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Let Me Clarify · JLJ This Morning

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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for all the great feedback I'm
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  Speaker 1: getting on the videos I've been doing this week. I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna try to give you. I can't come on live.
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  Speaker 1: I'm busy taking care of business, but I have try
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  Speaker 1: to release some video every day this week for you
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  Speaker 1: guys to look at the mornings whenever you can. If
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  Speaker 1: for Jilly is morning and I'm getting some feedback. So
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to clarify something be eauxcept people were like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: I said that.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't directing anybody in person. I mean specific, it's
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  Speaker 1: directed in general.
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  Speaker 2: My whole goal is.
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  Speaker 1: To get you to think differently and how you approach
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  Speaker 1: people and how you what you say to them.
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  Speaker 2: I've done the standing for myself, so I am.
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  Speaker 1: I am completely practicing that. Uh and I think that
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  Speaker 1: I said. And for some people, you just don't know
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  Speaker 1: until it you know. You don't know you're offending somebody,
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  Speaker 1: you don't know you hear somebody's feelings, you don't know
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  Speaker 1: what you're not helping somebody until somebody tells you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm big about confrontation.
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  Speaker 1: I'm big about just giving everything out on the table
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  Speaker 1: because then everybody lives better, it does better.
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  Speaker 2: From that.
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  Speaker 1: I but you know, you only know what you know.
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  Speaker 1: And I think there are people who really think they're
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  Speaker 1: helping somebody by saying it's not you're not at all.
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  Speaker 1: I gave a couple of examples yesterday on what you
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  Speaker 1: could say to people sometimes, and I think, and you
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  Speaker 1: can't be many more of yourself. And also you read
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  Speaker 1: the room, you know, read your friend, read your family,
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  Speaker 1: read the room. So try to feel the temperatures like
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  Speaker 1: what you know. For me, I want to make sure
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  Speaker 1: it's clear I do not know everything. I'm not purporring
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  Speaker 1: to everything I said. I just all been a learning this,
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  Speaker 1: this has all been a learning experience for me. This
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  Speaker 1: situation I know, I do not anything. However, Comma, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not an idiot, must smart, I do a lot of research.
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  Speaker 2: I don't. I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not just sitting here complaining all the time, and
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  Speaker 1: then I'm don't do anything because so we will do that.
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  Speaker 1: Some folks will do that. They'll complain, complain, complain, and
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  Speaker 1: do nothing to change situation. That's not me at all.
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  Speaker 1: I can't live that way. That would drive me nuts.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm always working a change the situation. But my
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  Speaker 1: whole point is kind of just to like say, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: saying less is better sometimes, especially if someone like me
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  Speaker 1: or sometimes a lot of friends or family, just assume
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  Speaker 1: we've probably heard it a million times already. Assume that
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  Speaker 1: whatever you think you're about to say, we probably have
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  Speaker 1: heard it already, four, five, ten, twenty times. So you know,
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  Speaker 1: in my case, I hear it all. I'm all, I
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  Speaker 1: hear the same stuff all the time. So I try
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  Speaker 1: to go off and be like, you know, I can't
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  Speaker 1: up with Sometimes you get to it's overwhelming, but I
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  Speaker 1: try to stay compsaated. You'll thank you, I god it,
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  Speaker 1: or thank you very much, or just whatever, or ignore it.
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  Speaker 1: But I trust me, I'm sure whether you think you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna tell me, I probably have heard it, unless it's
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  Speaker 1: something very uniquely specific. And for me, there's a tone
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  Speaker 1: when you approach somebody, when you talk to somebody that
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  Speaker 1: will make the difference. There's some people in my life
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  Speaker 1: who will say, well, James, when I went through this
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  Speaker 1: with my husband or when I was going through it,
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  Speaker 1: here's the things that I dealt with, you know, and
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  Speaker 1: and some of the comps some of the outcomes. I
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  Speaker 1: just want you know, we know that your stuation might
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  Speaker 1: be different, but just one cauds share to share my story,
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  Speaker 1: and sometimes I hear story is being shared with me
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  Speaker 1: and some of you guys who shared some of your stories,
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  Speaker 1: and in the comments, I.
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  Speaker 2: Feel a little more less alone. I feel better.
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  Speaker 1: Or if you say saying I don't know what your
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  Speaker 1: situation's life for sure, I don't know if you already
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  Speaker 1: check this out, I heard this one thing out of
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  Speaker 1: it might be true, or like just a conversation with me,
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  Speaker 1: but I, well, you should be doing this, and why
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  Speaker 1: do you do this?
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  Speaker 2: And it's and that is not a cubatory.
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  Speaker 1: Tone like I don't know what the fuck I'm doing,
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  Speaker 1: or that I'm just negligent or I just don't I'm
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  Speaker 1: like or I don't know what's like I'm talking about
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  Speaker 1: and and like I said, and some peope have said
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  Speaker 1: this in the in the responses. When you are in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of something or the beginning of something, a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times you're doing you're trying to find out
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  Speaker 1: you don't have. It's I just get a carricter, or
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  Speaker 1: get this, get that your childre trying to find out
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  Speaker 1: what's going on. Now I've compeled my life. Who don't
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  Speaker 1: know those stories? I don't tell you everything. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: gonna don't tell you all their business, but I can,
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  Speaker 1: but I would tell I will share compeple with my life.
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  Speaker 1: They aren't their brains aren't equipped to handle it. So
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  Speaker 1: for me, I'm going to be handling it. There's just
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  Speaker 1: there's just their brain wavelength isn't connecting or whatever. So
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  Speaker 1: I kind of have to jump in. I'm not a
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  Speaker 1: person who's going to just let real close to me.
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  Speaker 1: It's different than again, like I said, four, you're both
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  Speaker 1: in your twenties, you're both healthy, you're both whatever, and
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  Speaker 1: soone's just sucking up their life, just making bad decisions
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  Speaker 1: and drinking all nine or whatever. And I get a job.
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  Speaker 1: That's different. We gets a little older and someone is
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  Speaker 1: physically or mentally or emotionally distraught or disabled or whatever
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  Speaker 1: words you want to use. It's a different story. It
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  Speaker 1: may see me look like to you, well it should
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  Speaker 1: be should just make them do this, or there's good
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  Speaker 1: luck today they got to take more of something like
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  Speaker 1: in every case is very different. And for many of
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  Speaker 1: us who are characters, we don't need to hear. We
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  Speaker 1: don't need to hear that, just need to hear that
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  Speaker 1: we know our situation from anybody else, what's going on,
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  Speaker 1: and we might not be perfect, maybe maybe a couple
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  Speaker 1: things you shouldn't do that may may do certain things.
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  Speaker 1: But these are human emotions, real life stuff, and there's
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  Speaker 1: human bodies, real life stuff, and they're so unique to
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  Speaker 1: that person. I had a friend whose mother was a nightmare, nightmare,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, how can you take her in?
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  Speaker 1: That's her mother. I can't question that's her mother. She
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  Speaker 1: believes you honor your mother no matter what they were
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  Speaker 1: to you otherwise. And my mother's not BRITI she died
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  Speaker 1: but that, but I admired you they would do that.
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  Speaker 1: Some folks said, no, you're going to the home by
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  Speaker 1: bitch can't help you. So everybody's everybody has what they
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  Speaker 1: can live with or not live with. There, I said
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  Speaker 1: that my brother, my mother, and there are in my circle,
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  Speaker 1: my closer, my kids are my close circle, grandkids. I
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  Speaker 1: can't see myself just forsaking them camp. And I'm sharing
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  Speaker 1: something with you, not as complaints, been sharing with you.
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  Speaker 1: Tell you what's going on in my life, uh, and
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  Speaker 1: digging off my chest and it is really hard. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: And there's times I want to run into traffic and
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  Speaker 1: just like end it all. And there's times where I
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  Speaker 1: have under control and I'm fine. Today today was under
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  Speaker 1: control day. It's like I felt like I took care
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  Speaker 1: some business for me. Actually, first I got that, I
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  Speaker 1: got a lot of answer things that I was waiting for.
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  Speaker 1: One phone call back, that's it. But I kind of
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  Speaker 1: did things myself, and so I'm like, I felt good.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, now tomorrow I'll work on my brother stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And then this time so I feel like I had
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  Speaker 1: a plan and I'm working it out on some level
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  Speaker 1: and that's and so I feel halfway decentcy.
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  Speaker 2: I ran some errands.
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  Speaker 1: They were easy, breezy some times. My niece Jessica, my
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  Speaker 1: niece Talia, we had a great time doing them. So
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  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, so today wasn't okay. Today it
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  Speaker 1: was like a five on a scale of one to ten.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, okay, I get five, six.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. It was good.
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  Speaker 1: And I guess it's not as hot as f out
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  Speaker 1: here in Los Angeles, drinking think the things all day long,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But it was decent. There's
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  Speaker 1: other days I want to send in the corner, eat
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  Speaker 1: my hair and just cry all day. So and maybe
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  Speaker 1: you guys know this if you are so, I I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't specifically targeting anybody, and that I was just saying
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  Speaker 1: in general, these are things I hear, and because I'm
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  Speaker 1: in a public eye, and that's what I'm talking. I
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  Speaker 1: don't tell all myself. I just I tell certain things,
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  Speaker 1: but I don't really tell all of stuff. There are
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  Speaker 1: a lot of things you don't know about me, and
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  Speaker 1: trust me that I'll talk about in public because I
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  Speaker 1: would hear it.
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  Speaker 2: A fact, it's amplified a thousand times.
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  Speaker 1: So I would tell just like with the what's going
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  Speaker 1: off with the soaps or star Wars or whatever. If
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  Speaker 1: you're sending me the note the notification, I'm sure I've
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  Speaker 1: already seen that five thousand times. It just means you're excited,
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  Speaker 1: you want me to see it. You're excited, you want
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  Speaker 1: to know what I'm thinking about it. That's why I
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  Speaker 1: don't get upset. Just I just know that that that's
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  Speaker 1: just my notifications go off all the time, all day long,
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  Speaker 1: twenty four seven. I just I just I just that's
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  Speaker 1: just my life. And that's nothing too. I want make
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  Speaker 1: very clear. I know full well I've chosen to come
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  Speaker 1: home to La. I've chosen to stay here. I've chosen
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  Speaker 1: to live in his house and reap the benefits of it.
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  Speaker 1: I've chosen to own his house and meet the benefits
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  Speaker 1: of it. I've chosen to with that handle what goes
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  Speaker 1: on in his house. With that, I live my brother.
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  Speaker 1: That means I gotta help him whatever that's going on there.
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  Speaker 1: He's my roommate, my brother. Whatever goes on with that,
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  Speaker 1: it affects me, my mom too. So I it's a choice,
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  Speaker 1: totally choice. I'm I Can't'm not blaming nobody. It's the
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  Speaker 1: choice that I've chosen to make with full ferocity, but
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  Speaker 1: I acknowledge it. I'm not a robot and that it's tough.
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  Speaker 1: It really is tough, and uh yeah, I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: find ways to release the anger and resentment, the sadness,
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  Speaker 1: and one of my ways just talking to you guys
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  Speaker 1: here on there in the mornings. And like I said,
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  Speaker 1: the feedback I'm beginning has been great with it. I
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  Speaker 1: love you relate to me with this and I know
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  Speaker 1: you guys do.
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  Speaker 2: So that's all.
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  Speaker 1: That's all I want to say this morning. I'm kind
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  Speaker 1: every morning give you guys a little something. So I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to make sure. I said told you that, and
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  Speaker 1: I gotta shaved my head. Yeah, it's time. We gonna
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  Speaker 1: shame my head. It's so hot. I mean asides, shake
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  Speaker 1: my head, yeah t I do that. I'm James Jr.
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  Speaker 1: I love you all and have a good day today.
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  Speaker 1: If it's hot, please where you are, please be careful.