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Season 3 - Episode 68 -Living your limiting beliefs · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about limiting beliefs, and I'm going
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  to kind of base this off of what we talked about yesterday was
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  stopping burnout and talking about my mother.
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  So one of the things that I had the blessing of was having a
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  very positive dad and a more negative mom.
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  And that gave me an insight into how people think pattern wise,
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  even before I knew what the heck I was thinking about or looking
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  at. And I could see the difference
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  and I definitely became a piece of both of them.
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  I have built the muscle of the positivity that my father gave
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  me and I have loosened the grip of the negativity that my mother
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  and the anxiety that my mother provided to me.
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  But Needless to say, I definitely had that blend of
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  both of those worlds yesterday. We were talking about, you know,
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  the whole stopping burnout emotionally.
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  And it got me thinking about the fact that I wanted to talk to
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  you all today about limiting beliefs.
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  Because in that podcast I talked about how she would be offered
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  different possibilities and she would not take them.
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  And it was a, it was a difficult thing for me to understand
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  because as a young woman growing up with a father who was very,
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  very driven to say you can do be whatever you want to do and be
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  you, you can go out and make anything happen.
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  He always taught me possibility thinking, and that meant a lot
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  to me. And it's still it.
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  It put me in the position where I am here today.
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  Otherwise I would have never thought about going to work for
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  Tony Robbins. I wouldn't have gone to the
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  events, I wouldn't have pushed myself, I wouldn't have written
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  books, I wouldn't be here. So the limiting beliefs were
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  very limited in my world. But I watched what they did to
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  my mother and she would say things like I was never good in
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  math. Well, that may have been true
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  because remember, two things can be true at the same time.
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  But instead she could have said I was never taught math the way
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  I could have learned. And she could have gone and she
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  could have gotten tutoring because it was something that we
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  talked about her going back to school and her getting help.
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  I'd need help, OK, so get help. But she wouldn't take the risk,
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  because her limiting belief was I was not good in math, She said
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  She always wanted to be a nurse like Aunt Ruthie, and Aunt
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  Ruthie was one of her favorite aunts, and she really wanted to
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  do it, but she didn't go back to school for it.
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  And then she said she wanted to be a hairdresser, but she didn't
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  want to stand all day. So she had all of these limiting
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  things that would show up for her.
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  And instead of saying, well wait, wait, let me strengthen my
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  legs, let me work on stuff like that.
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  Nope, she wouldn't do it. And those limiting beliefs held
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  her back her entire life. She worked, as I said yesterday,
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  she worked for Texas Instruments, and she did the
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  same job for, I think it was 28 years.
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  And that was only the first time she worked for them.
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  Sorry. The second time.
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  The first time she worked for them was when she got right out
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  of school, high school, Until she had me.
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  And then she stopped. She quit and when I was 9 or 10,
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  she went back, I think it was 10 because she went back to work to
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  get health insurance because my dad had had a heart attack and
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  could not get health insurance. So she went back to work
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  strictly to get health insurance.
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  He was turned out, he was fine. He ended up, you know, opening
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  more businesses and doing his own thing.
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  And he was good and she could have done anything and he would
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  have supported her in doing anything.
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  But she didn't want it and she lived by the limiting beliefs.
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  So living by your limiting beliefs causes more pain than
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  you could ever imagine because you don't get out of this never
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  ending story that you tell yourself about the fact you will
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  not succeed no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do.
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  And I watched her do it over and over and over and over, and I
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  could never understand what was going on.
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  Now in the position that I'm in, I did.
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  I do understand what was going on.
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  Those limiting beliefs, when you have them, if you don't
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  interrupt their pattern, they become your reality.
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  So you can start talking about something.
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  You can start thinking about something.
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  It can be everyone has negative thoughts.
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  We all do like, oh, am I going to be able to make that work?
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  Oh, am I going to do this? How am I going to do that?
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  And everyone has negative thoughts.
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  Can't escape them part of your hard wiring.
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  However, what you do with those negative thoughts is what's so
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  important. So she had opportunity to say
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  when those thoughts would come up, say OK, that was 25 years
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  ago. I can certainly try something
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  different now that that was, you know, then that was the teacher,
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  this was this. Let me just try taking one class
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  and seeing what's happening. It's baby steps.
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  When you are reconstructing yourself and you're breaking
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  down limiting beliefs, you have to take baby steps to do it.
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  Sometimes you can take a huge, tremendous leap of faith, but
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  often what ends up happening when that takes place, there's a
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  huge issue with you rebounding back and you just go right back
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  to the pattern because the leap was so big.
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  Sometimes it works, but sometimes it doesn't.
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  I'm I'm much more of a fan of doing small, incremental steps
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  that break down the pattern. It's how I get people to get
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  their books published, do their courses, write, change jobs, do
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  whatever it is that they're doing.
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  One step at a time. One step at a time, because it's
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  easy for the brain to assimilate while we're making progress.
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  OK, OK, I can see it. So start working on those
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  limiting beliefs. Because when you're living,
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  you're limiting beliefs. It sucks.
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  So stop. Think about where they show up
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  and let's. Get.
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  Rid of them. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.