it depends what like with online dating, you're just
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: like sitting on your couch or sitting in your bed
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: before you go to sleep, and it fully depends on
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: your mood. So like, yeah, so Peter for the Bachler,
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: I was like, oh, he's cute. I remember him so,
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: but then I didn't want to respond. But then he
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: came to New York, like.
• 36:27
  Speaker 6: Coincidentally, so we went for coffee and then coffee out,
• 36:31
  Speaker 6: like so you message her again and be like, Hi,
• 36:33
  Speaker 6: I'm actually I'm coming to New York, like let's grab coffee,
• 36:39
  Speaker 6: And that's when she responded Yeah.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: That's when I was like, oh, okay, then this is
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: probably worth responding to if he's going to be so yeah,
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: and then that's persistent. Coffee was like it wasn't even
• 36:50
  Speaker 3: I always say, it wasn't even like the best coffee ever,
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: Like I wasn't like, oh my god, this is the
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: best for a date. It was just his follow up afterwards,
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: like obviously we had a great conversation, but it was
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: the conversation that happened afterwards, and how he was like
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: so adamant about seeing me again, and he was just
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: immediately like different, like he was just the way you
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: carried yourself, all of it, like it because at first
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: it's like this seems like it's too good to be true,
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: like and so many cases are, so you just don't
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: even get your hopes up anymore. You know. We met
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: when I was like in my thirties, so I just
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: I get that thing of like just being over it
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: and not getting excited. And then when he was like, oh,
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: I want to come see you again, like I all
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: that stuff, like, I was like, okay, well you know,
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: we'll see if that happens. But he just time and
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: time again was like proving that he was different and
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: refreshing and and like also very normal, because I didn't
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: think that he would be normal.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: So, Peter, you or did you feel like an instant
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: something at this coffee?
• 37:54
  Speaker 7: Oh?
• 37:54
  Speaker 4: Absolutely?
• 37:56
  Speaker 6: Watching her walk up, first of all, I was like, wow,
• 37:59
  Speaker 6: this woman is or just but then just in talking
• 38:02
  Speaker 6: to her, it was really refreshing to meet someone who
• 38:04
  Speaker 6: was beautiful and well spoken that was also just down
• 38:08
  Speaker 6: to earth things to talk to and then basically as
• 38:11
  Speaker 6: she said, like I had been on good first dates,
• 38:13
  Speaker 6: and then it was the communication affwards would either die
• 38:16
  Speaker 6: really fast or it was not. It's like equal and
• 38:22
  Speaker 6: it's like give and take, whereas this was I would
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: reach out and she would immediately respond, or even if
• 38:27
  Speaker 6: it's like literally immediately, but within a good amount of
• 38:31
  Speaker 6: time she would get back to me, and if it
• 38:33
  Speaker 6: was a longer period of time, she'd.
• 38:34
  Speaker 4: Actually say like, oh, I'm so sorry, I was busy,
• 38:37
  Speaker 4: Like great to hear from you. It just felt like
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: I was being.
• 38:40
  Speaker 6: Pursued just as much as I was pursuing her, which
• 38:43
  Speaker 6: I feel like in the dating world is few and
• 38:45
  Speaker 6: far between. I can't tell you how many people friends
• 38:48
  Speaker 6: I talk to that are talking about how they never
• 38:50
  Speaker 6: hear back. They message once and they just get ghosted,
• 38:53
  Speaker 6: or they go out on date and they never hear
• 38:55
  Speaker 6: from someone again. It's like, no one's putting in the effort. Yeah,
• 38:57
  Speaker 6: and she seemed like she was actually putting in the
• 38:59
  Speaker 6: effort to get to know me.
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: It seems like you guys are just mature because like
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: a lot of the time, there's just no there's no
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: games here.
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's what we said.
• 39:08
  Speaker 6: I was like finally a mature, smart, intelligent woman who
• 39:14
  Speaker 6: was also beautiful, funny, easy to talk to, and charismatic.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I had no like rules in dating, Like I
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: wasn't gonna like not text a guy first or like
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: any of that. So when he was just like when
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: you just have to follow the feeling, like if it
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: feels good, then just keep going, like keep texting it.
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: Like you just have to be a little like what
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: am I trying to say? You have to just like
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: take a chance and like send a stupid text, even
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: if you're like, oh my god, I'm going to text
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: him first for the first time, you're like internally screaming,
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: but just do it, because if it doesn't work out,
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: it'll very obviously not work out or exactly right. And
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: we always used to say, like, if this didn't turn
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: into anything, like this was early stages, just early odds
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: of like the first few weeks of texting and talking
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: on phone all the time. After that initial meeting, we
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: would say, like, if this doesn't work out, it was
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: purely refreshing meeting you, because it reminded me that like
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: people that I was looking for, like I wasn't crazy,
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: like they existed and they were out there and then
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: yeah and then yeah, we just like completely felt.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: I love the story so so much. Also, the maturity
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: like probably makes for like the ending of your rom
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: com to like not like, I mean, wonderful for real life,
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: the best for real life.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: Yes, there's no twist, not really not yet.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Okay, guys, well this was so much fun. I could
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: ask you zillion more questions, but we will let you go.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: Congratulations so much on the wedding. It was beautiful and
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: we can't wait to see your absolutely beautiful child because
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: the beauty is going to be unreal.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Thank you. We're convinced she'll have the
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: gap too, so I.
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: Think it'll work. It's don't get racist on that. It's
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: that's a lot of quality. Yeah, thanks, oving you guys,
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: Bye bye.
• 41:08
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